Aries and Cancer can be challenging relationship to make work. The low scores represent the initial compatibility of this match. However, you are both strong willed enough to make this work, and if you succeed the scores will be much higher.
If you can both adapt to the others style this is a relationship which will improve steadily over time, and eventually rival any other match. The low scores represent a high initial challenge, and not a long term pessimistic view.
These scores show the averages for data collected from my clients over the past 20 years. It's important to note however that individual relationships vary enormously. This is a summarized picture, a real compatibility reading is needed to judge a real relationship. It's also worth noting that Soulmates can be found in any sun sign match, even those which are statistically likely to have low compatibility.
This article is in two halves, the first is written from the viewpoint of the Aries man or Aries woman, and the second is written from the viewpoint of the Cancer man or Cancer woman.
The potential is there for this to be a great team, however your styles are radically different. Your Cancer is likely to see you as too adventurous, while you're likely to see them as too sensitive.
Aries often have big plans, while Cancer is often more focused on family and home. This can work great if you each want those respective roles - world domination, and a home cooked dinner - it doesn't get much better than that!
The first thing to note in this relationship is that Cancers tend to be fairly moody. There are both good and bad sides to this.
On the plus side (for an Aries) this tends to make them unpredictable and exciting lovers. You'll never know exactly what you're in store for on a given day. Tears, laughter, wild sex or heated arguments - it's like a sampler plate, and many Aries love it!
On the negative side it's often hard for an Aries to empathize with this level of emotional activity. In itself that's no big deal, however your Cancer partner will expect you to be supportive and nurturing when they need it. So you need to be on the look out for those occasions - and go into cuddly mode as needed.
Some Aries have a problem with this - but this partner is worth it. They'll repay you tenfold when you need support and understanding (hey, it could happen!)
Other significant differences of opinion you should be aware of and work to overcome:
Aries often fear being trapped in a relationship, while your Cancer fears being abandoned. Be sensitive to this, and offer reassurance when appropriate. As dumb as it may sound to many Aries, saying "I love you" at every opportunity means a lot to Cancers - it doesn't cost you anything, and will save an awful lot of repair work if you neglect it. This isn't the type of partner you can ignore for a month and come back to find everything normal!
If you can't find it in you to get mushy once an hour (some Aries really can't) then if all else fails - be a little jealous! Cancer is a very loyal partner, but they are nearly always reassured by (polite!) displays of jealousy or even possessiveness... it's a non-mushy way to show you care. (Note there is a world of difference between "noticing" and flying into rage. I'm talking the former not suggesting you pick fights over it, or you risk defeating the purpose)
Another major difference between you is that you look to the future and cancer looks mainly to the past. Your partner likes stability and security while you like challenge and adventure.
The implication of this is that you like to deal with the here and now and move on, while Cancer likes to remember the past, which includes the bad as well as the good. Due to this it's likely at times that you'll see your Cancer partner as overly sensitive, emotional and sulky, while they will see you as overly impulsive, uncaring and domineering.
You both need to step back and see the other persons viewpoint on this. If you can meet in the middle the rewards are well worth it.
While you may enjoy the friction and passion created by this match initially, there's a high risk of your Cancer lover becoming burned out and frustrated by it, unless you can offer a substantial amount of reassurance and quality time together.
You like passion, heat and volatility, while Cancer likes to mix it up a bit more - including being romantic fairly regularly.
This is a great way to get some variety, so try not to fight it. This partner can be just as spontaneous as you if they're in the mood - and in the long term it's the best way to get them into that mood. Look on the mushy times as an investment, and they will pay dividends!
It's important to note however that we're looking only at sun signs here. There are many other planets which can have an equal or greater effect on someone's personality. Makes sense, as ultimately everyone is of course unique. Generalizing too far based just on sun signs can therefore be misleading.
To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results.
This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information: everything from how they view you, how to turn them on, how to avoid arguments with them etc. If you would like to explore this further please see the compatibility readings page.
Per the Aries viewpoint on this relationship, there are several areas which will require some work and tolerance on both sides. Many of the practical solutions are your partners, however you'll also need to be patient, tolerant and wherever possible, less sensitive.
Aries is a bold and blunt partner by your standards, and is probably never going to reach your levels of sensitivity or empathy. The sooner you can accept that and learn to appreciate it when they make an effort, and not take offence when they don't, the easier things will be for you emotionally.
You can hold a grudge for a long time, and Aries can get fairly aggressive when criticized, making for a bad situation fairly easily if you let your guard down. Aries is a tornado in the here and now, constantly moving on with a clean slate and conscience - that's just how they are, and not something designed to cause offence.
You may sometimes see your Aries lover as overly impulse, uncaring and domineering, and they will see you as overly sensitive, emotional and sulky.
It's very likely that you have a far greater need for intimacy and emotional connection when it comes to sex than your Aries does. Again, it doesn't mean they don't care, or don't love you - they just take such things less seriously, emotionally.
Be wary of becoming resentful of your Aries, who's fearless and spontaneous nature often causes them to be insensitive by your standards. As in other areas, fights and arguments are destined to end in a lose:lose situation.
So is this article conclusive? No! This article is based only on sun sign interaction. In order to provide a lot of people with information it's a convenient and fast way to generalize, but it's far from conclusive at this broad level. To get a complete picture we need to take all the other planets and their interactions into account for each of you, with a real astrology reading...
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