Aquarius man gone forever?

by Life is Good

I have been friends with an Aquarius man for 2 years. Things seem to be going well until recently he kept saying that he wanted me to trust him and he thought by him opening up to me about his past, it was scaring me. We were suppose to meet to spend some time together but I had to cancel. This is when the questions came up. I told him that I wasn't scared and wanted to be there for him. (I had fallen in love with him and was getting very scared that if I told him, he would leave. I think he was sensing this and that started all the questions.)

I couldn't hold it in anymore and then told him that I was in love him. I haven't heard from him since. Have I lost him for good? I have even tried to reschedule our time we were suppose to spend together and he still hasn't responded. I still send him emails/texts to let him know I'm thinking about him. Should I just give up?

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Aquarius man gone forever?
by: Life Is Good

I would really like to hear from Hope, Scorp42, or anyone on this subject...especially an Aquarius man's point of view. I really do miss my friendship with him. :(
Re: Aquarius Man Gone Forever?
by: Hope

I'd really love to hear from some Aquarius men as well on this post.

Life is Good, in one of my earlier posts I talked about how I did what comes naturally for me and told my Aqua I was falling for him. Only I did it in a way that only a Scorp can do - lots of detail and examples. He did not respond for two days and then when he did email back, all he said was that I was "a little scary"

That comment is what started me researchinig the Aquarian male personality and read how uncomfortable that makes them. No, I don't think he is gone forever. You two have a 2 year friendship and he trusted you with private information about himself.

I think he is avoiding you because he doesn't know how to respond. I'd make light of the situation, make a lighthearted joke about not meaning to run him off, and talk about something else for now.

He'll be back once he thinks the heat is off. However, that still leaves that gaping one-sided confession of love between you-with no answer from him. What do your guts tell you about how he feels about you?
Life is good...
by: Scorp42

When I first told my beau that I was in love with him he was thrown back by it. It scared the hell out of him as he thought he was going to loose his freedom. I told him that I didn't choose to feel this way, it just happened. After our talk I didn't hear from him for a week. It took him time to process it all and it is very scary to them. take your time now and don't contact or text him for a while. Give him time to miss you. If he thinks now that you love him you will become possesive he will run. Give him his time to process it and get a hold of his feelings for you. Missing you will let him see what he really feels for you. He's not gone, but give him space. Don't keep telling him you miss him, it only makes him feel bad. He will think he can't give you what you need. It is frustrating as hell I know. Been there done that... I cried, yelled, screamed all to myself for days. When he does contact you or sees you, DO NOT bring it up or tell him how much you missed him or how you feel. Act as if it never happened. trust me he knows how you feel. go on with your relationship the way it was. He will gradually change. They like to be in control and you loving him was not his plan so to speak. He wants it all to progress at his pace. They LOVE thier freedom. You can let him know that regardless of how you feel you can walk away and at no time would you ever think of taking his freedom from him. Keep us posted.
Re: Scorp42
by: Hope

Lol, thanks for that reminder Scorp42. Yes I do remember feeling a little disconcerted when he vaporized into thin air after my premature proclamations of love. And by disconcerted I mean terrified, then later humiliated.
I did a lot of self-talk during that agonizing period remembering that giving my love to someone is a gift, not a punishment. Although the object of our affections is under no obligation to feel the same way, there is no shame in telling someone how you feel.
I now look at it like compromising to obtain the larger goal. My Aqua figured out early on what was needed to get and keep my attention. Then he did it. I am learning about how he functions and his idiosyncrasies. We are very different when it comes to matters of the heart, but I look at it as an opportunity to learn patience.
I be checking back for updates Life is Good.
Thank you Hope and Scorpio42
by: Life Is Good

Yes, I too would love to hear from an Aquarius man. This has been one relationship/friendship that has been above all the rest DIFFERENT. I have continued to email/text him, but I will stop and give him his space. If I hadn't started researching his personality, I would have left him/given up a long time ago. He fits the description of aqua men described on this site as well as others. This one, of course is the best because I can relate to the real life situations. I really do love him and only want what's best for him. I told him that I hope he one day find a woman who can truly love him for him and not what he can provide for them. If its not me, I pray he really does. That's what true love is about. You know the old saying..if you love something let it go. If it comes back...hold on and love it forever. If it doesnt , it wasn't meant to be. Well I'm letting go...and letting God do His thing. My gut is telling me that he is running scared and thinks I am trying to take away his freedom. Even though I explained that to him.
Will keep you posted.
Re: Aquarius man gone forever?
by: Hope

*Pokes head into thread an looks for Life is Good...*
Nothing yet...
by: Life Is Good

Thanks for checking back in Hope. I actually went a whole day without emailing, calling, or texting him. LOL. This self control this a little out of my zone, but I know its for the best. I started journaling when I have a urge to communicate with him. Maybe one day I will bbe able to share it with him. :)
Hang In There LIG
by: Scorp42

If you don't communicate for a couple more days I think you should hear from him. However he may be one of those Aquarians that disappear for a month or so then resurface as if nothing happened. I have a feeling that you will hear from him in a couple days. He will wonder why you have stopped communicating with him. He may think that you have given up on him for not responding, which is good. That is the only thing about Aquarian men that ticks me off! I went through a period where my guy didn't respond to me for 2 days. I was highly angered at that point. I sent him a text after 2 days of no contact from either of us. I told him to let me know if he was alive, tell me to leave him alone but tell me something. I promptly got a phone call wondering what the fuss was about. He hadn't even realized that he hadn't talked to me in 2 days. In those days I had to remind him of his distance. Now he knows it doesn't make me happy and contacts me every day. It was a long time coming though. Hang in there Life is good.
Thanks Scorp42
by: Life Is Good

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It looks like he is the Aqua man that takes a month to catch on. I too have had to ask him if he's still alive and then he'd respond. That was before he felt like he had a reason to run, since I was brave enough to share my feelings. I think he may have communicated before now but I continued to communicate with him. I am looking at this as a bump in the road. I pray that this is the only major hurdle we will have to tackle of this magnitude. We will see...
To send or not to send?
by: Liffe Is Good

Quick question...I had purchased my Aqua man a Father's day gift, should I still send it to him? He still hasn't communicated and I haven't contacted him either.
Father's Day Gift
by: Scorp42

LIG, If it were me I wouldn't. I thought long and hard about what Hope said. Being loved IS a gift. One thing I would do if I were you, only because that dissapearing trate Aquarian men have makes me so mad, is I would send him a text message and express to him this. Okay I get it that you are freaked out by me telling you that I loved you, however being loved is a gift and it isn't something I chose. Sorry that you feel the need to totally dissapear from my life and I wish you the best. Then I would kindly move on. I would find someone or something to keep me busy and him off my mind. I am patient LIG however I am not that patient. I expressed to my Aquarian a while ago that after a couple days of me contacting you and you not contacting me back tells me that you are not interested and it is really rude. I will gladly move on. Uhh... just thinking about being ignored makes me angry all over again. I tell you one thing, I had to do the same thing back to my Aquarian for him to realize what that felt like. Trust me he was not happy about that at all. If I am not there when he needs me it angers him. I wouldn't wait another lonely day, I would find another friend to fill my time. That's just me...
Scorp42- Father's Day Gift
by: Life Is Good

Thank you Scorp42. I just sent him the text. And right now, I am feeling a little weird...Part peace, the other part I can't explain. The gift that I purchased was specially for him so I have decided to send it to him but I will no longer initiate communication with him. I still feel that I am suppose to be patient, call it crazy, but I am moving on. If you saw the email I wrote to him when I told him that I was falling in love with him, I think you would understand the tidal wave that hit him. LOL. But that's life and it's still good!

With a tear in my eye and a pain in my heart...thank you all for the encouragement and advice. I guess its time to close this chapter. Be Blessed!
Chapter Not Yet Closed
by: Scorp42

LIG, trust me the chapter is not closed your Aquarian has just put it on hold. When you least expect to hear from him he will surface as if nothing has happened.
Re: Aquarius Man Gone Forever?
by: Hope

Hi Life is Good. I know how unbearable the waiting can be. Trying to decide if he is hinting at waning interest on his part? You wondering if you should walk away with your dignity intact? You wanting to take the high road and simply ask him what he is doing (or needs right now)? Trying to squelch the anxiety. And finally trying to find a balance between seeming too clingly, yet not wanting to appear disinterested.

I still don't think it is a matter of him not caring, however an absence this long goes beyond common courtesy. When he does resurface, (and at this point I think he is hoping for the easy way out and that you will contact him first) I would let him know about your reasonable expectation that if he needs some time away longer than your normal contact pattern, that he let you know he'll be gone for awhile.

He'd worry about you as well if you bruptly stopped responding to his calls and emails.

Big Hugs to you Life is Good.
Guess Who Came out the Woodworks??!!
by: Life Is Goog

Hope and Scorp42,

You were right. I received a short email from my Aqua Man today. I am not holding my breath for anything special. I had sent him an email earlier that I thought we'd be better off friends...don't know if that made him stop running and make a U-Turn or not. He made a statement that he loved me too and he hoped that made me feel a little better. He also said that if I gave him the chance he'd explain everything to me. For some reason, one part of me is not very enthused about this...

Don't know how to take him saying he loved me too...I'm not feeling that right now! LOL. I am happy to know that he is ok though.

Life is Still Good!
Ok...Starting Over and He's Back
by: Life Is Good

Ok...nervous energy is starting to flow. I heard from my Aqua Man and he has explained in his own words why I hadn't heard from him. He really didn't act like nothing ever happened and in his own way, apologized for not communicating for the last month. He was in his quiet zone and was also had to take some time off work due to an injury. He has been doing some soul searching and hopefully will make some decisions soon. He said that he still wanted me and that hadn't changed. After having a good night's sleep, I am starting to feel a little anxious because I want to see him, but yet I see this as a starting over point in where I think we need to move very slowly because he still has some decisions about his future to make. I have just a few layers of protection around my heart to help me stay focused and not lose control right now...lol. if ever I needed advice from the experienced ones...I do now! LIfe is Good!
In Similar Situation
by: Scorp42

LIG, I don't know if I can give you advice but I can share what I am going through that is similar. My Aqua is going through something very deep and financially taxing. He expressed to me a couple weeks ago that he didn't want me to think that he didn't want to be with me, but he needs time to get himself 'Right' before he could ever make me truly happy. We still communicate via phone calls or text every day, however we only see each other once maybe twice a week. It may seem like a lot to you, but remember we were spending time together ever other day. I can't say that I agree with how they handle emotion or stress but I do understand it. LIG if you want to be with this man then yes take it slow but stand by him through this. It will for sure proove to him that you are the "One" that will stick by him through thick and thin. They are not like up Scorpio's, when things get tough they disappear into their own world. We tackle it head on with a smile on our face. This is yet another of our differences that we have to embrace. Hearing from you helped make me not be so angry at my Aqua for our situation and for that I thank you. The one piece of advice I can give you is to please "Not take it personal." If that man said he loves you too then trust me, HE DOES! They do not use that word freely at all! He won't be saying again anytime soon. Trust me it took him all this time to work up the nerve to say it then. Keep us posted.
Hope - I so love your words of wisdom. You always give me things to say to my Aqua that are crafty and oh so true. I love the way you word things. I'm thinking it but can't find the right words and low and behold there you go with the exact words I want to say. (Scorp42 smiles)
Slow and Steady
by: Life Is Good

Thanks Scorp42. We commmunicated several times today and YES I can say he's back. I am taking it very slow and am trying to think, REALLY think first before making any responses to our conversations/communications. I spoke with a family member of mine today who is an Aquarius and he told me just to continue to do my homework and look at only being his friend. His wife told me to remember that they don't like a lot drama so for me just being there for him is good. I have no expectations right now...just taking it one day at time. I did email him and asked what it was that he needed from me as a friend when he is stressed or whatever that makes him want to retreat to his world. I will see hopefully tomorrow what his response is....

Life is Good
LIG's Reconnection
by: Hope

Glad to hear it, Life is Good. I can't remember what your sun sign is, but can tell you I have felt every emotion from exasperation to exhilaration with my Aqua (Velva) man!
June 2
I am convinced I could not have done this successfully in my younger years. I was far too impatient and my tongue was razor sharp. I am learning (by lack of alternative choice) to go over all possible motives for his behavior before responding. And I'm starting to realize - unless it is an act on his part to deliberately injure or humiliate me, who cares??

It is important for me to express my concerns and desires, but beyond that, his willingness to compromise will emerge as a clear pattern in the long run. So far he is earnestly working on the big things. And so am I!!
Re: Scorp42
by: Hope

June 24, 2010

Thanks for those nice comments, but as you well know, I am definitely the rookie in the world of Aquarius men.

I'm pulling for all of us!
Like Wine...We get better with time...
by: Life is Good

Hi Hope,
I think you are right, I would not have been this patient when I was younger either. LOL Taking it one day at a time with much prayer and trusting God for us all. It has been a blessinng be able to understand his quirks because of the experiences shared here. I think we are going to try to see each other one more time and hopefully I won't have to cancel again. If things are meant to be, it will be.

Scorp42,
I can say that wisdom has nothing to doing with be a rookie. LOL. It's a given. :)

Thank you two again! Would still like a male Aquarius to respond to all that has transpired. Will keep you all posted. Many blessings to you and your Aqua Men!

Life is Good!
LIG and Hope
by: Scorp42

Ladies, thanks so much for the prayers. I extend the same to the both of you! This week has been the hardest yet for me. I have not seen my Aquarian in a week or heard his voice in 3 days. We had been in contact with each other so much before his issues started that I had forgotten what it was like. I think it is harder now than it was in the early days. I don't think I have ever missed a person so much as I do him. I guess I will have to keep myself as busy as possible through this one.
Time Will Tell
by: Life Is Good

Hey Ladies,

I think we will make it! :)

I think I'm going to call us the Three Scorpioettes instead of the Three Musketeerettes!
Much Better Weekend
by: Scorp42

LIG, I like the 3 Scorpioettes! I finally saw my Aquarian this weekend. We had a long talk. I put a lot of things out there that I had never said before. I called him and let him know that we needed to talk and soon. Of cource he told me at first he thought I was 'tripping' in his words. After I said what I had to say he told me I was right and that he had no idea how I felt about his distance among other things. I have a really good female friend that I had no idea is an Aquarius. I told her my situation and she told me that what I was feeling I needed to say to him. Once you back an Aquarian into a corner you will get all the answers you need, the blunt truth! I did exactly that and things are better. He saw a side of me that he didn't know about. This weekend was a make or break us weekend. Thank GOD it didn't break us.
Weekend
by: Life Is Good

Hi Scorp42!

I am so happy for you! I am hoping to see my Aqua Man, but I am going to let it be by his request. I am not trying to rush him with what he has been dealing with lately. I know that if its meant to be... our special time will come! :)

By the way, our relationship has been platonic...nothing more than a pure unadulterated friendship and it's really nice.

Life IS Good
Re: Better Weekend
by: Hope

Hi Scorp42,

I'm glad you were able to talk with him. I try weigh all the information I am learning (researching) about Aquarius men against what I know is important relationship communication.

In my case it's harder via phone and email because I can't see (or "feel") his real reactions. It takes us longer for me to sort through my own Scorpio interpretation of what he is saying, before I'm satisfied that all is resolved.

I'm still getting used to his quirky sense of humor. In person it was easier to decipher when he was joking. I have less success with his one-liner emails and text.
Eye to Eye
by: Life is Good

Hi Hope!

You are right about seeing them face to face. I can't wait until we can just talk and look into each others' eyes and say what's on our hearts and minds.

Happy 4th of July!
Happy 4th!
by: Scorp42

LIG and Hope I know exactly what you mean by needing to be face to face for full communication. I must say that after my "talk" on Saturday my relationship has been very different and for the better. One thing I did learn is that Aquarians sometimes forget, okay often forgets that we do not think like they do. We have to remind them of that every now and then. I revealed that I am not a mind reader, however I do read into actions and behaviors. I shocked him by telling him I knew about a few things he was doing that he thought I had no idea. the look on his face was priceless! He asked how I knew, I told him that I notice everything, I know his behaviors.It made him smile and feel so releaved that he did not have to explain things to me. He said in the past he always had to explain things because women always thought it was one thing and it wasn't. My ex-boyfriend told me I was a freakin detective. I guess in a way we are. We look at things and put things together when others can't. Thank God we have that skill or I would not be able to maintain a relationship like this.
Det. Hope
by: Life is Good

LOL... Isn't it something how we have been blessed with that 6th sense. I am trying to stay really calm right now. Talked with my Aqua man yesterday and he wants to see me. I so want to see him, but don't know if we will have the time we need to really talk like we need to. Being in two different states is a blessing and to our disadvantage also.
I know our time is closely approaching and we will have the time that we need to get everything out in the open. Until then, LIFE IS GOOD!

Inspector LIG signing off to hopefully see some beautiful FIRE WORKS!
Not a Scorp, But really confused!
by: Aqua Girl Confused

Hey Ladies. I'm not a Scorp, I'm actually an Aqua female. I am so freakin confused right now. I met an Aqua man a few months ago. I approached him at first & then he asked me out. I went, but we both seemed shy and didn't say too much. I didn't think he was interested so A few weeks later I contacted him. I had got out of a strange relationship a while back & I made up my mind that I didn't want a relationship right now. (I told the "Ex" how I felt about him & he ran for the hills.) I am scared to tell anyone how i feel now, so Basically If I found a man I was just going to get to know him better and have fun & if it turned into more, then fine. Not several men, Just 1. I have never done this before. I always wait until I'm in a relationship before I take it to that level, if you know what I mean, but I'm tired of getting hurt so I figured I would try something new. We "Hooked" up and had a great time. He contacted me pretty often to hook up, but I was so upset at myself for what I did, I blew him off for a couple weeks. Then I finally caved in. (It's the Aqua in me) lol. I tried to convince myself that I wasn't going to fall for him. I told him in the beginning that I wasn't in a hurry for a relationship & that I needed my space. He seemed to like that idea. We hooked up a few times after that, but we would talk, laugh and joke around for hours before anything happened. After it would happen, he would get up and I would leave. The last few times he has been snuggling with me & falling asleep. Kinda seems like he doesn't want me to leave, but I still do as much as I don't want to. We never talk on the phone, always text each other. I try to ask him how he is in the texts & turn the convo to something other then "extra" but he always takes it to that topic without fail! However, the last time we Hooked up (About 2 weeks ago) it was different. I even caught him staring at me a few times. Then the next day he said he enjoyed the whole night. I text him a few times after that & of course he responded as he always does "Extra". Then for the 1st time, Silence for a whole week! I finally text him after the week was over & he was sweet as pie & never 1 time mentioned "extra". I was shocked & happy. Said he wanted to see me. He ended up texting me to tell me he was too busy that nite, but earlier made it seem like he was available the next nite as well incase it fell thru that nite. So I text him the next day and he was VERY short with his response and said he was busy. I do understand the whole space thing, because I am the same way & I do get the mood swings when I like someone & I'm not sure they like me. I just hope I didn't put him off for telling him in the beginning that I didn't want a relationship. I mean I do and I don't. I want one without losing my freedom and friends.. Aquas go figure.. lol Any advice? I think I'm falling for him & I'm freaking out! This is NOT what I had planned. He is just so Freakin CHARMING and he has a good heart!
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good


Aqua Girl, I have to say that I may not be as much help as Scorp42 and Hope. I, too, have experienced the not talking on the phone much, but a lot of IMing, chats, and emails. There have been times that were suppose to see each other but he was a no show. But he finally did show up and because I was a little busy and he became a little impatient and jealous, he left. I told him how I felt and things were ok until he felt the need to go run off for a month. He seems to be back now, even though he is going through some things. I am trying to give him his space and time to clear his head so he can make some very important decisions.
The only thing different about my relationship from Hope's and Scorp42's is I don't live in the same state and we still haven't had sex. We both know that we want to, but there has been something that has keptt us from doing so. I am thinking that this is a blessing in disguise because it let's gives us the opportunity to really get to know each other first. Even though some Aqua Men show that they want you by having sex, it is really nice to know that I have had the opportunity to get to know him and fall in love with him and his emotions, not just his physical side. If its meant to be, things will work out. I hope Hope and Scorp42 can help. I've learned a lot from them.

Hope and Scorp42, we decided not to see each other while I was on vacation, but we did get an opportunity to talk some about us and what I was concerned when it came to him not communicating and leaving me in the dark from time to time. He apologized and explained some of what he's been going through. The funny thing is...I knew before he told me. Call it the Scorpio's intuition/6th sense. LOL. I am giving him time and space, even though Ireally want to see and talk to him. Trying to be OH SO PATIENT!!! Hope you both had a great 4th of July!!
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Well... I am not so sure I can really help you as you should understand him better than we can being an Aquarian yourself. You both repress how you really feel and freedom is the most important thing to you both. I can tell you about the way Aqua men draw you in and hold you there with kindness and charm. One thing I always preach is patients, patients, patients. If you don't have any then move on. Aqua men will disappear into thin air at any moment. After a year friendship and a year of seeing each other in a close relationship I finally had to put him in a corner so to speak and let him know that the distance and disappearing was no longer acceptable for me. You and your friend are in the early stages. I can tell you that when they act as if they don't like you anymore is when they are almost hooked. I don't know if you Aqua girls do the same thing or not. that is one Aqua trait I don't understand. With Aqua men you have to be blunt and to the point. Without emotion involved tell him you want to see him more and talk to him more. Let the work begin... I really want to know how this one turns out. I don't know of any Aqua, Aqua pairings.
Taste of my own medicine
by: Aqua Girl Confused

Yeah. We are confusing that’s for sure. I know with myself, I don’t like rejection so I’m afraid to express how I feel, But when someone walks away from me or doesn’t show interest, I freak out and have to figure out what’s going on. Most people we meet pretty much like us, so if someone acts like they don’t, we flip. A lot of guys want to be with me, but I get freaked out because they are too clingy at first so I RUN! But then when they ignore me, it hits a nerve because I’m not use to that. I may not even like them in that way at first, but just because they are ignoring me, I have to find out why!
It’s like we have to be the ones in control, then its ok. I think the Aqua men are pretty much the same way so this is going to be a battle for sure. I have never even had an Aqua man as a friend, so I can’t even say I have any experience with them. I guess my best bet will be to NOT call him ever, for a while anyway. I will just let him come to me. The Funny thing is IF he does come to me, if he comes on too strong, then I might run again.
( I doubt that at this point though) I don’t wait around for long though. Kinda like an Out of sight out of mind type person. If I’m making an effort to see you and you blow me off a couple times.. I’m gone. I still care, but you won’t know it.

I’m afraid of being hurt and losing my freedom. A lot of guys get jealous of girls with a lot of guy friends and expect them to ditch them. I do have a lot of guy friends. All of my friends of very important to me and I will never sacrifice the friendship we have just because some guy says so! I don’t have those kind of feelings for my guy friends so I don’t see it as being a threat to anyone.
I guess I need to look deeper within myself and I will be able to figure him out.. lol We do run when we feel closed in, but we also run at first when we like someone. We have to figure out if what we are feeling is real, then we have to figure out if the other person truly likes us and is not crazy. It’s a long process we go through. But once we are in. We are all the way IN, for good! Until someone does something to betray that trust. I guess for the most part I understand where he is coming from, I just don’t have much patience when I want something and the ball isn’t in my court. The men are the same way. Uggghhhhh! This makes me sick. Don’t like tasting my own medicine. lol

I will keep you posted for sure. Thanks for your comments. I hope everything works out for all of you. On a side note, I dated a Scorp Man once. He was AMAZING!! A little too emotional and clingy though. For me anyway… lol
Hope you all had a Great 4th.
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

Hi Aqua Girl, Scorp42, and Hope!

I, too can't wait to see future posts from this Aqua Pairing.

When I read your response Aqua Girl, I have to say that is what was partly going on when my Aqua man was AWOL for a month. The process IS really long, but I love him and know that I have to be patient with him. He is coming around SLOWLY and I communicate to him when he seems to be going back in his shell. I would love to hear from him daily but would settle for a little less for now, especially with our schedules.

Time will tell and I think is on our side. :)
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

I guess for the most part I understand where he is coming from, I just don’t have much patience when I want something and the ball isn’t in my court. The men are the same way. Uggghhhhh! This makes me sick. Don’t like tasting my own medicine. lol


Aquagirl, think how we feel! Not only does it make me sick but because it doesn't make much sense to me it makes me want to run. Today must be a bad day for me but I tell you I am sick of the Aquarian game! I guess I am reaching the point where my patients is wearing thin. I know my Aquarian has a lot of obligations and issues, however getting a fraction of the attention I need is not there. I am starting to look at him in a much different light. Especially after reading your last comment. I must say thank you for saying it. It made a lightbulb go off in my head. I just don't see the "All In" ever happening. He tells me all the time that he doesn't do for other women what he does for me, however sometimes I think they are just words and other times I beleive him. Uhh... I guess I am just tired right now. I may feel entirely different tomorrow. It's as if he has this radar that detects when I am sick of our situation and then he does something that blows my mind! It makes me feel a bit manipulated at times even though I am on a natural high from his actions. I guess the manipulation thing comes in my head because as a Scorpio women that's what I used to do. I was always in charge and could put a spell on a man so to speak that you wouldn't believe! So I understand a taste of your own medicine. Wow, I just vented on this blog. Classic. (Scorp42 laughs)
More confused then ever
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- All I can say is, if he is doing things for you that he doesn't do for anyone else and is actually spending time with you, there has to be something there. We Aqua's don't waste our time on just anyone. I'm not sure how long you have been with him, but I would try to be patient with him if he is someone you truly care about. My BFF is with an Aqua. I watched her go thru the same thing with him. They would only see each other once a week or so but she NEVER called him. He always called her. It was basically a sexual relationship, then they started really becoming friends then after about 9 months when he noticed other guys were hitting on her and she went out on a date, he really started to come around. After all was said and done, he told me that he was glad she gave him his space and never tripped out about his distance. He was kinda seeing someone else before my friend and it gave him time to realize who he really wanted to be with. Now it's been 5 years or so and they are still together and happier then ever. I honestly think my Aqua was/is dating someone else. I seen some evidence of that a few weeks back but never said anything because I don't have the right to. It's been 6 days and I haven't heard anything from him and almost 3 weeks now since I've seen him.
Now here is the worst part. My Ex (Virgo) just popped back up in the picture for the 3rd time in the past year. I hadn't seen him for 4 months and now he is acting strange and contacting me again. Arrrggghhh. Not sure what that is all about. I will keep you posted.

And Yes, we Aquas can sense anything! It scares people some times. And I mean anything. And if we feel like we are losing something or someone that we care about, we freak and have to try and fix it!
Re: AquaGirl
by: Hope

July 11, 2010

Welcome AquaGirl,

I appreciate your perspective as an Aquarian and appreciate your willingness to share your experience. Your Aqua’s behavior sounds similar to other situations I have read, including my own.

I have to admit, I do not understand the motive, but I am gradually accepting that I simply part of the Aquarian personality, and they can’t change it anymore than Scorpios can give up our compulsion for privacy.

Overall, I wouldn’t trade my Aqua for a thing!
Hi Life is Good and Scorp42. Hang in there.
The Count Down
by: Life Is Good

Hello Hope, Scorp42, & Aqua Girl,

I pray that all is well with you. As for me, I am nervous as heck. In 2 weeks, I will be spending a wknd with my Aquaman. I have butterflies & nervous energies flying all over the place. I was invited to a function in the state that he lives & asked him did he want to attend. He stated he only wanted to spend time with me. Well I was happy to hear that, especially after all the drama from last month & us deciding not to see each other while I was on vacation. I am in the process of planning a wknd that is about him & not me. I know my emotions have been on a rolller coaster ride these past few months but to think that we may have the opportunity to get to know one another on another level is almost like a calming effect. To be able to look in his eyes when we talk is just icing on the cake. LOL
We have both agreed that we will see where things go from here & the fact that he's ok w/ me telling him that I loved him, I am praying is a plus. Scorp42, your advice was right on when I sent him the text about my love for him being a gift. He is a lot like this site describes him (not responding @ times, evading some questions, etc.), but he has other characteristics that are so emotionally deep and caring. When he shares his world with me, I just want to melt. One thing I haven't shared with you is I am getting a divorce. It will be final this week. When we 1st started communicating we were both married. We would communicate via email/chat. We have both gone through similiar situations in our marriage & were each other's sounding boards...which later we started concentrating on each other. He said that he was more interested in me long before I showed any in him. I was pleasingly shocked. When I realized I had fallen for him, I was afraid to tell him and he sensed it. Especially since he would use words like You are a GREAT friend, I am a true friend that means the world to me, and the latest was he now realizes that I am an honest and true human being who means the world to him and will always have a special place in his heart. And to top it off with he's not ready for a commitment Right NOW...you could understand why I would be confused. His actions were saying differently than his words. Coming to this sight has made me see and understand his quirkiness. But being who I am and questioning him straight up has also helped. I wonder if my divorce becoming final has anything with his change in attitude?? The one time he told me he loved me, left me a little puzzled in where he really meant it the same way as I did. When I read that they don't use words like that loosely, it gave me hope. I want to take the chance with him.

I would like to thank you Hope and Det Scorpio42 (when going back and reading a previous post I realized I called you Hope..Sorry). If I didn't have your real life experiences and advice, I wouldn't have made it this far. 12 days and counting... wish us all the best! Will connect afterwards...
Flipped the script on me
by: Aqua Girl

Hello everyone.
LIG- You are probably right about the divorce thing. I had something of a similar situation a while ago with a man that said he was getting a divorce. I fell head over heals for him and he ended up staying with her. Then I ran into another one getting a divorce and I couldn't allow myself to get close to him (Or tell him that anyway), until I knew for sure it was final. I even ignored him for a while. Well it ended up being final, but he waited so long to get back with me to tell me he was In Love with me, I had moved on. I never knew he felt that way for me until it was too late. Sad Situation. But if he would have stayed in contact with me during that, then once it was final I would have expressed my feelings for him, but I wasn't about to go over board until I knew for sure he was done with her.
WELL, After I posted on here last night, I went back and read all of your stories again. Something in my gut told me to at least text Aqua Man. I won't go into all the details but by some of the things he was saying, made it seem like he thought all I wanted was sex. Like that was the only reason I was contacting him or something. I told him that I didn't want that at all, I was just checking up on him and I kinda missed him. (It took me A LOT to say that) He said he kinda missed me too. I almost fell out my chair. I was so relieved. We went back and forth for a little while and then Silence! There was some things going on with him that's why I haven't seen him and I completely understand, but this distance is for the birds... lol Now I know how my Ex's felt with me. I guess I understand, but I don't like it!
I hope to see him this week. We will see. Maybe this was all a mis-understanding and a major lack of communication on both our parts. Wish me luck!

Mean-While, Virgo Ex is acting stranger then ever. I'm not sure if he just wants to be my friend or if he is Analyzing me (thats what Virgos do) to get back with me. It's really starting to scare me, but I pretty much let him go the last time he left me. Once I'm gone, I don't go back and I've told him this before. He is VERY sensitive and I don't want to hurt his feelings so I'm pretty much ignoring him, hoping I'm not the one he has his hooks on. The only problem is, the more you ignore them, the more they fall. When he started contacting me a couple weeks ago, I told him about Aqua Man and he didn't seem to take to that very well, but I did tell him. Well I say He should have never left me! OMG I feel like Bella in the Eclipse Twilight movie. lol
I hope everything works out for you ladies as well. This forum kinda makes me feel a little better. Pretty sad when ya gotta have an Aqua Man Support group.. Damn Aquarians. LOL


To; Life Is Good
by: Anonymous

Hi Life is Good,

I sending you my best thoughts for a great visit with your Aqua. I hope the two of you have some much needed conversation and lots of fun as well.

