Gemini and Cancer

Gemini and Cancer Compatibility

Gemini Cancer is a hard combination to make work. While not impossible, it does have more than its share of challenges to overcome.

Gemini Cancer can be a challenging relationship to make work. However, the low scores represent only the initial compatibility of this match. If you can both adapt to the others style this is a relationship which will improve steadily over time, and eventually rival any other combination.The low scores represent a high initial challenge, and not a long term pessimistic view.

Compatibility	1
Sexual chemistry	1
Communication	2

(All scores range from 1=low to 5=high)

This article is in two halves, the first is written from the viewpoint of the Gemini man or Gemini woman, and the second is written from the viewpoint of the Cancer man or Cancer woman.

From the Gemini viewpoint

You're light hearted and fun, while your Cancer is sensitive, caring and sensual. That pretty much describes what can make this relationship so good (you have all the bases covered!) and so bad (your viewpoints are very different at times).

You're a thinker, always looking for fresh sources of stimulation and adventure, while your Cancer is more emotional, intuitive and empathatic. You're outgoing and sociable, while your Cancer is more reserved and private, not needing nearly as many friends or contacts.

You're objective, detached and rational, while your Cancer is compassionate, sensitive and emotional.

In theory, your Cancer can provide security and understanding, while you can provide a sense of wonder and inquisitiveness. This combination been known to work very well - just don't assume it will be easy or natural all the time.

Your differences can provide a great balance and opportunity to learn from each other if you can meet in the middle. Equally though, at times it can be a minefield of potential disagreements and misunderstandings waiting to happen. Most of these revolve around you offending your Cancer, so it's largely you who needs to step carefully sometimes.

To list some of your differences: you value your freedom and independence, while your Cancer likes routine, comitment and stability. You're a natural explorer, enjoying change, variety and fresh challenges in all things. It's likely you will, or have, moved around a lot in your lifetime. Meanwhile your Cancer is one of the original homebodies, enjoying tradition, a permanent location and family nearby.

You may sometimes see this partner as too sensitive, while they see you as too flighty and insensitive.

The key to all this is of course taking the time to understand each other, and making an effort to respect the other persons needs and viewpoints.

Gemini Cancer sex

This partner needs a deep emotional connection from sex, while you are likely to take it far less seriously a lot of the time, preferring a light and fun approach. Keep in mind then that this is an emotional and romantic partner

As with other areas, without compromise you may both feel dissatisfied with each others style - so take the time to appreciate the benefits of a more romantic and sensual approach sometimes.

It’s important to note however that we’re looking only at sun signs here. There are many other planets which can have an equal or greater effect on someones personality. Makes sense, as ultimately everyone is of course unique. Generalizing too far based just on sun signs can therefore be misleading.

To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results.

This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information – everything from how they view you, how to turn them on, how to avoid arguments etc. If you would like to explore this further please see the astrology compatibility reports page.

From the Cancer viewpoint

Cancer and Gemini Compatibility

In many ways you’re complete opposites:

You're sensitive and caring while your Gemini is a thinker, always looking for sources of stimulation and adventure. You're more reserved while your Gemini is very outgoing.

You're intuitive, compassionate and emotional, while this partner is more objective and distant, often coming across as detached or unfeeling. You like routine, commitment and stability, while your Gemini enjoys freedom and independence.

You enjoy tradition, home and family while your Gemini is a natural explorer, enjoying change, variety and fresh challenges in all things. They're one of the few signs who often enjoy a mobile lifestyle, not putting down roots until later in life. They may see you as too sensitive sometimes, while you may see them as too flighty or insensitive.

This list of differences can be a great opportunity to learn, meet in the middle and benefit from each others viewpoint. Equally though, it's a minefield of potential disagreements and misunderstandings waiting to happen. This combination has been known to work very well - just don't assume it will be easy.

From your side the main thing to focus on is accepting that your partner sees and reacts to things very differently to you.

For example, don't let their light and fun attitude offend you when you're feeling down or lonely. They don't have the (fantastic) toolset which you do to empathize with someone and share their pain, so their natural reaction is to try to cheer them up. It's how they show they care with the tools which they have available (and it's really a no less valid or helpful approach)

Cancer Gemini sex

You need an emotional connection from sex, while this is a partner who may not always take such things very seriously, instead preferring a light and fun approach.

As with other areas, without compromise you will both feel dissatisfied with sex. However, as you get to understand each other better it should be fairly easy for your partner to identify the times you would prefer to cuddle etc. Again though, help them out (by communicating that) and don't assume they can always read you as well as you can read them.

Summary

So is this article conclusive?

No! This article is based only on sun sign interaction. In order to provide a lot of people with information it's a convenient and fast way to generalize, but it's far from conclusive at this broad level.

To get a complete picture we need to take all the other planets and their interactions into account. If you would like more information for your unique relationship please see the astrology compatibility reports page.

Other resources

Often the hardest questions to ask are the most important - for example, what are their views and expectations for raising children? sharing housework? saving money? career goals? etc.

One subtle and fun way to approach this is by working through a couples question book together - that way it's not really you asking, and delicate subjects can be covered easily. The best book for this I've found is Michael Webb's 1000 Questions For Couples

For reviews of this and other relationship ebooks on subjects ranging from improving your sex life to getting an ex back please see the relationship ebook reviews page.

A third method of further research is to share experiences with other couples of this same sign combination - you may be amazed how consistent they often are. Please see the links below for visitor experiences and questions.

In any relationship there are also very significant external factors. One of these is how well you understand yourself, your partner and your partnership - the more you do, the easier it is to make the relationship more exciting, fulfilling and satisfying for both of you, regardless of your starting position. The articles on how to Make him fall in love with you and Make her fall in love with you have information on how you can use astrology to revitalize a relationship.

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Cancer men and Gemini women

Gemini men and Cancer women

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Learn more about Cancer women on our Cancer woman page.

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Learn more about Gemini women on our Gemini woman page.

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Gay or lesbian relationships

The information on this page applies equally to gay or lesbian relationships. Overall, gender affects relationships far less than planet placement does, so it's currently ignored to avoid articles becoming overburdened with gender permutations.

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