Cancer man Gemini woman

You're heading for Whiplash with this one!!! I'm a Gemini woman & my Cancer man who i been with on/off for 4 years is the most difficult guy i have ever dated.

At times he seems ice cold, uninterested, secretive & bordeline arrogant. When it's bad it's bad, weeks without speaking and they say Gemini have mutliple personalities, but when it's good, WOW he's amazing, always makes me smile, fiercely loyal and has a knack of making me feel like i'm the only woman in the world. Senstivite, passionate & i love his emotional side when he shows it.

He Is never disrespectful or abusive, he'd rather walk away than argue, which drives me nuts. Our issue is communication, neither wear our hearts on our sleeves BUT i do know i'll love him forever cause he is the most special and amazing guy i have ever known.

I am a gemini gal that has been dating a cancer guy for a year and a half now. In the first 3 months, it was all sugary sweet... but then it started to be all stormy.

He seemed to like to release his anger on me regardless of the reasons. Then, after a year of an on-off relationship, things began to stabilize. He treats me better though there are no more sugar coated words like in the first 3 months. But one thing never change.... he doesnt trust me enough ...i always caught him checking my phone and all (and i thought i'll be doing this... haha) ....with him I felt like I was the man instead because most of the time, it is him who nags...

Cancer and Gemini sounds like a very interesting combination.

I am a gemini woman who met and fell head over heels with a sensitive, caring and sensual cancer guy. He was perfect! None of my previous boyfriends could measure up to him in terms of how caring and sensitive he was to me, how he tried to please me all the time and how he always made time for me. However, he was extremely emotional and clingy, texting and calling me ALL the time, endless emails, etc. Initially, it was so sweet and romantic and I couldn't bear to be apart from him.

After a few months of intense attention (and I mean 24/7!), I found it a bit smothering esp when he showed his jealous and controlling side - not to mention his fluctuating moods! Things are getting a bit bad now that my job demands are increasing (he does free-lance work) and I cannot afford to spend time doing nothing but cuddle in bed with him - which he is interpreting as my rejection of him. Gemini gals love to be in love and be swept of their feet but after a while we want to get back on our feet to live our lives as we see fit. Trust is another area where cancer guys lack. In fact, my previous Scorpio BF gave me more freedom - and they're supposed to be the suspicious type. So, in conclusion, cancer men make caring lovers but after the romantic dust has settled, us Geminis will find them too suffocating and we need to move on.

I am a gemini woman who's been on and off with my cancer man for 4 years...everything in the beginning was wonderful he was the sweetest man ever I thought I had found " the one " ....it was a text book guy who I thought had been sent to me as a blessing...booooyyy he turned out to be a learning lesson...extremely moody one day he had me rolling in the floor from laughter literally less than 24 hours he's pouting biting his nails like he's beyond stressed barking at ur every what's wrong...now im a gemini this man has me beat with the dual personalities...we have a child together that's the only thing that keeps me from completely cutting off communication...worst relationship ever...when its good its aite when its bad its HELL

As a gemini woman who is currently dating a cancer man I can identify with some of the experiences here. My cancer man is a doting, attentive, romantic type who was like heaven-sent for me.

However, his possessive, clingy and moody behaviour is really trying my patience. I really, really love him and he treats me like a queen. I don't think I have ever met a person who cares for me as much as he does but so far, I have had to sacrifice my social activities, some old pals and soon, my mom too if he keeps up with his insecurities.

I am bending over backwards to accomodate his feelings and occasionally I'm asking myself if it's all worth it. His lack of confidence and self-esteem, which originally was sweet, is getting to be a bit tiresome and I'm not sure if us geminis have the emotional depth to handle this in the long run. Would appreciate advice whether I should hang on or let go...

yeah i guess it's like that with all gemini women i'm pretty much the same with my boyfriend but we are still a young couple so to speak we have been dating for 2 mounths now and it is great don't get me wrong but he is a bit jelouse for now i don't mind couse i'm so in love LOL but in time i know i'll get pissed ff and probably hurt him with out meaning to and we will breach up but who caresa we are having fun now and hat's all that matters

If you feel these things from the beginning run and run far away, because once cancer has you in there claws you are nothing but a play toy to them, putting up with the mood swings, the insecurities is not worth it when there are many other people out there you can be compatible with. Easier said then done I know that is why you should listen to your instincts, I also thought this was the one, then to find out his rage and insecure paranoid secretive behaviour was a constant cycle wearing on me day in and out. I think this one is better left a one night stand and maybe you will hurt him but move on and forget about it or you will be dealing with it for a while, there is no short affair with Cancer male or female.

