Do Gemini men cheat more than others?

by April
(NY, USA)

I've read a lot about Gemini men being unfaithful, and studied the different comments about them in relationships on this site and others (this one is by far the best - kudos to whoever wrote it by the way!) I started dating a Gemini man about 4 months ago, and he does definitely flirt more than I would like. But, he always tells me that flirting and cheating aren't the same thing.

Does anyone have any experiences with this? Do Gemini men just 'harmlessly' flirt, or is it a preliminary step to cheating? I can't help holding back from him due to this. In a way it's comforting to know "it's a Gemini thing" but on the other hand it almost makes it worse!...

Any thoughts would be welcomed

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Do Gemini men cheat more than others?

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Remember the Caveat
by: Anonymous

Gemini Male here.

Remember the caveat in the article: This described an archetype. It's just a template. A cookie-cut. Add a spice of life experience, maturity, culture, and you have something totally different (which is all what we're about!!).

Yes, we flirt, but you have to look for where the Gemini is consistent, and you have to hold him accountable for his actions. Gemini HATE having to be held accountable for anything negative, and are usually very self-conscious about consequences (after the fact, unfortunately).

More often than not, Gemini come in two varieties: Mature an Immature. The Immature Gemini is a textbook Peter Pan. The Mature Gemini can be compared to a wild, intellectual college professor with a glimmer in his eye and a hidden rowl in his voice.

Maturity is THE make-or-break trait for Gemini. The immature Gemini will flirt, and go to whatever or whomever tickles his fancy (in more ways than one). The mature Gemini will reflect on this and say, "Hm. This person is pretty interesting. How can I bring about this quality in the woman I love?"

The Mature Gemini will make your life a learning journey of constant evolution and "gain" of different insights and skills. Show him you are open to learning new things, and he will love every moment of growing old with you in the process!!

Gemini's:Flirting And Cheating
by: Virgo_Gurlie

I've been Studying and expierienced Gemini Love... Thats just a geminis personality,they are very friendly and charming,they know how to cheat very well but in there brains flirting and cheating are two completely different things they think of it as: If they were talking to a girl who you dont know,and all they were doing is talking and flirting he thinks of it as flirting because thats just the way they function if they exchanged numbers or anything, you might wanna get ready for a brawl but before you start jumping to conclusions ask him who she was because he could be a family member or a close friend (but watch out for them they do like to play around with "close friends")if youre not sexually satisfying them the way they want so you should do someting to keep him around if he's worth it but if not...it's up to you.

Gemini Man
by: Dylan

I am a Gemini man and i have a problem with this statement. It is true that we Gemini men are big flirts but we cant help it, it's in our blood. I mean i have been in a lot of situations were i was just being friendly to a woman and she saw it as me showing interest in her which could not be further from the truth. We are friendly and i guess sometimes to other signs that looks on the surface as flirting but it is in all actuality harmless. I have been in two different relationships of three years or longer and did not stray in either. If you get a Gemini man and get him to fall in love with you, you will not find a more loyal partner. So i would have to say that Gemini men do not cheat anymore than any other sign. Remember the key to getting a Gemini man is that we love the hunt and want you to make us work for it, and we are dissapointed when you make it too easy for us.

I have a Gemini Boyfriend, soon to be married
by: Jennifer

I have a Gemini boyfriend; I do in my heart know that he loves me deeply. We have a beautiful son together and he proposed to me with an expensive ring. I don't work but he certainly pays all the bills - due to I am a homemaker. I do understand this: Gemini men are very sneaky; He can be two-faced, superficial and cunning. I can look right in his eyes and ask him a question. He will lie the first time but when I ask him again, he will finally be honest. I think it's in their astrology to be this way and of all means, they don't mean to hurt others. They are flirty because in the beginning in the relationship, he did look at other women. I’ve been with other astrology signs but Gemni can be tricky and don’t like to be bore with the same ol’ same ol. My b.f. have an excellent brain power, always thinking and analyzing things and he is extremely intelligent! I seen his interest wonder when a lady pass him and she happens to look like Kim Kardashian or Meagan Fox. This happens a couple of times but made it clear that I dislike his eyes wonder off and checking out other women. I made it crystal clear if he ever thinks of cheating on me, I will end the relationship so fast that his head will spin! He totally understands on what I mean. It has settled down in that department and he has showed improvement. But he has admitted that he had a lot of women that he saw but never ever serious with them. He says that he likes the chase, the excitement of pursuing them and likes to foul them with his fast talk. But he said he absolutely loves me and made a long term decision to be a family man and be committed to me. But when we met, it has been some what a battle and I had to figure him out. Gemini men are WHAT they are! I'm sure they don't mean to cause pain in the relationship but I so believe that once you lay the rules down and your expectations. They will understand your wishes and comply. We are still doing wonderful and love being together to this day! : )