My Aqua is flying out next month for a week so I'm a bundle of nerves as well.

Later he started up again with the issues regarding our age difference and how I would be better off seeking someone younger. Of course I have been analyzing this since he said it - wondering if that means he is giving me the brush off.
Scorp42
by: Hope

Hi Scorp42,

I certainly understand your frustration. I am torn right now as well. Mr. Aqua is coming in August. We have not yet been intimate, but I was considering it on this visit.

My guts tell me his pulling away and talk of me needing to meet someone younger have something to do with his own insecurities.

With anyone else, talking about this stuff and getting to the heart of the matter would be easy. With him, I seem to worry far too much about not damaging his ego or hurting him in any way. Why do I feel as though he is too fragile for normal relationship conversation? We talk so well about everything else!

I hope he does something wonderful to get you encouraged about your relationship again.

Doing My Own Thing
by: Scorp42

I decided a few days ago that I wsn't going to stop my life because my Aquarian wasn't in it. When I decided that and stopped contacting him all together, out of the blue he starts calling me and texting me. I know for sure that there is someone else in his life, we talked about it. He said that there are women that call him and text him. He thinks they may want to be with him. He also told me that it's not like he has been spending time with them, he spends his free time with me. UNACCEPTABLE in my eyes. So because he can't make the decision for himself I decided to make it for him. I still don't contact him, he contacts me. I got text's from him last night. It was just a kind of "check in" if you will. He used to spend every Sunday night with me and not he has been checking in to let me know that he was home and he was alone and fill me in on what he was doing. I can honestly say that at this point him contacting me and filling me in makes me angry. I am better off when he doesn't contact me at all. It gives me time to "get over him" so to speak.

Aquagirl, my Aqua and I have been seeing each other for about a year and we have been friends almost 2 years in November. Too darned long to be at the point we are at. He makes sure that he spends every holiday with me, however in the early days I remember being the girl waiting to see him and not getting his time on the holidays. I am sure he spent them with his last relationship, which I know is over but there are others now. the thing I am afraid of is that if he takes too long to make up his mind it will be too late. I am close to that point now,but God keeps giving me these signs to not give up. I won't see anyone else or date anyone else. I have put my focus on God and helping young adults learn about God. It takes my mind off him and is rewarding at the same time.

My Aqua has put a lot of focus on God as well so we encourage each other that way but in my eyes the relationship is almost over. There is one big problem, he has the keys to my place and has had them for quite some time. I won't ask for them back right now as that would be a clear sign that I have given up. God has given too many CLEAR signs that this is the man he has chosen for me so if we are done, done It will be on him and not me.
For Hope
by: Scorp42

Hope, he isn't too fragile for relationship conversation they just don't want to do it. I had to back my Aquarian into a corner to get the answers I wanted. He was 100% honest when I did that. I must say that for as wonderful as they are they can be twice as much work until they get to the "All In" stage that Aquagirl talks about. I have noticed that Aquarian men often are very soft and sweet with us. However there is a highly intelligent, analytical person behind all that. They sometimes act as if they don't realize what is going on or how we feel. As Aquagirl said, the notice EVERYTHING! They know what we are feeling to a certain point and they play off of our feeling a lot. That is what has me so angry about their behavior. I would rather be left totally alone by him than go through this "process" they have to go through to decide what they really want. I totally know why so many Aquarians are lonely. They have people that adore them and love them deeply, but because of their issues they ruin it and end up alone. I can't say that I feel sorry for the lonely ones. Aqua Men an Women alike, their world is so comlicated.
Re: Doing Your Own Thing
by: Hope

Thanks Scorp42,

Interesting that your Aqua still has other women so closely immeshed in his life. I am learning that Aquas have lots of people in their lives, all of whom fit either in the friend or family category.

When I visited my Aqua in June, he introduced me to so many people, many of whom he introduced as friends, but who I would consider an aquaintance in my own world.

That is one of our biggest differences. I have lots of acquaintances and very few close friends. He considers everyone a friend (owner a his favorite pub, bicycle repair shop guy, the woman where he buys his fresh vegetables, coworkers, etc.) Many of them were women.

I saw no cause for alarm at the time, but I wonder how I would feel about them contacting him frequently by text or phone once we get to the place in our relationship where the two of you are.

Wish I had something reassuring to say.

Thanks for the timely reminder that they are not fragile, but rather acutely aware of how their behavior affects us.
Random
by: Aqua Girl

Ok first let me apologize for not addressing any of you in my writings. As an Aqua I am kinda all over the place so sometimes I forget who I'm talking to. But the message is what counts, right? LOL

One thing my Ex told me was "People want what they can't have" I think that is true especially when it comes to Aquas. Looking back at some of my relationships & the guys I fell Really hard for, I realize that they were the ones that kept their distance in the beginning. They would say they cared, but their actions weren't saying so much. They would show just enough to keep me around, but for the most part they acted like they didn't care. It drove me insane! It didn't make sense. They were saying they cared, but why weren't they showing it all the time. IT made me want to chase them & find out more! IT was a mystery & I LOVE mystery. And maybe in the beginning they didn't care so much (because I know these guys wouldn't be smart enough to play the game), but when I finally got to the point that I was sick of it & realized I was putting too much energy into them & started walking away, they would start coming around & end up falling in love with me, but at that point it was too late for me. I guess with us Aquas, you have to pretty much be a person that can take it or leave it. You have to show us that if we don't act right you have no problems leaving us, but at the same time be there for us when we are acting right. It's a terrible cycle & personally I hate it myself, but this Aqua Man is for sure making me look deeper into myself & making me want him even... OMG! Wait 1 freakin minute! That little Snot! We talked about this on our first date. I was saying how people put a lot into someone in the beginning & then when they don't see any results & start getting distant (he finished my thought) and said " Yeh the other person wonders what's going on & they start chasing you"... I told him I didn't want a relationship & I just wanted to have fun. If it happens, it happens. But I never asked him what he wanted & he never told me. I did all the talking! He must have really started liking me & because I was being distant with him he flipped the script on me to get me to fall for him. That's got to be it! Because if he didn't want me around he wouldn't even talk to me at all on that level. He says sweet nothings to me & makes plans, & then breaks them but feels bad and keeps apologizing. He knows it drives me insane! Then I always pop back up & he knows it. He even flipped the whole sex thing on me. Like I was the one that always wanted it! NO that was him. My Ex did this to me. He told me he didn't want a relationship & it made me fall hard for him, then I thought I would be slick & start being distant with him to make him change his mind... Ooooh he is Evil! lol I don't like losing at my own game! Time to play hard ball now! Sorry for all the rambling, but I hope me telling a little about myself, helps you ladies some how. GOOD LUCK. Stay tuned.


silly aquarians
by: Anonymous

hello everybody first thing is you all have to relax thats how an aquarius man wants you to be because he is probably over the moon crazy about you but he doesnt wear it on his sleeve. above all he wants you to be yourself. remember how you were when he fell in love with you thats how he wants you to stay. that fun exciting interesting sexy lady. women dont realise that they have a tendency to change when they are in love and its usually not good its not good for either one of you. dont worry about how to keep him you already have him so be yourself he loves you. dont worry about his commitment he wouldnt be with you if he didnt want to be. when he distances himself its mostly because he thinks you are getting intence and he thinks you are changing. when he comes back like nothing happened its because you are back to being what he loves about you. just remember you dont have be intence to get what you want just be what you are. because he wants the same thing as you he wants you to be his queen. he is every bit as loyal and when he makes a decision he will stick to it. he wants you to be having fun with him. but he needs to know that you need him and that will make him do what ever he has to for you to feel safe and secure. yes he knows you can do that yourself but he still wants to do it for you.
Re: Random Thoughts
by: Hope

::smiles::

Bless you AquaGirl. I will read this again and again over the next couple of days.

Thank you again. I'm not into playing insipid games when it comes to affairs of the heart, but I do enjoy an artful game of chess with a skilled opponent.

Hugs,

Hope
Re: Silly Aquarians
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your comments and perspective. We're still at the "getting to know one another phase, but this is good information to consider if and when we get to the actual "love and commitment stage".

I think the underlying commonality among women who are dating Aquarian men is that we are feel "something" from our Aqua men. However we can never say with certainty what that "something" is. It's the "hot and cold", "here today gone tomorrow" behavior that is misleading and confusing.

It's a challenge for people like me who need parameters and a "bottom line" in order to plan and function.
Re: Silly Aquarians
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous,

Thank you for your comments and perspective. We're still at the "getting to know one another phase, but this is good information to consider if and when we get to the actual "love and commitment stage".

I think the underlying commonality among women who are dating Aquarian men is that we are feel "something" from our Aqua men. However we can never say with certainty what that "something" is. It's the "hot and cold", "here today gone tomorrow" behavior that is misleading and confusing.

It's a challenge for people like me who need parameters and a "bottom line" in order to plan and function.
Plans may be changed
by: Life Is Good

Hello Everyone! And hello and thank you Anonymous... :)
I have to say I have been an emotional mess this past week. I didn't realize that I would have these emotions coming out of no where the closer I get to my divorce. In two days I will be single and in 8 days I will be spending time with my Aqua man...well that's what I am praying for. Meaning, I realized that my love for my Aquaman goes deeper than it has gone for any man. I told him that I wanted us to spend our time together but w/o sex being involved. I don't want this relationship to be rushed and/or destroyed because of lust. I want to know that when we do make that decision its because we are both ready. I told him that I would still come but didn't want any misunderstandings or my intentions. If he agrees, then he will show up. If not, for him to email and say he wasn't coming. So far no email. To me a true friendship/relationship shouldn't be based on lust but love.
For Life is Good
by: Aqua Girl

Funny you say that... I was thinking the same thing. I was going to try that this week, if I get the chance to anyway... I think I will see him, but who knows! Sure it was fun in the beginning, but that's not all I want. I still don't want to rush into a "Relationship", but I don't just want a Play buddy either. Should be interesting to see his reaction or Non-reaction. lol Hopefully it goes over well. I just don't want to be one of those women that get used only for "extra". That's not who I am.

I don't know all of your situation with the Divorce and such, but you will be ok. It will take time and you will have patches of Emotions, but over time it will get better. Just take it easy and think positive. Good Luck!

Hopefully I will have good news to share this week. We will see.
Advice Well Taken
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl and Anonymous thank you so very much for snapping me back into myself so to speak. If I didn't know better I would say that my Aquarian wrote Anonymous' comment. Last night was a great night for my Aquarian and I. It was as if our relationship moved to the next level. I didn't have to say anything to him, he just knew. He knew I wasn't happy with him and he knew exactly why. We had this unspoken communication that both of us rather enjoyed. He poked fun at me last night which he has never done before. Ahh... What a relief for him to finally start treating me like the true friend that I am. He was a little hesitant to make jokes at my expense at first but that opened the flood gates for my retaliation and before you know it we were laughing at each other histerically. I guess that is what Anonymous ment by getting back to having fun. I can't believe how much getting advice on this blog has really helped me and in turn I help others. Ironically he said to me last night that it will be one year for us in our relationship in 2 weeks. I was floored! There is so much that he forgets but he remembered that? You could have bought me for a quarter at that moment. Well just wanted to update you all on my situation. All is good in my world.

P.S. No phone calls or text's from his other female friends last night. He WAS listening during our last intense talk a couple weeks ago.
Scrop42
by: Aqua Girl

OMG... I swear when I was reading that anonymous comment I thought it was my Aqua Man too... I guess us Aquas just have a magical way about us... lol The only difference was I know I wasn't being too intense with him because I was hardly giving him any emotion at all. I was the one being distant. That's why I think he has been doing a little research himself and trying to trick me into liking him or feeling something. Silly Aquarians. LOL

I'm glad to hear everything went well. I'm hoping to have my night tomorrow. We will see how it goes.



Curious
by: Scorp42

Hope, LIG and Aquagirl. I am interested to know what each of you Aqua's do for a living. The reason I am asking is that all the Aquarian men I know have jobs that they either work alone at their own pace or they are in charge. Just curious to know.
Life is Better
by: Life is Good

Thanks Anonymous for the words of encouragement. I pray all goes well for you and the rest of us.

Scorp42, my Aqua has a job in which he is in charge.

Aquarian Power
by: Scorp42

My Aquarian is in charge as well. It was fun to watch how fast he went up the ladder to the head man in charge. My boss is a VERY powerful man and hold 2 titles as VP and CIO and wouldn't you know it he is an Aquarian as well. That God for this site, it helped me thrive at my job being able to understand my boss so much better. He is fun to be around as well. Other people at my company don't get his quirky humor while I am laughing my head off because I get it. It seems in the last few months all of the people I have been spending time with are either Scorpios of Aquarians. Life has been quite interesting lately.
In Charge baby!
by: Aqua Girl

Yup. Mine is In charge too. And myself.. Well I have my own business and I work for a large company, but I pretty much do what I want. My production is so good and I'm well liked that they don't question me... EVER! One of my co-workers just laughed at me because she says I have my own agenda. I don't go by the dress code, I come in when I want and... Well i won't give it all away, but you get the point.

P.S. I'm writing this while at work.. HEHE

Not So Anonymous
by: Hope

I'm laughing because for an instant I also thought it might be my Aqua responding. Mine even emails in a similar fashion with all lower case with limited punctuation. It’s quite a huge contrast to his professional writing style.

There are other Aquarians who have posted on this site that share a remarkable resemblance to my Aqua's casual writing style, and the way he responds to threads. It keeps me a nervous wreck! We both have Scorpio moons, so neither of us would be thrilled about being the topic of an internet discussion, due to our private natures.

He and I share the same profession. In fact we met, on a related listserv. We're not CEO's, but are both members of the executive management team at our different locations.
Going Aquarian Crazy!
by: Scorp42

I tell you, this Aquarian experience has been like no other I have ever had. Hope, I agree with you that my Aquarian would be a little upset about being talked about in this thread as well. However I think he would be a bit flattered too knowing that I take so much time talking about him to "do the right thing" so to speak. He is aware that I talk on a Scorpio women Aquarius man blog. He drives me NUTS! Anonymous said to "relax." OMG, he has no idea that as a Scorpio women the internal 'craziness' IS who we are. We are suspicious of everyone. I listen to every word and notice every gesture. My problem is I spend way too much time analizing those words and gestures. We Scorpios are very deep emotional creatures. That is one part of me that I must say I love. I can go to the ocean and listen to the waves and dream up and entire movie scene in my head. I am very internally dramatic, so when my Aquarian is holding me close or saying sweet things to me I feel like I am in a romance movie. I can hear music in the background that fits the moment. I sometimes smile and my Aquarian wonders why. I enjoy my life and all that is in it. I can be calm as ever on the outside and internally be flipping off the walls! One thing that helps me when I am on an emotional trip is I write. I have several unfinished novels. It is therapudic for me. Now as a Scorpio ladies I am sure you understand what I am talking about. It would kill me to be like the Aquarian and surpress my emotions all the time. When I am alone let the emotions flow. I can laugh and cry all in a minutes time. So I say to Anonymous that we Scorpio ladies are being who we are. We don't know any other way to be, at least I don't. I was just sitting here at work thinking what the future holds for us 5 or 10 years down the road...
No words can explain how I feel : (
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Scrop42. I love being an Aquarian. We rule! Lol But yes we do hold our feelings in a lot. I think because we are so scared of someone leaving us or hurting us. We tell ourselves (Well I do anyway) in the beginning we are not going to get attached, especially if it looks dangerous, then BAM! Out of the Blue we are so Full of emotions we don’t know how to handle them.

I finally got to see him. I was so sick all day. I was anxious to see him yet I was scared to death he was going to cancel again. On top of all that I have family issues going on and I haven’t been getting much sleep. I was a Wreck. I finally got there and the first 5 minutes was fine, but I think I started saying some off the wall things because of my nerves. Then he started saying some strange things. I know he was tired and we are not happy Aquas when we are tired, but he was giving me dirty looks all night and kinda had an attitude. Making strange comments about me not calling or something to that effect. I don’t even know what that was about. I don’t know if he is done with me at this point or what I really think it is, Is the famous Aqua Mood Swings! That happens when they really like someone and doesn’t know what’s going on.. Trust me. I KNOW.. lol
I was trying to get into the Convo about how I feel, but I was so nervous and I didn’t want to ruin our night. I tried to get him to talk about what he thought about me when we first met, but he flipped and changed the subject. I was trying to ease into it. (We kinda talked about it in the beginning and he had no problem with it then) It’s like I understand the space thing so I give him his space, plus I don’t know him that well and we are not together officially, so I don’t want to come off as a Stalker. I’m SO far from it… I’m not sure how this is going to work. I’m so ready to RUN for the Hills, but I just can’t do it. One minute I say I’m done and the next minute he sends me something so sweet then I’m back at it again. I would text him everyday and tell him how much I miss him if that’s what he wants… GEEZ. What gets me is when I do say something sweet, it takes him a minute to respond, if he even responds at all. That’s what scares me. I think I need to say something soon before I get too attached and really get hurt. I guess it would be better to say something now, then hold it in and find out later.
Oh Aquagirl...
by: Scorp42

I feel for you right now. Obviously he feels something for you or you wouldn't get the dirty looks and the comment of why didn't you call. Perfect example of the "Aquarian Game" I was talking about. Both of you are so busy analizing each other and making sure you don't give the other too much that you may miss out on a really rewarding friendship/relationship. We are all afraid of being hurt. When I finally let down the wall to my heart and let my Aqua in I thought long and hard about it. But in the end I thought he was worth the risk. You will never know if this was meant to be if you don't give in a little. I know it is usually us women that have to give in first because of male pride. But when it is real love it doesn't matter what sign you are or how strong you think you are, you are powerless to the feelings. You can tell yourself all day long and keep the feelings hidden but they are there. It sounds to me like the two of you are truly in an Aquarian battle. And I complain sometimes about my situation. You are in my prayers for sure and I hope it was just being tired. The things we do for love...
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for the kind words. Made me feel better. You are right. I want so bad to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared to death that he will run, but I guess if he does it's better to know now.
I was acting a little strange too with my mood swings. It's the worst feeling ever. I know it's because I said one thing in the beginning and now I'm starting to act different then my words because I do want a little more. So it's very confusing for him. Like I said my Ex said the same thing about not wanting a relationship and then acted like he wanted one sometimes. It freaked me out, but I was so scared to tell him how I felt because I was trying to respect his wishes and not scare him off. I have a feeling Aqua man is feeling the same about me. Although, somewhere in the back of my head makes me feel like he doesn't want me at all and he probably has a girlfriend. I really don't believe the latter, but it still lingers in my head. I'm so sick but I really need to say something because soon he will get sick of feeling that way and walk away.. At least I do anyway. I just don't know how to say what I want to say without being to over whelming. Maybe It's too soon to say something since I just started noticing these mood swings in the past couple weeks.?. And how the heck do I say it? I don't know when or if I will see him again and I obviously can't say it to his face. It's too long for text and I don't have his email... I don't want to seem childish with a letter, but that may be my only option. Ok I'm sick. Gotta take a break.
useless rambling
by: Anonymous aquarius

hello everyone i had a weird feeling i was being lured out of my hole so ill play. scorp42 aquarians have a constant internal conflict going on in our heads so if we didnt suppress our emotions we would get sent to the asylum in a straightjacket, but i have to say that i do in fact know about the deep emotions of scorpios because my moon is in scorpio and my rising sign is scorpio. i just have a way of being blunt and insensitive even when im trying to help. anyway i came on here because i have a certain scorpio friend that im interested in. i think her and i would make a great couple. well have fun everone.
Re: Useless Rambling
by: Hope

Hi Anonymous Aquarius,

Thank you for taking the time to read through these posts and add your comments and reflections. Your ramblings are far more useful than you can imagine!

I am dating an Aquarian man with a Scorpio moon and Scorpio rising. Based on sun signs alone, the Aquarian and Scorpio approach to life is quite different, although we both lean toward humanitarianism, and are idealists.

I stay in a state of confusion around him because as a Scopio woman, with a Scorpio moon and Aquarius Mars, I have an initial reaction to his one-liner bluntness (usually feeling hurt), but then look deeper as I remember he also have Scorpio tendencies and is usually trying to help.

After 10 months of non-physical interaction, I am still not sure about his feelings for me. There is no doubt about the friendship and I am certain he is attracted to me. I know he likes and admires me. Just not sure is he is contemplating a serious relationship with me.

Somedays I am certain of it, and other weeks I feel his distance and get discouraged. Scorps like and need solidity and security from a serious partner (a reliable financial system, commitment, trustworthiness, loyalty and a willingness to work "power through" problems).

We need spontaneity in the other playful parts of life (surprise weekend getaways, trying new experiences together - things that rock our adrenaline to the core and leave us panting and begging for more).

I don't need a partner who tells me he loves me every day or week, but I do need to see and feel it in his actions, smile, gestures, etc. I'm not sure if it is his Scorpio influence that makes him so hard to read, or if that is the nature of the Aqua and he is working extra hard to be unreadable.

I would enjoy hearing more about your Scorpio friend - how you met, what drew you to her, what you find frustrating and endearing about her, etc. It may help me understand my Aqua a litte more. I'd be willing to share from a Scorpio perspective, as I am sure others on here will as well.
To: AquaGirl
by: Anonymous

AquaGirl,

Again, thank you for sharing. I realize that each of us are individuals in our thinking and reactions, but it really does help me to read about alternative perceptions.

You know how we "fixed" signs get stuck in our conclusions.

There is no doubt in my mind that he is attracted to you. The behavior you describe is consistent with what I am experiencing, and what I have read from others on here.

I think we all are wondering about the level of attraction)friends, versus casual lovers, versus something serious. Nice to be able to share my elation and angst with like-minded others.
TO: Anonymous
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for sharing. It's nice to know I'm not the only one having internal conflicts. Starting to think I was a little loopy myself. lol

I know he is attracted to me, just don't know how much. I know it's still early so I'm trying to be patient. I really don't want to jump into anything serious right now anyway. Plus we are both so busy in our own lives it's hard to make time for each other, but some how we figure it out. Now he is starting to get the Goofy, clumsy, airy way. It's so cute. I get like that too. One minute I'm having my crabby mood swings & the next I'm running into walls & tripping while standing still. Sometimes the feeling gets so intense I want to just walk away & call it quits, but then he says or does something to make me smile & forget about the craziness. For a little while anyway. I'm sure I do the same with him. I can almost sense when he is having doubts or feeling a little off & that is usually when I send some silly off the wall text. (Like, the sky is blue, just thought you would like to know). The one thing I don't know about is, I know when I don't call a lot or I'm being kinda distant, he makes some smart comment about it, but my thing is I don't want to over do it. I know we need our space as Aquas & I get freaked out if someone starts coming around like a stalker, but I also like to be remembered sometimes. I pretty much understand his moods I just haven't been able to find a happy medium on the closeness vs distance thing.

Since I'm not a Scorp, I don't think I can help you much with your situation, but if you could enlighten me on how you handle things I would appreciate it. Like, how do you draw a line between just sex, just friends & a relationship?
To: AquaGirl
by: Hope

Hi AquaGirl,

Sorry, the post directly above your last one is from me. I forgot to type my name in at the top before sending.

Again, I appreciate your comments regarding not knowing how much is too much, versus trying not to appear too aloof, or too anxious.

I tend to take his delayed responses or flat out ignoring my contact as, "I'm bothering him.” I do not text during the day, and we have a set time to video chat in the evenings, unless one of us has other commitments.

He has the freedom to text, call, or email whenever he wants and I usually respond within 24 hours.

I agree in that I am not sure where the balance lies with him so it makes spontaneity and the normal ebb and flow of friendly exchanges awkward.
Aquarian on the Run
by: Aqua Girl

Oh Ok. Thanks Hope. Thought that was our new friend. : )

Yeh, I've been thinking of letting it go for a while. I'm sure I'll feel different tomorrow, or even in an hour.. lol But I really need to let this one go. I really don't want to get hurt and if I keep going in the direction that I am, It's going to happen sooner then later. I'm starting to get a strange feeling and that's not a good thing. I'm not giving up completely yet, just going to dive into my Aquarian Cave for a bit until I can "try" to figure this all out or at least feel a little better. Maybe this is what the Aqua dudes go through and that's why they become distant. Who knows. If it's meant to be, it will be. If he wants me, he knows where to find me. If a man wants a woman, he WILL chase after her no matter what and if he really loves her he will keep trying no matter how many times he gets rejected. It's just in their nature. Unless you're a Virgo Man.. lol

I know I am a strong woman and I don't NEED anyone, especially a man to dictate my happiness, it would just be nice to have a Buddy to tag along with me in this journey we call life.



For Anonymous Aquarian
by: Scorp42

Thanks Anonymous for your input. I have to say that as much as it pains me to be so relaxed, that is exactly what I am doing. The reason it has been so hard to relax in my situation is unfortunately as a Scorpio women I always think the worst. When I don't hear from him I cook up these scenarios in my head which then brings on a flood of emotion. I always think about what I am capable of and know he is capable of the same. However in my head I think he is not just capable but doing it. It drives me nuts. Then I find out that what was in my head could not be further from the truth. I know it's silly but true. And the process starts all over again. I wish there was some way to stop that! So when those thoughts pop up in my head I have to redirect my thoughts. It's the redirection that is so much work. Anyway just thought you should know that I read your posts over and over again. Each time I absorb something new. So PLEASE do not stop posting here, we need you! LOL You may want to come up with a screen name for yourself though. Anonymous Aquarian is a lot to type. LOL... Hope, Aquagirl and LIG what's been going on in your worlds?
Just Checking In
by: Life Is Good

Hello Ladies and our Friendly Aqua Male,

Just stopped in to say hello. Its two days before I leave for my QT time with my Aqua man. Things are going well and I am trying to contain my excitement by staying busy. It feels so good to be able to hear from him a little more. I am not taking it for granted because I never know when he will need to return to his shell. lol

I pray all is going well for each of you. I thank God for my Aqua everyday. :)
for what its worth
by: Anonymous aquarius

hello everybody.
hope i would think the non physical interaction is the biggest reason your not sure of how serious he is. 10 months would be a commitment to me. i dont believe he would be in contact with you for 10 months if he wasnt serious. i know its hard for me to try and give any reassurances if im not physically present maybe he feels the same way. physical expression is a big part of my communication, i feel like i need it to be understood, so i have never liked talking on the phone but when i do i like to keep it brief. i also send the least amount of words possible in text messeges.
aqua girl i dont know where i draw a line between just sex, just friends, relationship. i can say that i have to be friends before i would get into a relationship. i can also say that i can have sex with a friend with no emotional attachment.
well here i go rambling on again so i bid you all farewell
This Week
by: Hope

Hi All,

Thank you again for your camaraderie and support. I've been really busy these last weeks and it looks as though that will continue for while.

My Aqua is getting equally busy with work and service committees, etc. Oddly enough, now that we both are super busy, he seems much less distant and more eager to chat. We eat dinner together most nights now (via video chat) to visit, and then shorter chats just before bed.

I love this kind of interaction with him, but I know it won't be long before he changes gear and is back to pulling away for awhile.

I appreciate the explanations and encouragement from the Aqua posters and those with experience dating an Aquarian. It helps me understand the pattern and makes it less worrisome for me.

Best to everyone and a special hug and wish for a great time to Life is Good as you head off to your Aquarian Adventure. Can't wait for the details when you return!

Hey Scorp42, you have to stay in the game and keep blazin' the trail for the rest of us.
Ramblings of My Own!
by: Hope

Hi Anonymoys Aquarian (A.A.),

The more rambling the better! Please continue to comment when you feel the need or urge.

Interesting point about the distance thing with my Aqua. We live 1500 miles apart so the best option we have is phone or video chat to create a connection.

I hear you about his need for physical expression (hand holding, touching, my back or shoulder, sitting close, etc.). He did a lot of that when I went to visit him. Never inappropriate, always respectful, yet nice.

He will be here to visit in mid August. Of course I am excited about that.
Tapping Out
by: Scorp42

Well I have reached the end of my rope. I love that man with all my soul but it is killing me to wait and wait and wait and wait... I don't see him enough or get a fraction of the attention I need. A.A. said that we women tend to change when we fall in love. However I am the same with him now that I have always been. If I change it is to adapt to his change. Anyway a year of giving it my all is long enough. I'm tapping out. I will always be his friend and who knows what the future may hold. Now is just not the time for the two of us to be together. I think I will do it Aquarian style and just not respond or reply to him any longer. When it gets to the point that I am ignored it's time to go. I hope the best for all of you and I am praying for a better ending than mine. I will still post here from time to time as I am sure my Aquarian and I will remain friends, only after I have had my time alone and to myself to get over him and rearrange my life. Bless you all.
I Understand....BUT
by: Life Is Good

Hi Scorp42,

I am so sorry to hear that you are tapping out. :( I pray that he does settle and you two can make it work permanently. I have been having mixed feelings also, but I love him and see so much of life in him. Only time will tell...

Almost finished packing and should be on my way. When A.A. said that we change, I wonder if he means our intensity? I was just in the room making my final decision in what I wanted to wear. I thought about something that would really knock him totally speechless and I realized...we are not committed yet and put it back. I have always been me and as I said in an earlier post, my Aqua man only makes me strive to be a better ME! I want him for a lifetime partner, but it can't be that way until he is ready to commit fully first. I am blessed to have him as a LIFETIME FRIEND!

Well I am off...Keep your head up. As you once told me he's just out for a while. He will be back and I pray for you that if he does...It'll be as a lifetime partner. :)
Oh My- Don't give up!
by: Aqua Girl

What did I get started?? As soon as I give up everyone goes out the door. Come on now. We all have to stay strong if this is what we want. Love is never easy! It's always going to be work no matter what sign you are with... Not that I Love my Aqua Man at this point, I hardly know him, but I do care for him deeply.

I haven't heard anything yet, but I'm not giving up faith.

Just keep in mind this: "Anything worth having... Is worth trying over and over again until you get it right..."
Trying My Hardest
by: Scorp42

Thanks for the support. I changed my mind and decided not to just disappear on him. He contacted me last night, which made me angry because he was being his usual give me a little bit then leave me hanging thing. I woke up this morning and text'd him that we need to talk. I let him know that the distance game is over now. We need to either get it right or forget about it. I'm pissed and I can't pretend that I'm not. He hates when I put serious things in text but I told him that I didn't care. S*&^ or get off the pot kind of thing. We will have our talk tonight when I get off work. We'll see where it goes. I do know and I let him know that I WILL NOT continue on the way it is. I am wasting my time waiting for him to make up his mind. He told me about an hour ago that he wasn't mad at me and that we do need to talk. I'm fed up and when I get to that point it either has to be right or not at all. I know relationships are work, was in a 10 year relationship that I had to walk away from for my health. My Aqua was the first man I let "in" and I sometimes feel it was a mistake. I am too old to be going through this kind of crap. I'm tired of tip toeing around his feelings, hoping not to do or say the wrong thing that will make him run. Enough of him being wanted by as many women as he can and putting me in that category. The ball is in my court now. If he decides to walk away his loss. Yes I would love to spend the rest of my life with this man as he makes me a better women as well. However I make him a better man and if he thinks someone else would do a better job then have at them. I have a lot to offer and if he doesn't want it then so be it. It's too bad he let it get to this point because I have one foot out the door. You can't give me the best of you then stop all together because you get busy. I don't ask for much but the unhappiness is too much for me to bare. Aquagirl you didn't start anything as far as my situatuion is concerned. It's been brewing for quite some time. My Aquarian thinks I am a submissive woman, and I am so far from that. He doesn't know the deep inner me becuause he moves so damn slowly. In the mean time I am getting resentful of the Aquarian games. Sorry for the vent but geez how much can a woman take?
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

How did it go?
My Weekend Talk
by: Scorp42

Well we had our talk. I said everything I needed to say and told him exactly how I felt and what was making me so unhappy. He agreed that he has been way to occupied and busy and had not really taken out the time for me that he should have. He started to be very vauge at first. I let him know that I could not continue on with things the way they are. I let him know that I needed more attention than I was getting and if he had too much on his plate that it wasn't going to work between us. He said that our friendship was very important to him and that he didn't ever want to loose that. I told him that friendship means two different things between us. I explained my version of friendship and what it was to me.