wow I've known a cancer male for about a year now, I am gemini, he has all the characteristics that you guys wrote about, he is very sensitive, extremely moody and yet very loving and caring very sweet, I have fallen for this guy hard. I have known him for a year and he just told me that he likes me and I am special it took him a year to tell me that and he is never direct always asking questions around never direct, and sometimes he seems so cold and rude he barely talks to me, and after 5 min, he will come and talk to me like nothing was wrong, he is very private never talks about his personal life. I am very confused though I dont know if he likes me and he is very protective of me for sure which he says he does, but he talks to every girl he seems flirty and I dont trust him that much, I am very confused and I really care about this guy, does anybody have any experience does he really like or is he playing me any advice would help.

Cancer guys really have a way with words. They are charming creatures and mine wooed me with incessant text messages, emails and phone calls. I was literally swept of my feet! He was kind, thoughtful and knew how to say the right things every time. He was my Mr Perfect! With time, the mood swings, insecure and controlling traits emerged. I found that I was always trying to defend his behaviour to my friends and to myself. Infact, I gave up on many friends to appease his insecurities. His constant need for reassurance and demands for my time caused detriment to my job performance. In the end, after the passion had died down and the sex wasn't that exciting anymore, I saw that this relationship was toxic to me and moved on. It hurt terribly because underneath it all, he was a decent guy. In conclusion, Geminis need someone adaptable and who understands their nature. We cannot feel trapped or controlled - it will kill us.

Hi Im a Cancer guy and dated a Gemini woman, I knew my insecurities would be the biggest obstical from my side, and so I fought my jealous nature and trusted her wholly (im a Gemini rising so I undestand the need for freedom)

In the end she cheated on me with several guys... Ouch

All I can say is open, honest communication from Gemini and trust from Cancer is needed for this combination to work!

I'm currently back on a relationship with my on-off boyfriend of almost 2 years. He's caring, thoughtful, but a tough guy because he doesn't like to lose. With our relationship, i'm the insecure Gemini and he's the strong-minded Cancer. We drive each other pretty crazy after a while but somehow we find each others need to care for one another to help us patch up the holes. As a Gemini woman, cancer men are unique and we come from different worlds but we both have a lot to learn from one another and I've learned a lot of patience! =]

omgggg all the things said about cancer man - Gemini women are 100% true! I myself have personally experienced this relationship and still trying to find a way out. I was in love with a cancer man one year younger than me and we both are in high school. At first of the relationship I was still my carefree crazy and social self. Then he came along and swept me off my feet with the emotional and sensitive behavior as well as caring attitude and words. God I swear I have never felt anything like that before. I was instantly attracted to him even though i had many other guys of different horoscope (I checked!) going after me. but as our relationship began, all the personalities of a cancer surfaced with the controlling and insecurities. It drove me super nuts and I kept asking myself, is it worth it? Am I making the right choice?

But once our relationship started, every time I wanted to end it or breakup, he would come pulling me back to him with his sensitive yet lovely charm. I failed sooo many times to end things because every time we do, I will think back of him then in the end get back together. In the end after 8 months I got sooo tired of everything but our relationship got better. However I am not willing to jeopardize my social life any longer for his sense of insecurity, so I am pushing myself now to let go of him once and for all. But my heart hurts soo much and seeing him makes me wana hug him and pulls me to him. God, on advice Gemini’s: never go with a cancer or sufferrrrr!

yes I’ve started to date a cancer male god! He’s hard work I’m a Gemini female one minute he wants a relationship with me the next he goes cold on me cant understand why sometimes I want to scream at him I’m starting to like him but then i think relationships shouldn’t be hard work should there! someone help me out what do I do with this cancer male cant work him out!!

