Tips for dating Aquarius men

by f
(london)

I'm an Aquarius woman who has dated many Aquarius men. OK ladies don't despair! Yes they have mixed signals but that is because they usually don't know themselves. Let them disappear for awhile. Do your own thing and be glamorous, be mysterious. NEVER explain yourself.

Be sexy in a relaxed way. Aquarius men are actually very emotional, and if you stop them
From have sport sex, stare deeply into their eyes, run your teeth over their neck. Sport sex can turn into emotional love sex.

They are wary of being hurt. To get your own way tell them they are being mean and closed minded. Leave often don't be predictable, but also give them compliments-
Ones do to with... "I was impressed at the way you handled that..."
They don,t like to be jealous.
They do like to categorize women.
They want an all rounder (sexy, clever, talented interesting)

Unfortunately if they categorize you, you might be found wanting hence the mixed signals.
They actually want a life partner.
If you have slept with one and he is distant,
Try telling him you just want to be friend then hang out together.
But chat to other men.

ALWAYS be classy. Never vulgar.
Be vulnerable, not by crying lots but by sighing at the sorry state of world affairs.
Kind of pretty and melancholy.

Also if an Aquarius man really likes you he will hide it. He is always friendly so you will find he will be distant to you. He might stutter or go red and be nervous. Smile at him. Big smiles but just get on with your life. It takes great courage for them to ask you out because they are
Shy and misunderstood (not at all but they think so!)

Also they might do this moody thing where they decide you are too good for them and are downright nasty.
Don,t get angry just say very calmly "do not talk to me like that" and wait. He
Will apologize, then talk to them in a soft way, with plenty of flicking eye contact and starring at fingers.

Sounds all complex but they are perverse, yet sexy and very loyal in a loyal.

Good luck xxx

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Contradictory
by: Summer

These are great tips. I hope they help people who are willing to compromise

Re: Tips for Dating the Aquarius Man
by: Hope

Hi f,

Thank you for taking the time to post your experiences with dating Aquarius men. What are your sun and moon signs by the way?

Interesting comment about them needing lots of compliments. I'm curious why you say that.

THANK YOU!
by: Manda

I just read all about the guy I dated (not anymore). He's bolted. And I have this feeling he'll be coming back. I think he got scared. This SOUNDS exactly like him. Thank you, you've helped me understand.

Complicated-help
by: Anonymous

I have been getting mixed signals too. Like I thought he liked me, but he seems to be more stressed. I don't even know what to do anymore. How can I talk to him? PLEASE!!! I want him to make a move on me.

Because we're MEN, Silly!
by: Jamie/Aquarian Man

To answer Hope's question...first of all, because we're MEN, silly! All MEN need and want to know that we're cool in your eyes, even when we pretend to be indifferent. We want to MATTER to you, and to the world at large. But make sure it isn't one sided, girlfriend...he needs to show his appreciation for you. I make damn sure to let a woman in my life know she's my Queen.

You have validated so much for me.
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I was deeply attracted this male Aquarius. Everything that you mentioned was exactly the way things went. I did not date nor did I have sex with him but he was sending all of the mixed signals that you described. First, he is asking me perverted questions, then he plays the Mr. Flirting game, and right before I moved, he was introducing me to his friends (mostly guy friends, I felt like I was on display). If I had been single, all of this would have intrigued me but I was married and my husband means the world to me. I was simply trying be a good friend. I wasn't looking to have an affair at the time but somehow I felt as though he was looking to mess up my marriage. I made my husband move to get away from all of that.

Oddly enough I miss those things about him but it was interesting to know that my speculation was on the money.

