Confused by Taurus man

Taurus men are so confusing. Is it normal not to know where you stand with them?

We spend the entire weekend together. On Friday, he asks if we can be exclusive and asks me to stay with him overnight.

On Saturday, he then asks me to meet him at a bar. He does not know the directions to get there and mapquest did not help me at all so I got lost. Finally after 1 hour of driving, I get to the place. By then, I am upset and "cause drama" and then I say to him that I need him to meet me sometimes. He agrees and we end up staying together again. He says he has issue with the drama of that night but he had to end up begging me to stay, so I promised him that would not happen again.

On Sunday morning, he tells me he loves me 2 times. We end up going to a football game with his friends and we had this great time at the game until about 3/4 of the way in. Him and his friend agree to split the cost of our cab fare to our cars. He starts a fight with his friend over this issue. I suggest to Taurus to let us just get my car (we can take a cab) and then I would get him home. He then pushes me away and tells me to get away from him. SO, I walk away try to find a cab to get to my car. Taurus tells me the only reason he pushed me away is because he did not want me to see him fight. He ends up going back home with his friend, who lives 10 minutes from his house.

Taurus calls me several hours later and he was apparently thrown out of his friend's car and he had to walk back to his place. Then he calls me and says thanks for breaking my heart and breaks up with me. I thought he was going to do harm himself, so I reach out to check on him. He tells me that he does not want me to come up there. Last thing he said was have fun with my friend Paul, who is married.

So in the morning, I get this text message and picture, sent by him, of the two of us together at the football game. I am so confused. I meet him on Monday at work to get my things (assuming we are broken up). While at work, he does not tell his friends and family that we are no longer together. The entire night, he kisses, hugs me and holds my hand. He then admits that life has been tough recently with 3 deaths and a suicide in the last 2 years. He asks if I would stay with him during this tough time.

He then tells me that he is OK with me going out and meeting new people. He is also OK with me hanging out with some friends of his. He then tells me that if I find someone better, he wants me to go to them instead.

I have received several texts from him since and a phone call as well. The texts involve seeing how I am feeling and how my day was. We have not seen each other since Monday and I am confused.

Do Taurus men act like this? I am confused and do not know what to do.

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Tauruses don't like uncertainty
by: Anonymous

I am a Taurus

Yes Taurus always act like this when there is uncertainty. He loves you but he does not see himself in a long term committed relationship with you yet. This uncertainty with you is coupled up with coping with deaths from people that were close to him. So the disappearing acts will continue to occur.

Example#1: The night you got lost, and came in the bar cursing him out and yelling.
Taurus : We hate confrontation, or drama of any sort. He may have forgiven you, but trust me he was very embarassed and humiliated! He sees you as a 'Sh&tstarter.' They prefer for their women to be calm and well behaved in public. They're old-fashioned men. Not thugs.

Example#2: He told you to go find your friend Paul. I'm not too sure what that's about, but he may have been notified that the two of you were seeing each other. They're naturally jealous people who don't like to share you. He will give you up before he shares you, so don't expect him to fight for you. This man is possessive by nature!

If he's telling you to see other people, it's a defense mechanism. Although he needs to you to see other people to get over you quickly, neverthless there's a part of him that's hoping you wouldn't. If you still want him, avoid seeing other people. Trust me, when you least suspect it, he will be checking in on you from time to time. Don't be suprised if you end up in the same restaruants, bars, or clubs as your Taurus man. LOL. Coincidence my @ss!

If you do reunite wth this Taurus man, keep reassuring him how you feel about him. You can curse him out if he's wrong, (he doesn't want a doormat) but avoid doing it in public places. We hate public spectacles. We're naturally private people. Continue to do this, and he will lose respect for you. Tell him you have eyes only for him, and continue to practice patience. Cooking for him and all night sex romps will help you too!

-Good Luck


hope this helps
by: Anonymous

He is not a Taurus man, he is a very messed up man!! He is dealing (unsuccessfully) with some very serious issues in his life, and therefore, i believe he is suffering from depression. He wants you to find someone better than him because he has a very low self-esteem. Suggest him to see a counselor and only then, when he is free from the baggage, should you pursue a relationship with him.
Much Love.

