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You're heading for Whiplash with this one!!! I'm a Gemini woman & my Cancer man who I been with on/off for 4 years is the most difficult guy I have ever dated.
At times he seems ice cold, uninterested, secretive & borderline arrogant. When it's bad it's bad, weeks without speaking and they say Gemini have multiple personalities, but when it's good, WOW he's amazing, always makes me smile, fiercely loyal and has a knack of making me feel like I'm the only woman in the world. Sensitive, passionate & I love his emotional side when he shows it.
He Is never disrespectful or abusive, he'd rather walk away than argue, which drives me nuts. Our issue is communication, neither wear our hearts on our sleeves BUT I do know I'll love him forever cause he is the most special and amazing guy I have ever known.
I am a Gemini gal that has been dating a Cancer guy for a year and a half now. In the first 3 months, it was all sugary sweet... but then it started to be all stormy.
He seemed to like to release his anger on me regardless of the reasons. Then, after a year of an on-off relationship, things began to stabilize. He treats me better though there are no more sugar coated words like in the first 3 months. But one thing never change.... he doesn't trust me enough ... I always caught him checking my phone and all (and I thought I'll be doing this... haha) ....with him I felt like I was the man instead because most of the time, it is him who nags...
Cancer and Gemini sounds like a very interesting combination.
I am a Gemini woman who met and fell head over heels with a sensitive, caring and sensual Cancer guy. He was perfect! None of my previous boyfriends could measure up to him in terms of how caring and sensitive he was to me, how he tried to please me all the time and how he always made time for me. However, he was extremely emotional and clingy, texting and calling me ALL the time, endless emails, etc. Initially, it was so sweet and romantic and I couldn't bear to be apart from him.
After a few months of intense attention (and I mean 24/7!), I found it a bit smothering esp when he showed his jealous and controlling side - not to mention his fluctuating moods! Things are getting a bit bad now that my job demands are increasing (he does free-lance work) and I cannot afford to spend time doing nothing but cuddle in bed with him - which he is interpreting as my rejection of him. Gemini gals love to be in love and be swept of their feet but after a while we want to get back on our feet to live our lives as we see fit. Trust is another area where Cancer guys lack. In fact, my previous Scorpio BF gave me more freedom - and they're supposed to be the suspicious type. So, in conclusion, Cancer men make caring lovers but after the romantic dust has settled, us Gemini's will find them too suffocating and we need to move on.
I am a Gemini woman who's been on and off with my Cancer man for 4 years...everything in the beginning was wonderful he was the sweetest man ever I thought I had found " the one " .... It was a text book guy who I thought had been sent to me as a blessing...booooyyy he turned out to be a learning lesson...extremely moody one day he had me rolling in the floor from laughter literally less than 24 hours he's pouting biting his nails like he's beyond stressed barking at ur every what's wrong...now im a Gemini this man has me beat with the dual personalities...we have a child together that's the only thing that keeps me from completely cutting off communication...worst relationship ever...when its good its aite when its bad its HELL
As a Gemini woman who is currently dating a Cancer man I can identify with some of the experiences here. My Cancer man is a doting, attentive, romantic type who was like heaven-sent for me.
However, his possessive, clingy and moody behavior is really trying my patience. I really, really love him and he treats me like a queen. I don't think I have ever met a person who cares for me as much as he does but so far, I have had to sacrifice my social activities, some old pals and soon, my mom too if he keeps up with his insecurities.
I am bending over backwards to accommodate his feelings and occasionally I'm asking myself if it's all worth it. His lack of confidence and self-esteem, which originally was sweet, is getting to be a bit tiresome and I'm not sure if us Gemini's have the emotional depth to handle this in the long run. Would appreciate advice whether I should hang on or let go?...
yeah I guess it's like that with all Gemini women I'm pretty much the same with my boyfriend but we are still a young couple so to speak we have been dating for 2 months now and it is great don't get me wrong but he is a bit jealous for now I don't mind cause I'm so in love LOL but in time I know I'll get pissed ff and probably hurt him with out meaning to and we will breach up but who cares we are having fun now and hat's all that matters
If you feel these things from the beginning run and run far away, because once Cancer has you in there claws you are nothing but a play toy to them, putting up with the mood swings, the insecurities is not worth it when there are many other people out there you can be compatible with. Easier said then done I know that is why you should listen to your instincts, I also thought this was the one, then to find out his rage and insecure paranoid secretive behavior was a constant cycle wearing on me day in and out. I think this one is better left a one night stand and maybe you will hurt him but move on and forget about it or you will be dealing with it for a while, there is no short affair with Cancer male or female.
wow I've known a Cancer male for about a year now, I am Gemini, he has all the characteristics that you guys wrote about, he is very sensitive, extremely moody and yet very loving and caring very sweet, I have fallen for this guy hard. I have known him for a year and he just told me that he likes me and I am special it took him a year to tell me that and he is never direct always asking questions around never direct, and sometimes he seems so cold and rude he barely talks to me, and after 5 min, he will come and talk to me like nothing was wrong, he is very private never talks about his personal life. I am very confused though I don't know if he likes me and he is very protective of me for sure which he says he does, but he talks to every girl he seems flirty and I don't trust him that much, I am very confused and I really care about this guy, does anybody have any experience does he really like or is he playing me any advice would help.
Cancer guys really have a way with words. They are charming creatures and mine wooed me with incessant text messages, emails and phone calls. I was literally swept of my feet! He was kind, thoughtful and knew how to say the right things every time. He was my Mr. Perfect! With time, the mood swings, insecure and controlling traits emerged. I found that I was always trying to defend his behavior to my friends and to myself. Infact, I gave up on many friends to appease his insecurities. His constant need for reassurance and demands for my time caused detriment to my job performance. In the end, after the passion had died down and the sex wasn't that exciting anymore, I saw that this relationship was toxic to me and moved on. It hurt terribly because underneath it all, he was a decent guy. In conclusion, Gemini's need someone adaptable and who understands their nature. We cannot feel trapped or controlled - it will kill us.
Hi Im a Cancer guy and dated a Gemini woman, I knew my insecurities would be the biggest obstacle from my side, and so I fought my jealous nature and trusted her wholly (im a Gemini rising so I understand the need for freedom)
In the end she cheated on me with several guys... Ouch
All I can say is open, honest communication from Gemini and trust from Cancer is needed for this combination to work!
I'm currently back on a relationship with my on-off boyfriend of almost 2 years. He's caring, thoughtful, but a tough guy because he doesn't like to lose. With our relationship, I'm the insecure Gemini and he's the strong-minded Cancer. We drive each other pretty crazy after a while but somehow we find each others need to care for one another to help us patch up the holes. As a Gemini woman, Cancer men are unique and we come from different worlds but we both have a lot to learn from one another and I've learned a lot of patience! =]
omgggg all the things said about Cancer man - Gemini women are 100% true! I myself have personally experienced this relationship and still trying to find a way out. I was in love with a Cancer man one year younger than me and we both are in high school. At first of the relationship I was still my carefree crazy and social self. Then he came along and swept me off my feet with the emotional and sensitive behavior as well as caring attitude and words. God I swear I have never felt anything like that before. I was instantly attracted to him even though I had many other guys of different horoscope (I checked!) going after me. but as our relationship began, all the personalities of a Cancer surfaced with the controlling and insecurities. It drove me super nuts and I kept asking myself, is it worth it? Am I making the right choice?
But once our relationship started, every time I wanted to end it or breakup, he would come pulling me back to him with his sensitive yet lovely charm. I failed sooo many times to end things because every time we do, I will think back of him then in the end get back together. In the end after 8 months I got sooo tired of everything but our relationship got better. However I am not willing to jeopardize my social life any longer for his sense of insecurity, so I am pushing myself now to let go of him once and for all. But my heart hurts soo much and seeing him makes me wanna hug him and pulls me to him. God, on advice Geminis: never go with a Cancer or sufferrrrr!
yes Ive started to date a Cancer male god! Hes hard work Im a Gemini female one minute he wants a relationship with me the next he goes cold on me cant understand why sometimes I want to scream at him Im starting to like him but then I think relationships shouldnt be hard work should there! someone help me out what do I do with this Cancer male cant work him out!!
Well I had no choice but to tell my Cancer male to get lost. Being a Gemini female ive got 2 different personalities. He's got about 8, I had enough. Going back to my fiery Aries men they make me tick unlike a Cancer male haven't got time to work them out life is too short!!
hahahahahahha this has been the most informative and freakishly accurate string of comments ever! I find it funny how so many of us Gemini women who have an affair with a Cancer male have had it on and off. ive been on and off with my Cancer male for 4 years... AND IM ONLY 18!! the truth is, Gemini girls, if a Cancer man is in your heart, Oh boy, is it hard to let go indefinitely.
us gem gals are used to affection and attention from men of all astrological influences so we tend to become complacent and believe we are not the vulnerable ones, but when Cancer man comes along, he's got us fooled, and not many men can do that. he is a charmer because there is something sweet whilst simultaneously fiery about him and a brain to go with it!
I was only 14 when I met my Cancer guy and I was instantly drawn to him, even when we were apart our chemistry was off the chain (ehem, and I like to be in control thank you very much), granted im a gem born on the cusp- gem-Cancer (but im a gem girl in every sense) and I just could not for the life of me work the kid out!
After being so smitten, then really confused, then really hurt, and then more hurt (Cancer men invite you to experience love-ache like never before), and then after that, pulling out all out all the gem tricks of charm and wit and flirtation, (which ALWAYS work)
I got really angry at myself for letting one guy hold me down, I was ready to fly again.
And I flew.... right back into his arms.
4 times!!!... we are most likely on the verge of getting back together now..
I don't know how the little crab did it...
Gemini girls; BEST OF LUCK.
im a Gemini girl dating a Cancer guy who is a cop lol that's how we met... I got into a car accident and he came 2 my rescue. we both had an instant attraction and exchanged numbers. he told me he was a private person and didn't want anyone 2 knew in our small city that we were dating but u also told me he didn't want to rush into anything just take it slow hang out get-well I was ok with that until I really started to like him. I told him I wanted to start hanging out with him more and he seemed like he wanted that to and even told me he liked me a lot but wasn't ready for a commitment. He made plans with me then broke them then I wouldn't hear from him... so when I told im I didn't want to talk anymore that's when he would start calling again and saying super sweet things but yet he still hasn't made any changes...his moods def change a lot!!! it seems like when I tell him I don't want him anymore that's when he wants more with me but when I don't cause there's no change he chases me I just don't get him at all. can anyone help me figure him out lol I don't know what he wants??? he changes way 2 much...
I am a Gemini woman and was with the most amazing Cancer male for 2 years.
As said above, he unlike anyone I had ever met - was so romantic, doting and charismatic, great and caring in bed. He would always call when he said and say lovely things to make me feel so special. The relationship was great for the 1st year although he was insecure... but I considered this sweet!
After the 1st year he seemed to get bored and go out more the more. I guess I got more distant, but it was because I was comfortable and thought that he was deeply in love with me. This was a mistake as after another year HE ended it and I was heart broken :( He said it was because he realized he was not IN love with me like he should be and didn't want to settle sown with me.
Its been a year since we split and I am still not over it. Although I think back the actual relationship and can see we were not compatible... I don't think any guy will ever compare to a Cancer guy.
I was a cool, flighty Gemini girl who had 15 relationships in the past 10 years ; most didn't last longer than 3 months. They were mostly with colleagues who were fun to be with but not very serious. I found most of them immature. Until I met Cancer guy who was romantic, nurturing and so wonderful. He had such a way with words and bombarded me with incessant calls and text messages. Would drop everything to be with me, if I called. I gave him my heart and body and he was good to me for approx 6 months until his ex-GF came back into his life! Suddenly, all the promises and sweet words were out the window. I think he just used me for sex whilst he was estranged from his GF. Gemini girls love spontaneity, great conversation and to be pampered. He definitely knew how to push all the right buttons, taking full advantage of the famous Cancer charm. I even gave up many friends and made changes to accommodate his jealousies and insecurities. Girls, beware - Cancer guys may ap pear sensitive and caring but don't let them worm their way into your heart (or bed) too easily.
