Sex with Aries man on a first date a mistake?


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Sex with Aries man on a first date a mistake?

I met an Aries man 4 months ago. He pursued me on Facebook, we exchanged numbers, and two weeks later hung out. He is very attractive, successful, and always out and about with his male friends (Let me add that he is 29 and I am 20).

We did not go out on a date the first time we hung out and haven't since. His apartment building has a roof top, so there are a lot of lounge chairs, cabanas, and etc. We had too many cocktails and it happened to be that I ended up sleeping with him on the first night we hung out (this is sooo not a part of my character).

Since that day we talked everyday through text messaging. However, he does not like to speak on the phone because "he is constantly on the phone at work". Our friendship was amazing, but I started to like him. I never told him anything because I didn't want to scare him away. After all, Aries men lose interest quickly. When I was around him I acted like I didn't care what he did and who he hung out with. I tried to act like an ideal girl and hard to get with.

He told me that he does not want a relationship but a female companion. I asked him define a female companion? He said someone I can go out to dinner with, take vacations, spend time with his
friends, make dinner for each other, and etc. He then turned to me and asked me if I want to be his 'female companion'? I said maybe, I will think about it. It was weird, when I was with him I felt like a princess but then there were days where he wouldn't text me (Let me add that I hardly ever text him).

He said he loved me as a person because of my 'awesome personality' and told his friends about me. Sometimes he would go MIA on the weekends. I couldn't take the emotional rollercoaster, so two days ago I told him I couldn't be his friend anymore. He replied, 'Huh what do you mean? I told him that I couldn't do the whole texting and sex thing. (He wasn't opening up to me, so I assumed that it was just a booty call. But you never know.)

He said I didn't think it was just that, but if that's how you feel. Are you telling me you don't want to be my friend anymore? I told him yes I do not want to be involved with you anymore. He didn't respond and deleted me off of Facebook that night. If he thought I was an awesome friend then why would he not fight for our friendship? I text him the next day and told him that my reaction derived from built up emotion that was never communicated to him and that it is not apart of my character to drop someone from my life without a legitimate excuse. And I had to communicate that to him because I didn't want it to bother me and have bad Karma. I also said whether he cares for what I wrote or not or responds or not, I had to let him know how I feel like mature adults do.

He never responded. For some strange reason, I want him back! I need advice, please help me.

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by: Anonymous

I'm an aries guy and i'll try to help, as i've been on the opposite side of this one waaaay too many times.

Here's the deal: It's fun being single. Sure relationships are good but they have a big opportunity cost (especially if the woman is clingy). So why settle down with one woman? She'd have to be really damn perfect to be worth the sacrifice.

So what happens is you meet a girl who is 90% perfect. You try to get the point across that you don't want to be more than friends. If she sticks around anyway then she becomes a booty call.

Now, that's all well and good but eventually the woman starts to expect more. Always happens, can be after a day or 6 months, but it will happen. They start to resent the arrangement. At that point, it's a lot easier just to walk away. Which is basically the point your dude is at by the sound of things.

What i'm getting at is that aries guys don't settle for second best. If a woman isn't perfect, sure we'll take the sex and run with it, but don't hold your breath for us to fall in love. That can happen, but the odds aren't in your favor.

There was advice somewhere above about playing hard to get in order to catch an aries man. That's very true (nothing sexier actually, and a pretty sneaky approach.. bastards lol). BUT, to state the obvious, it only works if we at least half way want you. If we don't, then sure it makes you a much more attractive conquest, but the rest of the package still has to be worth the sacrifices if it's going to turn into a relationship.

Sorry if this upsets you, but there it is. Other aries guys feel free to back me up here.

