Virgo man shut me out

I am a Scorpio woman (late twenties) have been friends with this Virgo man for a long time almost twenty years. We grew up together as children, and were friends for a long time, i moved to another city and we lost touch, then we reconnected through a online networking site. Everything was fine but then the more we talked, the more I realized how much I really liked him. He is sweet and funny and a very deep and caring person. I finally told him how I felt about him and a "possibility" of us dating and then he revealed that he just gotten out of a long term relationship and did not want to be in another serious relationship. So i accepted that although it has been quite painful, and I told him I still wanted us to remain friends. But now he is acting very weird and distant, i text him occasionally and NOTHING. This lack of communication leads me to believe that something is going on. I think it is quite rude to not text someone back especially if it is repetitive. I am so confused, my heart says to keep being patient but my head says just let it go because i cannot see myself with someone who never pays attention to me. I understand his need for space, because I need my solitude at times too, but why wont he just contact me? He told me he is not into computers so we stopped e-mailing each other and now it is mostly texting but it has been a couple of weeks and nothing! He does have a very demanding job but i think he hides behind his work and uses it as an excuse to not contact me. I am so hurt that he is treating me like this. i have never pressured him or anything like that, I have tried to be there for him but he still pushes me away. I took a huge risk revealing my feelings, and now I am kind of wishing i never said anything to him at all. I just don't understand why he acts this way, does he truly not care for me at all? or is he trying so hard to not hurt me and say the wrong thing which is why he avoids me like the plague? I just want some answers, because this sitaution has been verys tressful for me and i can't deal with it anymore, if there is nothing there on his end, why is he acting so distant? why won't he open up to me? I am a very open and honest person and I expect that quality in whomever i am dealing with in any capacity it may involve, (friend/peer/lover). Someone close to me advised me to just step back and leave him alone because he obviously has some inner issues to deal with which go way beyond me. But this on and off thing is not doing it for me, I want to date other guys and not have him in my mind as a roadblock, does anyone have some suggestions? is it me? or is it him? who has the problem here?

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"Does anyone have some suggestions? is it me? or is it him?"
by: Anonymous

I believe you are open and flexible to Virgo man 100% because you love and have faith within him. However, seems not to care about you even email or text as a messages to keep both of you and him to connect. Sound you, Scorpio lady, gave him enough spaces. So, my suggestion is it's not you fault if you move on to date with a new person who you interested and can count on as friend and a lover in a new relationship. I'm saying-you are free to go and do whatever it is right for you- I understand. I admitted, I'm Virgo,pretty woman; I have the opposite problem from you. My Scorpio has no personal phone or email. I just cant contact him but anytime he can contact me; I'm open for him-only. I almost change my mind as you do....Sooner; I'm my own woman and reliable. Go a head girl...date with a better man and say goodbye to that Virgo man, I insist. Okay. I wish for my Scorpio man meet someone very nice, love, and faithful to him forever... don't be like me.

(Ms. Virgo cheers to Ms. Scorpio)

Reply to
by: Anonymous

Hi Scorpio Lady; If he's not contacting you at all, then he doesn't want to talk to you right now or for a while. You might have scared him off when you told him you wanted to date. You said to him that you understood, but maybe he's self conscious now and doesn't feel comfortable talking with you when he knows you want more. I am Pisces and I've been with my Virgo husband for several years. They don't express their feelings very well and it's hard to get it out of them, leaving you in the dark. I say 'move on' and try to forget him - I know that's extremely hard to do - but you have to take care of yourself and move on. Love yourself and get your mind off of him. Exercise, play good music, clean, play around on the dating sites, even if you're not going to participate in online dating; It will help get your mind off of him. It takes time, keep busy. Good luck and love to you Scorpio Lady.

