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Aquarius man gone forever?

by Life is Good

I have been friends with an Aquarius man for 2 years. Things seem to be going well until recently he kept saying that he wanted me to trust him and he thought by him opening up to me about his past, it was scaring me. We were suppose to meet to spend some time together but I had to cancel. This is when the questions came up. I told him that I wasn't scared and wanted to be there for him. (I had fallen in love with him and was getting very scared that if I told him, he would leave. I think he was sensing this and that started all the questions.)

I couldn't hold it in anymore and then told him that I was in love him. I haven't heard from him since. Have I lost him for good? I have even tried to reschedule our time we were suppose to spend together and he still hasn't responded. I still send him emails/texts to let him know I'm thinking about him. Should I just give up?

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Aquarius man gone forever?
by: Life Is Good

I would really like to hear from Hope, Scorp42, or anyone on this subject...especially an Aquarius man's point of view. I really do miss my friendship with him. :(
Re: Aquarius Man Gone Forever?
by: Hope

I'd really love to hear from some Aquarius men as well on this post.

Life is Good, in one of my earlier posts I talked about how I did what comes naturally for me and told my Aqua I was falling for him. Only I did it in a way that only a Scorp can do - lots of detail and examples. He did not respond for two days and then when he did email back, all he said was that I was "a little scary"

That comment is what started me researchinig the Aquarian male personality and read how uncomfortable that makes them. No, I don't think he is gone forever. You two have a 2 year friendship and he trusted you with private information about himself.

I think he is avoiding you because he doesn't know how to respond. I'd make light of the situation, make a lighthearted joke about not meaning to run him off, and talk about something else for now.

He'll be back once he thinks the heat is off. However, that still leaves that gaping one-sided confession of love between you-with no answer from him. What do your guts tell you about how he feels about you?
Life is good...
by: Scorp42

When I first told my beau that I was in love with him he was thrown back by it. It scared the hell out of him as he thought he was going to loose his freedom. I told him that I didn't choose to feel this way, it just happened. After our talk I didn't hear from him for a week. It took him time to process it all and it is very scary to them. take your time now and don't contact or text him for a while. Give him time to miss you. If he thinks now that you love him you will become possesive he will run. Give him his time to process it and get a hold of his feelings for you. Missing you will let him see what he really feels for you. He's not gone, but give him space. Don't keep telling him you miss him, it only makes him feel bad. He will think he can't give you what you need. It is frustrating as hell I know. Been there done that... I cried, yelled, screamed all to myself for days. When he does contact you or sees you, DO NOT bring it up or tell him how much you missed him or how you feel. Act as if it never happened. trust me he knows how you feel. go on with your relationship the way it was. He will gradually change. They like to be in control and you loving him was not his plan so to speak. He wants it all to progress at his pace. They LOVE thier freedom. You can let him know that regardless of how you feel you can walk away and at no time would you ever think of taking his freedom from him. Keep us posted.
Re: Scorp42
by: Hope

Lol, thanks for that reminder Scorp42. Yes I do remember feeling a little disconcerted when he vaporized into thin air after my premature proclamations of love. And by disconcerted I mean terrified, then later humiliated.
I did a lot of self-talk during that agonizing period remembering that giving my love to someone is a gift, not a punishment. Although the object of our affections is under no obligation to feel the same way, there is no shame in telling someone how you feel.
I now look at it like compromising to obtain the larger goal. My Aqua figured out early on what was needed to get and keep my attention. Then he did it. I am learning about how he functions and his idiosyncrasies. We are very different when it comes to matters of the heart, but I look at it as an opportunity to learn patience.
I be checking back for updates Life is Good.
Thank you Hope and Scorpio42
by: Life Is Good

Yes, I too would love to hear from an Aquarius man. This has been one relationship/friendship that has been above all the rest DIFFERENT. I have continued to email/text him, but I will stop and give him his space. If I hadn't started researching his personality, I would have left him/given up a long time ago. He fits the description of aqua men described on this site as well as others. This one, of course is the best because I can relate to the real life situations. I really do love him and only want what's best for him. I told him that I hope he one day find a woman who can truly love him for him and not what he can provide for them. If its not me, I pray he really does. That's what true love is about. You know the old saying..if you love something let it go. If it comes back...hold on and love it forever. If it doesnt , it wasn't meant to be. Well I'm letting go...and letting God do His thing. My gut is telling me that he is running scared and thinks I am trying to take away his freedom. Even though I explained that to him.
Will keep you posted.
Re: Aquarius man gone forever?
by: Hope

*Pokes head into thread an looks for Life is Good...*
Nothing yet...
by: Life Is Good

Thanks for checking back in Hope. I actually went a whole day without emailing, calling, or texting him. LOL. This self control this a little out of my zone, but I know its for the best. I started journaling when I have a urge to communicate with him. Maybe one day I will bbe able to share it with him. :)
Hang In There LIG
by: Scorp42

If you don't communicate for a couple more days I think you should hear from him. However he may be one of those Aquarians that disappear for a month or so then resurface as if nothing happened. I have a feeling that you will hear from him in a couple days. He will wonder why you have stopped communicating with him. He may think that you have given up on him for not responding, which is good. That is the only thing about Aquarian men that ticks me off! I went through a period where my guy didn't respond to me for 2 days. I was highly angered at that point. I sent him a text after 2 days of no contact from either of us. I told him to let me know if he was alive, tell me to leave him alone but tell me something. I promptly got a phone call wondering what the fuss was about. He hadn't even realized that he hadn't talked to me in 2 days. In those days I had to remind him of his distance. Now he knows it doesn't make me happy and contacts me every day. It was a long time coming though. Hang in there Life is good.
Thanks Scorp42
by: Life Is Good

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It looks like he is the Aqua man that takes a month to catch on. I too have had to ask him if he's still alive and then he'd respond. That was before he felt like he had a reason to run, since I was brave enough to share my feelings. I think he may have communicated before now but I continued to communicate with him. I am looking at this as a bump in the road. I pray that this is the only major hurdle we will have to tackle of this magnitude. We will see...
To send or not to send?
by: Liffe Is Good

Quick question...I had purchased my Aqua man a Father's day gift, should I still send it to him? He still hasn't communicated and I haven't contacted him either.
Father's Day Gift
by: Scorp42

LIG, If it were me I wouldn't. I thought long and hard about what Hope said. Being loved IS a gift. One thing I would do if I were you, only because that dissapearing trate Aquarian men have makes me so mad, is I would send him a text message and express to him this. Okay I get it that you are freaked out by me telling you that I loved you, however being loved is a gift and it isn't something I chose. Sorry that you feel the need to totally dissapear from my life and I wish you the best. Then I would kindly move on. I would find someone or something to keep me busy and him off my mind. I am patient LIG however I am not that patient. I expressed to my Aquarian a while ago that after a couple days of me contacting you and you not contacting me back tells me that you are not interested and it is really rude. I will gladly move on. Uhh... just thinking about being ignored makes me angry all over again. I tell you one thing, I had to do the same thing back to my Aquarian for him to realize what that felt like. Trust me he was not happy about that at all. If I am not there when he needs me it angers him. I wouldn't wait another lonely day, I would find another friend to fill my time. That's just me...
Scorp42- Father's Day Gift
by: Life Is Good

Thank you Scorp42. I just sent him the text. And right now, I am feeling a little weird...Part peace, the other part I can't explain. The gift that I purchased was specially for him so I have decided to send it to him but I will no longer initiate communication with him. I still feel that I am suppose to be patient, call it crazy, but I am moving on. If you saw the email I wrote to him when I told him that I was falling in love with him, I think you would understand the tidal wave that hit him. LOL. But that's life and it's still good!

With a tear in my eye and a pain in my heart...thank you all for the encouragement and advice. I guess its time to close this chapter. Be Blessed!
Chapter Not Yet Closed
by: Scorp42

LIG, trust me the chapter is not closed your Aquarian has just put it on hold. When you least expect to hear from him he will surface as if nothing has happened.
Re: Aquarius Man Gone Forever?
by: Hope

Hi Life is Good. I know how unbearable the waiting can be. Trying to decide if he is hinting at waning interest on his part? You wondering if you should walk away with your dignity intact? You wanting to take the high road and simply ask him what he is doing (or needs right now)? Trying to squelch the anxiety. And finally trying to find a balance between seeming too clingly, yet not wanting to appear disinterested.

I still don't think it is a matter of him not caring, however an absence this long goes beyond common courtesy. When he does resurface, (and at this point I think he is hoping for the easy way out and that you will contact him first) I would let him know about your reasonable expectation that if he needs some time away longer than your normal contact pattern, that he let you know he'll be gone for awhile.

He'd worry about you as well if you bruptly stopped responding to his calls and emails.

Big Hugs to you Life is Good.
Guess Who Came out the Woodworks??!!
by: Life Is Goog

Hope and Scorp42,

You were right. I received a short email from my Aqua Man today. I am not holding my breath for anything special. I had sent him an email earlier that I thought we'd be better off friends...don't know if that made him stop running and make a U-Turn or not. He made a statement that he loved me too and he hoped that made me feel a little better. He also said that if I gave him the chance he'd explain everything to me. For some reason, one part of me is not very enthused about this...

Don't know how to take him saying he loved me too...I'm not feeling that right now! LOL. I am happy to know that he is ok though.