By the way, what star sign are you?

haha
by: Kellen

I'm a Taurus and...quoting my Capricorn best friend, I'm have a lot of emotional meltdowns. I'm moody, I guess.
You have to prove that you'll be loyal. I don't mind you having male friends, but I want to know you're not sleeping with them when I'm away and you're...having needs.
So...how do I know you're loyal? I listened to EVERY word you said about any past relationships and put together clues from there. The way you talk to guys? Watching...how you react to a guy hitting on you? watching...a good looking guy walks by? watching...and we have awesome (selective) memories that serves only our needs
Good luck and open up a Jane Austen book. You'll get clues on how to be a traditional girl, since we love to "woo" girls with flowers and carriage rides

Misconception
by: Anonymous

I will have to agree with the Taurus poster above. There are so many misconceptions about the slow-moving Taurus. We're actually quite intelligent people, conservative and very humble. We are highly perceptive, and have an impeccable memory. Our disappearing acts are 'mirror' images of what's projected from a potential partner. This causes us to be hesitant. We are memorizing everything that is verbalized, observing your actions, your interactions with other people, your demeanor, the way you're dressed, minor flirtations, & how affectionate you are. Because we are the most ethical people in the zodiac, our guards are always up for mean-spirited and pretentious people.
Don't think for a second that you can get over a Taurus. We can spot a phony person from a mile away. When the prospective partner begins trying to win us over, we have already memeorized everything that was verbalized, observed their actions, but will still wait for them to 'hang themselves' before we yell check-mate!
By then, you will have to pursue us with a dogged determination if you want to prove us wrong. Because we're fixed signs with fixed opinions, courting YOU will not be necessary.
So if your Taurus is pulling disappearing acts. Think long and hard how you approached him.

To Misconceptio/annoymous taurian
by: Lily

Misconception/annoymous taurian. you sound quite to the point. then tell me how you function under stress because then how can an honest, patient person who really is sweet and has everything going for them and dresses well,nice kept home, neat car, smelsfresh, ambitious, nice home,affectionate and all the other things listed under taurus likes, still be pulled away from. mine said he had a lot on so i have just texed him once a week, miss a week, every week, miss 2 weeks, then acouple of times pr week etc, and just filled him in on day to day imprtants, told him what im cooking,that i miss him,hugs etc and i always include his little one in the texts and say i miss them both (the little one is gorgeous)a bit of chat about investments and achievements (mine are plenty) he doesnt think his life is going well. its all overturned so he has been told i have eyes for him on,y and i dont dissapear now what more can the damn man expect.. he knows i attract men and yes it is constantly throughout the day and the only person im prepared to respond to is himand he said he cdidnt think id so much as spit on him and in fact, i couldnt have wanted anyone more..im drawn to him and i feel comfortable with him but he has gone quiet and non responsive and i give never said or done anything to make him jelous because that wouldnt be right but he insisted on giving me love bites so his ownership was known and when i was meeting him again he asked me what i was doing and i said "i went home to beautify myself for you and put on something i know would be appealing to your eye" I then went over, but after a nice evening, i didnt speak with him much and then he vanished and went quiet on me an then said he has a lot on his plate. a single parent who has split up fromsomeon a couple of years ago after 14 years which was since childhood, and angry about the way he was treated. he doesnt have a place right now and he starts work early and has to juggle his child so i am patient and the childs mother is such a headache to himand doesnt want the child and doesnt turn up to meet the child much so he has a lot on of course but i dont pressure himat all but he has been made aware that im serious about him and dont do casual from the off and he was pleased and wanted to try for a baby immdiatly and i didnt want one and explained that ive been there and been dissapointed and only just found some breathing space from it and he agrees that it wasnt a laughing matter to have had such an experieince. when i first visited him he ran andhid in the litchen and when i said whats all this,he said he just feels that i have a power over him and initially he was shy.