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I'm an aries guy and i'll try to help, as i've been on the opposite side of this one waaaay too many times. Here's the deal: It's fun being single. Sure relationships are good but they have a big opportunity cost (especially if the woman is clingy). So why settle down with one woman? She'd have to be really damn perfect to be worth the sacrifice. So what happens is you meet a girl who is 90% perfect. You try to get the point across that you don't want to be more than friends. If she sticks around anyway then she becomes a booty call. Now, that's all well and good but eventually the woman starts to expect more. Always happens, can be after a day or 6 months, but it will happen. They start to resent the arrangement. At that point, it's a lot easier just to walk away. Which is basically the point your dude is at by the sound of things. What i'm getting at is that aries guys don't settle for second best. If a woman isn't perfect, sure we'll take the sex and run with it, but don't hold your breath for us to fall in love. That can happen, but the odds aren't in your favor. There was advice somewhere above about playing hard to get in order to catch an aries man. That's very true (nothing sexier actually, and a pretty sneaky approach.. bastards lol). BUT, to state the obvious, it only works if we at least half way want you. If we don't, then sure it makes you a much more attractive conquest, but the rest of the package still has to be worth the sacrifices if it's going to turn into a relationship. Sorry if this upsets you, but there it is. Other aries guys feel free to back me up here.

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okay
by: Anonymous

Ok I understand that, but I never showed any signs of being clingy. If he felt that way then I am sure he would of told me straight out. He was the one who always text me throughout the week.

Now this is where my pride comes into place; I do not really care if he is a duche bag or a good guy, I want him back so I can prove to myself that I can
get him back. I refuse to go down as crazy as that might sound.

My question is how can I make an aries man come back into my life? What would you (as an aries man) want to hear from a girl that would make you consider going back to her?

Aries guy here.
by: Anonymous

Wasn't me who posted the above response but I'll try to pick up the answer as I see where he's coming from. I'd never have looked at it in that black and white way, but yeah I agree with the point he's making.

I can tell you the things which attracted me to my Libra girlfriend; her bubbly and fun personality, and how raunchy she could get. The things i hate would include how romantic she can be and how much she wants to discuss and improve the relationship constantly. Like your guy, I loathe long phone calls and we would be on the phone for hours every night if she had her way.

Regarding the 'clingy' thing; you said he went MIA. That's exactly the kind of thing my girlfriend would say. Sometimes I like to spend the weekend with my friends, and it's really annoying to be expected to check in. We have that argument a lot.

If you just want him back in your life then call or email him with the most raunchy sexual fantasy you have and he'll be back. We like direct and to the point. Your comment about why wouldnt he fight for the friendship.. why would he? You told him to go away. He probably wanted to anyway by that point. Done deal.

I don't know much about astrology but libra women in my experience are nearly always very attractive, very sexy, and an ass-ton of work to keep happy. I'm here to find out if theres any trick to avoiding all the discusion before I go insane. Like the guy who posted above I can see where your man is coming from. He probably just needed a break. Give him a few days then call and ask if he wants to do something fun for a couple of hours. Don't even mention the relationship, problems, complaints whatever.

A question for you, why can't Libra women just enjoy the moment and not make an emotional meal out of everything?

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Wasn't me who posted the above response but I'll try to pick up the answer as I see where he's coming from. I'd never have looked at it in that black and white way, but yeah I agree with the point he's making. I can tell you the things which attracted me to my Libra girlfriend; her bubbly and fun personality, and how raunchy she could get. The things i hate would include how romantic she can be and how much she wants to discuss and improve the relationship constantly. Like your guy, I loathe long phone calls and we would be on the phone for hours every night if she had her way. Regarding the 'clingy' thing; you said he went MIA. That's exactly the kind of thing my girlfriend would say. Sometimes I like to spend the weekend with my friends, and it's really annoying to be expected to check in. We have that argument a lot. If you just want him back in your life then call or email him with the most raunchy sexual fantasy you have and he'll be back. We like direct and to the point. Your comment about why wouldnt he fight for the friendship.. why would he? You told him to go away. He probably wanted to anyway by that point. Done deal. I don't know much about astrology but libra women in my experience are nearly always very attractive, very sexy, and an ass-ton of work to keep happy. I'm here to find out if theres any trick to avoiding all the discusion before I go insane. Like the guy who posted above I can see where your man is coming from. He probably just needed a break. Give him a few days then call and ask if he wants to do something fun for a couple of hours. Don't even mention the relationship, problems, complaints whatever. A question for you, why can't Libra women just enjoy the moment and not make an emotional meal out of everything?

