I'm an Aquarius man, do you have questions for me?

by Mark
(Newberry, SC )

Be spontaneous, he will be intrigued with such things. We do like to communicate, hide a note where he will find it? Just wanted you to know, you're in my thoughts? it worked on me. I found it pleasant and fascinating.

In return the unpredictable kicked in. with out her knowing, I made last min reservations, for a surprise dinner. It had to be better than just good. And that took it to the next level. Hard part was getting her there. But that's another story.

It was my way of shown my romantic side, she had never seen, in return it told her more about me, I found out she mint just what she said in the not. Yes I said romantic. We can be very romantic if you can learn how to push our buttons. I can usurer you I will be interested in what makes you do things from a-z its? just makes it better for communication.

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Confuzzled
by: Anonymous

Hi,

I'm an Aries currently seeing an Aquarius. I'm pretty spontaneous and optimistic usually. I just don't understand how he can disappear after we have such a great time together.

And then talk about things, especially women the way he does. I find it makes me a little jealous. It's like he's just talking to a platonic friend. I think he likes that I'm a little jealous. But I figure he won't meet these people in real life so nothing to worry about.

But then I have my down days and days when I'm upset and I get mad at him. I don't like to yell at people. But he comes back all the time. Why? Is he just lazy to move on? Or maybe he just likes me?
Ref: Confuzzled
by: Aquarius Man

Hi Aries,
I would say he likes you or something about you. He may be trying to get a grasp of what you are all about. I can tell you this, if he did not like you he would not bother coming back.
If thing go a little to fast it can make him stop and look at every thing that happen.
How is your communication?
Aquarians want an intellectual companion with whom they can communicate, this is the foundation of their relationships friend or lover.

Best if you don’t let things get to slow. Aquarians are always analyzing situations, friends and strangers. I need just a little more info. You mention you had a great time together. How long was that time? Day, week month? It will help me break it down for you.
Here is some information I posted in different areas hope this will help.

REF: Confuzzled
by: Anonymous

One thing your man will need to understand his own bounders. For me once I understood what I was about. I can now adjust to find a balance. When I go for the free space, I now know when I should come back down to earth. It just the way we keep our self from becoming to complacent. It’s a time to look at every angel. Of what you ask? Just about every thing, we all have a passion, if you know what his is and you show an interest.
Not only will you get him back down to earth, but he may even hover around the house LOL instead of taking a flight around his own world.

Here is a small sample of what goes in my head ;) I like to try new things. (What to do next). I enjoy meeting people. (Where and when). I look for the good in most things and the good in others. (How to help others see the same) Here is jus some of my passions: I enjoy long talks about anything or nothing at all or just one-to-one interment conversations. I am writing a book, I enjoy a good “creative challenge!” that’s a Key word!

One new thing I found, I am never afraid to show love and affection in public. A loving partner who can provide warmth and understanding can fulfill a major void in the life of the Aquarian and, if they can also embody the ability to share, then the relationship can be very satisfying.
REF: Confuzzled
by: Aquarius Man Mark

Have you tried to show him any information about himself? If not, try to make it a fun adventure to him. If you do it the right way he will jump on it. It worked for me.

Do you know any of his interest? Try to fine one you can shear or do with him.
It will show him that you support his unusual and radical ideas. Try to inject new ones; he may just jump on the train with you. Someone asked me if I ever did any repelling. Now that was a fun train ride. I’m not saying go jump off a cliff. If it’s something you never did or maybe did in the past, but would like to do it some more. He just may be willing to show you every thing about it. And approach it like he is your knight in shinning armor coming to your aid.

Do you know what his passion is? Aries are the intellectuals known for their cleverness. If you can use this to tap into his passion, you will be looking at his Hot button.
Here is the danger! If it’s truly his passions don’t diminish it. You must show genuine interest or he will see right through it.
Did you ever tell him your interest? He may be on a quest to understand you and wanting to be right about it, he will not rush into an action that may prove him wrong. Example: I found out she loved all types of flowers; I had an assortment of flowers sent to her office. It was a bad move. Yes she loved the flowers but I never knew she was so allergic to them. Here was my downfall. It told her that I did not take much interest in her. If he did he would have known. Communication is so Key. With out it this will never work. He wants to know. As for me, if I don’t know there is a problem I will never be able to fix it. I’m not perfect and never will be. But the Aquarius man try’s to make it perfect for everyone, but never will.
What does this mean?
by: Scorpion Female

I am a Scorpio female who has been having a casual/sexual relationship with an Aquarius male for two years. Recently, he introduced me to his adult child. What does this mean? Is he slowly welcoming me into his inner circle? Can I expect more from him or is he just playing with me?
What does this mean?
by: Aquarius Man

Wow you lasted longer than I did. My best with a Scorpio girl is 15 months. She would try to rule everything. But you may have hit the jackpot if you are seeing this part of him. I did find this out about me and 2 other Aquarius men if you give us room or our space each day we are less likely to run off for a bit.
Best of lock I do hope it works out for you
met Aquarius in the net
by: Gemini in Sharjah

I ma a Gemini currently working in Middle East for almost 10 years now. Am 32 and single, met a lot of guys, have a piece of my cake of heartaches and learned. Now, I met this great guy in the net, he's an Aquarius and a Pilot in a nearby country. We constantly chat/text/call/e-mail letters and pictures. Ii is always fun! We talk of anything, teasing and accepted each other as friends. There wasn't a time that He didn't make me smile... and him not in the mood --- thanks God! No man had amazed me as much as he does! We're good on the net... I wonder if we will be on "person". We decided to meet this weekend. He's sooo excited to meeet me! I am also.. but I don't let him peek through my emotions!

I really like this guy. I could feel we can be more. And I want to ask for suggestions. Like what to wear? Perfume? Ideal topics? We'll have Sushi in the afternoon and Mexican dinner. Is this good? He said yes, though! I need more tips of what makes this guy ticks?

Gemini in Sharjah
For Mark
by: Scorpion Female

Hi Mark, I would love to speak with you one on one to get some insight on my Aqua dude. I love the intense passion between us. I am on fire for this man and I can see it in his eyes that he feels something for me. He is always telling me how beautiful I am and how happy he is to see me. He showers me with kisses and he embraces me so romantically but he rarely calls me. We run into each other then we end up at his house. He has never been to my home but he has expressed interest in receiving an invitation. When I invite him he usually stands me up or says he has to work. We never reschedule. I have deleted his phone number but I can't get him out of my mind. What should I do? Thanks.
to Scorpion Female
by: Aquarius, Mark

I just emailed you. I will be happy to help out. I just got 2 more friends. I have around 22 friends all girls, and no I not a player LOL. Even have one that invited me to move in. They all keep my head spinning whit things to talk about. The last relationship I had was with a Scorpio, She got to bossy and very demanding. Telling me I must change my ways or it?s off LOL well I did not let the door this me in the butt. She even wanted me to drop all my friends too, I will not push them out of my life, and they are my best friends. I?ve had no sex with them and don?t plan too.

To be a friend is too acquired if not master, forgiveness, understanding, discernment, kindness and respect. This could very well be the sum of love. Forgiveness requires an act of the heart, without bitterness or regret. To forgive is to be free from the hold un-forgiveness has on you.
To Mark
by: Scorpion Female

Thanks for responding Mark. I am not the bossy, nagging type of Scorpion female. I learned a long time ago that those methods do not bring forth positive results. I have learned patience and understanding.

I do not investigate him. I refuse to pry into his private business and I have been consistent. He now trusts me and has migrated into a comfort zone that allows him to discuss his interactions with other females with me.

I'll keep you all posted if you are interested. Just respond. Thanks all!

-Katrina
I don't know what the future will be.
by: Anonymous

He has migrated
I don't know what the future will be.
They have a habit of holding on to people who are bad for them.
by: Anonymous

They have a habit of holding on to people who are bad for them.

Letting go of the past is difficult

liberate themselves from delusion.
:)
by: Anonymous

okay, so i am a pisces girl. :) and my aquarius man and i fight alot. I have never fought in a relationship so much! we sit down and talk about how we are going to fix it and it works for about a week, maybe two. then the fighting just starts again!the thing is that we get along so so so so so so well! we love to wrestle and play, cuddle with eachother and watch a movie, we communicate very well. we dont hold back when we have something to say. which sometimes starts the fights...he tells me im beautiful all the time, he kisses me randomly (which i love!), he tells me that he loves me, and i know he means it! he loves to be near me, he loves to sing his favorite country songs to me (not just when its me and him) if the radio is on and people are around he still sings to me and that is one of the many things about him that i am so in love with!, he is really very busy with work and friends, but he always finds time for just me and him. sometimes i have to wait a while but it always happens.He is only sensitive when it comes to me. When i do something that hurts his feelings he acts out in anger and i just seperate myself from him. he eventually lets out his real feelings to me. All together, the good outweighs the bad, BIGTIME! but i still want to stop the fighting...

another thing that bothers me is that after sex he leaves... i am a girl who like to cuddle and be held all night long after having sex. i guess he just doesnt know that. i mean yes, we do have sex ALOT and i really dont mind that part because our relationship doesnt REVOLVE around our sexlife but when he just leaves afterwards it makes me feel like its just something that he does because he feels like it has to be done.



and my last thing is the cheating thing. NO he is not cheating on me and i am not cheating on him, but he seems insecure about that. if someone texts me or calls me he immediatly asks me who it is. EVERYTIME! and it seems to come up almost everytime he drinks. i know my aquarius very very well and i know that this is not a trust issue he has with me. once i asked him if thats what it was and he said no. he said that i dont know how beautiful i am. and on an honest note; i can be naive. and that most of these boys that text me and call me are trying to hit on me and im just not noticing the hidden signs in the messages. so he came to the conclusion that he was protective over me. supposably i am too beautiful and wonderful to be with him. he thinks that he doesnt desearve me. and that bothers me so so so bad!!!! :( any help?
Aquarians and understanding them
by: India

Throughout all my adult life for some reason all my long lasting relationships have been with the Aquarius Male. Both my parents are aqaurians, and whilst these creatures of the zodiac can be distant and aloof they are incredibly sensitive and deep thinkers. They do not show there emotions very well indeed.

The 2 longest relationships, both aquarians were very intimate, romantic and also needy to a certain point. I am an Aries and my perfect match is he Aquarius male. You need to understand that they need space, not to be too claustraphic around them.. to allow them to come to you. They like women that are independent, funny above anything else, that have there own values and opinions. They like elegent women, not chavvy types. Women that can stimulate conversation, but not too deep and emotional. Do not badget them with too many emotional questions, let them come to you on this. I guess because I create an air of mystery, that is why I attract them.

For the next bit though... I am currently having a liasion with another Aquarian, but he is much younger than me, almost 9 years. Incredibly beautiful, but kees stalling at wanting to meet me.. constantly analyses situations, he keeps telling me how beautiful I am, and that I make him smile. This Aquarian I cannot figure out. He keeps me on my toes though.
HELP
by: Anonymous

Hi

I met an aquarius 8 months ago and it was like magic. I recently started talking to him and he says he has fallen for me and has incredible feelings for me. He also proposed Twice...but then he vanishes for days and I don't know what to make of it. We never had a date as of yet as we live in different countries..WHAT TO EXPECT??
Will he come back?
by: A Capri

Hi :) i'm a capri and i've dated my boyfriend for 4months or so now. We've just broken up but the reason was because, i was too emotionally needy and he feels as though he is suffocating. I've never understood the fact about him needing his own space and the fact that i need to be a happy individual for the both of us to even find happiness. He has gone overseas for 21 days and i've passed his friend a casual encouragement note to pass to him on the 10th day of the trip. I feel that somehow, there are still feelings attached, but he just wants to run away from the relationship because he doesnt want to account for his life to another person.
I've thought it through, and i've moved on. I'm alright being friends with him. But i feel that we should give it another try. I've become a more confident girl and i now feel that i'm worthy of his love. So how can i actually pop the question when he's back? He asked me for a dinner date to a bar before he left. What message is he trying to send across? How can i ask for a patch successfully and become a friend he wants in me. He needs a best friend but i need to know the best way to communicate with him without us quarreling in the end. i've prepared a special gift for him, like a certificate that i typed and printed out, with my signature below. Promising him the 10 things that i'll do for him in the new relationship that i'm gonna request for. Could you give me a suggestion on how i can actually pop the question?
threatening to leave me
by: Anonymous

I am a cancer woman,unfortunately, and the father of my child (his first ) has made threats to leave on more than one occasion. What do I do?
~Intruigued~
by: aquarian tattoo

I am 26 year old female who's being persued (for the 2nd time) in my life by a fellow aquarian. The 1st time I was just a teen & I remember always getting the best gifts,care,affection from him. We had no secrets & were the best of friends. We were intimate but never actually had intercourse but,you'd have thought so. Now,I'm a grown woman and again I have been pursued by another aquarian male. He told me the very first time he saw me that he would get me & I let him know then,if ever he did,he would have his work cut out for him. Well,he bid his time & low & behold we have moved up to txtng\calling\facebooking. Immediately there were sparks & a mutual "understanding". He's very attentive to what I "need" as oppose to my "wants" and we truely just "get" one another. I know myself and "our ways". I'm very independant,not clingy at all,free spirited,curious by nature & artistic. I'm a poetess & an inspire to publish a book :) he wants me to have eyes for only him,promise to give him my hand & build a life. These are all things I say I want & I do. I'm just afraid I will fly the coop because my aquarian feet are flighty! I don't want to mess this 1 up. I know we could be gr8 together. How can I keep us on an even keel..without me feeling like I'm being smothered?
Capricorn Woman
by: Rose

I'm a capricorn woman, and I've dating an aquarius man for about 8 or 9 months now. Things are amazing. We make each other very happy and we make each other laugh all the time. However I've been having a personal issue I havnt told him about, fearing he wouldn't understand or it would push him away. Due to aquarius indepent nature, I get worried or anxious when I havnt talked to him all day when he is off running with his friends. He says he will call me, but he forgets. It makes me think he doesn't miss me as much as I miss him. I don't want to seem to clingy and push him away after so long. I'm just so in love with him, I don't want to loose him. And I feel like I have to always know what he is up to. How do I know I can just relax and stop worrying and missing him so much?
Why do aquarius boys cut contact after a breakup
by: Capricorn Girl

i just wanted to know why do Aquarius boys cut contact after a break up???I still like him, he told me that we could be friends.And now he doesn't text me anymore. And he text-ed me something so mean. How can i get him back??
does he miss me even though he forgets to call when hes out..?
by: ~Aquarius Tattoo

If its been all day,2 days or a week & he "forgets" to call,rest assured it doesn't mean that he doesn't "miss" you. Sometimes Aquarians get wrapped up in things,thoughts,interests. We can be easily distracted at times. That doesn't mean we love you any less or that we don't want to still be with you,around you or long for you. Its more of "I'll get to you when I get around to it" as oppose to "I'm not missing her so I'm not going to call". More often than not, we miss you or want you just as badly. We just don't feel the need to keep reitterating such points. If we're with you,have slept with you,said the 3 words.. when we're away,it should go without saying how we feel. The natural things anyone else would feel when without their mate. We can sometimes be aloof & distant but if we truly love you,we always find our way back home..

