How to stay friends with a Leo man who doesn't fancy me any more

by Gloria

I met this Leo guy about a year ago and he approached me in a very flirtations, I would even say sexually aggressive manner. But he was very good looking, fun, and charming and I didn’t mind it. He is few months younger than me (30) but sometimes acted like a younger and more immature boy. In the beginning he told me he was hurt before (they always are because of their selfish and proud nature) but only few months after that I realized it was by a Scorpio woman, like me – when I told him that I am a Scorpio too. He didn’t say anything then but obviously made up his mind to be careful with me and keep me on a certain distance. At times he was very open and generous, we even went for a trip together but he never fully opened to me and let me be his “girlfriend” in the actual meaning of it. I was totally attracted by him, ready to give as much as I can without accounting what I get in return. He enjoyed my attention but sometimes ignored me for a day or two. With time he became very reserved to me and refused even to touch me anymore.

What a fool I was! It was few months later that I realized that he had another affair with an Aquarius girl (7 years younger than us) from his circle. When I initially asked him he told me she is just a friend, that she is too stupid to be his girlfriend. I felt that he is cheating, and tried to be more reserved. He asked me then: “can’t we just be friends; you are my best female friend”. The reason I said Ok to this is that he was very careful and kind to me, called me several times after I was operated to offer help, bought me a nice birthday present and was very understanding and considerate to me in several occasions when I had hard times at my job.

Few weeks ago I learned that the girl “who was not his girlfriend” actually is because he is taking her for a trip – absolutely the same way he did it with me a year ago. When I asked him about it he told me he would like me to join them too as his friend. I was very upset by this – what is this guy thinking of me! I tried to keep a bigger distance without being too rude or direct to him and somehow this triggered him trying to do the opposite. He started calling me every day, asking who I am with. I was with another man on New Year’s Eve; he knew it but still asked me to call him. I didn’t and he called me the next day to ask how it was, when I didn’t tell anything he became mad and hanged up. I tried to reconcile for the sake of our friendship and the many common friends that we have.

He then started calling me every day – something he never did before, in fact I was the one calling him and craving for his attention. He invited me out, even bout me a present few days ago. I know that Leos behave this way because they are proud and don’t want someone to dump them unless they decide to do so first. This is why I tried to stay opened and kind but still keep a distance. I cannot hang out with a man who has another girlfriend, and even worse – has chosen her before me. Last night he called me twice at 10.00 PM – I didn’t pick. Now I am sitting here, in the middle of nowhere and trying to figure out what to do. On the one hand – I don’t want to be too rude because we share common friends and I don’t want them to think I treated him bad (they all like him). I don’t want to be rude even without this – I don’t want to isolate and ignore a person who is considerate and nice to me as a friend. I want to stay polite and open but it hurts me every time when I see him! If he didn’t call me almost every day probably I would not think of him, I try my best to distract from the thoughts: reading, fitness, meeting female friends. The problem is that the other men I meet are not half as good as him, probably I am still not ready to be with someone…

Sorry that this post became too long – I tried to shorten it a bit. Any feedback or advice will be appreciated. Please, don’t be too harsh to me – I am not a stupid girl, just fooled by the fact I cannot command my heart …and who can?