I am not even sure if I am with the Cancer man or not and that's who how likes it I love and hate it so I don't know
Im a Gemini girl who's been dating a Cancer man for four years (on/off).. yes he was so romantic and charming the first year we dated, every weekend he took me out fishing or out of town or clubbing, dinner.. wow I was deeply in love.. Then we lived together and he turned to a caveman.. I was bored and wanted to leave the relationship but cant help running back to him (Kinda like it in the sexy way when he was ice-cold).. He makes me feel special to be his girl, he's caring and giving and the most important things! he's royal..
well im a 15 yr old Gemini girl who is currently dating this just turned 18 yr old Cancer boy. we always fighting about stupid stuff and I just want to make things work out between us. we been dating for about a month and now he's talking about breaking up with me cuz my attitude gotten worse. we always talked about being in each other life forever, and that I need to change me ways. even though I don't want to leave him. he may be the one for me but he says that our zodiac signs says we aren't meant to be, and don't believe in that bullcrap. I begged him to not break up with me and he said that he just needs time off, and I told him to don't leave me and I cried too. he said if I change me bad habits and be like the girlfriend he always wanted in me, then he said he will think about staying with me. so now here I am changing my bad habits just for him and so far its going good. I REALLY love this guy and always tells me that he loves me to death and I love him to dea th too. Thank for letting me share my problem with all of you very kind people and I hope you can give me some advice to change my ways just for him. Thanks bye
thanks for the info... just met a Cancer man but was curious about what I was getting myself into and even though I know I might fall for him it is good to know what to expect so I can be prepared. Want to c how this goes. We are friends now and he don't push for a sexual relationship. I think that is what is attracting me to him.... but we shall see. thanks for these opinions...
I am a Gemini gal and a having a bf of Cancer .. He always waits for me n every respect.... if I do something then only he replies.... he is very caring .....very controlled, shy and love to stay in one place ......... Sometimes I get bored of him...... Sometimes I feel I am staying with a man with out heart. suggest me how I could change him?
I am a Gemini woman liking this Cancer male! and omg he is the hardest thing ever! and I don't get it! he txt me every day and we talk but in the phone. when I see him in person he doesn't talk and I think he likes me cuz he shows interest (some times) and asked me to go out with him (like movies, chill & things like that) but he never talks so I always try to talk to him first! but we never last talking to each other. help me what should I do should I just leave him or don't give up?
I am a Gemini girl who wants to win back a Cancer man we used to date a couple of year ago but it all went pear shape now we re hooking up again but only on a bedroom term as he has his girlfriend and a baby I so in love with him and I want him back how do I get him back I told him I love him but u can never tell with a Cancer men what they are feeling inside.
Almost all of these are negative. But I am a Gemini girl who has been with a Cancer guy for almost a year now and to be honest I'm the happiest I've ever been. it might sound strange but I like the clinginess of him, if anything I sometimes feel like the clingy one, but that's because I adore him and love being close to him. I also like to know he loves me and that is why he can be wary and slightly possessive. and he won't be any different in future if you end things with him, it might get worse. he just needs someone to think the world of him and THEN you will be left with security and happiness
I think it is not a good match. First of all, there will be many communication breakdowns, this will spoil all the magic and chemistry. Cancer man is hypersensitive and suspicious, this will bore a typical Gemini girl.
I'm a Gemini in my mid twenties and this Cancer guy is in his late 20s. We would always see each other at the club. We never spoke to each other directly but our friends were friends. I would always think about how handsome he is though I would always see him talking to other females. So I wrote him off as uninterested in me. I'm attractive and very outgoing not the shy type. He told me that quality I have always stopped him from speaking to me, He wanted to plenty of times but didn't. I don't know how I end up hanging out at his house with him watching TV and cracking jokes at the commercials and we had good fun. Then he wouldn't return my calls or texts. So I wrote him off again I'll be just fine without him. Then I'm back at his house with a gift for him and then he accuses me of sleeping with a guy he saw me talking to. & When I get ready to leave he argues and wants me to stay. Then apologizes & gets rude again so I get rude too. So I write him off again. He called me once late at night and I picked up and hung up on him. I haven't heard from him since but I think of him a lot for some reason.
I've been dating this Cancer guy for over a year now OMG he is the hardest guy I have ever met in my life. He is so complex I can't figure him out, yet he has a way of words, the right words to say all the time. They have a tactic to get us. I have never felt like this before. Being a Gemini I fall in and out of love so easy I love freedom, but this is driving me crazy in a good way, even though he is possessive and clingy, moody. I learned a lot from this guy, I learned how to be patient, I learned how to deal with his moods. I leave him alone when he is moody, and when he is ready he comes to me. I don't push him, Cancers don't like to rush things. He is the most amazing guy in the world, though I didn't give up my friends or family for him, I already told him that my friends and family are important to me, and he decides not to talk to me for days and I don't care, and then he comes back cause he knows I wont give in. When you ignore a Cancer male it drives them crazy they don't like to get ignored I do that all the time just to let him know that he can't control me I don't like that and he is leering how to respect that. They are a lot of work though but they are worth it, they will always make sure that you have everything and secure. I love my Cancer men he is the best. Who has a Cancer is the luckiest girl in the world.
Well, I'm a Cancer man and I had dated a Gemini girl for about 8 months. My god, I don't think I've ever been in love with a woman like I was with her. She was my everything. In the beginning, it was like heaven. mentally and physically. As time went by, there was the inevitable tension between us where I would feel like she was not loving me enough or didn't care enough, even though I would do anything for her. What really hurt me was that she constantly needed her space and I treated this as rejection. After 8 months, we ended the relationship. and I was totally heart-broken, and still am..6 months later. She told me I'm one of the greatest guys she has ever met but our personalities were not compatible. and it would spell trouble for us down the road. In a way she was right and I knew it...but it's just that I loved her so much.. In my heart I knew it was the best thing to not be together as there were too many differences but my heart also aches constantly becau se I will never love another girl the way I loved her.. It's the Cancer curse...
I am a Libra woman totally in love with a Cancer guy.
no matter how much you love this one better quit while you're ahead. Cancer men will never trust you so without trust there can be no love. Librans are too free spirited always tiring to seek explanations. the Cancer is extremely secretive. miss Libra walk away whilst you still can. Cancer are sweet but they don't consider other's feelings only there own. leave him to crawl into his shell. damn you are better off believe me
Im dating a Cancer man now. were young juniors in high school I met him freshman yr & noticed him right away. Im his first & only go has ever had which that I love! Uhm its been about four months now & honestly so far so good, being a Gemini girl I love being around friends & having a good time yet im "very" flirty. I cant help it but whenever im around my Cancer boy its like all my attention is on him. I guess you could say I like playing hard to get sometimes & having him know if he ever were to hurt me there's plenty of other guys that would die to have me. im not meaning to sound cocky but im an attractive young girl with a great personality last but now least a big heart who always is giving. One thing that gets me though all these bulletins say their Cancer men are jealous but mine I swear is impossible to get jealous & its bugging the she** out of me. I like went their a little jealous cuz it shows me that they care, he's told me he's so in love with me & that im his everything which im sure many of us girls have heard before but he brings so much security & love, comfort, passion, yet being in high school isn't easy because of all the girls & guys but honestly he's very trust worthy, loyal. we've talked about the future & all, he's my baby & I know he can be a handle sometimes but im going to give him unconditional love. when we get into a little argument within a hr or two we remind each other how much we appreciate & love one another. & to me I need reassuring because ive been hurt SOO many times that its put my self esteem down a little. anyways im taking it all day by day im still so young & have a lot ahead of me but I want this boy in my life forever. x
Dear high-schooler. Being young and in love makes it near impossible for you to appreciate the realities of life. Jealousy at the start of a relationship is quaint but it will grow to be suffocating. Cancerians are sweet and really have a way with words. Trust me, an older and much wiser Gemini girl, when I say that Cancerians are not strong enough to weather storms and stress. In times of trouble, you need the strength of a Leo or the never-say-die spirit of a Scorpio. Cancerians will not step up to the plate; instead they will crawl into their shell and sulk. Your relationship will only have a happily-ever-after ending if, and only if, there are no stresses like job loss, illness, family disputes, etc in your life. You are still young. Have fun and live your life but open your eyes to all your possibilities because you cannot be too sure that it's going to be a bed of roses all the way. And when challenges appear, your Cancer man may not be there for long!
I'm a 20 year old Gemini lady who in love with a 23 year old Cancer man. we in a 3 years relationship, when we started he was so caring, loving he sent me a text once and I could respond cause I had no airtime, he called me sometime yelling about why I didn't respond since he never sent me an sms, dis is distant relation I see him maybe twice a year and he's away we don't contact each other, well he never gave me his numbers and one time he came back & were fighting he said I don't make means to reach him while I had, thats when I found he had a baby girl mistakenly with his cousin & said if I call him that cousin his "wife" was going kill but didn't tell on them. when I was 18 in matric he got me pregnant I was afraid to tell him then sent my friend, she told me he denied it was him that I should do abortion & his brother said he told we always used a condom the same one who always told me he wasn't coming back every time he was gone and bout the wife & the daughter, he tried to cal one afternoon from school and my friend came to tell me not to answer the phone as so didn't. I terminated with my friend's help, he came back after a while asked me in private to talk bout the baby denying al the two those two told and that he would have loved with me that's when he told bout the daughter yet didn't mention the "wife" and wouldn't want to talk bout her at alone bout some wit dude I was dating for fun& wanted to beat him, next weekend wanted to beat me but he could yet I could c he was angry. Last year he told me, they told a lot of about me and his trying to ignore them while they were also telling me it ended to da point he acted amongst other but when alone was lovey dovey. He dumped me once cause they after him I had a baby by his brother again terminated I went away a week when I came he acted as if we never broke up and told not to go to CapeTown but Jozi to Varsity now I'm in Pretoria, when I left home I told him via cell and told me not to got dat how am I going before having his dick, when I went back home he was there and now the girl & daughter was coming fortunately they left when I came, he treated me bad, yet sent a child to cal me to help him wit wat he was doing, I told my friend to tell I wanted to fuck wit him, he told me to come the ff day, I didn't have sex with him I only sucked him when he wanted to fuck me I said no with no reason he didn't force I continued with my Job, went home & sent him an sms telling him bout how he treats me, at maybe I don have a place his heart and ama bounce as he always said once he'd yet at me he said I cant wait for him for but he's gon wait me for years when Im gone, he'd find out each and every dream I had. now I text him the truth about me & correcting what they've been telling him, He doesn't respond at all. Whats going unthaws he feeling, does he still love or want me, What must I do because I love him??? Help.
I am a Gemini woman dating a Cancer man. We have been dating on & off for 4 years and this is our 3 time back together. This relationship has been the hardest work ever. My Cancer man has all the typical Cancerian traits and it is so frustrating. He finds it hard to trust, sensitive and won't commit!!! I love him and want nothing more than plan our future together. Whilst he is creative and very intelligent he appears to lack ambition and confidence. When we first met he showered me with affection but that only lasted 2 months and only reappears when he is trying to win my heart back. Most days I am lucky if I get a call or text from him and even then he talks to me as if I am his mate. I don't get him, he says he loves me and keeps running back to me but yet he wont commit and gives every convincing excuse in the book. I am a naturally affectionate girl, I am attractive but yet this man makes me feel the opposite with his constant rejection or lack of focus s on our relationship. I have compromised a lot and am beginning to wonder if it is all worth it. He is 38 and still lives with his mum. Me and his mum get on well but lately I feel resentful towards her as she is in the way of my man committing to me. He won't leave her but yet won't let me move in, time isn't on his side so I am beginning to feel like that there is no room for me in this relationship & I am wasting my time. I do love him, if I didn't I wouldn't have gone back, but everything is on his terms...sex, commitment etc. I have read a lot about Cancer man & Gemini woman compatibility and I am beginning to wonder if I am trying to make the impossible work.
hey im 22 and im a victim of a Cancer man we been talking for 8 months and wow the sex is so good makes me feel like hes the on but he just be all in my business dang that get on my nerves yes im a Gemini and I cant deal with that he just got mad at me over myspace and was trying to break up but of course I put my charm on a pulled him back we will see what comes out of this lol
Well I'm a Gemini woman and absolutely in love with a Cancer man. We've been in a relationship off/on for 8 years; however, we've known each other since we were school aged kids. I've always been attracted to him. I know he's always been attracted to me. We ran into each other in 2002 and the strangest thing happened, I gave him some on the first night. I was so embarrassed that I kicked him out. I just knew that he would never call me again and that he would think I was a slut. He called me the next day and said " Can I see you again?" I was floored, "Yes!", was my answer. He asked me why did I kick him out he was upset about that because thought that I thought he was a bad lover. I told him how I felt. He said " We were destined to be together he's always loved me so us having sex was bound to happen." WOW. He then asked "So are you mine now?" all caveman like. I loved it because I love a man who can take control. I had never experienced that before I'm usually in co ntrol . We've been together every since. I breakup because of his moods, insecure ways and issues as a Cancer, but he always wins me back. We're engaged and I can't see myself with anybody but him. Even though he's crazy, but hey Gemini gals are crazy too. This union is very romantic, passionate and never boring. In conclusion, Cancer men are insecure, possesive, clingy, and moody, but they are also caring loving and sensitive. When they love you, they truly love you and wouldn't dare abuse you. They would rather walk away. Gem gals, if you're not ready to settle down leave the Cancer man alone. RUN, because Cancers play for keeps.