I said that timing was everything and right now wasn't the time for the two of us to be together. He didn't comment on that. However he did say that he would make sure that he would be better at spending time with me and that he would try harder or do better than he has been doing. He did say that he couldn't give me what I needed right now because he just doesn't have the time. After talking for an hour or so he said he had to go as he had a few things to do. He said he would try to get back to see me later if he could. I told him it was no big deal if he couldn't as in my mind I was ready to let it all go. As he was leaving he gave me a hug like usual but this hug was much harder and longer than any he has given me before. He held me so tight as if he didn't want to let go. It made me cry.

Later that night he sent a text that he was in a lot of pain. I took it as an excuse not to come back and text him back good night. Well that wasn't what he meant at all. He said whatever to my good night and that he was on his way. He really was in a lot of pain but still made my night! It was more romantic than it ever was and more affectionate than he had ever been before. Maybe I read it wrong but I got the feeling that he didn't want it to be over or take a break. I nursed him out of his pain, which took 3 hours before he was able to sleep. In the midst of his pain he still romanced me like never before. He has responded to every text since then, even while he was out of town for 24 hours.

All this to say I haven't given up and decided to see where this all goes. I know he listened to every word I said and even repeated back a lot of what I said. I just have to stop reading into his words so much and take a longer, deeper look at his actions. Only time will tell...
It's Over
by: Life is Good

Scorp42,
I am happy for you. As for me, I chose to end my friendship this weekend. That's all I will say for now. I will be checking in from time to time and will continue pray for each of you. Life is STIll Good! :)
Scrop42 and LIG
by: Aqua Girl

Oh My. Well Life is good I wish you the Best. You are very strong for making that Decision. Maybe things will take a turn for the better. Just stay strong and keep it moving Girl...

Scrop42- WOW. I wish you the Best as well. Your post made me cry. I still haven't heared from mine yet, but I may make a move today. It's obvious that he cares for you very much. See what I mean about the Take it or leave it? Sometimes that's just the way you have to be with us Aquas...

Hopefully you both will continue to post here.
Take care...

HOPE- What's going on with you?
Will Always Keep In Touch
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I will continue to post here. It's as if we all have this great connection and I love the support. I have known for quite some time that he cared for me very deeply. I was a real mess in the beginning of our relationship. We were friends for a year before the relationship thing. If he didn't care he would have ran and fast back then. Everything I have asked him to do that makes me happy he does. I guess I never addressed everything until now. Let's see if he continues with his pattern of doing what I have asked him to do. I went through something pretty rough yesterday and he was his wonderful supportive self. I guess I will just have to relax even more and stop looking to what it will be and enjoy what it is for now.

LIG I hope he wakes up soon and realizes what he is missing.
Will Be Keeping in Touch
by: Life Is Good

Hello Ladies and Aqua Men!

Thanks for the encouragement. My aqua man isn't ready for a commitment and doesn't realize that he is sabotaging a possible relationship that he could be finally happy and content because he is loved and respected for who he is and not judged on his shortcomings.

He decided to retreat into his own world at the wrong time and I concluded he's not ready for me to be in life so I decided to make it easy on him and me and remove myself from the equation all together. Did I want to?? No! But did I need to?? Yes. I ended it by saying when he realized what he wanted then he could call.

But to end on a good note: MY WEEKEND ENDED IN A WONDERFUL! Wouldn't have changed it for anything!
Calling All Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Hello Ladies...

Ok I have read back into this post and I see that it started after you had been with your Aqua for a while, but can any of you enlighten me on the first few months with him? Did it start as friends, Relationship? How did you act? How did he act?

Sick and Tired!

Miles of Smiles
by: Hope

Hello to LIG, AG, Scorp42, and Anon Aqua,

Okay, very strange. We are back in Happy Land again after a little relationship meltdown on Saturday night/Sunday morning. He sent me another one of his infamous, “I think am too old for you messages”, followed by a lot of flattery. I of course took it to mean that he was looking for a way out and not really interested in moving beyond our friendship.
I sent back an email letting him gracefully off the hook.

The fingers began flying across the keyboard and my phone ringing. He spent the next 5 hours apologizing and talking about his own insecurities about our age difference and how he was fearful I would get bored. We worked through it all very respectfully and with humor, rather than drama. That was particularly impressive to me.

So his planned visit is back on, and I am grinning from ear to ear again. For now that is.

There is just something about these Aqua-Velva men!

Will respond to other happenings after I finish a project due in the morning.
RE:Calling All Ladies
by: Life Is Good

We started as friends. We could communicate via email/chat and just talk about any and everything. Didn't start flirting with each other until Feb/Mar of this year. He has always retreated when there was something going on that he was stressing or nervous about. I have pretty much stayed the same...I tell him what I am thinking/feeling and don't really hold punches. Our friendship was pretty much drama free up until June when he pulled his longest disappearing act.
Calling All Ladies
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, My Aquarian and I met almost 2 years ago. In my eyes we were just friends with benefits at first. We saw each other and talked to each other every once in a while. I didn't think about him much back then. He had something really bad happen to him while I was in a bad state as well. We got through our bad time together as friends. We really started to look at each other in a different light. I would call him every now and then on weekends only. I moved and asked him to help me. He did and out of the blue asked me why I never called him during the week. I had no answer. Anyway after a week or two I told him that I was no longer interested in the "thing" we had together. I was ready for a relationship and he wasn't. He said we need to talk so we did. He told me that maybe it was time for him to settle down and that he was really attracted to me. In my mind we were on the way to something wonderful. Once that happened he would ignore text and phone calls from me and only come around periodically for short periods of time. I was confused and that is when I started to look up Aquarian behavior. Is said that when he started to act as if he didn't care that he was almost hooked. After about 3 weeks of sure torture for me he started coming over every day or wanted me to come to him every day. We spent the night together every day for 2 weeks. Then I would see him maybe once or twoce a week. He said he was afraid it was too much. He said he wanted us to be friends instead of lovers so we stopped having sex for weeks. He would still ignore some of my contact or take hours to get back with me. After a while of that is when I cornered him and told him enough of that. And that pretty much got us to where we are now. Of course I am leaving a lot of the inbetween out like the most memorable valentines day ever. Aquagirl go to the home page of this site, most of the other subjects are myself, Hope and LIG. It tells a lot of the early day stories. I was anonymous for a while but all the information is there.
Thanks Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for the responses. I can't do this anymore. This is the whole reason I stopped dating all together because I am so tired of the games!
I am better alone! I don't need a man at all but that doesn't mean I can control what I feel. It just happens. He broke plans again! I guess that's his way of saying he doesn't want me around. I don't understand why someone can't just come out and say it! It's not hard to say "I don't like you on that level, leave me alone!" I say it to people all the time.. I have no problem telling someone they are not for me! Better that then play with their freakin head! One day he is nice and sweet and the next time I talk to him he is giving me dirty looks and blows me off! WTF?? I guess it's my own fault. I wasn't even into him after our very first date, but I ended up contacting him a few weeks later to give it another shot. Now Look! I don't even care if we get into a relationship at this point anyway, I don't want that right now myself. I just HATE it when someone continues to break plans or ignores me! It's B.S. I understand things come up like work and important stuff, but DANG.. When it happens this much in a short period of time and you don't even get a Sorry out of it, You start to wonder if he gave a heck in the first place.
Before I met him I was about to call it quits on ALL dating for good because I didn't want to get hurt.. But Noooo! I just couldn't keep my mouth shut! All he has to say is to leave him alone and I will walk away quietly.. I'm not a crazy person as it may not seem that way right now because I'm venting, I just don't have time for BULL. Arrrggghhh He is a bunch of BOLONGA!
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

WELCOME TO THE CLUB!!! LOL...I am not being funny, but if you feel like this, how the HECK do you think we feel?? How about multiply what you feel by 100+!!!
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I know your frustration all too well. Here is why you are going crazy. We Scorpio women have this inner patients that Aquarians just don't have when it comes to matters of the heart and emotions. We are such emotional creatures that we deal with a lot more emotional drama than you can. Just remember that the way you feel right now is probably the same way you made men feel about you. If you get nothing else from this, you should know how not to be when someone is really into you. It doesn't feel good at all. However you Aquarians are not the best at communicating and saying what you feel so both of you are assuming things and not verbalizing anything. I thought it was work for us Scorpios but you have it twice as hard. I think Aquarians give up too early hense why I said in a previous post that I understand why some Aquarians are lonely. In my opinion Aquagirl you need to find a mature Scorpio and let him know that you don't like jealousy or clinginess and give him time to adjust himself. I think it would make you happier in the long run. Just my opinion.
SMH...
by: Life Is Good

Ok Ladies and Aqua Gent,

I am so not so happy and confused right now. I may have left something this weekend while on my mini vacation... Have contacted my Aqua to see if he has it... Why won't he respond?? Will someone please answer that for me? I wouldn't have contacted him if it wasn't important. You can say what you want about they retreating when they are almost hooked or whatever! I am calling this latest act, just down right mean!
Ladies
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- That just hurts. lol But you are right. I actually had a scorpio man once but it didn't work out. I think I need a Gemini.. Oh well. I think my Aqua may have had a woman or just isn't into me. Oh well. I'm over it. I have bigger things to worry about right now. It's really not that serious, I just like him a little. I just hate being stood up and ignored.

I'm not gonna stress about it. If it's meant to be he will come back. Hopefully I'll still be here if he does. Probably not though. Depends how long he waits.

LIG- What in the world did you leave there? He is probably mad and is going to make you wait as long as possible before he responds. He knows it's driving you insane. But I could be wrong.

Hope it works out for all of you. I'm gonna stay on here though cause it's nice to vent about things and see how you are all doing. You're my new Friends.. LOL







Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

LOL... You are probably right. I had something for him and something for another friend of mine. I think I may have pack the gift in his box and was checking with him to see if he received it by mistake. I just don't understand that if he's not feeling me, why can't he just say that. He wouldn't be hurting me by being honest. What's bothering me is his attentiveness being on mark, then when I start to reciprocate he runs for the hills. All I wanted was to spend some QT with him and have some. It wasn't like I was ready to make any long term commitments. I love him with all my heart, but I know that neither of us is ready for a serious relationship.

The signals he's been sending lately have been really confusing. I told him that if he was stressing or need to vent, I'd be there. Up until the day we were suppose to see each other he was very attentive...right up until it was time he was suppose to leave from work. Then complete and utter silence. Nothing!!! I text him and told him that it looked like he wasn't going to show, I was going out to have some fun and did just that! I had a ball...but a little part does which he would have been a part of it. I refused to take his gift back with me and dropped it off too his job. This may be one of the main reasons for his extended silence...But I was so PEED with him for pulling his disappearing act.

What now??? I don't have a clue... :(
Aqua Girl
by: Life Is Good

LOL... You are probably right. I had something for him and something for another friend of mine. I think I may have pack the gift in his box and was checking with him to see if he received it by mistake. I just don't understand that if he's not feeling me, why can't he just say that. He wouldn't be hurting me by being honest. What's bothering me is his attentiveness being on mark, then when I start to reciprocate he runs for the hills. All I wanted was to spend some QT with him and have some. It wasn't like I was ready to make any long term commitments. I love him with all my heart, but I know that neither of us is ready for a serious relationship.

The signals he's been sending lately have been really confusing. I told him that if he was stressing or need to vent, I'd be there. Up until the day we were suppose to see each other he was very attentive...right up until it was time he was suppose to leave from work. Then complete and utter silence. Nothing!!! I text him and told him that it looked like he wasn't going to show, I was going out to have some fun and did just that! I had a ball...but a little part does which he would have been a part of it. I refused to take his gift back with me and dropped it off too his job. This may be one of the main reasons for his extended silence...But I was so PEED with him for pulling his disappearing act.

What now??? I don't have a clue... :(
LIG
by: Aqua Girl

Honestly I would say. Forget about the gift, Stop ALL contact no matter all long it takes and see if he comes back. But if he does, don't make it easy on him. Don't just go back to him with open arms like he can keep doing this to you. I know I'm not the best on advice, but I guess this is what you have to do with Men in general. They don't want anything easy anyway. If they have to fight for it, then more then likely they will keep it. If he really cares for you, he will fight until the bitter end for you. That's the kind of man we all want anyway, because then we know they are serious. I went through this with my Ex, but I couldn't let my wall down to let him back in so he ended up marrying someone else, but was still in Love (and still is) with me. He just knew I wouldn't budge an inch. That went on for about a year.

Honestly I am done with mine. If he wants to contact me or come back to me that is fine, but I'm not chasing him. I don't chase people. I have too much going on in my life and I have too much respect for myself to chase after a grown a&& man!
AQUA GIRL
by: Life Is Good

Thanks for the response. Running after or fighting over a man has NEVER been my forte. I was all ready not to have any communication with him on my part until I realized the gift for my friend was missing. But thank God I found it about 30 minutes ago! :) When and if he wants to contact me he knows how and where to find me.

If its meant to be, it will be.

LIG
Don't I Know It
by: Scorp42

LIG you are oh so right. If it is meant to be it will be. I did a lot of soul searching this weekend and decided to change my situation with my Aquarian. He had been doing everything I wanted, however he said something to me this weekend that made our situation change. I let him know that it would be better to keep our "friendship" platonic because all the other stuff was misleading and hurtful to me. I have not contacted him for a couple days and I don't plan to. I hate to say it but I am done, done. I would love to say that in the future things will be right but my wait is over. It was fun for the most part while it lasted and now it's time for me to concentrate on me and move on. It's all been more work than I can handle right now. I have even been questioning my love for him. I guess I saw what I chose to see and dismissed the rest because he was so good to me. I had to realize that being good to women is what they do. I wasn't special at all. Of course he said that I was and that I was in a different category than others but what does that really mean when you break it all down. Oh well...
foolishly optimistic
by: Anonymous aquarius

it sounds pretty bad for aquarian men right now. we give our love and its just not enough well thats why most of us dont like relationships. well theres always two sides to everything. personally ive always hated giving my all to have it thrown in my face like it wasnt good enough, but that was my viewpoint. im sure it was different for the other. i guess neither one ends up being right, just end up thinking about themselves. hopefully itll be different this time.
Scorp42 and AA
by: Life Is Good

Scorp42, I haven't given up on him...BUT I'm not going to chase him like some sick puppy either. He said that he's not ready for a relationship/commitment right now and probbably for a long time. Then he puts a spin on and says that he could be wrong and fall in love again. Well when your actions continue to say that you don't want to be bothered, then I have nothing else to go on. I do still love him and for now will see if his words and action finally meet and he realizes I am the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life. Keep your head up! Dreams still come true!

AA,
Some of you guys are tooooooo much for us to take. I think if I hadn't just gotten divorce and he wasn't someone who had played a very important part in my decision, I would have called it quits a longgggg time ago with him. I am so trying to be patient but when he keeps making plans and then cancels without even an explanation and or an apology (which is later and doesn't always seem really sincere but something to say just because I'm upset), what is a person to do or think. It is just common courtesy to pick up the phone or text or email, Plans have changed, I can't make it. Duh??!! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out. I have told him time and time again that I am not like the women he has none in his life. Being honest, I mean brutally honest (straight up without a twist, cut throat, brutally honesty) will have me respect you more than anything. Some people want you to tell them what it is they think you want to hear...I just want to know what it is you're thinking from the heart.
Heck, we live miles away from each other. How would having a relationship or communicating with me make him feel that he doesn't have freedom??? It seems like he has this battle going on within himself that maybe he'd like to see if there is something there but when the opportunity arrives he retreats back in his shell because he doesn't have a definite answer for the future, he doesn't want to hurt me, or thinks I may hurt him. Its a little emotionally draining. In my heart I think we could be great together. He once said I was his alter ego and I think we compliment each other in the right areas. In where I am weak, he's strong and visa versa.
I love him and only want what's best for him...PERIOD! Whether that's me, another woman, or him to stay single is his call. I just need to know where I stand and if he can't figure it out, its best I move on and not waste my time. Never have wanted to be where I'm not needed or wanted.
Wow!
by: Scorp42

LIG, I am getting just the opposite of what you are getting. He is saying not now and his actions are "right now" so to speak. Not more than 2 hours after I made my last post I got an unexpected call from my Aquarian. He was wondering what was going on with me and how I was doing. I said I was doing fine and he could hear in my voice I was fine. He then told me that he was coming to see me. Mind you he had just spent the night with me 2 days prior. We decided to keep our relationship platonic, or so we thought. We had a romantic night drinking wine, watching movies and laughing together. The platonic thing went out the window and that was on both our parts.

This morning he said it was his fault and I said it was mine. All that to say I finally get it!!! Yes I love him with all my heart, however I don't feel the same way I did about him and I no longer put all my focus on him. I don't text him or call much at all and have started seeing other people so to speak. Now I get where he is coming from. I have fun with my new friends but when it comes to romance,sex, passion and spiritual closeness that's what I get from my Aquarian. He's not ready for the full commitment and now neither am I but we still keep coming back to each other. I finally feel what he feels and understand.

Wow and it took a whole year for me to get it. When he's ready I will be here and in the mean time our friendship is growing so very strong. He said I am the only one he can really talk to w/o judgement and he needs that. AA I get the "relax" part finally. I feel so liberated today. I haven't given up I just woke up!! He does have a women in his life that contacts him constantly and it drives him nuts. I've noticed the more stalky/clingy she gets the more he wants to spend time with me. I REFUSE to be like that. He may get a text from me every few days if he doesn't beat me to it, which he usually does. I get a phone call from him almost daily. I have noticed that he does love the attention, not sure if it's a self asteem thing or not but he does not get that kind of attention from me and it's drawing him closer. When he comes around I am happy to see him and treat him the same way I treat my other close male friends. It is all unintentional it's just the way I feel now and it works. Now I get why he would vanish for a day or two or say things to push me a way a bit. It made my feelings change for him and I think I am now where he wanted me to be before. Funny how things happen. I wish I could explain in more detail but my post is already too long.
Re: Scorp42 WOW
by: LIG

I am happy for you and wish you the best. :-D

As for me, time will tell. I feel like we haven't been given a chance because we still haven't sat down face to face and really talk and spend time together like everyone else has. Maybe it will happen and maybe it won't. I haven't initiated communications with him for a few days and think that's how I'll keep it.

Other than that, it is what it is...

BUT Life is still Good!
Randomness
by: Aqua Girl

I know I haven't been too intense with my Aqua. I Don't contact him anymore and he doesn't contact me. I'm ok with it. I did what I could. We were never really that close anyway. Still getting to know each other. Seems like he was starting to like me, not sure why he would just run for the hills. Guys are too much work.
relax
by: Anonymous aquarius

scorp42 im happy for you. i was trying to tell you that it would be better for you to be yourself. you dont need to worry about your aquarius you just need to take care of yourself thatll make him love you more. so yeah just relax and have fun it makes it easier and probably move faster

lig you seem too sweet for this guy to be pulling this nonsense he must have been hurt real bad by someone and now hes gonna end up hurting himself if he doesnt snap out of it. i hope it gets better for you

as for myself im done with my foolishly optimstic relationship i knew it was doomed but i thought it could work but now im getting ready for my scorpio friend
i bid you all farewell
Re: Relax by AA
by: Life Is Good

Thank you for the kind words. Hopefully he will snap out of it before its too late. Only time will tell. I pray that all goes well with your Scorpio. :-D
For Anonymous Aquarian
by: Scorp42

AA, just be aware that with your Scorpio mean what you say and say what you mean. If you are going to be your charming self she will start to fall deeply in love with you. Make sure you tell her that you are not ready for any commitment and explain yourself. It will save you and her a lot of grief. Then you should have smooth sailing.
AA...I agree with Scorp42
by: Life Is Good

AA, I have to agree with Scorp 42. Please, PLEASE Always be honest and open with her. If you care for her, and I think you do, be willing to put what you feel in action even when you feel like going the opposite way at times.

My Aqua was hurt very badly and when he will be willing to let it go...I don't know. For now I will just enjoy my life and take things one day at a time.

I wish you the best.
lig and scorp42
by: Anonymous aquarius

thank you ladies i will definatly make sure i cumminicate clearly. im hoping this will be the last time i have to do this because im tired of being disappointed and i sure dont want to disappoint her because her and i always got along great.

may god bless you all
For Anonymous Aquarian
by: Scorp42

AA please keep us posted with your situation with your Scorpio. I am sure there will be instances that you will wonder what in the world is she thinking. We can help you with that. I feel like a little kid, I am so hoping that you and you Scorpio make it. If you two are anything like me and my Aquarian the smiles just won't stop. And to think I had to wait a year and cause myself so much suffering to get to the place of fun and bliss I am at now! I feel like I owe all of you for the support, advice and entertainment. One day we will all have to pick a vacation spot for a weekend and all meet. I feel as if I know you all anyway. Here is to AA and the wonderful ride he is about to take with his Scorpio. I wish my Aquarian had a Scorpio to give him advice in the early days. Oh well... Everything happens for a reason.
To All
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Everyone. I wish you all the Best as well. I'm still trying to hang on. Haven't heard anything yet. Very strange if you ask me. Oh well... : (
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, it may be time for you to give in a little and contact him. Both of you are being very stubborn and someone has to be the one to give in a little. With all this time he may think you have absolutely no interest in him now. If I were you I would go so far as to give him a call. Come on, if you think he is a good guy give him a little chance. Both of you are probably thinking the same thing about each other and both of you will never contact each other.

Hope, we haven't heard from you in a while. What's happening in your world?
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks Girl. I appreciate the response. I seem to be the one that always has to make contact first. It was never that way in the beginning. I'm tired of it. The last time I did, we had made plans and they got broken, again. I know it was for a good reason, but I never made contact after that and still haven't heard anything.

I do like him and we laugh like crazy when we are together, but I am sick of chasing people. When you get blown off more times then you actually see each other and no return calls, it's time to give up. At least that's how I feel.

If he really liked me why the heck wouldn't he contact me? Even if it was just to say hi...? Usually if you don't hear from someone, that means they don't want to be bothered...

Then Again he was getting the mood swings and crazy questions. WTF??

Dang You Scorp42...! LOL FINE! He has one more chance, but that's it! ;-)..

For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

There you go. Aquagirl here is my philosophy. If I want to know if you are interested in me or don't want to be bothered, "I ask." I am blunt and I let them know, listen if you are not interested or don't want to be bothered let me know. I learned that assuming things doesn't get you anywhere. I felt the same way you are feeling in the beginning. It was more of a pride thing with me. I had the attitude that if he didn't make all the effort forget him. There were more fish in the sea and his loss. But internally I knew that I had to bend a little and work at it because this man was different. I refused to settle for the half/@$$ed men that tell you what you want to hear and are under your feet all the time. But when they weren't around they were whores and being a gentleman was something they had no clue about. I had to think do I want to go back to that or probe into this man that was different. I swallowed my pride and contacted him and let him know that he was important to me and I wanted to know more. I know I am rambling but something inside me tells me to let you know that as sick of being the one to contact men makes you, realize that we women think differently than men do. Hang in there and bend a little. Then if he persists with the breaking plans don't just get angry about it, let him know exactly how you feel and that you feel there is no need to talk to each other because he is not being a true friend. Then move on. Aquagirl say what you mean and mean what you say. So important. Hope that helps.
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Yeh you are right. All I can do is try. It's just very frustrating. I do kinda miss him. I guess at this point I have nothing to lose. It's just hard knowing how to say things around these darn Aquas... We take things so much different then other people and we get scared quick! I just don't understand why it has to be this hard.
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, If the tables were turned what would you want him to say to you? That's what I would say to him. Just do what you would want him to do for you. I bet it will work.
Hardest thing I have had to do in a while
by: Aqua Girl

OMG... Ok Scorp42 I took your advice. I told him how I felt! That was a BIG step for me and almost did me in. I still feel like it was a dream. I was sick about it. Now I regret it. He said he really likes me, but he isn't ready for a relationship right now...

And that was it. Nothing else.

I feel like I'm in high school. I never get like this. I'm always the one that runs for the Hills.

Well I guess that's all folks. Probably just his way of letting me down easy. I should have known, because I am always the one that contacts him first. He will respond most of the time, but he hardly makes any effort to contact me.

I guess I'm a little disappointed because I know how great we would be together, but at least I know now. Before I got too head over heels for him and really got hurt. Funny thing is, I didn't even want anything serious until I got to know him better. Oh well. His loss. I wish him the best and pray he is happy doing what he does.
I feel relieved now.

For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Okay Aquagirl, I don't understand why you regret telling him how you felt and you are releaved at the same time. I would rather tell someone how I really feel and take a chance that it may work then spend my life wondering what could have been if I had only spoken up. If I want something I go for it. If I fail oh well, no regrets on my part and on to something else.

I know this has nothing to do with anything we have been taking about but I have found that Gemini's are a great match for me as well. Anyway just had to throw that in.
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Oops. I meant to say I regret not saying it earlier. Guess I forgot to finish my statement.. lol

Yeh. It will be okay. If it's meant to be, it will be. The timing is just alittle off I guess.
Just Stopping Through
by: Life Is Good

Hello Everyone!
Just wanted to stop by and say hello. Things are the same with my Aqua...But its ok. I did email him though because there is a Scorp who has shown some interest in me and he was questioning me about my Aqua. He asked why we still weren't communicating if we were just friends. I had to laugh to myself and said I really don't know. So I emailed my Aqua and told him what was going on and asked him to be honest about what he thought of me and our friendship and what it was that I did to make him go into his shell. I am awaiting his response. Do I think he will?? I would like for him to do so...BUT I am not holding my breath. LOL

Even though I still love him and miss communicating with him, I am finding my way back to me and the person I am/have become over the past 14 years. Now that I am single again, I am learning to not be in marital mind mode but start to enjoy what "ALL THE SINGLE LADIES" do! LOL

I am beginning to enjoy the scenery...

Life is Good........ :-D
Feeling Hurt
by: Scorp42

This weekend has been such a turning point in my so called relationship with my Aquarian. There has been a guy that has been relentless wanting to get to know me and take me out. I talked to my Aquarian about him this weekend. My Aquarian told me to start dating and that it was okay. It hurt me so badly when he said that to me. He said that we would talk more about it today, but I haven't heard from him yet. He sent me a couple text messages last night. However I didn't respond to either of them. I couldn't talk to him last night and i am not sure I can talk to him anytime soon. Ironically I gave my number to the guy that has been relentless wanting to be in my life. After talking to him for an hour last night turns out he is an Aquarius too! Uhh... He is older and is the total opposite of my Aquarian. He has all the gentlemanly qualities and all that stuff but he is as clingy a man as I have ever met. OMG! 16 text's and 4 phone calls last night. 6 text's and 3 phone calls today. I explained my situation last night and how much in love I am with my Aquarian and I am not ready for all of that. I have been hanging out with male friends of mine but not dating, dating. I think I will forget about dating all together and go back to the single life. It's all been way too much for me to handle. I'm exhausted and emotionally drained. I have no more love to give.
Feeling Hurt
by: Life Is Good

Awww Fooooey!
Us Scorpios ALWAYS have love to give! It seems we are all going through this phase...this is my only explanation. Whatever/WHOEVER God has for us, is for us!!! If things are working, its because there is something better. Believe that!

Now go pout, scream, kick, cry....get it all out and then get up brush your self off and then LIVE LIFE LIKE NEVER BEFORE!!! :-D

BECAUSE.....LIFE IS GOOD!
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Yeh... What she said. lol

OMG Another Aquarian... Geez. Mine did all that calling stuff in the beginning too, but it didn't mean anything. That wears off after a while.
Especially when you start to show interest in him.

Anyway, I'm sorry that happened. Just enjoy your life and get out there and see what you see. You never know, this new guy could be the one or the old Aqua may come back. What ever is meant to be, it will be. Just make sure you keep your eyes open... You have given me a lot of great advice and I really do feel better now that I have told him how I felt. At least I know now. I was upset for a little bit, but I'm not about to waste my time on him and miss out on a great opportunity some where else, and you shouldn't either.

Put your F**k'em dress on and get out in the crowd again... LOL

Cheer up Sweetie.. It must just be the "Aqua Man" down time right now, cause they are ALL trippin.
Thanks Ladies
by: Scorp42

Thanks Aquagirl and LIG. Each day I feel a bit better and better. The new Aqua is a nice guy but... I am so not ready to start anything up with anyone at this point. I know my Aqua is going through some really deep things again and is such a lost soul. I'm angry with him but I now understand why he said that. He told me earlier that he can't give me what I need right now, which he can't so I have decided to just lay low and devote my energy into a couple projects I have going on. It just hurts and I will soon get over it. Life is good and it may take me a little bit but I will be okay soon. I will keep you posted as to my situation. My Aquarian still has the keys to my place and has a lot of his things there as well. I will need some closure or gosure soon so we will see.
Ahhh.. and he returns
by: Aqua Girl

Silence is GOLDEN!... lol

How are you ladies (And Aqua Man) doing? What's going on with everyone..?
Crazy Week
by: Scorp42

This week has been so crzy for me. First off the new Aqurian... NO WAY!!!! He scares me. I just gave him my number 5 days ago. This man has already told me that he is ready to settle down and get married and that he will wait till he is gray for me if he has to. He has described the things he likes to do including sexually etc... Eeeek... I haven't so much as shook this guys hand. SEX? Oh hell No!!! LOL.

Anyway my Aquarian has been texting me everyday asking how I am doing. For the last 3 or 4 days he got one word answers from me. Well yesterday he asked what was wrong. I asked isn't it obvious to you? Later in the night I text'd that he broke my heart. He said he is still here for me and always will. I didn't answer so 2 hours later he text'd again that he was there. I replied and asked if he really meant it when he told me to see others. He sent a lengthy reply that yes I deserve someone that will be there for me every day when I get home and someone to take me out every weekend and give me all the affection I needed. Of course I lost it a bit and kind of let him have it and told him GoodBye. I said I wanted my keys and I would give him his things right away. I think it surprized him but I meant it. He told me to calm down and that he never said he didn't love me or that he didn't want our friendship. F----NG FRIENDSHIP! I hate that word. I replied a lot of stuff some of it was about him being locked up in his world and not allowing me to love him etc... Anyway, we both went to sleep after that and I got an early morning text good morning and he will be at my place to see me after we both get off work. I still have mixed feelings about the whole thing and am prepared for the worst still. I will let you know tomorrow what becomes of tonight.
Scorp42 & Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

It's like he is afraid to lose you, but he isn't sure in his own head that he is ready for all of the emotional demands of a relationship.
That's why when you start getting close and more emotional towards him he backs up because it scares him, but then when you back away, he gets closer to you.

