Does my Aries man just want me for sex?

About a month ago, an old friend (Aries man) from several years ago found me. From day one, it's been endless communication via text messages. I am unsure what he wants. On the first day, it was all about rekindling our friendship.

Day two, it was a totally different conversation. He started in on the intimate questions and possible sexual encounters between us. I am thinking he's only after sex. He swears he's not - he's interested in developing more. "I'm his, I just don't know it yet."

In my presence, he wants to cuddle and will shower me with compliments. "I adore you." However, over the phone, he gets upset when I tell him no or refuse to give him the answer he wants regarding intimacy between us. It usually causes an argument. It gets to the point where I think he has given up and he won't call or text for several hours. Then, all the sudden, he calls. I know he has a woman or two that he sees dates but he makes it seem like I am the one he really wants. He says a lot of things that I take with a grain of salt.

I'm thinking he is telling me what I want to hear. I am really confused. Is it just sex? I've read many things that says Aries men are very aggressive and highly sexual. Also, suggesting it doesn't necessarily mean you are not the object of his affection.

Even though he seems annoyed, is he really excited by my refusal? I am a bit shy sexually. I like to take my time.

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by: Anonymous

I'm back again. This dude is giving me a headache. I swear this is a battle of wills.

He wants what he wants and when he wants. In my case, it's me and him in a bed. LOL.

I feel we're lacking some substance here. I refuse to travel this route without knowing his true intentions. He hasn't shown me squat. He thinks I know him but I don't. How can I? I swear all he wants is a hook up. He tells me he's too old for that. I am the object of his affection??

However, he made a joke - saying he hooked up with another girl. At least, he claims to be a joke. I don't find very funny. He says I needed to loosen up but I think he is playing mind games.

Do you think a joke like that draws me closer to you? This is some high school BS.... I think I am throwing in the towel on this one. I think he is used to getting his way.... he better find another gal to play games with. I am definitely not the one!

by: Anonymous

the irony is that all of that is just going to make him want you even more

by: Anonymous

Are you serious? This is utterly ridiculous.

So tonight, he became foul and asked would I perform some sexual favors for him. Well, this is where I draw the line. Communicating with tact is definitely a skill he doesn't possess or practice. I can't believe his overly aggressive, crude ways work on anyone besides a desperate gal.

So, I basically told him that I don't have the time to listen to any more of his BS. When he learns to communicate in a respectful manner, he can contact me. He needs to go back to those other women who like Prince Un-Charming. Someone has pumped up his head. Boy, they can keep him.... I am So through with this headache.

Typical Aries I am afraid

Yes you are right the more you don't try the more he wants you. They go for challenges not easy pickings so you saying no just made him want you more haha. I was like you and really pissed off with this Aries Man I met, but I have to say that once you get inside their head and understand them it is so much easier to handle. They are selfish and conceited, big ego but at the same time insecure and childish (always me me me). They are known to have foot in mouth syndrome, sometimes innocently but sometimes to purposefully upset you. I read the comments other woman and Aries men had put on this website and believe me it has done me so much good. Now I really feel empowered to understand them. They want to be in charge all the time but at the same time dont want wallflowers or women who are weak. Feisty women actually turns them on haha. So in some ways the way you have been is actually a turn on to him. He wants what he can't have. You definitely need to find out whether he is has other women in tow as some are more promiscuous then others, They get bored easily and can be fickle. So yeh if you wanted a straightforward man you picked the wrong sign. At the same time dont let him treat or speak to you like a doormat either - the guy I like got nasty and I stopped texting him and told him to phone me cos wasnt going to take that shit from him. They can be very insecure aswell but are highly charged sexually. They are known for stubborness and taking risks. Now I am on much better terms with this guy I like and whilst I don't know whether we have a future looking at this website has helped me tons to get inside his head. I know how to deal with him and what buttons to press and already the things I have put in place are producing good results. He said the same thing that he didnt want a relationship and got equally pissed off when I told him if he wants a quickie then look elsewhere. Same thing he got very funny and nasty but tough! Ironically if I had just slept with him he would have been history by now because they dont want an easy ride (excuse the pun) they love the challenge - so being quick to bed them is the worse thing you can do. Good luck!

We like to work for it
by: Aries

Yeah, he wants you more now.