ONLINE MEETING
by: Anonymous

WOW! That was very informative, I just met an aquarius man online 2 wks ago we have been talking non stop literally, even while he is at work, very suave and everything that was mentioned was hit right on the head. He is 25 I am 29 a Gemini.

dont give up on aquarius man
by: Anonymous

i had an aquarius guy after me and i found him irresitable. he was tall, physically attractive, funny, kind, with sparkling eyes. i felt an instant attration and he said he felt we would be great together. then suddenly he dropped me like a stone. (we had not even been on a date let alone had any physical contact whatsoever) saying he did not know if he was ready for a girlfriend, and even though he thought a lot of me, he needed more time. I was devastated, i just could not believe how something we both felt so strongly, could be dropped in such a manner. when i texted him he would completely ignore me. he stopped all communication and actually acted as though he did not like me. it was so so hard but i had to let him go to keep my sanity, so i stopped texting. when we met i was cool and detached, but kept a big smile on my face.after 6 weeks he suddenly out of the blue text me, but i did not answer until the next day and even then i was afraid of being hurt again, so i kept my replies very short and blunt. he asked me on a date,and i agreed. it turned out to be a fabulous evening, he was great company. when i asked why he had run away the first time he refused to tell me, but i actually feel that he was getting to like me too much and was afraid of his own feelings! now he tells me he loves me and loves having me as his girlfriend, that is music to my ears!! saying all that he is a very proud man and likes to say what does and what does not go. he still sometimes refuses to answer text if he feels i have overstepped the mark. he does like his freedom and so i dont ever get jealous or clingy. when he goes out i go out with friends. he likes me to be an independant woman. we have a great libra aquarius relationship. we were made for each other

Debateable.
by: Coyote

We Aquarians are generally aware of ourselves. Don't "never explain yourself," as honestly that will just piss us off and make us not trust you as much as you'd like. It may be intriguing at first, but gets old quick. Never try and get your own way all the time. We will get callous and mean very fast, and once we dig in our heels it's a battle you'll never win. Unpredictability is intriguing, but it can and often does follow the same line as never explaining anything. We tend to read between the lines and guess things correctly, but if we don't concretely know our minds go along eighty million different lines and it's very frustrating. If we've slept with you and seem distant, than all it was was sex. We're fine with being friends, just don't be awkward. We won't hide that we like you, we just wait for you to come to us. That's how we decide right off the bat if you're a possibility, that you had the kahones to ignore our distance and talk to us. Usually we are shy when we first meet you, and it seems as though we're weird and extremely eccentric, although once you get to know us you wonder how you didn't understand us before. We do get moody and think you are too good for us, and that's usually if we think you are someone you're not. We tend to notice perfection and get angry at ourselves when we don't match what we think we should do or say. 75% of the time, you just have to give us a look when we say something hurtful, and it might take a day or two but we will come back and apologize to you, unless you have severely violated us. We are simple in action, but complex in thought. Once you know each of our personalities and combine it with the astrological concepts, we're very easy to understand on a general basis, but our intellectual side can often mess with relationships as we always lust for more in that department.

Accurate enough...
by: Tre

As an Aquarius man, I must say... this post is pretty accurate. I'm curious about the sign of the author... she must be a Libra. ;)

Aquarius Woman dating Aquarius Man
by: Anonymous

I am an aquarius woman and I met an aquarius man in June and we started talking and talking and a few weeks later we were dating. We have continued to communicate in a way that I have never communicated before. I have dated other aquarius men who were distant and aloof, and too be honest more than eccentric, but this man is funny, intriging, adventurous, compassionate, unpredictable(in a good way) and like myself a parent and from what I can see a very good parent. He has passion and ethics and only wants to do what's right. I don't think I have ever been is such a good relationship - he is definitately someone that I could be with for a long time. FYI - for 15 years I was with a Virgo - two signs that should never be together.

Aquarius Man/Aquarius Woman
by: Anonymous

Hi, great comments folks - im aquarius and 2 months into dating an aquarius man. Im more than happy to give him space, i like my own space too - but does the aloofness improve with time in a relationship - or am i going to go through periods constantly of his being extremely distance and at times non existant lol
Appreciate your experienced advice on this one ..
Im confused.com !!

