Cancer man who won't let me in

(London)

Hi! I'm a Capricorn woman currently involved with a Cancer man. He is single, a few years younger than me, but doesn't seem to care about the age difference.

However I'm still involved with my current squeeze. I told my Cancerian about him from the start, but that didn't deter him any! We have much in common and despite his mood swings, is a really lovely guy. I am in the process of breaking up with my partner,(not because of Cancer) but I cannot simply walk away from the relationship because we are involved musically. At first, my Cancerian was very affectionate and we saw each other every week. I have not seen him for the past month, and it's been 3 mths. since we've known each other. His behaviour baffles me. Recently he's been phoning up asking to see me on the same/next day and expects me to be available. He acts as though my life should revolve around him! There is a lack of communication on his part about what's going on in his life so i'm often left guessing.

I don't care if he's dating other women but am clueless as to what he really wants from me! He has said rude things like "I don't want to see you" and when I texted him, telling him i think we should forget about everything he always phones back and behaves like nothing happened. He agreed we need a discussion but we haven't been able to meet up thus far (esp. as he's started a new job). Sometimes I suspect that he wants more than a "casual friendship" (since he treats me like a girlfriend when we're together, and loves showing me off in front of his friends) but is frustrated because of my current partner - and therefore afraid to reveal how he really feels. Or maybe now he just wants to use me as a "booty call"(which i won't stand for).

Sometimes I feel like he's punishing me by pushing me away. I have enough on my plate as is, dealing with an impending break-up and I don't need the additional headache. From what I've read, nothing is casual with a Cancerian. But I really like this Cancer guy; I'm trying to understand his behaviour and he's so difficult to know since he never really opens up to me. It seems he doesn't want to let go, but at the same time he won't let me in. So anyone who's had experience with this complex sign, pleasse help!!!

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Cancer man who won't let me in

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They don't let you in...
by: Anonymous

Cancers don't let you in...for a very long tome...if ever. They need to feel totally secure in your love, but not sure whether any of them are ever totally secure.

They disappear for a month and then pop up, like you said, and expect you to be avl. for them. Don't be avl. and they will pursue you more. They will try for the "booty call" but don't give in. They respect and need boundaries. That shows that you are strong and they like that.

Full Moon
by: Anonymous

It’s obvious, but perhaps you cannot see it. He is jealous of the other guy!!! Jealous in a nice way as he wants you all to himself. I guess he would feel slightly hurt as he doesn’t want that guy in your life. He will come a lot closer when he knows your other guy is out of your life and you are ready to appreciate the tons of feelings he would give you. Don’t talk to your Cancer about your other guy, but let your cancer know when the other relationship is finished, and you will see the difference.

It’s no joke that Cancers are affected by the moon lol, well at least my experience. If you really want this guy, watch for full moon and invite him for a home cooked meal. Wear smoothing elegant (very lady like) and wear something sweetish (smellies). If you both like a drink, try red wine. Be prepared for a very hot dessert!!!

He Finally let me in
by: Anonymous

Everything you've said is spot on! I wrote him a letter indicating I had reached my limit with his irrational behaviour.I told him not to bother contacting me unless he was serious...I was prepared to cut him off completely and move on.
Soon after, my Cancerian had a chat with me over tea and expressed interest in a relationship...w/o my partner in the picture.
Once I broke up with my bf, my Cancerian came closer and now we're together! Thanks so much for your advice - it was truly helpful.

Now he won't let go
by: Anonymous

You are so right! I didn't give in right away...i think he might have been testing me to see how much he could get away with. Since I broke up with my partner we've been together. It hasn't been easy getting to know him but slowly I'm beginning to understand him better.
Cancer is by far the most complicated sign I've been involved with; we argue fairly frequently, I feel like giving up - and now he won't let go! lol...But he is really a generous, caring, sensitive soul; he exposes my flaws and shows me what I need to work on. It's an intense relationship, physically and emotionally. I guess that's how it is with Cancer!

the man of my dreams
by: Anonymous

I am a young aries women and the guy is a cancer he's alot older then me I like him so much but he's so hard to understand he won't open Up to me he says he likes me alot when am around him he treats me so good but when am not. With him he really hurts my feeling and he's so good looking omg he has so much going for him self i can tell he's been hurt really bad that he dosnt even want to try its like he's lazy when it comes to women I don't no what to do anymore. I want to give up but I really think this could be the man of my dreams........

capricon dating moody cancerian
by: Anonymous

Im currently involved with a cancerian and we've only been dating for 3 months, however i've know this him for the past 6 years. He was persuaing me for all this time but i was involved with someone else and i felt it wasnt fair that i date him while still hooked on the other guy. we lost contact for fours yrs and reconnected last year. my problem is he is moody whn he has problems and he feels insecure cause i loved my ex and he says he needs to be intouch with his feelings to make sure that i wont leave him for my ex once he fully committs to me. the other problem is dat he is still hung up on the fact that we would have been married by now, have i accepted his proposal. my problem is i love him and i feel like his pushing me away when he says he wants space from our relationship. i suggested we break up but he refused and says he still has the love for me. we have so much in common and i feel he is the right man for me, both of us r in de same career and both are family oriantated indiv. im capricon and i think i've got so much love to give him and i want to make up for the time we lost.he calls less now and he says he needs time to think about us that's why we wont meet each other until he's made a decision. he says i must trust him but im getting impartient because there's a chance that he might want us to break up or we can be together forever.when we started dating he was seeing someone else and he promised to leave her so that we can finally be together and he did as promised and we were both happy that God gave us another chance to be together, but now his moody.please advice on how i should handle this situation.

The Wussy
by: à

Forget about that Cancer Guy he's definitively a Wussy. I can Smell the manipulation all over your post.

Why I believe so:

1. I don't want to talk to you again...then he calls back
2. He won't let you in and he won't let you Go.

yes
by: Anonymous

forget the cancer guy, he is missing with your emotions, later on he will dumb you and get with someone with more self-respect and wify material. You have done somthing really bad, by breaking up with you previous boy friend for HIM ( A CANCER -BAD) CHOICE. this is an emotional GAME TO HIM, you are his TOY to play with,sooner or later you will relaise this. lol abnea

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