Cancer man drama

by Carol
(England)

I am a Aries woman and a Cancer guy found me, talked to me everyday, spent alot of time with me and then circumstances led to him hiding in his shell for 1 month. He stopped answering phone calls, texts etc and i can tell you it was a serious blow to my ego.

I nearly just gave up on him and moved on as it was really getting me down. I think only curiosity made me carry on pushing for an answer and then finally he came out and explained himself...... i can tell you i wanted to give him a piece of my mind but i tried to empathize.

It is getting harder and harder to communicate with him when he is going through these turmoils and to make it worse he has asked me to marry him. I am addicted to him in every way, he makes me crazy but when he's in front of me, absolutely everything is forgotten and forgiven.

Just when i think i am strong enough to tell him this isn't gonna work, with one look he makes me melt. This hibernation period he needs to get over everything and anything is just too much. I know this is his way of dealing with things but i feel abandoned, left out in the cold and for us to share the rest of our lives together....

i don't think it is possible. I thought i was being selfish therefore felt guilty for being angry with him but the silence kills me, sends me into my own paranoid craziness.

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And . . .
by: Anonymous

. . . .what did you decide? What happened?

I was so struck by your post because the identical things are happening with my man who has a moon in Cancer. It is incredible.

I also have a friend with a man in Cancer--the same thing is happening to her!

I still don't know how I'll deal with it, so I'm curious to know what you decided

same situation
by: Anonymous

I am an Aries woman and have the same problem. My Cancer man was acting very kind and soft for about 3 4 weeks. Then he went on vacation for a week and when he returned he was a completely different person. He wouldn't talk to me or even look at me. It was a huge blow for me, 'cause I really liked him (still do) but I just don't know what got into him. Do Aries women scare Cancer men off or something??

Hibernation?
by: Anonymous

I have been dating a cancer guy for awhile, he has never went into hibernation. He would rather spend all his time with me and then go back to his house and play video games. We both love video games. We play together and he doesn't seem to mind. When he is playing I sit and watch and I don't bother him. That's his hibernation but he makes a point to take time for me, he has never ignored me. I guess maybe we have been together since high school and we made plans after to be together in the same home. I am an Aries but the thing is that I am one but I don't act like one. Cancer totally changed my sign and I totally changed cancer. We are exactly alike.and we both need our time but we never hibernate.

loving cancer man is tough
by: Anonymous

You are not alone. I've experienced the same type of pain. It's this hot and cold thing that they do. I am a taurus woman in love with a cancerian man. they are so loving and lovable but yet when they give you the silent treatment, it's almost abusive b/c you don't even know what you did and since they don't talk to you at all- you don't even know how to solve the problem. it is also true from my experience that they can be tricky, slippery, and great at mind games b/c they are so intuitive. i know it so hard but ultimately decide what is best for you.

Resist falling for this game!!!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

The post boards are full with this topic. Cancers are the best at this push pull head game. The best thing to do is refrain from chasing them. Confront them about it a couple of weeks in person about it and set down your boundaries. But that is the trick it's not what you say but how it is said. It has to be loving and respectful, but the bottom line is that the behavior is borderline abusive.

cancer man is in his shell
by: Anonymous

HELP: I met this cancer man about 2 months ago and we hit it off right from the start, he has been 100% honest with me from the beginning .
this passed week told me he needs time to take care of family matters which he told me about and are quite serous, and to live my life as if he didn't exists,Ive told him from the start i don't want to play any games and that's why he said this.i asked if this was an excuse to end the relationship he said no, so i asked if he would like me to give him time and space to take care of things i think he said yes but as my head was spinning i cant remember his answer, but he kept asking if he could call me to see how i was doing,i said yes and that i would like that. so i e-mailed him that evening and said i didn't want to give up on this and i have no problem giving him space and time with in reason, that was 2days ago...
no reply as of yet,he always got back to me it sometimes took hours but always did.

i truly want to believe him but am very guarded at the same time....

anyone experienced similar? should i just move on?