I'm a Cancer man that's been on and of with a Gemini girl off an on for almost 6 years. I love her and I hate her. I know that the love I have for her is not unconditional. It's not her fault that I don't feel this way and as the moon gets full I become more annoyed by her lack of ability to communicate, pay attention, and her general selfishness. My downfall is I become lonely and my clingy nature keeps me going back. Having Lots of things in common has only given me a good friend but she cares way more than I do. She's a good girl and a good person. I have charmed myself into a curse.
I'm a Gemini Woman. I met a Cancer man 20 years ago. We have 'dated' on and off over that time. Last year he came into my life again and I have fallen head over heels in love with him. I know he loves me - he tells me - he shows me - but then he takes all the pleasure away by accusing me of being unfaithful (which Im not). His moods confuse me. He can leave me elated one moment and in despair the next. He can ignore me for days, plundering into a depth of despair about whatever his latest issue is - this drives me to distraction. I can't help trying to talk him out of whatever it is he is in a turmoil about. I know I should leave him to just 'come out of it' but I can't! It's like dealing with a five year old child - not a 45 year old man. But when hes in a good mood - hes brilliant. You can't help who you love but I suppose you just have to ask yourself if its worth it for the long term.
Im a Gemini woman who fell head over heals for a Cancer man. We dated for about 4 years. I know I will always love him inside. The relationship didn't go no where though. He was very controlling, emotionally abusive, distrusting, and very possessive. Even though I didn't care and wanted to stay by his side. I couldn't any more. Everyone comes to their breaking point and I had reached jmine. I alwayssssss looked at Cancer and Gemini profiles to c if maybe we just weren't compatible. I read books on relationships, I talked to him even his mother, I tried everything. At the end I got on a plane without a word left to say. This was the most painful thing I had ever gone through. I know if he loved me he would stop me from leaving, or tried to find me online to get in contact with me at least or something. But that never happened. N since this wasn't the first time we had tried...... I just left him alone. I always thought love was sticking by each other through the think n thin, lost blindly in love. You cant change anyone. everyone is their own person. I will love him forever.... and I know he thinks ill stop. but now hell never know. I have a tattoo with his initials I mean im doomed for life now I have to find someone wit the same initials....lol jk. well that's MY painful ass story. I have a gaping hole in my heart all for falling in love with a Cancer. :/
I'm a Cancer man married to a Gemini Woman. After reading these articles and living my marriage life for 5 months now that I am very clingy and want to be controlling of where she goes and what she does.. I give my heart to her and it seems sometimes she doesn't really care what I say or anything. I just really hope someday that she will open her heart more to me and start feeling with her heart instead of her head. Another add I do have jealously troubles with her but she gives me all the right to when she doesn't tell me where she is going and who she is with. She locks her phone and hides her msn conversations from me but I want to trust her but she has to give me a chance to help build that trust back up. I have so much more to say but I'll let others say what they have.
I'm a Gemini woman and I've had long term relationships with Aquarian men, which were so much fun! I have dated other signs, but I am so attracted to Cancer men!!! They are my favorite. They are so loyal, passionate, caring, and they make you feel like a queen. They worship your body, they nurture you, and invite you into their worlds. I have met and dated 2 Cancer men, but I left them because I didn't want to settle down. I am dating my 3rd Cancer man and I love it! I love feeling like a goddess! I hope this time I will settle down because I will be 27. Although they can be sensitive and clingy, we Gemini's just need to be a good listener, be polite and considerate of their feelings. Any relationship can work, you just have to respect each other's differences
Wow I have read this and I could not stop cracking up, I am a Real Gemini gal to the heart I have men falling at my feet all the time I recently met a Cop who happens to be a Cancer and I am really glad I read this post, he had me thinking I was off my game this man has done what no other could do and that's sweep me completely off my feet!! And yet some of the many signs you all refer to has start to come out I no he really cares for me and adores me any man in his shoes would be a fool not to.. I just hate it when he he adores me one minute then pulls back the next well see how it goes I am a Fashion designer and it takes me all over so lets see if he can handle that...
I am a Gemini woman with Cancer rising and moon in Pisces. I never dated a Cancer guy, but I often show personality of a Cancer or Pisces. With my ex husband (Capricorn) I was jealous, possessive, moody and I always wanted his time. I checked on him all the time. He made me feel insecure.
So that goes to show that my sun sign is weaker than my moon/rising water signs.
I've been involved wit a Cancer male, and I have to say... He is the most confusing individual thus far. But he can be so sweet and caring at times! At the same token I really don't understand him, his controlling, jealousy, and insecurities are beginning to show. I don't like it, I don't want to be told what to do like a child! I'm so confused about him, HELP! Lol!
I've dated a Gemini girl and let me tell you all even thou the relationship didn't last long. It was one of the best dates of my life. The Gemini girl was Intelligent and Confident (Even if she dated many guys before me and got her heartbroken many times kinda sad that she carries that burden without showing it ( I got to understand her)). It was fun Dating this girl who has always something new and interesting to say, that enjoyed my play on words (double meaning) and that so was bitchy she could make a man cry ( good thing I have a tough shell ). The sexual tensions between us was so intense... It was mind blowing. We got separated she joined the Army and I continued my studies...the End
Every Gemini girl out there be proud!
(nice knowing you girl)
I am a Gemini 21 year old girl my date of birth is 05/06/1988,timing 5.02am. I am in relationship with a Cancerian boy and his date of birth is 12/07/1986, timing 2.13pm. want to know this relationship will last forever or not. the reason y I am asking this question is because he is very serious about me and I am not very serious about him as he is. If we get married then how will be our future.
Cancer male here ok ok Cancer males suck but when I ask her and say baby what's wrong are you ok im worried she gives me the cold shoulder I don't get angry or abusive sure I might be sad but damn we feel ya know go easy on us
I have dated Cancers before and in a relationship with one now so I can truly relate. I am in the same situation, and it at least makes me feel a little better to know I am not the only one dealing with this. My Cancer is married and still very possessive/clingy/insecure when it comes to me, even though he tries to act as if he is confident/cocky because he knows insecurity is a pet peeve of mine. He is constantly afraid of me leaving him but also not ready to be with me totally. I don't mind his moods much but I do know that he thinks I am somewhat unemotional and insensitive. I am at the point of being ready to get out but mainly because I just want a real relationship and commitment. Overall relationships with Cancer men can be some of the best and worst you have ever had.
I am a Gemini girl! Met this amazing, gorgeous Cancer male at a legal skills course (2days)!
As soon as I entered the room and sat next to him, something that I never felt before happened! I am sure he felt something as well because we could not stop looking at each other and wanting to be together! it was almost like an addiction! this was on the 1st day of the course.
on the second day of the course the experience was more intense, we were in the room but we were not listening to anything! it was almost as if the room was empty. he asked me for my email saying that he wanted to start a list of legal contacts. We went out after the course to celebrate the completion as it is very difficult. 4 of us went out. suddenly the other 2 left as it was evident that something was in the air and they were uncomfortable. Anyway, we had a nice conversation, he told me a few things about his life, we have so many things in common it is incredible, he did not want me to go home. we have agreed to meet and go out.
He texted me that night to check if I was ok and said he was very glad I was well.
I've contacted him by email with the details of the place we wanted to go. it has been 1 week now and he has not yet replied to my email. I sent him a text today with a joke and nothing!
does this mean he does not care anymore?!?!? I never felt like this before! HELP PLEASE!! I cannot stop thinking about him!
Gemini girl here.... I just happened to open this site.. and Omg is all this true???
there is this Cancer guy...the sweetest guy I have met until now...really interested in me....
I also like the guy........ I shouldnt believe in al this stars thing....
but I guess it did help me after all.... Ill b careful!!
And I know I m already falling for him
I'm a Gemini with Cancer in Mars and Venus, he's a Cancer with Gemini in Mars and Venus. This relationship has been going on for about 20 years now, on and off. We've both been married in the mean time to other people. If I can give one single piece of advice to my fellow Gemini girls then it is RUN. Run as fast and as far as you can. Cancer will suck the life out of you. They'll come around when you least expect it, draw you in, seduce you until you feel dizzy, promises the moon and disappear again. You will be left confused and an emotional wreck. Then, just when you've got yourself picked up again, he'll come around again and the whole mess starts over. Honestly, I don't know why I am still giving in time and time again. After all these years I just don't have the strength anymore to fight him off.
I am a 23 year old gem and yeah I guess you could say I'm in love with a Cancer. Its easier to handle things when you don't take them personal or you come off as fickle. He knows me more than I know myself and for anybody to have half of me figured out takes a talented and loving individual. I think deep down he is a really warm person who is sometimes too caring and passionate for things. I can be but it is here one minute and gone the next. I think for anybody to even try and stick by my side while I'm running from one attraction to the next deserves the best of care and treatment.
I'm an 18 year old Gemini girl 2 months into a relationship with a Cancer guy. We had our first argument the day after our two month mark but it was quite nice because we sorted things out. I noticed that someone suggested that it can work with an honest Gemini and a trusting Cancer. If this is the case then we will last the years because I rarely lie, by choice and partly through lack of ability, and once I make a promise I never break it. My boyfriend is the same and he has also put a great deal of trust in me. His ex (3 years ago) cheated on him with his best friend, he caught them in bed, so I'm the first person he's trusted since. We are completely honest with each other and we made a pact to talk things through when we are ready to ensure we communicate. Strangely, what we argued about was my jealousy. It's as if he's a rising Gemini and I'm a rising Cancer. With that, we seem to be on the same page, neither of us are massively jealous, just insecurities cause us to worry. Somehow we both manage to look after each other we ego boosts, he can say a single sentence to completely change my mood and just with a hug, I can pull him out of his. Hopefully we can find a balance and I wish you all luck :) x
thanx for this 'space'..at least I have something to share with u all.. I am crazily in love with a Cancerian guy.. I am Gemini girl btw..ehem..how to start? I ve got lots of things to say here..ok let me compose myself first..ok the moment of truth. as been said earlier, I am crazily in love with a Cancerian guy. but he doesn't know that I am in love with him.. I deeply understand his character (we are in the same office n share the same office room).. huh.. I just don't understand his mood.. I can see that he is subjected to severe mood swing.. He is reserve but his smile can kill me..pls help me. his plus points are, he is not stingy he buys food for us to eat) n he is very committed with his work. what else should I say.. I see it is just pointless because he doesn't know how I feel towards him.. If only he can fathom my heart. that would be the greatest miracle..pls help me friends I only pray that we would be together n I am willing and ready to give birth to his children.. Hel p me pls....thanx for reading my post.
Ok... REAL Cancer MAN speaking here. And I have a message for the lot of you. Hello Gemini women. I LOVE Gemini women. Stop dating these poor excuses for men. I've read the complaints and all I can think is, "Are these women dating 16 year olds?". If that's the case, then that will explain the possessiveness, jealousy, and USELESS mood swings (some moods can be useful, so the swings should stay). Which also means that you ladies are DOING some major illegal relationships.