Life is Still Good!
Ok...Starting Over and He's Back
by: Life Is Good

Ok...nervous energy is starting to flow. I heard from my Aqua Man and he has explained in his own words why I hadn't heard from him. He really didn't act like nothing ever happened and in his own way, apologized for not communicating for the last month. He was in his quiet zone and was also had to take some time off work due to an injury. He has been doing some soul searching and hopefully will make some decisions soon. He said that he still wanted me and that hadn't changed. After having a good night's sleep, I am starting to feel a little anxious because I want to see him, but yet I see this as a starting over point in where I think we need to move very slowly because he still has some decisions about his future to make. I have just a few layers of protection around my heart to help me stay focused and not lose control right now...lol. if ever I needed advice from the experienced ones...I do now! LIfe is Good!
In Similar Situation
by: Scorp42

LIG, I don't know if I can give you advice but I can share what I am going through that is similar. My Aqua is going through something very deep and financially taxing. He expressed to me a couple weeks ago that he didn't want me to think that he didn't want to be with me, but he needs time to get himself 'Right' before he could ever make me truly happy. We still communicate via phone calls or text every day, however we only see each other once maybe twice a week. It may seem like a lot to you, but remember we were spending time together ever other day. I can't say that I agree with how they handle emotion or stress but I do understand it. LIG if you want to be with this man then yes take it slow but stand by him through this. It will for sure proove to him that you are the "One" that will stick by him through thick and thin. They are not like up Scorpio's, when things get tough they disappear into their own world. We tackle it head on with a smile on our face. This is yet another of our differences that we have to embrace. Hearing from you helped make me not be so angry at my Aqua for our situation and for that I thank you. The one piece of advice I can give you is to please "Not take it personal." If that man said he loves you too then trust me, HE DOES! They do not use that word freely at all! He won't be saying again anytime soon. Trust me it took him all this time to work up the nerve to say it then. Keep us posted.
Hope - I so love your words of wisdom. You always give me things to say to my Aqua that are crafty and oh so true. I love the way you word things. I'm thinking it but can't find the right words and low and behold there you go with the exact words I want to say. (Scorp42 smiles)
Slow and Steady
by: Life Is Good

Thanks Scorp42. We commmunicated several times today and YES I can say he's back. I am taking it very slow and am trying to think, REALLY think first before making any responses to our conversations/communications. I spoke with a family member of mine today who is an Aquarius and he told me just to continue to do my homework and look at only being his friend. His wife told me to remember that they don't like a lot drama so for me just being there for him is good. I have no expectations right now...just taking it one day at time. I did email him and asked what it was that he needed from me as a friend when he is stressed or whatever that makes him want to retreat to his world. I will see hopefully tomorrow what his response is....

Life is Good
LIG's Reconnection
by: Hope

Glad to hear it, Life is Good. I can't remember what your sun sign is, but can tell you I have felt every emotion from exasperation to exhilaration with my Aqua (Velva) man!
June 2
I am convinced I could not have done this successfully in my younger years. I was far too impatient and my tongue was razor sharp. I am learning (by lack of alternative choice) to go over all possible motives for his behavior before responding. And I'm starting to realize - unless it is an act on his part to deliberately injure or humiliate me, who cares??

It is important for me to express my concerns and desires, but beyond that, his willingness to compromise will emerge as a clear pattern in the long run. So far he is earnestly working on the big things. And so am I!!
Re: Scorp42
by: Hope

June 24, 2010

Thanks for those nice comments, but as you well know, I am definitely the rookie in the world of Aquarius men.

I'm pulling for all of us!
Like Wine...We get better with time...
by: Life is Good

Hi Hope,
I think you are right, I would not have been this patient when I was younger either. LOL Taking it one day at a time with much prayer and trusting God for us all. It has been a blessinng be able to understand his quirks because of the experiences shared here. I think we are going to try to see each other one more time and hopefully I won't have to cancel again. If things are meant to be, it will be.

Scorp42,
I can say that wisdom has nothing to doing with be a rookie. LOL. It's a given. :)

Thank you two again! Would still like a male Aquarius to respond to all that has transpired. Will keep you all posted. Many blessings to you and your Aqua Men!

Life is Good!
LIG and Hope
by: Scorp42

Ladies, thanks so much for the prayers. I extend the same to the both of you! This week has been the hardest yet for me. I have not seen my Aquarian in a week or heard his voice in 3 days. We had been in contact with each other so much before his issues started that I had forgotten what it was like. I think it is harder now than it was in the early days. I don't think I have ever missed a person so much as I do him. I guess I will have to keep myself as busy as possible through this one.
Time Will Tell
by: Life Is Good

Hey Ladies,

I think we will make it! :)

I think I'm going to call us the Three Scorpioettes instead of the Three Musketeerettes!
Much Better Weekend
by: Scorp42

LIG, I like the 3 Scorpioettes! I finally saw my Aquarian this weekend. We had a long talk. I put a lot of things out there that I had never said before. I called him and let him know that we needed to talk and soon. Of cource he told me at first he thought I was 'tripping' in his words. After I said what I had to say he told me I was right and that he had no idea how I felt about his distance among other things. I have a really good female friend that I had no idea is an Aquarius. I told her my situation and she told me that what I was feeling I needed to say to him. Once you back an Aquarian into a corner you will get all the answers you need, the blunt truth! I did exactly that and things are better. He saw a side of me that he didn't know about. This weekend was a make or break us weekend. Thank GOD it didn't break us.
Weekend
by: Life Is Good

Hi Scorp42!

I am so happy for you! I am hoping to see my Aqua Man, but I am going to let it be by his request. I am not trying to rush him with what he has been dealing with lately. I know that if its meant to be... our special time will come! :)

By the way, our relationship has been platonic...nothing more than a pure unadulterated friendship and it's really nice.

Life IS Good
Re: Better Weekend
by: Hope

Hi Scorp42,

I'm glad you were able to talk with him. I try weigh all the information I am learning (researching) about Aquarius men against what I know is important relationship communication.

In my case it's harder via phone and email because I can't see (or "feel") his real reactions. It takes us longer for me to sort through my own Scorpio interpretation of what he is saying, before I'm satisfied that all is resolved.

I'm still getting used to his quirky sense of humor. In person it was easier to decipher when he was joking. I have less success with his one-liner emails and text.
Eye to Eye
by: Life is Good

Hi Hope!

You are right about seeing them face to face. I can't wait until we can just talk and look into each others' eyes and say what's on our hearts and minds.

Happy 4th of July!
Happy 4th!
by: Scorp42

LIG and Hope I know exactly what you mean by needing to be face to face for full communication. I must say that after my "talk" on Saturday my relationship has been very different and for the better. One thing I did learn is that Aquarians sometimes forget, okay often forgets that we do not think like they do. We have to remind them of that every now and then. I revealed that I am not a mind reader, however I do read into actions and behaviors. I shocked him by telling him I knew about a few things he was doing that he thought I had no idea. the look on his face was priceless! He asked how I knew, I told him that I notice everything, I know his behaviors.It made him smile and feel so releaved that he did not have to explain things to me. He said in the past he always had to explain things because women always thought it was one thing and it wasn't. My ex-boyfriend told me I was a freakin detective. I guess in a way we are. We look at things and put things together when others can't. Thank God we have that skill or I would not be able to maintain a relationship like this.
Det. Hope
by: Life is Good

LOL... Isn't it something how we have been blessed with that 6th sense. I am trying to stay really calm right now. Talked with my Aqua man yesterday and he wants to see me. I so want to see him, but don't know if we will have the time we need to really talk like we need to. Being in two different states is a blessing and to our disadvantage also.
I know our time is closely approaching and we will have the time that we need to get everything out in the open. Until then, LIFE IS GOOD!

Inspector LIG signing off to hopefully see some beautiful FIRE WORKS!
Not a Scorp, But really confused!
by: Aqua Girl Confused

Hey Ladies. I'm not a Scorp, I'm actually an Aqua female. I am so freakin confused right now. I met an Aqua man a few months ago. I approached him at first & then he asked me out. I went, but we both seemed shy and didn't say too much. I didn't think he was interested so A few weeks later I contacted him. I had got out of a strange relationship a while back & I made up my mind that I didn't want a relationship right now. (I told the "Ex" how I felt about him & he ran for the hills.) I am scared to tell anyone how i feel now, so Basically If I found a man I was just going to get to know him better and have fun & if it turned into more, then fine. Not several men, Just 1. I have never done this before. I always wait until I'm in a relationship before I take it to that level, if you know what I mean, but I'm tired of getting hurt so I figured I would try something new. We "Hooked" up and had a great time. He contacted me pretty often to hook up, but I was so upset at myself for what I did, I blew him off for a couple weeks. Then I finally caved in. (It's the Aqua in me) lol. I tried to convince myself that I wasn't going to fall for him. I told him in the beginning that I wasn't in a hurry for a relationship & that I needed my space. He seemed to like that idea. We hooked up a few times after that, but we would talk, laugh and joke around for hours before anything happened. After it would happen, he would get up and I would leave. The last few times he has been snuggling with me & falling asleep. Kinda seems like he doesn't want me to leave, but I still do as much as I don't want to. We never talk on the phone, always text each other. I try to ask him how he is in the texts & turn the convo to something other then "extra" but he always takes it to that topic without fail! However, the last time we Hooked up (About 2 weeks ago) it was different. I even caught him staring at me a few times. Then the next day he said he enjoyed the whole night. I text him a few times after that & of course he responded as he always does "Extra". Then for the 1st time, Silence for a whole week! I finally text him after the week was over & he was sweet as pie & never 1 time mentioned "extra". I was shocked & happy. Said he wanted to see me. He ended up texting me to tell me he was too busy that nite, but earlier made it seem like he was available the next nite as well incase it fell thru that nite. So I text him the next day and he was VERY short with his response and said he was busy. I do understand the whole space thing, because I am the same way & I do get the mood swings when I like someone & I'm not sure they like me. I just hope I didn't put him off for telling him in the beginning that I didn't want a relationship. I mean I do and I don't. I want one without losing my freedom and friends.. Aquas go figure.. lol Any advice? I think I'm falling for him & I'm freaking out! This is NOT what I had planned. He is just so Freakin CHARMING and he has a good heart!
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good


Aqua Girl, I have to say that I may not be as much help as Scorp42 and Hope. I, too, have experienced the not talking on the phone much, but a lot of IMing, chats, and emails. There have been times that were suppose to see each other but he was a no show. But he finally did show up and because I was a little busy and he became a little impatient and jealous, he left. I told him how I felt and things were ok until he felt the need to go run off for a month. He seems to be back now, even though he is going through some things. I am trying to give him his space and time to clear his head so he can make some very important decisions.
The only thing different about my relationship from Hope's and Scorp42's is I don't live in the same state and we still haven't had sex. We both know that we want to, but there has been something that has keptt us from doing so. I am thinking that this is a blessing in disguise because it let's gives us the opportunity to really get to know each other first. Even though some Aqua Men show that they want you by having sex, it is really nice to know that I have had the opportunity to get to know him and fall in love with him and his emotions, not just his physical side. If its meant to be, things will work out. I hope Hope and Scorp42 can help. I've learned a lot from them.