Be smart & understand his need for privacy,space & freedom. Don't smother him. Instead give him reason to WANT to check up or in. Send a quick flirty txt (only 1) send a sexy pic. Write him a poem. Or when he gets home have one of his favorite things waiting for him..a brew,favorite meal, a dvd he's always wantd to see. Shock & awe are what peaks & keeps his interest.
Driving me Crazy!
by: Anonymous

Hello i'm an Aires woman and recently becane very attracted to this Aquarius man, i like him from the start, the way he carries himself, his conversation and the way he is with other people. We flirted back and fourth finally a week later he text me about something(we have friends in common)so i figured this is my chance to see if he's intrested in me we text back and fourth and i'm like ok ask me out already nothing i though ok i'm not his type. So i tell him when your ready to date you should ask me out he replies why can't you ask me out ok so i do. We make plans he had to cancel then he tells me clear Friday i do what does he do cancel at the last min. so i let him have it. A couple of days later he calls me with an apology. That week he texts me all day he says i want to cook you dinner i'm like huh because i like him i say ok this is his last chance with me so he comes over cooks dinner and we decided he should stay the night which went really well. Now i'm getting mixed signals from him it's driving me crazy he says hes into me i asked him look if i'm wasting my time tell me now he says no but this whole blowing hot and cold thing is making me MAD lol i get that he's taking his time and as an Aries i want what i want and i want it now lol but i feel with this cat and mouse thing it's gonna make me loose intrest in him. I swear just when it seems i have had it he does or says something and i'm right back to ok he's into me this is going some where. Help i want to pull my hair out. I have told him this a few times he just says no i'm into you i want to see you. He says one thing and does something else. So should i just call it a day and just forget about him or hang in there it's gonna get better? I don't know what it is about this guy i just really really like him.
Similar situation Aries!
by: Summer

Oh God, they will drive you nuts. I felt like I was stalking the Aquarian. Until I finally told him that I gave up, I couldn't take it anymore.

Then he asks me out. WTF?! I'm so confused right now.
HELP!
by: Crazy

We met 3 years ago. I'm aries, he's aquarius. Very intense but we had a great time.... serious connection between us... like electricity. Then we had a big fight and we both moved on. He contacted me 4 months later telling me he was sorry and that he wants me in his life. I said 'okay' then he disappeared. Fast forward 3 years. We meet again, have a really fun time at dinner, same intense electricity and long drawn out hug afterwards. He called me on my way home and we had a very open and honest phone conversation about how we feel a connection, we want to see each other again, and that we thought that night went well. He started these topics of conversation, not me.

The next day we got together and had a great time. Then we ended up fighting over text message. I sent him some angry texts and some texts telling him I do want him in my life and that he's a great guy and I feel connected to him and now I deeply regret it! I waited a week and then called him and left a vm telling him how sorry I was for sending the angry texts and that I do want to see him again, that I'd be there for him, and that I didn't want it to end on a bad note like it did 3 years ago.

Now it's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard anything! Help what do I do? Is he over it? Is he taking time to analyze the situation? I will be broken if I ruined it again with him... absolutely broken.

HELP! Any advice will help.
HELP!
by: Crazy

We met 3 years ago. I'm aries, he's aquarius. Very intense but we had a great time.... serious connection between us... like electricity. Then we had a big fight and we both moved on. He contacted me 4 months later telling me he was sorry and that he wants me in his life. I said 'okay' then he disappeared. Fast forward 3 years. We meet again, have a really fun time at dinner, same intense electricity and long drawn out hug afterwards. He called me on my way home and we had a very open and honest phone conversation about how we feel a connection, we want to see each other again, and that we thought that night went well. He started these topics of conversation, not me.

The next day we got together and had a great time. Then we ended up fighting over text message. I sent him some angry texts and some texts telling him I do want him in my life and that he's a great guy and I feel connected to him and now I deeply regret it! I waited a week and then called him and left a vm telling him how sorry I was for sending the angry texts and that I do want to see him again, that I'd be there for him, and that I didn't want it to end on a bad note like it did 3 years ago.

Now it's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard anything! Help what do I do? Is he over it? Is he taking time to analyze the situation? I will be broken if I ruined it again with him... absolutely broken.

HELP! Any advice will help.
Why would he say this?
by: Anonymous

I'm a 27 year old Scorpio who has been having this casual/sexual relationship with this 29 year old Aqua for about 17 months now. I have always liked him more than just on a sexual level, but he was never ready for anything more serious.

Recently he has been in touch a lot more than usual and wanting to see me more....not just having sex, but hanging out too. He told me he is really into me. (trust me, he doesn't get all lovey dovey with words...this is as close as it gets.) Out of the blue the other day he tells me how he has always dreamt of being a father and asked me what I thought about having his child? He said he wanted me to have his child. He was actually serious about this after I repeatedly asked him if he were joking?

So now I'm wondering, could he just be using me to have his child? Or does he really like me more than I realize? I'm head over heels for him and he knows this. When we are together he is very affectionate....not just sexually, but in a loving way.....always looking me in the eyes for long periods of time etc. I usually give him as much space as he needs and he always comes back time after time. Always texting me for no reason just to say hi, ask how i'm doing/how my day is going/he misses me etc.

Could he finally be ready for something more with me? Or still just fun/games and sex?
Why would he say this?
by: Anonymous

I'm a 27 year old Scorpio who has been having this casual/sexual relationship with this 29 year old Aqua for about 17 months now. I have always liked him more than just on a sexual level, but he was never ready for anything more serious.

Recently he has been in touch a lot more than usual and wanting to see me more....not just having sex, but hanging out too. He told me he is really into me. (trust me, he doesn't get all lovey dovey with words...this is as close as it gets.) Out of the blue the other day he tells me how he has always dreamt of being a father and asked me what I thought about having his child? He said he wanted me to have his child. He was actually serious about this after I repeatedly asked him if he were joking?

So now I'm wondering, could he just be using me to have his child? Or does he really like me more than I realize? I'm head over heels for him and he knows this. When we are together he is very affectionate....not just sexually, but in a loving way.....always looking me in the eyes for long periods of time etc. I usually give him as much space as he needs and he always comes back time after time. Always texting me for no reason just to say hi, ask how i'm doing/how my day is going/he misses me etc.

Could he finally be ready for something more with me? Or still just fun/games and sex?
Hey Scorpio, he's probably joking
by: Summer

Scorp,

Relax, it's very likely that he wasn't being serious. I am an Aries seeing an Aquarius. I think he just likes to say off-beat stuff to see what my reaction will be. He has mentioned having kids w/ me, however, I was late recently and he freaked so...there you go. When he realized that I was not pregnant he started asking what we would've named the baby, and where would we would send it to school. I acknowledge that may your Aqua might be more serious than mine but until he actually backs up all that talk I say just let it happen. If it's not him it's someone else.
whats he thinking now?
by: Anonymous

Well Aquarious man, I do have a question for you...I've been dating an aquarian for 17 months and we have a great relationship - well, we did have! He has a lot of things to deal with right now - recently it was my birthday he wanted to come over and see me and take me to his place for a few days. He was going to come over on the sunday but at the last minute decided he would work and come over on Monday. I tried phoning him to speak about my disappointment but it was late and so I sent an email instead. I worried about the situation because I told him he should consider my feelings first just on this one occasion. Early the next morning he phoned but I missed the call. he hasn;t answered my calls since and didnt even send a card or phone on the day. Have I been dumped for having an opinion?
We were going to move in together soon and was already packing my stuff up. I love him dearly what's up with him?
Driving me Crazy! the next saga!
by: Anonymous

I think i'm finally done with this Aquarius Man. After the i like you but i'm treating you like i don't thing i decided i couldn't take it anymore so i told him there's no need to continue to waste each others time i think the best thing for us to do is not see each other anymore. He had no response none about an hour later on his FB page he post i'm thinking she might be the one for me! WTF who is he talking about it can't be me. So i did what us Aries do i defriended him i blocked his number from my phone. No response all day to what had been said earlier so i took it very personal. As an Aries later that night i thought well maybe this was just not meant to be i wasn't mad any more so i text him and said i know i'm not wrong about you your a good man with a good heart so we're still good. He text in the am goodmorning have a good day i took that to mean he was ready to talk about the previous day so i text him and i asked him was he ready to talk about this he said i have to close a few things first(i took that to mean work). I told him i just want you to answer one question for me if i wasn't what you wanted why didn't you just tell me that in the beginning? He said it's not that i don't want you it's more of if i'm ready for something long term. I said why didn't you just say that he said it's kinda complicated i said that usually means that someone else is involved he said not really. I said well that's not! After that we haven't had much of a conversation a goodmorning here and there. We have mutual friends in common this pass weekend he along with another good friend hosted a bbq i tried to be the bigger person and i text him and asked if he needed anything if there was anything i could do he text me back and aske me to bring something. I got to the bbq he spoke hugged me and gave me a kiss on the cheeck(i think that was only because other people were around). The rest of the night he of course treated me like i was invisiable. I got up the next day same thing couldn't look at me wouldn't really talk to me it was crazy. When i got ready to go he gave me a hug and told me to let him know when i made it home. It's my turn to plan and host the next party lastnight he called one of our friends not me to find out what i was doing and how it was going(like i didn't know what i was doing)That made me mad as Hell so i put everything together in a couple of hours i had that i'll show'em attitude going lol. He post on his FB are you really worth settling down with? Again who the hell is he talking to it can't be me. He was on my mind so i text him and i told him that and that my bed missed him guess what NO RESPONSE! I said this morning i'm done. The thing i hate the most is ok it didn't work out but why are you acting like an asshole? Maybe we will never get back to being friends again i hate that but i can't keep being treated like this. So i gave up he won! Did i do the right thing?
Ref: whats he thinking now?
by: Aquairus Man

Well at times when we have so much going on around us that we feel, we must take on this burden or task, and when that happens we can get stuck in our own little world, working things out in our head. We forget to do things that we should. Exap: I forgot my 20 year olds B-Day. :( I was working on moving and the time slipped by. was 3 days later I remembered it. and she did not let me forget that. Now we take this as a big screw-up. so we tend to shy away from the one we hurt. we don't want to make anymore mistakes with that person. and this can take some time. but if you just let it go and turn the attention away from him to something good or fun can be a big help. but to us the word "disappointment" is the stake in the Heart!. it can and has put a hold on things. our aim is to help others and the world, not to hurt others and to an Aquarius it is out right taboo.
If this has happened, it would be best to not bring it up anymore, and reach out to him in a way that will let him know that you are only thinking about him. act like it never happened.
It can hurt to know that we hurt someone and we withdraw into our own comfort zone. Let him know you are there for him. I hope all will work out for you.
Aquarius Mark
Driving me crazy
by: Anonymous

I'm aries. It's been 3 weeks since I sent him a text apologizing and telling him I'm sorry for acting a fool. Will he ever talk to me again? Will he contact me?

We went on 2 dates. He called me and said he wants to see me again and we had a loooong phone conversation about us and the future, etc. Then I upset him because he cancelled a date we had so I yelled at him. Now it's been 3 weeks since my apology...

What am I supposed to do? I can barely function. I'm completely obsessed!
ref: What is he thinking now?
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your comments Mark, I guess I was pretty hard on him. I thought he didn't love me enough to do that one thing for me, but deep down I have really strong feelings for him. I should have chosen a better time and discussed it, I was just being honest, which I thought he'd prefer to a pretence that all was ok. I'm learning all the time,now I feel like I made a huge mistake and he wont trust me enough to open up.My future feels bleak!! Just have to try what you say and see what happens. Dont want him to feel rejected and unhappy, and loose hime over something stupid.
Louise
Is my Aqua male serious or am I just hopefull? Part 1
by: Virgo with an Aquarian

Ok I am new to this site and have made some posts and also made some comments. Since your an Aqua male it seemed best to ask you for some insite and advice. This will be long since I feel it fair to give as much information as possible to make things clear before I ask my questions.
Let me give some information on the relationship with me and my aqua man. First off we met online (me from USA and he from Germany) There is an 13 year age difference (I am older) and he has no problem with this btw. Since we started online we were both a bit leary and he was so slow to give personal information..at times I really felt like it was a mind game to see if I could handle his mannor or not. We have been together for a year and a half and yes we have our fights but I do believe that a lot of it is due to culture differences and that we take things personal and get upset because often times when things are written on messengers you cant always see "sarcasim" and the other person takes things totally the wrong way. I am married and he knew this from day one...I dont hide these kinds of things.He understands that it is taking time to get divorced due to a lot of complications. Btw I am not getting divorced in hopes to be with him..this is for me and something that I need to do for myself even if we never did get together.
From day one he is always stayed in contact with me...hours on messengers and online..he never vanished yet and seems that he wants to always have contact one way or the other. Patience is the key with this man! It has always been me to initate everything as far as asking for personal info such as seeing what he looks like and phone number, he made me wait 8 months for these things btw. We often fought about it and would come to an agreement. When I asked for his last name we had HUGE fights about it...he would tell me "Why do you need to know my last name?, it doesnt tell you who I am as a person, you dont get to know me any better by knowning my last name..you get to know me by spending time with me" We fought and fought and came to another agreement and for my birthday he told me his last name.
In the last month he has moved to USA and now lives less then 2 hours away. He is in USA for a year for sure as he is here on internship. Before he left Germany I had made it clear to him that when he gets here that I would appreciate that he take on some of the responsiblity to initate things instead of me having the stress of it all the time (something he never did when he was in Germany so I was leary that it was possible of him). He stepped up to the plate and did a complete 360 degrees on me. The first night he came to USA he called me and 4 days later got a new cell phone and texted me telling me his new number and to call him if I wanted to. He often wants to talk and text on the phone and likes to use voice on messenger. This is not the same shy person I thought I met...but is great!
Is he serious or am I hopefull Part 2
by: Virgo with Aquarius

When we first met online he told me 3 days later that he loved me and since it was so fast and online I didnt take him serious....a year and a half later he still tells me he loves me on messenger. We had often talked the possibility of a RL (real life) relationship but want to off as good friends when we meet which brings me to one of my questions. He has been here a whole month in USA and I am giving him much space to explore and do his own thing..how long a wait would a good time to suggest to meet him for a coffee maybe if he doesnt bring it up first?

We have talked much on the phone and laugh a lot and clearly we are best friends. He told me the other day that I am the only one that he textes and talks on the phone with. We dont act more then good friends on the phone..meaning we dont tell each other we love one another..we are taking it slow. But when we are on messenger he shows his feelings me calling me "sweetie and babe" and telling me he loves me. I feel he is sincere in his feelings for me as all his actions are there that make me feel he is serious about me.

A second option would be great!
Libra girl, Aquarius man. Call him first or wait for him to call?
by: Anonymous

Hello Aquarius Man,

I have never dated or even been with an Aquarius before. But I've always had a physical attraction to this aquarian, and we had a really good night together recently. We stayed up all night but we didn't go too far. We just talked the whole night and joked around. He is very funny and obviously a quintessential aquarian. The mutual air sign compatibility was not lost on me, because we were able to communicate so easily. And this is why I keep thinking about him.

He lives in a city about an hour away, of which I visit often. When we parted ways, he just told me to let him know next time I was in town, and we exchanged numbers.

Do you think this was a brush off? And what do you think I should say if/when I let him know I'm going to be in town this weekend?

I know aquarians are very independent and I really want to know how to keep him attracted without scaring him off.

Thanks!
2nd chance with an aquarian man
by: Taurus

My Ex Aquarian love and I have reconnected after 3years. I still love him and hope that we make it work this time. We both had some growing up to do. However, he admitted to me that he misses the relationship and times that we shared with each other and our loved ones. I left him because I did not understand him completely the first time around. I have never had so many things in common nor have I ever experienced a love such as the love that he and I have shared and know that if we allow ourselves to become one again that this time there is no doubt neither one of us will regret it. He wants to take it slow whatever comes out of it. Whether it be friendship or a relationship, however he KISSSSSSSSSED me goodnight. How should I proceed. I naturally want to text and talk to him every day however that doesn't go over well with him.
What Are My Chances?
by: Dreamer

Im a Pisces woman. Typical Pisces in many ways: emotional, needy at times, loves to be loved. Dating an Aquarius for about 4 months now. SO SLOW going! Many times I have thought about ending it, and each time he does something that makes me want to give him more time.

A little background; I am in the final stages of my divorce, 34, 2 children (6 and 2). He is 31, has no kids. He told me he always wanted to date me and that he has wanted me for years. He doesn't seem discouraged by the fact that I have children and will be a divorcee soon. BUT I wonder if he thinks of me as someone just for now and not long term material because of my quote unquote, baggage. ??

So, I am a busy woman with alot on my plate so I dont call him alot. He let me know that he isnt a phone person and if he doesnt call doesnt mean he isnt thinking of me. Took me a while to realize he was being sincere. He will let a week go by w/o calling me sometimes. Just this week I was planning to break it off with him, when he calls and said on my VM, ''I want to know when I can see you; I miss you''. Before that I didnt talk to him for about 5 days and he calls and says ''Just wanted to say hi, I thought of you and it made me smile''. He is so random! He actually lit a few candles last nite when I came over. I was shocked! Sex is awesome, though I think he may be the type that doesnt like to be told how to do it - so that will be a challenge.