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I'd say let it go.
by: Anonymous

Girl, I had an Aries guy that sounds just like your guy. Text the hell out of you all week long. Sometimes go MIA on the weekends. Honestly, it
didn't matter much to me because I have enough going on to keep me busy.

Honestly, I think you gave the booty up too quickly. He may view you as being conquered. To piggy back off of the two gentlemen that responded to you...From what I gathered, Aries guys are very straight forward. Your guy already said he's just looking for a companion not a serious relationship.(This is probably
not what you want.) While you haven't shown signs of being clingy, he can probably tell you are into him.

I would also add they are selfish bastards. They want what they want when they want. It's all about them. Also, they do not like be questioned. I know you said your pride wants him back but honestly is it worth it??? I never had sex
or even made out with my Aries guy. It became a game of how long will it take for him to give up. He still stuck around and I think it was due to the challenge I presented. Eventually, he got on my nerves and I dropped him. He became such a pain. I can tell you that I am relieved not to deal with him anymore. It sounds like he got into your head. I'd say let it go.

omg
by: Anonymous

omg - this is turning out like the scenario with my aries guy. Met him 4 months ago.. he would text nonstop.. we had amazing sex right away... we had the best most fun time together.. but sometimes when i wanted to hang out he would be m.i.a. which is fine, because i can hang with my friends too. But one day his x came back into the picture (she wanted him back) and he told me he was done with her but needed to talk to her because they have divorce papers to
deal with and what not...

Anyways... he stopped talking to me and would text
every now and then "how you doin?" i always text back like an idiot because i do still like him alot. But i dont want to be second!!! I wanted to ask what steps could I take to start a relationship with this aries man. But now writing
this and thinking about it, Im not sure he's worth it.

Aries Men??
by: Anonymous

Wow, I have known an aries man for 3 years who I had an initial connection with when we met and then circumstances didn't work out for us to date at the time, he began dating someone else. We kept in touch via e-mail this past 3 years as he travelled for work all over and he would always check in with me "how you doing?" and help me with the life decisions I was trying to make. This last fall he began to be really flirty and I didn't know, but his relationship was ending. I would love an aries' man's perspective on this - he started talking about how we needed to see each other after all this time and I started to develop a crush on him over the phone, I did see him recently when on a weekend trip with a girlfriend and the chemistry was amazing. But, he told me he wasn't ready to pursue a relationship because he had just ended the one he was in. Since then we have flirted and he's accused me of being hot and cold - hello, isn't that what you like?! I used to feel so comfortable talking to him and now I feel like it's gone, I don't know what he is trying to do with me. His messages now, which are very frequent, are very sexual.

It hard to win Aries guy
by: Anonymous

The articles about an Aries guy doesn't relate to me at all; I'm Virgo, however, I knew about Aries personality traits and characteristics very well by reading the Zodiac sign and analyzing. Aries is very challenging; it is not easy to keep Aries guy unless you are perfect 100%. You need to know technique and to pinpoint his weakness and to prove that you are better than him in every thing you do, but be in a cool way and modest. He will do anything which is right to sacrifice for you as you are a his lover.
If you love him, love him for real not because he is a millionaire. He love a fine girl with a beautiful heart. He will take care of you for the rest of you life. My comment is for the lady who has a problems with Aries. Think about it, Aries guy is also very smart. Don't lose him if you lose him as you lose all the luxuries that he earned for you. Also, you need to be a strong woman that he can trust you. Strong in the right way. Good luck to all ladies!