ughh
by: Anonymous

i, unfortunately, like an aquarius guy. i am a virgo... and hate when i hav to put myself out there. i see him alot. i used to hav fun with him, whenever he would see me hed go crazy, start calling out to me, and point me out to whoever was near. then he started to get crazy distant.... so i came over and started chatting up his mom, ( i am only sixteen) he was over there ( i ahd actually taken his seat) i love his mom, but the only thing he asked me was if i was going to be at church sunday, and if he could borrow apen!! ive heard some pretty bad things about him, i am a virgo, so i try not to be too suspicious or judgeing, but when i hear the same thing from like, 30 girls, (especially ones who have dated him) i get worried (as virgos do) he and his mom said they didnt even know what those girls were talking about. and i didnt just outright ask them about it. but, hes dated practically EVERY girl ive hated since the third grade... so then i was like, youve dated her, and her, and WHO ELSE?! he didnt answer... then i hugged is mom goodbye and turned around to give him a hug... he leaned in a little, the totally leaned out and was like "bye" and that was it. i swear, hes been acting so weird lately, he doesnt seem to want to talk anymore. Hes got the BIGGEST EGO EVER, every time me and his mom said something was cute hed be like "are you talking about me? are you talking about me?!' anywayy, whenever i see him now, he hides his face, looks all nervous, messes up his hair, and basically tries to hide..... i am not ugly.... so, does he just hate me?! it takes alot for me to like someone.. but i guess i could get someone else... but hes the first boy to make me cry.. what should i do????? is making him jealous a good thing? he told me (in front of his mom) who he thinks the hottest girl in school is... and it was not me. he stares alot though, and i do too, can somebody help me?

To the virgo 16 year old in trouble
by: f

Hey Girl chill out... You have gotten caught in the Aquarius wheel of torture.

The reason it works out ok for me is because I am an Aquarian and I GET them.
I care but I can also turn it off if they are pissing me off.

Basically you are 16 and you should NEVER base your notion of confidence on what one man thinks.

Don't let him fuck you over, he thinks your hot but it trying to burst your ego, or come across cool. He is friendly to everyone accept when in a bad mood so if he is shitty to you its because he likes you.
DON'T LET HIM PLAY THIS GAME...
date someone else, go out, have fun, be cool, not a wall flower or clingy. Get your own bunch of friends.
And you also broke the cardinal rule of going to the family... if that was me I'd be vex in the most.
To undo this LET HIM COME TO YOU.
Listen, it doens't matter what you look like to an aquarian man as long as you are cool and sexy. You have to know it yet be demure, can you do that? Its a little hard for a Virgo, otherwise DUMP HIM.
Look I know we are hard work, believe me I know that.
Thats why I always think its best if we have older lovers, they don't take our Ice queen crap seriously. On younger men it has them hooked... and it's always nice to feel powerful, even if your bloke won't admit that to you EVER.
So he's dated loads of girls, so what? He hasn't taken any of them seriously. I have dated loads of guys but I didn't care about them I was bored- don't judge me what am I supposed to do stay at home all day reading Proust?
Get some distance, if he likes you he will be back after he has sorted his head out and admitted he actually does like you in a deep way. xx

Wow, this is great!
by: Anonymous

I am an aquarius and I am good friends with an aquarian man. Both of us are in a committed relationship with our own problems. We have became friends and I understand him to the point of feeling like I am talking to my soul mate sometimes. There is both an intellectual and physical attraction between the two of us and if we were at a different place in both of our lives or had we met sooner, I think the chemistry would be unreal. I am married to a virgo and it is a constant struggle with communication and ethics/values. My virgo atleast understands my independence and need for freedom which is why we have lasted 15 years I suppose. Oh, but those aquarian men always catch my eye!

taurus girl, aquarius male
by: Anonymous

i met a aquarius,on line, chatted a few times, went over and we were intimate and it was fire. days in a row hes said if i want to come over im free to do so. ive made some food before cause they said they were going thru difficult times and he really wasnt eating like that and i helped him out in something else to, maybe a few bucks. so, he went to new york to visit his cousins and neices on thanksgiving, and i would think i woulda got an email here and there

hey how you, but nothing unless i sent an email. anyways, ive seen messages he would leave for girls on a public networking site, that i thought was outta line, now im wondering if i was just a piece of meet to him. im a taurus. should i say something about the msgs or cut the friend ship off

soo, you want to date an Aquarian...
by: a girl..

