Cancer man who won't let me in

(London)

Hi! I'm a Capricorn woman currently involved with a Cancer man. He is single, a few years younger than me, but doesn't seem to care about the age difference.

However I'm still involved with my current squeeze. I told my Cancerian about him from the start, but that didn't deter him any! We have much in common and despite his mood swings, is a really lovely guy. I am in the process of breaking up with my partner,(not because of Cancer) but I cannot simply walk away from the relationship because we are involved musically. At first, my Cancerian was very affectionate and we saw each other every week. I have not seen him for the past month, and it's been 3 mths. since we've known each other. His behaviour baffles me. Recently he's been phoning up asking to see me on the same/next day and expects me to be available. He acts as though my life should revolve around him! There is a lack of communication on his part about what's going on in his life so i'm often left guessing.

I don't care if he's dating other women but am clueless as to what he really wants from me! He has said rude things like "I don't want to see you" and when I texted him, telling him i think we should forget about everything he always phones back and behaves like nothing happened. He agreed we need a discussion but we haven't been able to meet up thus far (esp. as he's started a new job). Sometimes I suspect that he wants more than a "casual friendship" (since he treats me like a girlfriend when we're together, and loves showing me off in front of his friends) but is frustrated because of my current partner - and therefore afraid to reveal how he really feels. Or maybe now he just wants to use me as a "booty call"(which i won't stand for).

Sometimes I feel like he's punishing me by pushing me away. I have enough on my plate as is, dealing with an impending break-up and I don't need the additional headache. From what I've read, nothing is casual with a Cancerian. But I really like this Cancer guy; I'm trying to understand his behaviour and he's so difficult to know since he never really opens up to me. It seems he doesn't want to let go, but at the same time he won't let me in. So anyone who's had experience with this complex sign, pleasse help!!!