Libra Woman with an Aries Man who broke up with her is cruel to her but is still in love with her
I am a 25 year old libra woman who was dating a 29 year old aries man. He is the first person I have ever truly loved and who I met that completed me. He broke up with me 2 months ago because I accused him of talking to other girls behind my back. This happened because our relationship went long distance for 8 months and during the end of our relationship he began to be very distant with me and seemed uninterested in having a relationship with me. I knew he was suffering from depression and I did try to be patient but then one day I caught him online and talking to a girl in a chat room that we both go in and he was meant to be on skype talking to me which is why I accused him of seeing people behind my back and he ended up breaking things off with me.
He says he can't be with me because of the long distance and until I work on myself and change and I move to the country he lives in he won't be more than friends with me. He said to me he does see a future and he still loves me and is still in love with me but every time I speak to him he is very cruel to me. I have tried to be his friend and respect the decision he made to break up with me but he will either be friendly one day and very sweet to me or cold and distant the next. He constantly picks fights with me and will bring up our break up and tell me how much I hurt him and that I disrespected him but he has forgiven me. I can't understand because if you forgive someone you would not constantly bring up the thing that you forgave them on. I have tried everything in my power to work with him to build our friendship but it seem's to be going nowhere sometimes I feel as if he hates me and then other times I can tell he still loves me.
I don't know what to do. I know I did wrong to him and I have apologized but the more he reminds me of what I did to him the more hurt I get. I just want to vanish from the situation. I do believe he wants a future with me but with the rate things are going I feel as though I need to give up on him because of how cruel he is to me. Yesterday he told me that I don't know what love is and that I never loved him and that I can't love anyone until I love myself. That I have hurt him very deeply and that will take him awhile to get over it. That hurt me very much and I can't believe he said that to me. I don't know what he wants from me. He say's he wants to be friends with me but he acts like I am his girlfriend still and does not act like a friend to me at all.
I do truly love this man and he will be the only person I will ever love but all the problems I am having with him I feel like it is best to walk away but I don't want to.
I also don't understand how two people can be friends if they are deeply in love with each other and it doesn't work.
Is there anything anyone suggests? I don't want to give up on this man but I don't want to be stuck in a situation where I am constantly being treated like sh*t.