Hope and Scorp42, we decided not to see each other while I was on vacation, but we did get an opportunity to talk some about us and what I was concerned when it came to him not communicating and leaving me in the dark from time to time. He apologized and explained some of what he's been going through. The funny thing is...I knew before he told me. Call it the Scorpio's intuition/6th sense. LOL. I am giving him time and space, even though Ireally want to see and talk to him. Trying to be OH SO PATIENT!!! Hope you both had a great 4th of July!!
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Well... I am not so sure I can really help you as you should understand him better than we can being an Aquarian yourself. You both repress how you really feel and freedom is the most important thing to you both. I can tell you about the way Aqua men draw you in and hold you there with kindness and charm. One thing I always preach is patients, patients, patients. If you don't have any then move on. Aqua men will disappear into thin air at any moment. After a year friendship and a year of seeing each other in a close relationship I finally had to put him in a corner so to speak and let him know that the distance and disappearing was no longer acceptable for me. You and your friend are in the early stages. I can tell you that when they act as if they don't like you anymore is when they are almost hooked. I don't know if you Aqua girls do the same thing or not. that is one Aqua trait I don't understand. With Aqua men you have to be blunt and to the point. Without emotion involved tell him you want to see him more and talk to him more. Let the work begin... I really want to know how this one turns out. I don't know of any Aqua, Aqua pairings.
Taste of my own medicine
by: Aqua Girl Confused

Yeah. We are confusing that’s for sure. I know with myself, I don’t like rejection so I’m afraid to express how I feel, But when someone walks away from me or doesn’t show interest, I freak out and have to figure out what’s going on. Most people we meet pretty much like us, so if someone acts like they don’t, we flip. A lot of guys want to be with me, but I get freaked out because they are too clingy at first so I RUN! But then when they ignore me, it hits a nerve because I’m not use to that. I may not even like them in that way at first, but just because they are ignoring me, I have to find out why!
It’s like we have to be the ones in control, then its ok. I think the Aqua men are pretty much the same way so this is going to be a battle for sure. I have never even had an Aqua man as a friend, so I can’t even say I have any experience with them. I guess my best bet will be to NOT call him ever, for a while anyway. I will just let him come to me. The Funny thing is IF he does come to me, if he comes on too strong, then I might run again.
( I doubt that at this point though) I don’t wait around for long though. Kinda like an Out of sight out of mind type person. If I’m making an effort to see you and you blow me off a couple times.. I’m gone. I still care, but you won’t know it.

I’m afraid of being hurt and losing my freedom. A lot of guys get jealous of girls with a lot of guy friends and expect them to ditch them. I do have a lot of guy friends. All of my friends of very important to me and I will never sacrifice the friendship we have just because some guy says so! I don’t have those kind of feelings for my guy friends so I don’t see it as being a threat to anyone.
I guess I need to look deeper within myself and I will be able to figure him out.. lol We do run when we feel closed in, but we also run at first when we like someone. We have to figure out if what we are feeling is real, then we have to figure out if the other person truly likes us and is not crazy. It’s a long process we go through. But once we are in. We are all the way IN, for good! Until someone does something to betray that trust. I guess for the most part I understand where he is coming from, I just don’t have much patience when I want something and the ball isn’t in my court. The men are the same way. Uggghhhhh! This makes me sick. Don’t like tasting my own medicine. lol

I will keep you posted for sure. Thanks for your comments. I hope everything works out for all of you. On a side note, I dated a Scorp Man once. He was AMAZING!! A little too emotional and clingy though. For me anyway… lol
Hope you all had a Great 4th.
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

Hi Aqua Girl, Scorp42, and Hope!

I, too can't wait to see future posts from this Aqua Pairing.

When I read your response Aqua Girl, I have to say that is what was partly going on when my Aqua man was AWOL for a month. The process IS really long, but I love him and know that I have to be patient with him. He is coming around SLOWLY and I communicate to him when he seems to be going back in his shell. I would love to hear from him daily but would settle for a little less for now, especially with our schedules.

Time will tell and I think is on our side. :)
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

I guess for the most part I understand where he is coming from, I just don’t have much patience when I want something and the ball isn’t in my court. The men are the same way. Uggghhhhh! This makes me sick. Don’t like tasting my own medicine. lol


Aquagirl, think how we feel! Not only does it make me sick but because it doesn't make much sense to me it makes me want to run. Today must be a bad day for me but I tell you I am sick of the Aquarian game! I guess I am reaching the point where my patients is wearing thin. I know my Aquarian has a lot of obligations and issues, however getting a fraction of the attention I need is not there. I am starting to look at him in a much different light. Especially after reading your last comment. I must say thank you for saying it. It made a lightbulb go off in my head. I just don't see the "All In" ever happening. He tells me all the time that he doesn't do for other women what he does for me, however sometimes I think they are just words and other times I beleive him. Uhh... I guess I am just tired right now. I may feel entirely different tomorrow. It's as if he has this radar that detects when I am sick of our situation and then he does something that blows my mind! It makes me feel a bit manipulated at times even though I am on a natural high from his actions. I guess the manipulation thing comes in my head because as a Scorpio women that's what I used to do. I was always in charge and could put a spell on a man so to speak that you wouldn't believe! So I understand a taste of your own medicine. Wow, I just vented on this blog. Classic. (Scorp42 laughs)
More confused then ever
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- All I can say is, if he is doing things for you that he doesn't do for anyone else and is actually spending time with you, there has to be something there. We Aqua's don't waste our time on just anyone. I'm not sure how long you have been with him, but I would try to be patient with him if he is someone you truly care about. My BFF is with an Aqua. I watched her go thru the same thing with him. They would only see each other once a week or so but she NEVER called him. He always called her. It was basically a sexual relationship, then they started really becoming friends then after about 9 months when he noticed other guys were hitting on her and she went out on a date, he really started to come around. After all was said and done, he told me that he was glad she gave him his space and never tripped out about his distance. He was kinda seeing someone else before my friend and it gave him time to realize who he really wanted to be with. Now it's been 5 years or so and they are still together and happier then ever. I honestly think my Aqua was/is dating someone else. I seen some evidence of that a few weeks back but never said anything because I don't have the right to. It's been 6 days and I haven't heard anything from him and almost 3 weeks now since I've seen him.
Now here is the worst part. My Ex (Virgo) just popped back up in the picture for the 3rd time in the past year. I hadn't seen him for 4 months and now he is acting strange and contacting me again. Arrrggghhh. Not sure what that is all about. I will keep you posted.

And Yes, we Aquas can sense anything! It scares people some times. And I mean anything. And if we feel like we are losing something or someone that we care about, we freak and have to try and fix it!
Re: AquaGirl
by: Hope

July 11, 2010

Welcome AquaGirl,

I appreciate your perspective as an Aquarian and appreciate your willingness to share your experience. Your Aqua’s behavior sounds similar to other situations I have read, including my own.

I have to admit, I do not understand the motive, but I am gradually accepting that I simply part of the Aquarian personality, and they can’t change it anymore than Scorpios can give up our compulsion for privacy.

Overall, I wouldn’t trade my Aqua for a thing!
Hi Life is Good and Scorp42. Hang in there.
The Count Down
by: Life Is Good

Hello Hope, Scorp42, & Aqua Girl,

I pray that all is well with you. As for me, I am nervous as heck. In 2 weeks, I will be spending a wknd with my Aquaman. I have butterflies & nervous energies flying all over the place. I was invited to a function in the state that he lives & asked him did he want to attend. He stated he only wanted to spend time with me. Well I was happy to hear that, especially after all the drama from last month & us deciding not to see each other while I was on vacation. I am in the process of planning a wknd that is about him & not me. I know my emotions have been on a rolller coaster ride these past few months but to think that we may have the opportunity to get to know one another on another level is almost like a calming effect. To be able to look in his eyes when we talk is just icing on the cake. LOL
We have both agreed that we will see where things go from here & the fact that he's ok w/ me telling him that I loved him, I am praying is a plus. Scorp42, your advice was right on when I sent him the text about my love for him being a gift. He is a lot like this site describes him (not responding @ times, evading some questions, etc.), but he has other characteristics that are so emotionally deep and caring. When he shares his world with me, I just want to melt. One thing I haven't shared with you is I am getting a divorce. It will be final this week. When we 1st started communicating we were both married. We would communicate via email/chat. We have both gone through similiar situations in our marriage & were each other's sounding boards...which later we started concentrating on each other. He said that he was more interested in me long before I showed any in him. I was pleasingly shocked. When I realized I had fallen for him, I was afraid to tell him and he sensed it. Especially since he would use words like You are a GREAT friend, I am a true friend that means the world to me, and the latest was he now realizes that I am an honest and true human being who means the world to him and will always have a special place in his heart. And to top it off with he's not ready for a commitment Right NOW...you could understand why I would be confused. His actions were saying differently than his words. Coming to this sight has made me see and understand his quirkiness. But being who I am and questioning him straight up has also helped. I wonder if my divorce becoming final has anything with his change in attitude?? The one time he told me he loved me, left me a little puzzled in where he really meant it the same way as I did. When I read that they don't use words like that loosely, it gave me hope. I want to take the chance with him.