To lady Scorpio
by: Anonymous

Virgo man must be pretty shock when he hear you asked him to go on for a date. You have to take time and be easy on this guy...and suppose you may find a difference words to express it to him instead of dating if you really want to meet him and know more about him. I'm sure he will not refuse. Now he is kind of shut down, so you have to leave him for awhile until he is cool off than try to be honest and nice to him once again. I bet you will win him. I understand about Virgo man if he like you, he will talk to you and at the same time, you may invite him for a coffer, dinner, movie or lunch, so at the same time you take this opportunity to know him. I'm not a Virgo male. As a Virgo female, I met one Virgo man; I found he is interested in me. He keep saying that one day, someone will take him to dinner." He did not know that I sheared his zodiac sign, geeh. He though I'm Pisces because I'm very nice as him. Ha, wrong guessed.
I hope you will win Virgo man; it depends on how you use the words and treat him. This guy seems easy but not really . wishing you luck.

calm down
by: Anonymous

Im a scorpion girl, my virgo has left me for a while before letting me come to him. Take it easy and give him a period of time to be alone, he will contact to you soon. Now, just keep silent, he need his own space to think and consider ab you before starting a relationship.

Important
by: Anonymous

Hey Scorpio Lady

Give him some space he will be fine after a while text him once in a while trust me he is worth the wait caus once he is back he will pay you back 10Fold for waiting and make up for evryting you feel you lost

Coming from a virgo
Wait for him dont make any rash decisions that you will regret

virgo men shut me out
by: Anonymous

So its been almost two months and im still waiting, i don't want to pressure him or stress him out in any way shape or form, so I have been keeping a low profile. I haven't called him, but I thought about texting him the other day. He is so aloof but i'm drawn to him like a magnet, i don't know how to turn off my feelings for him, maybe thats because he has been in my life for so long.

I'm a Scorio woman and am baffled by a Virgo man
by: Anonymous

Hi Anonymous,

I understand your pain. Let me say this: our sign is deep, passionate, and if anything, intense - whether we like that or not. The Virgo man that I just got interested in goes hot, then cold, then come here - go away. I have been more confused over these last 2 months and it has made me less productive and very confused. Not a good place to be. So, my suggestion to you is this - go about your life. There are so many men who will appreciate what you have and that you can truly "connect" with. Us Scorpios must connect. If the Virgo guy comes back around, then you know you have to stay back until he makes a subtle move - then your move must be somewhat subtle as well. I don't know about you - but this Scorpio girl is not very subtle - although I do try!!! Go find yourself a guy who you can get in the trenches with and if that Virgo man comes back around - then you can make a decision. My guess - you'll go with the guy who loves you.

Virgos stress me out!
by: had enough of virgo

Man today this virgo lady in my class stresses me out when she brings up my bad etiquette. I just had enough of her now! it drives me crazy erghh.

I also noticed that virgos want to be your friend then the next week they arnt

Why can't virgos bleach their mouthes for once!

Answer
by: Anonymous

You should just move on, he probably doesn't know how he should be feeling right now, that's why he's buried himself with work.

My Virgo Man
by: Anonymous

I have known my Virgo man for over 30 years and he has always been my best friend. We lost touche for a long time and I ran into him after my husband passed away. Lately we have become serious about our relationship and it seems that the things that I feel are important in a relationship he takes for granted. Such as calling me regulary or making time for me. It is nothing for him to be late or just not show up without a call to let me know. I have been told that Virgo men are deep thinkers which causes them to over think everything. They are naturally shy and like to make the first move after...they have checked you out for some time. They are perfectionist and they will not pick just any woman for a mate. So if he picks you that lets you know that you must be as close to perfect as humanly possible. It takes them a long time to get over disagreements, breakups or even criticism. You have to handle them with alot of care and adjust who you are to be with them. Also If you are with a Virgo man and you are an emotional or very sensitive person you will drive him away plus get ready for your nights to filled with heartache and tears. But all and all there is something about the Virgo man that draws you to them even when your heart tells you to move on.

All The Same
by: Me

Leave him.. and all the other Virgos who are making all you women feel the way you do..

Who the hell do they think they are, treating people in this cold clinical detached manner

We all have feelings and get hurt and need our ' alone ' time, but not all of us treat people in such a disgraceful manner.. they're just men.. and you're all worthy of much more respect

where is your self respect girls?

get tough get serious and tell them to GET LOST !