A real Cancerian male should be able to keep the sugary coated stuff up every time he sees his lover (unless he's with the wrong woman, then he needs to run far away). I have a Gemini lover. She's AMAZING!! Sure, I piss her off at times. But I squash it as quickly as possible. I apologize for the things that I SHOULD apologize for and talk about the issue (even, if she's still yelling, and boy can you Gemini women yell). If it seems to be developing into an argument, I walk away. And I saw the complaint about the walking away. It's good when a Cancerian male walks away. We become ridiculously harsh when you bring us into an argument. Trust me... you don't want any of that. Let us walk off and collect ourselves... sheesh. When we become non-communicative. Well, that's our way of being. Sometimes it's better to say nothing at all, if you have nothing of value to say. Better than being a smothering fool (another thing that REAL Cancer men don't do, for we hate being smothered ou rselves.. So why would we smother? That makes nooo sense).
And REAL Cancer men don't get jealous either. I've received jealousy from women on all signs. Jealousy is a waste of time and energy. Real Cancerian men give plenty of freedom, for we are big fans of freedom ourselves.
Something I've noticed about the relationship between a REAL Cancer man and a Gemini woman: when it comes to passion and love-making... Mmmmmmmhmmmm ;) Love it!!!
So... please... Stop dating these jackasses and find yourself a REAL MAN. Doesn't matter what sign. Just do it
I'm a Gemini girl in a 7 year relationship with a Cancer he is very loving and will do anything for me he loves family meaning only our household he rather keep his distant from extended family he is very generous but also very whiney it is like having another child they want you all to their self and whine all the time when they don't get their way but he is also loyal but doesn't hesitate to let you know when he feeling unappreciated
All these comments are starting to really freak me out... I am also a Gemini dating a Cancer man for only 1 1/2 mos. He's moving w/ lightning speed, treats me sooo good and everything feels great. Never felt this way before, but I am terrified that everything I am reading here will happen to me as well. I can tell already that he has a huge temper but a great heart. Already talking about moving in!!! He's also very insecure when it comes to my feelings for him. Always needs reassurance, which is kind of cute now, but is probably going to get old very soon. I am so in Love with him but don't want to be stupid. Are there any Gemini girls out there that actually have a happy relationship with a Cancer man???
I am a gem woman married to a Cancer man 25 years. I love that he is everything I'm not. When our children were little he was the one to give them medicine when they were sick. I take care of the communications/finances. he's the cook and novel reader. He keeps a steady job and provides well. Our love life is always exciting. We fight once every 6 months and when we makeup. it is great! I wouldn't trade him for some outgoing guy for loyalty is important for me to come home to. He is my home.
Hi, I'm a Gemini woman and I have recently started talking to a Cancer man. He's sensitive, thoughtful and loyal so far. I admit though that some of these comments have given me food for thought. However I am not scared of what the future holds for this relationship because I've been with a Leo for 6 years , we were compatible in so many ways yet his ego and his selfishness kept us from cementing our friendship. Meeting this Cancer man is now a breath of fresh air and I look forward to being smothered with care, love, kindness.........What he requires is not too much for me to give as long as he loves and respects me unconditionally.
YEP! Me too .... 43, dating a 46 year old Cancer man. The chemistry OMFG! The passion in bed, I have NEVER had anything like it - its totally electric. And he cares and nurtures me, loves and protects me. But will he commit?! Haaa! A total commitment-phobe. And I got dumped by him. Why? cos I found a nightdress that wasn't mine under his bed (I have been seeing him 16 months) and I had a go at him as he didn't buy me a birthday present, just flowers and card. He says I'm ungrateful, a taker and selfish. I'm not at all. I'm on state benefits and he brings home £10,000 a month, or 15,000 USD! He says he loves me more than anyone in his whole life ever, I'm fabulous looking, pretty, and he says he wants to spend his life with me. But doesn't want my kids (6 and 10) even though his son (8) loves them to bits. He says he cant stand my moods! He is aggressive and wont commit and now he has dumped me! I have done nothing to deserve it. I am totally lost. HELP!!
I'm a 26 year old Gemini woman engaged to a 29 year old Cancer man (we've been together for 3 years) and I'll agree that this combo is A LOT of work. All of the previous comments about the Cancer guy being possessive, moody, paranoid, and hypersensitive are true, but then so is the fact that he is the most loyal, caring, attentive, and sensual man I've ever been with. I think are managing to make our relationship work despite our clashing signs is because we have so much in common and because we each share some traits not typical of our sign. He is super independent and restless like me... we try to spend every spare moment together, but also feel safe knowing that if one of us needs some space the other person has other stuff going on to keep them occupied. I am extremely in touch with my feelings and wear my heart on my sleeve like him. Also, I am very good at making him feel like he is the only guy in the world that matters just like he always makes me feel special and taken care of. Our relationship also works because we make the conscious decision to do what we can to make it work all the time. Sure, there are times when one or both of us don't have the energy to do that, but that's when some discipline comes into play. If he is stressed and wants to retreat in his shell, he'll let me know "baby, I can't do this right now can we talk about it later?" and I can trust that when I give him the time he needs, he'll follow through and bring up the topic when he is good and ready "ok sweetie, let's talk about ___ now, I'm good". Or if I am stressed and want to go out with my friends (5 out of 7 of my closest friends are guys) to relax, he'll allow me that freedom. I show him respect and appreciation for that (because I know it's hard for him) by not staying out with them for hours and hours and checking in with him every now and then. We've been very lucky to be able to find a balance for this star-odds-against-us union. It's not always butterflies and cotton candy, but just like any relationship it can be healthy and fulfilling if both of you practice diligence, compassion, and insight and have the key love traits constantly at your core.
Good luck! :)
Im a Gemini woman I argue w a Cancer man like a cat and dog. There's a better chance for the relationship to last long term and that's if we are nowhere near each other. Cause Ill be up front, I wont walk on eggshells. He'll do just fine without a Gemini as a lover. They can be very close as friends that can relate on certain things.
I am a Gemini woman who's been dating a Cancer guy for over a year now. Honestly I have never been with someone who I've connected with on such a level. We hit it off from the get go, he is funny, sweet, caring, and he deals with MY moodiness. He understands me, helps and guides me in everything that I do. We have a great relationship, and I can honestly see myself marrying this perfect man. I don't really think it has much to do with the sun signs, he is not jealous, or over bearing in anyway. I'm the one who shows jealousy sometimes, and I can be over bearing and as I said moody. Like I said in over a year, we never really have had a fight. We weigh each other out. I think it's how he was raised though, because he fits certain Cancer traits, and I'm full blown Gemini. I don't usually get along with cancer's, my mother is a Cancer and we fight non stop. I'm head over heels in love with my guy, and hopefully if I'm the one who doesn't screw it up, we'll be e together for a very long time.
After ten years of knowing my Cancer man, I finally gave in and agreed to be his personal Gem. We've been through a lot of life together, almost dated a few times (though we both botched that up and it didn't end up happening), and we have always argued like an old married couple. Now, he is extremely frustrating and for sure he gets under my skin quicker and more thoroughly than anyone else... but you know what? Its worth it, and it keeps things interesting. I've read about all of the Cancer men issues we Gemini dames have, but we need to realize that we aren't so perfect either! Our tempers are quick to flare (though its the strangest of buttons to push to get us to that point, and boy does the Cancer male have a knack for finding them!), and we usually don't stop to assess the fact that our actions/words might be hurtful to these guys, who unlike most ARE sensitive creatures.
My Cancer has always been there for me, he's patient and supportive and I'm not afraid to be vulnerable in front of him (which speaks volumes). I'm currently going through a nasty divorce with a Leo, and my friend/lover has been so understanding of my trust issues and wariness to give my heart up after such trauma. He is compassionate but checks me when my inner crazy seeps out, snapping me out of what's flailing around in my head and grounding me back into reality. There's a balance there that's vital to any breezy Gemini female that I've found with him. He embraces both of my personalities and marvels at the inner well of strength, he isn't afraid of it and takes pride that I'm his oddball Gemini.
If you want to enjoy the unique relationship that a Cancer man has to offer, you have to really sit back and assess yourself first. Are you able to commit? Can you fully admit when you are being an arse and apologize? Can you allow yourself to relinquish some of the control and let your heart be tended to by another? They can be frustrating, yes, but we can be just as bad, if not worse! Let me tell ya, it'll never be boring with a Cancer man... nor more fulfilling when one truly loves you.
interesting thread. My two cents: I'm a Cancer guy, a little older, who's been in a series of LTRs over the years with mostly Leo, Aries and Aquarius women. Several months ago, I met and fell for a very attractive Gemini lady in her mid-thirties. She's quite self-aware of her typical Gemini traits. We always joke about how she's a total princess. But it's true, she loves being treated like a 12 year-old girl at a her own princess-themed birthday party. I have no problem with that. In fact, I love it. it makes it really easy to give her what she wants, pamper her and make her happy. The trouble comes when I have a rough day, or am genuinely too busy to talk, shower her with affection, answer her calls or emails right away. I know she doesn't mean to be so passive-aggressive (I missed her call last night while I was working in my restaurant, and she non-challantly decided to go stay at her sister's instead of coming to my place). It just seems like she can't control her need to always get her way or go somewhere else to get her needs met. And even though I am way less insecure than I was when I was younger, she has difficulty being next to me when, for example, I have a little headache or express feeling off my best. It's like it annoys her even though she knows it is completely human to not always be on my A game. My theory is that there is something melancholy and lonely inside her--and a lot of Gemini girls--that needs to be filled up with playful, unconditional attention in order to feel better.
We are both working hard on making it work, cuz we're nuts about each other and there's a ton of physical chemistry. but it is definitely not an automatic match: if I were still an insecure kid, her impatience would eat away at my sense of self-worth and make me an emotional wreck; and at the same time if she didn't have a sense of irony and perspective about her princess complex, my career demands would make her seek someone else with perhaps less depth but more time on their hands in a heartbeat. Cancer Male/Gemini Female is hard work, I won't sugar coat it. And by work, I mean each person working on their own crap and not just expecting the other person to be magically awesome. but so far it's very rewarding work. so enjoy!
I'm a Gemini Woman and I'm currently dating a Cancer Man. He's sweet, loving, caring, understands me, and does annoy me a bit. But I just can't help loving him still, when I get bored, I usually ask him what's on his mind. To me, I think Cancer Men are mysterious at points or just him), and well he keeps me intrigue by his actions and the way he thinks. He trusts me, and doesn't get jealous like barely). While I had good times, there are bad times. I get into fights with him about repeating stuff over and over again, and other stuff. Though overall, it's hard work, but if you're willing to work at it, good things will happen. Also composition plays a HUGE part in this relationship. I understand that not every Gemini Woman is cut out for a Cancer Man. Everyone is different
I am a 23 yr old Gemini woman in love with a 36 yr old Cancer man. we have been in a relationship for the past 2 months now and have had no issues. he is very doting and loving and affectionate and I some insecurities have popped out, but I wouldn't want to be any where else. we are truly in love and im hoping to marry him one day.
haha wow this is so true. I love everyone's way of explaining it. ive been with my Cancer guy for 4 months so far. still together. yay.. not planning to leave him anytime soon. hopefully. but he's a really jealous guy. and controlling yes. im planning to deal with it. I hope I can manage. I like being a Gemini. love my own personality. im sure you girls do too. since were so wild. and I feel bad for these Cancer men though. because they love us for being so outgoing and full of happiness. they just have to ruin it by thinking were cheating. I also hate it when people go to him and tell him im cheating. when im not. its so stupid. but things will work. cause I love him. and I know he loves me.. maybe way more than me but that's good lol.
Im a Cancer guy dated a Gemini woman for a month only. We seemed a match made in heaven and we really connected and took care of each other, but eventually we found she has no time for an imperfect guy with mood swings at her age.
Unfortunately, when we ended things that was it for good, so far it seems. But who knows.