GemMen Get No Love From Me
by: Anonymous

I Was (Key Word; WAS) With A Gemman. Their Such Great Actors, I Like To Call Gemmen Actors Because They "Act" Like They Care, Like/Love, And Can't Be Without You. When You Think Everything Is Perfect And About To Get Even Better! You Should Re-look Again. I Did And Well After I Did He Confessed That He Had Cheated On Me! I Like To Believe And Will Always Believe That Gemini Men Are All The Same. Great Actors, Cheaters, Lairs, Two-Faced, Selfish, And They Like To Believe Their Manhood Is B.I.G! They'll Use Any Women To Get What They Want/Need Then They'll Leave On To The Next Who Can Offer More And So-On.

Not to be trusted
by: Anonymous

I dated a Gemini guy. Never saw someone on such a hunt for the perfect woman. Always seemed to be digging for some trait in me that would justify not making an investment in our relationship even though I felt a strong passionate connection with him. Couldn't relax and enjoy us. The not being able to relax and have faith in him to stick around ate away at my sexual desire for him. I felt judged and insecure in the "relationship" and he had little concept of nurturing me, but was easily accepting of my doting and support. Not an uplifting experience.

Oh yes!
by: Anonymous

I have dated two gemini men...One for four months and one for a year...both of them cheated, whilst busy telling me they loved me!

a gemini man who cheated
by: Anonymous

I was with my gemini man for 9months. When he met me i had my own place, car, and job. ia m a leo. he ended up moving in with me before i found out he was abusive, decieving dishonest liar, and very selfish tht he would control my things and would not share them with me such as my car. whatever he did was to gain sumthing.the only time he acted good and loving was when he needed me for sumthing, if he was chasing me trying to get bk with me or if he knew he could have me. Well i had had enuf of all his bad ways when he cheated on me with his ex and i took him bk. i thought he was seriously sorry and we cud move on with our relationship without her. But no he still cheated on me several times with her behind my back while he physically abused and neglected me and used me for my money and a home until he got a job. He had her playing her role as a sideline hoe while he used my place as there domain to have privacy and have sex while i was at work laboring 12hrs to support us. plenty times i heard her in the bk ground when i called him at work but he denied it or said it was a female cousin. found out he was trying to convince her tht he would leave mewhen he got a job. he chased her. but i couldnt put up with the abuse and neglect any longer. the sex went from being the best to being rushed &weak as hell and he wud be particular abt the times we could have sex. one day he told me "I will have sex with u tomorrow and rejected me and i was soo hurt and felt soo bad cuz i knew he was fucking his ex. i took him bk just to hurt again even worse. Its been almost 3weeks since i seen him and left him and i am still heartbroken abt how he used my place to fuck her while i was wrking to support us. i did everything i could to help him get a job and when he got the job he treated me worse and told me he dont need me altho he needed my car to get around. i couldnt take anymore. i feel i should have went with my 1st mind and never took him bk when he left me for 2weeks to pursue his ex the 1st time. he never tells me any details about her but he exposed her to all my business and told her he just wanted to use me. She didnt even want him from the start, he wanted her bcuz i found out she was pursuing other men the whole time! the whole time .He still begs for me bk but after a week he really started trying but i cut off all contact. he'll never have me bk after the way he treated me. A gemini will do whatever you let them get away with and he kept doing it as long as i allowed it. u let them drive ur car once they will ask and want to drive it all the time and more than you do. he took advantage of me. wish i could have saw. but leos are soo blind when there in love. not a good judge of character. i will never talk to a gemini man again. most of them i meet are hoes. left him becuz everything was wrong with him. he was only good for being a hoe.

gemini men
by: lisa

been married to a gemini for 26 years ( god bless my patience) Finally couldnt take it anymore and moved out. He has a very kind heart but a mind I will never understand. There always has to be a conquest , always dangling the carrot so to speak. This was doable in our twenties but not in our fourties . I had alot of fun with him in our early years and a great person to hang out with ( when he wanted to ) ..
To make matters worse , I am a pisces with scorpio rising and feel emotionally bankrupt at this point. I wish peter pan would of just grown up . But maybe its just not in his making. I wish him the best .......and hope he finds himself.

