Leo and being ignored
The Leo man I know (once knew?) was a very close colleague of mine. He was new to the city and had very few friends. I opened him into my world with open arms. Invited him to parties, happy hour, etc, at the time he had a GF. We remained as close colleagues and casual friends.I soon began to realize that our lunches and dinner together that I was beginning to develop feelings for him.
I let him know that I'd like to keep building our friendship and getting to know him and he told me he really didn't think he could handle balancing the awkward situation with being close colleagues and also trying to be close friends.
It became increasingly difficult, despite the fact he had broken up with his GF, was regularly online dating sites seeking the attention of women and dating them (he had quite a few GFs and none of them seemed to last more than a few months), as much as we had connected during the work day (not co-workers/I was a client), lots of emails and phone calls daily, half the time about work, have the time about life in general, he never saw me as someone he'd want to approach outside of the office.
I got frustrated by that and said this was an uneasy situation, being close colleagues and casual friends. He would get mad and say I am over-thinking and we're just casual and get over it.
Our relationship was always like this.If he was sick,I'd offer to come by if he needed anything,if he was going out of town, I'd offer a ride to the airport, pretty much what I would do for any friend I cared about. He would do a lot for me that I wouldn't normally ask or trust anyone to do, he would come and support many events, even the ones that had nothing to do with his company, he was someone I could share a lot of my frustrations with my job, co-workers, boss, our relationship really helped to make my work days go by faster and brighter.
Our friendship was not this way. We used to be able to text each other at night and then one day I got fed up with this casual world, he knew I cared, but I was sick of being passed over for all these other women. Its not like we never spent any time together outside the office, we were both the same age, had a lot of things in common and we connected really well. We shared a lot of stories of life experiences, mistakes, hopes and dreams. I was not very nice about my frustration and from that moment on he started to tell me it was inappropriate for us to talk about feelings.
I stopped texting him all together. One night while I was out my phone was out of the holster and ended up dialing him at midnight. I got a nasty text from him that said "don't you ever do that again!". I texted back that I was out with friends and that my phone auto-dialed and that I was sorry, he never responded.
He became so harsh that I stopped inviting him out, didn't bother to invite him to my bday party as I had in the past, he became so mean and aggressive towards me outside the office, I just gave up on him.