I'm a Gemini girl (23), been with my Cancer boyfriend(22) for 3 months. I've read all of these comments and I am truly amazed at all of the similarities! The first month was amazing, he was caring and passionate and very loving. I felt like I had finally found 'the one' but over the last two months he's been distant and moody and yesterday we made the joint decision to be friends for a while. He said he has issues to sort out but he still wants to take me out on dates like normal and that he doesn't want to be with anyone else! Honestly, I welcome the break as I've really resented him this last month. He's made me feel very rejected and I also need time to figure out how I feel.. So many of you have had an ' on/off ' relationship and I guess we've just moved into our first 'off' stage'
wow, reading this I'm getting scared, it feels like we're all dating the same guy. I have been on a relationship with a Cancer male for about a year now, I'm Gemini 30 years old, and he is 44. He has all the Cancer traits. He is very loving, caring, supportive drives me nuts in a good way. He is not jealous at all I'm very honest and very expressive so I don't take crap from nobody including him. When he decides to disappear for day, I do the same thing to him too, when he texts me I don't text him back for days, and he doesn't like it, but a taste of is own medicine will do him good. So whatever you do give him hell once in a well just to let him know that he can't control you, do the same thing he does to you and see if he likes it. They always come back if they really love you.
Good luck gems we really need it for Cancer males
Im a Gemini girl. Ive had no experience with a Cancer guy, actually I ain't had much relationship experiences. The longest relationship I've had lasted only a year. This is due to me being a independent girl who doesn't hate relationships, just dislikes the drama that comes with being in a relationship. After all when I want I can be very dramatic lol. Im also a girl who takes day by day, don't like planning things, specially not my future. life is too short you only live once. I think it doesn't matter what star sign a guy is, your gonna get at least 1 of those traits in every guy. 4 the past 2 years I've had my eyes on this Cancer guy, and after reading all these comments it still ain't put me off him. The chemistry is just to strong to ignore and the fact that he is mysterious makes him more interesting and a challenge hehe. We only get hurt if we let ourselves get hurt. I also think if you love sum1 so much, Try to have patience every relationship is a piece of work even though I ain't had much experience. Nothing is ever to easy.
I've read through a few of these posts and they seem to be just like my story! I am a Gemini woman that dated a Cancer man for 2.5 years. At first it was complete passion and fireworks 24/7, then his moods started to come up. I could handle them for a while, but then it started to get ridiculous...when he was good, things were great, when he was down, things were dark until he felt better. It ended up not feeling very fair or nurturing to me and I am a very patient person!
Gemini females let me say this.....no matter how much you love you're Cancer man he will drive you up a cliff and off it too. he will be too emotional, too clingy, in the beginning it will be his charm, quietness, composure and organized lifestyle that will attract u, but trust me after a while you go nuts. he is gonna go from one extreme to another, varying colors of emotions, but I'll compromise because you love him. trust me I've learnt from my 3 yr long relationship with this Cancer guy I've known him for 15yrs. right now we are still playing the cat and mouse game well mostly he is cause im done with his BS. don't believe anything that you read that says Gemini's have mood swings, its the cancers they are soooo very moody. my mother is also a Cancer and she way past moody.
He will accuse you of cheating, get jealous and controlling. Its a good relationship cause sensitive Cancer learns from insensitive Gemini and visa versa, very interesting union also cause most of the time his temper have me laughing and I liked playing mind games on him cause he would get so upset and I just loved making him upset. It just made me happy to beat his ass on a intellectual level oh and there's another thing we don't think with our hearts but rather our brains
Forget it- I'm a Gemini woman and dated a Cancer man. All he ever did was pout. We're communicators and they are not. They expect us to read their minds. They're not mysterious as some have suggested. Boredom kills us Gemini women and they're just that.
He is Cancer and I am Gemini. He began flirting with me at work and I told him I was married. He pursued me anyway, he is almost 20 years younger than me. He is involved/living with a woman who is about 28 and they had a baby. He said they are not getting along. Can you tell me why he would be pursuing me (he said he thought would it hurt if 2 people hook up once in a while). He asked said to me that he and his girlfriend were getting back together and the question to me was "do you want to continue or stop". If he just wants me to be his booty call as I put it, he said seeing me only like a booty would be all he could offer. What is he all about? Also, he said if we were to continue down this road, meaning to see each other while he was getting back together with his GF, we would do so under the table. We hooked up last week over lunch and we were to see each other the next day since she was going to be away but he said he "had a headache". He is either a) lying to me or b) he is seeing someone else.
What do you think is going on with the Cancer man or should I say Cancer boy? Gemini Woman
Gemini 23. So....I might be in a really good situation. I haven't even met this Cancer yet just text so far. I wonder if I ask him if he just wants to lol have the best sex ever I guess if he would go for it. I can't have the life sucked out of me. My lil sister is a crab & dating a Aquarius she drives me nuts when we all go out I yell at her to shut up cause she is so jealous. I will keep my distance but this sex you all talk about lmao. We shall see.
Just forget about it....I'm a Gemini woman and dated a
Cancer man. Boy, this was like, "pulling teeth" kind of relationship. Oh, did I mention boring too....
Cancers will do something insane then you'll get him in trouble.Then you'll regret it in the end becauuse, he's soooo gorgous and now your tied down and you can't find another man and know one else will let you see him and you think,''Why did I get him in trouble!!Why did I tell anyone!!Hes soooo gorgous but,its just a little to late!!ITS THE END!!!!!!!!!!!!Or maybe its just the begining!!
My best friend is a Cancer male and he has to be the guy version of me. I'd dated another Cancer for 3 years and he was all those things-possessive, jealous, but his problem was he was a double standard Cancer. HE could do stuff like not tell people we were together, not use "titles", etc but it was like death if I did it. He was nowhere close to my intellectual capacity and everything he did after a while was just irritating me. But this Cancer is the exact opposite in sooo many ways. We have THE best conversations and he genuinely makes me happy. He is very honest and easy to talk to. He is insecure to a certain extent but I believe that's mainly due to his um marital w/ kids situation. I think the differences come in how they were raised and age. I'm 31 and he's 33; most of the people on here are young. I can be way more clingy than he is; but I think we'd be compatible in a relationship because we both require attention, open communication but the freedom to be ourselves. Nobody appreciates me more for just being me than him which, if you know a gemini, is like gold. I heart him!
I am a Gemini female and ive been dating a Cancer man on and off since I was 17 I am now 21,dealing with him has been very difficult, I think ive felt every emotion you can possible think of, theirs times I hate him and times I love him, I feel like im stuck whenever I want to pull away, he always come back in just the nick of time, we have both dated other people while being on and off, but it seems like I cant shake him off no matter how much I try, I just don't know what to do, when I show emotion he pulls away, and when he shows emotion I pull away, because of him pulling away in the first place smh, and it seems like after dating him all ive come across is other Cancer men and Gemini men and all the relationships ended up the same just confusing, reading everyone else experiences I don't feel alone but it seems like no one has an answer what are we going to do ladies???????????? how can we break this pattern?
am a true Gemini woman. my Cancer man I have met two months ago. what's been said about cancers is so true. the guy I believe is the love of my life. I v never met anyone like him...he makes me cry, I love him so much, and the sex is mind blowing...the most important thing is we Geminis have to try to make our crabs talk so that that element of jealous and insecurity doesn't destroy what we have with our crabs.
I'm a Cancer man. I've read all the wonderful comments about us Cancer men.(sarcasim) For those Gemini girls looking for how to understand us, listen close. Cancers think of the emotions behind anything you do. If you choose to go out with your friends instead of going out to dinner with us, our brain and heart to wonder why it is. Our minds begin to experiance rejection and a sense of failure. Don't know why were are like this but we assume you geminis will understand. Every Cancer is a little diffrent but we think we are communicating ourselves well and that you would understand why we start acting like that. But you dont...I've dated a Gemini for 3 years and it ended up badddd! We both loved each other to death but just coudnt put up with each other no more and things became complicated when other people become involved in our arguements. I know I find myself extremely drawn to Gemini women. I read up on anywhere I could set my pair of eyes to improve things for t he next girl that came along and analized my mistakes intensly to never repeat such stupidity. I am in a new relationship with a Gemini once more and I admitt there is some sort of attraction I canot explain with her. The bad part is I find myself being jealous, and way too sensetive around her! I see it for myself and I hate it. As a Cancer I've learn that we require lots of attension, especially when your telling us we are the best in sex or the best over man that has came into your life. We pretty much strive for that. When that sprungness calms a little down and the relationship contnues a little longer, that is when we want and I mean need to hear those things again. We still feel the exact same way about you from the beginning and will express that anyway we can think of. That is why we feel the need to hear it back and get that constant reassurance. Its not so much that we are needy its that we are serious about you and need to know if we're on the same page. Get it gemini?
O my were do I even start...I just think its crazy on how every comment is basically the same and I thought I was the only person feeling this way. I had a Cancer man for about a yr and half about 2 years and it was long distance but I would see him almost every weekend..Me being a fiery Gemini gurl who likes her option and likes to be tied down at some point but then wants to do her own thing after the whole tied down thing gets old. Not with him ,,Ive never ever felt the way I have with my Cancer man the fist day I layed eyes on him there was such chemistry and understanding between us and we didn't even have to say on eword and we knew there was such a high level of romance between us two.. BUT ITS A TRAPP GIRLS don't fall for it please dont..there soo moody and they make there desisions based on their emotions and how they feel ,,to sensitive and think your being mean, which im sure most of you geminis have heard before because we tend to be very talkative with a clever/slick tounge and cancers tend to wear their hearts on there shoulders..but then I realized that this boy was the one who would always be there for me no matter what..even intill this day we both have have seperate realtionships accuring and we will send each other a txt randomly saying I love you because we just can't help it the romance and chemistry has just drawn mee...he literally swept me off my feet the small thing he use to say to me that he didn't know but mad me so happy like: I woul ddo anything for you , or if someone ever tryed to hurt you I woul dbeat the crap out of them, or even when those silent moments came at night walking down the streets of the nyc kiss me on my neck and pick me up and whisper in my ear I love you..and he was my first love so as much as I want to forget about him I just can't but I needed to air out and also we both just found other people who fit our personalities better...my new boyfriend is a sagitarius but we are both the same way and that kinda of gives me the immpression this wont be love it woul djust be lust and aventures time kind of like friends he's a great friend but geminis SERIOUSLY SAVE YOURSELF before its too late and save all the nights not being able to sleep jus don't do it to yourself hunny!
WOW nearly every experience is deadly close to my experience with my Cancer man, weve been together for two years now and he was so sweet and caring for the first six months but then he became very jealous and clingy. He gets amngry when I want to go out with my girlfriends or do something with someone other than him. Yes, I am a gemini, and sometimes I find myself trying my best to adapt to his needs and it nearly kills me how much I have to bend over backwards for this man I think I will break soon!!!
im a Cancer male and im just friends with a Gemini woman the best thing from me to all of you is become friends first and learn to be open and understanding with one another and another thing avoid anything sexual a Cancer male will trust you more when you enter the relationship bz he knows it wasnt given to him but something he earned trust me he will love you more and respect you more we're so different but yet so much alike patients is a virtue
This has been a very informative read.
I'm a Gemini woman falling for a Cancer man. He's stable, has the kids with him from the previous marriage, is smart, enjoys his career etc. Someone to possibly come home to each day.
We've been getting to know each other slowly and at first he was slow to open up, but he is warming up gradually.
I'm interested to know what makes him tick and posts from the couple of Camcer men I've found the most insightful - thankyou for posting.