Oh my, the Gemini Guy?
by: Anonymous

me and my bf were friends with benefits for 9 whole months until i tried to discontiue our friendship then he told me how he loved me and was ready to commit to me right then and there. what can i say im a sucker for love, i believed him so their we were i thought evrything was so perfect. he was involved in my kids life(he had none). Then two yrs down the line i found out he was still having sex with his "close friend" the whole entire time. we never lived together so when he was at home he was at home. i believed his every word. she knew about me and she didnt care. i guess she thought she would get him once i found out but she didnt. i forgave him. she is no longer in his life. Geminis will do whateva u let them until they are caught. he confessed everthing b/c he was done with her(on to the next maybe). i dot no what it is that women find irresistable about gemini"s. well its been three yrs of dating and i see how much he has matured. he is a great provider and family man but my guard will alwyas be up... i will always be on my toes and will not let him get nothing by me. maybe i will get tired of always feeling the need to babysit him and leave but until then he and i are hap[py once again. What will be will be... no one is perfect. even tho gemini"s play that role to perfection. he was not who i thought he was but yet i stayed. idk why!maybe b/c the game of trying to conquer a gemini is addictive, and i love to love him:)

french and gemini - bad combo,
by: Anonymous

hmmm after reading all this maybe i had a lucky escape. i was in a long distance relationship with a gemini but we really connected and he was loyal for 4 months. then i had a honest talk with my gemini about where i draw the line: cheating. he said he would never jeopardise our relationship on something fickle like a one night stand with someone and that he understood how that would hurt me. a few days later we planned to meet up and i bought my ticket to paris (yes a french gemini...double trouble), 48hrs after that i am sitting in my office 8.30am during a meeting, and a message pops up on my skype (yes Skype!) saying 'i slept with someone'.

Gemini men lie,cheat more then other signs.
by: Anonymous

I am with and have been for over 34 years and till this day, I have not been comfortable enough to marry him. After all these years of his lying ,cheating, selfish irresponsible ways of his idea of a relationship have nearly drove me over the edge, but , I love him and he has never confessed even when I have caught him red handed. I have left him twice for another man, which I got involved with only after I left him, which he believes in his head that those times, count as cheating on him.Gemini men are selfish and like their sign, two faced and superficial.Gemini men are smooth talkers and have a flirty gift of gab,but when they do fall in love,there is no one else for them and everyone else is just a fling,that's as far as their loyalty goes and they expect you to know that,regardless of how many women he beds.Any women who are dating a gemini.....run! and don't look back,even if he makes you feel like a diamond of all diamonds,because you'll be headed for feeling like a ordinary piece of glass that he loves to look at for his reflection.

Married to a Gemini
by: Anonymous

I have been married to a Gemini for 15 years. I married him because he was the most romantic, honest,and kindest man I'd ever known. It didn't take long to realize that for him it had all been about the chase. Once he had me I became nothing more than a cook, housekeeper and the mother of his children. He became moody and temperamental, rarely talked to me and never wanted to do anything with me or help me with chores. In the last few years things had gone from bad to worse, he was rarely home and when he was, he was insufferable. He blamed his moodiness on work stress and our financial problems.I finally dragged him into marriage counseling a couple of years ago. He swore up and down that his attitude would change and that we would work on our marriage. Unfortunately, nothing changed and it wasn't until a year later that I discovered the truth about this man. He'd been spending so much time at work because he was going in early and leaving late so he could spend hours on the phone with a female coworker. We were so broke that we sometimes had to borrow money from his parents to get us through while he was spending money on taking his coworker out for coffee and lunch and giving her money. He couldn't help out at home with chores but he had no problem filling in for his coworker at work. He would text her in front of me without me knowing. He would pretend to go to sleep but would stay up to text her all night long. When I confronted him, he accused me of having affairs. He swore up and down that he and his coworker were only friends and nothing more and he promised to end the friendship. He promised the phone calls and texts between them would stop and they did but he continued to email her to tell her all about our fights over her. It's been 8 months now and things have been really tough. He's no longer involved with his coworker but he continues to work with her. I've lost all respect and trust in him but we are still together. I now know the real him. He is a self-centered, lying, cheating, piece of work. He spent years communicating with an ex-girlfriend behind my back and talking badly about me, yet he would check my email and listen in on my phone conversations to see if he coud catch me doing something, perhaps so he could justify his lying and cheating. He has spent the last 15 years of our marriage stabbing me in the back while he professed his love for me. Being the Scorpio that I am, I am patiently awaiting the day when he and his former "friend" get what's coming to them. Karma is a bitch and his friend is now getting what she deserves and sooner or later he'll get what he deserves.