I would like to thank you Hope and Det Scorpio42 (when going back and reading a previous post I realized I called you Hope..Sorry). If I didn't have your real life experiences and advice, I wouldn't have made it this far. 12 days and counting... wish us all the best! Will connect afterwards...
Flipped the script on me
by: Aqua Girl

Hello everyone.
LIG- You are probably right about the divorce thing. I had something of a similar situation a while ago with a man that said he was getting a divorce. I fell head over heals for him and he ended up staying with her. Then I ran into another one getting a divorce and I couldn't allow myself to get close to him (Or tell him that anyway), until I knew for sure it was final. I even ignored him for a while. Well it ended up being final, but he waited so long to get back with me to tell me he was In Love with me, I had moved on. I never knew he felt that way for me until it was too late. Sad Situation. But if he would have stayed in contact with me during that, then once it was final I would have expressed my feelings for him, but I wasn't about to go over board until I knew for sure he was done with her.
WELL, After I posted on here last night, I went back and read all of your stories again. Something in my gut told me to at least text Aqua Man. I won't go into all the details but by some of the things he was saying, made it seem like he thought all I wanted was sex. Like that was the only reason I was contacting him or something. I told him that I didn't want that at all, I was just checking up on him and I kinda missed him. (It took me A LOT to say that) He said he kinda missed me too. I almost fell out my chair. I was so relieved. We went back and forth for a little while and then Silence! There was some things going on with him that's why I haven't seen him and I completely understand, but this distance is for the birds... lol Now I know how my Ex's felt with me. I guess I understand, but I don't like it!
I hope to see him this week. We will see. Maybe this was all a mis-understanding and a major lack of communication on both our parts. Wish me luck!

Mean-While, Virgo Ex is acting stranger then ever. I'm not sure if he just wants to be my friend or if he is Analyzing me (thats what Virgos do) to get back with me. It's really starting to scare me, but I pretty much let him go the last time he left me. Once I'm gone, I don't go back and I've told him this before. He is VERY sensitive and I don't want to hurt his feelings so I'm pretty much ignoring him, hoping I'm not the one he has his hooks on. The only problem is, the more you ignore them, the more they fall. When he started contacting me a couple weeks ago, I told him about Aqua Man and he didn't seem to take to that very well, but I did tell him. Well I say He should have never left me! OMG I feel like Bella in the Eclipse Twilight movie. lol
I hope everything works out for you ladies as well. This forum kinda makes me feel a little better. Pretty sad when ya gotta have an Aqua Man Support group.. Damn Aquarians. LOL


To; Life Is Good
by: Anonymous

Hi Life is Good,

I sending you my best thoughts for a great visit with your Aqua. I hope the two of you have some much needed conversation and lots of fun as well.

My Aqua is flying out next month for a week so I'm a bundle of nerves as well.

Later he started up again with the issues regarding our age difference and how I would be better off seeking someone younger. Of course I have been analyzing this since he said it - wondering if that means he is giving me the brush off.
Scorp42
by: Hope

Hi Scorp42,

I certainly understand your frustration. I am torn right now as well. Mr. Aqua is coming in August. We have not yet been intimate, but I was considering it on this visit.

My guts tell me his pulling away and talk of me needing to meet someone younger have something to do with his own insecurities.

With anyone else, talking about this stuff and getting to the heart of the matter would be easy. With him, I seem to worry far too much about not damaging his ego or hurting him in any way. Why do I feel as though he is too fragile for normal relationship conversation? We talk so well about everything else!

I hope he does something wonderful to get you encouraged about your relationship again.

Doing My Own Thing
by: Scorp42

I decided a few days ago that I wsn't going to stop my life because my Aquarian wasn't in it. When I decided that and stopped contacting him all together, out of the blue he starts calling me and texting me. I know for sure that there is someone else in his life, we talked about it. He said that there are women that call him and text him. He thinks they may want to be with him. He also told me that it's not like he has been spending time with them, he spends his free time with me. UNACCEPTABLE in my eyes. So because he can't make the decision for himself I decided to make it for him. I still don't contact him, he contacts me. I got text's from him last night. It was just a kind of "check in" if you will. He used to spend every Sunday night with me and not he has been checking in to let me know that he was home and he was alone and fill me in on what he was doing. I can honestly say that at this point him contacting me and filling me in makes me angry. I am better off when he doesn't contact me at all. It gives me time to "get over him" so to speak.

Aquagirl, my Aqua and I have been seeing each other for about a year and we have been friends almost 2 years in November. Too darned long to be at the point we are at. He makes sure that he spends every holiday with me, however in the early days I remember being the girl waiting to see him and not getting his time on the holidays. I am sure he spent them with his last relationship, which I know is over but there are others now. the thing I am afraid of is that if he takes too long to make up his mind it will be too late. I am close to that point now,but God keeps giving me these signs to not give up. I won't see anyone else or date anyone else. I have put my focus on God and helping young adults learn about God. It takes my mind off him and is rewarding at the same time.

My Aqua has put a lot of focus on God as well so we encourage each other that way but in my eyes the relationship is almost over. There is one big problem, he has the keys to my place and has had them for quite some time. I won't ask for them back right now as that would be a clear sign that I have given up. God has given too many CLEAR signs that this is the man he has chosen for me so if we are done, done It will be on him and not me.
For Hope
by: Scorp42

Hope, he isn't too fragile for relationship conversation they just don't want to do it. I had to back my Aquarian into a corner to get the answers I wanted. He was 100% honest when I did that. I must say that for as wonderful as they are they can be twice as much work until they get to the "All In" stage that Aquagirl talks about. I have noticed that Aquarian men often are very soft and sweet with us. However there is a highly intelligent, analytical person behind all that. They sometimes act as if they don't realize what is going on or how we feel. As Aquagirl said, the notice EVERYTHING! They know what we are feeling to a certain point and they play off of our feeling a lot. That is what has me so angry about their behavior. I would rather be left totally alone by him than go through this "process" they have to go through to decide what they really want. I totally know why so many Aquarians are lonely. They have people that adore them and love them deeply, but because of their issues they ruin it and end up alone. I can't say that I feel sorry for the lonely ones. Aqua Men an Women alike, their world is so comlicated.
Re: Doing Your Own Thing
by: Hope

Thanks Scorp42,

Interesting that your Aqua still has other women so closely immeshed in his life. I am learning that Aquas have lots of people in their lives, all of whom fit either in the friend or family category.

When I visited my Aqua in June, he introduced me to so many people, many of whom he introduced as friends, but who I would consider an aquaintance in my own world.

That is one of our biggest differences. I have lots of acquaintances and very few close friends. He considers everyone a friend (owner a his favorite pub, bicycle repair shop guy, the woman where he buys his fresh vegetables, coworkers, etc.) Many of them were women.

I saw no cause for alarm at the time, but I wonder how I would feel about them contacting him frequently by text or phone once we get to the place in our relationship where the two of you are.

Wish I had something reassuring to say.

Thanks for the timely reminder that they are not fragile, but rather acutely aware of how their behavior affects us.
Random
by: Aqua Girl

Ok first let me apologize for not addressing any of you in my writings. As an Aqua I am kinda all over the place so sometimes I forget who I'm talking to. But the message is what counts, right? LOL

One thing my Ex told me was "People want what they can't have" I think that is true especially when it comes to Aquas. Looking back at some of my relationships & the guys I fell Really hard for, I realize that they were the ones that kept their distance in the beginning. They would say they cared, but their actions weren't saying so much. They would show just enough to keep me around, but for the most part they acted like they didn't care. It drove me insane! It didn't make sense. They were saying they cared, but why weren't they showing it all the time. IT made me want to chase them & find out more! IT was a mystery & I LOVE mystery. And maybe in the beginning they didn't care so much (because I know these guys wouldn't be smart enough to play the game), but when I finally got to the point that I was sick of it & realized I was putting too much energy into them & started walking away, they would start coming around & end up falling in love with me, but at that point it was too late for me. I guess with us Aquas, you have to pretty much be a person that can take it or leave it. You have to show us that if we don't act right you have no problems leaving us, but at the same time be there for us when we are acting right. It's a terrible cycle & personally I hate it myself, but this Aqua Man is for sure making me look deeper into myself & making me want him even... OMG! Wait 1 freakin minute! That little Snot! We talked about this on our first date. I was saying how people put a lot into someone in the beginning & then when they don't see any results & start getting distant (he finished my thought) and said " Yeh the other person wonders what's going on & they start chasing you"... I told him I didn't want a relationship & I just wanted to have fun. If it happens, it happens. But I never asked him what he wanted & he never told me. I did all the talking! He must have really started liking me & because I was being distant with him he flipped the script on me to get me to fall for him. That's got to be it! Because if he didn't want me around he wouldn't even talk to me at all on that level. He says sweet nothings to me & makes plans, & then breaks them but feels bad and keeps apologizing. He knows it drives me insane! Then I always pop back up & he knows it. He even flipped the whole sex thing on me. Like I was the one that always wanted it! NO that was him. My Ex did this to me. He told me he didn't want a relationship & it made me fall hard for him, then I thought I would be slick & start being distant with him to make him change his mind... Ooooh he is Evil! lol I don't like losing at my own game! Time to play hard ball now! Sorry for all the rambling, but I hope me telling a little about myself, helps you ladies some how. GOOD LUCK. Stay tuned.


silly aquarians
by: Anonymous

hello everybody first thing is you all have to relax thats how an aquarius man wants you to be because he is probably over the moon crazy about you but he doesnt wear it on his sleeve. above all he wants you to be yourself. remember how you were when he fell in love with you thats how he wants you to stay. that fun exciting interesting sexy lady. women dont realise that they have a tendency to change when they are in love and its usually not good its not good for either one of you. dont worry about how to keep him you already have him so be yourself he loves you. dont worry about his commitment he wouldnt be with you if he didnt want to be. when he distances himself its mostly because he thinks you are getting intence and he thinks you are changing. when he comes back like nothing happened its because you are back to being what he loves about you. just remember you dont have be intence to get what you want just be what you are. because he wants the same thing as you he wants you to be his queen. he is every bit as loyal and when he makes a decision he will stick to it. he wants you to be having fun with him. but he needs to know that you need him and that will make him do what ever he has to for you to feel safe and secure. yes he knows you can do that yourself but he still wants to do it for you.
Re: Random Thoughts
by: Hope

::smiles::

Bless you AquaGirl. I will read this again and again over the next couple of days.