I am presently in a relationship with a Cancer guy. I always had a crush on him since I was 13!!! We met this month and the sparks just flew up all over again. I love is sensitive attitude he tells me everything he feeling I am princess we have a connection and a chemistry he never holds back anything... Six years later I still have crush on him and I want this relationship to work but he came straight and told me he is working Sunday to Sunday right now and he is studying for his degree I have this love for him I cannot explain hope it works out......
well well well
i am a typical Gemini female and have had a terrible life my childhood was full of abuse my first serious relatiohship lasted 11 years and was abusive so at the end of it I really could not trust a single human on this planet
I met a cancarian male 8 years younger than me no less and even tho I swore I would never get into another relationship the attraction was instant it still is as powerful
I have been with my cancarian male 5 and a bit years he has changed my life completely the negative things about cancarians are there but I see them as a plus let me give you some advice the space we crave as geminis has to be given to cancarians as well patience has to be the main stay of a gemini/cancer relationship...if you are the rewards are amazing
i was neither patient or quiet before I met my partner it has been learned through the course of our relationship you have to hold your tongue when you're annoyed... you will do so much damage to your relationship other wise yes they are sensitive but its because they have given you their heart and if you start the typical Gemini shouty annoyed thing he will take every single word you say to him to heart and think you really mean it he will respect you no matter what but don't trample on his feelings he won't argue and yes he does walk away but he never returns to make me feel bad its always a kiss and cuddle and to tell me how much I mean to him I can't force him before he is ready I can't demand things but what you get for giving them the freedom to choose when to move the relationship forward is an intensely loyal loving understanding partner and someone who DOES make love to you its not just sex for them its an act of showing you how they feel about you they want you to enjoy yourself or they simply don't
His tantrums are just that... the next day he is fine again or if he sees it is affecting you he will curb his moods the crab will run under the rock and hide ...but not for long his clingyness is not infact clingyness your everything to him the epicenter of his world geminis don't become as attatched to things as cancarians he simply can't live without you
I couldn't work out why he was so upset if I ignored him at first but it is that they needs us that much it is almost painful for us to reject them in anyway Even the see-saw thing where he is clingy and then doesn't speak to you all day just means that when he does turn up he has missed you as much if not more than you have him and he secretly likes your jelousy your showing him you love him as much as he loves you I won't deny this relationship has to be worked at and I think that if approached from the wrong angle could be dissasterous But for all your hard work you end up with something not many people have someone who truely understands you and that even when you tell him your fine he knows your not and loves you so passionatley you can't help but feel special who will be by your side no matter what and will keep you from harm and give you everything they have
he may dodge marriage and babies but... commitment is not an issue when you have someones heart and I now understand no matter where he is he is thinking of me
I see myself as being incredibley lucky and I am so glad I let him into my life and worked at things he won't always talk to you about how he feels but when he does it will be the truth and the most amazing things anyone has ever said to you
Give your cancarian a break he gives you everything he has to give... for half that back your a Gemini and not the easiest star sign to be involved with things others see in your behaviour as a problem he enjoys and cherishes and he's not afraid to let others know how he feels about you your everything to your cancarian and I am so glad I trusted in him
good luck Gemini ladies and I hope you find what I have
haha, wow a lot of these things mentioned about Cancer guys are very true. me being a Gemini and all. I love my Cancer guy... he makes me feel like im the only girl in the world... which is amazing. weve been together for only a month but I already know he is the one for me... I am willing to setle down with him and we look forward to a family together
I have been with my Cancer man for a little over 4 months in the beginning of the relationship he said he wanted to take it slow and not rush things. I kind of let it go but his sweetness took ove me and the constant messaging and talking every dayadee want to make it official. So I told him straight out that we were in a relationship. He had never had a girlfriend before me, or been in a committed relationship. I just think sometimes the Gemini woman has to take control and push for what she wants if the Cancer man really cares for you he will follow. I really feel like ge is my bestfriend and soulmate we get along so well. I can be myself completly with him and that is a rare thing to find. I am happy with hi
and I believe that this will help in the future if we come to argue.
I'm a Cancer woman dating a Gemini man...sometimes really hard but worth the troubles. Now that we have gotten past the initial misunderstandings that cancers and geminis are bound to run it to we are leveling off. I know for me this pairing is a lot of fun and very intersting. I have learned to understand the kind of person he is, I accept his different needs compared to mine and I think he is doing the same for me. I don't expect we will be together forever but do think we will always be friends esp. since we have both learned to accept one another differences and all. Overall a Gemini is one of the most engaging signs to be involved with and being a Cancer who appreciates her own strengths I have learned to take all the good with the bit of "trouble" that is unavoidable in this pairing.
I am a Cancer man and all I can say is your all correct! I find it odd that I read about all of these off and on again relationships but the key thing is you all keep coming back for more and I mean both sides!..I find the Gemini woman very very interesting at the least and usually truley enjoy her company and always enjoy her special beauty OMG!..maybe its just that it takes a more mature Cancer man to be able to handle the Gemini woman as she is a split personality woman but its also correct to say that us Cancer men are the same and sometimes more..I have just met and am going to start dating a Gemini woman again..I have found that she has so very much in common with me down to the exact eye color, I am very nervous about this but I just cannot resist her...I am going to take EVERYTHING I have just read and have learned from past relationships in to consideration and see where this goes..I guess in short if it makes your heart flutter when your together then what the heck GO FOR IT! Have a good time and if it becomes an extreme challenge and starts to drive you nuts then jump ship..There is someone out there for us all we just need to keep looking and stay positive. Good luck to everyone!
Hope you don't have the same bad luck as me, I had all the hearts and flowers in the begining, whisked off to New York for a weekend after just 2 months, then came the emotional blackmail, bombarded with emails texts etc, quizzed everyday on my whereabouts, said I didn't trust him! yet I'm the looker, ha.. Cancer was emotionally crippled, moody, impotent, selfish, get married after 5 years, then found him out to be aggressive, ended up seriously injured, he tried to ruin me financially, and has lied like you'd never believe, divorced now, and would you believe he now wants to get back together - the self pity is sad, he took a successful woman and battered me, be warned..they walk off during an arguement as they know they could hit you or worse...
I am a Gemini woman that have know a Cancer male for about 6 months now. It was love at first sight for me. I didn't really think it was going to turn into anything when we first met, but then he texted me later that night when I got home. He started to ask me to hang out and showed interest in me. He soon asked me to be his girlfriend after 3 weeks. He was very sweet, romantic, thoughtful, and generous he texted me often at the beginning. After we got into one argument after another things seem to get worst. He became possessive and very secretive. He wouldn't open up to me so that made me not trust him. I find him texting with other people, but I'm not sure who they are. He wouldn't answer my calls sometimes and that makes me a bit jealous and wanting to know. I asked him if he had someone else and he said no. it seems like he want to do things his way and wouldn't really listen when we have a conversation. He would be very moody and wanted to dominate the convers ation whenever we talked. I got frustrated many times and wanted to call quits, but he would come around and be sweet whenever I say lets end this. He tells me he likes me, but he won't commit. We still see each other every week. He tells me he wants to be friends for now and he'd still like to have sex with me. The sex is great and I've been giving in cause I think that would eventually make him want to be with me. I fell for him and really want this to work out. I've never felt this way for another man before. Please help me...
Do you think it is better to be his friend with benefits or be friends without? Which one should I do for him to commit to me? I'm scared that he just want me for sex and leave me when he find someone more compatible on one hand and scared that he will find sex with someone else if I don't have it with him. Do you think he likes me? What should I do?
ohhhhhhhhh wow everyone that's been said about a Cancer is absolutely true. i'm a Gemini and been with my Cancer for almost 4 yrs. yes we have our ups and down and MOs def in's and out's but regardless 2 the situation, he loves me like no other. we have a baby 2getha he's also lovely. no matter how we may flip flop from 1 moment to the next I love the Cancer in him, how he keeps me coming back. the only thing is us Gemini need air. when the trouble starts try walking away but first say how you love you're cancer. when you come back from getting you're air you both done got air and now you're betta. Gemini need 2 just accept the truth and let things go. when it comes down to him communicating with anotha women, if you don't see it let it go. start standing in your cinderella shoes and knowing you're place. he loves you more than anything and you mos def can't be replaced. lessoned learned. sooooooooo much love, magic and chemistry in the air.
25 years married to a Cancer guy......25 years of having the life smothered out of me.......I still say he's a wonderful human being but just not the guy for me. We have just separated.....
I'm a Gemini woman and I've been dating a Cancer male for about 2 years now. We have broken up about 25 times. He is very moody very insecure trys to act like he don't care about things and he really does. But as you know us Gemini woman like freedom independance and he can be clingy which drives me insane. But he is the only man that I'm addicted to WHY sex is amazing he is so thoughtful its like I need him to complete me but on the same hand he drives me insane. I broke up with him for 4 months and he stalked me for the whole four months to tell me what a mistake I was making and when we get back together he goes back to his old ways. Should I stay with him or should I leave him alone. A relationship with a Cancer is a lot of work lol
I've been dating my Cancer Male for only a month now. He's the absolute best boyfriend! He's sensitive, caring, he shows and tells me he loves me with all his heart and he's fully committed to our relationship. Then there are these times where I actually think he's more two-face than a Gemini. One minute he's the cutest and most loveable person in the world, and then he changes into this closed in, non-communicating guy that doesn't want to be bothered. Our biggest problem is communication, when he has a problem with something, he will NOT let me know when on the other hand I am very open with everything. Otherwise my Cancer male is the most mature I've ever dated and I believe him fully when he says he loves me and sees us being together for a LONG time. ;]
I need a point of view from Cancer male or femele.I am a 39 years Gemini lady that have noticed that a Cancer guy is some how interested in me. We do not see each other often, but when we do I can feel in my stomach the attraction, it is weird, but is like he can speek to me without opening his mouth, just looking and stering at me.
And looking at his eyes is a very intense feeling that I cannot explain. I end up most of the time looking the other way because I can not hold my eyes looking into his eyes for a long time. Somedays I cannot stop thinking about him, its like he gets inside my head all day long.i think he is attractive but I am with somebody else right now, he knows about him. He is a 28 years profesional in the medical area, very suscesfull by the way. I do not know if he is with somebody else,I do not know much about him. he is somehow secretive. He sometimes asked me about my origins, if I am tired, how my day was,etc.,and I have even noticed some jelously about my boyfriend, but he covers his feeling very well. he haven't been out of line or talk to me straight out, but the tension(good one) between us is unbelievable. Is like he is talking to me in a mystic way that I can feel it. I am a Gemini girl that knows her place, and I haven't come forward and talk to him about what I am feeling , I feel he will be embarrased and to be honest me too.
Can somebody ( Cancer Male) give me a hint about what could be going on in his head. Also if this weird sensation about him is something that I am making up or is it him thinking about me? Any comment is appreciated.
well im a Gemini girl dating a Cancer guy...we havent been dating for long only about 6 months and we've already had ups and downs and trust issues...but I think that i'm the insecure one...but now that we've moved past all that, he seems so sweet and caring and makes me feel completely amazing!
I am a 39 year old Gemini female that decided to make myself over with a brand new hair cut last May (Memorial Day). That same day I met a a 33 year old Cancer male. In rare Gemini fashion I acted as if I didn't see him gazing at my freshly manicured toes as if each one were a tasty treat in his imagination or sizing me up with all his emotional tentacles. He observed me in this setting very intently, could it be that I sent all of his sensual sensitivities into overdrive. The majority of this initial interaction was based on chemistry or felt like something out of a storybook or an instinctual love ritual shared in the wild by a pair of lions or monkeys. It was very primitive and pure all at once. OUR attraction was kinda crazy!! I too analyzed him with great intensity but because I leave my house with my emotions in my pocketbook, I played it off as I tried to figure out why my toes were curling from what appeared to be much of nothing but a whole lot of s omething. There was a swirling in the space surrounding our first introduction. I truly could not shake it. We are now approaching a year _ all I can say is that all of these comments are on the money. My attraction to him is so strong because I value his intensity and passions - two things that I need to develop because I am so busy trying to hide my vulnerabilities. I try to keep myself a moving target as opposed to a sitting duck when it comes to love. My attraction to him has led to my own discovery of my emotions. He has a sensitivity that shows itself strong but then retreats. BUT He has just started showing signs of paranoia, jealousy and has started accusing me of cheating and being deceptive. I am a very free-spirited Gemini that is fiercely loyal so usually my social capabilities can cause an insecure man to really bug out if he hasn't known me. I hope that we are just gong through the GEMINI-HEAD & CANCER-HEART initiation and that on the other side we find a working ever-passionate relationship. The sex is great, when we are together there are no pressures or stress. We argue most when we are apart. We will see what happens.
Omg story of my life here!
I meet this Cancer guy about 2 years ago.... I am now 20 and he is 22. He told me he was IN love with me and everything I ever wanted to hear and I asked him why isn't he my boyfriend then but the whole situation is too complicating and I m trying to let go but it's just so hard. I really do love him and I know he loves me . . but we have our difference (like everybody) Overall, as a Gemini girl I learned you have to be really patient with the cancer.. and to get him going you can alway give him the guilt trip or try to make him feel bad about the situation and ignore him a little always works for him to come back to you when you get sooo tired of trying thats all you can really do. BUT I always miss him its still stronger, he always texts me he misses me and stuff... but what can you do when he can't make up him minding being in a relationship with you . . if I could i'd be in his arms right about nooowwww lol I guess ill suffer for a little longer before my other twin side says nevermind everything and move on to the next.... ALWAYS will love him though even as a "friend"
I'm a Gemini girl and I have an aquantince who's a cancer. We have a few different classes together and he'll always tease me for being a red head etc. Sometimes he's moody and other times it's the complete oppisite. I recently as in today found out that he likes me! It's half shoking and half obvious, we have a love hate relationship. But I don't know what to do! Awkward..
