Why Aquarius men disappear
by Taylor
Hi there! I noticed a lot of questions were asking about why their Aquarius men are disappearing or doing 180's in the personality department. Okay. I can't talk for all of them, of course, and I'm not saying that this is even the right answer. All I know is that, as an Aquarius, I think I know what you are talking about. In my experience, it's not that us Aquariuses are displeased with you or that you did something wrong. No. When it comes to me, it's just that I am having a mental freak out. They are probably thinking they like you, want to be with you...But at the same time, they are feeling that ever familiar despair as they think their freedom is leaving them for good. If you're not an Aquarius, it may be hard to understand, but committing to something...For me, it's all about not hurting the other person. I'm always worried that when I talk to someone, I may lose interest (not in a mean way, just in a way that there is a whole huge world out there and there's a lot to experience.) and do just like your men are doing and cut and run. This is a never ending thing. We love people, love being with them, love studying them...But we also hate being tied down and when people get too close...It scares us, to be frank, and we run away to the next thing. Unless.
Few things have worked for me when I have decided to run for it. Guilting only works for so long and usually just convinces me that I should run before I feel too bad about it. Questions about where I've been, what I've been doing, why I haven't responded, just make me feel bad and usually make me lie, so I don't make you feel bad, too. Because the truth is, most of the time I still want to be with whoever I am avoiding, it's just I need a little space, a little break to experience the rest of the world. But when the person I am spacing from starts to cling to me because of the break, I get worried. I don't want to rush into a relationship.
(Though, quick side note. I, personally, always stay very affectionate, even when I don't want the relationship to move too fast. (( I think it's one of those stupid contradictions us Aquariuses are known for)) If you're Aquariuses is being very romantic, rushing along, don't just assume that he is ready for a relationship! Because then you'll be very confused when he suddenly disappears or brushes off invitations to spend time with you. For me, at least, it is just having fun, just interacting. And then it becomes a sudden realization that my partner might be reading more than simple friendship or affection into it and, in order to fix and think about this, I cut off and take a break. This might seem weird or even off putting to you, but it makes perfect sense to an Aquarius. We don't like making train wrecks, but often do it anyway.)
The best way, again this is just my experience and I've known other things to work at different times, you just have to try you're best to read the situation, is to remind the Aquarius why he picked you in the first place. Don't push him into a romantic situation. Pick a fun activity, maybe something you know he's been wanting to do, something he can't resist, even if he has been being a recluse. Go to a movie or bowling or to his favorite food joint and just talk.
Don't talk about why he hasn't been talking to you or that you've missed him, because that will just make him feel guilty and he'll want to get away from the bad feelings, but also don't make it seem like you've had too much fun while you weren't with him, because that will just make him think that you don't really like him, anyway (again, not in a mean way. He'll think this in the kindest, most rational way ever. I know, seriously.) and that it would probably be the best for both of you if he left now. Just talk about interesting topics, maybe a good natured debate or competition. Remind him that you are still interesting and you are still worth studying. Be a mystery and he'll stop worrying about relationships and commitments and go back to picking at your brain and looking at you with his head tilted. And the less he is worrying about commitments and whether it is endangering his freedom or not, the more he will focus on you and he will slip back into his affectionate and caring state.
Just remember, it is very easy for him to do another 180. You just have to make sure him and you remain on the same page. He doesn't want to go fast at all, no matter what kind of signals he may accidentally be sending. And also remember, if he started chasing you or being with you in the first place, he saw that special spark in you and loves it. You just have to remind him of that every once and awhile. And let him keep whatever hobbies he has, because while you may think they are distracting from you, that are also keeping his mind active and away from scary freedom losing thoughts.
I really hope this helps! Good luck, ladies, you may need it...
