Unhappily married Cancer

by Dessera
(Tx)

I have this Co~worker that we have become extremely close on BOTH sides. Our relationship is more then friendship but not one I would consider as an actual "boyfriend" thing. We just have a lot in common and talk about EVERYTHING! From movies, music, camping, future goals, morals and yes even our sex lives. He's become like a close girlfriend, only he's a guy and a married one at that!

He's unhappily married but I'm divorced. We spend our breaks and lunches together, but only because he was the one to Initiate them first. He's a very good man and I respect him alot I think because even though things are bad at home, he hasn't cheated on his wife. I highly suspect his wife has because this is what she she has told him almost in black and white. She told him that she could and that there wasn't a thing he could do about it if she did. To me that says that either she already did or that she was about to.
My friend can't understand why she won't just be straight with him and tell him that she done the deed. I told him, Duh,he could use it against her in divorce court if it got to that point. He becomes very angry just talking about the issue and I suggested counseling but he says that they have been there and done that and nothing changes. She's secretive,never comes home on time from work and no one knows where she's at. She constanty accuses him of cheating on her, which he never has, I would know! My friend and I are mutually attracted to each other but never once has he ever crossed any lines with me that would disrespect his wife.

Money is constantly missing on her end and there is hardly any bedroom action but I believe he hangs on still for the child they had together and still in hopes that things will change.

#1 Question: I'm a Taurus woman and want to know what is the best way to support my friend (a Cancer)in this situation?

#2 Question: How do I let him know that I like him more than a friend if things don't work out with his wife?

#3 Question: Is it normal to feel like I want him to just be happy even if it's not with me? Even if all I can ever have is his friendship, that I'm fine with that?