Virgo Man
by: Anonymous

I know this problem and have been able to see this up front and center with a Virgo man I know. We were around each other every day for months so I was "the safe woman" in his life as we were working on a project together. He came off very sweet, very caring, very sensitive too to me and to all the women he was texting, talking to, seeing, online dating - you name it. He is hot and heavy with someone initially with flirting, talking, texting, - and these women thought they "were special" for sure. As soon as they showed a real interest, he couldn't be bothered and moved on to someone else. He would share with me that he just didn't get it with these women who thought "they were with him". Yeah - of course they thought they were with him with all the attention. Little did they know he was doing that with about 20 others at the same time on the same day. I'm not kidding here. What I really got out of this experience (BTW we ended up with some very heavy feelings between us and he was "come here go away" so regularly that I was never so confused about someone in my entire life so I kept my distance) was that he really liked "the titillating" experience of it all. The sensations of texting and getting all that female attention was what he really liked. I've never really seen it before. I looked at his facebook page just for the heck of it. Every single person that was a "friend" - and there were around 300 - were very good looking women. Not average looking - very good looking. And of the 300, there were about 2 men. That spoke loudly to me as well. Scorpios are not about the flirting. We are about the "real, the depths, the good stuff". I admit, I was even confused with all the attention and I got to see it without being "in it". It's like they know how "to relate - to connect" and it makes you feel that you are so close and special. He said a few things one day that really got me to see that. Scorpios are sexy and we probably use the gift of sexy from time to time to our advantage too. But a Virgo man(not Virgo women) uses the gift of connecting that "gets you". Then they move on. Think of a spider web. The spider gets you into the web, then they either eat you or leave you there for something else while they go out for more food. So move on Scorpio girl to a man who embraces the good stuff not runs from it. I admit, the Virgo man can be a little hard to resist, but come on. Don't be confused any more. Use your power to move on to what you really want. Someone who REALLY IS close to you and you alone.

Virgo
by: Me

Very well said regarding the last comment .. you had a very good insight into the Virgo nature.. Like me I knew a Virgo male, it was nothing physically intimate but boy did he want to.. it was everything you have already described but I was too clever for him and he couldn't out-wit me.. I knew exactly what kind of material he was and he too got fed up, backed off, bored and lost interest simply because .. he couldn't profit from me..Just like you.. I'm genuine always honest and open about everything with no hidden agendas and thats all what most Virgos are about .. Agendas, whats in it for them.. they're living Wimps.. they love no-one but themselves

Deeply insecure fragile creatures and dont deserve a kind word from anyone

As I stated in my last post

Tell them to GET LOST

Make him aware of it!
by: Anonymous

Recently I've been dating a Virgo Man, I am an Aquarious woman. At first he started flirting and getting my attention all the time, texting all day long, I was feeling he was too clingi. Text after text that I could even coupe with so much of him telling me about how georgeous and beatiful and amazing I was, etc. It was love at first sight. After couple of weeks he started changing, I notice he was texting not as much and became a little distant and stopped saying sweetie or mija, or those romantic sayings to me. I thought he is no longer into me as he was before and got me kind of outguarded. So I did made him aware of it. RIGH WHEN I FELT HIS COLDNESS I TEXT HIM BACK and MAKE HIM AWARE OF IT in a nice way though. I said Honey, I missed the sweet way you used to talk to and text me. Is it everything ok? Do you want to let things off and not keep in touch with each other, or is there anything wrong you would like to talk about when you have some time? I feeling you a little distant once again. Is there something making you unconfortable we can brake things off. I don't want to make feel unconfortable, nor you have to respond to my text for courtesy, and if it is do to it, I better don't want to be around, I'll better leave the relationship, I am very mature enough to understand you are not confortable with this relationship, so I better leave. Guess what he immediately appologise and became the romantic Virgo he was before once again, they sometimes don't realized they become cold sometimes until you make them aware they are doing it. If a Virgo loves you he will make everything possible to make you happy. TRUST ME IT WORKS!!!!

why does a virgo man get physical and them stops
by: Anonymous

I was physical with this virgo man for months and then he just stopped comeing over.And then he came over again six month after. We are still in contact with each other and i told him how i felt about him he says he does noy want a relationship right now. I have fallen in love with this man and i have not told him this i dont want to let this go. We are friends what should i do?

why does a virgo man get physical and them stops
by: Anonymous

By the way im a taurus women.I feel this man fail for me before i fail for him. Please help.

They seem to do that
by: Anonymous

Hi Taurus lady. I think that's what Virgos do a lot of the time. They are into you, then as soon as you are into them, they don't want you anymore. I'm not saying it happens that way every time - but with the Virgo guys I've been around, that's the way it's been. It's too bad, really, because they can be so charming and sexy and into relating to women at a close level. Then boom. Cold, distant, mean really. Go find another. If there's anything I've learned along the way of life, is you can't make someone like you or love you no matter how long you "hang out". So, go find someone else who really appreciates you and someone you can be "real" with. Time is something you can't get back once you've spent it. Don't waste any more time. Best to you.