Thank you again. I'm not into playing insipid games when it comes to affairs of the heart, but I do enjoy an artful game of chess with a skilled opponent.

Hugs,

Hope
Re: Silly Aquarians
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your comments and perspective. We're still at the "getting to know one another phase, but this is good information to consider if and when we get to the actual "love and commitment stage".

I think the underlying commonality among women who are dating Aquarian men is that we are feel "something" from our Aqua men. However we can never say with certainty what that "something" is. It's the "hot and cold", "here today gone tomorrow" behavior that is misleading and confusing.

It's a challenge for people like me who need parameters and a "bottom line" in order to plan and function.
Re: Silly Aquarians
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your comments and perspective. We're still at the "getting to know one another phase, but this is good information to consider if and when we get to the actual "love and commitment stage".

I think the underlying commonality among women who are dating Aquarian men is that we are feel "something" from our Aqua men. However we can never say with certainty what that "something" is. It's the "hot and cold", "here today gone tomorrow" behavior that is misleading and confusing.

It's a challenge for people like me who need parameters and a "bottom line" in order to plan and function.
Plans may be changed
by: Life Is Good

Hello Everyone! And hello and thank you Anonymous... :)
I have to say I have been an emotional mess this past week. I didn't realize that I would have these emotions coming out of no where the closer I get to my divorce. In two days I will be single and in 8 days I will be spending time with my Aqua man...well that's what I am praying for. Meaning, I realized that my love for my Aquaman goes deeper than it has gone for any man. I told him that I wanted us to spend our time together but w/o sex being involved. I don't want this relationship to be rushed and/or destroyed because of lust. I want to know that when we do make that decision its because we are both ready. I told him that I would still come but didn't want any misunderstandings or my intentions. If he agrees, then he will show up. If not, for him to email and say he wasn't coming. So far no email. To me a true friendship/relationship shouldn't be based on lust but love.
For Life is Good
by: Aqua Girl

Funny you say that... I was thinking the same thing. I was going to try that this week, if I get the chance to anyway... I think I will see him, but who knows! Sure it was fun in the beginning, but that's not all I want. I still don't want to rush into a "Relationship", but I don't just want a Play buddy either. Should be interesting to see his reaction or Non-reaction. lol Hopefully it goes over well. I just don't want to be one of those women that get used only for "extra". That's not who I am.

I don't know all of your situation with the Divorce and such, but you will be ok. It will take time and you will have patches of Emotions, but over time it will get better. Just take it easy and think positive. Good Luck!

Hopefully I will have good news to share this week. We will see.
Advice Well Taken
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl and Anonymous thank you so very much for snapping me back into myself so to speak. If I didn't know better I would say that my Aquarian wrote Anonymous' comment. Last night was a great night for my Aquarian and I. It was as if our relationship moved to the next level. I didn't have to say anything to him, he just knew. He knew I wasn't happy with him and he knew exactly why. We had this unspoken communication that both of us rather enjoyed. He poked fun at me last night which he has never done before. Ahh... What a relief for him to finally start treating me like the true friend that I am. He was a little hesitant to make jokes at my expense at first but that opened the flood gates for my retaliation and before you know it we were laughing at each other histerically. I guess that is what Anonymous ment by getting back to having fun. I can't believe how much getting advice on this blog has really helped me and in turn I help others. Ironically he said to me last night that it will be one year for us in our relationship in 2 weeks. I was floored! There is so much that he forgets but he remembered that? You could have bought me for a quarter at that moment. Well just wanted to update you all on my situation. All is good in my world.

P.S. No phone calls or text's from his other female friends last night. He WAS listening during our last intense talk a couple weeks ago.
Scrop42
by: Aqua Girl

OMG... I swear when I was reading that anonymous comment I thought it was my Aqua Man too... I guess us Aquas just have a magical way about us... lol The only difference was I know I wasn't being too intense with him because I was hardly giving him any emotion at all. I was the one being distant. That's why I think he has been doing a little research himself and trying to trick me into liking him or feeling something. Silly Aquarians. LOL

I'm glad to hear everything went well. I'm hoping to have my night tomorrow. We will see how it goes.



Curious
by: Scorp42

Hope, LIG and Aquagirl. I am interested to know what each of you Aqua's do for a living. The reason I am asking is that all the Aquarian men I know have jobs that they either work alone at their own pace or they are in charge. Just curious to know.
Life is Better
by: Life is Good

Thanks Anonymous for the words of encouragement. I pray all goes well for you and the rest of us.

Scorp42, my Aqua has a job in which he is in charge.

Aquarian Power
by: Scorp42

My Aquarian is in charge as well. It was fun to watch how fast he went up the ladder to the head man in charge. My boss is a VERY powerful man and hold 2 titles as VP and CIO and wouldn't you know it he is an Aquarian as well. That God for this site, it helped me thrive at my job being able to understand my boss so much better. He is fun to be around as well. Other people at my company don't get his quirky humor while I am laughing my head off because I get it. It seems in the last few months all of the people I have been spending time with are either Scorpios of Aquarians. Life has been quite interesting lately.
In Charge baby!
by: Aqua Girl

Yup. Mine is In charge too. And myself.. Well I have my own business and I work for a large company, but I pretty much do what I want. My production is so good and I'm well liked that they don't question me... EVER! One of my co-workers just laughed at me because she says I have my own agenda. I don't go by the dress code, I come in when I want and... Well i won't give it all away, but you get the point.

P.S. I'm writing this while at work.. HEHE

Not So Anonymous
by: Hope

I'm laughing because for an instant I also thought it might be my Aqua responding. Mine even emails in a similar fashion with all lower case with limited punctuation. It’s quite a huge contrast to his professional writing style.

There are other Aquarians who have posted on this site that share a remarkable resemblance to my Aqua's casual writing style, and the way he responds to threads. It keeps me a nervous wreck! We both have Scorpio moons, so neither of us would be thrilled about being the topic of an internet discussion, due to our private natures.

He and I share the same profession. In fact we met, on a related listserv. We're not CEO's, but are both members of the executive management team at our different locations.
Going Aquarian Crazy!
by: Scorp42

I tell you, this Aquarian experience has been like no other I have ever had. Hope, I agree with you that my Aquarian would be a little upset about being talked about in this thread as well. However I think he would be a bit flattered too knowing that I take so much time talking about him to "do the right thing" so to speak. He is aware that I talk on a Scorpio women Aquarius man blog. He drives me NUTS! Anonymous said to "relax." OMG, he has no idea that as a Scorpio women the internal 'craziness' IS who we are. We are suspicious of everyone. I listen to every word and notice every gesture. My problem is I spend way too much time analizing those words and gestures. We Scorpios are very deep emotional creatures. That is one part of me that I must say I love. I can go to the ocean and listen to the waves and dream up and entire movie scene in my head. I am very internally dramatic, so when my Aquarian is holding me close or saying sweet things to me I feel like I am in a romance movie. I can hear music in the background that fits the moment. I sometimes smile and my Aquarian wonders why. I enjoy my life and all that is in it. I can be calm as ever on the outside and internally be flipping off the walls! One thing that helps me when I am on an emotional trip is I write. I have several unfinished novels. It is therapudic for me. Now as a Scorpio ladies I am sure you understand what I am talking about. It would kill me to be like the Aquarian and surpress my emotions all the time. When I am alone let the emotions flow. I can laugh and cry all in a minutes time. So I say to Anonymous that we Scorpio ladies are being who we are. We don't know any other way to be, at least I don't. I was just sitting here at work thinking what the future holds for us 5 or 10 years down the road...
No words can explain how I feel : (
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Scrop42. I love being an Aquarian. We rule! Lol But yes we do hold our feelings in a lot. I think because we are so scared of someone leaving us or hurting us. We tell ourselves (Well I do anyway) in the beginning we are not going to get attached, especially if it looks dangerous, then BAM! Out of the Blue we are so Full of emotions we don’t know how to handle them.