Anyway, so this morning we get up, I get dressed and there isnt much conversation, so I feel a little weird. Like, did he like last nite, is he waiting for me to leave? We are in NYC so he offers to pay for my cab. He insisted. Hands me $20 asking if its enough, and I assure him it is. He says, ''and if it isnt you will let me know and I will give you the difference next time I see you?'' I told him no and that I could pay the difference myself. The point being, that he was so sweet in trying to make sure I had enough money and not having to use my own.

He's so confusing! Seems like he doesnt care one minute, sweet the next! Its all a bit much for me; as someone who loves attention and Im used to men bending over backwards for me frankly. LOL Not this guy! LOL So I just want some advice/insight. I am learning not to take his not calling alot personally. But at what point will he start to let go w/ me a little? Its maddening not knowing what he is thinking about me/this relationship. I dont want to invest and then get my feelings hurt. He intrigues me though.
Patience!
by: Virgo with an Aquarian

I have to say that you better get some or use it with this man...hang in there...could be well worth it...I have been involved with me for over a year and a half and have learned that a lot of times I have to do or ask things first...because he doesnt dare ask things due to a bad reaction...others would view this as shy but more like careful.

Give him time to open up to you..some need lots of time..and if your so bothered just be blunt and tell him..they dont get hints well really..bluntness and directness is best.

I met mine online and if would like to know a little more about my relationship with him..scroll up a little bit to read what I wrote in this post earlier.

Hope any of this helps...good luck!
Hiding His Feelings?
by: Bedazzled Pisces

Mark can you (or anyone) answer this?

So I started dating an Aquarius and he seemed very open in the beginning. The very first two dates we went on he was very complimentary and was very candid. But now it seems like he is pulling back some. He calls me less and just when I think maybe we are fizzling out or he has changed his mind about me, he calls and says something sweet. I can tell he still cares for me, but it seems like now hes trying to act like he doesn't care that much. WHY? Is this something Aquarian men do??
help would be much appreciated!
by: M

I've been talking/texting this aquarius young man for a few months now....he's 22, I'm 24.....we knew each other previously through mutual friends at college but never really had a one to one conversation. WE are in different states now and talk for 2 sometimes three hours on the phone!! I'm also an aquarius as well....anyway, I told him early on that I had feelings for him over the phone...he paused for a bit and told me that he only sees me as a "friend"....well that was three months ago and I feel that our friendship is blooming and perhaps he feels differently now? I'm visiting him in the next few months and will be staying at his place....I'm wondering if there is a possible love relationship in the cards?! What's funny is that he only has one small bed and hardly any furniture since he just moved...I asked him "where am I going to sleep?" his response, "my room is pretty spacious....you can sleep in my room"....is that an invitation? I really like this guy and would appreciate any advice. I'm friends with quite a few of his guy friends who have all told me that he's super shy and has only dated one or two girls in his life!....They were impressed with how I can keep him on the phone for hours on end and that I'm probably the ONLY girl that he talks to....thanks!
Dreamer
by: Anonymous

I have decided to give up on my Aquarius man. For all of this reading and research I am doing on him, what is he doing to get to know ME? Yes, hes an Aquarius, but hes still a man. And men who are into you either call or they dont. I dont feel that it is appropriate to wait over a week for a guy to call and then make the excuse that he is an Aquarius.

I am not pressuring him at all. Giving him his space. I am fun, beautiful, witty, intelligent - a catch! And if he cant see that, then oh well. Im baffled, but moving on. He doesnt deserve all of this effort I am putting in!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo with an Aquarian

I can feel your pain...trust me..but believe it or not I bet he cares for you way more then you think he does..they are not very outward wth things and if this is what your looking for then yes you should move on..find someone more like you in that way. As far as waiting a week for him to call...it sucks...and when you do break it off with him..be blunt enough to say why.

I cant tell you how many times I wanted to give up on mine...omg could piss me off like noone else ever could!

I have done research on this sign so that I could understand them and hang in there more because I just knew there was something special..either you feel that with yours or you dont.

You had mentioned what is he doing for you? Well I can tell you this much...if he was doing the same for you as you do for him, he would never tell you about it..they are very secretive for sure.

If you change your mind and want to hang in there after all..these are a few things I did with mine when I got sick of the waiting BS..I wouldnt call but leave a sarcastic text message that said something like "I'm too busy to miss you so hope things are fine on your end...ttyl" and guess what? in less then an hour I either got a message back or a phone call..they love when they feel that your doing your own thing and not waiting around for them...that puts too much pressure on them.

Anyway...keep in touch on here and if you stay with him or not..I wish all the best for you!
Virgo woman frustrated
by: Anonymous

I have been friends with this aquarius man for about 8 months now and we have become not only very good friends but also romantically involved. He frustrates me soooo much....One minute he is the mose sensitive sweet person and the next he is a total asshole. As long as i don't push him about his feelings and play the friend role he is fine. I am there for him in every situation even when he talks about other women but he does not like when i try to talk to him about other men. We are not in a relationship and both say we are just good friends but obviously that is not the case because we both have strong feelings for each other....we got into a very big fight and he really hurt my feelings...I was angry and instead of giving him space and pretending everything was ok...well I let him have and told him that he just can not treat people any kinda way and that as my friend he is suppose to protect my feelings not hurt them. I was crying an deeply upset and held him accoutable for his actions (which he does not like). A true to form what does he do....w/draw and say our friendship has run its course and maybe we should move on....he would rather run away then deal with the fact he hurt me and have to talk about it.....this is classic....My questions is...why do aquarians do this? Why are they so afraid of dealing w/ feelings and saying sorry when they are wrong and/or have hurt you? Does this mean he really doesn't care if he is willing to let what we have go so eaily?
frustrated virgo woman
by: Anonymous

I have been friends with this aquarius man for about 8 months now and we have become not only very good friends but also romantically involved. He frustrates me soooo much....One minute he is the mose sensitive sweet person and the next he is a total asshole. As long as i don't push him about his feelings and play the friend role he is fine. I am there for him in every situation even when he talks about other women but he does not like when i try to talk to him about other men. We are not in a relationship and both say we are just good friends but obviously that is not the case because we both have strong feelings for each other....we got into a very big fight and he really hurt my feelings...I was angry and instead of giving him space and pretending everything was ok...well I let him have and told him that he just can not treat people any kinda way and that as my friend he is suppose to protect my feelings not hurt them. I was crying an deeply upset and held him accoutable for his actions (which he does not like). A true to form what does he do....w/draw and say our friendship has run its course and maybe we should move on....he would rather run away then deal with the fact he hurt me and have to talk about it.....this is classic....My questions is...why do aquarians do this? Why are they so afraid of dealing w/ feelings and saying sorry when they are wrong and/or have hurt you? Does this mean he really doesn't care if he is willing to let what we have go so easily?
Re: Virgo w/ An Aquarian
by: Dreamer

Thanks for replying to my post. As suspected he called me, a week later, saying hello, hes thinking about me and wants to see me. He always calls right before his day off. I wonder if he just wants someone to keep his bed warm. Well, I have not returned his call yet. And I think I will still break it off. And like you suggested, I will tell him exactly why.

Now if he really cares about me, it will be a wake up call and maybe he will decide to treat me better. And if he doesnt, then it will really be over. Either way, I am prepared for whatever happens. I have never had anyone take their association with me so lightly. And it hurts my Piscean feelings! I do like him and think he is very interesting. But his inability to allow me to get close just wont work for me. Thx again. :-)
Good luck Dreamer...keep us posted
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarian

Haha I am starting to think that you and I should have our own page..hehe. Yes good luck and trust me these ppl are very slow when they want to get more serious so maybe you could look at that as a good thing instead of feeling that things should move faster. Believe me, I had every feeling you had I am sure and then some!.
I hung in there and so far it is paying off and one of the best relationships of my life. We had to overcome a lot. From different countries, timezones, age difference, culture difference, you can just about name it..oh also and met online. It is now over a year and a half later and he is in my country..has been here 2 months now and we will meet in 2 weeks..talk about nerves!
You cant be too sensitive or take everything personal with these ppl..and as a Virgo it hasnt been easy for me either.

Keep in touch and good luck.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha..well it boggles the mind how these men are so similar just because they are an Aquarius. Its very fascinating! So he called me early this morning and I didnt answer (I was asleep). His voicemail said that he was just thinking of me and hopes nothing happened to me over the weekend. LOL. Which is ironic, since the first time he decided not to call ME for a week I was worried that something happened to HIM. And he made me feel like I was absurd for being upset. Now hes worried about me? Classic!

So I think I will call him later and ask him to meet me this evening for a drink (we live in NYC). It should be interesting. Im a little nervous. I have never made a date to break up w/ anyone before so I feel bad that Im asking him to meet me just to dump him. But I feel like this is something that should be said in person, so he can see my sincerity and I can see his. But maybe he will surprise me. Will definitely keep you posted.
to Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

This is so very classic and sounds so familiar to me..you got a voice message saying the was thinking of you and he hoped that you were alright..this is the kind of reaction you might get when you give them space..it is really sweet if you can see it thru non angry eyes.
I am sure if you go thru breaking up with him he will be shocked and not realize that he was making you feel so bad and even if you might not get to see it..he will be very sensative about it..but they are not ones to come right out and tell you this..when mine gets hurt or upset he kind of shuts down and gets very quite..if yours does...let this happen..dont expect a reaction right away..they need time to accept it and let it sink in..hopefully you too can come to terms with things and aggreements before it comes down to beign the end...unless your sure that you cant go on anymore with him.
The one tip I learned with my Aqua-man is to let them think most the time that the ideas were theirs first..it's all in how you say things..for instance I love talking to mine but depending on his mood I cant always just come out and ask him to call me..instead I will either tell or text him saying something like " If your bored...feel free to give me a call" gives him the impression that your not soo needy and leaves it all up to him. The other day my aqua man textes me and asks if i would like to chat for 5 mins..I said sure. 45 mins later it was me telling him that we should get off the phone so we dont use up all his minutes. 5 minutes turned into 45...go figure...LOL
to Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

This is so very classic and sounds so familiar to me..you got a voice message saying the was thinking of you and he hoped that you were alright..this is the kind of reaction you might get when you give them space..it is really sweet if you can see it thru non angry eyes.
I am sure if you go thru breaking up with him he will be shocked and not realize that he was making you feel so bad and even if you might not get to see it..he will be very sensative about it..but they are not ones to come right out and tell you this..when mine gets hurt or upset he kind of shuts down and gets very quite..if yours does...let this happen..dont expect a reaction right away..they need time to accept it and let it sink in..hopefully you too can come to terms with things and aggreements before it comes down to beign the end...unless your sure that you cant go on anymore with him.
The one tip I learned with my Aqua-man is to let them think most the time that the ideas were theirs first..it's all in how you say things..for instance I love talking to mine but depending on his mood I cant always just come out and ask him to call me..instead I will either tell or text him saying something like " If your bored...feel free to give me a call" gives him the impression that your not soo needy and leaves it all up to him. The other day my aqua man textes me and asks if i would like to chat for 5 mins..I said sure. 45 mins later it was me telling him that we should get off the phone so we dont use up all his minutes. 5 minutes turned into 45...go figure...LOL
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Soooo, guess what? I texted him and just said, ''would you like to meet later for a drink around 6 or 7''. Didn't say what it was about or anything. And...he never returned my text or called me back. Mind you, this morning when he called he said that he hoped to see me soon. LOL. This is so crazy! So, I think once he realized that I was okay and nothing happened to me over the weekend - and that he still had my interest (at least thats what he thinks anyway) - he decided to blow ME off. WTF? I can actually laugh about it because it is soo nuts. Im not even angry. Not calling him. Will just wait around for him to get to me and we will have the conversation. If I wasnt so sensitive, I would have fun playing these mind games; its almost sexy. But alas, my mind cant handle it for too long. LOL..again, will keep you posted. Is this guy nuts or what? haha..

Ps..I think in my heart of hearts I am sorta hoping once I tell him why I dont want to see him, he will take some time (like you said) and think about it and then come back to me alot more serious. But Im prepared for whatever happens..
to:Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yup the best thing to do is to keep some distance and even act like it doesnt bother you as much as it really does. I wouldnt let him think your playing mind games.once they sense that, they are gone for good. Their minds work in a different way and are so busy that time flys by much faster for them I think then anyone else..why they are shocked when you say " you havent called for a week"
Another time I found out is to not let them think that your hanging around for them waiting..be busy with your own life and create a challenge..let them work a little for YOUR attention..and if the next time he wants to see you and you dont have time then oh well..give him the attitude " well I am busy too you know, I will let you know when is a good time for me"...he wont tell you..but I am sure when the tables are turned a little bit..he will be the one secretly waiting around to hear from you and it will drive him nuts.

So go on girl...get busy..LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Great advice! Which I have applied. So as you know he and I have been going back and forth. When last I checked in, he had ignored my text and my voicemail. So I took your advice and didnt attempt any further communication. That was Monday.

Well, TODAY he calls me FROM WORK. He rarely calls me from work because hes so busy. But we talked for about 10 minutes. I didnt ask him why he took so long to call me the previous week or why he ignored my text. And he didnt ask me why I ignored his phone calls. We just chatted. He said that he was in a recording session when he got my text. I believe he was actually ignoring me for not returning his two voicemails and was waiting to see if I would call HIM back again. And once he saw that I was not going to he decided to call me. But of course he will never admit that. But again, I didnt get into it w/ him. He didnt ask to see me, but I told him we should get together this week. I really want to lay it all out. I never tell him I want to see him so Im sure he was surprised.

I honestly dont know what I will do regarding breaking it off. I think I will bring up the lack of communication and just be honest about how I am feeling (brief and to the point, thats how they like it right?). And if we mutually decide to end it we will. And if he convinces me to stick it out, I will.

I swear, I have never had such a hard time reading someone! And Im generally pretty good at it! You would think he could take me or leave me, but he keeps calling. Its so weird!
And the saga continues. LOL
Scorpio women .
by: Ashley

Hey ive recently met an aquarius guy he kept sayin whe he was drunk we wante dto go out with me lol but kept forgetting but now we go outt and we get along so well he mmakes me open up to people because im alittle shy.
The first night we hungout as a couple he introduced me to his mother and brother , it was nice.
i dont be too clingy or ask he what hes atall the time we have our own space i like that .
i hope it is going good.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

aww and what saga it is, yes. I dont think it is weird at all, I think he generally cares but as I said, you need to let them come to you and when he feels ignored he will wonder why and contact you just to see if things are still ok between you too..been there, done that.
They are sensitive believe it or not and of course he might never tell you this but the fact that he "keeps in touch" shows his softer side, even if it isnt as soon as you would like. Dont let him get away with everything but at the same time dont nag him when he doesnt call right away or text back right away either, if this makes sense to you.
I normally ask mine if he would like me to call him and almost 99% of the time he says "pls do" and when it is a "no", he will have a good reason why...I think if they feel that they have the upper hand you will get more out of them..and in the long run that allows you to get more of what you want. Take it slow, I wouldnt rush a break up..just sounds like you dont understand him too much or his aquarian-ness and are taking things a bit too personal. You said that normally you always had guys bend over backwards for you? Give him time and give him his space and I bet in time he will glady do the same...after all, there is a reason you like him so.

Keep in touch
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I think its a lost cause. Or maybe I blew it? He called and actually SANG into my voicemail (he has a great voice and I have been asking him to sing for me). So I was giddy and excited for our date last nite. I thought finally he is opening up. Well, he ended up getting out of work late and got into it w/ a co worker so was very irritable when I met him at his apartment. It was late so we watched a movie, slept together, and nothing much was said. So while he was sleeping like a baby I was up til 3am staring at the ceiling feel stupid.

We never had that conversation because I didnt want to add to his bad day. So this morning I woke up feeling really frustrated with the whole thing. I felt like I was a bird and hes just throwing me crumbs. Felt awful.