Aries Male from Aquarius Female's Perspective
by: Anonymous

Well, I just met an Aries male about three weeks ago (which is fairly early) and I am so intrigued by his inner strength! I'm usually the commander and chief in the romantic bonds I've aquired, but I feel this loss of power with him!?.. I do have a habit of checking my sign's compatibility when I date. I usually meet a guy who is cool in our first encounter, but turn out to be either a Taurus, Capricorn, Pisces (not perfect matches) etc.. so with me meeting the unbelievably attractive and successful Aries who is almost perfect for me on the compatibility charts; was an immediate eye opener!!! I never get like this, I guess I'm tired of dating and would like to cut all the crap and get some reassurance from him...but after doing my research on this self-sufficient personality, I believe I may be lost at my wits. I don't know when it's a good time to do anything, how much space should I give him, do I speak when he's in his 'quiet moods,' I just don't know which direction to take..? I like to be engulfed in the wonder of the unknown and the freshness of a brandnew love affair. The unfortunate occurance of it all is he has already seduced me twice!! Since then, I've been playing the laid back cool role when I've internally been wanting to sexplore his time away from the stresses of the world..In any other instance, I would have pumped my brakes, but I forgot to order in some new ones and I can't slow down. What should I do?

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Well, I just met an Aries male about three weeks ago (which is fairly early) and I am so intrigued by his inner strength! I'm usually the commander and chief in the romantic bonds I've aquired, but I feel this loss of power with him!?.. I do have a habit of checking my sign's compatibility when I date. I usually meet a guy who is cool in our first encounter, but turn out to be either a Taurus, Capricorn, Pisces (not perfect matches) etc.. so with me meeting the unbelievably attractive and successful Aries who is almost perfect for me on the compatibility charts; was an immediate eye opener!!! I never get like this, I guess I'm tired of dating and would like to cut all the crap and get some reassurance from him...but after doing my research on this self-sufficient personality, I believe I may be lost at my wits. I don't know when it's a good time to do anything, how much space should I give him, do I speak when he's in his 'quiet moods,' I just don't know which direction to take..? I like to be engulfed in the wonder of the unknown and the freshness of a brandnew love affair. The unfortunate occurance of it all is he has already seduced me twice!! Since then, I've been playing the laid back cool role when I've internally been wanting to sexplore his time away from the stresses of the world..In any other instance, I would have pumped my brakes, but I forgot to order in some new ones and I can't slow down. What should I do?

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LOL
by: Anonymous

Ok to the last poster, Aries is actually most compatible with Sagittarius, not aquarius just a litle FYI...

WOW
by: Anonymous

To the poster;
Sounds exactly like my dilemma, exact same scenario, i'd laugh so hard if his name was Steve.

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by: Anonymous

I'm an aries and honestly, unless you're a sag or aries i don't think you stand a chance.there has to be a strength and fire to you and the fact that you really want him back and are so emotionally attatched shows you cannot stand up to an aries. You've been played by aries charisma. Don't get burned again. If an aries wants you, he will get you, if not don't bother...and when he finally wants you i hope you'll be over him and give him the burn that we aries need sometimes. There's plenty more where he came from

I'm an aries...GIVE UP
by: Anonymous

you gave up that booty way too soon. Aries like to hunt and he already conquered. There was no longer anything to hunt. You are the horse that's been ridden hard and put away wet. Pick up your pride and move on because if aries wants you he will have you and if not, there's no convincing him...give up. You are just another easy conquest and you're done.

alright now guys
by: Aries man

dont tell her its impossible cause its not. you want my honest opinion? emails and texts dont do shit. Go to his fucking house like right now grab him and tell him you want him. Hell be so damn shocked because no one does this to us cause everyone else is so damn intimidated. He'll immediately want you. and then have sex lol. no joke we like the hunt but if we see you want us that bad that your willing to go out of your comfort zone for us by barging up to our house and trying to get us then ur worth it