If you're interested you should tell him so but that you want to take it slowly. He'll stick around. I'm sure he'll be imagining the whole time what he wants to do to you

Move on!
by: Anonymous

The last guy I was involved with was an aries. Talk about a mistake...The first warning sign he has kids. Not to say there's anything wrong with a man or woman having kids, but the last couple of guys that had kids, there always ended up being problems. Anyway, the second warning sign, when his kids mother found out about us, she flipped out and was pretty much stalking me on facebook and through email. Now over a year later, after putting all the pieces of the puzzle together, this guy has been messing us both over. Lying and carrying on. Well, towards the end of our "relationship" he sent a text to her and sent it to me as well saying he wanted to work on us and he wants to work on us but you don't want to. Obviously he was talking to her. Needless to say I finally said enough with the bull and let him go for good. Now he's tried on several different occasions to contact me and on all occasions I've told him to leave me alone and move on. I guess my story just goes to show that the Aries guy I had in my life, and not all men born under this sign are the same, that he enjoyed amd still enjoys the games. The best thing I could have done was let him go....

pls help
by: Anonymous

Hi! I have just been reading all these things about an Aries man and trust me all the personality traits are so right.I have a very close Aries man with whom I discuss a lot of intimate things I mean our conversations are more about those rather than normal day to day topics.Now the issue that has cropped up is that recently he was busy with something and I accused him telling him that I am so hurt and feeling miserable that he isnt replying back later on he spoke to me and explained me that he was busy with work.Just recently he didnt again pick up my phone calls which made me again wonder whats wrong so i texted him quite a few asking him to reply and tell me why is he not taking my calls which leaves me so confused all the time.He is a great guy trust me on that but sometimes I just go nuts trying to understand him.I dont get the hot and cold treatment coming from him.At times he behaves like I am the closest friend that he has and at times for no reason not that I can think of any he behaves so cold and unbothered.Pls help me what should i do now as he hasnt been replying back or picking my phone calls.Should I stop bothering him and give him his space to come around? I care a lot about him and certainly dont want to lose him at any cost.i do not know or understand what should be my next move to make him come around and talk to me thats why resorting to take help from here.Pls advice on what to do next.Thank u so much.

sounds like my aries guy
by: Anonymous

This sounds like my aries guy we date a few years ago for a while then ended cause he want to work thing out with a ex. about a month ago we stared texting again day one was all about him wanting to be friend and getting to know me again.He state he was sort of in a relationship with someone but wasnt sure if he loved day two he was texting sexual stuff i told him i wasn't comfortable talking about stuff like that n it was getting anoying he would stop for a couple of hours then it would start again. i keep asking him if it was just sex he was after and he always said no that he really wanted to get to know and wishes he could change the past.The another day i had enough of the games and decided to sleep with him to see if that was really the only reason he was talking to me and surely enough since i did i haven't heard form him again. IF you really want to find out if that's all he is after sleep with him and see if he still talks to you after

by: Anonymous

This really sound like my aries guy. What is his name?

sercet lover
by: Anonymous

I met an Aries man thru fb and we became married so we just texted on the phone....unhappiled married by the way.....after about a month he flies from new York to Georgia where i husband just happened to be out of town so we hooked about three Weeks layer he says he lost his cell phone but I dony believe a grown man can go a week without being near a amyway he texts me on fb like im not ignoring you......but that'd how i felt so i just tried to act like i didnt care just talking and posting with other mutual friends then one day he sends me a message saying he doesnt like one of my post so i told him i dont care about him or what he thinks......because he hasnt tried to call me i thought he didnt care for me.....but he got angry and said i never loved him if im so easy to walk away.....i calmed him down and told him i still care but my question my Aries in love with me beacuse he got angry i didnt wany anything to do with him or was it just for his ego

he say he isnt looking for a relationship
by: Anonymous

ok about six months ago i became friends with a guy from work he told me he was in a relationship but wasnt sure how long it would last and so we just were cool well he left and went to another job and two weeks he texted me and we started talking... he told me he and his girl no longer are together and that he isnt looking for a relationship he just want to be friends... i like this guy he is sweet traightfoward goodlooking hardeworking intellegent and has no kids... the problem is im getting mixed feelings because even though he say he dont want to b in a relationship we talk all the time when i visit him he treats me like im his queen... we have had sex a few times but i toild him about three months ago that if he just want to be friends that we had to stop... nothing has changed except the sex.. i guess my question is im falling in love and i dont and i dont know what to do should i break away or should i stick it out in hopes that he may wants somethinng more

He need space
by: Anonymous

I had an aries man who wanted me for like five years once I gave him the opportunity he treated me like a queen. We even got married and i started having trust issues with him i know of him to be sneaky. To make a long story short we started having serious arguments all the time and he said he want space he's not breaking up with me. Okay it went from that to he will call sometimes when he feel, so I said he don't work like that you want your space have it. But honestly I miss my husband and i try reaching out to him telling him i love him and he need to come back, he never reply or answer so i stop all together with everything , what I want to know is if he gonna come back for the fact that he probably thinking I don't care anymore. Any. Advice?

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