I finally got to see him. I was so sick all day. I was anxious to see him yet I was scared to death he was going to cancel again. On top of all that I have family issues going on and I haven’t been getting much sleep. I was a Wreck. I finally got there and the first 5 minutes was fine, but I think I started saying some off the wall things because of my nerves. Then he started saying some strange things. I know he was tired and we are not happy Aquas when we are tired, but he was giving me dirty looks all night and kinda had an attitude. Making strange comments about me not calling or something to that effect. I don’t even know what that was about. I don’t know if he is done with me at this point or what I really think it is, Is the famous Aqua Mood Swings! That happens when they really like someone and doesn’t know what’s going on.. Trust me. I KNOW.. lol
I was trying to get into the Convo about how I feel, but I was so nervous and I didn’t want to ruin our night. I tried to get him to talk about what he thought about me when we first met, but he flipped and changed the subject. I was trying to ease into it. (We kinda talked about it in the beginning and he had no problem with it then) It’s like I understand the space thing so I give him his space, plus I don’t know him that well and we are not together officially, so I don’t want to come off as a Stalker. I’m SO far from it… I’m not sure how this is going to work. I’m so ready to RUN for the Hills, but I just can’t do it. One minute I say I’m done and the next minute he sends me something so sweet then I’m back at it again. I would text him everyday and tell him how much I miss him if that’s what he wants… GEEZ. What gets me is when I do say something sweet, it takes him a minute to respond, if he even responds at all. That’s what scares me. I think I need to say something soon before I get too attached and really get hurt. I guess it would be better to say something now, then hold it in and find out later.
Oh Aquagirl...
by: Scorp42

I feel for you right now. Obviously he feels something for you or you wouldn't get the dirty looks and the comment of why didn't you call. Perfect example of the "Aquarian Game" I was talking about. Both of you are so busy analizing each other and making sure you don't give the other too much that you may miss out on a really rewarding friendship/relationship. We are all afraid of being hurt. When I finally let down the wall to my heart and let my Aqua in I thought long and hard about it. But in the end I thought he was worth the risk. You will never know if this was meant to be if you don't give in a little. I know it is usually us women that have to give in first because of male pride. But when it is real love it doesn't matter what sign you are or how strong you think you are, you are powerless to the feelings. You can tell yourself all day long and keep the feelings hidden but they are there. It sounds to me like the two of you are truly in an Aquarian battle. And I complain sometimes about my situation. You are in my prayers for sure and I hope it was just being tired. The things we do for love...
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for the kind words. Made me feel better. You are right. I want so bad to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared to death that he will run, but I guess if he does it's better to know now.
I was acting a little strange too with my mood swings. It's the worst feeling ever. I know it's because I said one thing in the beginning and now I'm starting to act different then my words because I do want a little more. So it's very confusing for him. Like I said my Ex said the same thing about not wanting a relationship and then acted like he wanted one sometimes. It freaked me out, but I was so scared to tell him how I felt because I was trying to respect his wishes and not scare him off. I have a feeling Aqua man is feeling the same about me. Although, somewhere in the back of my head makes me feel like he doesn't want me at all and he probably has a girlfriend. I really don't believe the latter, but it still lingers in my head. I'm so sick but I really need to say something because soon he will get sick of feeling that way and walk away.. At least I do anyway. I just don't know how to say what I want to say without being to over whelming. Maybe It's too soon to say something since I just started noticing these mood swings in the past couple weeks.?. And how the heck do I say it? I don't know when or if I will see him again and I obviously can't say it to his face. It's too long for text and I don't have his email... I don't want to seem childish with a letter, but that may be my only option. Ok I'm sick. Gotta take a break.
useless rambling
by: Anonymous aquarius

hello everyone i had a weird feeling i was being lured out of my hole so ill play. scorp42 aquarians have a constant internal conflict going on in our heads so if we didnt suppress our emotions we would get sent to the asylum in a straightjacket, but i have to say that i do in fact know about the deep emotions of scorpios because my moon is in scorpio and my rising sign is scorpio. i just have a way of being blunt and insensitive even when im trying to help. anyway i came on here because i have a certain scorpio friend that im interested in. i think her and i would make a great couple. well have fun everone.
Re: Useless Rambling
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous Aquarius,

Thank you for taking the time to read through these posts and add your comments and reflections. Your ramblings are far more useful than you can imagine!

I am dating an Aquarian man with a Scorpio moon and Scorpio rising. Based on sun signs alone, the Aquarian and Scorpio approach to life is quite different, although we both lean toward humanitarianism, and are idealists.

I stay in a state of confusion around him because as a Scopio woman, with a Scorpio moon and Aquarius Mars, I have an initial reaction to his one-liner bluntness (usually feeling hurt), but then look deeper as I remember he also have Scorpio tendencies and is usually trying to help.

After 10 months of non-physical interaction, I am still not sure about his feelings for me. There is no doubt about the friendship and I am certain he is attracted to me. I know he likes and admires me. Just not sure is he is contemplating a serious relationship with me.

Somedays I am certain of it, and other weeks I feel his distance and get discouraged. Scorps like and need solidity and security from a serious partner (a reliable financial system, commitment, trustworthiness, loyalty and a willingness to work "power through" problems).

We need spontaneity in the other playful parts of life (surprise weekend getaways, trying new experiences together - things that rock our adrenaline to the core and leave us panting and begging for more).

I don't need a partner who tells me he loves me every day or week, but I do need to see and feel it in his actions, smile, gestures, etc. I'm not sure if it is his Scorpio influence that makes him so hard to read, or if that is the nature of the Aqua and he is working extra hard to be unreadable.

I would enjoy hearing more about your Scorpio friend - how you met, what drew you to her, what you find frustrating and endearing about her, etc. It may help me understand my Aqua a litte more. I'd be willing to share from a Scorpio perspective, as I am sure others on here will as well.
To: AquaGirl
by: Anonymous

AquaGirl,

Again, thank you for sharing. I realize that each of us are individuals in our thinking and reactions, but it really does help me to read about alternative perceptions.

You know how we "fixed" signs get stuck in our conclusions.

There is no doubt in my mind that he is attracted to you. The behavior you describe is consistent with what I am experiencing, and what I have read from others on here.

I think we all are wondering about the level of attraction)friends, versus casual lovers, versus something serious. Nice to be able to share my elation and angst with like-minded others.
TO: Anonymous
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for sharing. It's nice to know I'm not the only one having internal conflicts. Starting to think I was a little loopy myself. lol

I know he is attracted to me, just don't know how much. I know it's still early so I'm trying to be patient. I really don't want to jump into anything serious right now anyway. Plus we are both so busy in our own lives it's hard to make time for each other, but some how we figure it out. Now he is starting to get the Goofy, clumsy, airy way. It's so cute. I get like that too. One minute I'm having my crabby mood swings & the next I'm running into walls & tripping while standing still. Sometimes the feeling gets so intense I want to just walk away & call it quits, but then he says or does something to make me smile & forget about the craziness. For a little while anyway. I'm sure I do the same with him. I can almost sense when he is having doubts or feeling a little off & that is usually when I send some silly off the wall text. (Like, the sky is blue, just thought you would like to know). The one thing I don't know about is, I know when I don't call a lot or I'm being kinda distant, he makes some smart comment about it, but my thing is I don't want to over do it. I know we need our space as Aquas & I get freaked out if someone starts coming around like a stalker, but I also like to be remembered sometimes. I pretty much understand his moods I just haven't been able to find a happy medium on the closeness vs distance thing.

Since I'm not a Scorp, I don't think I can help you much with your situation, but if you could enlighten me on how you handle things I would appreciate it. Like, how do you draw a line between just sex, just friends & a relationship?
To: AquaGirl
by: Hope

Hi AquaGirl,

Sorry, the post directly above your last one is from me. I forgot to type my name in at the top before sending.

Again, I appreciate your comments regarding not knowing how much is too much, versus trying not to appear too aloof, or too anxious.

I tend to take his delayed responses or flat out ignoring my contact as, "I'm bothering him.” I do not text during the day, and we have a set time to video chat in the evenings, unless one of us has other commitments.

He has the freedom to text, call, or email whenever he wants and I usually respond within 24 hours.

I agree in that I am not sure where the balance lies with him so it makes spontaneity and the normal ebb and flow of friendly exchanges awkward.
Aquarian on the Run
by: Aqua Girl

Oh Ok. Thanks Hope. Thought that was our new friend. : )

Yeh, I've been thinking of letting it go for a while. I'm sure I'll feel different tomorrow, or even in an hour.. lol But I really need to let this one go. I really don't want to get hurt and if I keep going in the direction that I am, It's going to happen sooner then later. I'm starting to get a strange feeling and that's not a good thing. I'm not giving up completely yet, just going to dive into my Aquarian Cave for a bit until I can "try" to figure this all out or at least feel a little better. Maybe this is what the Aqua dudes go through and that's why they become distant. Who knows. If it's meant to be, it will be. If he wants me, he knows where to find me. If a man wants a woman, he WILL chase after her no matter what and if he really loves her he will keep trying no matter how many times he gets rejected. It's just in their nature. Unless you're a Virgo Man.. lol

I know I am a strong woman and I don't NEED anyone, especially a man to dictate my happiness, it would just be nice to have a Buddy to tag along with me in this journey we call life.



For Anonymous Aquarian
by: Scorp42

Thanks Anonymous for your input. I have to say that as much as it pains me to be so relaxed, that is exactly what I am doing. The reason it has been so hard to relax in my situation is unfortunately as a Scorpio women I always think the worst. When I don't hear from him I cook up these scenarios in my head which then brings on a flood of emotion. I always think about what I am capable of and know he is capable of the same. However in my head I think he is not just capable but doing it. It drives me nuts. Then I find out that what was in my head could not be further from the truth. I know it's silly but true. And the process starts all over again. I wish there was some way to stop that! So when those thoughts pop up in my head I have to redirect my thoughts. It's the redirection that is so much work. Anyway just thought you should know that I read your posts over and over again. Each time I absorb something new. So PLEASE do not stop posting here, we need you! LOL You may want to come up with a screen name for yourself though. Anonymous Aquarian is a lot to type. LOL... Hope, Aquagirl and LIG what's been going on in your worlds?
Just Checking In
by: Life Is Good

Hello Ladies and our Friendly Aqua Male,

Just stopped in to say hello. Its two days before I leave for my QT time with my Aqua man. Things are going well and I am trying to contain my excitement by staying busy. It feels so good to be able to hear from him a little more. I am not taking it for granted because I never know when he will need to return to his shell. lol

I pray all is going well for each of you. I thank God for my Aqua everyday. :)
for what its worth
by: Anonymous aquarius

hello everybody.
hope i would think the non physical interaction is the biggest reason your not sure of how serious he is. 10 months would be a commitment to me. i dont believe he would be in contact with you for 10 months if he wasnt serious. i know its hard for me to try and give any reassurances if im not physically present maybe he feels the same way. physical expression is a big part of my communication, i feel like i need it to be understood, so i have never liked talking on the phone but when i do i like to keep it brief. i also send the least amount of words possible in text messeges.
aqua girl i dont know where i draw a line between just sex, just friends, relationship. i can say that i have to be friends before i would get into a relationship. i can also say that i can have sex with a friend with no emotional attachment.
well here i go rambling on again so i bid you all farewell
This Week
by: Hope

Hi All,

Thank you again for your camaraderie and support. I've been really busy these last weeks and it looks as though that will continue for while.

