Gemini and Cancer is often a hard match to make work. While not impossible, it does have more than its share of challenges to overcome. However, the low scores represent only the initial compatibility of this match. If you can both adapt to the others style this is a relationship which will improve steadily over time, and eventually rival any other match.The low scores represent a high initial challenge, and not a long term pessimistic view.
These scores show the averages for data collected from my clients over the past 20 years. It's important to note however that individual relationships vary enormously. This is a summarized picture, a real compatibility reading is needed to judge a real relationship. It's also worth noting that Soulmates can be found in any sun sign match, even those which are statistically likely to have low compatibility.
This article is in two halves, the first is written from the viewpoint of the Gemini man or Gemini woman, and the second is written from the viewpoint of the Cancer man or Cancer woman.
You're light hearted and fun, while your Cancer is sensitive, caring and sensual. That pretty much describes what can make this relationship so good (you have all the bases covered!) and so bad (your viewpoints are very different at times).
You're a thinker, always looking for fresh sources of stimulation and adventure, while your Cancer is more emotional, intuitive and empathetic. You're outgoing and sociable, while your Cancer is more reserved and private, not needing nearly as many friends or contacts.
You're objective, detached and rational, while your Cancer is compassionate, sensitive and emotional.
In theory, your Cancer can provide security and understanding, while you can provide a sense of wonder and inquisitiveness. This match been known to work very well - just don't assume it will be easy or natural all the time.
Your differences can provide a great balance and opportunity to learn from each other if you can meet in the middle. Equally though, at times it can be a minefield of potential disagreements and misunderstandings waiting to happen. Most of these revolve around you offending your Cancer, so it's largely you who needs to step carefully sometimes.
To list some of your differences: you value your freedom and independence, while your Cancer likes routine, commitment and stability. You're a natural explorer, enjoying change, variety and fresh challenges in all things. It's likely you will, or have, moved around a lot in your lifetime. Meanwhile your Cancer is one of the original homebodies, enjoying tradition, a permanent location and family nearby.
You may sometimes see this partner as too sensitive, while they see you as too flighty and insensitive.
The key to all this is of course taking the time to understand each other, and making an effort to respect the other persons needs and viewpoints.
This partner needs a deep emotional connection from sex, while you are likely to take it far less seriously a lot of the time, preferring a light and fun approach. Keep in mind then that this is an emotional and romantic partner
As with other areas, without compromise you may both feel dissatisfied with each others style - so take the time to appreciate the benefits of a more romantic and sensual approach sometimes.
It's important to note however that we're looking only at sun signs here. There are many other planets which can have an equal or greater effect on someone's personality. Makes sense, as ultimately everyone is of course unique. Generalizing too far based just on sun signs can therefore be misleading.
To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results.
This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information: everything from how they view you, how to turn them on, how to avoid arguments with them etc. If you would like to explore this further please see the compatibility readings page.
In many ways you're complete opposites:
You're sensitive and caring while your Gemini is a thinker, always looking for sources of stimulation and adventure. You're more reserved while your Gemini is very outgoing.
You're intuitive, compassionate and emotional, while this partner is more objective and distant, often coming across as detached or unfeeling. You like routine, commitment and stability, while your Gemini enjoys freedom and independence.
You enjoy tradition, home and family while your Gemini is a natural explorer, enjoying change, variety and fresh challenges in all things. They're one of the few signs who often enjoy a mobile lifestyle, not putting down roots until later in life. They may see you as too sensitive sometimes, while you may see them as too flighty or insensitive.
This list of differences can be a great opportunity to learn, meet in the middle and benefit from each others viewpoint. Equally though, it's a minefield of potential disagreements and misunderstandings waiting to happen. This match has been known to work very well - just don't assume it will be easy.
From your side the main thing to focus on is accepting that your partner sees and reacts to things very differently to you.
For example, don't let their light and fun attitude offend you when you're feeling down or lonely. They don't have the (fantastic) toolset which you do to empathize with someone and share their pain, so their natural reaction is to try to cheer them up. It's how they show they care with the tools which they have available (and it's really a no less valid or helpful approach)
You need an emotional connection from sex, while this is a partner who may not always take such things very seriously, instead preferring a light and fun approach.
As with other areas, without compromise you will both feel dissatisfied with sex. However, as you get to understand each other better it should be fairly easy for your partner to identify the times you would prefer to cuddle etc. Again though, help them out (by communicating that) and don't assume they can always read you as well as you can read them.
So is this article conclusive? No! This article is based only on sun sign interaction. In order to provide a lot of people with information it's a convenient and fast way to generalize, but it's far from conclusive at this broad level. To get a complete picture we need to take all the other planets and their interactions into account for each of you, with a real astrology reading...
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