I don't know what it is with this Gemini and Cancer combination but everytime I think about it im reminded of that show...love me if you dare. there is always soo much love there and despite his moody and emotional actions you just cant help but love him..its always a game and neither is willing to fold. my Cancer man and I have know each other since we were 7 im twenty now and we are engaged but it took a lot of arguments and yrs of malice to reach where we are now. he is very jealous...extremely jealous, moody...his mode swings are the worse, intimate, caring and so much more. these two signs are so opposite. being with a Cancer has taught me to ignore certain things and be more expressive with my feelings. when things happen he gets distant and acts as if he is ok and he doesn't care but you know he really does care, he cant communicate to save his life. I love to talk so what I would do is start a random convo on any topic and he would generally jump into it then I tak e a back seat to the convo and allow him to control the flow, it works cause he starts going into details and stuff like that. its a beautiful relationship there is so much to learn and so much to teach and I would not trade it for anything, I love the Cancer in him.
I don't know what it is with this Gemini and Cancer combination but everytime I think about it im reminded of that show...love me if you dare. there is always soo much love there and despite his moody and emotional actions you just cant help but love him..its always a game and neither is willing to fold. my Cancer man and I have know each other since we were 7 im twenty now and we are engaged but it took a lot of arguments and yrs of malice to reach where we are now. he is very jealous...extremely jealous, moody...his mode swings are the worse, intimate, caring and so much more. these two signs are so opposite. being with a Cancer has taught me to ignore certain things and be more expressive with my feelings. when things happen he gets distant and acts as if he is ok and he doesn't care but you know he really does care, he cant communicate to save his life. I love to talk so what I would do is start a random convo on any topic and he would generally jump into it then I tak e a back seat to the convo and allow him to control the flow, it works cause he starts going into details and stuff like that. its a beautiful relationship there is so much to learn and so much to teach and I would not trade it for anything, I love the Cancer in him.
So I have been with my Cancer man for about a month. He is 8 years younger then me.....He swept me off my feet witjh words. Can you say charming? The sex is incredible. He is so attentive and normally I hate to be really really affectionate...but with him the way he looks at me and touches me is so passionate i've never felt it before and the jealousy is a huge turn on to me!! At least for now! He always wants to talk about feelings and i'm a hard one to get to open up and when I cant get the words out like I want he gets hurt by it...Geeeezzzz. Definitely going to be a hard one but I honestly believe it will be worth it to have someone to love me unconditionally. He adores me and I seem to take his breath away. But reading all these things does scare me thats fo sho!!!
I am a Cancer man and my Gemini girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue after 2 years and suggestions of marriage. she is 26 and I am 33. she has already broken off a fully planned and paid for wedding in her life, which was a sign I failed to heed, and I have still not taken a wife or been engaged. she had compiled a mental list of all the misgivings she had about me and of every slight great and small I perpetrated against her, yet never mentioned anything so I could address it and rectify things. it turns out she made many good points and I felt that I understood what she was upset about and I felt remorse and in turn was inspired to adore her again as I did in the beginning when she was still sweet and seemed to think I was just the cutest, sweetest, and most fascinating guy she had ever met. admittedly as she grew cold and started withdrawing from me, which I failed to see as imminent danger and instead tried to ride out whatever it was she was going t hrough, I was not my usual tender and loving self. it is hard to project warmth, love, and happiness to a woman who seems to be suddenly repulsed by you without explaining herself. for a supposed "great conversationalist" these women seem to only be able to talk about things that don't include emotion or expression of their feelings. she wanted no part of trying to work on things. it was done right then. she pretended to be my girlfriend up until the last second and offered me no chance to even attempt to make amends. in her mind I had already had a second chance more than once, I just was never told how she felt. she made it appear as though she accepted me, when in truth she was slowly building a list of reasons why she couldn't. that being said it should be known that we see each other now more than we did when we were "together." in the beginning she asked why I was being nice all of a sudden and thought I was being phony because I wanted her back. well I was able to love her again when everything was finally out on the table. it has been two months since we split up. in this time we have shared great fun and enjoying exchanges and laughter in one another's company and I am as sure as I ever was about how much I love her. she does things that make my significance to her ambiguous while I have declared that my feelings haven't faltered and I make it know how I feel about her. one day she is warm and treats me as if I am special and more than a friend and the next day she is cold and makes me feel like she could care less. these confusing interactions and mixed signals on her part are just enough to keep me on the line. she still will not declare what she considers this thing we have even though it is clear that we are not just friends, on some days anyway, and it drives me crazy. it keeps me stuck on her and unable to move on. she says she is afraid things will go back to the way they were if she takes me back which I view as a clever way for her to control me and keep me wrapped around her finger without committing to me and also allows her to keep her options open. I tried to explain to her that now that she has revealed her issues with me and I am able to understand why she pulled away from me, regardless of the fact that I feel she should have talked to me before pulling the rug out from under me and absolutely refusing to try to salvage this two year investment, I feel better about things and I am no longer angry with her for turning to ice without explanation. it really nurtured insecurities and made me doubt myself to be treated that way. I am not a mind reader. she can't seem to express deep issues clearly. all I ever got were "i don't knows" from her. I am willing to work on anything and everything. we cancers need security and stability and not flighty and fickle fugues on the part of the ones we have exposed ourselves to and given our trust. not everyone gets let in to our world. you have to be very special to earn a key to the kingdom and it is a very monumental thing for a Cancer to make himself vulnerable and give himself wholly to another and if their trust is shattered things can get fierce for certain. some never open up. these are the coarse and callous, miserable cancers who build walls around their entire lives because pain and hurt drove them to hide away so as to avoid more pain in their miserable lives. so you should know that worrying about the solidity of the relationship and the security of the future is not a good environment for a Cancer to dwell in as it only exacerbates the less than positive traits that unfortunately are the thorns on the rose that is all of the good traits that people love in us. we need security and we must be made to feel special. we will make you feel like you are the most beautiful, important, wonderful, and magnificent creature on God's green Earth and we will mean it. as long as you respect and honor our love and be considerate of our emotions and our need to feel like our love for you is justified things will be perfect. these are the good times all of the Gemini women above talk about. but it seems like in the vast majority of cases the Gemini traits eventually break our confidence down slowly and make us feel unloved and unimportant and not worthy of our adoration and utter devotion. this is when it all goes away and things become stormy. we love hard and fight hard when we feel mistreated. the Cancer loyalty demands to have similar loyalty expressed in return and if this criterion isn't met or at least reasonably faked well enough to make us believe it we become insecure and possibly suspicious and then things go downhill and we get blamed for our flaws. the Gemini doesn't like being scrutinized or smothered and the cycle just spirals out of control. we can absolutely be wicked if we feel we are mistreated, but we will love like no other and cherish and provide for and protect a woman steadfastly if we feel honored and cherished which is something I am honestly not sure a Gemini woman can keep up indefinitely. they seem to act as if they are ready to settle down and be content with a secure life. perhaps they don't realize that a secure life is often a boring life and companionship and love far outweigh whatever flights of thought they may have when they are still in their immature years and prone to their airy flights of fancy. grow up already. you are gonna end up old and alone if you keep running all the time. do you ever think about that? maybe they believe they want committment or they just really try to but in the end they are likely lying to themselves. this lie then ruins another person's life when it all falls through after the grandiose promise of a future together dissolves in the geminis wake as she moves onto the next fleeting moment. this is precisely the opposite of a cancers goal in life and we simply cannot understand how someone can so easily move on throw everything away. another issue that frequently looms in the background of the Gemini world just waiting to become a major threat to the cancerian need for security is her apparent compulsion to give an undue amount of attention to other males. jealousy arises when a Cancer feels disrespected by his mate. when a woman's actions cause other men to believe that she is coming on to them despite the fact that she is in a relationship, most warm blooded human men and especially a cancerian man would naturally feel as though he has been made to look like a fool in the eyes of this other man who has been made to feel as though this woman is more interested in him than she is her mate. a respectful woman should not act in a manner that has the potential to make her mate feel inferior or secondary to another man. a large portion of Gemini women admit that they are incessant flirts and generally they seem to be proud of this fact and see nothing wrong with it. simple tact is all that is required. all people have fantasies but allowing them to hurt your mate by overtly displaying them and actively involving a third party is not right and shouldn't be construed as harmless even if the perpetrator has no intention of following through with it. it is called decency. my particular Gemini woman is very outgoing but she rarely made me feel uncomfortable when I was with her. I don't know what went on when I wasn't around. she is a virgin due to her faith which always made me feel more secure. I trusted her completely regardless but the security of being assured that sexual infidelity was out of the question entirely was very appealing to me. this is the first relationship I never felt jealousy or trust issues in. she is a good girl despite the fact that I think she is treating me unfairly at present. I did find out that some guy who works where we both work has been trying to get her to go out with him. I had suspected that he was after her a couple months before she broke things off with me. he befriended her on facebook out of the blue and had dated a coworker of hers in the past which made my radar go off immediately. and I was right. Cancer intuition. I confronted her even though I have no right to be in her business anymore and she admitted that they sometimes talk on the phone and exchange texts but she claims she has no interest in him. she claims he is just another male friend. she is a serious Christian and he is an Indian Hindu. she won't marry someone who doesn't share a belief in Christ so I tend to believe that she wouldn't bother dating him. he happens to be an MD and I am a lower level healthcare professional, so of course it is a little unsettling to me to feel like I am competing with a guy who can give her more security in the way of monetary assets than I ever could. at first I thought she might have seen in him her chance to not have to work anymore because he could support her if they somehow hooked up and tried to build a future together. I honestly thought the reason she dropped me was to be available to date him and not have to feel guilty about two timing me while she tested the waters. I still am not sure I am done worrying about it. she hates her job and sometimes I wonder if she is desperate enough to try escape it by marrying for money. I would hope she is the person I think she is and that wouldnt happen. I don't know what I will do if I find out she is lying to me. so far he is just another one of her male friends that wants more from her than friendship. she has a stable of male "friends" whom she is in contact with and whom have nearly all tried to start a relationship with her at some point in their "innocent friendship." these other males will always be in the background and I can accept them because I do trust her. it seems strange to me that the only ones she talks to regularly are the ones who had persued her. I asked her if it makes her feel powerful knowing that she can toy with them? she said no and got mad. I do believe she is able to toy with them and she likely does. I have a feeling she gives guys just enough subtlety to keep them interested all while still being able to pass it off as innocent interaction to me and possibly convincing herself that what she is doing is innocent too. it is so hard to tell if she does it with intent. I have to believe that nobody is so naive that they don't understand that they may be giving people the wrong idea from time to time. I feel she will likely keep these other fellas eating from the palm of her hand just like she has me eating from the palm of her hand now while she keeps things ambiguous and confusing between us. she has me on a string. just where she likes me. I don't know why I let it happen. well, yes I do. because I lover her dearly even if I feel like she is messing with my mind. if I tell her I love her and miss her she knows she has me and then she can and does manipulate me to no end and it is mentally destroying me. I have to accept that she "can talk to whoever" she wants to talk to regardless of if it upsets me or not. giving up and ending contact with her to save myself from this emotional torture even though I still love her will hurt even worse than being manipulated as far as I can assume. if I ignore her I will only prove to her that I don't care and make her think I probably never did. just two different viewpoints. one emotionally shallow and one too emotionally deep and both with different ideas on what is the proper way to treat your significant other. there was a time when she adored me and I adored her. now it is a one sided affair peppered with little glimmers of hope that keep me holding on through the ice.
Hello :) reading all this is so interesting! I recently started to notice this guy at work it took me forever to work up the nerve to give him my phone number. We went out on a date and turns out he is a cancer.(I'm a Gemini) Honestly I can't really tell if he is really really shy or just a really big jerk. Its like he tries really hard to play it cool and like he isn't into me so therefore I play it cool also.Its almost like a game of who could care less about what happens.To me I really dig it because its kind of exciting however I don't plan on this excitement lasting for long because of the lack of communication. As much as I find this guy attractive he seems like he bottles a lot inside considering he over compensates with the tough exterior and don't care attitude. I'm not sure I really want to know what is underneath all the hard exterior considering the potential negative qualities to this type of sign/guy!