Take action on his behavior!
by: Anonymous

I'm here again. I'm Aquarious dating a Virgo. Last time it kind of happen again,I started to feel he was cold once more. He sent me a text message that only say GM "good mornig"
nothing else just those two words GM. I reply and said, "good morning how is your day going?"
and hour passed and did not receive a reply, and he started to show that behavior, not answering a phone call nor replying to a text. So I didn't wait too much and sent him a simple text that says like this:
Wow, do not make me think that you are like any other man. But if it is true you are like any guy out there, I'm sorry, but I do not want to continue getting to know you. Treat me with respect and be honest, I am a very smart wowan to understand it. I do not play games, I wish you best of luck. But this won't work for me. I truly apreciated you don't make me waste my time if you really do not wish to get to know me better. I won't bother replying to your texts nor bother you with any future calls, best regards, Me.

Gues what happened, he apologised to me! and he is constantly calling and texting, and when I reply to a text he sent me, he makes sure it gets replied too. Amasing huh, but it works!!!

Thank you for posting!
by: Anonymous

That's awesome! I think we can all learn something from that. My friend, who is a Virgo woman btw, tells men pretty much what you just said when things start to get wobbly with them and it totally works for her too! Thank you for posting!

virgo man shut me out
by: Anonymous

Well I have read every comment on here since my original post and followed some advice that a good friend said to me, and i just left him alone for a while. Then we had a brief period of endless communication for a whole month which i was fine with becuase he never used to do that text and check in all the time, then out of nowhere, he went MIA. So we did not speak for a good 2 months and then he texted me a few weeks ago, but I did not respond, because I honestly don't know what to say to him anymore and after 5 years of this crap, I have decided to get off this emotional rollercoaster that I jumped on.
I have thought about confronting him about being so unresponsive, but i'm scared that i will just get more of the same silent BS, and i'm too old for mind games.
If he wanted to be with me, he would. I am not a fan of so much inconsistency, we are not even in a relationship! I don't even think we can remain friends because I am still so hurt and confused by his actions, it is just going to be a long process of letting go of the idea of "him" and the idea of "us" I would much rather just move on from this and be alone.

Same story
by: Cancer lady

O my my I think this virgo men are really cruel creatures..Ok heres my story- I met this virgo guy very nice and charming and so magnetic 3 yrs back in 2007,we were just friends, then suddenly he started to stalk me. I used to ignore him for the reason that I was not at all interested in him, then he started to call me and text me regularly and we became close friends. At that time he was going through a break-up with his 4yrs old girlfrnd,he used to cal me and cry like a baby and say how lonely he was. I was relly bothered for him and thought that his grl frnd must be a relly bitch to leave him in such a bad condition. I started liking him deeply. Then he came to visit me at my place and I got physically involved with this man. After that I proposed him and he accepted.We planned to get married after dating for five months..we hve had sex and I informed him that I was pregnant with his child..he told me that he has nothing to do with the baby and asked me to have a DNA test-it was really shocking for me..and I broke up with him after 15 days of break up I texted him and said sorry for breaking up with him(which was very wrong I know)and asked to take me back but guess what He told me that he is not thinking of a relationship right now and he wants to be alone..I am an emotional cancer woman I hve forgiven him for wht he did to me becoz I loved him so much..After our break up I was the one who tried to contact him now and then .He made empty promises to me and I trusted him .I cried I begged I almost killed myself but he was not at all bothered.He just used me.He took my innocence and left me like a thrash.Its been 2months now we broke up and he has completely shut-me-out of his life. I am going through this horrible pain right now,hope this passes soon.I just want to move on.Hats off to you ladies who have survived the disease called -VIRGO MEN