So I dated an Aquarian for a few years. Here's my experience with him as an Aquarian. They are prideful and have a self-esteem problem (this one at least). They are in constant need to be put first, and as a Virgo, I am also like this. So with the first sign of hurt, they retrieve back and if you continued, they fall out of love and leaves you wonder why. Even if you say the slightest mean thing and even if you told them didn't mean it, they'd take it as if you've killed their family (sorry, a little bit exaggerated). So be mindful of their sensitivity when you get into an argument. I feel that what they find most attractive about a woman is showing that she really cares, but do it moderately. I agree that they are witty and loves a woman who is on their level, but if you show a slightest sign of distance and uninterest, they'd get turn off quickly. They tend to fall in and out of love very quickly. Yes, they are manipulative and stubborn. Even if they are wrong, they will make it sound like they are right (because they are so clever and witty), and once you get them in the argumental mode, don't expect to get your way. There are also good qualities about them though. I liked him because he was intelligent. His comments were always witty. He pampered me so much that it spoiled me, and he never expected anything in return. When they love, they love you with all their hearts as long as you show that you love them too. This guy was extremely loyal when we were "in love", whatever that meant.

Anyways, this is my experience with an Aquarian guy. Some of the stuff may not apply to other Aquarians.

pisces aries cusp with an aquarius
by: Anonymous

this really helped me out alot thank you this sounds so much like him and kinda opened my eyes a little more me and him have been together for four months we have our spells where we spilt for a little bit but he always tends to come back yes at times he kind of shuts me out but i jus tell him about it and it usually works like he trys not to shut me out as much things are rocky at times but they are getting better and tht i am very happy about because i am very much in love with him sometimes i wonder about him but then he always does something tht makes me realize tht he loves me :)

thanks, f! Very helpful
by: Kinky Cap

Wow.

'f' you seem to really understand the Aquarius man...I guess being an Aquarius helps matters. Takes a nutter to know a nutter, what?

Thanks for sharing your insight and tips.
I've been involved with an Aquarius man lately & all your insight rings REALLY true. good times.

Happy Birthday Aquarius peeps-

Aquarius men are to hard to figure out
by: Kim

I met my Aquarius about a year ago. when we first got together he was so damn charming. He always committed on how beautiful I was and how much he wants me. We finally hooked up and all that sweetness faded away. He likes to drink and that seem to be the only time the charm is present. I think he loves me, but I really can't tell because it seems as if he treats every woman in his life the same way, well he does seem to be a little meaner to me at times. Sex was always just ok but I have tried to bring new ideas to the bedroom but he just wants to do it one way. It's hard because it was not like that in the beginning. I'm a sagitarius/capricorn more sag, and I don't like knowing where I stand. He tells me he loves me from time to time but is it really true. I have to wonder

aquarius and aquairius
by: Anonymous

I was with him for five years. It seemed like it was made in heaven. Then my life got complicated and I needed more love than he was willing to give. He just stopped talking to me so I had to let him go. This is the most painful breakup of my life. I had no idea his love for me was so small. It was a complete shock. My birthday is the 9th and his is the 10th. He said he lost track of our birthdays.

puzzled
by: Anonymous

i met an A 4 months ago, he asked for my phone number and called and we've been going out no sex but long stimulating conversations, then he stopped calling, i called once all seemed OK, i called again a week later he suggested we met but never called so I called another week later and asked whether he did not want me to call again and he said no why would you say that, but then he never called and when I saw them by chance I was a bit angry and said so and told them they lied to me and me and they said NO! and we agreed to meet and he called me but still was a bit 'I do not know what time and when I could meet you and what do you think' and I said I do not know either, when you know let me know and he never did, 4 days ago, does that mean he will never call me again?