As with anyone guy or girl ALWAYS GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING. If it does not feel right move on!
well all I can say is the Gemini woman I met is fabulous, and yes I love her without a doubt. im a Cancer male, and already she is claiming me. of course I had to take a stand and tell her how I felt about her, but she returned the affection 10 times over! I could not have asked for better. I was not looking for it. the chemistry is just awesome. I never even dated a Gemini before this, and now im wondering why I never did.
sometimes I wish I had met her before now, but I think since all we have both been through has matured us both, that the timing could not be better.
for the Gemini lady who is curious about her Cancer admirer. one thing I have to say is, if you really want to see where this chemistry between you and him goes, and you are not satisfied in your current relationship, you have to break things off with your current boyfriend first, then give it some time, but develop a solid friendship with the Cancer guy. once the loose ends are tied up and you are sure you want to see him exclusively, then go ahead and explore it. until then it would not do either of you any good if you had an affair with him, or failed to break it off with your current boyfriend completely.
I'm a 39 year old Cancer man deeply in love and often very troubled by my Gemini woman. We have two children together and I'm Dad to two children she had from previous relationships. It?s been fascinating to hear all of your lovely comments about us crabby Cancer men, our flaws and inadequacies truly are astounding. God I never realized the depth of my troubled mind until all you lovely gals pointed it out in such an un-biased and objective manner (oohh he's such a crabby bxtch!!).
I think the first thing that stands out on this post to any impartial reader is the complete and utter one sided-nes of the comments. It?s both intriguing and telling that none of the Gemini woman/girls feel at any time that they may be even slightly to blame for the breakdown of their Cancer Gemini relationships. Cancerians both male and female are extremely adept at holding up a mirror to their partners faults and strengths, here is where the trouble really starts.
The Gemini women/girls on this site seem to suffer from a deep sense of hypocrisy, as a rule Gemini?s tend to be flirtatious, jealous, suspicious people, social butterfly's, who thrive on the superficial aspects of day to day life, they expect to be loved.... at all times, but hate to be controlled, they thrive off the attention of their partners but cannot understand why their cold, uncaring lack of commitment causes hurt. They resent their partners having any kind of life that doesn't involve them but will happily bounce around any social scene that plays to their needs. They complain that the warmth and charm shown to them in the initial stages of their relationships turns to over suspicion and jealously, but are happy to play childish mind games with the partners feelings. They expect utter devotion and loyalty from their Cancer man and I'd expect any other sign for that matter, but can't understand his mood swings when they fail to give anything like the same depth of em otion back.
I think you?re missing the point here girls, could it be that what you?re actually doing is judging us by your own standards. As a rule Cancerians are warm, emotional people with a deep sense of loyalty, we tend to be monogamous in our relationships and expect that of others. We are sensitive but extremely tenacious creatures and are prepared to work tirelessly for the good of our partners and families. We can be clingly, but don?t mistake this for our unbridled sense of protective-ness. When it comes to our family and friends well being we are courageous, almost fearless to a point of not caring about our own safety and are prepared to do whatever is needed to ensure their safety.
Perhaps in today?s modern less chivalrous world, these attributes have become less and less valuable but could it be that the reason you all keep bouncing back to your Cancer men is because there damn hard to find elsewhere. We are private people, who yes sometimes lack confidence but that can be easily fixed with a caring word from a compassionate lover.
For years when I was growing up I listened to one girl friend after another complain about their selfish, shallow, bulling x boyfriends and how they lacked the maturity and mental stamina needed to offer them the security they so craved, it?s ironic then that when you girls finally get a man who can give you that maturity, sensitivity and commitment you complain he?s boring and stifling your natural sense of freedom and need to express your self?s as individuals? You can?t, as they say have your cake and eat it!! Here?s a point girls, that maybe your missing, when you find what your looking for in a man, whether he be Cancer, Leo or any other sign make the most of it, nurture it, work at it, immerse yourself in it. Take a risk and open you hearts. If you can?t offer that kind of emotional depth and inner strength to your self then you won?t find it in any one else??.. Rant over?. Signed, over emotional, over sensitive, secretive, damn hard working father of four, sick and ti red of hearing the same unjustified bullshot from his Gemini partner, who he loves deeply? who also recently got bored of him and decided to look around elsewhere for a little ?platonic? male attention, while he struggled tirelessly to pay for the roof over our heads and our kids, one of whom was only 4 weeks old. Good I feel better? any one for Crab Salad?
I have been with a Cancer man for a year now. THEY ARE EXHAUSTING. We've split-up 2 times already. He just moved back in and we're trying...again. I sometimes feel smothered, but the hell I endured while he was gone was unbearable. I am 44 years old and have at least learned that you must make sacrifices & compromises. It can't be ALL about me like it used to be, and a Cancer man is just the one to act as a reminder. His intentions are true, he is extremely sweet and harsh all at once. I can be over-sensitive and immature at times, I realize this. I want sex nearly every night but that ain't gonne happen with this man. When it does happen it's amazing. Okay, so once or twice a week I can live with. I still believe that he is the one I want to be with forever. It's a helluva lot of work, but the reward is great if you can learn to understand and be patient. Not easy for us Gemini girls. Good luck! :)
im lucky my Cancer boy is not one bit clingy or moody, I feel realy blessd he's amazin.
I met my Cancer man 24 years ago in high school and I asked him out on a date, he accepted and we were inseparable for three years. We ended up breaking up because he was so possessive and suspicious despite me always been true blue to him. We lost touch and 17 months ago I looked him up and though he has been on the east coast and I have stayed on the west coast we rekindled our romance. He is my soulmate, my knight in shining armor. He still is a bit possessive but he treats me like a princess still and would do anything for me. Sex is great actually better than great for a couple our age. We understand each other. I want to be taken care of and I want to have a private life with him as my best friend. I know he has changed from the Cancer boy at 17 to the man he is today at 42. He is very successful and charming but I do have to say the moodiness pops up. The way I have learned to successfully deal with it is to point it out and say to him that I can't possibly w allow in that self pity and I give him time to snap out of it. On the other hand I change my mind and can drop or pick up things all the time. He has learned to accept this part of me and I am grateful. I believe this pairing can work as long as you accept the person for who he or she is and be grateful for the change. In the end we both call each other our best friends and can still stay up all night talking about anything and everything. Communication has been our key. This has been a once in a lifetime thing for both of us. Not all of the personality traits of the sun signs are spot on but if you both work hard for something that is worth the world for you then you will be happy and fulfilled.
I have been with my Cancer male for almost 5 years. I see our relationship in ever post I read. He hates the same things that he loves about me and vice versa. I am a natural flirt; without trying. I have shut nearly everyone out of my life to prove to him that I'm not thinking about anyone else or cheating on him. I get sooo frustrated because after all I do to help make him feel secure; he still doesn't trust me. Sometimes I go out of my way to reassure him and sometimes I get really pissed off and ignore his texts, calls etc. Whenever I stop seeing him, he comes to my home to spy on me and get me back. I know we have broken up at least 50 times; I'm not exaggerating. He is secretive and I believe he is guilty of many of the things he accuses me of. Like the rest of you; it was raw attraction at first sight. Our sex is unbelievable!!! He always says everytime is like the first time. I cannot get him out of my system, and I really don't want to... I just need to breathe sometimes. If I go out without him, to him I'm definitely cheating. So, I've learned to send him texts and/or call him while I'm out. It feels and sounds ridiculous, but I love him so much I really want things to work out. He is certainly the most sensitive and passionate man I've ever met and I feel loved by him more than any other man. Still, one day he's crazy in love and the next he's non-commital because he thinks I'm going to cheat on him. I must admit I have cheated on him and I made the mistake of telling him, so his jealousy and mistrust is magnified 1000x's. However, when I did cheat, I was reacting to his infidelity. I know I could be faithful to him for life if he could stop being so moody. I always break up with him because he gets so dr jekyll: mr hyde. I wish I knew how this will all end; but I don't. I do know I'm crasy about him and he's crazy about me and there's never a dull moment. All my best to my sisters, we all know how we are. Love always...
Im so shocked to see that all of this is dead on exact! But all in all a lot of these posts are sort of on the negative side. I met my Cancer guy when I was 9 years old... The first time I saw him I knew he was "the one". We grew up together, and I usually only saw him on weekends.he always had a bunch of chicks on his arm, and if anything that brought my inner determined childlike Gemini attitude out even more.. I wanted what I wanted and I was gonna get it. He was always so much fun to be around. he still is. he's very family oriented,and super laid back... He is also on the Gemini/cancer cusp so that probably has something to do with it. When I turned 17 he and I met up again, and this whole thing started. I couldnt ever decide if it was him I wanted or the chase that really had me going. Being a Gemini gal , Im constantly thinkin, over analyzing, and forever changing my mind. He sensed this and pretty much turned our whole " we're together but not together" typ e of relationship into a game. When he wanted me, I didn't want him and visa versa. Eventually though my emotions hit me like a ton of bricks and I knew where I wanted and needed to be was right beside him for the rest of my life. But because of my forever changing mind, he couldnt trust me. We have been in this limbo of together not together for almost 5 years now. He is a crab through and through don't get me wrong.. he never wanted to move forward, constantly just side to side. He has these god awful mood swings that make him go silent and cold for weeks on end. he would use the excuse of not being able to trust me for a reason on why we werent 100% together, and I don't blame him id be around one second and gone the next. the most important thing to a Cancer is stability... so when he would come back after these tantrums to find me standing there it showed him that I can be trusted, I am in this for the long haul. As a Gemini it has always been hard for me to keep myself rooted to a relationship.. but with him it comes easy.. I don't think a Cancer and Gemini are a bad match, I just think that the stability a Cancer craves and the freedom a Gemini needs to stay sane are two very strong opposites that will always work against eachother.But if you communicate with your cancer, and express to him your needs he will try to accommodate to them,,itll just take him time. Its gonna take one heck of a guy to tame a Gemini, But it has to be the right guy for that girl. For me, it was a cancer.. he and I are now together and I cant wait to just get on with the rest of my life.. I don't care if he smothers me into an emotional death. I wouldnt have it any other way :) Ive had a leo, I have had a Aries, and a Sagittarius so on and so on.. none of them fit like this does.. so a tip to all you lovely Gem ladies out there, try em all out!! haha. you'll know you're match when you meet him ;)
am very gem girl, having fun wit my pals is what I do best,i broke up wit my Cancer guy a month a guy just because he thinks I slept my frnd.. now here we are tryng mending up.i just texted him that am ready to work out things and yet he hasnt ans my text back!!! 3hrs now..!! please tellme he does not love me and he was just testing me coz I will take my life.
I was dating a Cancer man for the past 3 years and i've finally loosened myself from his claws. I must say it wasn't easy to let go but I had to. He was a charmer, made me laugh, good listener, well dressed, caring, will sweeten you until you're begging for more yet cold, moody, unintrested at times,SECRETIVE, sensitive, arrogant, emotional abuser. You're at his mercy. We've been in an on and off relationship for this entire time until I realised that our relationsip was going no where. I felt tied down and couldn't move. Gemini gals, Cancer man a big NO!
I am a 39 year old Gemini female that has just met a 28 year old Cancer male on a blind date. We did not actually end up going out on a date but straight to the bedroom. Let me say he was sooooo passionate it took my breath away. We both enjoy the same things which is actually hard to find someone that is exciting yet pleasing at the same time. I thought that this would be it as I know that he was just looking for a booty call but he actually text me a couple of days later and asked how I was going. I have met other star signs (aquarians) that I am compatable with but I was so disappointed in the bedroom. Now all I can think about is that I want this Cancer male that is driving me nuts. I phoned him and he said he was too tired and acted cranky so I hung up cranky and rejected and the sent him an email basically letting him have it. I have since sweet talked him around and he now wants to see me again (if only for a booty call) I cannot stop thinking about the passion we had. I have read all of the above but even though I divorced a Leo who was controlling basically all men are the same, jealous and controlling no matter what star sign they are.
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