So when I walked out I ACCIDENTALLY slammed the door (I was rushing to get out of there for fear of saying the wrong thing). He comes out into the hallway and asks me why I slammed the door. He could tell I was upset and kept asking me why; I said I didnt want to talk about it. He gets in the elevator w/ me and I just said ''you want one thing, I want something else, and I dont think we should see each other anymore.'' I tell him that all we seem to do is get together, here and there, when he feels like it. This is all happening as Im hailing a cab (very awkward). The cab comes, he says, ''I will call you''. I said, ''if you want to'' and get in. He says ''alright Simone'' (with attitude) and that was that.

So, I made the cardinal mistake of showing my emotions to this Aquarian so I will probably never hear from him again. Which is fine I guess. I texted him and told him that I meant what I said but I should have chosen a better time/way to express it and that I apologize. Also told him if he wants to talk about it we can, and if he doesn't thats fine too. So there goes that...
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I think its a lost cause. Or maybe I blew it? He called and actually SANG into my voicemail (he has a great voice and I have been asking him to sing for me). So I was giddy and excited for our date last nite. I thought finally he is opening up. Well, he ended up getting out of work late and got into it w/ a co worker so was very irritable when I met him at his apartment. It was late so we watched a movie, slept together, and nothing much was said. So while he was sleeping like a baby I was up til 3am staring at the ceiling feel stupid.

We never had that conversation because I didnt want to add to his bad day. So this morning I woke up feeling really frustrated with the whole thing. I felt like I was a bird and hes just throwing me crumbs. Felt awful.

So when I walked out I ACCIDENTALLY slammed the door (I was rushing to get out of there for fear of saying the wrong thing). He comes out into the hallway and asks me why I slammed the door. He could tell I was upset and kept asking me why; I said I didnt want to talk about it. He gets in the elevator w/ me and I just said ''you want one thing, I want something else, and I dont think we should see each other anymore.'' I tell him that all we seem to do is get together, here and there, when he feels like it. This is all happening as Im hailing a cab (very awkward). The cab comes, he says, ''I will call you''. I said, ''if you want to'' and get in. He says ''alright Simone'' (with attitude) and that was that.

So, I made the cardinal mistake of showing my emotions to this Aquarian so I will probably never hear from him again. Which is fine I guess. I texted him and told him that I meant what I said but I should have chosen a better time/way to express it and that I apologize. Also told him if he wants to talk about it we can, and if he doesn't thats fine too. So there goes that...
Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok I read your post...I see some good and some "not so bad" about what happened. First of all is good you got to say what you needed to say..not so great was the way but hey it happened, cant change it now.
I think you took it way too personal that he wasnt talking to you much since he had it out with a co worker and was not in the best of moods..I know mine gets quiet and I leave him alone and he is fine in time. The one thing I see that if it were me was to change one thing your doing...DO NOT sleep with him again untill your satisfied if your going to stay together or not.
He said he will call but he might not for fear of a fight happening...but give him time..if you dont hear in a week..if it were me, I would call one last time and leave a voice message on if you two are over with or not so you can have closier and move on with your life...you gave him at least that much.
As I said, I wouldnt take it all so personal, I know it is hard when someone is on the outside and giving advice. Hang in there, he had a bad night and they dont "sring back? all that fast.
Good luck and keep me updated
Inside-out
by: Anonymous

He's an Aquarius. We've known eachother for more than three years now. We've liked each-other for that long as-well. But now things are getting a little complicated. He's was previously in a relationship, which has now finished. I still am in a relationship, which might end as-well. He thinks i should end it now and be with him. He has never shown any alarming signs of jealousy over me before, but now... it's unbearable! He'll cry everytime he sees me with my boyfriend, he'll blow up in anger if i go out with my girlfriends or chat with any male buddies. He recently told me he hated it when i sent people pictures of me. He reasoned that they could be ''imagining me naked'' and that it was the ''normal thing'' for guys to do. He accuses me of being 'flirty' and 'sneaky' He needs my constant reassuring, and honestly it's overbaring! I have never met a guy that cries so much! and i thought i knew him so well. He seemed to be so cold and detached. I always knew he liked me, and i think that was enough for me, withought having to involve all these other feelings that ''love'' brings along. I am considering this guy if i do break up with my boyfriend. But at the same time, he wants full commitment, while i don't. He says that if we do end up together, he wants to marry me.
Will it be this way if we do marry? i don't think i could live with his constant jealousy and demands of affection and reassurences. What you said about Aquariuses seemed to be accurate enough for what he was like before, but now... he's completely changed!
Please tell me if you know of any aquariuses that are this way and what to do.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Soooo...he called me! I never expected to hear from here again actually. At the very least I expected a few weeks to go by. And was actually feeling okay w/ that. The blowup we had happened on Saturday and he called by Wednesday, leaving me a LONG voicemail, apologizing for taking so long to call me..saying that he needed time to get his thoughts together. He said that it bothered him that I thought of him as someone who only wanted one thing and he apologized for making me feel that way. He said that he thought we were just going w/ the flow and taking our time. He said that he wanted to try spending time w/ me, WITHOUT SEX, and just getting to know each other and seeing how it goes from there. That he wanted to PROVE to me that my impression of him is wrong - and that at the very least he wants us to be friends.

I was honestly blown away - that he called, that he apologized, that he actually asked to see me without having a sexual relationship for a while. He is always so reserved when we are together (he doesnt talk alot) so to hear him going on and on on my machine was weird. It was nice and refreshing.

I let 2 days go by and left a message for him, also apologizing for the way I expressed myself that day. I explained why I was upset that day;how I felt that once we slept together he stop making any efforts outside of the sex thing and a general lack of enthusiasm for getting to know me and that it hurt my feelings. I told him I agreed that taking it slow was a good idea, but that at some point, if he really wants to get to know me and for me to know him, that he has to put in the effort to do so and let his guard down at least a little. (Well I actually used the word 'US' because I didn't want him to think I was putting all the blame on him) I told him to really think about what I said and if he still wanted to call me, call me. And if not, that I wouldnt be angry w/ him and would be totally okay w/ just being his friend. That was Thursday morning.

He called me today! He left a msg asking me if I wanted to get together w/ him next week to work on some music w/ him and his friend (Im a singer/writer). I noticed he made a point of not saying it was a date. So I think he is making an effort to just hang out and show me that he is interested in just spending time w/ me. You think?
I dont know why but Im nervous now. Im going to call him back and hang out w/ him next week. I just hope its not awkward now. But it seems like hes making an effort and that makes me happy. But Im trying not to get to excited.

So what do you think? In your experience, how should I proceed? Sorry this was so long. We really do need our own page! LOL. Hope things are well w/ u. TIA! :-)
How do I tell him?
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

First of all I am completely in love with this Aquarius man. He is witty, charming, unpredictable and mysterious. It has taken me so long to get used to his aloof ways, but the one thing I've learned is to never take things too personally with him. We have known each other for a couple of years now and I still think about him constantly. He gives me butterflies in my stomach everytime I see or hear from him. Things did not start out that great with us though. We got off on the wrong foot and before I knew it I found myself in a kind of friends with benefits situation.

I hated this and I told him I wanted more, but he wasn't ready for a girlfriend at this point in his life he said. He was far too busy with work and all to concentrate on a girlfriend and give her enough attention. So I tried the casual sex thing with him for awhile, but this broke my heart and I found out I could not do this. I told him this and then I went no contact on him for about a year. One of the hardest things I have ever done. I thought about him all the time and I missed him terribly. He would contact me every now and then, but I would just ignore knowing he was not serious and wasn't ready to give me what I wanted. Then the contact increased and he said he really wanted to see me, not just to have sex but just to spend time with me, hang out and get to know me better. I was reluctant at first because I was finally getting over this man and I knew once I went back all the feelings I had for him would return. I was afraid of getting hurt again, but I decided to take that chance anyway.

He really started making an effort and was really sweet. He would call me up and say "hey wanna see a movie with me?" or "you wanna hang out?" He became really caring and was showing a lot more affection....not just sexual. Just little things like keeping his arm around me throughout the movie, always touching me, rubbing my shoulders etc. I'd glance over and he'd be looking at me. Made a lot more eye contact etc. We found out we have so many things in common. I feel like we understand each other and I feel I have a connection with him I've never felt with anyone else. I've been with a Pisces and a Cancer before...both signs that are suppose to be compatible with Scorpio, but I've never felt anything like what I feel with him. It's hard to explain.

How do I tell him?
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

(CONT.)
I am still afraid though. I know that Aquarius and Scorpio isn't exactly a good match and sometimes I worry about that. I am really thinking about telling him my feelings for him. Not an I love you or anything like that, but I just want to let him know how much I care about him and that I really want to take the time to get to know him. And even thought he may not be ready for any kind of relationship....that's okay. I certainly don't want to push him into anything. At the very least I want to be his friend. I'm just wondering how do I tell him my feelings without scaring him off? Is it better to tell him face to face or perhaps in a letter? I am pretty shy, but I guess I could force myself to do it face to face if I had to. That is also something else we have in common. We are both very shy. Which also brings me to my next question. How do you know if an Aquarius is really into you? As in how do you know if he really likes you more than just for sex? Can you also tell when they fall in love? Do they come right out and say it or do you just have to pick up little hints?

I know this is very long and I apologize. I would just really love some insight into this Aquarius man and the way he thing/acts. I just so in love with him and am dying to know how he feels about me. Still afraid of getting hurt
to Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I havent been on for a little while but here I am again..ok so is good to see your post and just as I thought, that he needed a little time to think things thru. I think you should take it slow but maybe ask him to make things clear if the relationship is now on a friends only level or is it "very close friends" taking a break of sex level meaning no romantic gestures..all makes a difference.

I have my own update as well...after over a year and a half I finally met my aqua male and we spent about 10 hours together...as I said there is a bit of an age difference and was refreshing to see that younger men can still be gentlemen, which he totally was. We plan to meet again and for someone that is so private, his coworkers which he doesnt even like know about me..so I seem to be a big importance to ppl he doesnt even care about. I act as if I am leaving the main ideas to him on when and where and what when we meet again..I told him that he has told me that things always depend on his mood and he corrected me telling me that "it depends on OUR mood"...ok I stand corrected there Aqua man! lol.

Hope to hear from you again soon and ttyl.
Inside-out
by: Anonymous

Aquarius man, answer already! lol
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I dont think we will ever see Mark on here again..just a guess because have not seen him respond at all. It seems we all give our opinions for the 2 cents that it is worth.
I read your post while responding to Dreamers and figured for what it was worth, I could give my thoughts if it helps anything at all.

I think that to bring up this subject would be best face to face..you can read body language face to face that you cant see by writing a letter and they read it in private...also this way it is better to see with your own eyes his response and that way he cant hide it and try to lie to you by trying to cover up feelings. Just come right out and say what is on your mind because there might be a chance that he is feeling the same way and just like you are, is afraid to say anything for fear of what YOUR reaction might be..so after all this time, why not give it a shot and let him know how you feel.


Keep in touch and best of luck to you!
Inside-out
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I read what you wrote and I have one question for you...HOW FAST CAN YOU RUN? No seriously...I would think that this is a HUGE red flag and my bet would be that if you did marry a guy like this that it would get worse..not better!

This guy portraits insecurity at it's best!

This doesnt sound like someone that cares, this sounds like someone that controls and the faster you can detach yourself from him the better off you might be..wether you stay with your current boyfriend or not.

Pls Beware!
to Virgo w/ an Aquarius
by: Dreamer

That's awesome! It sounds like you're relationship is headed in the right direction. You must be excited! 10 hours together huh? Nice :-)

I think my guy just doesn't know what he wants. So maybe I should take the hint and bow out now before I get hurt.He left me another msg on Fri like I told u asking when I was free. Called him bk Sat and told him Mon or Tues would be good for me - and its Monday and haven't heard from him. Now I'm upset a little because I was fine w/ us just being friends. Then he opened the door again to 'getting to know me' and all of that. Just words obviously.

I'm recently divorced so I've been out of the dating game for 6 years. This is exhausting and not fun!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So he called me at 7pm. Today, and yesterday, were his days off. So it was too late to get together tonite, not that he even asked. So we kinda said we would try to hookup Wednesday. He is exasperating me! Why would he not call me Saturday or yesterday to make plans for his days off, as opposed to later this week when he works til 9pm? Ugh..really what should I do here? I mean if we are hanging out as friends I would make more sense.

I am thinking about suggesting we wait til next week when we can do something worthwhile during the day. I am getting annoyed though. I feel like he doesnt know what to do w/ me. I am worried that this is a lost cause. Maybe us having sex so soon just ruined everything. This is the first and last time I will ever make such a blunder. Ugh..I need some advice here!

to Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ an Aquarius

Once again dont let him get away with things but also dont hound him on things either..make it clear to him that unless he plans to follow through on his plans then dont to you about thinking of making them either..you have things in your life to do and waiting by the phone wondering when he is going to call just isnt your style. Let him think that he is on the back burner a little and he might spring back quicker.

Your right I think sex too soon is always a bad idea but never the less is nothing you can do about it at this point so now is the time for you to take some control over this. Ask him " Would it just be better for me to call you when there is a good time for ME?" I do things like this all the time with mine but when I say it I kind of use a more demanding tone letting him know that if he doesnt make up his mind quick that I could blow him off and they are such babies or can be that this might not be something he would want to happen ( you leaving him).

Dont blow him off just yet, I think your a bit on the sensitive side but at the same time let him think that you can always be doing something else and who knows how long it is going to be before you have time for HIM..day off or not.

Make it clear to ask does he want to get to know you better as in "we are just friends now but I plan to be more then that again at some point" or " are we very close friends that plan to take it slow and you still see me as an romantic interest".

Tell him that the divorce has mentally taken enough energy out of you, you dont need a roller coaster ride....A lot of ppl love them but at some point you still have to get off...right?

I will give more updates about my relationship when there is more to talk about..hehe.

Keep in touch.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well only you get to see my frustration. LOL..I have been doing a very good job of not hounding him. And youre right I am very sensitive, and think way too much. I have been working very hard to control that.

So I saw him today briefly when I went into his workplace (he works w/ a friend of mine). We chatted for a minute and then he called me this evening; I was surprised.

He told me once that he has wanted to date me for YEARS. I think he finally got his wish and now he doesnt know what to do w/ me. I feel like I make him nervous and he spends so much time trying to act like us going out is not a big deal. So I think I will take some of the pressure off of him and plan something. Have a little light hearted fun, no heavy conversations, so he can relax w/ me. I think that might change the tide and help us get back on track...and so the saga continues..chat w/ ya soon! Thanks for all of your advice..and good luck w/ your Aquarian. Your story is so romantic; I hope it works out :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well only you get to see my frustration. LOL..I have been doing a very good job of not hounding him. And youre right I am very sensitive, and think way too much. I have been working very hard to control that.

So I saw him today briefly when I went into his workplace (he works w/ a friend of mine). We chatted for a minute and then he called me this evening just to chat for a few minutes; I was surprised.

He told me once that he has wanted to date me for YEARS. I think he finally got his wish and now he doesnt know what to do w/ me. I feel like I make him nervous. And we both spend so much time trying to play it cool w/ each other. Its so dumb! lol.. So I think I will take some of the pressure off of him and plan something for our friend date (thats what Im calling it lol). Have a little light hearted fun, no heavy conversations, so he can relax w/ me. I think that might change the tide and help us get back on track...and so the saga continues..chat w/ ya soon! Thanks for all of your advice..and good luck w/ your Aquarian. Your story is so romantic; I hope it works out :-)
To: Virgo with an/Aquarius
by: Inside-out

Hmmmm... Like i said, he's changed. But you might be right. When we're not having any melo-dramas things are sooooo nice! but well, i guess things will soon define themselves. As for you, everything you write about you and this guy is so intriguing. You do seem to have a lot of patience and tolerance. I hope things work out for you both.
To: Dreamer
by: Inside-out

Okay sorry, I was refering to your story being intriguing. Just ignore him. Take him very lightly, tease him, maybe even patronize him... hahaha. Worked for me. Now i can't get this guy off me! LOL.
The secret is to completely block your emotions. As Pisces we tend to let our emotions control us, when it should be the other way around, besides, you CAN feel anyway you want, but he doesn't have to know exactly the way you feel. Play his own game, give him a little of his own medicine.
to Dreamer about what Inside-out said.
by: Virgo with an/Aquarius

I am not so sure that it will work to give him a taste of his own medacine..they are all different and mine isnt the typical Aquarian..he is on the Cusp of Pieces so I see a lot of the both signs in him. I dont close off my emotions one bit and as a Virgo we can be very cold but what other ppl dont see is that we are very very sensative and only those close to us can see this. I think that "each case" might be different as are the ppl in the situation. I still think it is best to make what you feel clear as day so he cant try to turn your words around later on down the road.

