Aries man is so distant

Ok, here is my problem. I have had an Aries boyfriend for 6 years, living together more than a year. We have had a bad period for the last months after having a fantastic time for a couple of months. We started talking things through one day, but unfortunately one night that we were drunk we had a huge fight, I went mental and it got ugly. He broke up with me on the spot and then said he was not sure.

He went away for a week and came back to tell me that we were over, I accepted his decision and apologized for the hurt caused and told him I have learned a great deal out of the situation, etc. He said he was now confused and was not sure breaking up was the right decision anymore, as all I had said was what he wanted to hear from a long time.

I told him I will give him some time to think and moved out to my parents for a couple of days. He kept saying that he was not sure when he will be clear in his head. One day I came to pick up some clothes and in the middle of talking about our feelings we made love, so he said and so it felt like. BUT when finished he emphasized it didn't change the situation of confusion for him and
nothing was solved. I went back to my parents, but felt kind of used and wrong, as what I imagine a one night stand feels like. I left it for a day and then when back to our flat with my things and told him that making love had put pressure on the situation and it had to be resolved ASAP if not on the day. He said that I have put him in a corner and that in that case we were over. From what I read, my mistake was to put pressure on him. But I didn't want to finish with him, I wanted not to waist time for our relationship as I felt it could be stronger after everything that we have been through.

Once again I said I respected his decision, but asked if he actually wanted more time or wanted to talk about it later. He said he didn't know.

Now we are living in the same flat, sleeping in separate rooms and we exchange some words here and there, but we have not talked about what we are going to do with the flat etc.

I would like to have a chance in the relationship but only if he is ready to, I know probably I should have been more patient but it became difficult after making love. Not sure what to do. I understand writing (romantic) letters is not a good idea, but I feel talking is not a good one neither as he may feel I am still pressuring, even after he has finished it.