Gemini men CAN be great friends but make terrible partners.
by: Buffy

I must start by saying I am a Leo female and my "Partner" is a Gemini male. Gemini men are very cunning/charming but terrible liars. They are lazy and self-entitled not to mention extremely moody to the point where it is like being with a woman. Gemini men purposely create conflict through their actions to have a reason to distance themselves from their partners and here is where all the problems begin. Gemini men are passive-aggressive in nature, they don't like to age or have to grow up. It will never matter how you look or how great you are or are not in bed, they will always look at other women and their opinion of themselves is generally speaking way to high.

Think of a Gemini man as a puppy...they will go to who ever gives them attention and validates their shitty behavior. They do not know or understand loyalty (unless you are paying their bills) and even then your days are numbered...they are always off to the next possible conquest. Gemini men tell all the girls they meet, sleep with and date the same things so don't ever feel special regardless of what he says. Ladies If you want good sex try a fun Aries or a dirty Scorpio or a passionate Leo. If sex with a Gemini man is bad, he will be sure to make you feel like it's your fault. Never take it personal sex with him becomes terrible, routine and/or nonexistent with everyone he dates (just ask one of his exes).

Divorcing a Gemini man
by: Anonymous

Yes the Gemini man is very intelligent and charming. Lovable and sexy. However, we have been married for almost 3 years. I have actually caught him cheating more times than I want to admit. Church members, female friends at work, you name it. I thought we were in love. We would have mind blowing crazy sex. I give him his space. Cause I need mine as well. This is something I think he can't help. He is a minister. Which makes it scary and sick. I have had enough. We have separated 4 times. Nothing seems to help. He knows how to say all the right things. Counseling many, but want practice what he preaches. Very convincing man. Knows the bible well. Knows what is to be expected as a good husband and friend. But he has no respect for women. I can't take it anymore. Being an strong Aries woman. Only love has kept me in this mess for so long. Ladies beware!!! Charming, handsome, talkative and exciting. But not marriage material. I will love this Gemini as a friend from a far. Not a husband. We have remained friends inspite of his infidelities. Aries don't have the time or energy to hold negative grudges. Good luck with this man.

Are you F****** serious?
by: Buff

Jesus Christ really? What man is "reflecting" like that prior to cheating...

"Hm. This person is pretty interesting. How can I bring about this quality in the woman I love?" Do kid yourself obviously they are liars too.

Cheating gemini NEW
by: Anonymous

Been dating a gemini for four months. As a lady scorp threw my all in.. Despite this angry aggressive man i fell in love so quickly! Six weeks into the relationship i had a message from a woman saying she had spend the night with my gemini.. (benifit of the doubt i gave him) as he said she lied because he turned her down ???? Just found out from his palls missus (he did sleep with her) yes its new yrs eve!! Wasted the last 3 months. Liers through & through!

Painful but hope i can just forget he exists & hope he leaves me alone for good! Gut instinct think with ur heads girls not ur hearts with these dispicable spescies !! Good luck

