Perplexed by my Virgo man, need help!

Ok so I met my Virgo about a year and a half ago. Things started off slow but after about 3 months we became exclusive. He's not the most romantic guy, but he went above and beyond for holidays, my birthday, etc. He would show his romantic side and tell me how much he enjoyed having me around. He has little pet peeves that would probably annoy most people, but I think they're cute. He's 4 yrs younger than me but so mature, reserved, organized, funny and smart - the qualities that have been lacking in my previous relationships. He's also the only guy that has ever noticed my freckles lol.

We were getting along great until about 7 months in. I used to talk to him everyday but then there was a time when I didn't talk to him for about 4 days. He didn't text or call like he used to and we started getting into minor arguments. I remember during one argument he mentioned that he loved me and I didn't even acknowledge it. Problem is I don't know how to acknowledge it - we both have a hard time communicating our feelings verbally. But I know/feel that we have a deep connection because of the way that he looks at me. He always looks at me directly in my eyes, like he's figuring me out or already has lol. He also reacts funny whenever I see him, his body language and face says all the things that I don't think he could ever tell me. It's hard to explain. My mind and heart tell me to leave him alone, but my gut tells me to stick with it because I think we could be great together.

Anyways, we broke up - supposedly - because I suggested taking space. That was about a year ago and we still text every once in a while. I feel like he's afraid of me - like he's scared to open up. Then sometimes I feel like he secretly loves me but just isn't ready. All I know is that I've always wanted him, I just wish that he would let things fall in place instead of fighting everything! urgh....should I give up and leave him alone......or keep trying to understand him?

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"Ok so I met my Virgo about a year and a half ago."
by: Anonymous

You are the only person who has to decide to give up or not with Virgo man because you knew what sign were you born on. You are 100 percent sure to leave him alone or to continue to be with him.
I believed Virgo male or female, their similarity must be not too different from each other as I'm myself Virgo. Once again you must judge correctly. Virgo is very gentle, thoughtful, modest, and full of charm. of course, he may be afraid of you for he is lacking to trust a new or short term relationship that he just met; he avoids of hurting himself, but I'm sure he loves you. His love means a lot for the inner feeling as emotional and mental feedback, not the only sex acting alone, to someone that he already shared as YOU. Also, you said,"Four day you didn't talk to him." That caused him to question himself what is wrong? and he steps back to figure it out; and if you lose touch with him, you will lose him forever; Virgo is serious-no gimmick. So, you have the power either to give up or to keep contact with your Virgo if you really love him. Communication is a key.
Hope, it is work for you.

Lady, Virgo.

Response to "Perplexed by my Virgo man, need help!"
by: Anonymous

Hi Perplexed; I'm wondering why you hadn't talked for four days. If he was the one who usually called you, and then stopped for that four days, I wonder if you did or said something that hurt his feelings or turned him off some how, unintentionally, of course. A Virgo man most likely won't "tell" you that you hurt his feelings or did something of which he disapproves. He might ignore you or be slightly rude until he gets over it, and that can take a long time, believe it or not. Maybe he's over it by now, maybe not. If you've been texting every so often, maybe you can start moving back in on him, but you have to be nonchalont about it. Find out if he's with another woman though, don't ask him, ask someone else who's not too close to him. Maybe bump into him at a club or bar, or somewhere else, supermarket that he goes to. If you can understand a Virgo man, and adjust your ways to accomodate/deal with his personality traits (perfectionist, critical, etc., but very loving and loyal and doesn't show it), then you can be very happy, if you just remember that he loves you and appreciates you.

Virgo Man
by: Anonymous

As a Virgo Man, we hate to feel unappreciated. We he said that he loved you but you didn't even notice, this meant he did not feel as if his love was being reciprocated. When a Virgo Man feels like he is giving, giving, giving and not seeing anything in return he has a tendancy to give up to keep from being hurt. We will continue to show you for a while but if we feel as if we are wasting our time we just stop, so you can realize what you are missing. But if you do show us that you realize then we feel like you don't care and it was just not meant to be. More than anything we just want to be loved by someone the way that we love them.

Virgo Man
by: Anonymous

Wow!! I am an aquagirl and I and having the same situation with my virgoguy. We were fine talking, texting and getting along just fine. Then suddenly he just stopped communicating with me. We did text after two days of his nonsense and he said that he had things to work out. Whatever! I don't have time for foolish games. Either your in or out!! I do miss his companionship but I should not have to deal with wishy washy behavor. There is too much out there to settle for a sometimer. Yeah, yeah... Virgos are great providers or family men. They are also gently and great communicators, but they also act like a two year old who doesn't get there way! So many things make them attractive, but temper tantrums make them so undesireable!! If it's meant to be let the chips fall where they may, if not move on!! I know it is difficult but things like this only makes us stronger!!

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