Me and my Aqua fight and butt heads often and he is patient and calm when I am in distress and I am the same for him when he needs me to be so we feed off each other very well. One thing that I have read about our 2 signs together that I have found to be true is that when we are good we are great! but...when we have conflicts it is horrible..but he often insists that we talk about it and say our points of view so we can move on with the relationship and not dwell on the problems.

Everyone is different as every situation with couples is different..I dont think the Aquas are near as cold as they want ppl to believe, in fact they are way more caring then they lead on. I have often heard that watch what an Aqua does to get their true intensions not what comes out of their mouths...after all isnt the saying true "actions speak louder then words"?

I do think so!.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I think you are right. I have seen him do some very sweet things, which seem to contradict how he acts. The super in his building died unexpectedly and he was really upset. When we walked into the building he pointed to a bouquet of flowers that he bought and put out in the lobby as a gesture. I was surprised. I thought it was so sweet. And he drives an hour away every Sunday to visit his grandmother, without fail. She was in the hospital and a few months ago and he was so afraid; when I called him he started to cry.

So Ive seen him be very sensitive. The weird thing is he was alot more open to me in the beginning of our relationship when we first went out. He said things like, "being w/ you doesn't feel brand new; it feels like you're already mine." And "you seem almost too good to be true." And he was so talkative. But once we slept together he acted different. I thought maybe he changed his mind about me but I have given him several opportunities to back out, including this last time and he keeps coming back. So maybe its true what they say..that the more an Aqua likes you the more he will pretend not to. ??

But Ive decided to not focus on the relationship so much - which leads me to obsess. I have a busy career and alot of cool stuff going on and I need to put my attention back on myself and just let whatever happens happen. :-)
To: Dreamer
by: Inside-out

Alright Simone ( said with attitude ) haha, jk.
You might be right, people are different. Shouldn't judge anyone solely based on their sun-sign.
..ironically, I'm in the cusp of Aquarius. It's probably why I can get away with it, lol.
Good luck with that.
Inside Out
by: Dreamer

Well I couldn't play his game if I tried! LOL. Maybe for a minute but Im no good at hiding my feelings. I do a pretty good job w/ him. He told me that he wasn't sure if I really liked him - little does he know! lol..but its exhausting.I will let you know how our date on Saturday goes.
To: Virgo w/ An Aquarius & Inside Out
by: Dreamer

So we went out tonite - and had a nice time! It was tense at first because we talked @ the fight we had. I reiterated my position and explained to him that when we are not together I don't expect to hear from him daily, but that he rarely calls me in between dates, to say hi or to let me know he's thinking of me. You know what he says? "I don't do that". LOL. Very matter of fact.He said something about not being comfortable expressing his feelings in the beginning of a relationship. That even discussing what we were discussing was not something he liked to do. I said "well how are we supposed to get to know each other if we don't talk?" He says by just spending time together and it will all fall into place.
So he doesn't like conversations about the relationship and he doesn't like calling me. This guy is THE strangest man I have ever met. He seems full of sh*t on the surface, but he really just has his own way of doing things. I don't like it, but at the same time I feel like if I give it a try it might be worth it. I'm just so afraid of getting my feelings hurt!

He said that we should backtrack and just hang out and get to know each other, without the sex. I was impressed by that. We went on to have a nice dinner and some lighthearted conversation w/ a few laughs. Now I just need to see if my Piscean sensitivity can handle all of this. I hope he's worth it.

Interested in u ladies' opinion. :-)
How can i get him back
by: Anonymous

Hi there,

I am a cancer/leo cusp and I love(d) my aqua, but we just broke up unfortunately. It was mainly my fault because I wasn't emotionally ready for a relationship. Anyway, we have know one another for about five years as college buddies. I was so busy with my life that I had not paid much attention to him except time to time. Anyway, I went away for a while and we lost contact. Then he found my contact in his e-mail. Long story short, we met up and started a relationship. Well everything was going well but since I really had not gotten over the issues of my previous relationship I brought the issues to this new one. So we began to argue a lot and I was very aggressive with him. I am not naturally like that I am really sweet and non-confrontational but as I said I didn't work through those issues so when I felt like those issues were coming up, I would be very aggressive. So he finally couldn't deal with that and I didn't realize this until now. I love him with all my heart. I have never stooped so low before but I begged him back and he of course retreated and now he does not want to talk to me ever. I think he hates me. I just wish that I could convince him that I am genuine and I understand the issue and I am working on it. I realize I was caught up into BS that didn't matter. I just want that simple love we had again. I would take it as slow as he wanted I just want him back.
Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ an Aquarius

Ok sounds like the date didnt go too too bad. None of what you wrote suprised me at all..kind of been there, done that in a way. I Think I have some insight since been there myself. First off..a lot of what he said, I take as control on his part..and they can be known to be this way btw.They like to feel that they come up with the ideas themselves.instead of you asking for a phone call in their mind they are thinking how nice it would be to suprise you from time to time with one..mine did it all the time. I went thru a year and a half of BS and stuck it out and for me very happy that I did.
You told him that you would like to hear from him more to say hi or that he was thinking of you..I bet you 100% that he seen that as pressure to tell you he is thinking of you since as he said,he bullshitted his way thru that answer by telling you that he doesnt do that. Mine use to tell me the same thing all the time when he lived in his home country...I would pretty much beg for a short phone call of even 10 mins and the funny thing was that he didnt have to pay for a damn thing but he still fought me about it becasue I assume that it wasnt HIS idea...LOL btw, he is on my phone as we speak trying to call me..I wont pick up because I am busy writing this..I am sure he's gonna try 5 or 6 times before he gives up and sends me a text..see how I can be? LOL But now that he is here in the same country as me he calls all the time so go figure.

I remember the one time I was so fed up with having to deal with his stubbornness that I told him that here in USA we have a saying that says " there are always more fish in the sea" I had told him that what that meant was that there are always other ppl out there that could snag me up at any given time and was he going to be the Shark and go after me or was he going to be the Bait to just sit there and wait around? Now that he is in same country he is much more open and it has taken a lot of time which I will glady give him as long as we are moving forward even if it is inch by inch at times...hang in there but dont rush him because your little ol feelings get hurt so fast...maybe he is teaching you a good lesson in life on how to become stronger and for you that might be the best that you get out of this whole relationship with him.

Time will tell...keep me posted.

by: Anonymous

Thank you for your insight! I can tell he loves being in control. Should I be worried?? I think he makes me nervous because I'm used to having the upper hand in relationships and I never have to wonder how a man feels about me. So this is quite unusual.

But like you said, I do see this as a learning experience for myself. I admire how he is so steady. Maybe some of that will rub off on me. Later on he slyly said 'well now if I wanna call you to say hi you're going to think its because you told you me to'. LOL. Control freak.

Oh and you know how I thought the relationship was all about sex? Well he said "well I asked you to come over and you came. If you didn't want to all you had to do was say that and we could have done something else". Go figure. So he wants me to be frank w/ him yet not emotional? What a rollercoaster! Sounds like you know your man pretty well. Mine would NEVER call me 5 or 6 times in a row!
Think this is for Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ an Aquarius

Yeah I know him pretty well but now remember that it was months of research and hours and hours of getting pissed off and learning. I could send so many links that it is crazy so instead just try to give advice that is shorter then a story LOL. Never say never either on him calling you..remember that for me in less then 5 months we will have been together/in touch for 2 years so I had a lot of time invested in this relationship/man. If you would have asked me a year ago if I thought that he would be calling me all the time I would have told you " OH HELL NO...NEVERRRRR"..so never say never..lol.

Another tip..yes be BLUNT..they are shit with hits for some reason and when someone is blunt there is no question what the meaning might be so dont second guess and be straight forward and the communicaiton might get better..give it time.

I have read that these men like strong independant woman and also ones with mystery and not open books..( open books bore them and they soon move onto someone else)..sure they make no sense..They want complicated woman but not emotional ones..are they sure that Geminis are the only ones with twins? LOL.

Anyway I finally called mine back and when he asked me why I didnt pick up..I laughed at him and said " I am not at your beck and call, but I am here now so take advantage of my time while you can" he lauhged but it was my way to put him in his place..oh btw..be strong enough to do that as well...I think for them it is mental foreplay.

Good luck!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

" I am not at your beck and call, but I am here now so take advantage of my time while you can" . I gotta remember that one! What a gem! LOL

I notice there is a double standard w/ him. When he went a week w/o calling and I said something, he seemed annoyed that *I* was annoyed. But when I didnt return HIS call for two days he left a msg sounding upset and saying he hoped nothing happened to me over the weekend. LOL. I was like WTH! Okay so..as usual, keep ya posted. Appreciate your insight; it definitely helps.

advice
by: Anonymous

hi im an aries woman dating an aquaries man, both been hurt my ex cheated, one off his did too, dating now nearly 11 months wont make the next move to meet my kids, sometimes dont think we are both ready, we spend everyweeken together and one night thru the week 2. met thru online dating. im very insecure dont truest easily, very strong in alot of ways but in a relationship i doubt things if he doest tex or phone me, also both on facebook he has alot of women friends i find this very hard to get my head around never been in a relationship when a man has women friends.

i can feel myself getting needy wanting reassurance all the time, constant texin an phoning i dont want to drive him away.. can you offer any help here..
for: advice
by: Virgo w/ an Aquarius

It sounds like you might to need to work on yourself a little more before you are able to contribute to a healthy relationship.

Not sure how your Aqua is, you didnt really give much imput and what you did write for me anyway was a little confusing but I tried to piece it together the best that I could.

I think for the most part that it would be best to take it slow and also needing constant reassurance of texting and phone could very well drive him away since he might feel the pressure of you leaning on him too much because you dont trust him or maybe anyone else in a romantic relationship for that matter. Try to back off a bit with the neediness..I think it could only make matters worse if you don't.

They like strong, independant woman and I do strongly believe that so try to show that side a bit more maybe...also I dont think that it is uncommon for them to have friends of all sexes..to them a friend is a friend...but also, if you seen red flags over this issue in thinking that his female friends are more then just friends and it's not just your untrusting ways making you feel this way then you need to confront and dont accept answers that sound like BS...because if they sound that way, they probably are BS.

Communication is the key to any relationship as we all know..with these guys be straight forward and blunt and good luck to you!
Update
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

First of all....thanks so much for the advice! All I need to do now is actually get up the courage to tell him my feelings. Easier said than done!! lol I think I'm getting closer though especially after this past weekend with him.

I got him a little Halloween gift just to show him I care. I can't get over how much he loved it and kept going on and on about it. He could not believe I remembered what he liked. I can't believe how easy it is to please him. Just little things like that is enough for him.

Anyway, this past weekend was great! I can't believe how romantic he was. He has NEVER been this way before. He even had candles lit!! I was sitting there thinking what in the world has gotten into him? But whatever it is....I love it!! We just snuggled up and watched movies together. He was so sweet and very affectionate. He's never been so affectionate before. The best part about it was we did NOT even have sex!! This is the first time in almost two years since I've been seeing him that we hadn't had sex and it did not even seem to bother him. This right here shows me he isn't just about that which is a huge relief to me! I enjoy just being in his arms and spending time with him. I'm falling so in love with him. I can't seem to stop thinking about him either! It's weird that it's taken almost two years to get to this point....but it is so worth it!

He still goes distant after we spend time together and get close. I'll usually go a few days to a week without hearing a word from him then out of the blue he'll pop up again. I wish he wouldn't do this, but I understand why and I can live with it. I hope things continue to go well and that we keep getting closer. I know I would be just heartbroken if he finally decided he just had enough of me. I worry a lot and can be very paranoid, but that is just my Scorpio nature I suppose. I hope he knows just how much I care about him. All this time and I still get butterflies when I'm around him.

Just wish I could stop all this worry that goes on inside my head. I wonder sometimes if he'll ever just come out and tell me how he feels? In a way I kind of would like to know where we stand? As in are we in a relationship or not? Does he want to be exclusive or see other people? He never talks about these things to me and I never really bring them up because I fear it will just sound like I'm nagging and drive him away. :( Another reason I worry is because I still log on to the dating site we met on....just to see if he has logged on. He still logs on daily or every other day. I don't know if he does it to see if I'm on, just to take the little quizzes etc., or if he is talking/getting to know/meeting other women? I'm afraid to even know the answer.
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Dream

Wow, it sounds like things are going well. My Aqua lit candles a few weeks ago and I almost died. But he is nowhere near where yours seems to be. Im jealous! You seem to be headed in the right direction. I am no expert w/ these men by any stretch of the imagination, but I would say that finding out whether he is still dating/meeting other women is important. I mean you two havent said you are exclusive so that would be his right. But knowing how you feel about him I think its important for YOU to know where YOU stand w/ him. The trick is finding out w/o scaring him away or making him feel threatened. While its important to be careful w/ these men, I think its also important not to lose yourself in the process. Its not ALL about them. So I think you should just come out and ask him, in a non accusatory manner, if he is still dating other women.

I think you may be really close to getting what you want so it might not yet be the time to pour out your total heart - just yet. Ask him about the dating thing and see what he says and based on that decide how to proceed. If he asks why you want to know, maybe just let him know that you care about him alot and that YOU have not been seeing other people and would like to see him exclusively IF that is something that he wants as well, and if not you would like to know so you know how to proceed. This should get him thinking. Because you are a single woman who may have other options (even if you dont he doesnt know that) and it should get him to thinking.

But again, Im not Aqua expert. I was married to one but he was an anomaly with some SERIOUS communication/intimacy problems that went way beyond the typical Aquarius. And now my new guy seems to be textbook. I told him the last time we saw each other that it would be nice if he called me from time to time and he didnt seem enthused by my suggestion - but then he called me yesterday just for the hell of it. Haha! So you can get what you want with them. But unlike you, I dont know if I can wait so long to get close to him. It drives me crazy! Good luck. Keep us updated. :-)
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Dreamer

Wow, it sounds like things are going well. My Aqua lit candles a few weeks ago and I almost died. But he is nowhere near where yours seems to be. Im jealous!

You seem to be headed in the right direction. I am no expert w/ these men, but I would say that finding out whether he is still dating/meeting other women is important for you at this point. I mean you two havent said you are exclusive so that would be his right. But knowing how you feel about him I think its important for YOU to know where YOU stand w/ him. The trick is finding out w/o scaring him away or making him feel threatened.

While its important to be careful w/ these men, I think its also important not to lose yourself in the process. Its not ALL about them. And they like strong women. So I think you should just come out and ask him, in a non accusatory manner, if he is still dating other women.

I think you may be really close to getting what you want so it might not yet be the time to pour out your total heart - just yet. Ask him about the dating thing and see what he says and based on that decide how to proceed. If he asks why you want to know, maybe just let him know that you care about him alot and that YOU have not been seeing other people and would like to see him exclusively IF that is something that he wants as well - and if not you would like to know so you know how to proceed. This should get him thinking. Because you are a single woman who may have other options (even if you dont he doesnt know that) and it should get him to thinking about that.