Virgo Men Are Cold
by: Halo

In January ran into my old virgo friend that I once dated but things ended because he was a player. At any rate, ran into him in January. We had our first date and from there dated this virgo man for 7 months (not a committed relationship, just a getting to know phase, per him); had an amazing time...he was so charming and so attentive. Well I had a incident with a family member, which landed me in the hospital and I made the mistake of telling my virgo man and also had the doctor speak with him. Shortly, after he broke up with me. Said that I care to much for my family and that he will never want to meet them. Said he can't deal my issues and his, but that I should seek therapy and he'll be more than happy to join me. In short, he said we will never ever date or be in a relationship. Didn't hear from him for a week and then out of the blue he sends a texts saying "he's a good man and I'm a beautifuly woman, but unfortunately "damage goods"...not a word since them. Needless to say I was crused. NO closure, nothing... How could he be so cold and heartless. I'll never have an answer. I love him very much and it hurts, but I refuse to reach out to him. And anyway, I'm sure he'll just not respond. This really sucks. Someone you trust and felt was a friend and cared about you...can just toss you like garbage.

virgos
by: Anonymous

Wow, its been super hard, one min here, next gone. This has been going on for over a year....my head tells me let it go, and my heart can't...so the latest craziness, he invites Me to come over the last min, I couldn't I had plans, so two days later I invite him to join me @ an event, still haven't heard from him, there hot, there cold, they love u, they don't. I'm so tired and confused....I think it just the way virgos are. They say sensitive, and try to keep u close, but far enought away that they don't get hurt.I tired of all the guessing

That is just rude and mean
by: Anonymous

Hi - It just pains me to hear that another human being would even consider that he is better than you. Damaged goods? Are you kidding? It sounds like this man has some serious intellectual challenges. Look - I don't know you personally, but I have to believe that you want to spend time and share your heart with someone who wants to do the same with you. Someone who has your back, loves and appreciates you for everything you are and everything you're not. We've all waited around for, chased, prayed for etc people that don't treat us right to come back. Why do we do that? Well you don't have to any more. When this type of situation happens - just run. Seriously. From now on when these situations come up, just walk away because your time is precious and a gift, and that person is actually giving you a gift at that moment in time. Think of it as him wrapping up a present and giving it to you saying "here is every reason in the world that you don't want to be with me or someone like me". Accept the gift, thank him for showing you so you can move on to sharing your time and your special gifts with the right guy (s). Virgo or not - just walk away and say "thank you". Wishing you happiness and joy, and I hope you will embrace the message I am sending!

Toxic virgo man
by: Pink

I will never date a virgo man ever again, they chew you up and spit you out. I really don't know how these virgo men portray themselves as being that humble and shy, when all the while they are manipulating you and are very controlling and say everything is your fault. You're damned if you do and damned if you dont. They claim to be faithful,loyal and innocent which is not the case. When they pull back they are pursuing other women behind the scenes. They are commitment phobics and transfer their insecurities onto the other person in the relationship with criticism and toxicity, cold blooded and detached and extremely self absorbed, in a narcissitic way, full of self importance and arrogant, sucking the life out of you, take, take, take and throwing a few crumbs back.
I was with a virgo man for two years in a relationship, then i was demoted to a 'friend' for another couple of years with no sex.In the beginning he was very attentive, paid me compliments and was really into me, then all of a sudden i was cut off at the knees and said he only wanted to be friends and no relationship, but they will only be friends when they have nothing to do and are bored, so you feel used and abused. I put up with it for a long time. He was always blowing hot and cold and was the catalyst in arguments, causing embarassing situations when we were out,and turned it around saying it was my fault. He took great delight knocking my confidence and self esteem. When i stood up for myself he didnt like it. Once they have spoken all about themselves, and you have fed their ego, they get bored and move onto someone else for a narcissistic topup. He says he has now met someone else (it wont be long before hes looking around again) and i really feel for whoever this is and other potential victims. They seem to like their women not to have a voice and stay mute, as anything i wanted to talk about it, he told me to shut up or storm off. They can't deal with 'life' at all and think they should stay away from women and i feel sorry for their next victim, as i would not wish any of it on my worst enemy, they cause the worst damaging pain you can ever experience After this all took its toll on my wellbeing I am now just beginning to recover and slowly repairing my confidence

Bitter experience of a virgo man
by: pink

Dont make any excuses for the way Virgo men act, they are selfish, takers, pretending they are vulnerable, humble and shy, what they show on the outside is not what is going on in the inside. They are commitment phobic, takers and drain your resources and energy and give nothing back, if there is nothing more to profit from you, they will move onto their next victim. They will disrespect you and humiliate you. They have narcissistic tendencies, where they need their ego boosted, then they get bored, they are not stayers, but like to think of themselves as players, plotting behind the scenes with manipulation and control and looking for other vulnerable women. They dismantle your personality and confidence/self esteem, leaving a trail of devastation for us to deal with. cause problems and then run away and hide, like a coward, and it is all of their own making.

