Virgo man disappearing

I am a Scorpio woman, and I am very interested in this Virgo man. The weird part is that we have never really met, he went to the same college as me for a while, & I knew him from around the campus so I added him on facebook & we began talking (although at the time he had moved back to his hometown, which was an hour away).

A little while ago, I had a boyfriend, & we would still talk & he began seeming interested in me, but he knew I was in a relationship, so it didn't last long. He soon disappeared from the picture for a while, until I broke up with my boyfriend; a couple months after that, he randomly messaged me on msn, saying that he was drunk & he missed me. I said I missed him too, & then he said "why is it so weird falling for a girl you've never met"; I know that Virgos usually aren't the type of signs that take risks like that, so I thought he really liked me. He said he would try really hard to come and see me that coming up weekend, & so almost everyday we would text message each other. Saturday came & he said he ended up having to ref a team for something, so I wasn't too insulted, & he said next weekend for sure he would come. So we would continue to text & Friday came and he never texted me that day to tell me he was coming or not. So that night I messaged him and said that if there was something bothering him or that he was too shy to come and see me, that he should just tell me, and that I wanted him to reply, but he never did.

A couple days later he's talking to me again but he completely ignored that fact that I left that message, and started flirting with me again, almost like he completely forgot. So I brushed it off.

I think I was falling for him so hard that I almost convinced myself that I should go to the same college that he decides to go to next year, and he seemed to pick up on that.

This weekend he's supposed to come up but he's acting weird again. I don't really understand.
He's always asking me what I'm going to do if he comes down and I don't really understand that. I know Virgo's aren't usually sexual people and plus he's very kept to himself so I don't think he's meaning what I think he is.

Another thing is that he keeps asking me if there's anything exciting happening in my town when he comes down, or if I have something planned; I kind of do, but I'm also insulted. Why does there need to be something exciting going on for us to hang out together? He also invited along one of my friends, I guess so that maybe he wouldn't feel so awkward?
The friend that is tagging along with us asked him why he is coming to see me and all he said was "because.., ask her" and he wouldn't say anything else. What does that mean?

My question is, what's with all his disappearing behavior? I know that usually if a Virgo wants to do something, he will. So after the first and second disappearance, he still keeps on texting me and coming back, what's with him? and since it's our first time meeting, what can I do to make things feel comfortable? How are you supposed to act around a Virgo anyways?

Can you help me out?

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Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

Virgo's are complicated folk. Very intellectual, and very self critical (which makes them lack self confidence in a way that's very alien to Scorpios).

No matter how confident he comes across, I'll guarantee the problem here is that you intimidate him.

He's nervous about meeting you - stalling for time, wanting other people around, saying things which make no sense, ignoring questions, wanting to "do something" (so you won't be focused on him during the meeting) - it's all due to that intimidation (don't point this out to him by the way, or you'll just make it worse).

You have two ways to solve this:

1. Be very laid back about the first meeting. Do everything you can to be neutral about it (meet for just an hour or so, have friends there, go to "do" something - anything to take the focus off of him (he's picturing you studying him under a microscope, while he's unable to escape etc - Virgos hate that level of attention!) - basically you want to camouflage the meeting with as much external distraction as you can (so it's not about "him and you")

2. Break the ice yourself. Show up unexpectedly at his work or somewhere you know you can find him. Don't give him any warning (or time to think and panic about it!)

After the first meeting you'll find he's completely different, and far more relaxed. This isn't normal behavior - it's unique to the way you met and accumulated expectations and pressure before the first meeting.

Best of luck with your mission - don't give up! These are signs he's very interested in you.

Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

Hello there. I am a thirty year old Virgo man.
Young woman, If there's anything you should try mostly to avoid if you really want your Virgo man; please don't let him know how much you want him.
Naturally Virgo men will only value something that they fought to get and not one that falls into their laps.

From his behavior I can tell that he likes you but you're simply giving him too much attention. When next a Virgo man asks you out on a date don't agree to his date try postponing it to a later time.
Just be a little withdrawn and he'll want you even more

Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

Scorpio women are very often serious, of intellectual inclinations, secretive, egoist, and sensitive at heart but camouflaging at their outer personality. If male happens to be a Virgo partner to a Scorpio woman you will find that she has always an upper hand over her male.

Virgo male are easily attracted towards Scorpio female while it is the tender attitude and intelligence of a Virgo that draws a Scorpio women to him. If they are bound as soulmates and the stars tend to indicate negatives, it shall be a relation between agony and ecstasy of which both will enjoy through their sufferings.

Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

well I have been kind of involved with a Virgo male....for 6 months now...in the beginning he was crazy about me. he gave me a phone so he could talk to me when he wanted to...two months later we took a lil fishing trip together to Florida...we could not get enough of each other...perfect...and the sex was amazing....he was all about me. he is 31 I just turned 25 he has been married twice and recently divorced his second wife and has two kids by the first wife.. ive never been married and I have one kid. on our way home he got back his phone and things got weird...so finally I asked him a couple of days later what the deal was and he said he really enjoyed spending time with me but was not looking for anything serious. so I was cool with that and things went back to normal briefly...he would stand me up then out of no where there he is...he came all the way to another town to crash in on me at the club...then he tells me how right things feel with me and is sooo sweet ...then the next few days the weirdness starts again. distance...then he pops up again...he wanted to be friends...still flirting...so I go to his house. and he has cooked me dinner. went to hang with some mutual friends.. when we get to his house he tells me he realizes he messed up and wants to be exclusive and that everything feels right...so im like ok...and then the next day he says sorry for getting so drunk and saying what he said...when I get pissed he says we shouldn't talk anymore...im like ok cool...it hurt but clearly this is a game to him so I have decided to play....here we are 6 months down the road and 3 days ago he went to a friends house I told him id be at and demands them call me when he does not find me there...and I invited him to a party...he showed up and this time I did not let him see how much I really do care about him...it left things smooth. when he tried to sweet talk me I told him to shut up with that mess and I put it on him....yes he is not running from me anymore means I can use this casualness to ease him into having something more AM I DELUSIONAL!!???? Lol

Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

Well I started to see a Virgo man and then out of the blue he simply "disappeared". I thought what happened when everything was going so well. I don't understand him and he was the one that was always flirting with me.

Virgo man disappearing
by: Anonymous

I have been talking/dating a Virgo man who is a pro athlete. I met him by chance and didn't realize he was a pro athlete until our 1st date. He is a very much a home body and I'm a social Scorpio but loves spending tim w/him. He is patient and kind..he waited months before we ever did anything sexually and I loved the fact that he never pressured me. He opened his home to me and invited me over for dinners and to meet family including his mother on several different occasions. He's introduced me to some of his closest teammates. But what I don't understand is why he has integrated me into his life but he can go weeks without speaking to me or seeing me? If he goes out of town or back to his hometown during off season our communication drops but when comes back into town I'm the first person he calls to pick him up at the airport and we spend time together like no time had past since the last time we saw each other! He's told me that he is not ready to commit which is fine but alm ost a year has past and we are still doing this same dance...should I continue? I'm really interested in being more serious with him but don't want to push him away...

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