But again, Im not Aqua expert. I was married to one but he was an anomaly with some SERIOUS communication/intimacy problems that went way beyond the typical Aquarius. And now my new guy seems to be textbook. I told him the last time we saw each other that it would be nice if he called me from time to time and he didnt seem enthused by my suggestion - but then he called me yesterday just for the hell of it. Haha! So you can get what you want with them. But unlike you, I dont know if I can wait so long to get close to him. It drives me crazy! Good luck. Keep us updated. :-)
Give it time with these guys
by: Virgo w/ an Aquarius

I think this sign is one of the most challenging to put up with and deal with.. it seems that their thing is to test and test and test you some more to see if you are worthy of their time and in the meantime they try to act as if they could care less if your around but if they dont hear from you when they want to it can become a double standard on what you were doing and where and with who.....let it slide and dont give much details but also dont try to make them jealous either..all this can become a real headache for ppl of little patience such as myself. I cant count how many times I was about to call it quits with mine in the last almost 20 months but as I proved myself over and over again, it finally gave him enough time and trust in me to be way more open with me then he is with anyone else, sharing things with me that his friends dont even know so I have become BEST FRIEND #1 and that is the most important thing to Aquas.

We went from months and months online to now not living far from each other in RL and it is a slow process of true deep committed friendship with believe it or not...no sexual intercourse..yup it is possible lol. I am sure that one day it will happen and of course I think about it all the time as I am sure he does as well, just doesnt come right out and tell me this. Some ppl believe in SoulMates and I do believe that I have found mine...I guess as with anything else..time will tell.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I realized that part of the reason that I get impatient with mine is that I was in a lonely marriage for the last two years and I am kind of starved for attention/affection/communication. So I try to bear that in mind when I get impatient w/ him.

He called me randomly the other day, after he said I DONT DO THAT when I asked him to call me sometimes. And he left today for a trip out of state and he called me last nite to tell me. So, thats progress! LOL. Im really busy now w/ my career so I find that I think about him less often which helps. I look forward to the day that he really opens up to me. Hope youre having a nice weekend. :-)
He's gone quiet again
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

I really hate this part. We had such an amazing time last weekend and made so much progress...or so I thought. It is now a week later and haven't heard a word from him since. It's as if last weekend never even happened and as if he doesn't care at all. I can't tell you how many times I've thought about him and I wonder if I even crossed his mind once?

This part really hurts because I miss him. Whenever we have a great time he goes distant for awhile. I get he needs his space, but not even a text to say hello or how are you? Just nothing. I'd contact him, but 9 times out of 10 he probably wouldn't respond. I mean he's gotten better at it, but I'd rather not feel even more shitty by texting him only to not get a response. I do have to give it to him...whenever I test him a question he usually tries to answer, but when I text something like....thinking about you or miss you I get nothing. Which makes me feel like crap because I think he doesn't feel the same about me and I beat myself up for even texting him in the first place. But if I don't text or contact him for awhile he starts questioning me if I'm mad at him or something.

Why is it that when we see each other in person and spend time together he makes me feel so loved and special, but afterwards I hear nothing from him and it's like I don't even matter to him?
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Dreamer

Wow, thats horrible. And I have to say I know the feeling. You keep trying to remind yourself that its just an Aquarius thing, but theres that part of you that wonders if hes just not into you. I totally get it. I know how you feel.

No real advice. I had dinner w/ my Aqua last weekend where we hashed out a few issues (see above). I told him point blank "how about I tell you what I want and what I would like and if you think its something you cant do then we can decide if we want to continue to see each other". I told him that i get that he needs space but it would be nice if he called or texted me to see how I am doing from time to time. And he basically shot me down as if I was asking him to shift heaven and earth. But then he says "well now if I do it youre going to think its because you TOLD me to". So you see, its all about control.

The funny thing is, he probably doesnt realize it, but he USED TO text me randomly asking me how my day was going and stuff, and he was alot more open about his feelings. But the moment we started sleeping together he stopped. I think he really started to like me after that and tried to act like he didnt. One time he told me "I hope you believe this; I am really not a phone person and I dont want you to think that just because I am not calling you everyday that I am not thinking about you". Again, all of this was in the beginning. Now hes Mr. Cool. Its so convoluted it makes me want to throw up my hands sometimes.

But we are still in the beginning stages so I am certainly not in love. But I am fiercely guarding my heart w/ at this point.

I dont see any problem telling him earnestly that you dont feel like you are special to him when he goes MIA. I told my guy, "so basically its your way or the highway" and he said no. And then a few days later he called me mid week which he never does. So my point is you should just tell him how you feel. It could help. I think they can be amenable if they really care. And from what you said, your Aqua man seems to. Hang in there :-)
to Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Deal with him this way when he goes MIA..send a text that just says " Havent heard from you in a while and worried about you..just texting to see if your alright, have a great day"...leave it at that. Doesnt put any feelings into it so it cant make him feel akward in anyway and it shows you care. Less drama and you will get more out of him. When he does finally get in touch with you either in person or by phone..say something like " I have no problem giving space at all but I notice that when we are together that afterwards I wont hear from you for a while and it kind of worries me in wondering if I did something wrong or you just need space. If you were to get in touch with me somehow a few days later I would worry less and make me feel better"
Try it and see if it works...your not giving him drama and it is blunt and straight forward so how could he have a problem with that?!

Anyway I hope this is of some help to you as far as advice.
Why would Aqua man do this?
by: Anonymous

Please can anyone give me an insight as to why my Aqua ex would do this to me.
Brief history, I am a Taurus woman, we were together just under a year. Both very strong willed and stubborn, would argue like crazy split up several times. But there was a connection and we enjoyed each others company. Towards the end he started opening up more to me would tell me he missed me, cared for me and thought a lot of me. However he had big issues with committment although he knew I didn't want to marry him or live together. But I wanted to be more involved in his life, meet his family, etc. This coupled with some issues I had over whether he was faithful to me led me to end it a month ago.
I had already explained to him that when I end relationships I cut off totally, that is just the way I deal with things and that it takes a long time before I feel ready to be friends with an ex.
So it ended and I didn't contact him. Four weeks later, he rang and texted me, both of which I ignored, because I wasn't ready to speak. In his text he said that he didn't realise I hated him and that he just wanted to say hello.
I eventually texted back a couple of days later asking why he wanted to be friends. I then got two texts back, the second really shocked and upset me. I was a picture of a woman performing a sex act on a man. You couldn't see who the man was, he had added the words "Bet you miss this, it is yours when ever you want it" I was so angry I rang him and told him exactly what I thought of him and asked whether the woman knew he was doing this with her picture. I ended by saying that I never wanted to hear from him again. All he kept saying was that it was a joke, but tho he apologized he didn't sound that sorry.
Having looked at the picture again it is obvious he downloaded it frm the internet, but he obviously wanted me to to think it was him in the picture and that he had taken it. I am still angry, hurt and upset. He could be immature sometimes and would do and say things obviously designed to make me jealous, but I never dreamed he had this nasty streak in him. He is 34 so it is not as if he is a teenager.
Why would he do this?
Why would Aqua man do this?
by: Anonymous

Please can anyone give me an insight as to why my Aqua ex would do this to me.
Brief history, I am a Taurus woman, we were together just under a year. Both very strong willed and stubborn, would argue like crazy split up several times. But there was a connection and we enjoyed each others company. Towards the end he started opening up more to me would tell me he missed me, cared for me and thought a lot of me. However he had big issues with committment although he knew I didn't want to marry him or live together. But I wanted to be more involved in his life, meet his family, etc. This coupled with some issues I had over whether he was faithful to me led me to end it a month ago.
I had already explained to him that when I end relationships I cut off totally, that is just the way I deal with things and that it takes a long time before I feel ready to be friends with an ex.
So it ended and I didn't contact him. Four weeks later, he rang and texted me, both of which I ignored, because I wasn't ready to speak. In his text he said that he didn't realise I hated him and that he just wanted to say hello.
I eventually texted back a couple of days later asking why he wanted to be friends. I then got two texts back, the second really shocked and upset me. I was a picture of a woman performing a sex act on a man. You couldn't see who the man was, he had added the words "Bet you miss this, it is yours when ever you want it" I was so angry I rang him and told him exactly what I thought of him and asked whether the woman knew he was doing this with her picture. I ended by saying that I never wanted to hear from him again. All he kept saying was that it was a joke, but tho he apologized he didn't sound that sorry.
Having looked at the picture again it is obvious he downloaded it frm the internet, but he obviously wanted me to to think it was him in the picture and that he had taken it. I am still angry, hurt and upset. He could be immature sometimes and would do and say things obviously designed to make me jealous, but I never dreamed he had this nasty streak in him. He is 34 so it is not as if he is a teenager.
Why would he do this?
Anonymous
by: Dreamer

Sounds like he was just trying to get a rise out of you, a reaction, since you werent responded to him. Seems like he acted out of anger. And clearly it backfired.
aries woman
by: Anonymous

i am an aries woman dating an aquaries man, been dating now nearly 11 months, get on great in alot of ways, im a little insecure though and doubt alot of things, i check up on his facebook and msn to see if added things etc. i was cheatd on by my exhusband and also past 2 relationships too, so a little insecure.

i feel as if i have to make most of the moves as in texing phoning kinda thing, he can be very caring know he can do all the texing and phoning dont know if its a part if him that says i dont need to because she does it for me.

has a coldness and aloofness about him where i am so loving im very mills n boons.

he has also of women friends and aquantances which i have found quite difficult getting there a little each week.. people have told me if you date an aquaries man he will be faithfull its not in his makeup to cheat. do you think is the case and if i keep up with the negatives and always questioning things will this eventaully put him off
Aries woman
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

As far as Aqua men beign faithful, I have heard the same thing but of course there are always going to be cheaters in any sign. My advice is that I do think that "yes" sooner or later if you continue to be negative and especially if you are always questioning him (they HATE to be not trusted) that there is a good chance that he will give up. On the other hand these men seem to have a lot of patience and if there is a very good reason that your acting the way they are, they might be more patient but everyone is different so try to walk on thin ice knowning this.

Best of luck to you.
Why would Aqua male do this.
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

He wanted to get an reaction out of you and clearly he did. He wants you to act all dramatic. Best thing to do is ignore it. You said you broke up right? Ok then, best thing to do is move on with your life and dont have contact with him...put him on your "mental block"..if you respond to ANYTHING he does, he gets what he wants. Dont wonder why he did what he did..sounded like an asshole move so be happy to be rid of him.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

My guy went out of state last Saturday. I didn't expect to speak to him while he was gone, but he made a point of saying, ''I will stay in contact with you while Im gone''. I was surprised he said that but I thought to myself, 'we're making progress'. Well, he left Saturday and he didn't call or text all week. Hes probably flying home today or tomorrow.

I was hoping that he wouldn't wait and call me right before he flew home. Like yea I promised her I would call so Id better put a call in before I leave. And thats just what he did. He called me last nite but didn't leave a message. I called him back a few hours later and left him one. But of course, he didn't call back. And he hasn't called today. WTH is up w/ this guy?

Im not angry or upset. Just bored w/ the whole thing. I cant stand when people dont do what they say they are going to do. Why should I want to be w/ him when he cant even be counted on to return a call. Yea he called me last nite; the day before he flies home and doesnt leave a msg or call back. So to me it doesnt even count. YAWN. Am I overreacting?
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

My guy went out of state last Saturday. I didn't expect to speak to him while he was gone, but he made a point of saying, ''I will stay in contact with you while Im gone''. I was surprised he said that but I thought to myself, 'we're making progress'. Well, he left Saturday and he didn't call or text all week. Hes probably flying home today or tomorrow.

I was hoping that he wouldn't wait and call me right before he flew home. Like yea I promised her I would call so Id better put a call in before I leave. And thats just what he did. He called me last nite but didn't leave a message. I called him back a few hours later and left him one. But of course, he didn't call back. And he hasn't called today. WTH is up w/ this guy?

Im not angry or upset. Just bored w/ the whole thing. I cant stand when people dont do what they say they are going to do. Why should I want to be w/ him when he cant even be counted on to return a call. Yea he called me last nite; the day before he flies home and doesnt leave a msg or call back. So to me it doesnt even count. YAWN. Am I overreacting?
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

expect to speak to him while he was gone, but he made a point of saying, ''I will stay in contact with you while Im gone''. I was surprised he said that but I thought to myself, 'we're making progress'. Well, he left Saturday and he didn't call or text all week. Hes probably flying home today or tomorrow.

I was hoping that he wouldn't wait and call me right before he flew home. Like yea I promised her I would call so Id better put a call in before I leave. And thats just what he did. He called me last nite but didn't leave a message. I called him back a few hours later and left him one. But of course, he didn't call back. And he hasn't called today. WTH is up w/ this guy?

Im not angry or upset. Just bored w/ the whole thing. I cant stand when people dont do what they say they are going to do. Why should I want to be w/ him when he cant even be counted on to return a call. Yea he called me last nite; the day before he flies home and doesnt leave a msg or call back. So to me it doesnt even count. YAWN. Am I overreacting?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

This is a tough call (no pun intended) isnt it?
Believe it or not, I am somewhat in the same situation but not about calling. I will give a little insight...he and I have been together (if we make it) in 4 more months will be 2 years. It has been a LOT of work which I feel has been way more on my part then his..he has come around a lot on a lot of things but in reality it was ME that kept us together because lets face it, if it wasnt ME giving us all the chances in the world..anyone else would have given up by now. During the whole relationship but not in the beginning at first...oh no because in the beginning they are just perfect arn't they? Anyway, yeah it is me blowing off a lot of steam which noone has seen in here up untill now. The other day we had our conversation which has taken place more times then I can count on how he has become so lazy on the romance tip. Now mind you we have been online for months but he was so much more romantic and also we would sent each other e-cards just out of the blue to say "thinking of you" or "get well soon" when one was sick and what not. We had this conversation on how he never does this anymore..just this week mind you and just happened that on Friday I was sick..I mean head in the toilet for an hour kind of sick...do you think he took my advice and sent me an e-card? Oh F*@k no! There is no way in hell I could be more straight forward and blunt then I am! He went out for a while so I left him a message on messenger giving him my thoughts telling him that if it were the other way around I would have bent over backwards to do what he asked and that I was pissed off and feel that he is just content to be lazy and that I feel that if we were RL that I didnt see how it would be any better because if he wont listen to me online, I dont see how he is going to listen to me RL either and that if it were me that I would do something before that other person were to give up on me. We will see what happens after he reads my message..lets see if he does anything else but just sit there and feel sorry for himself.

to: Dreamer
by: Virgo with an Aqua

Continued...........


You see GF we are in the same boat this week...we both have told our guys how we feel and have been blunt about it and we both have lazyasses that tell us that they are going to do this or that and all I can say at this point is that "actions speak louder then words"

I will see if mine can finally get the hint..I cant possibly make myself more clear then I already have. For once I am not sure what to tell you but to maybe tell him that you felt like the only reason he called you last minute was out of obligation but if he wanted to try a little hard he could have made a point to call sooner instead of making you feel like "an obligation" and that if he really didnt want to or feel that you were a little more important that he doesnt have to worry about it at all when your no longer around.

After all, is he going to be the shark that goes after what he wants or is he the bait..lazy and just sits around and waits for something to happen. I told mine " Your gonna miss me when I am gone".

Lets cross our fingers and toes and hope their sensitivity kicks in before it is too late.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Aw, so you feel my pain! And I feel yours! If you listen to any relationship coach or any other smart women they would certainly tell us that we are doing too much work. I know I have been making many concessions that I normally wouldnt. But those relationships didnt work either so I figured okay, try something different. But frankly its not working out. And it sucks because I really like him. I have been trying to figure out exactly WHY I like him because he hasnt done anything extraordinary really. So am I just lonely?

I like that hes strong and silent. I like that he has very firm opinions about things; its very masculine and its a confidence that I love and didnt see in my ex. I also see a sweetness there and something that could be wonderful if he would trust me and allow me to see all of him. But hes not letting me do that. Not even a hint of it! So maybe I see something in him thats not really there, or that he is not ready to give.