I realized today I have an issue and it's gonna take a very special man to deal with me. (Probably another Aqua) In my head what I consider a "relationship" is more like a Best Friend to others. I want the fun, playfulness, affection, kisses, Great Sex, going out and having a great time. The laughs and joking around, But what scares me is giving up my freedom. What I mean by that is, I have a lot of friends and most are guys. I know with most men, they don't like a girl that has a lot of guy friends so they get controlling and want you to make a choice between them or your friends. I don't feel for my guy friends other then a friend so I don't see it as a problem. Not everyone feels that way. I also don't want all the questions about where I have been and why I haven't called and blah blah blah... When I want to be alone, I just do it just because I need a break and I don't want someone stuck up my tail end 24-7 wanting to know what the heck is wrong with me. If something was wrong I would tell you.
I guess when I say I want something more serious, it's a little different then what the average person would think.
I finally heard from my Aqua today and pretty much told him the same thing. I haven't heard back yet on my last response to him, but I know he gets it. I can tell he misses me and I miss him to death... I just hope we can find a happy medium.

i need to relax
by: Anonymous aquarius

hello all
aqua girl i feel the same way when it comes to relationships. its feels like after the attraction and the begining of the relationship are established its like they expect me to change who i am like i were a good starting point for them to finish. well i say i gotta be what i am i dont fit in the box theyre tring to stuff me in. its not totally fair for me to feel that way because as scorp42 said about her aquarian i know i havent been able to let someone love me back, for me it was always what i could do and give. i have been thinking about that lately and im just gonna have to relax and let love in. the waterbearer has to learn he needs water like everyone else.
AA
by: Aqua Girl

Yes you are right. They try to mold you into some little puppet that they have in the back of their head... I hate that. I am me! I'm gonna continue to be me and if you want to ride along that's fine, if not you need to kick rocks. I would rather be alone then be controlled.
I understand changing a little and letting love in and all that, but I shouldn't have to change who I am. I have also been the one that always gives and gives and don't want anything in return, but I'm learning to let that go a little. Just a little. lol

I think that my Aqua man is the same way and he doesn't really know me yet, so he probably thinks I am one of those very people that I can't stand myself.

I'm hoping after today he gets it. I don't want to change and I don't want to change anyone else. It's very scary to let your guard down like that. I know it is. We both just need to relax a little and see what happens. I miss my Aqua so much, but I know we are both on the fence right now..

Hope it works out for you all.. Scorp42- I can't wait to hear what the heck happened tonight...

LIG and Hope- Where the heck are you???
I'm Here
by: Life Is Good

Hey Everyone,
I can't speak for Hope, but I am here. I too, heard from my Aqua man. LOL. Will the pattern for us ever end?? Just when I was getting used to him not being in my life, he pops back up. Only this time, I actually get it. He apologized for actions and actually explained why he has done the things he's done. Well, I actually knew and understood before he told me. Its nice to know that my intuition wasn't off. But as for my feelings...I still love him and want to be there for him and I told him that. BUT he has to realize that I am not like the other women he has had in his life. I am not trying to change him and don't want him to try and change me. I just want a true friendship in which we are their for each other in any situatiion. I told him that I am not ready to share with others about my life what I shared with him. My wall is up and I just plan to enjoy being me, meeting people, and enjoy the scenery. I now will be playing it by ear. No expectations... Life is Good!

I pray all goes well for everyone.
Hey Hey
by: Aqua Girl

Hello All,

All Aquas must run on the same time. Must be something in the stars... lol Seems like they all come around during the same time and they all Poof during the same time. I guess I'm no different. lol

I do have a Sag man that is interested in me. I read up on his sign and he seems very clingy. I talked to him and he is indeed clingy. One of those nice types that wants to do everything under the moon for a lady. lol I guess that's not a bad thing, but I can't handle too much. I like it when a man is a man and does nice things for me, but not over the top. He seems very serious about being with someone, so of course it's freaking me out! I knew this was going to happen. As soon as I take my mind off my Aqua Boo, someone else would pop up and then Aqua would come back into the picture. I wish he would just STAY in the picture. What I love about Aqua man is he gives me the space I need and doesn't stress me, but it's too much space. If he could just pull in closer, just a little closer it would be a nice touch. I don't like too many people so he should feel special that I even changed my mind about getting closer to him. I love spending time with him. He makes me laugh so much. We just chill and there is no stress. I'm not even asking for every single day, but this once a month or 2 stuff is for the birds. He just doesn't know what he is missing! The way we both feel about losing are freedom and space.. We would be perfect together. I know something is there, just wish he could open his eyes.
Oh Well. I care for him and I miss him, but it looks like I need to keep it moving. If I can't get what I want and need, looks like I need to let it go. Just hope he wakes up before that happens.

Glad to hear everything is good with you LIG.
Scorp42- I'm still waiting... lol
Where the Heck is Hope????
Waiting
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl I'm still waiting too. He worked late last night and when he contacted me I was already sleeping. He called me twice today at my lunch time. We didn't really talk about anything. He said he would call me back when things on his job settled down. It's 8pm and I still haven't heard from him yet. Not holding my breath waiting either. I reconnected this week with someone that is very special to me and if things were different in his life right now I don't think my Aquarian would even be an issue. After talking to my long lost friend again I asked what sign he was as I had forgotten. He is a Gemini and the one thing we had was a serious connection. He just gets me. The fun we used to have was incredible and I didn't have to try and figure him out or tell him things that made me unhappy. He knew what made me tick and did it. He (Gemini Man) is trying to work out a way to come see me and it has me soooo excited that My Aquarian is now in the back of my mind. If he comes around then fine and if not oh well... Each day I feel less and less for my Aquarian and more and more like the old me. Even if my Gemini doesn't come see me I am still okay and the hurt from my Aquarian is getting less and less. If Aquarian would just disappear for a couple months that would be enough time for me to totally get my head on straight and things would be good. I guess some of the hurt is from a touch of loneliness, which I need to address. Besides that I think I am good.
Scorp42 & Everyone Else
by: Aqua Girl

Gemini's are fun.

Heard anything yet? Hope all is well. Speaking of HOPE where the heck is she???

Thought I had more to say tonight, but I guess I don't. Going back into the cave for a while.
Finally Had the Talk
by: Scorp42

Okay, after talking to my Aquarian I realized that I let my emotions get the best of me and almost made a huge mistake. I did clearly ask him if he wanted me to start dating someone else. He said to me when he read that he thought 2 things that I had either thought about seeing someone else or that I already had someone in the works. He said he answered my question based on that. He said after talking to me that he realized that it wasn't what I meant at all. He said I probably wanted to ask him if he still wanted me. I agreed with him as I sent the text purely on emotion. He explained that he has 3 really big things going on in his life right now that will change his entire life and he can't give me what I deserve right now. He did say that just because he can't give me what I deserve now doesn't mean he will never be able to. So I guess I am not the only one with patience. He has been extremely patient with me as well. He said he understands that I am an emotional person and he can deal with it. We decided to take it one day at a time. I understand his position and he understands mine. I told him that missing him and my emotion made me unhappy and the rest snowballed from there. It's a bit uncomfortable for us right now but we are good. The man loves me and I couldn't be more sure of that now. I will keep you all posted as to what happens next. I made a confession to him about something I wanted he and I to do that I wasn't clear on before, so let's see if we can get our stuff together and get it right.
I Do See a Pattern...
by: Life Is Good

Hello All!
Scorp42, isn't it funny that just when we decide to call it quits, we find out it was OUR emotions that almost made us mess up?? Well, this is why I say that 1-1 in the face communication is so important. Something I am still waiting for...sadly to say. The pattern we have is the one thought too many that has us to act out and/or think too deeply and it sends a negative/confused message to our Aquas. My Aqua said that when we had our BIG misunderstanding in June. I gets that's where our emotional side and their practical side meets/clashes. And the other pattern I see is that we were both talking about other men to them. You were talking about seeing other men and he had his spin on it, but it made him think about the possibilities of not having you in his life. He then still responds honestly, play on words, I call and let's you know he doesn't want you to go. My Aqua on the other hand, I communicated with him that there were 2 guys interested in me. One made a move that pissed me off that could have effected our relationship if we had spent time together a few weeks ago and I let the guy have it. And the other guy (a Scorp) and I had been having a few nice conversations, but he, meaning my Aqua, became the center of our conversation...therefore, I needed to know what I was doing that made him go into his shell and why we weren't communicating anymore if we were just friends. His explanation this time was clear and concise. I didn't have to guess or interpret what he meant. Both our Aquas; I think, saw there was a chance that another man may infringe on their benefits and had to put up or shut up. Your talk clarified what was going on and things were resolved. My communicating with my Aqua that I wasn't ready to share things that I had only told him with another man made him see that he still had a special place above the rest and he had to be straight up. They both saw we were at the breaking point and they had to do/say something to clearly express that they do care.
Don't get me wrong...I love that fact that my Aqua has been communicating with me more, BUT my wall is still up and I don't see it coming down for him or anyone else for a while. I am learning to contain my emotions/excitement with him because I never know when he is going to run back to his shell. If I was a woman who used profanity or wished illwill on other women who have hurt good men, I would be saying lot right now. Our Aquas are complicated men, but they are wonderful, loving, and giving. They really do need women like us to make them see their worth and feel loved and understood. For now...I plan to be their for my Aqua whether he's in or out his shell and he knows this.

AA and Aqua girl, what is your opinion of this pattern??
Pattern
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- Thanks for sharing. Glad to hear things may be getting better for you... ; ) YEAH

Pattern.. Yes, like I said before. People want what they can't have! Especially us Aquas. This is in general: See You can say all day, I don't care or I won't miss him, I don't need him, Blah blah blah, not see him for a long time, and as long as there is no change in his world, you will be fine with that. But as soon as you hear of him with some girl or he has moved on... Oh No buddy. Not having it! Your stomach starts doing flips and there is a world of emotion that runs through your body. They feel the same way, but 10 times worse. Most all people are that way, but Aquas are worse. We can shut off emotionally and not look back, but as soon as we feel we are losing something that we care for, especially to someone else, we get put into check. If he didn't care, TRUST ME.. You would know it. He wouldn't be there. You would be cut off so quick. And that's the other problem. We can cut people off with a quickness. Even ones we care about. Of course they would have to do something pretty awful to get us to that point, but once we get there, it's done and we are gone. Now later on (Depending how much we really cared in the first place) we may feel bad about it, but because we are so damn stubborn, we will not be the first one to make a move. Most of the time anyway. That's how I am. I have a lot of stubborn pride.. lol

I haven't said anything to my Aqua about another man because I really don't have one at this point and I'm not going to make one up. Yes I have been approached, but I get approached everyday... I'm really not looking for anyone and I wasn't when I found Aqua Boo. He just happened to make me change my mind about where I wanted to spend my time.

Hope that helped.. Sounds more like I was rambling. Us Aquas tend to be all over the place at times.. lol

Pattern
by: Life Is Good

Thanks Aqua Girl!

I do and can understand that...I think. LOL. Just seem like too much wasted energy for me. But if it floats your boat, then do what you gotta do. :-D

I am glad that this website is here because it does help when the level of frustration is rising beyond what I think I can bare. My Aqua Man is a great friend in whom I can laugh and be myself. I wouldn't change him or our friendship for all the money in the world.

Life is good..and its even better with him and all his stubborn and quirky ways in it!

Have a great weekend eneryone!!!
Crazy people in the world
by: Aqua Girl

LIG: Trust me. That's not how we "want" to float our boats.. lol That's just the way we are. It's not fun by all means and it's very emotionally draining, but it's who we are. (Most of us Aquas)

On another note, I have met a few guys in the past couple weeks. They are just coming out of the woodwork and They have all convinced me to stay in my cave... lol I have never in my life met so many men that were So emotional, clingy and sensitive in my life! WTF? They are suppose to be MEN! I said one little thing to someone and he went off on me with a 2 page email about how offended he was and indirectly calling me names and saying that some of the stuff I said was high school... I don't know him so I told him I wasn't comfortable giving him my Facebook page and he flipped.. Are you freakin serious..? That doesn't sound high school to me so I don't know why he would take it that way. That's just being careful. There are a lot of scary people out there these days, I don't want them knowing everything about me until I get to know them and even then they won't know it all...







Spiritual Journey
by: Scorp42

Well all, I am hanging in there. My Aquarian and I have been in contact with each other every day. We have been keeping it light and pleasant. Last night he revealed a bit more about what it is that he is doing. He is on a serious spriritual journey and can not be around me like he would like to. I am a temptation which I totally understand and accept. I am all for anyone getting closer to God!! He came to my rescue this weekend and drove 2 hours to help me. It took him and hour and a half to complete what I needed from him then another 2 hours back home. I was so thankful for what he did and I also got the joy of watching him do it. He said later that night to me via phone as I was thanking him again for what he did that as he said before he will ALWAYS be here for me! He still answers all my text in a timely manner and always answers my calls or call me right back. Surprizing but refreshing. I miss him like crazy because we no longer spend nights together but because of his absence my walk with God has become that much closer as well. All things happen for a reason and I must be thankful.
Pattern and Spiritual Journey
by: Life Is Good

Hey Everyone!

I have just returned from my last official vacation of the summer and I am really feeling rejuvenated. I spent a few days with a few of my Family and friends and communicated with My Aqua Man the whole weekend which you know was the icing on the cake for me. He initiated conversations and that made me feel that he finally was settling down some. I am taking everything at face value now and trying not to read anything into what he does or saids. I know he may still go in his shell and I am starting to make myself comfortable with that. He knows that I am here for him as a friend and confidante and that's how it will be until he wants more OR I am pursued by a more worthy male who is worthy of my undivided attention. Right now I am going to concentrate on my walk with God and work...while having fun and enjoying LIFE!

Now for you Scorp42...I am happy for you and your Aqua Man. Growing closer to God is the BEST thing either of us can do. I know now that my spiritual life had a lot to do with some of the confusion my Aqua and I was having. He wanted what he wanted but was trying to respect me at the same time. I think we are more closer to being on the same page when it comes to us understanding each other's way of life. He knows I am who I am because of the Love I have for God, therefore we both benefit. I pray for him every day and night and don't mind telling him that I do and I also share Godly wisdom that I have learned. He understands that I am not trying preach at him or make him into this MAN OF FAITH before he is ready. I still want him to be him and learn to love God as much or more than I do. I think you having a man of faith will be the answer to your dreams... :-D. Just imagine having an Aquarius who loves the Lord....Umh! Umh! Umh! You ain't seen nothing yet!!!
LOL. Life will be more than you could imagine! Life is Good!
Spiritual Journey
by: Aqua Girl

Awe. That's awesome for both of you. I'm glad things are starting to turn around for you both.

I still haven't had much change with mine. I have been focusing on me and doing my own thing as always. I don't think about him as much because I have been keeping myself busy.

I do miss him so much, but I'm starting to get use to the distance. Even if nothing comes of it, I'm just thankful that I had the time with him that I did. It has taught me A LOT of patience and understanding that's for sure. He is the first one in a while that even made me want to get closer to someone. I guess that's what hurts the most.

Thanks Scorp42 for pushing me and giving me the courage to say what I had to say to him. I was so scared to tell him how I felt, but at least he knows and I do feel much better. I know now if nothing happens between us, it wasn't because I didn't speak up.
All
by: Scorp42

I have done a lot of soul searching this past week and weekend. My Aquarian/Scorpio romance is over for good. I still love him and will be his friend until the day God snatches me off this earth. I came to the conclusion a while ago that love is not supposed to hurt. I have shed more tears for my Aquarian than any other man in my entire life. Yes he is a GREAT man and when he decides that settling down is what he really wants to do then he will make someone a damn good man, just not me. The yearning for him that I had is gone and I can't get it back. I smile because I had the chance to have such a wonderful man so closely in my life. Problem is if I was faced with the decision to be with my Aquarian or my Gemini, I would choose my Gemini every time. He just gets me in every way. I am single and not looking to get involved with anyone anytime soon but God has given me such an inner peace now that there is no way I would ruin it by jumping back on the emotional rollercoaster. I know I have said before several times that I was done, however I am not done with my Aquarian I will treasure him for the rest of my life just not romantically ever again. Man I'm tired, this experience has been one for the record books.

I remember reading a post on another site from a few Scorpio women on dating an Aquarius man. All of the said RUN and fast. I was thinking these women are crazy! Now I know exactly what they meant! LOL What a story I have to tell. Love all you guys and I will still read posts here daily. I feel so damned free now. I can't explain it but for him to not have that hold/spell on me anymore feels so freeing. Don't get me wrong I am thankful for the experience but I am more thankful that it is finally over in my heart! For the first time EVER he asked if he could come over and spend some time with me last night and I said NO. I didn't explain why or elaborate on it, I just said NO. He sent back OK and I went on with my night. I pray for the best for all of you and still support all all of you with whatever comes your way.
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by: Anonymous aquarius

scorp42 this sounds a little cold to me. now that you found your gemini suddenly you realise your aquarian isnt good enough. i hope you were blunt and honest and told him he wasnt good enough for you. because come on if the gemini didnt come along you would still be talking about your aquarius. my guess is the same thing will happen with your gemini youll get tired of him as well and turn it around on him.
Many Blessings Scorp42
by: Life Is Good

All I can say is I wish you all the best Scorp42. I know this Scorp/Aqua combination can be a rollercoater ride and draining, so if you have someone whether he be an Aquarian, Gemini, or who...I just wish you many blessings. Everyone deserves to love and be loved in the manner that desire.

Now, Aqua girl I am like you....Where is Hope??? And how are you doing?

AA, how are things with you and your Scorpio?

Since I am back to work, I am trying not to think of my Aqua too much. Yesterday, I was a little stressed and attempted to contact him in hopes of a little stressfree time, but he was quiet on the scene. I was a little disappointed but I'm OK now. Will just be in MY SHELL for a few days. I'm sure he has plenty of friends who he can call on. LOL. Well, gotta get ready for my day. LIfe is Good!
Scorp42
by: Scorpio 29

Scorpio42,
found this forum last week by chance... and followed your thoughts since... just wanted to say: I understand your last comment one hundred percent. AA doesn´t really know what these men make us go through. Yes we love their honesty, their naivité in many things and yes: they do make wonderful friends but romantically? I´ve been on and off with an Aquarius for 5 1/2 years... and yes I do love this man dearly but I also thought this we that I just can´t do it anymore,,, I know that he loves me but I also know that he´s not really aware of it. It´s always about him and though he calls and sees me regulary whenever he talks of his future - I´m not in it. I gave so many things up for him.. and if I get involved with somebody else.. I guess he´ll suffer like crazy... but even if I would "return" to him.. after two weeks- he wouldn´t be able to deal with it anymore... and disappear.. been there, done that..
I don´t know if I´ll ever love sb as much as I loved him.. but this "relationship" needs so much attenetion and bears so much frustration, lonliness etc..
and I know I canbe a much better friend to him again when I AM HAPPY again..
so to cut a long story short: Scorpio42: I understand you perfectly, your words could be mine.. and even if the Gemini might not be Mr Perfect.. for some time it´s as least Fun, easygoing... and not energy-draining-rollercoaster-riding!
Scorp42
by: Scorpio 29

Scorpio42,
found this forum last week by chance... and followed your thoughts since... just wanted to say: I understand your last comment one hundred percent. AA doesn´t really know what these men make us go through. Yes we love their honesty, their naivité in many things and yes: they do make wonderful friends but romantically? I´ve been on and off with an Aquarius for 5 1/2 years... and yes I do love this man dearly but I also thought this we that I just can´t do it anymore,,, I know that he loves me but I also know that he´s not really aware of it. It´s always about him and though he calls and sees me regulary whenever he talks of his future - I´m not in it. I gave so many things up for him.. and if I get involved with somebody else.. I guess he´ll suffer like crazy... but even if I would "return" to him.. after two weeks- he wouldn´t be able to deal with it anymore... and disappear.. been there, done that..
I don´t know if I´ll ever love sb as much as I loved him.. but this "relationship" needs so much attenetion and bears so much frustration, lonliness etc..
and I know I canbe a much better friend to him again when I AM HAPPY again..
so to cut a long story short: Scorpio42: I understand you perfectly, your words could be mine.. and even if the Gemini might not be Mr Perfect.. for some time it´s as least Fun, easygoing... and not energy-draining-rollercoaster-riding!
Scorp42
by: Scorpio 29

Scorpio42,
found this forum last week by chance... and followed your thoughts since... just wanted to say: I understand your last comment one hundred percent. AA doesn´t really know what these men make us go through. Yes we love their honesty, their naivité in many things and yes: they do make wonderful friends but romantically? I´ve been on and off with an Aquarius for 5 1/2 years... and yes I do love this man dearly but I also thought this we that I just can´t do it anymore,,, I know that he loves me but I also know that he´s not really aware of it. It´s always about him and though he calls and sees me regulary whenever he talks of his future - I´m not in it. I gave so many things up for him.. and if I get involved with somebody else.. I guess he´ll suffer like crazy... but even if I would "return" to him.. after two weeks- he wouldn´t be able to deal with it anymore... and disappear.. been there, done that..
I don´t know if I´ll ever love sb as much as I loved him.. but this "relationship" needs so much attenetion and bears so much frustration, lonliness etc..
and I know I canbe a much better friend to him again when I AM HAPPY again..
so to cut a long story short: Scorpio42: I understand you perfectly, your words could be mine.. and even if the Gemini might not be Mr Perfect.. for some time it´s as least Fun, easygoing... and not energy-draining-rollercoaster-riding!
Scorp42
by: Scorpio 29

Scorpio42,
found this forum last week by chance... and followed your thoughts since... just wanted to say: I understand your last comment one hundred percent. AA doesn´t really know what these men make us go through. Yes we love their honesty, their naivité in many things and yes: they do make wonderful friends but romantically? I´ve been on and off with an Aquarius for 5 1/2 years... and yes I do love this man dearly but I also thought this we that I just can´t do it anymore,,, I know that he loves me but I also know that he´s not really aware of it. It´s always about him and though he calls and sees me regulary whenever he talks of his future - I´m not in it. I gave so many things up for him.. and if I get involved with somebody else.. I guess he´ll suffer like crazy... but even if I would "return" to him.. after two weeks- he wouldn´t be able to deal with it anymore... and disappear.. been there, done that..
I don´t know if I´ll ever love sb as much as I loved him.. but this "relationship" needs so much attenetion and bears so much frustration, lonliness etc..
and I know I canbe a much better friend to him again when I AM HAPPY again..
so to cut a long story short: Scorpio42: I understand you perfectly, your words could be mine.. and even if the Gemini might not be Mr Perfect.. for some time it´s as least Fun, easygoing... and not energy-draining-rollercoaster-riding!
Welcome
by: Life Is Good

Just want to say hello and welcome to our world Scorp 29! Please continue to share with the ones who are still trying to be patient with our Aquas and Scorps! :-D
For Anonymous Aquarian
by: Scorp42

AA, you are totally misunderstanding what I said. Let me recap a few things for you and maybe you will understand a bit better. I had not spoken to my Gemini friend in over 3 years and had not heard from him until long after I decided to let it all go with my Aquarian. If you remember my Aquarian told me a while back that he could not give me what I needed and I needed to start dating and find someone to give me the attention and affection that I needed. He could not give that to me. He said I deserved better. That broke my heart but I had to face reality. It took me a week to come out of my massive depression from that. All the while I had not seen my Aquarian, a text here and there or a phone call here and there. I am not blind nor a fool. He loves me yes but does not, AA I repeat does not want a commitment. We have known each other for 2 years and were in a so called relationship for 1 year. How damned long was I supposed to wait while I got affection and attention rationed out to me as he saw fit. Sometimes he would go a couple weeks before he would see me. I made effort to see him but it's not what he wanted. He would always talk around things instead of being direct and saying what he needed to say. You will never understand AA because you are not a Scorpio. Aquarians want what they want and when they want it and if it can't be the way they want it they run. You know exactly what I am talking about. The relationship was emotionally too much. The only thing I can compare it to was the ups and downs of dealing with a sibling with alcoholizm. When she was sober it was a natural high for me and I just knew in my heart that she was done with alcohol and I got my sister back. Then all of a sudden back to drinking and the emotional toll was far too much. AA I am not knocking Aquarians they just are not for me. I am crying right now as I type this because it still hurts so deeply. One day AA when you have an emotional meltdown about something, and trust me it will happen, think of how it feels to you and you will know what it feels like to me. I am dying inside but I have to do what I have to for my sanity and heart.
For Scorpio 29
by: Scorp42

Thank you so much for understanding where I am coming from. You having been through the rollercoaster ride yourself for 5 1/2 years. I am a patient person but at my age it was all too much. I was less lonely when I was by myself. AA doesn't understand that us Scorpios crave to be with the ones we love and often. I would have walked mikes barefoot in the rain just to be in the same room with my Aquarian and he never understood that. He thought that it was a woman thing to want to be with the one you love and the man needed space. I gave him space and space and space and space and space. How could it have been a man thing when all the other men I know that have had great friendships with me actually wanted to spend time with me and often. When someone makes you happy when youare with them why wouldn't you want to be around them. Being happy is a good thing. Oh well what else can I say. Scorpio 29 it's comforting to know that there is someone else that is going through what I am going through so I am not alone, even though it is horrible. Lord help us and help the Aquarian men to understand just a bit better.
scorp42
by: Anonymous aquarius

scorp42 im sorry if that post was a little blunt. i really wish you the best. i must tell you i dont do long absences in relationships so i dont understand why other aquarians do it but trust me were not all like that. im a scorpio rising and a scorpio moon so i have a lot of scorpio tendancies and emotions. my problems have always been giving everything in a relationship and being let down by a girl that was never happy it seems the more i tried the less she cared. but that was me. i think my scorpio and i will do well. scorp42 ill say a prayer for you because i think your a sweet lady and i think the only happiness you can have for a while is with God. take care scorp42.
Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

Can't we all just get along???? LOL

Glad you made up. I was getting worried. ; )

WHERE THE HECK IS HOPE??????? Hunny where are you??
WE MISS YOU!!
Addend
by: Life Is Good

Aqua Girl, You are too funny! LOL Things must be going well for Hope.I think she has been converted to a FULL BLOWN AQUARIUS!!! LOL..

AA, I wish some of your ways would rub off on my Aqua friend. He's in one day and out the next- just like a revolving door at IHOP at breakfast time. LOL Even though I do understand and can sympathize, it still hurts when you just want to have someone to chat with and they go the opposite way. It seems that the mood has to hit them just to be sympathtic to someone who's always there for them. If I didn't love/care for him...HE would have been history 6 months ago.
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by: Anonymous aquarius

aqua girl i think i came off sounding a little mean. i didnt intend to. i just totaly saw her relationship ending after she said that she found out geminis are a good match for her. it made my suspicious mind go off and that was before she mentioned her gemini friend. im not saying she wasnt right for getting out of her relationship, but i think her relationship ended because of a third party, well isnt that how most people break up it doesnt come down to an astrological issue but a human issue. it sounds like she was test driving the two and she said that would infuriate her but she did it. i do wish her the best and i will pray for her.







AA
by: Aqua Girl

No no.. If you look at the past posts.. Way back.. That's not how it was at all. Gemini's are good for me too though.. lol
Anywho, I know what she is feeling. I'm kinda going through the same thing with my Aqua Boo. We are still in the early stages. I wasn't ready for a relationship in the beginning, then I started feeling something for him and it made me change my mind. I told him how I felt and he said he wasn't ready. All of us girls on here have gone through almost the same things with our Aqua's. It really is rough and very emotionally draining. The only difference with me is, I kinda understand the Aqua way because I am one. Still doesn't make me feel any better. I do the same thing to guys, now I just know how it feels.

The strange part is, I don't want anything more serious with anyone else in general. He is the only one in a LONG time, that has made me feel this way. I haven't heard much from him, but I'm dealing with it. If he isn't ready, he just isn't ready. I can't force it.

I know Scorp42 can tell you better then me about her own situation, but I know she has been through some pretty emotional stages with her Aqua and for way longer then I have. I can understand why she is emotionally drained.
AA and Aquagirl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl thanks for trying to explain the situation to AA. AA I am not mad at you at all. This forum is made to speak our minds. I guess I need to give a little background on my Gemini. There was no need to test drive him as I have loved that man for 4 years but due to circumstances beyond both of our control we had to end it 3 years ago. My Aquarian was the first man since my Gemini that I took down my wall for and let in. In the middle of me and my Aquarian's relationship he was doing everything right. Attentive, loving the whole 9 then things started to happen negatively in his life and instead of inclluding me he turned into a recluse. I got all of the hell that he didn't show anyone else. I had no problem with that becuase that is what you are supposed to do. I was 100% supportive of everything in his life except the masses of women calling and texting his phone.
Continual of my last post
by: Scorp42

I didn't really want to get into details before because my emotion was too raw. The real turning point for me was when my Aquarian was in bed with me and took a call from a women. UNCOOL! I let him know about how I felt about a few days later and of course him being who he is took it as jealousy. It was a matter of respect to me. So unlike him but I took it as a sign that he was trying to tell me something. Anyway inbetween time he was involved with the issues he was having so he came around less and less etc... The last time he was at my house he did it again and took a call from a women who had been texting him back to back for 30 minutes because he wouldn't respond. He didn't say anything when he took the call except that he was busy right then. It infuriated me that he disrespected me yet again. That's when I called him on everything he did that pissed me off. Well of course it was all probably too much for him but I had had enough. I made up my mind then I just needed to build up the strengnth to let him go. During this time he revealed that he couldn't give me what I needed etc... You all know the story. So once I decided to call it quits, return his things and get my keys it was very hurtful but we were nice to each other. He has no idea what was realling going on with me because I felt there was no reason to go into it with him. After about a week and in my darkest hour I got an email out of the blue from my Gemini. We talked about a lot of things including my situation with my Aquarian. He has been very supportive and a true friend to me. It just confirmed what I was already feeling and didn't want to admit. My Aquarian didn't really want to be in a relationship with me anymore and didn't want to tell me to save my feelings. I still resent the fact that he didn't have the balls so to speak to just tell me that. I have always told him to be upfront with me. He told me in several texts last week that he is still here and will always be here for me. WTH does that mean? Whatever! Anyway I am doing quite well. I have my good days and my bad days but all in all I know I did the best thing. I'm tired of love games and want to be with a man that actually wants to be with me. He was 100% right when he said I needed someone else. He did say he knows he can't be replaced but that I had needs he couldn't fill. Now that I have told a little more information I hope more of my story makes a little more sence. One should not be lonley if you have someone in you life. That just doesn't make sence to me and even though he would make me so high I would fly he would also snatch me out of the air and slam me to the ground over and over again.
I Understand...
by: Life Is Good

I am really feeling what you are saying Scorp42. Wow... I wish you all the best with your Gemini, I really do. I know having a relationship is hard work, but it shouldn't be hard labor.

