Aquarius men are so distant

I am in a relationship/friendship with an Aquarius guy and everything that I've read is so true. They are very distant and go thru periods of saying loving things and wanting to have sex and then all of a sudden no calls or nothing for a few days. I'm ok with that as long as I can believe that he's missing me and thinking about me as I am him. I too want to talk to him everyday but I try to respect his space as I want my space respected. Is it true that if they like you then they will spend time with you? I'm always so afraid of doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing because my Aquarius man has been hurt real bad in the past, I mean real bad and I don't know if he will ever be able to love again. I feel like I'm always being tested and compared and as soon as something goes wrong the first response is I can't go back there. I'm not out to hurt him at all, I just want to love him but I'm afraid that the other person has taken all that he has and that he will never love again. Therefore, that leaves me with the question of who am I and why is he spending time with me at all? I'm so confused I don't know what to do. I try to have patience and I've kept my tongue a lot of times from things I really want to say. Also he seems to always give such direct non-compassionate answers to my concerns but I don't do that to him so does it mean he really doesn't care what's going on with me? please help me keep my friend