Well i had no choice but to tell my cancer male to get lost. Being a gemini female ive got 2 diferent personalities. Hes got about 8, I had enough. Going back to my firey aries men they make me tick unlike a cancer male havent got time to work them out life is too short!!

hahahahahahha this has been the most informative and freakishly accurate string of comments ever! i find it funny how so many of us gemini women who have an affair with a cancer male have had it on and off. ive been on and off with my cancer male for 4 years... AND IM ONLY 18!! the truth is, gemini girls, if a cancer man is in your heart, Oh boy, is it hard to let go indefinitely.

us gem gals are used to affection and attention from men of all astrological influences so we tend to become complacent and believe we are not the vulnerable ones, but when cancer man comes along, he's got us fooled, and not many men can do that. he is a charmer because there is something sweet whilst simultaneously fiery about him and a brain to go with it!

i was only 14 when i met my cancer guy and i was instantly drawn to him, even when we were apart our chemistry was off the chain (ehem, and i like to be in control thankyou very much), granted im a gem born on the cusp- gem-cancer (but im a gem girl in every sense) and i just could not for the life of me work the kid out!

after being so smitten, then really confused, then really hurt, and then more hurt (cancer men invite you to experience love-ache like never before), and then after that, pulling out all out all the gem tricks of charm and wit and flirtation, (which ALWAYS work)

i got really angry at myself for letting one guy hold me down, i was ready to fly again.

and i flew.... right back into his arms.

4 times!!!... we are most likely on the verge of getting back together now..

i don't know how the little crab did it...

gemini girls; BEST OF LUCK.

im a gemini girl dating a cancer guy who is a cop lol thats how we met... i got into a car accident and he came 2 my rescue.we both had an instant atraction and exchanged numbers. he told me he was a private person and didnt want anyone 2 knw in our small city that we were dating but u also told me he didnt want to rush into anything just take it slow hang out ect.well i was okwith that until i realy started to lke him. i told him i wanted to start hanging out with him more and he seemed like he wanted that to and even told me he liked me alot but wasnt ready for a comitment.he made plans with me then broke them then i wouldnt hear from him... so when i told im i didnt want to talk anymore thats when he would start calling again and saying super sweet things but yet he still hasnt made any changes...his moods def chaange alot!!! it seems like when i tell him i dont want him anymore thats when he wants more with me but when i dont cause theres no change he chases me i just dont get him at all. can anyone help me figure him ou lol i dont knw what he wants??? he changes way 2 much...

I am a Gemini woman and was with the most amazing Cancer male for 2 years.

As said above, he unlike anyone I had ever met - was so romantic, doting and charasmatic, great and caring in bed. He would alwys call when he said and say lovely things to make me feel so special. The relationship was great for the 1st year although he was insecure... but I considered this sweet!

After the 1st year he seemed to get bored and go out more the more. I guess I got more distant, but it was because I was comfortable and thought that he was deeply in love with me. This was a mistake as after another year HE ended it and I was heart broken :( He said it was because he realised he was not IN love with me like he should be and didnt want to settle sown wih me.

Its been a year since we split and I am still not over it. Although I think back the actual relationship and can see we were not compatible... I dont think any guy will ever compare to a Cancer guy.

I was a cool, flighty Gemini girl who had 15 relationships in the past 10 years ; most didn't last longer than 3 months. They were mostly with colleagues who were fun to be with but not very serious. I found most of them immature. Until I met Cancer guy who was romantic, nurturing and so wonderful. He had such a way with words and bombarded me with incessant calls and text messages. Would drop everything to be with me, if I called. I gave him my heart and body and he was good to me for appox 6 months until his ex-GF came back into his life! Suddenly, all the promises and sweet words were out the window. I think he just used me for sex whilst he was estranged from his GF. Gemini girls love spontaneity, great conversation and to be pampered. He definitely knew how to push all the right buttons, taking full advantage of the famous Cancer charm. I even gave up many friends and made changes to accomodate his jealousies and insecurities. Girls, beware - Cancer guys may ap pear sensitive and caring but don't let them worm their way into your heart (or bed) too easily.

i am not even sure if i am with the cancer man or not and thats who how likes it i love and hate it so i dont know

Im a Gemini girl whos been dating a cancer man for four years(on/off)..yes he was so romantic and charming the first year we dated, every weekend he took me out fishin or out of town or clubbing,dinner..wow I was deeply in love..then we lived together and he turned to a caveman..I was bored and wanted to leave the relationship but cant help running back to him(Kinda like it in the sexy way when he was icecold)..he makes me feel special to be his girl, he's caring and giving and the most important things! he's royal..