My Aqua is getting equally busy with work and service committees, etc. Oddly enough, now that we both are super busy, he seems much less distant and more eager to chat. We eat dinner together most nights now (via video chat) to visit, and then shorter chats just before bed.

I love this kind of interaction with him, but I know it won't be long before he changes gear and is back to pulling away for awhile.

I appreciate the explanations and encouragement from the Aqua posters and those with experience dating an Aquarian. It helps me understand the pattern and makes it less worrisome for me.

Best to everyone and a special hug and wish for a great time to Life is Good as you head off to your Aquarian Adventure. Can't wait for the details when you return!

Hey Scorp42, you have to stay in the game and keep blazin' the trail for the rest of us.
Ramblings of My Own!
by: Hope

Hi Anonymoys Aquarian (A.A.),

The more rambling the better! Please continue to comment when you feel the need or urge.

Interesting point about the distance thing with my Aqua. We live 1500 miles apart so the best option we have is phone or video chat to create a connection.

I hear you about his need for physical expression (hand holding, touching, my back or shoulder, sitting close, etc.). He did a lot of that when I went to visit him. Never inappropriate, always respectful, yet nice.

He will be here to visit in mid August. Of course I am excited about that.
Tapping Out
by: Scorp42

Well I have reached the end of my rope. I love that man with all my soul but it is killing me to wait and wait and wait and wait... I don't see him enough or get a fraction of the attention I need. A.A. said that we women tend to change when we fall in love. However I am the same with him now that I have always been. If I change it is to adapt to his change. Anyway a year of giving it my all is long enough. I'm tapping out. I will always be his friend and who knows what the future may hold. Now is just not the time for the two of us to be together. I think I will do it Aquarian style and just not respond or reply to him any longer. When it gets to the point that I am ignored it's time to go. I hope the best for all of you and I am praying for a better ending than mine. I will still post here from time to time as I am sure my Aquarian and I will remain friends, only after I have had my time alone and to myself to get over him and rearrange my life. Bless you all.
I Understand....BUT
by: Life Is Good

Hi Scorp42,

I am so sorry to hear that you are tapping out. :( I pray that he does settle and you two can make it work permanently. I have been having mixed feelings also, but I love him and see so much of life in him. Only time will tell...

Almost finished packing and should be on my way. When A.A. said that we change, I wonder if he means our intensity? I was just in the room making my final decision in what I wanted to wear. I thought about something that would really knock him totally speechless and I realized...we are not committed yet and put it back. I have always been me and as I said in an earlier post, my Aqua man only makes me strive to be a better ME! I want him for a lifetime partner, but it can't be that way until he is ready to commit fully first. I am blessed to have him as a LIFETIME FRIEND!

Well I am off...Keep your head up. As you once told me he's just out for a while. He will be back and I pray for you that if he does...It'll be as a lifetime partner. :)
Oh My- Don't give up!
by: Aqua Girl

What did I get started?? As soon as I give up everyone goes out the door. Come on now. We all have to stay strong if this is what we want. Love is never easy! It's always going to be work no matter what sign you are with... Not that I Love my Aqua Man at this point, I hardly know him, but I do care for him deeply.

I haven't heard anything yet, but I'm not giving up faith.

Just keep in mind this: "Anything worth having... Is worth trying over and over again until you get it right..."
Trying My Hardest
by: Scorp42

Thanks for the support. I changed my mind and decided not to just disappear on him. He contacted me last night, which made me angry because he was being his usual give me a little bit then leave me hanging thing. I woke up this morning and text'd him that we need to talk. I let him know that the distance game is over now. We need to either get it right or forget about it. I'm pissed and I can't pretend that I'm not. He hates when I put serious things in text but I told him that I didn't care. S*&^ or get off the pot kind of thing. We will have our talk tonight when I get off work. We'll see where it goes. I do know and I let him know that I WILL NOT continue on the way it is. I am wasting my time waiting for him to make up his mind. He told me about an hour ago that he wasn't mad at me and that we do need to talk. I'm fed up and when I get to that point it either has to be right or not at all. I know relationships are work, was in a 10 year relationship that I had to walk away from for my health. My Aqua was the first man I let "in" and I sometimes feel it was a mistake. I am too old to be going through this kind of crap. I'm tired of tip toeing around his feelings, hoping not to do or say the wrong thing that will make him run. Enough of him being wanted by as many women as he can and putting me in that category. The ball is in my court now. If he decides to walk away his loss. Yes I would love to spend the rest of my life with this man as he makes me a better women as well. However I make him a better man and if he thinks someone else would do a better job then have at them. I have a lot to offer and if he doesn't want it then so be it. It's too bad he let it get to this point because I have one foot out the door. You can't give me the best of you then stop all together because you get busy. I don't ask for much but the unhappiness is too much for me to bare. Aquagirl you didn't start anything as far as my situatuion is concerned. It's been brewing for quite some time. My Aquarian thinks I am a submissive woman, and I am so far from that. He doesn't know the deep inner me becuause he moves so damn slowly. In the mean time I am getting resentful of the Aquarian games. Sorry for the vent but geez how much can a woman take?
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

How did it go?
My Weekend Talk
by: Scorp42

Well we had our talk. I said everything I needed to say and told him exactly how I felt and what was making me so unhappy. He agreed that he has been way to occupied and busy and had not really taken out the time for me that he should have. He started to be very vauge at first. I let him know that I could not continue on with things the way they are. I let him know that I needed more attention than I was getting and if he had too much on his plate that it wasn't going to work between us. He said that our friendship was very important to him and that he didn't ever want to loose that. I told him that friendship means two different things between us. I explained my version of friendship and what it was to me.

I said that timing was everything and right now wasn't the time for the two of us to be together. He didn't comment on that. However he did say that he would make sure that he would be better at spending time with me and that he would try harder or do better than he has been doing. He did say that he couldn't give me what I needed right now because he just doesn't have the time. After talking for an hour or so he said he had to go as he had a few things to do. He said he would try to get back to see me later if he could. I told him it was no big deal if he couldn't as in my mind I was ready to let it all go. As he was leaving he gave me a hug like usual but this hug was much harder and longer than any he has given me before. He held me so tight as if he didn't want to let go. It made me cry.

Later that night he sent a text that he was in a lot of pain. I took it as an excuse not to come back and text him back good night. Well that wasn't what he meant at all. He said whatever to my good night and that he was on his way. He really was in a lot of pain but still made my night! It was more romantic than it ever was and more affectionate than he had ever been before. Maybe I read it wrong but I got the feeling that he didn't want it to be over or take a break. I nursed him out of his pain, which took 3 hours before he was able to sleep. In the midst of his pain he still romanced me like never before. He has responded to every text since then, even while he was out of town for 24 hours.

All this to say I haven't given up and decided to see where this all goes. I know he listened to every word I said and even repeated back a lot of what I said. I just have to stop reading into his words so much and take a longer, deeper look at his actions. Only time will tell...
It's Over
by: Life is Good

Scorp42,
I am happy for you. As for me, I chose to end my friendship this weekend. That's all I will say for now. I will be checking in from time to time and will continue pray for each of you. Life is STIll Good! :)
Scrop42 and LIG
by: Aqua Girl

Oh My. Well Life is good I wish you the Best. You are very strong for making that Decision. Maybe things will take a turn for the better. Just stay strong and keep it moving Girl...

Scrop42- WOW. I wish you the Best as well. Your post made me cry. I still haven't heared from mine yet, but I may make a move today. It's obvious that he cares for you very much. See what I mean about the Take it or leave it? Sometimes that's just the way you have to be with us Aquas...

Hopefully you both will continue to post here.
Take care...

HOPE- What's going on with you?
Will Always Keep In Touch
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I will continue to post here. It's as if we all have this great connection and I love the support. I have known for quite some time that he cared for me very deeply. I was a real mess in the beginning of our relationship. We were friends for a year before the relationship thing. If he didn't care he would have ran and fast back then. Everything I have asked him to do that makes me happy he does. I guess I never addressed everything until now. Let's see if he continues with his pattern of doing what I have asked him to do. I went through something pretty rough yesterday and he was his wonderful supportive self. I guess I will just have to relax even more and stop looking to what it will be and enjoy what it is for now.

LIG I hope he wakes up soon and realizes what he is missing.
Will Be Keeping in Touch
by: Life Is Good

Hello Ladies and Aqua Men!

Thanks for the encouragement. My aqua man isn't ready for a commitment and doesn't realize that he is sabotaging a possible relationship that he could be finally happy and content because he is loved and respected for who he is and not judged on his shortcomings.

He decided to retreat into his own world at the wrong time and I concluded he's not ready for me to be in life so I decided to make it easy on him and me and remove myself from the equation all together. Did I want to?? No! But did I need to?? Yes. I ended it by saying when he realized what he wanted then he could call.