He told me when we first started dating that he always wanted to date me. So I started out as this sort of fantasy for him. Its one of two things: a fantasy that is not living up to reality for him, or he really doesnt know what to do w/ me. Sometimes I think its the latter. Im pretty AND smart, I have a career, and I dont bug him. LIke he once told me, ''whats not to like?'' I'm 7 years older than he is, divorced (or soon to be), and I have 2 children. Even with what others would perceive as 'baggage', Im still a helluva catch. So, while Im wondering what he is thinking he should be chasing ME. Im divorcing a man who couldnt share his feelings, had no romance in my life for the last two years. Really, Im fed up w/ men who cant be MEN.

Remember, we agreed to backtrack, no sex, just friends spending time w/ each other and taking it from there. But hes putting in zero effort, even as a friend. But heres the confusing part. If we are supposed to be just friends now, taking our time, then should I not be annoyed when he doesnt call - because technically he is not my boyfriend? See? Its so confusing!

Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Cont..

And he had a week off from work and he goes to LA to hang w/ friends. How about saving a day to just spend time with me? For all I know, he is dating someone over there! So, he gets no more effort from me. Im a little bummed about it because I feel rejected but it really is his loss. Im a big girl; I'll get over it. If he calls, and I know he will, like nothing happened - do I hang out w/ him? Or do I tell him Im done? He will only say that he doesnt understand why Im upset since we are supposed to taking it slow. So I feel like if I voice my frustration, Im a nag. If I say nothing, I allow him to keep doing this. When I think about it, I just keep coming back to the fact that he just must not really care about me. Or I wouldnt have to wonder. Right?

As for your guy, I hope that after all of your time and effort he proves to be worth it. Have you spent any time together since the last time you posted here? My soon to be ex is an Aquarian and we would never have gotten together if it werent for me. I had to club him over the head like a cavewoman and drag him away. LOL..but he was always very sweet and I never went thru this crap we are going thru. So SIGH...I dont know what to say..

Keep me posted. I will do the same. Thanks for listening to my vent too. Hang in there! :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well yesterday (Sunday when I left the messgae)..I logged out of messenger to surf the web and get some chores done and what not..I get a text on my phone saying that he was home and he seen my message and that was all it said. I ignored it and sent nothing back. 5 mins later he sends me a text asking me if I want to come online and if I dont, he would accept it. I ignore for some more time and tell him I am in the middle of chores I will be on when I get on..he tells me to take my time pls.

I could sense that he was uneasy and didnt know what to say..we started to talk about the things that have been eating at me that we have talked about what feels like a million times before. He tells me that if he does what I ask then I will just find something else that is wrong. I told him " yeah ok that is just your way to try to justify your lazziness...but I am no longer accepting this!" I tell him " How many more chances do you expect me to give you?" he said " I dont know" I told him "Well I have the answer and here it is, I am giving you ONE more chance and if we cant make this work and your not going to pull your weight a little more then it will be time to go our seperate ways" He didnt like it at all but said that he accepted it and today (Monday) I got a quick phone call of 30 mins and he seemed a little different in his texts toady but for the better. He knows I am not f-ing around this time.

I reminded him that I thought that he was a wonderful, sweet man...which he is and that I loved him but felt that if I wasnt worth a little more effort in a couple stupid things that were important to me that we were not meant to be and we would have to accept this. He said that I am worth it so time will tell.

He is sweet 99% of the time and so far he seems to be trying little more the question is on how long it will last and if he starts to slip past a point that I find unacceptable then he better stock up on the tissues!

My advice to you Dreamer is to maybe try the same thing..you both agreed to take it slow but did that mean just no on the sex and just friends or were you still romantic on a different level meaning that you are still dating? If you dont know the answer to this question either then you need to get this cleared with him and make clear that even as friends if he had some feeling and cared even a little that he could have showed this a little more by attempting to spend time with you on his time off.

Maybe part of what your attracted to with him is the fact that he is a bit un touchable to you..ever think of it that way? Also it has been said a lot of times with Aquas that if you give too much right away that they are often off to the next one. Would be interesting to see what his reaction might be if you brought that up to his face.

Keep in touch and keep me posted.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, youre right, we should clarify if we are dating. We simply said we would hang out as friends w/ no sex and get to know each and see what blossoms from there. Thing is, he acts all put out when its time to have serious conversations. He ENGAGES in the conversations, but he is someone who really hates going w/ the grain. In his mind, things should just develop naturally, and talking about them makes it feel forced. So I now feel like Im this big heavy every time I bring something up.

Remember, I cut him off when he had that fight a few weeks ago at his apartment. He was the one who called ME and left what felt like a very sincere message apologizing and saying he wanted to prove himself to me. Im starting to notice a pattern. His actions dont match his words. I dont know if he is just a bullsh*tter or if he is just immature. And would you believe, he STILL hasn't called? So the last time I actually spoke to him was 10/29. Not even a text! He probably felt like he looked weak or whipped by calling me on his vacation. Who knows..hes so guarded.

I realized yesterday that when he called me I was on the phone (talking to my mother), so he probably heard that tone that you get when someone is on the other line. Knowing him, his little ego was probably bruised that I didnt pick up so thats probably why he didn't leave a message. Because he ALWAYS does. Then I call him back and he probably had an attitude by then and refused to call ME back. Just a theory. All very silly though. I feel like he thinks that anytime he gives me what I want he loses something. He really is stuck on doing things his way.

I have been very blunt. I told him that all I want is honesty and consistency. Im not calling him again. And when he calls I will decide what to say or do, if anything. I just dont want to invest anymore emotion in him. If I do give him a chance, like you, it will be the very LAST chance.

Your guy has a lot more maturity than mine it seems. Does he live nearby? You all should go out! After so much time via the internet, I dont know how you stand not spending more time with him in RL. Youre strong! :-)
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

What you said about giving too much away in the beginning..that could be something too. I thought that but he was the one who kept pursuing me even when I said I didnt want to continue so..its way too complicated now. It should not be this much work.
:-(
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok to answer you last few questions..yes we are not far at all..less then an hour and a half(one way) away. And he is pretty mature for almost 28 (there is a big age difference, I am 40). There is a big complication on why we are not able to spend more time together RL..I am still married unable atm to afford divorce (been slowly saving but not going fast enough) and yes he knows all about what is going on and I told husband long time ago that it was over and I was saving for a divorce, in which I told him btw LONG before I met German. So that answers your question on why we dont spend more time together RL..we met once and plan to meet again soon. Husband isnt in the dark either, he has suspected for a long time that I had another interest. I made it clear to him a few years ago that we were nothing more then roommates and have kept it that way..a sad marriage I know but after 6 years of mental and verbal abuse due to his drinking and gambling addiction and begging and begging for him to get help...I felt that I had to move on with my life wether I still lived in the same house or not.

This is the second day now since I told him that he was only getting once change and once again today while he was at work I got another 30 min phone call. This is all good but as I said, most the time they are terrific at first untill they think they have swoon you over and then start to go back to them old lazy selves. Mine is a great guy but as I said, I had learned in the last almost 2 years how to deal with him and understand him. Mine was very guarded as well btw..always seemed like it was on his terms and I let it slide for a long time but also told him that at any moment I could get tired of the shit and move on..it scared him enough to give me what I want.
I think if I were you I would be a real smart ass and play this game right now..if it were me, I would send a text saying something like " It's ok if you dont call me back, I wasnt missing you either..LOL, but if I dont hear back from you, dont expect me to be at your beck and call either when you do finally come around to talk to me, it goes both ways pal" Make it clear that the more time he waits, the bigger his chances of missing out on the possibility of having anything special with you will be.
Good luck!
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Wow, you and I are in a very similar situation - in many ways! I am still living w/ my husband, for the same reason. Cant afford the divorce right now. Actually, the divorce is not so expensive as much as being able to pay for everything on my own (and him affording life on his own). We were married for 6 years as well before I told him that I couldnt do it anymore. He is an AMAZING person but he is emotionally stunted and I didnt realize just how much when I married him. The man REFUSES to have a conversation. So we are separated, but living together. Glorified roommates. And parents.

Im 38, my Aquarian is 31. But for a man, 31 is like 25 as far as Im concerned. Even though he does seem to be more mature than your average 31 year old. Im really trying to learn from my mistakes and not pick another guy who has a problem expressing romantic feelings. In the beginning, rambled on and on about how much he liked me and how he generally doesnt like to even kiss that much but how he felt so comfortable with me..blah blah..I was surprised. But then he just clammed up after that. So I am inclined to believe what they say about the more an Aquarian likes you the more aloof they act. But this is just too much. Stop and start, stop and start. We have been dating since June and I feel like I dont know him at all. Maybe its a sign that he is not the one for me.

I am kinda hoping he doesn't call. He works in the salon where I get my hair done so I will see him eventually. Of course I will go in looking really hot and give him the biggest smile like its all good. Then he will probably say ''so Ill call you''. And thats when Im going to say, ''nah, dont worry about it, you dont have to''. And strut right out. LOL

But your text is a good idea. Im going to keep that one in my back pocket if I decide I want to talk to him again. LOL
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Guess who called just now?? LOL. I didnt answer! Because I just didnt know what to say! Im in a great mood and dont wanna go to bed thinking about him and his BS. Not even going to listen to the message tonite...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

mine called tonite too...3 days in a row, he must be feeling like he is walking on egg shells..sounds like yours is too..omg I want to hear that message ROFL. Well we knew he would call at some point..but here is the kicker, wether to call back right away or wait because either way you look at it, it is a "damned if you do, damned if you dont" situation.

Keep me posted on what he said. I am now trying to see when mine wants to meet again..I ache to see him again, had such a good time but was nervous a good bit of the time so now want a second chance since I am much more calm about it..hope it is soon..what I wouldnt give for at least just one good hug and maybe a kiss if I can trick him LOL...oh back on the ground again.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL..its so hard to get anything out of these guys. I cant remember the last time I kissed mine either! Jeez!

Well, just listened to his message. He said that he just got back yesterday and to please call him. That he would like to get together and ''hang out''. Then he says, ''and I miss you, I have to say that, I do miss you - so give me a call''. All sweet and syrupy. ''Call me back tonite and if you cant call me tomorrow''.

What do I doooo! Sometimes I feel like hes jerking me around and may be a bit of a liar. My instincts are usually not wrong, but there is a chance I COULD be wrong; he does seem like an anomaly. What do I do?! The stop and start thing is really boring and it makes me think that he may have someone else. Who goes out of state to hang out w/ FRIENDS for over a week?? I dont know any guys who do that.

Im in a place where I could take him or leave him at this point. My interest is still there a little but its fading fast. Thing is, he always sounds so excited to see me and talk to me when he calls. And like, why didnt he return my call last week if he missed me so bad? See what I mean? What do I doooo?? LOL I need your advice!
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay so I decided to just call him. Got his voicemail and left the following message (in a very happy, playful kinda way):

''Hey, got your message. Youre back!
And you miss me huh? It made me smile but I find it a little hard to believe since it took you almost a week to return my phone call..so i dont know if I wanna hang out with you.. you're so sometimey! But, Im not mad at you. Glad youre back because im wrapping up that project soon so if would still like to be involved we would have to get together in the next week or two. Otherwise I guess Ill talk to you whenever you, or I, have the time..take it easy.''

LOL! I didnt want to be mean because Im not mad about it anymore, but certainly wanted him to know that I am at the point where I dont really care. And basically calling him out on his wishy washy ways. We are supposed to be working on this thing together so I left the door open for him to contact me about that. And if he doesnt Im totally fine w/ it either way. What do you think??
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Im sorry to keep posting back to back..but I didnt expect him to call me back so fast. LMAO! As soon as I posted my last message to you the phone rang! LOL! He has NEVER called me back so fast! I am cracking UP over here!

Okay so I answer and I could tell he was nervous, but was trying to sound calm and cool. Some random how are yous and stuff..and then I changed the subject and asked him if he still wanted to do the project w/ me. He said yes then said, ''but I will see you before two weeks though right?'' I said, ''I dont know, but I can definitely drop the materials by your job sometime next week''. He goes, ''what are your plans for the weekend?'' I told him I couldnt this weekend because I have plans (the truth). And he said, ''I was hoping we could hang out''. Then he said, ''well maybe Monday we can just get together and hang out, go eat or something'' (Thats his day off). So I said, ''I might be able to do that..I will call you and let you know''. He seemed a little unsure at the end but we said goodbye and I told him to have a great day. LOL

Honestly, Im not playing games w/ him but why should I buckle everytime he calls? Never once have I turned him down for a date. I think now that I am not so emotional about it, I can see it for what it is. And if he actually puts in the effort I will definitely give him a shot. But Im not playing games w/ him anymore.

NOW, the question is, should I actually hang out w/ him on Monday? Or should I wait to see him the FOLLOWING Monday when we get together for business? I feel like if I give in and see him on Monday, like he wants, then hes going to go back to his lazy mode. If I wait another week he will have time to think about me and the possibility of not having me around anymore. I would stop by his job next week and bring him the stuff for our project so we would see each other for a few minutes and chat. Okay, what do you think?

Seems like you definitely lit a fire under your man. Lets see if I have managed to do the same w/ this guy.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh good stuff, good stuff indeed lol. Ok I have a plan on what to do and none of it is a lie because all of it COULD happen, hehe.

This is what I would do..as I said before if you let THEM think that they are the ones in control it could turn around better for you, but at the same time your not going to give in to everything he wants either. This is what I would do. Call him and say that you would like to meet on Monday, THIS Monday..yup that's right. I say this because first of all, lets see if the bastard really goes thru with it or not, you know since he missed you so damn much and all LOL. But when you get there, tell him that you might be getting a phone call and have to leave so you dont know just how much time you will have with him..tell him about your job or something that makes sense, hey as I said, it COULD happen. When your with him..act at first like your all into him ( Aquas love this shit, when it is all about THEM), we figured this one out already. Tell him you would like to hear about his little vacation, what he got to do and this and that..you will get a better idea when he is talking about it if it sounds like he is talking out his ass or not. This gives you a better chance to get a feel and then if he is really boring you, place your phone in your hand under the table or somewhere he cant see and make it ring and start talking and bolt the hell out of there..LOL

Ok you think you sounded mean? Hell no, this is how you should have been all along, aloof, it drives them crazy and makes them have to think..when your easy it is too boring, but if they have to try to figure you out ...it is what makes them tick.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT.........

So this is what I would do, and if you feel like staying longer, then do..but when you tell him from the beginning you might have to leave, it leaves you out of obligation and also maybe he might be more into you since he is unsure how much time with you he has. See mine acts this same way that yours sounded on the phone BUT..difference is, is that mine has actions that back up his words MOST OF THE TIME. Btw, it is Thursday and we talked 2 times today..of course he wants to talk to me..I am his best friend which places me 1st in his life but 2nd of importance...I dont mind because 1st is his Mom.

So yeah I think the reason you got the call back so soon was because what and how you said that...I acted this way all the time and I really believe that is why I kept his interest. I know what to say to have less stress on him and then just let things fall into place..mine works the same way. For instance, today mine texted me from work was having a bad day, I texted him to let me call him and talk for 5 mins on my lunch (something that never happens because our lunch times are different) he texted me to call him pls and I did and 5 mins turned into 25..this is what I always do and always works, they dont like to feel obligated, even with for things they want.

Keep me posted and btw, I love to read so keep it back to back if you want to LOL.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay, great advice. Youre sneaky! LOL..jk..I think its a good idea. I have a very long day on Sunday, but if I can manage it I will definitely meet him on Monday. I swear if he cancels or doesnt call me back I will snap! Im going to a meditation class on Monday so maybe I should meet him after that when Im nice and calm. LOL. Okay, so I will keep you posted. I wonder if he thought about me for the rest of teh day, wondering if he blew it.

And look at you TWO calls in one day! Haha..you go girl! Im definitely taking a page out of your book from here on out. :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

OMG we really do need our own page..this is crazy,lol. Well today (friday) got another call at work and he wanted to call again but I wasnt able to take the call so had to text him back instead. I cant wait to hear what happens on Monday for you..sure I am sneaky, had to be all along with him. I dont really have much of an update right now...still trying to get an answer out of him on when to meet next..still no answer.
Just when I get so annoyed about things like this feeling somewhat avoided he sends me a text while at work about work and throws in there "greetings from my heart btw"....omg does it get any sweeter then that?
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

OMG, that is SO SWEEEET! Im jealous! If mine had any sense, instead of waiting to see if Im going to call him for Monday, he should be calling ME or sending me some sort of hello text.