well im a 15 yr old gemini girl who is currently dating this just turned 18 yr old cancer boy. we always fighting about stupid stuff and i just want to make things work out between us. we been dating for about a month and now he's talking about breaking up with me cuz my attitude gotten worse. we always talked about being in each other life forever, and that i need to change me ways. even though i dont want to leave him. he may be the one for me but he says that our zodiac signs says we arent meant to be, and don't believe in that bullcrap. i begged him to not break up with me and he said that he just needs time off, and i told him to don't leave me and i cried too. he said if i change me bad habits and be like the girlfriend he always wanted in me, then he said he will think about staying with me. so now here i am changing my bad habits just for him and so far its going good. i REALLY love this guy and always tells me that he loves me to death and i love him to dea th too. Thank for letting me share my problem with all of you very kind people and i hope you can give me some adice to change my ways just for him. Thanks bye

thks for the info... just met a cancer man but was curious about what i was getting myself into and even though i know i might fall for him it is good to know what to expect so i can be prepared. Want to c how this goes. We are friends now and he dont push for a sexual relationship. i think that is what is attracting me to him.... but we shall see. thanks for these opinions...

i am a gemini gal and a havig a bf of cancerean ..he alwaz waits for me n every respect.... if i do something then only he replies.... heis very caring .....very controlled, shy and love to stay in one place .........sometimes i get bored of him......sometimes i feel i am staying with a man with out heart. suggest me how i could change him?

I am a gemini woman liking this cancer male! and omg he is the hardest thing ever! and i dont get it! he txt me every day and we talk but in the phone. when i see him in person he dosent talk and i think he likes me cuz he shows interest (some times) and asked me to go out with him (like movies, chill & things like that) but he never talks so i always try to talk to him first! but we never last talking to each other. help me what should i do should i just leave him or dont give up?

I am a gemini girl who wants to win back a cancer man we used to date a couple of year ago but it all went pear shape now we re hooking up again but only on a bedroom term as he has his girlfriend and a baby i so in love with him and i want him back how do i get him back i told him i love him but u can never tell with a cancer men what they are feeling inside.

Almost all of these are negative. But i am a gemini girl who has been with a cancer guy for almost a year now and to be honest i'm the happiest i've ever been. it might sound strange but i like the clinginess of him, if anything i sometimes feel like the clingy one, but that's because i adore him and love being close to him. i also like to know he loves me and that is why he can be wary and slightly possessive. and he won't be any different in future if you end things with him, it might get worse. he just needs someone to think the world of him and THEN you will be left with security and happiness

I think it is not a good match. First of all, there will be many communication breakdowns, this will spoil all the magic and chemistry. Cancer man is hypersensitive and suspicious, this will bore a typical Gemini girl.

I'm a gemini in my mid twenties and this cancer guy is in his late 20s. We would always see eachother at the club. We never spoke to eachother directly but our friends were friends. I would always think about how handsome he is though I would always see him talking to other females. So I wrote him off as uninterested in me. I'm attractive and very outgoing not the shy type. He told me that quality I have always stopped him from speaking to me, He wanted to plenty of times but didn't. I don't know how I end up hanging out at his house with him watching tv and cracking jokes at the commercials and we had good fun. Then he wouldn't return my calls or texts. So I wrote him off again I'll be just fine without him. Then I'm back at his house with a gift for him and then he accuses me of sleeping with a guy he saw me talking to. & When I get ready to leave he argues and wants me to stay. Then apologizes & gets rude again so I get rude too. So I write him off again. He called me once late at night and I picked up and hung up on him. I havent heard from him since but I think of him alot for some reason.

I've been dating this cancer guy for over a year nw OMG he is the hardest guy I have ever met in my life. He is so complex I can't figure him out, yet he has a way of words, the right words to say all the time. They have a tactic to get us. I have never felt like this before. Being a gemini I fall in and out of love so easy I love freedom, but this is driving me crazy in a good way, even though he is posesive and clingy, moody. I learned a lot from this guy, I learned how to be patient, I learned how to deal with his moods. I leave him alone when he is moody, and when he is ready he comes to me. I don't push him, cancers don't like to rush things.He is the most amazing guy in the world, though I didnt give up my friends or family for him, I already told him that my friends and family are important to me, and he decides not to talk to me for days and I don't care, and then he comes back cause he knows I wont give in.When you ignore a cancer male it drives them crazy they dont like to get ignored I do that all the time just to let him know that he can't control me I don't like that and he is learing how to respect that. They are a lot of work though but they are worth it, they will always make sure that you have everyting and secure. I love my cancer men he is the best. Who has a cancer is the luckiest girl in the world.