I'm Libra and hes cancer in spite of the negative we really get along and we have tons in common hobby's culture etc..

re
by: Anonymous

One never knows when dealing with someone else, but just from personal experience:
Just really give him space and don't expect any contact from him for a while. If he calls you soon--great. but it may happen that he really won't be able to handle emotionally all the things going on in his life in a way that you would like or expect. You would need to decide for yourself how long can you wait for him to sort these things out and whether you can handle his withdrawal. Don't question your emotional connection, trust in the good things that you experienced with him, but see for yourself how long you can go on "living as if he didn't exist"

Same here!
by: Anonymous

I'm an Aries and dating a Cancer man.
I'm in love with him and when we are together, everything is great! After our latest date, he turned cold. So I wrote him an email saying I am moving on.
But he replied and told me he had been distant as he is facing a personal health crisis. After his explanation, I felt so bad. So I told him I am here for him. Instead of replying, he again went into his shell. I left him a message on the phone and then he sent me an sms saying he needs to think by himself and tackle the crisis. Told me he will call me in a week's time. That would be tomorrow!
I am thinking, if this is the way problems will be solved then our relationship would be a sad and lonely one. :-(

liberating partner
by: Anonymous

I am so amazed at the similarities to my own situation that I have just read.
I am a taurus woman deeply in love with a cancerian man who has stopped communicating with me for 6 weeks now. The last time we communicated was by txt where he said the problem he was facing was nothing to do with me.
I have been so distraught and felt rejected,also thought he must have a new girl but my intuition told me different. I was hurting so much I had to hve a reading from a tarot reader who told me something legal was going on with his son.
She said he loves me very MCH but just needs time to deal with his problems,and he'll be back. Well I couldn't believe it. This led me to find out abt cancer traits and this website.

On Off ??
by: Anonymous

I am an Aries woman dating a cancer man if you could call it that. I too am experiencing on off experience. I had no idea there were so many other situations like this. Could it actually be a Cancer trait? I am very honest and have tried to set boundries and no matter what I do it doesn't work. On the plus side he is a remarkable person just can't get him over the line.

Cancer man personalities
by: Constance

Hi, yes I'm going through the same thing dealing with a guy that I am in love with, that's a Cancer sign. Wow!!! Dont even know where to start. Cancer men is everything a woman dream of being with, until their moodswings, stubborness and silience gets in the way. I'm a Pisces and this is the second relationship I have had with a Cancer guy. They are very possesive and want let you go, no matter what may happen. We always have times where we want even talk for weeks at a time. Then he would be the first one to call as if nothing never happened. I'm very talkative and love to communicate, but the cancer dosent like talking unless it consists of him. When a cancer man gets angry he wont answer to your phone calls, texts, vm, fb, emails or any other form of communications. Dont worry he will come back around eventually. Cancers make excellent husbands, if you can deal with the silence killer and jealousy. Im in love with my cancer dude. Every sign and guy has flaws. Take the good with the bad and move on knowing as time passes love and life gets better with that special person you love so dearly. Cancers got what it takes, they are loyal and at times liars. Ive learned dealing with a Cancer guy you have to
really take the time out to care and notoure them like babies. They are very sensitive and just dont know how to open up especially when they have been hurt in the past. Give them plenty of space. Inside of that crab shell is love for you, but they just dont know how to open up to you. Remember if any man take time out to deal with you, he like something about you.

Listen Up Ladies
by: Nikki

I started this year off with the Cancer man's hibernation/ abusive absences. All I have to say is it is not worth it. And after I realized this and moved on I was engaged in 6 months. Getting married in 9 days. Have you ladies calculated at the male Cancer's pace how long it would take you to get to this point with one? Why waste your time and beauty on some man with such a weak ego? Other men know how to trust their feelings and don't need another mommy to help them walk through it. Do yourself a favor. Walk away with some however little self-respect you have left.

don't play their game!
by: Anonymous

We have seen each other a few times but its the same game he plays...So I have had to move on,I can NOT make him a periorty when all I am is an option to him..it isn't easy to do I still care bout him but I have to think about me..and anyone dealing with the same BS should do the same..

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