But to end on a good note: MY WEEKEND ENDED IN A WONDERFUL! Wouldn't have changed it for anything!
Calling All Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Hello Ladies...

Ok I have read back into this post and I see that it started after you had been with your Aqua for a while, but can any of you enlighten me on the first few months with him? Did it start as friends, Relationship? How did you act? How did he act?

Sick and Tired!

Miles of Smiles
by: Hope

Hello to LIG, AG, Scorp42, and Anon Aqua,

Okay, very strange. We are back in Happy Land again after a little relationship meltdown on Saturday night/Sunday morning. He sent me another one of his infamous, “I think am too old for you messages”, followed by a lot of flattery. I of course took it to mean that he was looking for a way out and not really interested in moving beyond our friendship.
I sent back an email letting him gracefully off the hook.

The fingers began flying across the keyboard and my phone ringing. He spent the next 5 hours apologizing and talking about his own insecurities about our age difference and how he was fearful I would get bored. We worked through it all very respectfully and with humor, rather than drama. That was particularly impressive to me.

So his planned visit is back on, and I am grinning from ear to ear again. For now that is.

There is just something about these Aqua-Velva men!

Will respond to other happenings after I finish a project due in the morning.
RE:Calling All Ladies
by: Life Is Good

We started as friends. We could communicate via email/chat and just talk about any and everything. Didn't start flirting with each other until Feb/Mar of this year. He has always retreated when there was something going on that he was stressing or nervous about. I have pretty much stayed the same...I tell him what I am thinking/feeling and don't really hold punches. Our friendship was pretty much drama free up until June when he pulled his longest disappearing act.
Calling All Ladies
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, My Aquarian and I met almost 2 years ago. In my eyes we were just friends with benefits at first. We saw each other and talked to each other every once in a while. I didn't think about him much back then. He had something really bad happen to him while I was in a bad state as well. We got through our bad time together as friends. We really started to look at each other in a different light. I would call him every now and then on weekends only. I moved and asked him to help me. He did and out of the blue asked me why I never called him during the week. I had no answer. Anyway after a week or two I told him that I was no longer interested in the "thing" we had together. I was ready for a relationship and he wasn't. He said we need to talk so we did. He told me that maybe it was time for him to settle down and that he was really attracted to me. In my mind we were on the way to something wonderful. Once that happened he would ignore text and phone calls from me and only come around periodically for short periods of time. I was confused and that is when I started to look up Aquarian behavior. Is said that when he started to act as if he didn't care that he was almost hooked. After about 3 weeks of sure torture for me he started coming over every day or wanted me to come to him every day. We spent the night together every day for 2 weeks. Then I would see him maybe once or twoce a week. He said he was afraid it was too much. He said he wanted us to be friends instead of lovers so we stopped having sex for weeks. He would still ignore some of my contact or take hours to get back with me. After a while of that is when I cornered him and told him enough of that. And that pretty much got us to where we are now. Of course I am leaving a lot of the inbetween out like the most memorable valentines day ever. Aquagirl go to the home page of this site, most of the other subjects are myself, Hope and LIG. It tells a lot of the early day stories. I was anonymous for a while but all the information is there.
Thanks Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for the responses. I can't do this anymore. This is the whole reason I stopped dating all together because I am so tired of the games!
I am better alone! I don't need a man at all but that doesn't mean I can control what I feel. It just happens. He broke plans again! I guess that's his way of saying he doesn't want me around. I don't understand why someone can't just come out and say it! It's not hard to say "I don't like you on that level, leave me alone!" I say it to people all the time.. I have no problem telling someone they are not for me! Better that then play with their freakin head! One day he is nice and sweet and the next time I talk to him he is giving me dirty looks and blows me off! WTF?? I guess it's my own fault. I wasn't even into him after our very first date, but I ended up contacting him a few weeks later to give it another shot. Now Look! I don't even care if we get into a relationship at this point anyway, I don't want that right now myself. I just HATE it when someone continues to break plans or ignores me! It's B.S. I understand things come up like work and important stuff, but DANG.. When it happens this much in a short period of time and you don't even get a Sorry out of it, You start to wonder if he gave a heck in the first place.
Before I met him I was about to call it quits on ALL dating for good because I didn't want to get hurt.. But Noooo! I just couldn't keep my mouth shut! All he has to say is to leave him alone and I will walk away quietly.. I'm not a crazy person as it may not seem that way right now because I'm venting, I just don't have time for BULL. Arrrggghhh He is a bunch of BOLONGA!
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

WELCOME TO THE CLUB!!! LOL...I am not being funny, but if you feel like this, how the HECK do you think we feel?? How about multiply what you feel by 100+!!!
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I know your frustration all too well. Here is why you are going crazy. We Scorpio women have this inner patients that Aquarians just don't have when it comes to matters of the heart and emotions. We are such emotional creatures that we deal with a lot more emotional drama than you can. Just remember that the way you feel right now is probably the same way you made men feel about you. If you get nothing else from this, you should know how not to be when someone is really into you. It doesn't feel good at all. However you Aquarians are not the best at communicating and saying what you feel so both of you are assuming things and not verbalizing anything. I thought it was work for us Scorpios but you have it twice as hard. I think Aquarians give up too early hense why I said in a previous post that I understand why some Aquarians are lonely. In my opinion Aquagirl you need to find a mature Scorpio and let him know that you don't like jealousy or clinginess and give him time to adjust himself. I think it would make you happier in the long run. Just my opinion.
SMH...
by: Life Is Good

Ok Ladies and Aqua Gent,

I am so not so happy and confused right now. I may have left something this weekend while on my mini vacation... Have contacted my Aqua to see if he has it... Why won't he respond?? Will someone please answer that for me? I wouldn't have contacted him if it wasn't important. You can say what you want about they retreating when they are almost hooked or whatever! I am calling this latest act, just down right mean!
Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- That just hurts. lol But you are right. I actually had a scorpio man once but it didn't work out. I think I need a Gemini.. Oh well. I think my Aqua may have had a woman or just isn't into me. Oh well. I'm over it. I have bigger things to worry about right now. It's really not that serious, I just like him a little. I just hate being stood up and ignored.

I'm not gonna stress about it. If it's meant to be he will come back. Hopefully I'll still be here if he does. Probably not though. Depends how long he waits.

LIG- What in the world did you leave there? He is probably mad and is going to make you wait as long as possible before he responds. He knows it's driving you insane. But I could be wrong.

Hope it works out for all of you. I'm gonna stay on here though cause it's nice to vent about things and see how you are all doing. You're my new Friends.. LOL







Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

LOL... You are probably right. I had something for him and something for another friend of mine. I think I may have pack the gift in his box and was checking with him to see if he received it by mistake. I just don't understand that if he's not feeling me, why can't he just say that. He wouldn't be hurting me by being honest. What's bothering me is his attentiveness being on mark, then when I start to reciprocate he runs for the hills. All I wanted was to spend some QT with him and have some. It wasn't like I was ready to make any long term commitments. I love him with all my heart, but I know that neither of us is ready for a serious relationship.

The signals he's been sending lately have been really confusing. I told him that if he was stressing or need to vent, I'd be there. Up until the day we were suppose to see each other he was very attentive...right up until it was time he was suppose to leave from work. Then complete and utter silence. Nothing!!! I text him and told him that it looked like he wasn't going to show, I was going out to have some fun and did just that! I had a ball...but a little part does which he would have been a part of it. I refused to take his gift back with me and dropped it off too his job. This may be one of the main reasons for his extended silence...But I was so PEED with him for pulling his disappearing act.

What now??? I don't have a clue... :(
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

LOL... You are probably right. I had something for him and something for another friend of mine. I think I may have pack the gift in his box and was checking with him to see if he received it by mistake. I just don't understand that if he's not feeling me, why can't he just say that. He wouldn't be hurting me by being honest. What's bothering me is his attentiveness being on mark, then when I start to reciprocate he runs for the hills. All I wanted was to spend some QT with him and have some. It wasn't like I was ready to make any long term commitments. I love him with all my heart, but I know that neither of us is ready for a serious relationship.

The signals he's been sending lately have been really confusing. I told him that if he was stressing or need to vent, I'd be there. Up until the day we were suppose to see each other he was very attentive...right up until it was time he was suppose to leave from work. Then complete and utter silence. Nothing!!! I text him and told him that it looked like he wasn't going to show, I was going out to have some fun and did just that! I had a ball...but a little part does which he would have been a part of it. I refused to take his gift back with me and dropped it off too his job. This may be one of the main reasons for his extended silence...But I was so PEED with him for pulling his disappearing act.

What now??? I don't have a clue... :(
LIG
by: Aqua Girl

Honestly I would say. Forget about the gift, Stop ALL contact no matter all long it takes and see if he comes back. But if he does, don't make it easy on him. Don't just go back to him with open arms like he can keep doing this to you. I know I'm not the best on advice, but I guess this is what you have to do with Men in general. They don't want anything easy anyway. If they have to fight for it, then more then likely they will keep it. If he really cares for you, he will fight until the bitter end for you. That's the kind of man we all want anyway, because then we know they are serious. I went through this with my Ex, but I couldn't let my wall down to let him back in so he ended up marrying someone else, but was still in Love (and still is) with me. He just knew I wouldn't budge an inch. That went on for about a year.

Honestly I am done with mine. If he wants to contact me or come back to me that is fine, but I'm not chasing him. I don't chase people. I have too much going on in my life and I have too much respect for myself to chase after a grown a&& man!
AQUA GIRL
by: Life Is Good

Thanks for the response. Running after or fighting over a man has NEVER been my forte. I was all ready not to have any communication with him on my part until I realized the gift for my friend was missing. But thank God I found it about 30 minutes ago! :) When and if he wants to contact me he knows how and where to find me.

If its meant to be, it will be.

LIG