To Misconceptio/annoymous taurian
by: Lily

Misconception/annoymous taurian. you sound quite to the point. then tell me how you function under stress because then how can an honest, patient person who really is sweet and has everything going for them and dresses well,nice kept home, neat car, smelsfresh, ambitious, nice home,affectionate and all the other things listed under taurus likes, still be pulled away from. mine said he had a lot on so i have just texed him once a week, miss a week, every week, miss 2 weeks, then acouple of times pr week etc, and just filled him in on day to day imprtants, told him what im cooking,that i miss him,hugs etc and i always include his little one in the texts and say i miss them both (the little one is gorgeous)a bit of chat about investments and achievements (mine are plenty) he doesnt think his life is going well. its all overturned so he has been told i have eyes for him on,y and i dont dissapear now what more can the damn man expect.. he knows i attract men and yes it is constantly throughout the day and the only person im prepared to respond to is himand he said he cdidnt think id so much as spit on him and in fact, i couldnt have wanted anyone more..im drawn to him and i feel comfortable with him but he has gone quiet and non responsive and i give never said or done anything to make him jelous because that wouldnt be right but he insisted on giving me love bites so his ownership was known and when i was meeting him again he asked me what i was doing and i said "i went home to beautify myself for you and put on something i know would be appealing to your eye" I then went over, but after a nice evening, i didnt speak with him much and then he vanished and went quiet on me an then said he has a lot on his plate. a single parent who has split up fromsomeon a couple of years ago after 14 years which was since childhood, and angry about the way he was treated. he doesnt have a place right now and he starts work early and has to juggle his child so i am patient and the childs mother is such a headache to himand doesnt want the child and doesnt turn up to meet the child much so he has a lot on of course but i dont pressure himat all but he has been made aware that im serious about him and dont do casual from the off and he was pleased and wanted to try for a baby immdiatly and i didnt want one and explained that ive been there and been dissapointed and only just found some breathing space from it and he agrees that it wasnt a laughing matter to have had such an experieince. when i first visited him he ran andhid in the litchen and when i said whats all this,he said he just feels that i have a power over him and initially he was shy.

To Lily
by: Misconception/Anonymous

Are you a Virgo? Tauruses value honesty and vulnerability. Not perfection! You would be amazed to know inutitive we are. Your dilemma with your Taurus has nothing to do with you, or what you can offer him. He's not where he wants to be financially. He doesn't feel that he's worthy of you. Taurus men are providers, alpha-males, and nurturers. Don't show us pity. You mind as well put a gun to our heads. Due to our stubborn nature, we refuse to show that side of us. He will probably continue to isolate himself from you until he's able to get himself together financially.

The 'love bite' reference is a typical possessive act of a Taurus. We're owners, not renters (*smiles*). We want your heart. We want to be the only ones to have that access. You will never learn everything about a Taurus in a day, a month, or even in a year. There are too many layers. We're unique, complex people. First layer, shyness, covered by the second layer, uncertainty or fear of being judged, covered by the third layer, protectiveness, covered by the fourth layer, introversion and intuition, covered by the fifth layer, stubborness, covered by the sixth layer, love and generosity, covered by the seventh layer, bubbling personality and a keen sense of humor, covered by the eighth layer, confidence, covered by the ninth layer, bluntness. The tenth layer confuses most people. Unfortunately, it's what most people see. It's demonstrated by lots of affection, minor flirtations, keeping our options open, but also coupled with highly ethical and moral values. We come off as 'marriage material'...but can be also quite selective, confusing and distant.

What the layers represent? What you see is not what you get with a Taurus. We don't wear our emotions on our sleeves, nor are we verbalizers.
To truly understand a Taurus, is to simply let us be! No pressure, no emotional meltdowns, no pity-party, and no repeated attempts to dominate the situation. We're confident on our 'read' on situations, and we have already seen the bigger picture.

We do things on our own terms. We call the shots. We're the final decision-makers. It takes extreme patience to deal with a Taurus.

Just avoid mind games. Be direct and straight to the point. Make sure your actions are consistent with your statements. Don't ever lie to us. We'll catch you in one! Our memories are impeccable!

We're not as bad as we seem. If our finances are in order, and we're with someone who is honest, loyal, and wants to be with us for the long haul...we will make the best mates in the zodiac!

I hope this will help you understand your Taurus beter.

Confused
by: Snow....

Buddy... Um may b in some kinda same situatn...
Bt I think He has strong feelings 4 u IF HE IS TAURUS...and He is confused abt u if ur LOYAL or not!!! I think so...
Best of luck...

confused by taurus boyfriend! help?
by: leo girl

we dated 2 years ago and things ended quickly ( i ended it because i thought he was cheating/he was being distant i was confused and he was bring friendly with other girls). he was very attentive at first, always texting me and wanting to see me. Then he becomes distant with his texting and rarely started seeing me. We rekindle things recently and he apologizes for everything that happened and said things would be different this time around.
so same thing happens, hes attentive, always wants to see me then starts acting distant again ..THEN SAYS TO ME that "something is wrong in his mind" that he gives me the green light to see other ppl. same thing your guy said! i mean he has been really busy with school, work, back problems, family issues but that was never in the way before, but now all of a sudden it is... when we first dated in late march he wanted to see me naked, now he isnt comfortable to have sex with me and says he understands if i leave him for someone else.
i bugged out out on him and he said to have a break because he can't handle the stress i give him from my calls asking him whats going on when he "doesnt even know" i blame myself on that part..