My Aqua is back to his shell self and I am just trying to do me. Are there any Aqua Males out there that can answer these questions????...Why do some of you accept the women who aren't right for you and ignore the ones who are??? Why are you past dwellers??? And what does a woman have to do for you to finally get it that they are there for you no matter what?
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by: Anonymous aquarius

scorp42 i just want to say that i was wrong for saying what i did. i did know that you were emotionally drained i didnt need that explained. i was just stuck on the idea that there was a lot you didnt say and i have a suspicious mind and i always try to figure out the things that arent said so as i was aware that your aquarius was hurting you and i dont think it was right, i just thought there was something going on with you that wasnt honest either and that was what i was get at. but now that you said more it makes more sence to me.

i will tell you scorp42 i have had an emotional meltdown before and i cried buckets full. it was the day i realised i was an alcoholic. that was a horrible brutal feeling i was devistated the pain i felt was horrible. i lived quite a few years feeling like i got out of heartbreaking relationship everyday. i was in a constant state of hurt and pain, and i know it hurt people around me, it was crushing to have to account for that but by the grace of god i am sober now. i only said this because your story about an alcoholic sibling, and i gotta tell you its not easy to find a person willing to be with me because i gotta tell them im an alcoholic but im sober and i go to aa meetings, but its what i gotta do. well God bless all
For AA
by: Scorp42

Oh AA, thank you so much for being so open. This may sound horrible but it is the 100% truth. Every Aquarian that I know and I am close to are alcoholics. The females and the males. That includes my Aquarian as well. It makes me wonder if alcohol eases the pain of holding in all of the feelings kept so deeply inside. My heart goes out to anyone that has that life long battle. I was going down that slippery slope myself in my 20's. It's so easy to get caught up and before you know it it's too late. I'm kind of speechless because it's a pattern that disturbs me a little. Not that I don't understand but I wonder what it is in the Aquarian that finds solitude in alcohol. After spending 2 years with my Aquarian I know that his mind is ALWAYS going and it must be really hard to turn that off.

My Aquarian sent me a text today asking how I was doing. I said I was good and asked him how he was doing and he said good as well, and that was it. Of course I cried for an hour after then. It's still so fresh and fragile with me. I have been keeping myself busy and talking to my Gemini via phone everyday for support. My Gemini does not live near me which is a good thing right now. I don't want to make any quick unthought out decisions because I am vernarable. Jesus keeps me strong and each day the sun gets a bit brighter and brighter. Thank you to all of you wishing me the best. As long as you have God in your life it can't stay dark forever.
Scorp42 and AA
by: Life Is Good

Hello Everyone!

Ok...I think I am ok now that I'm not so emotional after reading what AA and Scorp42 has shared. I just wanted to wish everyone well, especially you two. I was married for 9 years to an alcoholic and know the struggles and pain all too well. I commend anyone who has fought and been victorious over that demon. AA, I will keep you in my prayers. And for you Scorp42, you are going to be alright! I chose the screen name Life Is Good because God is Good and without Him, I don't know what would or could have become of me. Be blessed everyone!
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Well it's not just alcohol. Could be cigarettes or weed too. Mine is cigs. I use to drink, but it never got that bad. I smoke like a fish when I'm stressed out or thinking too much. (which is almost all the time) I had a very bad time with stress a couple years ago. One of my ex's stressed me out so bad, I was sick for about 4 months. I had chest pains, my arms and legs felt numb and tingly. My throat felt like is was closing up. I was sick to my stomach and I ended up getting a small ulcer. I was a hot mess. None of the doctors knew what the heck was wrong with me so they just kept feeding me pills for a pinched nerve. That's how I got the Ulcer. I ended up figuring out what was wrong with me on my own and was able to snap out of it. It still comes back sometimes when I really get to thinking about things, but I can catch it in time.

I never get a good night sleep because my brain won't shut off. Sometimes I get a couple hours of sleep and some nights I just lay there all night. Depends what happened that day. And that's just on a daily basis so you can imagine when something like a love interest or something major is not going the way it should.

I don't think it's really about holding things in. I think it's just the way our brain works. I have learned the hard way to talk about how I feel and whats going on with me. That doesn't seem to help.

I know it sounds really crazy, but all the Aquas I know, go through the same thing. No one would ever know it on the outside though. We stay pretty calm to others as much as possible, but on the inside we are so full of emotion it's very draining.
Draining
by: Life is Good

Hey Aqua Girl,
Draining is the vocabulary word of the month. LOL. My Aqua friend and I have been discussing that word and how that's what we've been feeling. When is it going to stop??? I actually feel when he's stressed and that has been draining me, even though we haven't communicated.

There are two things that make this friendship testy at times. One, he's a man and what he communicates whether verbal or nonverbal, has and can be misunderstood because all men don't communicate like women and 2. He has that Aquarian nature of going into his shell when he's stressing. I want to be there for him but I get a little frustrated because I don't want to be wasting my time. When I support him, I want the same in return and don't always feel that he's capable of being supportive all the time. I have wanted to end this friendship so many times because of his complex nature but after everything is all said and done..I feel in my gut that I am suppose to be there for him because I do care and understand. Right now I am trying to retrain my heart and brain not to react when I hear and don't hear from him. I guess you can say, I am trying to understand by attempting to live in your world of Aquarius. Don't know how successful I'll be. LOL. Makes your head spin.
Draining
by: Life is Good

Hey Aqua Girl,
Draining is the vocabulary word of the month. LOL. My Aqua friend and I have been discussing that word and how that's what we've been feeling. When is it going to stop??? I actually feel when he's stressed and that has been draining me, even though we haven't communicated.

There are two things that make this friendship testy at times. One, he's a man and what he communicates whether verbal or nonverbal, has and can be misunderstood because all men don't communicate like women and 2. He has that Aquarian nature of going into his shell when he's stressing. I want to be there for him but I get a little frustrated because I don't want to be wasting my time. When I support him, I want the same in return and don't always feel that he's capable of being supportive all the time. I have wanted to end this friendship so many times because of his complex nature but after everything is all said and done..I feel in my gut that I am suppose to be there for him because I do care and understand. Right now I am trying to retrain my heart and brain not to react when I hear and don't hear from him. I guess you can say, I am trying to understand by attempting to live in your world of Aquarius. Don't know how successful I'll be. LOL. Makes your head spin.
Rambling
by: Aqua Girl

Hello Everyone.

Well LIG: It's hard I know. I believe in making sacrifices and all for the ones you love, but you shouldn't have to change who you are. I have always believed in doing what makes you happy, so if that makes you happy then go for it, just don't lose sight of who you are and what you stand for.

Sometimes we "think" we are "in love" with someone or they are the "best" thing that has ever happened to us. Most of us are just "in love" with the "idea" of Love. Not necessarily the person. I have learned the hard way that it takes space and time away from the person you think you love, to see if that love is really there. Because in the beginning, we are always blind... So many people try to change a person into what they want or how they want to be treated. They always complain about what the other person isn't doing or how they are acting and get upset when they don't "change" to how they want them to be. Then when they give up on trying to change the other person, then they try to change themselves to make it work. It shouldn't be that way at all. You should love that person for who they are and who you are when you are with them. If you can't, then you may need to re-think the situation, but keep in mind that there will never be 2 people that get along 100% of the time. Think about your BFF. Everyone has one right?? I love my BFF to death, but at the same time I can't stand her.. lol But I have never tried to change her.. I never get mad when she doesn't call me everyday or says she is gonna call and doesn't. I don't get mad at the fact she NEVER comes to my house and I always go to hers.. We have been BFF's for 20 years now and had maybe 3 BIG blow out fights in those 20 years.. We don't always agree. Actually we just got into it the other day, but at the end of the day we can laugh it off and go back to how it was before the fight and not end up hating each other.

I know I'm rambling. Had a bad day. Hope some of this made some sense.

For Aquagirl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl you are so right! I have spent this week really searching my soul to see if it was really love that I feel for my Aquarian. I have come to the conclusion that yes it was real love for me. However I have also realized that we were not good for each other as a couple. He was fun, the sex was great but after really looking at it I only got what I really needed in small doses and that was not enough. I consider him to be a great friend and that's all he ever truly was. I still feel he is a great man and with the right women they will have bliss. After talking to my Gemini these past two weeks and soul searching, the two of us have a passion for each other that surpasses anything I have ever felt before. We had 2 years together and what we have now is so much stronger than anything I ever had with my Aquarian.

My Gemini and I have planned to see each other soon and I can say that we are truly best friends. He gets me and I get him. It is the way I wish it would have been with my Aquarian, but like you said it would have been changing who he is for him to be what I wanted and needed. I saw myself changing to fit what he wanted and lost a bit of myself in the mean time. I have myself back now and have gained the streghnth to even be able to see my Aquarian and have a good laugh. Wow I never thought I would see the day that I would say that. LIG, it's okay to think like an Aquarian to understand them better but do not change who you are. When you get your Ah Ha moment you will know what I mean. I wish you all the best! I will keep you posted on me and my Gemini, it's getting crazy!
Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

It's amazing to me how someone can do things to you emotionally and make you feel crazy, but some how turn the whole situation around, like you were the one that did it to them, and you actually get tricked into feeling bad about it... Only an Aquarius... Gotta love em.. LOL
It's a talent of ours I suppose.

Hope all is well with everyone!!

HOPE WHERE ARE YOU???? Even Aquarians come back once in a while.. So you can't be converted yet.. LOL

Re: Everyone
by: Hope

"HOPE WHERE ARE YOU???? Even Aquarians come back once in a while.. So you can't be converted yet.. LOL"

I'm right here AquaGirl. Love your comment about being converted!

I’ve been holed up with the Aqua Velva man for two weeks and now am completely ruined for any other romance.

Yes, they can say things so astute and/or endearing that you forgot all else but that boyish look of love in their eyes. Sudden nothing matters except wantingto completely engulf them in love. Of course, they will never let that happen beyond the immediate moment. They are truly the best of love, and the worst of love!

Can you tell I am completely sprung?????
BTW, welcome Dazed to the boards as our newest partner in crime!
HOPE
by: Aqua Girl

You're alive!!! lol

We were all worried about you. Well I am glad to hear everything is ok... SOooo. What's the story?? You actually spent 2 weeks with him??? OMG. How did that happen? Did you tie him to the Bed? HAHA (They do like that ya know)
I'm lucky to get 2 words in one day.

Hope...you're so funny! (8.25.10)
by: Dazed

Hello everyone...
I've been following these threads for a while now & it's so interesting what you guys are going through because I'm going through the same thing right now!

Scorp42 - Girl...I'm honestly glad you left your aquarius & I hate to say it because it really seemed like you were in love with him. I don't think it's too much to ask to be included in his life (being you were together for two years), especially when he's "dealing with things." and really that's all you were asking for. Since these posts don't have dates on them...I could totally be responding to something that's old news. However, I'm glad you have your Gemini, and most importantly yourself.

Aquagirl - What ever happened between you and your aquarius?

A.A. - How's the relationship with your scorp going?
My Story
by: Dazed

Just in case you guys were wondering...here's my story that I posted to Hope.

So I'm dating an aquarius and we've known each other for a while (1 yr) before actually finding the time for each other. However, I've noticed that before we actually started "talking," he was always available and always was in contact with me. Now that we've gotten closer I see he has pulled the distancing act. We're going on over 2 weeks without seeing each other, and last Sat (8.4.10), we had plans but he said he wasn't sure if he could make it because he was still wrapped up in what he was already doing (coaching). I thought he was bs'ing me (due to not seeing or hearing from him in 2 weeks already), so I told him directly that if he's not interested, he's not interested and there's no point in wasting time, but that I still adored him as a friend, so there's no hard feelings. He told me it wasn't that, but he just has committments rights now. I'm confused because I don't know if he's being genuine or if he's just trying to not hurt my feelings (as I heard they don't like to do). He barely contacts me or makes an effort to see me. Usually these are definite red flags for a guy who's not into you. I understand one's need for freedom, as I have sag rising and a whole lot of it in my chart...but I'm just losing patience at this point. I'm wondering how long I should give him before throwing in the towel. Any advice?

Note: Due to reading this thread...during his distancing I didn't reach out to him but once a week to throw out a hello text. I'm definitely not a clingy person.
Re: AquaGirl
by: Hope

Hi and thanks AquaGirl. My Aqua and I are involved in an online relationship. We live over 3,000 miles apart so the first 8 months were solely online, phone, and video chat. He started making online dinner dates that were very fun. We would sit at home with our laptops and eat dinner together. Too cute!

In June, I took vacation time and we finally met face to face. We had a great visit although I stayed at a hotel for my own safety and because I was not ready to be intimate.

As pre-planned, he took his vacation this August and planned to stay for a week. I was getting worried because he started seeming distant and less responsive in July. I was wondering if I should cancel and asked him about it. We had a very raw conversation about his fears and the way he addresses them in a relationship. I could tell he was trying harder, which made me far more understanding and empathetic.

He arrived and I cancelled his hotel reservation. I was clear I wanted to invite him to stay in my home. After an incredible week, he asked if he could stay another. I took another week off and enjoyed showing him around and all the laughter, and great conversation. Aqua men possess an innate sensuality without even trying.

I understand what so many other women have described as an emotional roller coaster and now understand. This is the hardest relationship I have had to get off the ground, but none compare to the joys and highs I experience with him. Nor have I ever longed as deeply for someone.

He left Sunday night and right now, all I can think of is getting on a plane. Help me!
Catching Up
by: Hope

So much has happened with all of you. Scorp42 I am reading through all of your postS trying to figure out how you got to the Gemini.

Life is Good, it seems as though you are genuinely trying to give your Aqua the benefit of the doubt, but he still has his walls up.

AquaGirl, I like hearing about your journey because coming from an Aqua woman who is with an Aqua man, I realize I am not just imagining things or being "too sensitive". They do indeed withdraw and we feel reluctant to mention it because, afterall, we aren't really in a relationship yet. What right do we have to ask for a status report or for more together time.

Pretty good game there, Aqua men.
Dazed and Hope
by: Scorp42

Welcome back from Aquarian bliss Hope! Okay a little more background on my Gemini. I was in a FANTASTIC relationship with my Gemini for 2 years. He was my best friend, I got all the attention, affection and anything else I could want from him. 3 years ago he had to move far away. Nothing either of us could do about it and we were not at the stage of us moving anywhere together. So after my sad, sad... Did I say sad? breakup with my Aquarian, in my darkest hour something inside told me to check my email. I got an email from my Gemini after not talking to him for 3 years. I responded to his email and received a phone call from him. Since that call I have talked to my Gemini everyday for 2 to 3 hours since then. I never lost my love for him and my Aquarian was the first man I let in my heart since my Gemini. All that to say yay me and my Gemini are a couple again and doing the right way this time. He said he was a fool to not take me with him and is now moving to be closer to me in the next week!

Dazed, I still cry every now and then missing my Aquarian but I know that I would have never received the affection and attention that I really need from him. I sent him a text yesterday (08-25-10) and told him that when he decides to settle down and pick the "right" woman that she will have one hell of a man! I told him I have moved on but despite me moving on I will always be here for his as well because true friends are forever. He sent me back a text thanking me and called me sweetheart and said that helps. He said he always thinks of me. I had no idea that me ending it was so hard on him. He has been texting me for the past week just saying hi or good morning. Yes I knew he missed me but geez. I'm not sure if he thinks he made a mistake by telling me to go ahead and start dating or not, but I do know that he was surprized that I did not contact him at all for a few weeks. Yesterday was the first time I contacted him since I needed his help a few weeks ago. I still love him and always will but he is not my soul mate. Man that hurts to say that out loud. LOL I'm GREAT these days and will keep you posted on me and my Gemini.
Looks good
by: Dazed

Hope...

I'm glad to hear that things between you and your aqua went well, especially being that he wanted to stay an extra week and spend time with you...too cute!

Scorp42...

I know what you mean about the emotions of letting go...it's very hard & the intensity of emotions don't help either. I think you're doing the right thing because it wouldn't be right for you to settle. I'm still having a hard time with his reasoning for not being able to provide you with what you need...and him being ok with you dating other people is something in itself. On another note, I'm glad things with you and your Gemini are working out. I actually read an article of a study that was done & it showed that scorp and gemini have the lowest divorce rate amoung signs scorps get involved with...kinda interesting.
All
by: Aqua Girl

Welcome Dazed.
Glad to hear from you hope. I knew part of your situation, but the latest sounds even better. That’s awesome.
I wish you all the best! I can’t wait to hear more.

Before I forget... Not sure this will hit home with anyone, but because of my Aquarian Pride I told my Ex after 1 year of breaking up that I didn't care if he dated someone else, because he asked me. I was too stubborn to tell him I did care, but I knew at the time I was scared to be with him and get hurt. SO... He went and got married because I stomped my foot up and down that I couldn't give him what he needed and I cried like a little baby. I thought I lost everything. It was the worst pain in the world that I had lost him after 6 years. I was so mad at him for not trying hard enough to keep me around no matter how stubborn I was being. It still hurts me to write this actually. New topic.

As far as my Aqua Boo goes… I’m done! I haven’t hung out with him in the past month or so, (some his fault, some my fault), but I just ran into him and of course he was SO sweet. I almost passed out! Lol It was so nice to be near him again for those few short moments. We hardly even said anything to each other. We didn’t have to. We could read each other minds. That’s why I can’t be around him. I know what I want and he is not ready, so I can’t give in to what he does “want”. That’s not fair to me. That doesn’t help the situation at all. I have looked out for others in the past and always put myself on the back burner for others and I’m Tired of it! It’s all about me now. Some people think that sounds selfish, but ya know what. I don’t care anymore. No one else is going to look out for me, but me! I’m tired of being played with. I know he likes me, but It’s not enough. We don’t even talk like normal friends do. I’m sorry, but If I’m not even worth a phone call, you can kick rocks! Really… He knows what I’m about and he knows enough about me, to know if I’m what he wants… So.. If he really wants to be with me, he will have to try harder then this! I’m worth way more! I understand he may not be ready in his life and that is fine. I would love to be his friend and be there for him, but he doesn’t even let me in, So I’m not going to BEG to be his friend. The only little issue is, I freakin lose ALL focus when he is around. Then I have to put my guard up and I end up being a little snippy with him, because I’m trying to hold it together. Like I said before, if a Man loves you and wants to be with you he will do anything!!! Not saying we are at that point.. But ya know what I mean. So unless he is standing on my door step with some dandelions (Cause I’m not an expensive flower person.) then he can forget it. When he gets himself together and wants to try it again, and I’m still around, then I would be more then happy to.. But I refuse to put my life on Hold for anyone again!!!
Re: All
by: Hope

Thanks AquaGirl for opening up that old wound and sharing with us. That's the kind of reality that Scorps see in Aquarians - because that part of your personality is like looking into a mirror for Scorpios. It makes us feel safe because we also understand that you know that about us as well, but would never use it against us.

Yet we are both stubborn and would risk losing it all rather than to cry "uncle" and expose our vulnerability.

We read what you want, but then you all cover it up again so quickly that we begin to doubt what we intuitively know. Culling Aqua man emotion is like dropping a ring into a sand dune. The faster and deeper you dig, the more it gets buried.

Thanks again, really. Those kinds of revelations and confirmations make it easier to hang on. It's the doubting and second guessing ourselves that gets frustrating.
Welcome Back Hope
by: Life Is Good

Hello Everyone!

Welcome back Hope! Glad to hear you enjoyed your visit. Also hello to Dazed...welcome aboard!

Aqua Girl, thank you for the advice about BFF. :-D. I actually got it! LOL. I am not communicating with my Aqua as much now. He did contact me a few days ago, but I am just taking time out for me. With summer vacation being over, I am really busy and not really trying to have a serious relationship with him or anyone else. I still love him and wish him nothing but the best.

And to clear something up....BY NO MEANS would I change myself for someone else...I CAN ONLY DO AND BE ME! I was just trying to understand from an Aquarian viewpoint.

Well have a great one...until the next time! LIFE IS GOOD!
Hmmm...
by: Dazed

Hello all & thanks for the welcome!

Aquagirl...

I completely understand where you're coming from and I honestly don't feel you or anyone should sell themselves short. This guy said he isn't ready for a relationship and I would take that for what it is...not because he is an aqua, but because he is a guy. If there's anything dating has taught me, it's to take statements like that at face value and move on. I don't doubt that he likes you, but I feel it's very possible to like someone but not want to be committed (as aqua's are notorious for). I would want nothing more to encourage the relationship you have with your aqua, but I don't want to sell you short either. Trust me when I say I totally agree with your statement of "if a guy likes you he will chase you," and that's how it should be. It honestly all boils down to what you think you're worthy of. I'm not talking about the kind of self-worth that's validated by how other's respond to you or the love you give them, but by what you truly feel and know you deserve....a self-worth that comes before the needs of others, a self-worth that is selfish. When those needs are met, it's way easier to let down your guard with someone and love intensely without being scared. I don't know if that made any sense... That being said, I think you know what you're doing Aquagirl & I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that.

LIG, Hope, and Scorp42...same goes for yall as well.
All
by: Aqua Girl

"Culling Aqua man emotion is like dropping a ring into a sand dune. The faster and deeper you dig, the more it gets buried." ~HOPE- I LOVE this!!!
You always have a way with words when the time is right..

Thanks Ladies for the kind words and support. I just can't hang on anymore. I have way too much going on in my life right now to worry about someone that could care less about me. I am a very Independent person and I don't really "need" anyone around anyway. If they are.. cool, if not.. that's cool too.

The only problem with me getting this way, is very soon I will be completely done and I won't be able to go back. Once I'm done, that's it. There is no turning back. I know most people can break up and keep going back and trying to make it work, but it's like someone gets 1 chance with me and that's it. Now that 1 chance may last 6 months or 6 years, but once I decide in my head that its not going any where, I'm fed up and it's over... That's it! I have too much pride to go back no matter how much it may hurt me. But I can detach myself from the situation like no other. We can be friends of course... (That's the Aqua way... right?) but things will never be the same again. That's the problem I keep having. I give so much of myself in the beginning and the guy wants to run for the hills, but then When I pull away because I'm tired, they want to finally come around and fall for me... But at that point it's too late.
So to break this awful cycle, I tried not to give too much or do too much for Aqua Boo. It was hard for me because I am just a giving and caring person by nature, but I had to get it under control so maybe this time I won't be so quick to throw in the towel when HE runs for the hills... I know I'm still ok at this point to go back if need be, but only if he is ready. I really don't want to pressure him into anything. I just wanted to get to know him better and see if it would even go anywhere, but he doesn't even give me that! Arrrggghhh. Stubborn Ass.. LOL
Here is my theme song..
by: AQUA GIRL

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66LnhtnSoKc&feature=channel

There you go- By PINK..

Just thought it was funny, but very true! Goes along with what I said above..

Hope all is well with everyone..
Now that Hope is found... WHERE THE HECK IS A.A.??
He has been MIA for a while. Oh nevermind.. Silly me. he is Aqua.. hehe LOL Just teasing.
So Confused??
by: Pisces

So I have been seeing this aquarius man on and off again for the past year. We did split up once b4 but he at least had the nerve to end things the first time. We still seen each other every couple months and hung out. We always got along very well. He left town for a couple of months and then when he came back we started hanging out again. He intrigues me so much as I did him so he always said. So after 4 months of hanging out every weekend and talking every other day if not every day he invites me to meet his family then as we are out that night he tells me he loves me and I say the same to him. The next morning he was acting kinda funny towards me now he has cut off all contact with me which is a pretty mean thing to do. If he needed space that was all he needed to say. So anyways I sent him an email saying goodbye and that he will always have a piece of my heart. Still nothing so I am moving on...Anyone have any thoughts on this i'm still really hurt by it all!
Pisces
by: Dazed

Pisces...

The only thing I can suggest is to give him his space until he comes back around. When he does...just explain to him rationally & with logic (using facts not feelings to explain) why what he did wasn't cool and confusing. There's no point in trying to cling to him harder to get what you want, or trying to beat an answer outta him...it'll only push him away. If he said he loves you, I'm sure he meant it. Good luck!
Update
by: Scorp42

Today was a hard day for me. My Gemini and I have been doing quite well. However I had received a few text messages from my Aquarian 3 days ago. He just wanted to make sure everthing was okay with me. It was nice to hear from him but it made a few feelings resurface. Well the following evening I received a phone call from my Aquarian. He sounded so bad as if everything was going wrong for him. I felt so bad about it as I was really the only person he talked to about his issues. He didn't really want to talk about what was going on he wanted more to make sure I was okay and just talk about nothing really. I got a feeling that he wanted to see me but I was not ready to talk about those feeling things yet. Last night I got a text about 10pm asking me what I was doing. That was his way of seeing what's up and that he wanted to come over. I didn't respond. I couldn't as I was with my Gemini and I really didn't feel like explaining anything to anyone yet. Of course my Gemini is aware of my Aquarian etc... Well today my Aquarian and I sent text messages for 3 hours back and forth. I told him I needed to talk to him and tell him what has been going on with me. He replied okay and that it was okay if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did and that I still valued the our friendship dispite. He took an hour to reply. He told me he understood and that he will always be here for me and if I ever decided to change my situation that he was there for me. Of course because he is such a sweet person it made me cry my eyes out but I still know the decision I made was best. If I didn't have these feelings for my Aquarian everything would be perfect in my world. Will is ever go away?! No one answer that question, just venting a bit. I know I will love him forever...
Done
by: Dazed

Well I haven't seen my aqua in almost a month...going on 2 weeks since I've even spoken to him. I can officially say that it is O.V.E.R. How sad :( but tomorrow I know I will still smile :)
To Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

Hello Everyone! Welcome Pisces!

Can't say much right now. Kinda busy, but I had to say this to Dazed....

It's NOT over yet! It has only begun. As long as you were on good terms the last time you spoke that is and he likes you. I haven't had much time to read these posts and really get into your situation yet, but I will make time this weekend.

I haven't spent quality time with my Aqua in almost 2 months and we go 1-2 weeks at a time without communicating. That's normal. See to us Aquas 1-2 weeks only feels like 1-2 days. To everyone else, it's a lifetime.

PISCES- You may be a bit to much for Aqua Dude. My stomach did flips when I read your post. RELAX. LOL Don't give up yet. He needs SPACE!!! He just told you he loved you and intoduced you to his family.... He is Freakin out right now wondering what the heck did he just do!!! This is going to be a rough pairing. We Aquas don't do so well with Pisces. You will need a LOT of Patience and You CANNOT be too needy. I need more info.. How long has it been, what was going on in the beginning.... Has he SAID you were in a relationship? I need more details.

Gotta run.
Confused??
by: Pisces

Sorry this is so long winded! Thanks for your responses very much appreciated... Well it has now been 6 weeks since I have heard from him. I still think about him everyday. We have never actually claimed to be in a realtionship it we always just said dating. We have always had a great relationship from the beginning we actually me online but we live in the same city. Not long after talking on the phone and instant messaging and what not we decided to meet. The first time we met was awesome we sat and talked for like 5 hours. We just got along very well with each other and enjoyed the company.We started seeing each other in Jun of 2009 and we were together every weekend and I usually seen him once or twice during the week. Plus we would text everyday just seeing how each others day was going. Then in the beginning of November we had gone out had a great date great sex I new at that point that I had fallen for him but I never said a word then the next day he even called me and said what a great night we had together. So a coupl of weeks go by and he starts to get kinda distant I new something was up I could feel it that Pisces sixth sense plus he is not a good liar.. So by the end of November I find out he is talking to somebody else and he is a man and ends things with me but says he still wants to have a sex relationship with me. I was like really propbably not. I'm just not built like that to be able to handle that sitaution.
Confused?? cont...
by: Pisces

SO we quit talking Thanksgiving weekend and what do u know the day after Christmas I get a text from him and we text for like 3 hours then he asks is he can see me. I know I should be saying no to him but I give in and we had a great time as we always did. So about another month goes by I haven't heard from him besides the little comments that he would post on my facebook when I would put up new pictures. I text him the end of January to say Happy Birthday. HE is like how r u how hav u been can I see u blah blah blah he is just getting back in town. I never new that he had left but anyways I pick him up from the bus station when he gets back and we go out and pretty much spend the entire weekend together. HE says he missed me and that he was glad that I was there with him on his birthday. So then once again I don't hear anything from him not even on my Birthday in February and he knew it was because he had instant messaged me like 4 days b4 and asked if I was ready for my celebration because my friends were doing a big thing for me because it was my 30th. So in about the middle of March he sends me a message on Facebook and wishes me a Happy Birthday and how sorry he is for not telling me Happy Birthday and even more sorry for missing it. He said I hope your next 30 years are just as joyful Happy Birthday baby girl. I was like ok really a month later but whatever.
Confused?? cont. 2
by: Pisces

So I don't hear anything now for 2 months come April 2010 he messages me on facebook we talk as everything is cool as always I find out that he had moved away with the girl who I found out he was talking to in Nov. I'm like really. HE says he can't stand her they fight all the time and what not. So the day he gets back in town he is messaging me. So that following Monday we met for breakfast and just talked for like 2 hours and then spend the entire day together. Then the pattern begins again we start hanging out every weekend a couple times during the week an he finally expresses to me that he has feelings for me that is why he left in the first place the first time. But he loves being with me that I intrigue him so much. He said he has never met anyone like me he is always thinking about me and that he was always on facebook looking at my pics when he was with her and what not. I know this might not sound like a big deal but it meant alot to me. The only thing he ever said when we would talk about the realtionship stuff was that he wanted to be able to give me more and he wasn't in a place to do that so he would not commit to that fact which in some weird way made sense to me. HE knew that I had been through alot of stuff with my ex husband and he wanted to make sure that he was never a burden to me. So then we get to July 2010 and after we have had a great summer together did so much stuff and just enjoyed one another's company we go out as we always did on the weekend and that's the night I met his family and he said that he loved me. Then split on me 2 days later. As far as me being the Pisces and being needy that is one thing that I can say that I was not I do me and my kids b4 anyone else. Do I have a kind heart yes but I knew how he was about emotions so that is one thing that he definietly taught me was how to keep my emotions in check. We connected on so many levels and just got each other. The time we spent together was always awesome if we were out or just hanging out at home we always had fun together and we could talk about anything which was great. I was not only in love with him but I really condidered him one of my best friends. Which is a great thing... Ok i'm sorry this is so long thought u should hve the full story...Any feedback would be great.....
Confused??
by: Pisces

One thing that I forgot to add was that he had opened up to me so much not only verbally but with those nice physical jestures that make a realtionship so wonderful. I had noticed all of these things and new that he was falling for me but I never lead on or even mentioned it. I just enjoyed all of it and him while it lasted.
Pisces & Aquagirl
by: Dazed

Aquagirl...

I hear what you're saying...but it's hard to keep holding on to something that's so unsure. I don't want to settle on the attention I know I deserve. But I posted my story, so if you scroll up you'll find it & you can check out our situation.

Pisces...

I so feel for you...aqua disappearing acts feel like straight rejection, not cool. My only advice to you is to continue waiting if you feel he is worth it. I think he got freaked out & is probably tryna rationalize every emotion he's feeling for you right now...aqua's try to make their feelings logical, which us water signs know is not possible. I think that's why we are better at dealing w/our feelings. However, I do believe that he meant it when he said he loved you...but I think he might be tryna figure out if he really meant it or if he just spoke in the moment. I think it's his defense mechanism if that makes sense.
Confused??
by: Pisces

Thanks Dazed it makes sense that it's a defense mechanism but it sure does not make the hurt any better as u r well aware of. It's just so hard to believe that somebody that u care about so much can just cut u out of their life like that. But I have to move on for my own good but I just wanted some thouhts from others on the situation. I so think that he is worth waiting for but I just can't wait for my own good. He is like no one that I have ever met in my life and I love different but the running away stuff just doesn't work for me.
Pisces
by: Dazed

Pisces...
I know what you mean & how you feel. However, I think when he does come back around maybe you should voice your opinion about his disappearing acts...or try and find a compromise for his need for freedom and your need for respect.
Just Stopping Through
by: Life is Good

Just wanted to say hello and wish everyone a safe and happy Labor Day Weekend! Be blessed!
Controlling our emotions/being real (1)
by: Newbie

I had come upon this website months ago, when I was trying to understand my interactions with my Mr. Aquarius. Months later, this entire comment chain sprouted, and WOW so much excellent information and so incredibly similar.

