How to get a Virgo man back

I'm a Scorpio woman in love with a Virgo man whom i've messed things up with severly; I kinda punished him for someone else's mistakes and I would really like to make things right between us, but he won't even talk to me. The thing is, I realised too late that I love him; we had great sex together and I really miss it alot, but I miss being around him even more. I went into depression for a while after he ignored and refused to talk me, but luckily I dragged myself out of it. Our story started about two years back when he started flirting with me and I flirted right back, even though I was in a relatioship at the time. He came to my house once(still staying with my parents), very drunk wanting me to go home with him to put him to bed, I couldn't, even though I really wanted to, for three reasons- firstly, my mother is very strict (I'm noow 28 turning 29); secondly, I was in a 5 year relationship and very committed and thirdly he was so drunk! The next day he was so s hy while he apologised for the previous night; we didn't have any contact for a few months after that and I felt so bad and tried to get his attention just to get him to talk to me again; he even called me a few times after that.

I started falling for him, but never gave much of my feelings away; for me it was enough to just see him everyday, knowing that I have a boyfriend (who now wanted to marry me) and I can't jeopardise a now 6 year relationship for something I wasn't even certain of. So on the 4th of December 2009, I found out my boyfriend was cheating, staying with woman for almost a year; I was so hurt, yet so relieved for some reason. The next day my Virgo man came onto me and asked me on a date, but knowing that he was in a relationship, I refused him and told him he must leave his girlfriend before I can even think of something like that, but he told me he couldn't, because it's a bit complicated and I accepted.

The following day I told my boyfriend that it's over and done and he must leave me alone; he cried and begged me to understand his position, but I stuck to my point and for the first time in my life stood up for myself, so he left to pack up and move out, with promise of coming back later, I decided to go out that night, me and a friend decided to go to the club (she was dating my Virgo man's friend) we invited him along and that night I slept in his arms (we didn't have sex)and when he woke up the next morning he told me: 'I can't believe it's really you here with me, am I dreaming...?' and that made me feel sooo good. Nevertheless, we had a couple of dates after that (his girlfriend so far from my mind at the time) he introduced me to his friends (whom his girlfriend had no interest in) and we had great times together. On the 26th of December I officially broke it off with my boyfriend and for the first time of my life, I had mindblowing (although a bit akward) sex!!

A week later we did it again, only this time I told him that this would be the last time and that night he decided to take off the condom without my consent; I hated him so much; sended him the nastiest sms; we didn't talk for almost two months. We finally started talking again and not so long after that I found myself in his bed again; experiencing the most explicit times; no-one's ever made me feel so great before!! After that, I don't know how it happened, we only saw each other ones every two months and it made me act crazy; I wasn't treating him to well, trying to hide my feelings, I was never myself with him, only every second month he got a reflection of who I really am, in his bed I couldn't pretend to be something I was not; we had this connection that I can never explain in words. The more aware I got of this growing love for him, the more I tried to hide it from him and everyone else and even from myself, which resulted in me being mean to him, especially in public. If I think about it now, it seemed as if I was only interested in sex, because the only time I was loving towards him, was in his bed. About a month ago I finally admitted to myself that I deeply love this man, but it was far too late, because by than he didn't wanna talk to me; I tried calling him, but he was always too busy

I smsed him telling him how important it was to me that we have a chat, he never replied; than I stopped everything, but he still hasn't called nor reply to my sms; right now, I wish he misses me as much as I miss him, because I really need him. Yesterday, I saw him for the first time after 3 weeks and I could see he was surprised yet happy to see me, so, I'm telling myself, maybe there is still hope for me. I don't wanna let go until I know for sure that he feels nothing towards me;I wish somehow we can talk things through so that I can move on with my life. Should I take action and try get hold of him once more; should I leave him to decide what he wants out of life or should I just move on and let fate do it's thing. He has a child with his girlfriend, he says she is his little princess and his girlfriend is abusing him, even in public and I hate her for that, but I will never do anything to jeopardise the relationship he has with his daughter; all I want is to spend more time with him, because I need him so much. Please help!!!