Virgo Man Dumped Me & Shut Me Out`
by: Halo

I totally agree with the posts that I have read. Virgo men are selfish, self absored, narcissist, takers, have low self esteem, though pretending otherwise. I didn't realized this until after I was dumped because as he said "I'm beautiful, damaged goods!" Some nerve! Yes, I have issues, but we all do. It pains me that he ended our relationship so cold and nasty. Like why? I've been nothing but sweet, loving and genuine to this guy. But as many of you have stated...they are commitment phobics and users. What you see on the outside, that charming and shy personality is not what they are on the inside. I loved him for 7 months, dealt with him on his terms, boosted his ego and this is what i get in the end...nothing, coldness and ugliness. I'm finally getting over him, though I think about him periodically because I genuinely thought we had a connection...being I'm capricorn and he's a virgo (we're supposed to be very compatible...far from it). I don't think these men are compatible with anyone but themselves. I feel I need closure, but I should accept him saying "we'll never date or be in a relationship" as closure. Why do I still love him? I don't know. So I tell myself "I forgive him and I forgive me for not loving me enough". There were all kinds of red flags, I wished I had paid attention and followed my gut. He's 48, never been married, had tons of female friends "strictly platonic"...sure. We only went out once a week, rarely talked on the phone because he doesn't like to. I only heard from him when I called. Otherwise, he didn't call me. OMG, why did I fall for him. I'm just so disappointed in myself. I believed him, thought if nothing more he would be my friend. But I was wrong...he completed shut me out...no response to my texts or calls. As I said, I forgive him and I let go of him...just be glad when I can stop thinking of him. Wished I could text him and say "Thank God you blew it, thank God I dodged the bullet,
I'm so over you, so baby go lookin' out! you turned out to be the best thing I never had,
And I will always be the best thing you never had." (smiling). But knowing him...he wouldn't be phased a bit. What you think?

Toxic virgo man
by: pink

I totally agree with the response above. In the beginning of my relationship with Virgo man, he had no problem with talking on the telephone, and as time went on, he treated me like crap, he claimed to 'not like talking on telephones or texting'(how convenient)!!!.....but he spoke to other people just fine on the phone and text people all the time. They are cold, manipulating and arrogant and feel they have the right to treat women as low lifes, when they are 'low life' themselves. They should not be let loose into society to interact with women. You would have thought that not every woman is wrong the way they are treated by these virgo's, and if I were a virgo man, i would go away, redeem myself and make myself a better person, but this will rarely happen, because they have no depth, and suffer from emotional and communication constipation. They very rarely compromise in a relationship, its either their way or the highway!!!!They act like spoilt brats to get what they want, and if you have your own opinion on something they go hide and sulk. If i had a virgo child, i would make a conscious effort to teach them proper values and respect, but who knows? is there any hope. They know exactly how they are treating women, but the audacity of it is they think and act like they are the Victim!!!! They slag off previous ex partners like it was all their fault, i.e. saying they were nut cases and causing problems, when the reality is that the most level headed, easygoing woman can become very unbalanced when involved with a virgo man. The Virgo man will be the catalyst of an argument or heated debate, push your buttons, and just sit back, cold and detached with a slight grin on his face, and say 'you're mad'!!! and so the trend continues, afterwards when he has sabotaged the relationship, he pursues his next victim, repeating the same old patterns. I am, like lots of other women, very balanced and grounded, and this experience left me going through the most painful experience ever!!!and if i get into a relationship again, it won't be with another virgo!!!