I wonder whether these patterns are typical of general relations between men and women or because of astrology. My only other experience had been with Libras. And while my emotions, passions get to the point of obsession (intense), these Libras are still in my life (if I allow them to be, as they have made it known to me that they want me part of their lives) after I no longer have feelings for them.

This year has been intense for me because I have an Aquarius and while I had kept it cool for the most part on the surface, I'm brewing/stirring/wound-up deep within.

The Aqua and I have been in contact at least three times a week and seem to get along really well. Clearly, I'm incredibly fond of him, and apparently he has been very open and honest with me. Yet from the very beginning he told me that he was not ready for commitment, but he found me to be a good friend.

As a Scorpio as many of you had addressed, we have many acquaintances but very few close friends. He made it into my inner circle FAST. Yet, now I'm so jealous of his other women. He has many other women who call, text, and e-mail him.

I got upset at him recently for not getting back to me when he had been really good at replying within a day. It took him a MONTH to get back to me on something, and during this time I tried to play it cool. Because of reading all about Aquas I tried my best to not follow-up or even contact him ... which I did for a month, but once the month was up I couldn't hold it.

Controlling our emotions/being real (2)
by: Newbie

... this is a continuation to my other post ...

I told him I was upset, and I asked him whether I was smothering him (b/c he had been silent for a month). He didn't even know why I was upset, and that he didn't sense that I was smothering him, but that he was busy. We both kept on apologizing to each other (which I think is a bad sign, because if we were truly compatible even as friends we wouldn't need to have misunderstandings).

Our conversation ended that I told him that I was giving him space. He told me that he still didn't understand why his one month of silence upset me ... he told me that he got carried away with his life. (Remember that he isn't looking for a committed relationship) Right now I miss him dearly, because it has become an obsession for me. I cannot help think that there was something there between us ... as he told me that he has backlog of other friends to catch-up with, but clearly he had been keeping up our conversations. (So he did care? and enjoyed our talks?)

I feel bad for having overreacted, but I also felt that he did his silence for a reason.

I'm trying to move on ... as I believe that Aquarius are too much work for Scorpios ... many of my friends have noticed that I've been putting in so much energy into this 'black hole' ...

... perhaps it is because I am Scorpio that I cannot let go so easily??? I didn't mean to get my emotions running ... I didn't even expect to have feelings for him ... but it happened.

... I've been trying to let go for months now, to let my emotions build and let it get the better of me leading to the confrontation ...

... yet even that has not allowed me to let go; because here I am reading all your posts, and now writing out my pain.

It's crazy that all my other men have been Libra's only ... there had been a Sagittarius (who had been intense but he's in hiding now) ... yet it's been this Aquarius that remains, as he's been there as a 'filler' keeping me company until his silence (which sent me to emotional chaos).

I don't want to hurt him, but I think I might have ... he doesn't get that I really have strong emotions for him, because the other women that he's been with tell him straight out and get physical with him immediately ... yet I've been different ... just chatting with him, but he doesn't understand that he's on my my 24/7

Please hope for me that I'll get out of this bind and find perhaps a Cancer or another more compatible sign ...
Newbie
by: Dazed

Hope everyone is having a good Labor Day weekend!

Newbie...

I can honestly see why your aqua got confused about you being upset over not hearing from him in a month. If he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship but saw you as a good friend...then he wouldn't understand the need to be in constant contact with you, as he only views you as a friend. I can see why you got upset though being a scorp myself...but I don't think the miscommunication/misunderstanding was on his part. Please don't take offense to this post...as I'm just trying to be honest and give an objective view. Does he know that you have feelings for him past just being friends...& if so, did he express those same feelings towards you? I'm also curious about the reason why you think he was silent for a month...please share.
Controlling our emotions
by: Newbie

Thanks Dazed.

Boy, do I know now. I COMPLETELY overreacted to his silence ... though before his silence, he had been so good for the longest time keeping me company and getting back to me promptly; ALWAYS. When I informed him about me being upset, he promptly met up with me and we talked briefly. [Even during that meeting I didn't talk about my feelings and just hawed and hemmed to apologize for misunderstanding.]

I was insecure, and given my feelings for him (which I guess he had no clue over, because I never told him or acted upon them) I completely went bonkers when he stayed silent.

I felt that I had already been smothering him b/c I'd call, e-mail, text to the point that I told myself I'd have to stop b/c I was the one initiating such communication. He was just replying.

With his silence I thought that he was telling me that he's had enough and is exiting my life ... but the truth was that he got occupied with other things ... i.e. he wasn't looking for a committed relationship.

I know. I know. I need to move on, but I'm really drawn to this man -- he's incredibly fun to be with. It's just that it's so intoxicating that I cannot let go; like my fantasies. Perhaps this is beyond being a Scorpio.

Dazed
by: Newbie

He is attracted to me BUT he cannot commit right now and is enjoying his single-life free from relationship-drama. I don't know about his feelings for me though ... can't tell. But clearly, I'm NOT on his mind since he left me hanging for a month! (No other men in my life has taken that long to get back to me; sure, I've been spoiled I guess)

While I haven't told him straight out that I have intense feelings for him ... I sense that he senses my body language has changed ... in fact, his body language has changed too.

We used to be so confident with one another. He used to give me cute looks or I'd catch him looking at me and we'd hold our gaze. Now, we both tend to divert our eyes, especially him.

There's tension ... and as you had alluded to ... perhaps it's just all my tension and he's just resonating what he's picking up from me. :(

Any advice on how Scorpios can tame our intense emotions? While I might have ruined this friendship ... I want to learn from my mistakes and be more careful next time. :)
Newbie
by: Dazed

Newbie...

Don't you hate how emotions can totally skew your sense of reality...so frustrating! I think it's a good sign that he cared enough to meet up with you to talk about whatever issues you guys were having...but I wouldn't take it as far as to think he has feelings for you unless he voices it.

I think the reason why you feel it's awkward now between you two, is due to the confrontation, and him being totally blindsided by you being upset...it also doesn't help that he doesn't understand why. He also could have figured out that you might like him.

Aquas a very flirtatious and it can be misconstrued as feelings. I had an aqua friend who was super flirty to all her guy friends...but she genuinely thought it was just being friendly and nice. Then she would be baffled as to why all of a sudden the guys would pursue her or think they were "talking"...when in her mind they were nothing close to that.

I don't really know what advice to give regarding how to control your intense emotions...maybe it comes with age and/or experience. I know that for me personally I try to keep myself busy and try not to be alone with my thoughts for too long. I also try and think about what I want and how I feel (what's best for me), rather than thinking about what the other person wants/needs. Hope this helps!
To All
by: Aqua Girl

Hello Everyone. I have been in my cave for a while.
Well I must be honest and say I'm not really in any kind of mind frame to touch on any of your situations right now. If I did, it just wouldn't come out right. : (

I got to spend some time with Aqua Boo and things felt different. I was not so nervous around him and I think he was more relaxed too. Whatever happens, I can honestly say I'm ok with it. I'm going to continue to focus on me and enjoy my life. I have goals that I want to accomplish in the next couple of years and he does as well. Neither one of us is going to let anyone or anything get in the way of that. If we happen to be going the same direction at that time and we are still cool then fine, if not... That's fine too. I'm putting it all in Gods Hands. If it's meant to be it will be. All I'm worried about right now is getting myself together... No one else can do that, but me.
Getting It Together
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone! I pray that you are/have enjoying/enjoyed your Labor Day weekend. I have been sick the whole weekend, so I haven't had the opportunity to go out and enjoy the sun and festivities.

BUT what I have had the opportunity to do is reflect on my life and friendship that I had with my Aqua man. I have decided to just focus on me and me only. There is a time whe n what one wants might not be in the cards and after the dust settles, reality is sitting there looking you square in the eyes. The dream is over and you have to get up and dust your self off and move on.

I am no longer looking at life in rose-colored glasses... It looks like my friendship with my Aqua was intended for a season and that season appears to be over. I am not a person who can live in the past and that is a characteristic that some Aquarians have. When I move on, I move on and try to let the hurt, pain, and disappointment go because its not good for me physically, mentally, or emotionally. We Scorpions have a thing about nurturing and protecting the ones we love/care for...but there is also a time when we know we must get to stepping also. Don't want to live a fantasy life and thinking that my Aqua is going to change would be me living a fantasy. So ladies, if a man won't attempt to make you apart of their life....MOVE ON!

Now the type of person I am, if he contacts me, I will be polite and communicate, but I have nicely stacked and sealed my brickwall of my world of trusting for a while. I still care deeply for him, but I love me and don't want to waste my time and energy unnecessarily.

This has been an eye opening experience and I don't regret it one bit. Hope, I pray that your Aqua is different and wish you two the best. Scorp42, you keep doing what you do. I pray your Gemini is the ONE! Aqua Girl, you are alright with me. AA, you seem different, so stay that way...its a good thing! For the other ladies, don't waste your time and energy no matter how good it feels at the time. You have to know without a doubt that your relationship is worth it and that Aqua or man period will have to show that he wants you all the time, not just when it suits him.

Well I am out! Will check back from time to time. Going to do and be the only person I can do and be..ME! :-D

BE BLESSED!
Going Crazy!!!!
by: Scorp42

Hello all. Things for me had been going fantastically with me and my Gemini. Yesterday (Sunday)I got a text message from my Aquarian and I missed it. I was busy and didn't respond. A few hours later I got a voicemail from my Aquarian just a bit upset about me not responding and to call or text him to let him know I was okay or he will have to pay me a visit. I was shocked but sent a text to tell him I was okay. An hour later he sent a text to call him he needed to talk to me. He was upset that I have not been in contact with him and he needed to know everything was okay with me. I told him I was good and that I was not by myself. He said yeah he knows I am not by myself and that he would talk to me later and he hung up. I can't begin to tell you the turmoil I feel on the inside. I am supposed to meet my Aquarian today so that I can talk and tell him where I am and what's going on with me. I also need to know what is going on in his head. I need some real closure so all pray for me to be strong with this.
????
by: Dazed

Hello all...

I'm beginning to wonder if dealing with aqua's even have happy endings...

Good luck Scorp42!
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by: Anonymous

dazed thats a cheap shot, sure sometimes things dont work out but we are all human when we go to bed not zodiac signs.

scorp42 i hope all goes well. hes probably really hurt and he doesnt handle emotions the way most people do. he ll probably always love you the way you were when you were the closest. aquarians never forget the one they loved the most.
A.
by: Dazed

Anonymous...

You're totally right...it was cheap. I apologize :)
This Sucks!!
by: Scorp42

I had my 2 hour talk with my Aquarian yesterday. AA you were right, he is very hurt. It killed me to see him hurt like that. He said things to me that he has never said before and for the first time ever he said outright that he loved me! I told him that it took me all this time to build up the strength to see him again. He said after I left in a text that he still isn't strong enough yet. He had no idea just how weak he was when it came to me. This hurts soooo bad... Why couldn't he have said these things earlier? Why did he tell me to find someone else and that I needed better? It feels as if I am dying inside all over again. This feels horrible! Being in love with 2 people is just horrible!!! I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Here is the crazy part, after reading what Aquagirl had to say about the one she had that got away and married someone else; My Gemini has asked me to marry him. He said he made the mistake last time and he will not let that happen again. Jesus please help me!! This is truly awful!
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

OMG. See. And the one that I said went and married someone else and confessed his love to me after the fact was my Gemini... And actually he is coming back around again. He said he is still in Love with me and made the biggest mistake of his life, but there is nothing he can do about it now. The only reason he moved on is because he thought I had moved on. Actually I had 2 ex's do this to me that I talked about here. I just hope he doesn't do something crazy like get a divorce... OMG. I don't even want to think about that right now.

It is an awful feeling! Trust me. But I also know what your Aqua man is going through because of my last Ex that I told him to move on and he sure did. I guess in my head I just didn't think it would happen. (He is Capricorn). Then when he did, I was crushed, so I know how your Aqua is feeling right now! I actually shed a tear reading your post. Most people, especially us Aqua's want what we can't have. We never open our eyes until it's too late or we feel we are losing something! That's why I refuse to date anyone else or at least get involved with anyone until I know for a fact my Aqua Boo has moved on. I'm just going to continue to work on myself and see what happens, because I know in my heart he is going to come around and I want him to be the one! I refuse to let this vicious cycle keep happening to me.

I don't know what to tell you. At this point you are in a tough situation. At least you haven't got married yet, so you can fix the problem, but being in this situation myself, I must say you are going to have to get away from BOTH of them and do some soul searching!!! And this is NO JOKE. It takes time away from someone to really see what you are missing or not missing. I thought I was falling for this one guy I was dating last year and we split for a few months. I thought I was going to die, but then after 3 months we hooked back up and I realized, I only felt that way because I was losing him not because I loved him. The time away gave me a chance to think about everything. You need to break ALL CONTACT with both of them for a little while to figure this all out. I know it sounds harsh and it is going to kill you, but you have to do it. Once you get past the pain of not seeing or talking to them, then you can start figuring out what do. I know this sounds crazy, but I have had to choose between 2 before and I had to write down all of their good and bad qualities and go from there. It just helps you sort things out and really think about it. Especially if one is talking about marriage. That isn't something to play with. It's sad, but someone is going to get hurt and the axe is in your hands. It's not fun but you have to decide.
Re: Scorp42
by: Life is Good

OK...Scorp42! This is me keeping things real with you as best I can. First of all don't ask Jesus to help you if you really don't want him to help, BUT I hope you know that He is the only one who can. Not me, Aquagirl, AA, Hope, or anyone else can. This crossroad is ALL yours alone!

Take time to really think about this. From someone who just went thru a divorce, you have to KNOW for sure you are making the right decision. Think about your past relationships and which one made you not doubt your security in that one person. Don't think about sex or that emotional feeling that came and went. Look at the whole picture and not just the small individual pieces. Know that whoever you choose, you will have to accept their imperfections for the rest of your life. DIVORCE WILL NOT AND CAN NOT BE AN OPTION!!!

Do not come back on this website until after you have made your decision. I am begging to really look at the whole picture...REALITY NOT FANTASY OR WHAT WE DESIRE!

I will be praying that you make the RIGHT DECISION.
Scorp42
by: Dazed

Hello...

It's unfortunate that loss can bring about a sense of perspective...because the joy of gaining something wears off faster than the pain of losing something. I found out today that a friend of mine was killed in a car accident. Reality slaps you in the face when you realize something you had is no longer there. How is one suppose to deal with such regret of not appreciating what the universe has aligned for us...??

Scorp42...my only advice to you is to make your choice out of pure love, passion, and a reason for living. Forget the fear...because if things don't end up working out, at least you know you made a decision that will make you think..."I would have rather lived that time with them and then dealt with the pain, then to have never had them in my life, just being content...just simply being."
Sorry for Your Loss
by: Life is Good

Sorry to hear about your loss. What you do is remember the good times and pray that if blessed with another friend and/or have a current friendship, you will life to the fullest so there will be no regrets.
To Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

Oh Sweetie I'm so sorry to hear that!! May God bless you during these tough times!
Thank You All
by: Scorp42

I have spent a lot of time and a lot of tears trying to make the right decision. I have weighed the pro's and con's of each of them. I know that my Gemini is the right decision because he fulfills every need and desire w/o me having to ask. It hurts to give up my Aquarian but after talking to him a couple more times it is all clear to me. Regardless of what I feel for him he will never be able to give me what I truly need to be happy. We finally put it all on the line and it's just what Aquagirl said, he wants what he can't have. If he had me again he still would not give me what I need. I miss him yes, but I am sure in the future once our wounds have healed I won't feel so hurt about it. My Gemini makes me so happy that when he is around I don't think about my Aquarian. When I am with my Aquarian all I can think about is my Gemini. That said a lot to me once I realized it. I am going to take the advice given to me and not contact either of them for a while and see how I feel. I have already talked to God about this and have been given the clear signs. I will also get to see the reaction and what they both do after I disappear for a while. I will let you know how it all pans out when I resurface. I can tell you this, my Gemini loves me much deeper and with more passion that my Aquarian. He misses me if I am away for an hour. It's in the eyes.
Re: Scorp42
by: Life is Good

Scorp42,

I am so happy for you!!! Right now I am sitting here smiling with a good feeling that EVERYTHING IS WORKING OUT FOR YOUR GOOD. Be blessed always and forever... 1 of the 3 Scorpioette has found true love, 2 more to go! :-D

Hey Hope where are you???

This morning I told my Aqua that I would not be contacting him for a while, meaning everything is over. I can't be his friend knowing that I have feelings for him. I, like you Scorp42, have a peace and know it's better to sever all ties to be able to move on. I still believe God has a husband, not just any man, out there for me. :-D



For Life Is Good
by: Scorp42

LIG I like you too! I don't know what I would have done w/o you guys there to talk to. My Aquarian journey has been eventful to say the least. I have been writing a book on this experience. I will need a title when I am done. Only a Scorpio would understand. LOL After reading what everyone had to say it made me feel so much better about my decision. All in all it boils down to he had his chance and decided a committed relationship was not what he wanted. I came to the conclusion that it's okay for him to get what he wants but It's okay for me to have what I want as well. Too bad we didn't want the same thing. I still gained a life long friend and for that I am thankful. Here is to true love!!!
Sort of Sad to Read
by: Hope

Hi to Scorp42, Life is Good, AqauGirl, and Dawn. I'm still around--mostly trying to get caught up at work after taking two weeks of self-indulgent bliss.

I also feel sort of sad in reading your posts, knowing that you are right. Some of us really need to feel a connection with our partner, whether or not we have daily contact with them.

Things are going great with my Aqua, except that is miss him terribly. I got spoiled while he was here.

My thoughts are definitely with you all and I am wishing that things work out for each of us in ways that far exceed our imaginations and expectations! I'm still around and still cheering for all of us. I am also hanging around because this site provides a wealth of information on all of the signs.
Stuff
by: Aqua Girl

Scorp42- Sad but true about us Aquas. We want what we can't have then when we have it, we don't want it so much! It's a pride issue I suppose. I'm trying to work on it for myself. I know I drive people crazy with it and then when my Aqua Boo does it to me, I get upset.
I'm starting to think this Aqua-Aqua pairing isn't going to go so well for me. It's too much push and pull. I hope it all works out for you though. Honestly, My Gemini was the BEST match for me too... Too bad he realized that AFTER he married someone else.

HEY HEY HEY and what's all this scorpio talk all about???? Don't forget about me now.. I'm the one letting you all in on all the Aqua secrets.. LOL

I am happy I found this site though. I feel like we are all so close. Plus it makes it easier to vent to complete strangers.. LOL

Hey! Hey! Hey!
by: Life is Good

Hi Everyone!

Hey Aquagirl, didn't mean to leave you out by no means!!!! :-( I am sorry. Its just that when I came up here it was just Hope, Scorp42, and I. And we kind of meshed so I just always related to them first. But when you and AA came along it really helped tremendously. I just never could think of a catchy title for us 5. I think I just thought of one...Two A's to the Scorpio Rescue! LOL.

Life with an Aqua can be a roller coaster ride, but just like at the amusement park, you have to get off once the ride is over. For Scorp42 and myself, the time has come. And for you Hope, Girl, its your luck day...it looks like you have received a lifetime season pass to your amusement park....ENJOY YOUR RIDE!

Remember Life is Good!!
Thanks Life is Good
by: Hope

I am enjoying this. The word ride is a good analogy, as I realize from my interaction with all of you and other postings, that nothing is constant with an Aqua. Just when we think we get one of their patterns, they change things up.

That is definitely part of their charm, but also the source of much frustration. We shall see. Thanks for your encouragement and I hope something wonderful is in store for you before month's end.
Hello All
by: Scorp42

I certainly hope that someone will be telling us soon that they are either moving in with their Aquarian or getting married. I must say that I am just now at the point where I can think about my Aquarian without crying. My Gemini and I are doing quite well and every day gets better and better. I hate to compare but after spending so much time with my Gemini and receiving his affection and attention had just shown me that I made the right decision. It's still hard at times but okay. I do know that I CAN NOT see or talk to my Aquarian right now. Going to see him a couple weeks ago set me back so much. It was hard for the both of us. I don't want that to happen again. It made me second guess my decision for a few days. Anyway I hope all is well with everyone on here. Hope hang in there, if my Gemini hadn't come along in my darkest hour I would still be clinging to whatever it was my Aquarian and I had. Let me exhale now and reminisce.
Still doing me
by: Aqua Girl

I'm glad to hear you are doing better Scorp42.. That's a blessing.

I'm still doing my own thing.

Hope everyone else is well.


Switching Strategies
by: Hope

Hi Scorp42. It really sounds as though your Gemini is a better overall match for you. Not to discount the many qualities that you appreciated in your Aqua and all the great times the two of you shared.

Life is Good I am glad you are stepping back to assess whether or not you have the desire to pursue things with your Aqua. I know it is hard when you realize the incredible potential between you two.

AquaGirl, so interesting to learn the there are similar dynamics even between an Aqua man and Aqua Woman. I hope he wakes up soon and realizes he is missing out on a treasure.
Hello
by: Life is Good

Just stopping thru to say hello.

This weekend will be the first time I will have an opportunity to possibly see my Aqua since I have stopped all communication with him. If he decides to show, it will be something to see how he acts because I already told him that I could make his life drama free and did not have to even acknowledge him while there...and I meant every word of it. It is not in my plans to initiate any conversations with him...and believe me I am a Pro at it. There will be other men there from my past that can occupy my time. :-D

Don't want to be where I am made to feel not wanted or respected.
For Life Is Good
by: Scorp42

LIG, I hope seeing your Aqua doesn't set you back emotionally like seeing mine did. We both agreed that we were not strong enough to be around each other. I must admit though that I do miss the laughter we used to share. Stay strong and put on your best outfit. Nothing wrong with showing him what he's missing. I know, I know I'm bad. I was dressed to the nines when I went to see my Aqua and I could tell he was impressed. He had that I want to take you look in his eyes. LOL
Re: Scorp42
by: Life Is Good

LOL...You are a mess Scorp42! I am packing right now. No baggy clothes this weekend! LOL. I hope seeing him makes me realize that I made the right decision. I do still love and miss him but not being on the same page is torture. All I wanted was a close friendship and if something came out it, that would have been ok. He chose otherwise... oh well life goes on.

GOTTA KEEP IT MOVING FORWARD BECAUSE....LIFE IS GOOD!
I did it again
by: Scorp42

Well, I talked to my Aquarian on Thursday 9/16/10. We both wanted to see each other badly so I paid him a visit. Of course dressed to the nine's again. It was a really nice freindship visit. We laughed a lot and it was if he was one of my best friends again. I talked crap about his messy apartment and helped him with his work a little. I was there for a couple hours then I went home. Well after I arrived at home I got a few text messages about how much he missed me and that he wanted to do a few things to me while I was there. Yes I was tempted as ever but he said even if I did give in he would not let me do it. I told him that it showed that he did truly love me and cared about my situation. He is such a good guy and I think our friendship is going to survive and be okay! Damn he was looking awful good... Anyway... LOL
Hmmm
by: Aqua Girl

Hello All
This is kinda for Scorp42 and Kinda in General too.

What I don't understand is why someone says they are done and have moved on, but still go back?? I do understand being done with the Aqua Mans distance and the craziness they make you feel, I get that, But to say that you have moved on to another guy and yet still go to visit Aqua Man?? That puzzles me. I feel like that would be SO hard for you and Aqua AND if the New guy finds out (unless you told him) that may throw a wrench in things. I'm all for being friends with Ex's.. I'm Aqua so of course I'm for it.. lol But that's ONLY after the feelings have faded and you honestly don't want that person that way anymore and they don't want you. It's obvious that there are still DEEP feelings for you both, and the tricky thing is the distance that you are giving your Aqua and the fact that he knows you are with someone else, is only going to make His feelings stronger for you! (Remember, People, Especially Aquas want what they can't have.) So by you going to visit him during this critical time, it's going to get his hopes up that he still has a chance at getting you back... And he is going to put every inch of effort into trying to win you back! Trust me.. It's what we do. If he ever got you back, Trust and Believe you would have him forever!! We like to fight for what we want and when we finally get it after a long and hard fight, it's not going anywhere as long as we can help it! That's why this Aqua vs Aqua pairing is so hard. When we both need to fight for what we want it makes it hard because we are both fighting, but then we both get distant when the other one starts coming around. Since I am the one that realizes this, I have to out Aquarian him. I'm not "Done" yet, but I'm getting tired. I have removed myself from the situation for a while. If he comes around that's ok, but I'm done trying!

I hope everything works out for everyone, just be careful.
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

I understand where you are coming from and I don't expect you to understand why I still see my Aqua on occation. As far as my Aquarian hoping he can get me back, I don't think that is the case. He is not doing what he can to win me back at this point. He is a great friend and we talk about things in my family that he is going through as well. Now if I am being honest I can't say that somewhere deep inside that I would never take him back. I am living my life day by day and going where the tide takes me. NO, I will not cheat on my Gemini but he has unfinished business in his life as well. I can't say what the future holds but I do know this, the devotion you are talking about that I would get from my Aquarian if I took him back is all I wanted to begin with. I am far too old to wait till this part of my life to make a big mistake that I will regret forever. I just want to be happy and that is what I am doing. Aquagirl I am not trying to be mean or anything but at this point in my life I don't really care what other's think about what I am doing. Only I am responsible for my happiness. If I didn't get the Aquarian games to begin with I wouldn't be with my Gemini in the first place. I have no guilt. Maybe I'm wrong for feeling that way but it's the truth. I'm not mad or anything and am glad you tell me how you feel. It lets me see things from a different perspective.
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Girl. Everything is all good. I was having a moment.. lol I guess I thought you were meeting up for other reasons. Who knows. I'm glad you are happy though. Sounds like things are going in the right direction for you.

I'm in Blah land right now so I won't say much!

Hope everyone else is well too.
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

What a difference a day makes. Okay maybe you were more right than I wanted to admit. I think my Aquarian's fight has really kicked in. I got a text message from him yesterday telling me that I was moving way to fast with my Gemini. I told him that my feelings for him are still there and I did what I thought was best because I thought I had been dumped in a nice way when he told me to start dating blah, blah, blah... Anyway, early this morning I got a good morning text in the sweet way he used to. In the middle of the day I sent him a text wanting to know where his head is and if he was in my spot what would he do. He told me he would not have gotten into a full fledge relationship. Then he sends me a picture of him that still has my heart racing. It was so not something he would have done before at all!!! Wearing something I bought him, followed by a text that simply said "Hi!!!!" I guess it is payback for me being dressed to the nine's when I went to see him twice. Oh my word this is getting crazy now. He said he wanted to talk to me after work today. Now on the Gemini side of things, my Gemini has been bending over backwards doing things for me and with me to make me as happy as he possibly can. He is the sweetest person I have ever met. Never in a million years would I have ever thought my Aquarian would be the way he is now. That man can have any woman he wants or multiple women. I have a headache about the whole thing. I wish I had not gotten into such a serious situation with my Gemini. I think part of it was because of my broken heart and the other because I still had a strong love for my Gemini. Anyway I am still going to enjoy my relationship with my Gemini and keep everthing with my Aquarian on the frienship level that I have been. I need lots of time and prayer to sort out my feelings and what is best for me. I bet I sound like a crazy person now.
For Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

HAHA.. Sorry to laugh, but I knew it!! Ok let me say it... "I told you so"... Now I feel better.
; )
You scared me for a minute, I thought my magical Aqua mind-reading gift was starting to fail me. lol
I had to chuckle a little when you said that Aqua man was saying u jumped in too fast with Gemini man. I did the same thing 2 my Cappi Ex that got married. When he started dating her I was okay, but when he started talking about marriage & more serious stuff & started ignoring me, I started questioning him: Did he love her, was he "in love" with her, Did he still love me-Because if he did he couldn't possibly love her, Is he sure he knows what he is getting into, maybe he should take some time away and get his feelings together, blah blah blah... I told him I was happy for him & gave him my blessing, but then I keep the questions coming. THEN I put up a bigger wall then I had before. I got kinda defensive and mean with him, but that came later. Before that I was sweet as pie.

See this is usually what happens with Aquas. We (Aquas) are SO afraid of losing our freedom and getting involved with someone crazy, so when someone is trying to love us or get close to us in the beginning we freak... but then when they get tired of us and walk away we Freak.. lol and have to fight our way back in. That's usually when we start to realize we really do love that person even though we had to tell ourselves 8500 times that we didn't love them & that it just couldn't be. Most of the time we end up losing that person to someone else & have to start the grueling process all over again... It's really exhausting. One thing I am not sure of is if the other Aquas realize they do this. It took me a LONG time & a lot of research to realize this about myself. So now I try to control it before it goes to far. Doesn't always work though. Now that I'm playing this awful game with another Aqua it's really exhausting! But it's a great learning experience for me. I'm learning more about myself & how the others see me in this type of situation. Anyway, I really feel for you but like I said before... You are going to have to figure out WHO you want!! But one little bit of advice. If you do decide to choose your Aqua let him fight a little before you give all the way in. Just give him enough to keep him around but keep him fighting. Don't get TOO distant though, because once he thinks he has lost you forever, he will get so distant in his mind that he won't allow himself to go back.
Scorp42 Continue...
by: Aqua Girl

Also just as a little warning and this may or may not happen with him, but be careful... At this point and forward is when you may really start seeing the Aqua Mood swings!! If he is like most.. They are not fun to deal with. Almost scary... The more nonchalant you are with him when he is expressing how he really feels about you, the more angry he will get. That is why you really need to figure out what you are going to do. If you try to just be his "friend" right now it's going to be really hard for both of you, especially him. Remember he analyzes EVERYTHING! So any move you make or anything you say, he is running it play by play in his head and he may some how in his mind try to figure out what you meant by that and twist it around to his favor. Such as: If you start seeing him or talking to him more one week he will think he is really starting to make progress in getting you back, but then you pull back the next week or 2 because you are busy or whatever and he will flip. He may not be like this, I don't know him, but most of us Aquas are like that.

But I could be wrong... lol
Hmmm???
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

Just stopping through to say hello. Well my Aqua didn't attend the function but we did have a nice chat the day I returned home and today. He has this project that he has been interested in doing for a while and I had been encouraging him to pursue for a while. When we chatted today, he told me he had been working on it which made me very happy. He even asked my opinion about it and I was honest and shared it. It was nice to just chat like old times, meaning the beginning of our friendship. Before he ended the conversation he told me thanks and that I was his inspiration. My response... Yeah Right!.. LOL...You see I am not taking anything that he saids to heart because that's how I got in this mess in the first place! LOL

Aqua Girl, I wish we could chat more...I would love to pick your brain on a few things. LOL

Scorp42, I understand what you are going through. Just continue to look at both situations closely and carefully. Remember you want to have a wholesome relationship in which both of you are on the same page.

Hello Hope, AA, and the rest of the gang!
Hmmm
by: Aqua Girl

Hey LIG.. Glad to hear from you. You can pick my brain anytime. lol I can't promise I have all the answers, but I may have a few. ; )

Scorp42- I think you met up with your Aqua Man..? What happened??? Hope you are okay.

Hope, Dazed, AA and anyone else I missed... WHERE ARE YOU?? What's going on with everyone.

I met another Capricorn!! Pretty nice guy. Makes me laugh. He actually calls me!.. LOL
He wants to meet in person, but I'm not sure about that! I can already see this turning into a heartbreak situation and I don't think I'm ready for that. Plus I don't want anyone getting hurt. Normally I wouldn't think about it like that, but because of my past experiences and now Scorp42's situation, I'm re-thinking the whole situation. We'll see what happens. I'm still on the fence.
For Aqua Girl
by: Dazed

Aqua Girl...

Hey I'm still here. No much going on over this way. Two questions for you...