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Virgos are curious like cats
by: Anonymous

Well, I am a Scorpio female, engaged to a Virgo male. We both met in architecture school, but he was two years senior of me and graduated and works now, while I am still finishing school. The beginning of our relationship was just AMAZING, the way we met, the way we were, just everything. I never took it seriously in the beginning, but we both became friends after a while, then started dating, until he proposed me. Everytime I went away for the summer to see my parents abroad, and when I came back when school was just about to start, I would see him, unshaven and just miserable, people used to tell me how "dead" he became without me,..anyway my point is, it is important to be yourself, because opposites do attract, and virgo's are curious like cats, they find Scorpio women very intriguing, especially with their mysterious aura. I remember when I tried to break off with him many times, because he pissed me off for various reasons in the past., and he always worked things out with him, till I realized I can't get rid of him and why should i? his working way too HARD to be with me!, and so I decided to glue myself to him. We are so much in love, and are loyal friends. We share everything, he doesn't even eat without me. I just love him! Engaged and to be married till next year!

maybe maybe not
by: Anonymous

the worst thing to do is be mean to a virgo. virgos can tolerate imperfections and try to make it better but abuse will scar them deep. and to add hurt and embarrass them is a big no no. he is afraid of you. if he smiled when he saw you he has forgiven you but will never feel too comfortable unless you really make him feel appreciated wanted and needed and be there for him to help him become better. virgos will stick in there until all including himself is exausted. ppl tend to take virgos for a joke when they express their love and stay if it can be meaness is only good when you want to break up with them but scorps shows abuse that scare them away in pain.other than that virgos will damn near nag you with concern if its only a slight misunderstanding they think can be fixed to make your relationship better.first he needs to leave the present lady before you concern yourself too much.

virgo dude
by: Anonymous

im a virgo male n what im hearing from this n how ive been feeling for a long time since me n my ex split id do anything to have my ex scorpio back in my life again i cant stop thinking about her i feel empty n loveless inside n dont seem to even look at anyone else in the same light even tho ive tried to move on i still want her back no matter has happened between us any scorpio woman that are here please give me some advice how i can get her stubborn ass back lol

To Virgo dude
by: Anonymous

Depending on duration of how long it been since u last spoke to her, have u tried contacting her, make a big gesture, if u really want her back show her before u lose , have u taken any steps to let her know how much u miss her. Doesn't hurt to try. Try n let her know, n she feels differently now u have peace to let her go. Trust me we scorpios r feisty, deep inside we r extremely sensitive at heart. I suggest Virgo dude try n take a risk!

to virgo man; and i have a question as well
by: Libra Girl

scorpios love consistency and no matter how mad a scorpio woman is, if you make yourself a consistent feature in her life and if she feels a real connection to you, like she can trust you, then you can get her back. however don't flatter her too much, or kiss her ass and tell her what she wants to hear. she wil know if you're not being sincere. it's a balance between being a man for her, but not trying to control/ trick her.

I also have problems with a virgo man if anyone is willing to help. We were in a friends with benefits relationship but I'm starting to realize maybe he's really not that kinda guy. the last time we had sex it was very cold and he didn't talk to me for days after, now he seems cold, hurt, and uninterested. how can I get him to open up to me/ trust me because I think I have feelings for him now.

lost in virgo land
by: Anonymous

I need advice too! I met a virgo man 4 yrs ago fell for him but he said he wasnt ready. We stayed friends I got pregnant after by someone else. His reaponse shocked me he was hurt and told a mutual friend it was like I cheated on him. This hurt because I dod like hime but he said he wasnt ready so I backed off. He told me he would be back for me. Four yrs later he reaches out to me but is ending a relationship. I'm not in one we spend time together. Confesses all that he ever felt and we decide to.sorta start something. But remember he is ending something, so we agree to spend time and that this is what we were working towards, an relationship. Then he disappears on me, of course all of my insecurities come to me and I started to call and text. We spoke briefly like hi bye a few times and he says he is depressed with how the other relationship is wearing on him and work stuff. So I kept calling and texting to lift his spirits. However apparently I called too much. He then says he is out of the old relationship but iant ready for what we said for us. I back down a bit and say I can understand but if course my heart hurts. I was getting ready to think he is gone for good, but then h literally shows up at my door. That night he tells me that the convo we had earlier in the day stressed him out, made him feel things he didnt want to feel. He also said he didnt like the lovie, motivationl texts I sent. I explained that Im a libra and this is how I love I support, listen, talk to, motivate, pump you up build you up.
I believe he likes me, he says he lives he in talking but hasnt ever sai it directly. But I get the feeling I intimate him and thats not what I want tdo. One other time I shared with him how I know his mmoods when he is kiddie, quiet or upset. When I said this it was like I found out his secrets and he shut me away really fast.
I dont do this on purpose I just feel like I understand him because I do. He hets me, I get him, we never have to explain anything the other person usually gets it. But this scares him.I cn feel it. What do I do stop sharing my thought and feels so he osnt scared off or just continue being myself and he will eventually stop trying shut me out????

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