How to get a Virgo man back

I'm a Scorpio woman in love with a Virgo man whom i've messed things up with severly; I kinda punished him for someone else's mistakes and I would really like to make things right between us, but he won't even talk to me. The thing is, I realised too late that I love him; we had great sex together and I really miss it alot, but I miss being around him even more. I went into depression for a while after he ignored and refused to talk me, but luckily I dragged myself out of it. Our story started about two years back when he started flirting with me and I flirted right back, even though I was in a relatioship at the time. He came to my house once(still staying with my parents), very drunk wanting me to go home with him to put him to bed, I couldn't, even though I really wanted to, for three reasons- firstly, my mother is very strict (I'm noow 28 turning 29); secondly, I was in a 5 year relationship and very committed and thirdly he was so drunk! The next day he was so s hy while he apologised for the previous night; we didn't have any contact for a few months after that and I felt so bad and tried to get his attention just to get him to talk to me again; he even called me a few times after that.

I started falling for him, but never gave much of my feelings away; for me it was enough to just see him everyday, knowing that I have a boyfriend (who now wanted to marry me) and I can't jeopardise a now 6 year relationship for something I wasn't even certain of. So on the 4th of December 2009, I found out my boyfriend was cheating, staying with woman for almost a year; I was so hurt, yet so relieved for some reason. The next day my Virgo man came onto me and asked me on a date, but knowing that he was in a relationship, I refused him and told him he must leave his girlfriend before I can even think of something like that, but he told me he couldn't, because it's a bit complicated and I accepted.

The following day I told my boyfriend that it's over and done and he must leave me alone; he cried and begged me to understand his position, but I stuck to my point and for the first time in my life stood up for myself, so he left to pack up and move out, with promise of coming back later, I decided to go out that night, me and a friend decided to go to the club (she was dating my Virgo man's friend) we invited him along and that night I slept in his arms (we didn't have sex)and when he woke up the next morning he told me: 'I can't believe it's really you here with me, am I dreaming...?' and that made me feel sooo good. Nevertheless, we had a couple of dates after that (his girlfriend so far from my mind at the time) he introduced me to his friends (whom his girlfriend had no interest in) and we had great times together. On the 26th of December I officially broke it off with my boyfriend and for the first time of my life, I had mindblowing (although a bit akward) sex!!

A week later we did it again, only this time I told him that this would be the last time and that night he decided to take off the condom without my consent; I hated him so much; sended him the nastiest sms; we didn't talk for almost two months. We finally started talking again and not so long after that I found myself in his bed again; experiencing the most explicit times; no-one's ever made me feel so great before!! After that, I don't know how it happened, we only saw each other ones every two months and it made me act crazy; I wasn't treating him to well, trying to hide my feelings, I was never myself with him, only every second month he got a reflection of who I really am, in his bed I couldn't pretend to be something I was not; we had this connection that I can never explain in words. The more aware I got of this growing love for him, the more I tried to hide it from him and everyone else and even from myself, which resulted in me being mean to him, especially in public. If I think about it now, it seemed as if I was only interested in sex, because the only time I was loving towards him, was in his bed. About a month ago I finally admitted to myself that I deeply love this man, but it was far too late, because by than he didn't wanna talk to me; I tried calling him, but he was always too busy

I smsed him telling him how important it was to me that we have a chat, he never replied; than I stopped everything, but he still hasn't called nor reply to my sms; right now, I wish he misses me as much as I miss him, because I really need him. Yesterday, I saw him for the first time after 3 weeks and I could see he was surprised yet happy to see me, so, I'm telling myself, maybe there is still hope for me. I don't wanna let go until I know for sure that he feels nothing towards me;I wish somehow we can talk things through so that I can move on with my life. Should I take action and try get hold of him once more; should I leave him to decide what he wants out of life or should I just move on and let fate do it's thing. He has a child with his girlfriend, he says she is his little princess and his girlfriend is abusing him, even in public and I hate her for that, but I will never do anything to jeopardise the relationship he has with his daughter; all I want is to spend more time with him, because I need him so much. Please help!!!