Used, betrayed, and destroyed by a Gemini NEW
by: Anonymous

One word ladies: RUN!! Especially if you aren't an air sign. Not saying every single Gemini is this way, but look for the signs, MOST OF THEM ARE. This was an extreme case that I was a victim of. I was led on, fooled, & used by a sickeningly evil & twisted Gemini man. He stole my heart. I knew him as a friend for 15 years & we seemingly fell in love spending new years eve together. Within days, he was already telling me he loved me. In just a few weeks, talking about asking me to marry him. In a month, talking about having children with me. I fell hard. After this act or "chase" which lasted all about a month, all he did was lie, cheat, betray me, live a complete double life, hide things from me, have affairs, flirt, try to make me jealous, mentally & emotionally abuse me, act single, & treat me like all of a sudden for no reason I was nothing to him. But worst of all, he was still in love with his ex (also a Gemini.) He talked to her everyday behind my back, met up with her, cheated on me with her, kept hundreds if not thousands of naked pics & videos of them having sex in his phone & computer, talked bad about me to her, the list never ends. One picture of me in his phone, 200 of her. After the most painful & heartbreaking year of my life, I find out that it was all a big plan from the beginning... He set it up to use me to make his ex-girlfriend, who he is obsessed with, jealous & want him back because she's the type of girl who only wants him when he has someone else... she's just like him, an evil Gemini. He used me as an excuse to talk to her, to get pity & attention from her & have an excuse to call her 24/7. It worked. Gemini's need to grow up, they're heartless, evil, & don't respect a good woman. All they want deep down is other trashy Gemini's just like themselves. I hate this man. He abused me, destroyed me, and ruined my life. I will never even speak to another Gemini again thanks to him. Gemini's should be omitted from the zodiac, all grouped together & sent off to another planet so they can all lie to & cheat on each other, and ruin each others lives! Gemini's are not just another zodiac sign, they are a breed of demons straight from the flames of hell!

Gemini two face hypocrite nightmare NEW
by: Anonymous

I dated a Gemini and spotted very early on that he was not to be trusted and I immediately told him I wanted to end the relationship. He would not let go! I was stalked, lied to and given false promises to be kept and somehow someway he slivered back into my life. It will be three years April that I have played this game with him. I decided that I need to make it his idea to let me go, even though I ended the relationship by only seeing him when he sporadically shows up and not touching him for months he is still around. He by far is the worst I ever dated!

Run from a Gemimi NEW
by: Anonymous

I can relate to every comment/story on here. My jaw hit the floor reading some of these, you'd think it was the exact same man, ugh! Geminis are heartless and two-timing. They're liars and betrayers. Four-faced! To your face, they'll lie and put on a HUGE act to fool you, and as soon as your not around (i.e. your at work or even in a different room) they will instantly turn into a complete different person, a person you've never seen or thought existed: hitting on, checking out, and flirting with other women like they're single.. sickening behavior... And yes, even cheating, like it doesn't mean a thing. Its scary, stressful, and heartbreaking. They have no care or concern for yours or anyone else's feelings, and they have absolutely no remorse. They'll concoct a scheme or plan to blame you for everything, trying to justify their actions and behavior. Gemini's are great to have fun or be friends with only, not a serious relationship. DONT fall in love with a gemini or your life will be ruined and you'll suffer the worst heartache and crushed hopes and dreams of your life.

yes they do NEW
by: Anonymous

Yes, they do cheat. And if in some rare instance they don't, you can guarantee they will flirt and hit on anything they find even remotely attractive, even while you're around but mostly when you're not. That is how they're wired. So if you're a person that can't take behaviour like that, a Gemini will not only break your heart, but make you go insane right along with it. Unless that's OK with you, a normal person would make a very wise decision by steering clear of any Gemini's. Everyone's a little different, but it's in all of them to a degree and 99% of them can't control their behaviour and no matter how good you look or how loyal of a person you are, it will not change them one bit.

lying cheating gemini stalker NEW
by: Anonymous again

the gemini I dated would get caught in his lies and still didn't care. I am an intuitive pisces with a college degree in psychology, and was able to spot the horrible qualities in him immediately. He professed love immediately, lied immediately and would not let me go when I wanted to end it merely 1 month into the relationship. It has been 3 years since then and he is still around, he will profess he will never cheat, never lie, never chase a married woman or anything that will discredit him and has done all the above all while saying that he loves me and I am the best that he could never want anyone else. I never fell for his lies, I confronted him about them and all I got was more lies and empty promises. He just got more clever about it. Since I can not get rid of him without drastic action(which may not even work , he is a stalker), I just don't get intimate with him, hoping HE WILL GET RID OF ME!! Hopefully he will tire of having me as a friend with no benefits I won't even hold his hand but I wonder if the chase will keep him tantalized for another 3 years. He still chases other ex's from decades ago. Have any of you experienced this before?

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