Affair with an Aquarius man
I am a married Aries woman who has had, or maybe it's having, not sure right now, an affair with an Aquarius man, and I would really love it if an Aquarius man would educate me, and others on this forum, why do y'all ignore us right in the middle of when things seem to be going so well? I've read many posts about the Aquarius man, but this is my situation, and I would like to know how to respond, or what to do, because it seems like every time I try and "fix" things, or make everything "okay" when we haven't been getting along, it just seems to be the wrong thing!! Here's the latest situation:
We got into a "tiff" over a month ago, and I felt absolutely horrible for my actions and what I said because my nasty Arian temper got the best of me, so I just backed-off and gave us both time to "think" and "heal", so when I felt enough time had passed, I left a really nice bottle of wine on his doorstep, knowing that he is a big wine drinker and enjoys a nice glass after he's gotten off from work, and later that night he sent me a text thanking me for the wine, and we chatted for a just a few minutes, and he wanted me to go over, but there was no way I could, so he went to bed, and that was that. Well, because of his work, and how busy he is I don't expect him to text much during the day, so I sent one text around mid day telling him I think he's sexy, but of course, no response. Later that night once I was home and could talk, I sent him a couple of texts, and he responded a little bit, and once he got home the conversation took a sexual turn, as it usually does because we agreed that we are "friends with benefits", for obvious reasons, then he asked if I was going over, and again, I couldn't just up and leave in the middle of the night without a lot of questions being asked, and plus my monthly started, so there was no way I could go, even though I wanted to so badly. Well, apparently I said the wrong thing, or something, because he shut down, and completely ignored me until I got him to talk with me a little bit on the Monday, because I was trying to get a time when we could get together, but I guess it wasn't my week, so now he's gone into his "silent mode", which drives me absolutely nuts, and refuses to talk with me!! I've asked him what I did wrong, which from reading all of the information that is on this site, is taboo with these guys, and he has not talked with me since. I thought I had figured out what went wrong, so I wrote him a short note explaining more of the situation and how it came about..with the wine, that is, and in my defense I wasn't even sure he'd accept it in the first place, so I really didn't plan on "hooking-up". So here I am thinking: "Now what have I done to upset you?" What in the heck is this all about? I've read that if he's ignoring me this is a good thing, go figure, and likes me and probably wants to be with me but won't allow himself to be?! Okay Aquarius men: what do I do in this situation? Has he completely written me off and that's that, or is there something I can do to try and get him to talk with me again?
I'm not going to say that we could never be together because I don't know what the future holds, but I have never made him feel like he was about to lose his freedom or anything like that. We are both very independent and "have" to have the freedom to be who we are and be able to express it the way "we" feel is okay. I've been married a long time, and I have never connected with another man until I met "him", and we connected on a level that we just intuitively know what the other is thinking, most of the time, so quite honestly, we haven't talked much which I would absolutely love because both of us are about communicating, or at least I thought we were, and I would love to just sit and talk for a few hours, or however long we had, and I'd be perfectly happy with this!! When we originally got together, he said he couldn't live like that...that being just having an affair not being able to see me on a regular basis and form a relationship...but then we kept hooking-up, and ending up in each others lives, and here we are today, but I'm just not sure what to do for fear I'm going to just mess it all up. But I will say that it has been extremely taxing and very difficult trying to figure him out, which I love doing with people, and it has taken its toll on me at some points. Part of me is saying to just walk away and never see him again, and just let it be, but that Arian side "hates" not understanding something, and leaving something hanging when it doesn't need to be left like that. Some insight from the Aquarius men would be good right now because I really want him to be a part of my life, but as he will do what is best for him, so must I, so if this can be resolved and just go one way or the other, then so be it, because quite honestly, my patience is running a bit thin, but I've hung in there up to this point, so I'm willing to give it another go until it just cannot be worked out any longer. Thanks for any help you could give me.