but can i have some guidance please? from a guy taurus or anyone with this kind of experience with one!

what does he want from me?
by: Leo woman

I have a taurus guy in my life I guess. He and I have been friends for 4 years the first 2 jus frnds no kissing sex anything. Then 2 more years lata things changed we had sex. I find him to be confusing and full of it. He's always there for me offering his help...money, house repair or jus a ear to listen. I don't get it he says he wants to be frnds but we sleep together frm time to tme things seem ok and then he dissappears! IDK...can u tell me wat the hell is goin on? I'm so in love and confused! :(

aqua married to taurus
by: Anonymous

Yes, this is how they act, although this sounds to me like an exceptionally bad night. They can be a bit dramatic, but when he tells you to date other people, do NOT do it if you want to be with him. He wants you to be happy, and doesn't feel sure of himself. I've been married to a Taurus for 13 years. Trust me. Stick it out. They are true, are incredible dads, kids, and love making their wives happy. :)

Taurus trouble part 1
by: Aqua girl

I recently got into a bit of a situation with a Taurus and reading comments here match up alot with the behaviour. I don't think there's much I can do as far as it goes with him

We met one night, swapped numbers, he had this charm that's kind of indescribable, some people don't believe  in "love a first sight" as such but there was instant connection, it was never like awkward first meeting communication. More like we'd known each other for ages. It was just so relaxed straight away. Anyway it turned out he lives a couple of hours away and was just down for the night but we started texting and talking nearly everyday. He always seemed very honest to me, he told me when he started to like me and felt something, but aired his worries about the distance. After a fee weeks he kind of suggested that we stop talking or it might be for the best. Simply cause it would be hard obviously an ldr was well out of the question for him, even though we hadn't  known each other long it was clearly in his mind that this would be turning into something if we didn't live far apart. But I kind rejected the idea of cutting contact simply because I really liked him and his company, and I'm just bad at making logical decisions when my feelings are involved. It might've been the right thig to do but I didn't want to. So we contined to talk lots and phone calls, he told me the situation sucked because  what he knew of me I was everything he wants in a girl, it just felt right etc. He knew he was coming back down to where we met again, ( a month and a half after the night we met) so we agreed we'd see each other then and talked about spending the night. It was like we knew what was coming and that it couldn't work but we just wanted to be together at the time, let out feelings run away with us. So the night before I'm due to see him again, he says he can't spend the night with me when he comes down and he met this other girl ages ago who got in touch, asked him out, that they'd been out and that he likes her. My immediate reaction was ok he was keeping his options open  and though still a bit upset, but it was ridiculously fast. he said he knew it wouldn't work so he's just trying to move on. It just all seemed so sudden. I honestly don't believe there was intentional playing goin on, or that he was talking to her all along/ trying to let me down easy. It just didn't add up that he would be able to keep it up the way he did, and if he was so into her he wouldve surely stopped talking to me earlier on. I mean if he had this girl he liked locally, why bother to continue something with someone that is so out of reach. 

We did see each other the night he came down, and we had overly friendly physical contact, but we never kissed or anything further. But I just didn't believe that if he needed to stay "loyal" to this other girl (his words, after having been out with her once) and not spend the night, then why would he be all over me at all. I read about the senses

Taurus trouble
by: Aqua girl

thing with Taurus and it was dead on. He wanted to touch me, talk to me, and complimented me on my smell haha, told me i looked stunning, it was very typical going on what I've read. It's like the texts he was  sending before and after seeing him were totally contradicting what he was like when he was around me. Like he couldn't help himself. I shouldve called him out on it because it really wasn't fair on me. He knew how I felt about him, but I let him do all this stuff cos I couldn't push him away either.  It was partly my fault that i ended up hurt. I honestly believe he didn't want to hurt me as he'd said, but a couple of days later he cut contact did all the deleting and unfollowing. And I haven't heard from him since. 

There was definitely some immaturity probably on both sides, for letting get so far and for how it ended. I like to think that there was something there and he just couldn't deal with the distance, as for the other girl I don't know, if he was using her as an excuse to not talk to me. Because he's said on more the one occasion he felt like he "shouldnt" like me, so hes going to eventually do everything he can to stop. Hed said he was just being sensible (being practical, Tauren behaviour?) and followig his head instead of his heart. I just feel like we still have "unfinished business" to some extent, because I ever offically "had" him its actually 10x harder to forget, and what could've been etc. anyone's welcome to tell me he was totally a player and I'm living in a dream world ha, I still see t very differently. I don't know how it seems from an outsiders view?

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