Hang on for a bumpy ride!
by: Shasta

Let me start out by saying I am also an aquarius so I can somewhat understand them because I have a lot of the exact same traits. I recently dated an aquarian man for 6 months. The beginning was very stimualating. We had known each other for a while prior to dating and he pursued me hot and heavy. When I finally gave in and decided to date him, a few months were absolutely dreamy and I truly thought he was the one I had been looking for, I fell hard. Then like a light switch, he turned it all off. He was cold, rarely called unless he wanted a booty call, etc. His issues were he had became very jealous of how many guy friends I had and how close we all were. Me being outgoing and having a large network of friends was something he knew prior to getting involved and I was not going to change that so I let him and his jealous and stubborn ass hit the road. 2 weeks later I find myself in yet another relationship with an aquarian. This one doesn't have the jealous streak but all the other qualities I adore in aquarius...especially understanding my own need for freedom. I have always been attracted to this sign but the ones with a jealous streak are terrible to deal with. If I wasn't an aquarian myself and understand them so well, I would never date one of these guys honestly. They can be hard to communicate with and rarely open up and get attached. But its the way they can turn their emotions off and on that is irritating. But I am the same way so I can't complain much. I just know better to fall for one of these guys again. If you are looking for a good time, they are the key. If you are looking for a commitment, proceed carefully.

...
by: puzzled

so what are these traits? is it like you are interested in someone and then indifferent in the blink of an eye? or I do have feelings but will never show them? or I do have feelings but will choke them to avoid commitment? the fact that he hasn't called means that he may be thinking about what happened or that that was it, gone, not interested? could they really loose interest so easily or is it that they force themselves to lose interest so that they avoid commitment? and how being with someone you like is a commitment? isn't commitment something you are obliged to do but really do not want to?

how do you knoe if like is love?
by: f

Yes me again, just wanted to say there is a difference between an
A who likes you and loves you. If they are friendly and turn on all
The charm they want to know you- I do the same its this intense curiosity I have.
My sis says its mixed signals- can't help it I'm buillt that way.
But if they love you they will drive you nuts.
They will stalk you without letting you know they even care. They will be
They will be Rough and sound angry at you- they can't deal with their emotions.
They wil yearn for you, they might even chat to girls infront of you to get a reaction.
They will do stupid things to get your attention.
The usual *q friendliness will be hard for them with you if they love you, it will cost them.
They will try to mimic behaviour you do to seem cool, or intice you.
(Because they feel so uncool around you). Finally you will know if they like you if you ask for help.
A always help a damsal in distress, I am not asking for a leo like help me seduce me here; very wrong.
No more like a little bit upset and confused'Having a bad day'and see what they do.
They are lovely, but if they like you they will pull them selves together to say the right thing ang give confort.
Tell you it will be oik; its the insecurity- Aq are insecure in love. It makes us dizzy.
But they like most people- it love thjat difficult for them.
Once you get into that soft place and they tell you they love you- they usually won't lie unless you are needy and they wish to escape,
He will tell you. “Tell me a hundred times or I will kill you” I siad to my aq lover, and he whispered it in my ears and all over. I know he means it because -
Well because his fae changes when he sees me unexpectedly and he can't put the affable mask on- he shakes, his voice trembles. Catch them unexpectedly to know how he feels. Xx

Libra/ Aquarius
by: Anonymous

Okay so I slept with my married aquarian boss. I know it was a huge slut move on my part but I don't care it was just sex! Anyway, after we slept together it wasn't the same between us anymore. He has a hard time speaking to me and he even has a hard time looking me in the eye. I don't know what the hell his problem is. I wanted to continue having sex with him but I don't know how to tell him. I don't know if I should be blunt with him and ask him what his problem is or should I just play his little immature game and become disstant? Please Help!

Seriously?
by: Anonymous

You want advice from people on here on how to keep sleeping with a married man? He got what he wanted from you and now you are used garbage. Why is that so hard to figure out?

Aquarian w/Aquarian
by: Anonymous

I am an Aquarian (in every aspect, poster child for the sign) and I have been dating an Aquarian man for the last few months. This is my second real relationship with another aquarian and he is so different in so many ways than the first. This man is as loyal, fun loving, even tempered as any person I have ever met and he adores me. He was born on the 18th so I wonder if he has some Pisces traits though? Sometimes he does things, like being very open about his feelings and intentions in this relationsip, that are outside the Aquarian comfort zone.

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