Well, I'm a cancer man and I had dated a gemini girl for about 8 months. My god, I dont think I've ever been in love with a woman like I was with her. She was my everything. In the beginning, it was like heaven..mentally and physically. As time went by, there was the inevitable tension between us where I would feel like she was not loving me enough or didnt care enough, even though I would do anything for her. What really hurt me was that she constantly needed her space and I treated this as rejection. After 8 months, we ended the relationship..and I was totally heart-broken, and still am..6 months later.She told me I'm one of the greatest guys she she has ever met but our personailites were not compatible..and it would spell trouble for us down the road. In a way she was right and I knew it...but it's just that I loved her so much..In my heart I knew it was the best thing to not be together as there were too many differences but my heart also aches constantly becau se I will never love another girl the way I loved her..it's the cancerian curse...

Well, I'm a cancer man and I had dated a gemini girl for about 8 months. My god, I dont think I've ever been in love with a woman like I was with her. She was my everything. In the beginning, it was like heaven..mentally and physically. As time went by, there was the inevitable tension between us where I would feel like she was not loving me enough or didnt care enough, even though I would do anything for her. What really hurt me was that she constantly needed her space and I treated this as rejection. After 8 months, we ended the relationship..and I was totally heart-broken, and still am..6 months later.She told me I'm one of the greatest guys she she has ever met but our personailites were not compatible..and it would spell trouble for us down the road. In a way she was right and I knew it...but it's just that I loved her so much..In my heart I knew it was the best thing to not be together as there were too many differences but my heart also aches constantly becau se I will never love another girl the way I loved her..it's the cancerian curse...

I AM A LIBRAN WOMAN TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH A CANCERIAN GUY.

NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THIS ONE BETTER QUIT WHILE YOUR'E AHEAD. CANCERIAN MEN WILL NEVER TRUST YOU SO WITHOUT TRUST THERE CAN BE NO LOVE. LIBRANS ARE TOO FREE SPIRITED ALWAYS TRING TO SEEK EXPLANATIONS. THE CANCERIAN IS EXTREMELY SECRETIVE. MISS LIBRAN WALK AWAY WHILST YOU STILL CAN. CANCERIAN ARE SWEET BUT THEY DON'T CONSIDER OTHER'S FEELINGS ONLY THERE OWN. LEAVE HIM TO CRAWL INTO HIS SHELL. DAMN YOU ARE BETTER OFF BELIEVE ME

im dating a cancer man now..were young juniors in highschool i met him freshman yr & noticed him right away. Im his first & only gf hes ever had which that i love! Uhm its been about four months now & honestly so far so good, being a gemini girl i love being around friends & having a good time yet im "very" flirty. i cant help it but whenever im around my cancer boy its like all my attention is on him. I guess you could say i like playing hard to get sometimes & having him know if he ever were to hurt me theres plenty of other guys that would die to have me. im not meening to sound cocky but im an attractive young girl with a great personality last but now least a big heart who always is giving. One thing that gets me though all these bulletons say their cancer men are jealous but mine i swear is impossible to get jealous & its bugging the sh** out of me. i like wen their a little jeaouls cuz it shows me that they care, he's told me he's so in love with me & that im his everything which im sure many of us girls have heard before but he brings so much security & love, comfort, passion, yet being in highschool isnt easy because of all the girls & guys but honestly hes very trust worthy, loyal. we've talked about the future & all, he's my baby & i know he can be a handle sometimes but im going to give him unconditional love. when we get into a little argument within a hr or two we remind each other how much we apreciate & love one another. & to me i need reassuring because ive been hurt SOO many times that its put my self asteem down a little. anyways im taking it all day by day im still so young & have a lot ahead of me but i want this boy in my life forever. <3

Dear high-schooler. Being young and in love makes it near impossible for you to appreciate the realities of life. Jealousy at the start of a relationship is quaint but it will grow to be suffocating. Cancerians are sweet and really have a way with words. Trust me, an older and much wiser Gemini girl, when I say that Cancerians are not strong enough to weather storms and stress. In times of trouble, you need the strength of a Leo or the never-say-die spirit of a Scorpio. Cancerians will not step up to the plate; instead they will crawl into their shell and sulk. Your relationship will only have a happily-ever-after ending if, and only if, there are no stresses like job loss, illness, family disputes, etc in your life. You are still young. Have fun and live your life but open your eyes to all your possibilities because you cannot be too sure that it's going to be a bed of roses all the way. And when challenges appear, your Cancer man may not be there for long!