Toxic virgo man
by: pink

Hi Halo

If i were you i would not text or call him again. Trust me, i have tried every angle with sending lovely texts messages, and covering everything else, analyzing etc. He is expecting the text or call to come, but this will make no difference and will not make him come forward or change his feelings. Take a giant step back and do what he doesn't expect, regain your strength, and you will also be able to regain even more clarity into what type of person he is and the situation. They absolutely hate being ignored. When/if he contacts you, don't respond straight away, make him wait a couple of hours or so, because if you reply straight away, he will know you are there waiting for him. Give some time out and be kind to yourself. If you feel like you have the urge to contact him, just come onto this site and write everything down, and afterwards you won't want to call or text him. This will re-balance you and enable you to reclaim your power, instead of giving it all away to him. I will help where i can, as i am going through the same thing. I hope this helps Pink x

Virgo Man Dumped Me & Shut Me Out`
by: Halo

Hi Pink! Thank you so much for your wise words! Reading your comments has helped me tremendously!!! I've never been in a situtation like this, rather a seperation ending on a nasty note with any man. I'm just shocked and appalled as to how cold I've been treated. I mean I made love to this man, shared my heart with him, treated this man like a prince. We all have issues, but as a friend you don't bail on your friend during a crisis. So maybe he was never the friend I thought he was. And to end our relationship all crappy...hurts. But I thank you for your wise words and I will certainly take your advice. I will not text or call him again. And quite honestly, I'm sure he could care less. He's probably on to next. So as you've said... I need to take a giant step back and regain my strength. I'm definitely working on me and being kind to myself because I know I'm a very loving soul and what he did to me was not nice, nor necessary. I think of him, though I try hard not to, but I am proud to say, I have not had the urge to call him...I wouldn't dare give him the satisfaction of ignoring me or hurting me. You've been a tremendous help! Thank you so much Pink!

Toxic virgo man
by: Pink

Hi Halo,
You are most welcome anytime. These virgo men that we have experienced transfer all their insecurities and baggage onto the likes of us, saying we are damaged goods, when in reality it is them who are damaged, and through ignorance and conveniently being in denial, it is an easy cop out for them to blame us and exploit us rather than them admit any kind of responsibility. My situation very much mirrors yours with being dictated when we could see each other, i.e. once a week, then it gradually became less, he was the catalyst in arguments, sat back with a smirk on his face, chipping away, sabotaging the relationship, manipulating me saying it was my fault, in order to push me away. They are not only incompatible with anyone, but they are not even compatible with themselves. You are a very valuable, very caring, loyal, intelligent and lovely person with great attributes and you should hold your head up High, he should be the one who should be ashamed X

Virgo Men
by: Halo

One of the most difficult things we humans are ever called upon to do is to respond to evil with kindness, and to forgive the unforgivable. One of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts. I want to live a long, happy life. So I must forgive the unforgivable. It really is the kindest thing I can do for myself. My enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering purposefully inflicted on my life, but I deserve to be free of this evil. This Virgo man that crushed my heart. This too shall pass! I forgive him and I forgive me.

virgo men are losers NEW
by: Anonymous

WOW!!!
It has been quite a while since my original post and nothing has changed. My virgo man doesnt want to be a part of my life and I sure as hell dgaf about being in his.
After reading all these posts I am stunned that grown ass men act like total a**h***s!!!! Deep down I realy thought my virgo friend was a good person, but he just reinforced my negative view on men and my lack of faith and trust has now returned into my life and i highly doubt that it will leave because of him. We STILL have not talked, but I had a moment of weakness and texted this fool on his birthday and NOTHING. Also my birthday just passed and again, he did what he always does, He totally ignored me, but its all good. He is a piece of shit and I wish him well in life because he will need it especialy if he is even remotely considering settling down with a woman, he really needs therapy because he has MAJOR issues. I am very disappointed in myself for putting that much time and energy into his ass, when I could have focused on myself. But NOW that time has come and after 5 years, i am ready to move on. On to the next one and i can only pray he will be a real man. WOMEN PLEASE STAY AWAY IF YOU WANT TO KEEP YOUR SANITY VIRGO MEN HAVE RABIES BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!