First - Why do you think you and your new cap will be a heartbreak situation, and for who...you or him?

Second - Not to put a time limit on things, but how long should one give an aqua man his distance before seriously moving on & taking it as him just not being interested? I know since you're a female your answer might be different but worth a shot.

Thank you!
Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

Hi Dazed.
I really don’t have all the answers, if I did, I wouldn’t be in the situation I am in now. lol
All I can do is share what I have experienced. The reason I said it may be a heart-break situation is because usually when you walk away from an Aquarian for another mate, the Aquarian wakes up and opens their eyes and realizes what they are losing, but at that point it is usually too late. I have been in that situation before & I really don’t want to go though it again. Plus right now I am focused on myself & trying to accomplish the goals I have set for myself, that I really don’t need anymore distractions. Basically the same situation Scorp42 is going through is what I am trying to avoid.
As for the 2nd part. You really can’t put a time limit on anything. It’s hard to say. I guess it depends on how “into” you he is. All I know is, if we are spending quality time with you pretty often then there has to be something there especially if we are being intimate with you, because if we don’t like you somewhat like that, you won’t get much of our time, if any, let alone affection. When someone ignores us & we are into them, that’s when we start sniffing around wondering what’s going on. But if we are not that into you, we usually just walk away quietly. The problem is, the other person never really knows what’s going on. I know it sounds like a bunch of games, but if you are not an Aquarian you will never really understand it. Most Aquas don’t even realize they do this, but I have taken the time to learn more about myself. I would never suggest “Waiting” around for the unknown. I know some people say they would wait for the ones they love & some would just walk away then to deal with it. I guess it depends on how you feel & what you decide for yourself. Most women will meet someone, really start falling for them & then start complaining about what he Isn’t doing & hope that he will change after they get into a relationship. Most likely your Aqua isn’t going to change all that much. See we are not looking for what everyone else is looking for! We look for someone that is a friend, a buddy. Someone that we can play with, joke with, be sarcastic with, kick off the couch, someone that we can just be silly with & have intellectual conversations with & then throw something at them all at the same time, without them getting mad or all the emotional deep stuff. We like affection & being told that we are missed, but not the “I can’t breathe without you in my life” missed. That’s TOO MUCH emotion. We don’t want the questions about why haven’t we called in 2 days or 2 hours. We didn’t notice so why should you? I don’t know if that answers your question or not. You can always ask him if he is into you. We are honest. If he isn’t he will tell you, but if he is & he isn’t all that sure about his feelings he will probably say something like “If I didn’t like you, You wouldn’t be here”. In a sarcastic tone of course. lol
Aqua Girl
by: Anonymous

Aqua Girl...

I see what you're saying about another heart-break situation. I know that it's important to work on yourself and accomplish what you want in life, but sometimes I think people use that as an excuse to avoid actually dating and allowing someone into their lives. Not saying that you're doing that, but just make sure that you aren't...this guy might be worth a look.

Yes you did answer my question somewhat. But thing is, I have asked him if he was interested & he said that he is...but he's just busy. I noticed that he was getting distant, which is what prompted me to ask. So since then, I've just left him alone to give him space, but that was a month ago & he hasn't reached out to me, and I haven't seen him in 2 months either. I txt him for the first time over the weekend and simply stated "goodnite" and his response was "Hi. And goodnite" Mind you that we knew each other for a year before we started "talking" (he approached me and pursued me during that year, but I just kind of kept him on a friend level). However, when we did start talking he was very open with me...he would talk to me about his family and his relationships with mom, dad and so on, his goals for himself, his passions, etc. I also notice he would analyze me and say things like.."I can tell you're this way..." and just ask me questions about what I thought of him...I could tell he was trying to picture me in his future so to speak. Can you see where and why I'm kind of confused....? If he's still interested like he says he is...why no contact?
Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

Even though our sun signs play a big part in our personalities, we are still individuals. So I can't really answer your question or give you advice on what to do, because I could be wrong and I wouldn't want to steer you in the wrong direction and then feel responsible if something went wrong.

I'm not really sure what's going on in his head. I know that if someone asks me if I am interested I will be honest with them about it and I have used the "busy" line before. He could be trying to let you down easy without hurting you and hoping you slowly walk away, but still remain a friend or he may really be busy. I am very busy myself most of the time because I choose to be, but when I am into someone, I MAKE time for them.
A lot of times, sadly enough, it takes something to ruffle our feathers to make us realize what we are missing or are going to miss. Like in Scorp42's situation.. Another man stepped in and now Her Aqua feels threatened so he is steppin his game up.

I wish I had all the answers. I don't know why people do what they do. I'm honestly tired of all the games myself. I know I get a little strange in the beginning too when I first meet someone, but once I'm into someone, that's it. I know my Aqua Boo is special (he is Aqua so of course he is special...lol) and I care for him very much!! I miss him something awful, But will I call him first or tell him that??? HECK NO. Not unless he says something first. That's because HE has to be the one to make the first move. It has to be HIS idea. Sure he will respond to me all day. I could call or text him everyday and he will respond because he is a nice guy and enjoys talking to me... But for him to actually be the first one to initiate the call or the meeting up... Now THAT really means something! For HIM to take time out of HIS busy life and get past all of that inner emotion to actually pick up a phone and make the first move.. That's priceless! I have been the one initiating everything recently and I have stopped! It's not going to go anywhere if I continue to do that. I don't chase people and I refuse to chase him. Not because I don't think he is worth it, but because I think he IS worth it! I'm still going to continue to focus on myself and do what I need to do and I am going to date other men. I'm not going to stop my life. He may not be into me.. Who knows, but I'm not going to put my life on hold waiting for the answer. If it's meant to be, it will be. I'm not even mad about any of this, because I understand it. Just hope he wakes up soon.
Aqua Girl
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your comments. Everything that you said is absolutely valid and I appreciate the honesty. It's funny because everything you said I already think to myself...but sometimes hope for what your heart desires grabs a hold of you and clouds everything. But way to kick my ass back to reality! Thank you.
Reply
by: Aqua Girl

(Don't forget to put your name in the box so we know who it's from) lol

You're welcome.


Scorp42- What's going on?? I hope you are okay. I can't imagine what has happened since out last convo...
For Aqua Girl and Others
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, it has been a bit of a rollercoaster of emotions for me the past few days. Today is Tuesday 9/28. I had no contact with my Aquarian since he sent me the most AWESOME picture ever last week until yesterday. I sent him a good morning. I told him a bit of what had been going on in a text and said the two of us need to talk later. I need some Aquarian advice from him on a few things. I told him about something that has been bothering me and he told me that he was here for me, to pray on it and let it go. He also followed it up with a text that Jesus loves me and so does he!!!! It seems now everytime we contact each other he tells me he loves me. Who in the world is this man?? Me and my Gemini are going through a bit of a rough period lately as his issues are now spilling over into my life. I am not happy about it and it makes me want to see my Aquarian all the more. However I will not initiate a visit right now as I may break my cardinal rule and I will never be able to recover from that. I have decided to take everything one day at a time with my Gemini and keep my Aquarian in my loop with contact via text or phone call every now and then. I think I need a bit more fight out of my Aquarian. I love that man soooooo much but he needs to earn me!
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Seems like now the pressure is off Mr. Aqua, he feels comfortable telling you how he truly feels. Funny how that all works. Wonder what would happen if you were free again? I wonder if he would get scared off again or if he would take you in??

I hope it all works out for you.



For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I know my Aquarian is still not ready for me. It may be a cpule years before he is truly ready for me who knows. I do know that I am not making any life decisions based on my Aqua anymore. I am living my life and enjoying it. I enjoy having my Aqua as my friend and if the future brings us back together then it was ment to be. If not then it wasn't. I do know that my Gemini is bending over backwards for me and I appreciate it and am embracing it. I did slow things down a bit with my Gemini so we can focus on our friendship and let things grow. Because of our history it's easy. Bringing my Gemini into my world has helped him grow tremendously, however I am a bit to handle and he is having a hard time trying to keep up. Never had that issue with the Aqua as it was I keeping up with him. Oh well... :-)
Hmmm... Well well well
by: Aqua Girl

OMG!!! That's all I have to say right now.. : )
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

I know Aquagirl, I am a real mess right now. I keep telling myself that everything is the way it is supposed to be. My biggest problem is that no matter how many times I tell myself and no matter how great things are with my Gemini, he is not my Aquarian! Emotionally I can not let my Aquarian go. He called me today on his lunch break and said he will call me after work so we can really talk. I don't think I have ever been more confused in my life. Of course I am leaving a lot of the full story out concerning me and my Gemini. Right now he needs me and my support. He was there when I needed him years ago and I feel obligated to be there for him now. But in all reality all I want is my Aquarian. I won't tell either of them that right now because it would complicate my life even more. I thought in the beginning because I get all the attention and affection I could ever want from my Gemini that things would be flowery and good. It is all of that but like I said it is not my Aquarian. Had I known long ago that it would be like this I would have NEVER started up a romance with my Gemini! I would have been better off alone. Geez, I can't win for loosing. I am still embrassing my life right now and making the best out of it. I don't want to hurt my Gemini as he is a GREAT man. My Aquarian is such a great guy that he makes sure he gives me just enough to keep me there but won't cross the line and disturb what I have going on with my Gemini. This sucks!!! I know Aquagirl OMG!!! For real. After reading my posts over the past year I must sound like a real lunatic! LOL I won't ask for any advice because I know what to do, I just don't want to do it. My Gemini has been in the same spot I am so he would totally understand, but I have never hurt anyone like that before and I just can't bring myself to do it right now. I don't want to loose the friendship of either of them, but I know I can not continue doing what I am doing. Uhh...
For Scorp42
by: D

I knew it! I knew you were secretly longing for your aqua over your gemini! What a tough situation. I know you said that you're still just doing you right now, but have you talked with your aqua about whether a real future for you two is possible? I think that might help you with a decision. Just a thought...
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

I was saying OMG because of what happened to me yesterday.. ; )
But yeh your situation is crazy too. That is what I am trying to avoid. I have been down that road before and I refuse to go through it again. I hope you can figure out what to do. Emotions are not something to play with. One of them needs to s**t or get off the pot! It sure isn't making it easy for you either.
I wouldn't want to have to make a decision like that so I am keeping it low key for now and focusing on me.

Every time I see him there is a sense of calmness inside of me. I stress out everyday, all day in my head about random things and when he is around, all of that goes away. I can tell I am getting more comfortable around him. Everytime we get together, we learn something new about each other. It doesn't get boring because we never just let all of our business out there at once. We just get little by little every time and it's awesome. He is still a mystery to me, which is a good thing, because I love to figure things out on my own. There is so much about him I don't know, it keeps me guessing. I love that. He loves to try and figure me out too. He watches and observes my every move and then tells me something about myself that I didn't even know or realize. It's the best, but I love doing that to people too. lol I am a very hard person to get close to on that level and I think he is starting to get his hooks in me... And I think I am actually ok with it.. ; )
Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

What is going on with everyone?

Too Silent on here. Had to crawl out of my cave to see what was happening... LOL
All Is Still Crazy But Good
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, I just got back from a visit with my Aquarian. He told me today that he loved me and always will. He got me all caught up on what was going on in his life and we laughed a lot. He said he is patient and will wait for me when I get tired of my Gemini. He went way out of his comfort zone and was unusually affectionate. So I am officially going crazy but I am still smiling. My Gemini situation is getting crazy as he may be moving away for his job. He will be 3 hours away and said he will still visit me often but he has to relocate. He wants me to go as well but I informed him I couldn't. He said he will wait for the time when I can move there with him. Lordy, lordy... I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone. LOL
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Of course I don't like suggesting things to people, because if they take my advice and it blows up in their face then I would feel awful...
But that to me is a BIG sign!!

If it was my situation this is how I would think... But this is just me: People come into our life for a reason. Again I don't know ALL of the story, but you were really wanting to be with Aqua man and you were putting so much focus on it that it was almost scaring him away because he wasn't too sure how he was feeling. It was draining you emotionally and making you go crazy in a sense. You needed a Strong force to snap you out of it so the NEW Aqua man showed up... That didn't work, you needed a Stronger force so that's when Gemini man pops up and gets your mind off of your Aqua. You weren't being so Intense with him and it was giving him time to realize what he was feeling for you. Now Gemini man has to leave and Aqua is finally able to tell you how he really feels to your FACE! We HATE to show emotion that is true, once something happens though that gets those emotions brewing we don't have a choice and it just comes out. With me the more I can express those emotions to one person the easier it gets overtime... Sometimes. But it takes something to ruffle my feathers to get me to that point.

The other thing is I know he said he would wait for you, and maybe that is how is feels "Right now", but just like anyone else, he will not wait forever and it wouldn't be fair to him if he did or if you let him.

You were longing for Aqua Man when you didn't have your Gemini and you were longing for him when you did have Gemini. And I'm just going by what you have said on here... And just from what you have said and the love you have for him.. (And our situations are almost the same, You are just further ahead then me time wise).. You would be crazy to leave that man.. (Aqua) But that's just me. I'm not trying to sway you one way or another and I have been wrong before.. lol I'm just saying... Look at the whole picture.
Agreed
by: Dazed

I agree with AquaGirl regarding not putting so much focus onto things. I finally talked with my aqua via text and we were just updating each other on what's going on in our lives. He could tell I was going thru some things without me having to mention it and said that if I ever needed to talk, he has really good ears. That meant a lot to me and snapped me back to where things were most important. I was completely relieved because at that moment I realized how much of a friend he was to me and my focus completely shifted. I feel like a weight was lifted and I can go back to interacting with him how I use to before...when I didn't have so many demands or expectations in my head.

Scorp42 - I wonder if it's a sign that your Gemini is having to move...right when you feel you're stuck between having to choose between two men......
Aquagirl and Dazed
by: Scorp42

Ladies, you couldn't be more correct. There is a level of happiness with my Aqua that I don't get with my Gemini and I have known that for quite some time. I just didn't know what was really going on with my Aqua. I must say that GOD really does love me becuase it makes it much easier for me to let the Gemini go w/o crushing him emotionally. It has also taught me how to calm down and not put so much focus on my Aqua. I feel releaved and happy that things are going where they are going. I will keep my freindship with my Gemini as that had always been the most important part of our relationship. Yesterday proved to me that no matter who I am around he (Aqua) is the man that moves mountains for me. He touched my arm yesterday and it was like he was touching my soul. I don't get that with my Gemini. All that to say I reacted with emotion when me and my Gemini got together instead of really thinking it through. My Aqua knows my situation clearly and he knows my plans and why I am doing what I am doing. All things happen for a reason. So today is a new day for me and I have a bit more clarity in my life.

I have put my whole situation out here and on the outside looking in I know it sounds crazy but you guys have been there with me for a while so you all get it and I THANK YOU!!!!!
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

That's so awesome!!! I hope it continues to work out for you. Have you talked to him yet about making any final decisions or about being together officially?

I know what you mean about the "touching your soul" touch they give you. It's a feeling you can't describe for sure.

I'm getting a little discouraged myself. Some days I'm ok and others I'm not. I have been talking to the Capricorn for a little while now and he really makes me laugh, but it's not the same. I just feel like Aqua Boo is giving me the brush off so I'm not about to stop my life. Arrggghh.. Then again, everything happens for a reason.. lol
Yay!
by: Dazed

Scorp42 - I'm glad that you finally realized what you wanted...even though the rest of us already knew ;) I'm also curious if your aqua knows that you've made your decision so to speak...or will you keep him in suspense?

AquaGirl - I know how you feel. It's hard to try and develop feelings for someone when you don't feel like things are finished with someone else. I would go with your gut feeling and what your intuition tells you regarding your aqua. You stated that you don't want to make the same mistakes again, or end up in the same situation as Scorp42, but do you think it might happen with the Cap if you don't seize the opportunity with him before it's too late? He makes you laugh...and I think that's a great start. But then again, you can't force something that's not there...and that's something else I also understand.
To Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

All I am saying is, I'm not going to stop my life for anyone that is unsure themselves. If Aqua Boo truly wanted me and wanted to take things a little further then of course I wouldn't be talking to anyone else and really I don't do that anyway. I'm talking to the Cap, not dating him, but that doesn't mean it isn't possible for that to happen. For the most part I try to stick to one person at a time. I'm usually too busy to have too many dudes running around anyway and that's just not my thing.
I'm not too sure about Cap boy anyway. He makes me laugh, but he kinda gets on my nerves. That's the other thing, I like Aqua Boo cause I can stand him. lol He is the first in a long time that doesn't get on my nerves and he "gets" me. As most of you all know us Aquas can say some really harsh things at any given moment, but we don't really mean to hurt you, we are just blunt or being a smart A&&... I know I have said some random things to him and he either laughed at it or just blew it off. He didn't get all sensitive about it and wonder why I said what I said. I love that. A lot of people get really upset with me when I joke around because they think I'm too harsh and they take it personal when it wasn't meant to be that way. He doesn't (well he doesn't show it anyway)and I'm the same way with him. If we don't want to comment on something, we just don't, without any questions.

I'm not asking him to sign his life away, I just wish he would come around more often. I have fun with him and I know we would have a great time together no matter what we were out doing.

I was thinking that maybe he isn't brushing me off and maybe he is thinking the same way I am, about trying to give me MY space and not contact me too often. That's for the Birds! At this point we have passed that phase. I'm not going to get scared off now. If that was the case, I would have been gone a long time ago.

AquaGirl
by: Dazed

Your so funny when you said that Cap gets on your nerves...you sounded like a friend of mine who also happens to be an aqua. It is hard to find someone that 'gets' you. I also have a very harsh and sarcastic sense of humor, but I think it's all in fun, however, some people think I'm just being a bitch. I've only met a few people who can hash back what I dish out & get laughs out of it.

I have a question for you, or something I wanted to point out. I think I remember you mentioning in previous posts that your aqua stated he didn't want a relationship. Unless he stated differently after that, I think that could be a lot of why he isn't coming around, or at least not how you like he would. If he has different expectations or views of how he wants relationships in his life to go, it's going to effect how available he is to you, but I don't think it's personal towards you or intentional...just him doing him.

Another question...what do you want from him exactly?
To Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

Yeh he doesn't want a relationship right now, I am aware of this. I'm not trying to pressure him into one, I don't really want one myself. I never said that! Plus that has nothing to do with being a friend and coming around as a friend more often. I was just simply stating (venting) that he makes me laugh and I miss being around him. We can be friends all day, I don't need to have a "Title". I view things differently then most I suppose.
Dazed and Aquagirl
by: Scorp42

Dazed, you have to remember that Aquagirl is an Aquarius. You know how they are with "Friendship." It doesn't mean the same to them as it does to us. We Scorpio's don't get intimate with our friends unless we call them friends with benefits. LOL Aquagirl it has been the best thing ever to have you give us advise and tell us your point of view. It's funny how much Aqua's think and act alike. My Aqua and I have been communicating every day since Sunday. He has been sending me random text's about what is going on in his life or events he has going on. A bit more than he was when we were "together." I seen to have this sense inside me that knows when things are rough for him and he needs me. On the flip side he has the same sense about me. It's crazy. He told me today that I probably didn't know it but my visit to him changed everything for him and it helped him so much. He said that he had been really sad and was so alone. It made me cry. I promised to be a better friend and check on him as he does me. When I got to his place and we started talking his whole face lit up and I knew from then on things would never be the same for me. My Gemini is excited about moving and I am excited for him. Things are working out just the way God intended. I prayed about it and asked God to work it out and help me with my emotion.

I am a living witness that prayer WORKS! I can see my Aqua every now and then and not yearn for him the way I did in the beginning. I know the situation with my Gemini will work out because God has already moved him to another city. I will still continue our friendship w/o guilt and concentrate on being me. Nothing wrong with having 2 fabulous men as true friends. Either of them would do anything for me if I asked. I just won't ask. :-) Boy I tell you Aquagirl you Aqua's sure can be stubborn. I guess it's what makes you you. Lol We love you Aqua's I know that!
To Scorp42 and Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

Thanks for explaining. I'm sure you could tell I was getting a little irritated. lol

I'm glad I have been able to help a little on here. We are very stubborn. That's for sure. Something I have been trying to work on.

I got a strange call today from My Scorpio from the Past!! Not sure what that was all about.

I was thinking about what Dazed had said above and some of it made sense. I have been thinking a lot about my situation. I understand me and Aqua Boo are not together and maybe we never will be, but I do care for him very much and I can honestly see him being a potential "Best Friend" lol... That's when I decided that I need to let it go. He doesn't want that right now and there's nothing I can do to change that. I'm not going to fight for someone that doesn't want to be won. I figure if I don't walk away now, it's going to be harder on me in the end. I have done everything I can at this point. I have told him how I feel and I tried to stick around as long as I could. I don't want to fall head over heels for him when that isn't what he wants. Commitment scares me, but for the first time in forever I can see him in my life. I'm not sure what that means, but It kinda scares me a little. Since we are not on the same page, that tells me I have to go. Of course God keeps giving me signs that I should stick around... That's the only thing that has kept me going this long. In fact the other day when I decided all of this, I was ready to let it all go, I was listening to a song that reminds me of him and he freakin text me out of the Blue!! It was at a odd hour and on an odd day! Kinda made me mad because when I think I'm done, he pops up! But this time was very strange the way it happened. I had asked God to give me a sign the day before and that happened!

It's too bad it has to end like this. Kinda liked the dude... lol
For Aqua Girl
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl, the Aquarian ride is the most dramatic thing I have ever been through. I know where you are with the giving up thing. Of course from experience I can say "It ain't over till it's over!" I don't think I will ever not love my Aquarian. We are in a place right now that is good for the both of us. I've never loved like this before. Sometimes I feel like a crazy person with the on and off an on again thing with my Aquarian. I chalk it up as a learning experience and keep on moving. Who knows what the future has in store. I hope this site is still around when I tell you that me and my Aquarian are getting married. LOL that will be in 2020. :-)
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

HAHA Married?? Not if he can help it.. LOL

I still care about him, I'm just tired. I'm done trying until he can put some effort into it. Being friends with someone shouldn't be this hard.

Where is everyone??? Hope, Dazed, AA, LIG, Whoever else I forgot... Where the heck is everyone?????
Hey
by: Dazed

Hey...

I saw my aqua this week and had a great time with him. We caught up with each other and just enjoyed one another's company. He couldn't stop kissing me! I never noticed how affectionate of a person he was. Anyways, things are much easier with him and a lot smoother when I just enjoy what I have with him. I realized that he'll always be there for me as a friend or whatever else as long as I allow him to be.

I agree with AquaGirl...where is everyone else at?
Whatever!
by: Aqua Girl

Note to self: Don't walk away.... RUN like hell!!

My Aquarian Man packed up and moved
by: LostScorp

OhBoy...
I read each post from the begining. I sure need the support. I lost my love (libra) to cancer and had not dated for 4 years. One night at a club this man caught my eye and he received that ever famous scorpio stare- Laughed and asked for my number, and called every day for a month before I one day called him and asked him to go out for a drink,(the ride starts)....This man had a key to my apt, and lived with me on the days he was not in school (thurs thru Monday morning 530am) for the last year. 2 months ago I came home from work early and found his email open and read communication from a ex, expressing how much they missed each other. I then learned he was planning a trip to visit her. (originally from a different state). Of course I confronted him, and decided he was here and she there, no worries... Last month, (3 wks later) I call him on wednesday to find out if he was coming thursday and he tells me yes, but next weekend he will not. He will be going out of town. I flipped and told him he need not come this weekend. I get home from work the next day and he has moved everything (which I purchased for him)out. When I went to his sisters where he stayed during the week, he threw my apt keys in the car and said it was over...
Understand, I supported mr aqua during this year, claimed him on my taxes, provided everything for him. The rejection was mind blowing!!! From that day, he would not call nor return my calls or text. I became so angry and did the scorpio retaliation... and did some really childish things, all the time, going by to see him, wanting him to come back. After much begging and some stalking, I have now relented. He changed his telephone number, and I have not texted him or emailed him in 2 days ( thats how bad it has been). During this, he has said some mean things to me, but at the same time he has shown sadness. I know I have to totally stop contact, and it is so hard. OPEN TO ALL ADVICE!!
My Aquarian Man packed up and moved
by: LostScorp

OhBoy...
I read each post from the begining. I sure need the support. I lost my love (libra) to cancer and had not dated for 4 years. One night at a club this man caught my eye and he received that ever famous scorpio stare- Laughed and asked for my number, and called every day for a month before I one day called him and asked him to go out for a drink,(the ride starts)....This man had a key to my apt, and lived with me on the days he was not in school (thurs thru Monday morning 530am) for the last year. 2 months ago I came home from work early and found his email open and read communication from a ex, expressing how much they missed each other. I then learned he was planning a trip to visit her. (originally from a different state). Of course I confronted him, and decided he was here and she there, no worries... Last month, (3 wks later) I call him on wednesday to find out if he was coming thursday and he tells me yes, but next weekend he will not. He will be going out of town. I flipped and told him he need not come this weekend. I get home from work the next day and he has moved everything (which I purchased for him)out. When I went to his sisters where he stayed during the week, he threw my apt keys in the car and said it was over...
Understand, I supported mr aqua during this year, claimed him on my taxes, provided everything for him. The rejection was mind blowing!!! From that day, he would not call nor return my calls or text. I became so angry and did the scorpio retaliation... and did some really childish things, all the time, going by to see him, wanting him to come back. After much begging and some stalking, I have now relented. He changed his telephone number, and I have not texted him or emailed him in 2 days ( thats how bad it has been). During this, he has said some mean things to me, but at the same time he has shown sadness. I know I have to totally stop contact, and it is so hard. OPEN TO ALL ADVICE!!
To LostScorp
by: Scorp42

Oh my goodness... I know I am not anyone to give you any advice on this situation. However I do know that the retaliation and stalking pretty much put the last nail in the coffin of the relationship. Wow and I thought my story was out of control. I feel for you because I know what that "hard" feeling is like. Living together... Wow. Maybe I shouldn't ask but are the two of you in your twenties? I can say that ending a loving relationship no matter what sign you are is hard and hurts like nothing else. Time heals all wounds, it just seems as if getting over an Aquarian takes double the normal time.
Oh Boy
by: Aqua Girl

Well being an Aqua myself I can say it's pretty much over. He may forgive you at some point (I doubt it) and agree to be friends, but I don't know. I had 1 Ex do the same thing to me, even worse and we were together 5 years. He stalked me, checked my email, searched the garbage, followed me, begged to get me back, but I was done. I never stayed friends with him either. We have run into each other at a couple funerals and it took everything I had not to punch him in his jaw!! OMG It makes me mad to even think about it.

You may as well chalk this one up and move on. Once you betray our trust like that, there is NO fixing it! EVER! It doesn't matter what you did for him and how much you gave him. Once you go that far, you can forget it. Of course he looked sad because he probably really did like you, but no matter how much he likes you, it doesn't mask what you did to him. The sad thing is, yes he may have been talking to his Ex and telling her he missed her and even planning to go see her, but it may not have been anything serious at all. We stay friends with our ex's. We can do that with no Emotional attachment to them.

Of Course I can't say for sure, I could be wrong... he may be different and it may all work out. But Since he has already packed his bags.. That's not a good sign, especially if he did it when you were not there. That is a clear sign he doesn't want to be bothered with you and probably thinks you are a little loopy.
it doesn't mask what you did to him
by: LostScorp

Of course he looked sad because he probably really did like you, but no matter how much he likes you, it doesn't mask what you did to him.

This is the part I dont understand... What I did to him... he became angry and packed his clothes because I told him not to come that weekend, and threw the keys in my car b4 any of my retaliation started. What about what he did to me?
Does he really not hold himself responsible for some of this?

We are in our 40's.
it doesn't mask what you did to him
by: LostScorp

Of course he looked sad because he probably really did like you, but no matter how much he likes you, it doesn't mask what you did to him.

This is the part I dont understand... What I did to him... he became angry and packed his clothes because I told him not to come that weekend, and threw the keys in my car b4 any of my retaliation started. What about what he did to me?
Does he really not hold himself responsible for some of this?

We are in our 40's. I asked him if he hated me and he said no.
Lost Scorp
by: Dazed

Lost Scorp...

It seems like your aqua just wanted a way out and seized the opportunity when he saw it. I could be wrong...but that's the feeling I get when reading into the situation you presented. I'm sure you both are responsible for how it was handled, but I think it might interest you to just move on. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you...and aqua or not, I'm sure you deserve better.
For Lost
by: Scorp42

I spent some time with my Aquarian last night and talked about your situation. He said to me that in his mind (my Aqua) he would have tapped out after being confronted about the email. He said that everything is not always what it seems at first glance. My Aqua explained that yes he is still friends with quite a few of his ex's and misses some of thier freindship but that's all it is. He said that reading the email is one thing but confronting him on it was something entirely different. He said that you should have let it play out and see what happened. He felt that all trust was gone after the confrontation.

I learned a while ago to ask indirect questions to get the answers I needed from my Aquarian. I would not talk about one situation or person inparticular but ask questions about the ex's and how he felt about them etc... He was brutally honest and I got the answers I wanted. I can't say if he is the type of forgiving Aquarian, but if he is it will take him a lot of time to get past this one. It may have turned out different if there wasn't any retaliation or stalking involved. My Aquarian said after all that he would walk away no matter how much he loved or cared for you. He said that would be way too much for him to handle. Just wanted to give you his take on it all.
gone ...
by: LostScorp

Let me explain the stalking... When he 1st left, that evening when I saw he moved out, I went to his house, The next day I went over and he came back her with me (needless to say why), 2 days later b4 he left town, I picked him up and we came to the apartment but took him back that same night, he didnt want to stay over. (all my suggestions). We havent been together since he has come back, he changed his phone number, I have gone by his house 3 times in these 2 weeks. The first time we talked, is when he said he didnt hate me, the second time he ignored me,and was upset because I indicated that I would come back the next day, but didnt. the last time he wouldnt come out to even talk to me. I havent tried to email, text,call or go by him since. Thats been 1 week.
Lonely Aquarius
by: CrackaSmile

It's really hard for us aquarian men to really feel loved. We are lonely and sort of enjoy it. I have many experiences with scorpio women and it becomes a disaster. good luck, chin up and peace bewitch you.
Lost Scorp & Everyone
by: Aqua Girl

Yeh The email is what I was talking about when I said what you did to him. That would have done it for me! It doesn't matter if he left it up or you came home early and found it. You had NO business going into his personal information and reading anything AND the fact that you comfronted him over it... Bad bad bad. At that point it was probably over in his eyes or getting close. If you have been the one initiating contact with him and going to his house, of course he is going to be nice and talk to you, because he is probably trying to keep the peace with you so nothing crazy happens. I know that's what I did with my Ex Crazy. I never made contact with him, but when he contacted me I just tried to keep the peace so he didn't go all crazy on me. It didn't work all the time. I was hoping he would just walk away and give up on me but it took 2 years of him stalking me and me having to call the police everyday for him to get the point.

Update: Not sure what is going on with my Aqua Boo. Haven't spent quality time in a while and he blew me off again. I kinda thought we were past that phase. I'm pretty sure he has a Girlfriend or something taking up his time. He doesn't seem very interested anymore until he runs into me then he acts like I'm the one blowing him off. I did get him a card for Sweetest day, but he blew me off prior to that and didn't even contact me on Sweetest day so I didn't make contact either and I "filed" the card! I know we are not together, but he does hold a special place in my heart and I just wanted to do something sweet to show him that. Oh well. Never again!
To: CrackaSmile
by: Aqua GIrl

Welcome Mr. Aqua.

