Help me understand Taurus Ex
Hello Taurus women! Please help me to understand you. My Taurus ex girlfriend left me for an Aquarius man. This is complicated (I am a cancer after all) so please bear with me.
I'm a 33 year old Cancer male who is madly in love with a 28 year old Taurus women. We met a little over a year ago when I was visiting friends in Indiana. (I live in Cleveland) we hooked up and I didn't think anything would come of it, but she pursued me until I fell hard for her. Things were great for about 6 months but then I made the mistake, even though I was being 100% honest with her, of telling her to much info about myself.
Let me tell you about myself. I became a Christian at age 27 and have had issues with lust since I was young. I never cheated on my girlfriend and I never would, but I did decide I needed to take a break from sex due to my obsession with it, and my faith. This was very hard for her to understand and I completely get why she was upset and confused. It was something I decided about 6 months into our relationship. We had been having sex every time we got together, but I knew I needed to stop so I could work on my lust issues and try to be true to my faith. I was thinking about the negative affects lust had on me, and I wanted to work on it. That is the truth and I told her this. She was supportive of my decision for about 4 months, but I was not able to resist having sex with her when we would get together so she ended up feeling like she had to be the strong one, which was too much for her. It sucks because my intentions were good but the result was horrible.
I was weak (stupid cancer traits lol!) and not able to do what I intended to do which made her question me as a man. I have some self-esteem issues, which is the cause of my wanting to escape into my lust fantasies, and from what I understand about Taurus women is they can't be with a man who does not prove his ability to be a strong man, and I had screwed that all up. I also dragged my feet on finding a job and moving when I said I was going to, and that made things worse.
So after one of the most amazing years of my life, the women I was certain I was going to marry decided to turn her heart away from me. And boy did she ever. She cut me off cold but did not break up with me. This made me a little crazy because a few days before, she was sweet and loving, and then the next thing I knew she just turned into this cold, emotionless, person who I had never met before. It really freaked me out. She would not communicate with me or tell me she loved me. I ended up breaking up with her because she was so cold and completely different from the women I fell in love with. I have never experienced someone who was so kind and loving one day, and then the most cold person I have ever met the next. I was completely crushed. I was not able to hold my composure. I was having panic attacks and she still didn't seem to care.
She eventually told me her heart had turned away from me without her realizing it until the end. She said it was mostly because of the lust issue and because I was “jealous” about her hanging out with her friends. She admitted that I was never jealous until the end, and that it really turned her off. I replied that I was never concerned about any of her friends when I knew she was in love with me, but when she cut me off I noticed she invited her tattoo artist out with her to drink with her and a friend, and they had never hung out to my knowledge before she cut me off so I asked her about him. This is when we were still “dating”. She immediately became offended that I would ask her about her intentions with one of her friends. So I dropped it. But the best part is, my intuition was right. They are now together.
A week after I broke up with her, due to her being so cold, she invited me to visit her. The day I left, we cried in each others arms for about 20 minutes and she did tell me she loved me but just wasn't able to make up her mind about dealing with my issues. I assured her that I would work day and night on my issues if she would give me a second chance, but she just kept crying and didn't talk to me. On my way home she text me saying “I'm not going anywhere...”. Since this last visit we have talked a few times via text but nothing about us. I found out from a mutual friend that she is indeed hooking up with her tattoo artist. The one she got pissed about when I questioned her intentions with him. He is a Aquarius man who is the polar opposite of my ex. She is scared to try anything dangerous or new, and he is all about dangerous and new. I know opposites attract but I cannot see this working out in the end.
So, what do you Taurus women think? I know it's complicated but I am working hard every day on my issues and am making great progress. And I'm no just saying that. I am seeing a psychologist and I'm really working hard on my issues. I'm not perfect but I am loyal and honest, and I am a good guy who would do anything for his friends and lover. I have always treated my ex with love and care and I know she was very happy throughout most of our relationship.
Do I still have a chance with her or should I move on? It's so hard to move on from the “love of your life” but I don't want to hold out hope if there is none. We really were very happy together and I think I can make her really happy if I can get my issues taken care of.
I will take any advice you have. Thanks in advance!