Annoyed NEW
by: pisces

i read this and i hurt my virgo man. Alteast i think i did i broke up with him because (i am a pisces )somewhow is sensed his manipulation an cheating ways and i never fully trusted him. he has not cheated but i really saw that they do throw their insecurities and blame them on you.they are insecure and really have terrible self esteem issues. i BROKE UP WITH HIM AN I WAS FINE !! He called me an texted me all the time after letting me know he still loves me and he will never stop and how much he ,misses me an the hurt he felt making me feel guilty for dumping him the way i did. -_- and it worked. I still do love him -_- and now he is with someone else. And i do miss him an ahve alot of feelings for him.All of a sudden he stops replying or texting me.Virgo MEN DISGUST ME.urgghh

DITTO NEW
by: Anonymous

I was in a brief but intense involvement with a Virgo. We met online & though he wasn't my type, we hit it off. He was passionate, funny, attentive & loving for a while then began to show insecurities like none I'd ever seen before: he harassed me for going out with friends, spending time with my child, criticized my clothes & began talking obsessively about his ex & talking poorly about all of his friends, while telling me he'd like me to meet them. He took issue with my background & education & questioned every aspect of my judgment while seeming to convey he did so out of love...

We had fights almost every week after the first month & I suspected that he was using me as a stand in for his ex. If I cried (Cancer's emote) he attacked me, if I put distance between us to stop the fight, he'd accuse me, he'd say horrible things about my body to shame me, then tell me how sexy I was...I just couldn't win!

One night I drank too much & let him have it, full blast in texts the next morning... His weight, body, health issues and the fact that he ate his emotions while persecuting mine (he had diabetes, glaucoma, high BP, weighed 245 at 5'11" & 43 years old, erectile dysfunction & his late disclosure about having had an STD. We'd had the talk long before intimacy & he denied ever having anything; then recanted to win a arguement... His health issues are from food addiction, yet expected me to be perfect. I hold an MA, successfully raised a college enrolled child by myself, travel extensively & take pride in my appearance... And have never had an STD or had the need to compare the man I was with to ones I'd left long ago.

He refused to speak to me or to repair the relationship after the blow up. He told me he called the police because he thought I was bipolar, but the truth is that he wanted to destroy my career because he wanted to win a fight. His friends all verified that they told him that I was just drunk & blowing off steam, to get over it & learn a lesson, but winning & being right were super important to him. He villified me just as he had each & every other person he'd known so that he could view himself as righteous & perfect.

In the end I realized that he was/is a toxic person in every imaginable way & that I never deserved his particular brand of love. It's been a few years and I'm doing fine. I've met & dated a few really great guys but have not settled on one yet.

My experience & reading these posts tells me that Virgo men are best avoided and that the first time you feel negated, challenged in your humanity or abused is the best time to let go!

Virgo Man NEW
by: Anonymous

Wow - that's an amazing Virgo man story. I believe I've seen every trait of that in one Virgo man that I know. I'm glad you got away. I walked away very quickly after experiencing some very confusing and mean behavior. Virgo man or any other - any of us who experience really bad behavior like this need to move away as quickly as possible and find the love we all deserve. Happy Holidays!

Virgos are What You Allow Them to Be NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi,I'm currently in a relationship with a Virgo.I'm a Scorpio lady. Our relatonship started off crazy. He liked and wanted me badly, but I didn't feel the same. But, Virgos have the power to get you crazy in love with them.

Eventually, I fell in love with him and I gave him all of me. Every day he texted me and acted passionately. He is a hard person to understand, but I know he wants me and wants me to understand him. I slowly gave him me, that way he didn't get bored too fast.

Now, he is a little distant, but only when I allow him to act distant. Once, I make him aware of his aloofness, he's my little puppy again. Virgos just need to know that you love them. Don't over crowd them and when they treat you wrong give them some pay back. Most of the time they are insecure or afraid to scare you off.

And it's okay to not talk to them for a day or two or maybe even a week. They are the type of people who think they need space, but when you give it to them they want you badly. You just have to learn their hearts and learn how to kind of manipulate them. Beat them at their own games.And if you know your heart can't take their aloofness, insecurties, etc. they are not meant for you.

Selfish Virgo NEW
by: Anonymous

I made a mistake to get entangled with a Virgo. He got with me after I lost my dad and he caused me further pain, he devastated me and dumped me over the holidays. I made sure he knew what a low life he is. I don`t know why I was with him because the sex was not great. Now I have moved in. He is very fat, I think he weighs 500 pounds but I dont know why I was so hooked on him.
R.N if you read this, I hope you burn in hell.

no more virgos for me NEW
by: Anonymous

Thanks pink reading your comments today made me understand what im going through alot better. I am a sag woman who dated a virgo for a year.and feel the same exact way you do they are very selfish and cold. I always gave and gave and never felt that i had a partner in my life.

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