A couple questions for you:

What do you mean it's hard for you to feel loved?

If you like someone and she was always the one to initiate contact with you in the beginning and then just stops, but still seems into you, do you start contacting her more often or just let it go?
Scared to walk in here :)
by: Aquarian118

Aquarius man here checking in. I recently broke up with my Scorpio so wanted to offer an opinion because I loved her and still do. This thread reminds me why we split up:

It started out light and fun. Everything was perfect and we were all over each other. As time went on she became more and more intense. It started out feeling flattering but after a while it just wore me out. It was like an emotional boxing match. Just too much work eventually.

It seemed like as the relationship settled into a pattern I became the focus of her world, while she became just an important part of mine. I think that's the problem with Scorp and Aqua relationships. Different priorities. I can love someone without needing to know what they're doing 24/7 or seeing them every day. Space is good. It's healthy.
To: Aquarian118
by: Aqua Girl

Welcome Aquarian118,

Don't worry, come on in! We don't bite.. Not too hard anyway... lol We certainly can appreciate an Aqua mans perspective on things.

I am not a Scorp, but I do understand where you are coming from. As an Aquarian myself, I feel the same way about relationships. I believe that is why I am having such trouble with my Aqua Boo. We are too much alike. We get along great, but then when one of us gets closer, the other backs up and we keep going around in circles. We both really like each other a lot, but then if it gets to intense we pull away. Right now he is pulling away and it drives me insane, but then when he gets closer I freak out or think I have something to prove and then back away from him. But when we are actually together we don't think about it and we have the best time ever. Although right now, I think he may have someone else... ; (

I was with a Scorp man once and he wanted to be up under me ALL the time. Like you said, it was cool in the beginning, but then it gets scary and exhausting after a while. There has to be a happy medium between the two.

Well welcome to the site. You will learn a lot from the Scorp ladies on here. I know they will love to speak with you and the other Aqua man that joined. Just give them some time to re-surface. I think their Aqua's have brain washed them... LOL

HOPE, SCORP42, LIG, DAZED..... WHERE DID YOU GO?? DON'T LEAVE ME ALONE ON HERE.... lol

Hello
by: Dazed

Hey...

Aquarian 118 - I'm sorry to hear about your break-up. What you're saying makes complete sense and I think it's very important for two people in a relationship to have lives outside each other. Sometimes my aqua will want to see me while I'm studying..and even though I fein for his company, I purposely tell him no because I need to focus on my life without him. We scorps feel things very intensely and it's hard to keep it all bottled up inside. I can see how it would have been easy for your scorp to make you her world...says a lot about you as well. However, I can see where the problem is, especially if you feel unnecessary pressure put on you. Try talking to her, or encourage her to go out with friends or take up hobbies. I hope you're able to work things out with your scorp. The aqua, scorp dynamic can be a rollercoaster...but worth it.

AquaGirl - The tug-of-war thing can be exhausting...but someone has to give. I'm a VERY prideful person and don't like anyone to know how I feel about them because I feel it gives them the upper hand, but really it's just about exposing yourself and being vulnerable...which can be really uncomfortable. However, when I let all that go...I noticed a big difference in my situation with my aqua. He's way more responsive and I see him a lot now. Next time your aqua comes around, be there because there's really nothing to prove other than you like him. There were times I felt completely rejected by my aqua and my pride just wanted to say fuck it and move on. However, I noticed the rejection was just my ego being bruised because I couldn't get what I wanted...it's not like my aqua really did anything wrong or purposely hurt me. I'm curious...why do you think your aqua has another girl? Well I hope a perspective of my situation can help you with yours.
It is what it is
by: Aqua Girl

That's the problem. Whenever he comes around I am Always there! It's when I come around, he isn't. I'm tired and I'm making this into a bigger deal then it should be. It's getting way too emotional for me and I can't take it. I'm moving on. I know that is easier said then done but I have to do it. Now if I can just get myself to the point where I'm standing directly in front of him and can still say I'm done.... Now that's a different story.

There is a Cap and a Leo that is trying to get my attention. More so the Leo at this point. It makes me sick to even think about it, but I may give Leo a chance. I know I said I wouldn't go there, but honestly I don't see Aqua Boo coming around any time soon. I care for him so much but if he isn't into me, there is no point in waiting around. In fact I usually just walk away from people quietly, but I have been thinking about telling my Aqua Boo next time I see him that I'm done. The only thing is, he did something last week that I pretty much predicted he would do because he hadn't heard from me in a while. It was the sweetest thing ever, but I had to play it off like I didn't know why he did it. Then when we tried to make plans he blew me off. So it threw off my whole thought process. Like why would he go through all that just to run into me, but then blow me off when we make plans. Maybe that was his way of saying he was mad at me for not contacting him for a long time. Yeh that's got to be it. He had to feel in control again.
What a snot! Well his "In Control" days are about to be over because I can't deal with it anymore.
Hello
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

I have been in my shell lately, but I have been reading the posts. What's up Aqua Girl! I see you been holding things down for us. Sorry I haven't been up here but I have been doing some reflecting and all that other good stuff when it comes to life's up and downs.

Just wanted to say hello and let you know I'm still here.

You know it's been almost a year since I started this post and we finally have more than one Aqua male responding...LOL...

I just came out of my shell for a minute...will really get INTENSE later...LOL
Hello
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

I have been in my shell lately, but I have been reading the posts. What's up Aqua Girl! I see you been holding things down for us. Sorry I haven't been up here but I have been doing some reflecting and all that other good stuff when it comes to life's up and downs.

Just wanted to say hello and let you know I'm still here.

You know it's been almost a year since I started this post and we finally have more than one Aqua male responding...LOL...

I just came out of my shell for a minute...will really get INTENSE later...LOL
Hello
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

I have been in my shell lately, but I have been reading the posts. What's up Aqua Girl! I see you been holding things down for us. Sorry I haven't been up here but I have been doing some reflecting and all that other good stuff when it comes to life's up and downs.

Just wanted to say hello and let you know I'm still here.

You know it's been almost a year since I started this post and we finally have more than one Aqua male responding...LOL...

I just came out of my shell for a minute...will really get INTENSE later...LOL
Hello
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

I have been in my shell lately, but I have been reading the posts. What's up Aqua Girl! I see you been holding things down for us. Sorry I haven't been up here but I have been doing some reflecting and all that other good stuff when it comes to life's up and downs.

Just wanted to say hello and let you know I'm still here.

You know it's been almost a year since I started this post and we finally have more than one Aqua male responding...LOL...

I just came out of my shell for a minute...will really get INTENSE later...LOL
Chance
by: Dazed

Aquagirl - I think you should give the leo a shot! I love leo's...I think they are so fun, and very open and upfront people. I'm surprised you're willing or even said you would give him a shot considering Mr. Cap was a no go. I can see why you're getting tired of the situation with aqua...seems like there's a little game playing going on, which can get old real quick. Either way, do what will make you happy!

Hi LIG!
Something New
by: Aqua Girl

Soooo. I ended up going out with the Cap last night for the first time. (I know, I Know..) Very interesting, but we had a great time. He is real cool. There wasn't any of that opening the door, mushy stuff. He was a gentleman of course, but It was just friendly and relax. We joked around and threw paper at each other all night. It was fun. We went out for a few drinks and I went home. He said the next time we will have to do something different like Dinner or Bowling.

To All
by: Scorp42

Hi All. Sorry I have been away so long. A big welcome to the Aquarian men that have joined us! Aquarius 118 you sound just like my Aqua. I bet he was feeling the same way when he told me to start dating others. The great thing about him telling me that and me moving on "sort of" woke me up a bit. I realized that my mind and my emotion had way more power over me that I thought. Of course i am still emotional and intense but I have learned to use it in different ways with my Aquarian. Oh Happy Birthday to my Scorpio ladies birthday past and coming!!! Once again my Aquarian did it again and suprized me on my birhtday. He brought me the most beautiful roses and the sweetest, cutest card to my job!! Things are going quite well now that I stay busy and have to make time for my Aqua. The Gemini situation is fizzling out and in a nice way. Things worked out just like I had hoped and no one got hurt! Thank you Lord!!! Aquagirl you were right, being busy and not having much time for my Aqua has made his love for me grow tremendously! i have finally settled in to it and I kinda like it this way. I make it seem as if I am sneaking around to see my Aquarian and it seems to turn him on a bit. Not a problem, I can play this game for years! Loving the drama so to speak myself. After visiting him I act as if I have to leave as soon as possible so I don't get caught. It's thrilling to the both of us. Anyway, I hope things work out for you and the new friend Aquagirl.
Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Well I'm glad things are going good for you. I am always busy myself, but it doesn't seem to get me any where with Aqua. I'm so tired of this game and being blown off. It would be different if we seen each other a lot and he broke plans once in a while, but when we don't even see each other and he continues to make and break plans, it makes me sick. Clearly he isn't that into me, so I have to let it go... I'm done trying.

Cap Man is cool. I talked to him today. We will probably go out again soon, but Honestly I'm not really feeling it right now.

<<<<
by: Dazed

Aquagirl - I'm glad you had a good time with your Cap. Hopefully the good times will continue. He sounds pretty adventurous, or at least creative in places to choose for dates. Fun!
HEEELLLLOO
by: Aqua Girl

Where the heck is everyone??

Just checking in.
I'm Here
by: Scorp42

Hey Aquagirl, I am here. I guess no one has anything going on. Things are the same here. I still see my Aqua once a week, lately twice a week. We are back to communicating with each other every day again. I still keep it short and sweet, which seems to draw him in even more. I think I get it now. My Gemini will be leaving perminantly in a few weeks and I have gotten very involved in my church so things are looking up. Can't say that my Aquarian and I will ever take this any further than it is but I am having fun in the mean time.

Aquarian guys where did you go?
I'm Here Too
by: Life is Good

HELLO EVERYONE!

I'm still here! Choosing to have nothing going on my way. I don't communicate with the aquarian I cared for. He had death in his family and I texted him to see if he was ok. He called me to let me know that he was and I haven't heard from him since. I decided that I don't ever have to initiate communication with him again. We were never on the same page and I choose to leave it at that. I found out that he never was interested in me and I will never let him know that I found out. You see I am a Scorpion who can live life true to me and accept otherrs who haven't matured failures. I have never wanted to live a fantasy life and be with anyone that didn't want to be with me. That's just me and I don't see me changing. At this point, I believe in actions speaking louder than words and anything that Mr. Aqua ever told me, whether he was flirting, exaggerating, lying, or being honest is considered null and void to me now. I never thought it would come to this but I had to make a decision to love and respect myself and my feelings and not expect him to do so!

On a good note...I will be celebrating my 42nd birthday tomorrow and I can still say that through these last 2 years of BS and lies with Mr. Aqua....LIFE IS STILL GOOD!

Still will check in from time to time. Until then...be blessed!
I'm Here Too
by: Life is Good

HELLO EVERYONE!

I'm still here! Choosing to have nothing going on my way. I don't communicate with the aquarian I cared for. He had death in his family and I texted him to see if he was ok. He called me to let me know that he was and I haven't heard from him since. I decided that I don't ever have to initiate communication with him again. We were never on the same page and I choose to leave it at that. I found out that he never was interested in me and I will never let him know that I found out. You see I am a Scorpion who can live life true to me and accept otherrs who haven't matured failures. I have never wanted to live a fantasy life and be with anyone that didn't want to be with me. That's just me and I don't see me changing. At this point, I believe in actions speaking louder than words and anything that Mr. Aqua ever told me, whether he was flirting, exaggerating, lying, or being honest is considered null and void to me now. I never thought it would come to this but I had to make a decision to love and respect myself and my feelings and not expect him to do so!

On a good note...I will be celebrating my 42nd birthday tomorrow and I can still say that through these last 2 years of BS and lies with Mr. Aqua....LIFE IS STILL GOOD!

Still will check in from time to time. Until then...be blessed!
To All
by: Aqua Girl

Well I don't know about anyone else, but I'm still here!! Hope everyone is good.

I haven't spent quality time with Aqua Boo for almost 2 months now and haven't talked to him in a couple weeks. I can pretty much say it's over at this point.

I never went back out with Cap boy. I'm just not feeling it.

Leo Man on the other hand won't leave me alone. He text me everyday to say Good morning or he will send me some goofy picture. He is really trying hard with me and I won't budge. The sad thing is and I realized this later on, that I'm doing the same thing to him that Aqua Boo is doing to me... I didn't do it on purpose either. I guess I'm just not putting much effort into Leo Man because I'm into Aqua Boo.

ArrrggghhhH! Yeh I know.. Any girl would die for the treatment that Leo man has been trying to give me, but NOOOO not me!! Not Miss Aqua Pants. I have to want what I can't have!!!
For Aqua Girl and LIG
by: Scorp42

You make me laugh Aquagirl. Happy belated birthday! I just turned 43 in late Oct. myself. Well My Aquarian and I still stay in contact almost every day. He was going to visit me last night but it was too late and we were both tired. Gemini and I still talk on occation but nothing is going on there. I went out on a date Friday night and had a great time. I will continue to date others but nothing intimate except with my Aquarian. I have not seen my Aquarian in a couple weeks now and I am starting to miss him. I told him I missed him a little and wanted to see him. I hope I see him sometime today. The Friday date was more of a hang out. I don't know what sign he is, and the way he behaved with me makes me think he is an Aquarius as well. I won't ask at this point though. Don't want to do more with him than hang out or see a movie or two. It is a bit of an adjustment for me not to have Gemini around a lot but it's kind of nice.

LIG, I bet when you go on with your life and don't contact your Aqua for a long while he will resurface. Don't you just hate it?

I've started to take a different aproach to my Aquarian. When I contact him I tell him things I would my best friend. I say what I have to say and move on. He still contacts me if he doesn't hear from me in a bit and makes sure all is okay with me. There are many times I want to contact him but I don't am I am okay with that. I can now see him about once a week and still keep my sanity. I know that he loves me because he tells me on occation and I know if I need him he will be there. He knows the same about me. Since Gemini re-entered my life I have only told my Aquarian that I loved him once. I keep my emotions to myself, which I should have done from the start with my Aquarian. You live and you learn right?

To Scorp 42
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Question for ya. Did you ever tell your Aqua that you were done with him via email or text (Since they don't use the phone much) and he didn't respond right away? If So, how long did it take him to respond? And what did he say?
For Aquagirl
by: Scorp42

Remember he decided I needed to date others. I did tell him via text that he broke my heart. That got immediate response being that he never wants to hurt anyone. If I ask something he doesn't like I may never get a response. I wouldn't tell him I was done I'd just tell myself over and over again
For Aquagirl
by: Scorp42

Remember he decided I needed to date others. I did tell him via text that he broke my heart. That got immediate response being that he never wants to hurt anyone. If I ask something he doesn't like I may never get a response. I wouldn't tell him I was done I'd just tell myself over and over again
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

I told him I was done. You would think that if he cared, he would have responded right??
Aquagirl
by: Dazed

I think he would have responded to at least reassure you that he would still be there. When I told my aqua in the beginning that if he wasn't interested to just say so...he responded right away and reassured me it wasn't that.

I think you're doing the right thing by moving on.
Must Be That Time
by: Scorp42

I kid you not, it must be that time of year for Aquarian men. my Aqua and I still stay in contact almost every day but... I don't know. We haven't seen each other in three weeks now. I do know that he has been busy as ever now and trying to get things moving and shaking in his life. I miss him but i am keeping my distance.

Aquagirl, you are an Aquarian and you know all too well the kind of pride you have. He has not responded because he has too much pride. You said you were done and you know how easy it is for you Aquarians to walk away. However this time around you are getting a taste of your own medicine. I hate to say it that way but you Aquarians are so stubborn. But like I always say, you can't stay away from an Aquarian. Geez it's like an addiction or something. I am trying my best to walk away slowly and sweetly. It's not easy. One day at a time is what I say.
To Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

Yes you are right we are stubborn.
And I'm sure he is thinking the same thing about me. The thing is... I already came back once. I cut it off before without telling him and he got the hint, then I came back and now I'm gone again but this time I told him about it.
I didn't do it to hurt anyone, I did it so I wouldn't get hurt anymore then I am. Really he did nothing wrong. I just got tired of being blown off. Why even try to make plans when you know you can't or won't follow through. My time is very valuable to me and if I put aside a few hours of my time for someone, they better respect it. I understand things come up and emergencies happen, but when you are doing it because something better came up, I have a problem with that.
I know we were not together, but he didn't even treat me like a real friend until he wanted something. I was ok with it in the beginning, but it's getting old. It's crazy because I kinda understand it since I have been accused of the same thing before, but I don't like it! lol

I'm crushed and pissed off at the same time. It took a lot out of me to send that message. Made me sick! Then after I sent it I wanted to take it back so bad, but then I thought, We keep going in circles. I just can't take it anymore. It sucked because just before then he was being so sweet to me... but I had to do it.
I didn't want it to get to this point. I know he will reach his breaking point and call, but it will take some time. I know he cares a little. I just don't think it's enough to matter.

I miss his crazy a&& so much, but he makes me so angry. Poor guys, I must have put them through hell. lol
HERE GOES...
by: Life is Good

Hello Everyone!

I've been trying to keep up with all the posts, but wasn't in the mood to really respond. Scorp42, you were right as usual...LOL...My Aquarian friend has resurfaced. But this time I have decided that I will just look at him as a friend from now on. I am not pushing anything romantic with him. It's really nice to hear from him when I do and if I think I need to check up on him...I do.

Aquarian men and any man has their quirks, as do Scorpio women and any other women. I read astrology and I read the responses that come to this site, but I have learned that Life is full of ups and downs, surprises, happiness, and sadness. My experience/relationship with this man who happens to be born under the sign of Aquarius has changed my life for the better and Good. Having someone of his 'in his shell'/'out of his shell' type personality has made me look at who and what is important to me, how my present has been affected by my past decisions, and how I have to be patient with people and life itself. I have put my trust in God that He will lead and guide me in this friendship that we will be there for each other, learn to understand each other's ways, and be able to communicate with respect, admiration, but most of all STRAIGHT UP HONESTY!

My Aquarian friend has been going through a lot and I have chosen to be there to listen as a friend. Whenever we communicate, I tell him I love him and I'm praying for him...which is the truth. I think he realizes that I accept his different mood swings and will not take it personally. I share things that's going on with me and this friendship has grown. I am thankful that he has chosen me to be a confidante and a friend. We both have gone through a lot with our past marriages and other situations and it's a blessing to have him as MY FRIEND!

Be blessed everybody! LIFE IS GOOD! :-D
To All
by: Aqua Girl

Hey Hey LIG... Glad to hear from you and see things are going well.

Hi Dazed.. I think I missed your post last time around.. I have been kinda out of it. I'm sure you can understand. Hope all is well with you.

How is everyone? It's funny how certain people, especially the guys will drop in and say something, then they never come back.

I know some people think these sites are cheesy, but it has really helped me. It's a good way to vent about things anonymously and since I don't tell my business to my friends, it works for me.

I'm still out here standing my ground!! lol
I refuse to give in this time!!! No way.
To All
by: Aqua Girl

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone! Hope you all have a Blessed day!!!
Happy Thanksgiving!!
by: Life is Good

Thanks Aqua Girl! And I have to say Happy Thanksgiving to everyone else as well! Today was a great day and I am/was very happy about spending time with friends since I wasn't able to spend it with my family. I even had the nicest chat with my Aqua friend! :-D Couldn't have ask for a better day after all! Be. Blessed!!!
Happy Thanksgiving!!
by: Life is Good

Thanks Aqua Girl! And I have to say Happy Thanksgiving to everyone else as well! Today was a great day and I am/was very happy about spending time with friends since I wasn't able to spend it with my family. I even had the nicest chat with my Aqua friend! :-D Couldn't have ask for a better day after all! Be. Blessed!!!
Happy Thanksgiving!!
by: Life is Good

Thanks Aqua Girl! And I have to say Happy Thanksgiving to everyone else as well! Today was a great day and I am/was very happy about spending time with friends since I wasn't able to spend it with my family. I even had the nicest chat with my Aqua friend! :-D Couldn't have ask for a better day after all! Be. Blessed!!!
Whatever
by: Aqua Girl

Stubborn Ass!!!!!

That's all I got right now...
Hey
by: Dazed

Hey...Hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving.

Well my aqua has pulled another distancing act. We were doing really good for a while...seeing each other every week and also keeping each other updated. We've even talked about 'us,' in that he said that he likes me, but is just a very cautious person. I told him I understand because I am the same way, and he said that we just need to be more open with each other. I realized that I just can't take it anymore. I'm going to have to tell him that I'm just not cool with how he goes about needing his space. He poofs with absolutely no word and ignores me when I reach out to him. I don't demand any of his time, I don't pressure him into shit, when he has other shit going on or is busy I don't complain...but now I just feel like I'm being disrespected. I know he's not trying to intentionally hurt me, and I have no problem with him needing space (I like my freedom too!)...but I have to start setting boundaries for what I expect and need because if not, this will begin to set the tone for whatever me and him can potentially develop. It's not all about him...it's about me too and he needs to know that. He needs to know that it's not ok to simply ignore me all because he wants space. At this point I have no problem walking away if he isn't willing to accommodate my feelings. Any suggestions or advice?
Oh My
by: Scorp42

Dazed please don't do that! I will explain later today.
Oh My
by: Scorp42

Dazed please don't do that! I will explain later today.
To Dazed
by: Aqua Girl

STOP!!! Dazed, don't do that. Say nothing.... OMG He will be gone forever.. I know it's frustrating, trust and believe I know... But once you step on our tails and play the Need more time card, it will be over. You think he is distant now, wait til that happens. Don't confront him at all!! The best thing to do with these guys is act like you don't care.. I mean You can care, but don't act like his distance act bothers you. It will take some time and he will come crawling around, but he is stubborn!!! We want what we can't have and it takes a lot to ruffle our feathers, but once we get to that point he will show he cares. Trust me! I know I'm in a battle with mine right now, but that's because we are the same sign. It's awful and I miss him so much, but I have to stay strong. Something really crazy happened to me yesterday and it was yet another sign not to let him go, even though I already told him I had to. Just try to keep yourself busy, don't always give into him and make him "think" he is not ALL you think about and need! Once we feel someone Needs us we get nervous. He will always be a little on the distant side though and always busy. Even if he starts warming up to you, he will always have his distant side, so if you know for sure it's something you can't handle, then you may want to rethink some things. Just take a deep breath and try to deal with it. Let it ride out for a little while. See what happens.
For Dazed
by: Scorp42

Dazed the first thing you need to know is that giving an Aquarian man an ultimatum will be the end of your relationship FOREVER!!! If you remember from my posts long ago, when an Aquarian man is really falling for you hard he will act as if he doesn't even care about you. He is aalmost hooked then. Stop thinking like an emotional Scorpio, I know what you are going through all to well. You must remember that you can make suttle suggestions long down the road when you start seeing him either emotionally open up to you or he starts to reveal emotions to you. What you need to understand as a Scorpio is that yes we all call it space, however when he is not with you trust me you are on his mind. But then again so is a million other things.

Aquarian men need to be alone and often to get their heads together and think through their life. When you think he is living it up and spending his time with a million other women, usually that is so far from the truth. When he is not responding to you he is deep in his head. If this man is worth it you have to have patients. It took me a long time to get it. please do not take his not being around or not responding personal. I, after quite some time with my Aquarian did say to him clamly and sweetly that not responding to text messages or phone calls is very rude. Now you must also not send text after text when he doesn't respond. You do know it is test to see if you have a life outside of him. Read what Aquarius 118 said. Chill and find yourself outside of him. it's hard but dooable.
*sigh*
by: Dazed

Hey everyone...

I think I was just trippin' earlier. I get what both of you are saying. First let me say, I would never give him an ultimatum...I wouldn't give anyone an ultimatum because I think it's just an unfair way about going things for any situation. I do care about him, and it's not about me not seeing him that gets to me, it's the fact that I get ignored. Trust me, I don't send text after text or blow his shit up. I sent one text earlier last week to see what he was up to, no response; then I sent another text on Thanksgiving to wish him a happy one and no response. Since then, I haven't reached out to him...it's quite obvious he needs space.

I have a life outside of him and he knows that because this is something he has mentioned to me before...he stated he knows that I am different. When I'm too busy to see him I let him know, I'll pass on plans to see him because I have to study, I won't cancel girl's night to be with him...I do make sure to have a life of my own, as this is something that's very important to me in general. It's funny because right when I slightly let my guard down a little, he got distant. I wonder if it was something he sensed...he felt me opening up to him more, so maybe it freaked him out a little. Who knows...

Anyways, I guess what worries me is that he's gonna pull one of those disappearing acts where he poofs for as long as a month. How fair is that to me? This is what I wanted to clear up about my earlier post. I don't plan on saying anything to him as of now because he hasn't disappeared for too long. I meant to say that if he disappears for a month...how can I respect that?
Dazed
by: Scorp42

Remember what I said about the almost being hooked part. He is being distant after you two spent time talking about you two in general. Remember they disappear after those talks. Now when he does resurface you may notice a very attentive and sweet man. Giving you just a bit more of himself then he did before. I usually happens that way. Also you have to give him time to close any open "relationships" so to speak before the two of you go to the next level. Remember he never wants to hurt anyone. He leaves relationships very slowly and gets into them very slowly as well. Don't take what Aquagirl and I said personal. I knew it was just a huge vent session. I have had quite a few in this thread myself. LOL You have to do something. You were clearly feeling a lot of emotion when you wrote that. Emotion, it's our big blessing and curse all the same.
To Dazed and Scorp42
by: Aqua Girl

I love you Scorp42... lol You always know what to say... ; )

See we are tricky people. Aquas I mean. But she is right, when he comes back each time he will be sweeter and sweeter. The other thing is I'm learning, that when we hear something we don't like, it goes in one ear and out the other! And the fact that we want what we can't have comes into play here. I told him twice that I was done. He was stubborn for a fews days and I didn't hear from him, but now he is right back at it again. : )Just like I never said I was done. He didn't hear that part I guess. lol

The thing that really irritates me is when we do see each other he is sweeter then the last time, but then the distant afterwards is longer as well. It's like the closer he feels to me, the further away he goes for a while.
I know when I don't see him I get very upset and I feel defeated, but when I see him again I'm on cloud 9. I have really learned a lot about myself during this whole process and How I come off to others. I am just like him and it's annoying. lol If I can just learn to keep my emotions in check this time and keep my mouth shut, we will be alright...
This is a great site for venting.. It has helped me so much. Just make sure you check in with us before you make any dumb moves... LOL

Take care ladies.. GOOD LUCK! The ride has just begun.

Thx
by: Dazed

Hey guys...

I have heard that saying about aquas that the more distant they get the more they like you. I guess I'll just wait it out and see.

Thanks for all the advice and insight. This place really is a good outlet for venting, you have no idea! I was really on one earlier! Anyways, I'm going to take your guys advice and just play it cool, and just continue going about my life. I'll make sure to check in before I do anything impulsive or dramatic.

Thanks again!
Aww...
by: Scorp42

Aquagirl I love you too! If it weren't for your Aquarian insight I may not have lasted this long with my Aqua. I just tell it like I see it. After a couple years of truly studying my Aquarian I have learned a lot and don't mind telling it. My Gemini is totally out of the picture and I thank God for him. He came when I needed the attention and affection. It also showed me that I was still deeply in love with my Aquaraian and I needed to keep the faith of all the signs God have given me that my Aqua was the one.

We are doing quite well these days. I think me being with another woke my Aqua up a bit. We are finally at the place where I don't need to see or talk to him all the time and I don't have that anxiety about not seeing him. Well now that I don't have that any more we talk every day and have been seeing each other regularly. I guess I am where he wanted me to be all along. He isn't the focus of my world and it is really nice to take a break from my norm and have him to spend time with. It feels good to know that he didn't write me off nor I him. We just recently spent a lot of time together doing the things we used to do. It felt nice to be in that place w/o all of my drama. I think of him often but not as crazed as I used to. If he is there cool and if he is busy then finally that's cool too. I appreciate our time together so much more now. He owes me nothing and I owe hm nothing. I used to think that he owed me the time I was asking for because I gave him what he was asking for. I realized it was my fault for always giving him what ever I could and I didn't get the same in return. It was my choice then to always be available. Oh well... We live and we learn right? I must say that I am really smiling these days.
Finally....
by: Aqua Girl

Yeh We do live and learn and I learn something new everyday about Aqua Boo, but if I just look into myself a little deeper I will find it as well. Another new tip and this may not be for all Aqua's but it sure is for me and him and the other few that I know. We like a little excitment. That's why when we can't have something we have to fight for it. It's exciting to us. There has to be some kind of excitment in our lives or we get bored and move on. It's hard to explain. We don't like fighting and drama, but a little attitude once in while from our loved one helps a little. lol We love fantasy things... Things we can't have. Like for me, I like the guys that have a little roughness to them. I'm kinda fiesty myself so I need a man that can handle me and put me in my place at times. Not beat me up...lol But put me in check. Just depends what he is checking me about. As long as it doesn't have to do with my freedom and space Im ok. I can't stand someone that backs down during every argument and lets me have my way. I need someone to stand their ground. I need someone with some backbone! Also need a little role play or excitement in the bedroom and in all areas of my life. I don't know what your guys like or are into, but try doing something you don't usually do. Maybe walk in the bedroom with some TALL heels (and nothing else) and red lipstick... Or something like that. ALL guys love that. But that's what they look for. Especially Aquas. That's why settling down is so hard, because we don't want to lose our freedom, but we also don't want to fall into a routine and get bored. You HAVE to keep it exciting. But that's only after you get past the beginning stages. If you do it in the beginning he will freak and run. Just slowly work your way into it. You have to NOT be availble all the time. His mind needs to wander and wonder where you are, why are you not answering, are you with someone else, why didn't you kiss him like you always do just before you leave.... It ruffles their feathers and makes them want you even more. DO NOT get into routine!!!! and if you ever live with him or are with him a lot! Don't just come home from a long day and slip into old Grandma PJ's... Keep those dress clothes and heels on while your making dinner or whatever..
Oh and the more you say you don't need or want something... the more of it you will get.. LOL
To the Aquas!
by: Anonymous

I’m not sure how it happened
And now I just don’t care
I just know that I love you
With a love so rare

I know you are uneasy
Of this you want no part
And so I promise you’ll not see
These things that rule my heart

I promise I won’t tell you
Your mystery stirs my soul
I’ll never look into your eyes
And lose my self control

I won’t reach out to touch your hand
No matter what the urge
I’ll never tell you how I feel
When my emotions surge

I’ll promise not tell you how
My heartbeat always skips
When I dream I’m kissing you
Upon your so sweet lips

I’ll never let you know that you
Reside in all my dreams
And when my tortured soul feels pain
It’s your name that it screams

And last I’ll never ask you why
You can’t love one like me
I’ll never make you tell me that
Our love can never be

I ask for nothing in return
Just please let me stay near
Do not remove me from your life
It's now my greatest fear
To Aquagirl
by: Dazed

I'm glad that you mentioned having a backbone because there was a topic I wanted to get opinions on. I've heard that aquas sometimes use their distance as a test, possibly to see how much you care, and they like to test how much you'll let them get away with.

Sometimes you kind of feel stuck between a rock and a hard place because you realize someone's need for freedom, but at the same time wonder if they're trying to test you. So how exactly are you suppose to go about it? I've heard mixed responses...some say to ignore it and eventually the aqua will follow suit wondering what's going on. I've also heard that aquas like people who stand up for themselves and don't let them get away things...it's good to have boundaries with them or else they'll be bouncing all over the place. Any thoughts?