Crazy thing is, he used to check in w/ me from work via text and stuff then he just stopped. I wonder why? Maybe he thought he was doing too much. Men and their ego. But now that you have me going to see him on Monday (haha) Im looking forward to seeing his face. But not getting too excited.

Anyway, nothing to report here either..I find this all so very fascinating. Hope you and your guy get to hang out soon. We lonely, married, but not really married, cant afford a divorce ladies need some attention too. Haha...
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well since Im bored and you like to read...I should tell you a little background. We have been dating (if u call this craziness dating) since June. BUT I have known him since 1995! We were never friends per se, but his family owns the business I frequent so I would see him all the time and chat w/ him and stuff. He has liked me since then apparently. We went out once in 2002. He was younger than me and I was dating my soon to be ex long distance so I didnt really take him seriously. I thought he was nice but sparks didnt necessarily fly.

I moved away in 2003 w/ the hubby and just moved back last year. So we see each other again and he kept calling me and calling me for a date. Again, wasnt really that interested but he said something cute via text and so I said what the hell, go out w/ him. We had a nice time but I still wasnt sold on him. Then he walked me to the car and put his hand on the small of my back, and I SWEAR it was like a movie, I got this CHILL. And I was like WTH was that!

So the first time we went out he is telling me how he has wanted to know me for years and how he has been CHASING me forever. Which is pretty funny because I didnt even know he liked me THAT much. But I guess in his Aquarian mind he was chasing me..lol. The day I walked into his job, after not seeing him for 7 years, he looked like he was going to pass out. THEN when he heard I was married he looked like he was going to cry!

Why do you think that he was so open in the beginning and now so extra guarded? I could say that he changed after the sex, but fact is, he was saying most of this stuff AFTER too. The night we you know, the first time, he was saying how being w/ me felt so familiar, like I was already his and that I didnt have to worry about things moving fast because he was still as interested and wanted to know me and all of this jazz. If hes a bullshitter than he gets an award because I can usually tell when someone is lying to my face..so thats why I was so confused by the abrupt about face. Now its hard to even tell if he likes me at all when Im with him!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh this is so easy...he is aloof and distant maybe because he has fallen for you and doesnt know how to get that registered in his mind. Maybe you have way more controll over him then what he wants you to see and what best way to hide that then to either avoid you or try to give you opposite impression? Plain and simple, he isnt ready to let you know this yet.If I am right that is.

Believe me, I still get confused by mine with his typical Aqua ways..drives me crazy. Btw I confronted him again tonite on messenger saying that I asked once again about when he would like to meet and he tells me something like " When I called you and we talked on the phone I said that for the next couple weeks wasnt going to take longer trips so I thought you could tell by that"...YEAH RIGHT...I told him to be more direct and blunt and his answer changed to " after Thanksgiving".

Btw I asked him what he wanted to say when he tried to call when I wasnt able to get the phone,he told me "Just for fun, just wanted to talk to you". Mind you, it took a LONG time to achieve this with him.

Keep in touch
help with breakup
by: cancer

HI there, been dating an aquarius guy for yr and half. In beginning I didn't want to commit..took me 4mos to finally come around. Everything was smooth sailing tho and we enjoyed each other. Great chem and met each others families over the yr. 3mos ago I helped and ex get off streets(drugs) and it ended up being a 3wk ordeal and quite stressful for me. I finally put him out into a rehab after many excuses. I never cheated but my aquarius took it like I might as well have. He let out short fused temper for the following 3mos which resulted into all kind of fights. I ended up in a stupid pattern of getting back in his face and when he wouldn't back down from it would end things. Ended things probably 3-4x. I get over things though in a few days. We both needed to stop this pattern and we cared about each other so we tried again. THis last time after a week we talked and he said that he didn't want to keep it up. So I apologized, told him I could see where he was stressed and understand why we were having fights. Normally we'd get qt in once a mos getaway and wed not done any of that due to schedules and whatnot since the incident 3mos. back. Now that I came around he doesn't want to work it out...says he doesn't love me anymore, he doesn't think its worth it.I didn't seem to care enough. When I've been reduced to tears he says now you know how I felt. Denied anybody else being in the pic but finally said yes bc I kept asking..not sure if its the case or he just wants me to stop asking all together. I love him and I'm willing work on what I can do differently. Granted he will also need to work on the temper for me. When we ended it...he had spent 2hrs trying to convince me he could change and he wanted to work it out. I told him I didn't believe him anymore. He's constantly said that when I turned down his pouring his heart out thats when he gave up. So he's hurt over alot of things. Is he done or is this revenge? My friends say stop talking and of course pleading and he'll come back but he's never said he's done and move on. Yet he answers my phone everytime I call. He lets me talk about it all I want. Does this mean he needs to hear and understand all I'm explaining or is he just keeping his foot in door with me while possibly seeing someone else. He is always busy and unavailable to see me...but will talk only if I initiate. This has been happening for over a week now. SOrry for the book just wanted you to see the whole pic...I just need help understanding whether or not if theres anyway I can turn this around...and if hes really done or trying to keep on foot in with me.
help with breakup
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Sounds like you need to give it time..but dont put off your questioning any longer..straight out ask him if he wants to try one last time and if not then you would like to know if it would be better to both go your seperate ways and leave it at that. If he said he loved you before, chances are he always will BUT that doesnt mean there is another chance with him. They tend to say things meanly out of anger but also dont take what he said lightly..I am sure he meant it when he said it.

It almost sounds like it is over..keep us posted
help with breakup
by: cancer

HI there, been dating an aquarius guy for yr and half. In beginning I didn't want to commit..took me 4mos to finally come around. Everything was smooth sailing tho and we enjoyed each other. Great chem and met each others families over the yr. 3mos ago I helped and ex get off streets(drugs) and it ended up being a 3wk ordeal and quite stressful for me. I finally put him out into a rehab after many excuses. I never cheated but my aquarius took it like I might as well have. He let out short fused temper for the following 3mos which resulted into all kind of fights. I ended up in a stupid pattern of getting back in his face and when he wouldn't back down from it would end things. Ended things probably 3-4x. I get over things though in a few days. We both needed to stop this pattern and we cared about each other so we tried again. THis last time after a week we talked and he said that he didn't want to keep it up. So I apologized, told him I could see where he was stressed and understand why we were having fights. Normally we'd get qt in once a mos getaway and wed not done any of that due to schedules and whatnot since the incident 3mos. back. Now that I came around he doesn't want to work it out...says he doesn't love me anymore, he doesn't think its worth it.I didn't seem to care enough. When I've been reduced to tears he says now you know how I felt. Denied anybody else being in the pic but finally said yes bc I kept asking..not sure if its the case or he just wants me to stop asking all together. I love him and I'm willing work on what I can do differently. Granted he will also need to work on the temper for me. When we ended it...he had spent 2hrs trying to convince me he could change and he wanted to work it out. I told him I didn't believe him anymore. He's constantly said that when I turned down his pouring his heart out thats when he gave up. So he's hurt over alot of things. Is he done or is this revenge? My friends say stop talking and of course pleading and he'll come back but he's never said he's done and move on. Yet he answers my phone everytime I call. He lets me talk about it all I want. Does this mean he needs to hear and understand all I'm explaining or is he just keeping his foot in door with me while possibly seeing someone else. He is always busy and unavailable to see me...but will talk only if I initiate. This has been happening for over a week now. SOrry for the book just wanted you to see the whole pic...I just need help understanding whether or not if theres anyway I can turn this around...and if hes really done or trying to keep on foot in with me.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I told my Aqua that I was going to be out all day on Sat and be busy, I told him this on Friday and Sat (today) when I got up, I was suprised with an e-card (something I have been telling him that was lacking in a long time that we use to do), just the simple things that lets you know that the other person is special to you. It was an amazing card with touching words that he himself wrote..I thought about it all day and it made me smile. Of course I told him how great it made me feel so he knew that I appreciated the effort that he made. I was gone almost all day and it seemed he missed me with his more then normal texts, asking me how I was doing and keeping in touch.

Well that was my update, not much but at least was something.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

AWWWW, that is SO sweet! I bet that made your day. He seems like a really good guy. I havent heard from my guy since that day. He doesnt know the meaning of courting or trying really hard. Haha..hes probably wondering if I am ever going to call him. Still shooting for tomorrow, so I will probably call him tonite when I get in, or in the morning to see whats up. Keep you posted! :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay..so I called him and left a msg letting him know that I was available today (was too busy to call yesterday). So I HOPE he doesnt pull one of his no call backs. If he does then I will know something is seriously wrong w/ him. LOL
To: Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Would you believe he has not called me back? I called him at 12pm (EST)! Seriously what is his problem. Tell me what to do next because I seriously wanna send him a text telling him to get lost. This is so ridiculous.
To:Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Its pretty obvious that his ego rules his world. He probably felt rejected that I acted nonchalant @ hanging out with him again. I almost texted him so many times today but I held back. I don't wanna say anything out of anger. Plus on the off chance he has a legitimate excuse I don't wanna look dumb. But I highly doubt it. I was planning to text him tomorrow. Or maybe I should just ignore him like he has ignored me. What do u think?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok just got home and seen your posts...always good to see if there is a good reason, but even with a good reason wouldnt you or I send a quick text to let them know that something came up, dont have time to give details but just know that we were not ignoring them?! Yup I thought so!

I would text the bastard since I am sure that hours may have past since you last made a post. If it were me, I would call again and if he doesnt pick up then leave a voice message saying something like this " If you dont plan to hang out with me after all, it would have been better to let me know somehow..if this is how you treat someone you "missed so much", It might be a better idea to not make plans at all then to have me hang on. I feel like a game to you..maybe it's time you find another player"

Really what do you have to lose?...isnt looking at this point that you really have him..your not a "chess piece".

keep me posted
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Funny you should say that because I have a similar text ready to go just havent sent it:

Barring any emergency on your end, at the very least a call to let me know u were unavailable today. This feels like a game. Find someone else to play with u.

Im going to send it. I feel ambivalent because its so final. But really, he has left me w/ no choice. Either he doesnt give a sh*t about me, or he is just too immature to be with. I cant have him getting an attitude and shutting me out everytime his little ego feels bruised. Its ridiculous. Part of me wants to not send the text at all and just ignore him and just see how uncomfortable I make him when I walk into his job in another week or so, smiling like nothing ever happened and totally ignore him.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Funny you should say that because I have a similar text ready to go just havent sent it:

Barring any emergency on your end, at the very least a call to let me know u were unavailable today. This feels like a game. Find someone else to play with u.

Im going to send it. I feel ambivalent because its so final. But really, he has left me w/ no choice. Either he doesnt give a sh*t about me, or he is just too immature to be with. I cant have him getting an attitude and shutting me out everytime his little ego feels bruised. Its ridiculous. Part of me wants to not send the text at all and just ignore him and just see how uncomfortable I make him when I walk into his job in another week or so, smiling like nothing ever happened and totally ignore him.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay, I sent it. I changed it to say.

Barring any emergency on your end you should have called me to let me know you were unavailable today. I dont know where your head is, but its obviously not with me. So Im done with this.

I feel a big relief. I was hoping for something that obviously is not right for me. Im not really sad, just disappointed. I feel its about him, and not about anything I did or didnt do. The whole unreliable thing reminds me of my soon to be ex. Hes great, but when things get hard or he has to step outside of his comfort zone he retreats and does nothing. Its like challenge scares him. Which is one of the reasons we didnt make it. I dont need another man like that. I bet hes going to call me tomorrow or one day soon and try to explain himself..
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay, so he called. About 2 hours after getting my text.
We had our first fight. He honestly did not understand why I was upset!
He said that we never made firm plans and that he ended up going to work and didnt look at his phone for most of the day.
That he eventually heard my message but was caught up at work and just figured he would call me later.
In his world, we agreed to be just friends so he didnt understand why I would be upset that he did not
call me back. That his other friends dont get upset when he forgets to call or gets too busy to call.
I was floored. I told him that yes we did agree to be friends and backtrack and get to know each other
but I assumed that there was still an element there of us dating or that the whole point of doing that was to try and make it work. (You were right about us clarifying what our new friendship meant!). I told him that if all he really wanted was to be friends then why did he ask to see me. And I called him out on the fact that I am not like one of his other FRIENDS because we have been intimate and now the lines are blurred...

I mean we were going at it! I stayed pretty calm for the most of it, but at one point he was yelling at me! I couldnt understand why he was so upset with me! He really lives in his own world where he feels like he doesnt have to answer
to anyone or be held accountable for anything he does or doesn't do. He actually said that he comes first. I understand this about Aquarians based on what I have read on this board but he is a classic case. He was pissed that I texted him instead of calling. He told me that he is not an internet/text guy and if I ever have anything personal to say to him that I should just pick up the phone. I told him I didnt think he would care either way..he said he would never just blow me off via text. He said that he is not a person who runs away from confrontation or that would try to hide from me. He said he prefers to speak to me about important things in person. That he enjoyed the conversation we had over dinner a few week ago where we got to talk face to face. He said, ''I like when you share what you have to say in person; its really sweet and it works''. At one point he just stopped yelling and said, ''see I really dig you and this is why I want to be around you, and as crazy as this may sound this is actually turning me on''. I was like WTF?! But it was kinda funny. I guess it was the fact that I stood my ground?? He kept saying that I need to accept him for who he is. And I told him that I feel like I have adjusted my point of view to accommodate who he is (by not expecting daily calls or things that like that). I told him that he has to accept me for who *I* am now, and while he may have his own way of doing things, he CAN try to meet me halfway.

(CONT)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

(CONT)
It was weird because here we were arguing like lovers while stating that we are just supposed to be friends. ?? It went from him overstating that we are JUST FRIENDS to him admitting that it has been hard for him to back off w/ me after us being together in that way ''because it felt really natural'' but that he felt that it was necessary since I kept getting upset at the things that he wasnt doing right. And that I expected him to say that he wants a relationship when he cant possibly know that yet, which is why he wanted to just take things really slowly and hang out as friends and see what developed from there. He said that some of the conversations/disagreements we were having seemed to be too much for the stage we were in. When really we only had two MILD disagreements. But in his mind...I admitted to him that in hindsight I realized that maybe he had a point and that because of the lonely relationship that I have been in for the last two years I probably transferred some of that loneliness on to him without meaning to.

I have to admit that alot of what he said made sense. But I had to make it clear to him that I was not in love or falling in love with him. That I simply like him, care about him. That Im not sure if I want HIM as a relationship partner either. That at this stage I am not sure what I want, but what I DIDNT want was to be the person he called when he was lonely and wanted someone to sleep with. He said he understood and he didnt want that either.

What I got out of it was that like a typical Aquarian he doesn't understand all of the emotional stuff. He really didnt get that he was inconsiderate by not returning my call. He really thought that I was blowing him off because he didnt call me back quick enough this one time. I had to remind him that he has done this many times and that he really needs to do better at keeping his word. Or just agree that we do not fit and lets move on. But he didnt want to say that. He kinda made me feel like Im a pain in the ass. LOL..but at the same time, he seemed to respect my position. I think he seems me as a challenge, because he cant figure me out. On the one hand he knows that I like him, but he also knows that I dont give a f*ck and will walk away at a moments notice. I was really ready to end it all; we were on the phone for over an hour. I have NEVER talked to him that long!

(cont)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

...cont

At the end of the conversation he said ''Im not judging you or saying you are wrong for anything. I am not invested in being right. I am just trying to get you to see that you need to stop thinking so much and assuming I dont care. Because you assumed that, you sent that text that led to us having an argument''. At that point I was just tired of talking about everything.

He actually asked me if I was free tomorrow! So now we are supposed to get together tomorrow, but I have mixed feelings. He scares the hell out of me. On the one hand I feel like he cares, but then I feel like he doesnt. I am so afraid of getting involved w/ him. And this whole friend thing is weird. I get what he wants, and it is a good idea. Im just worried that Im going to be hanging around him and start to REALLY like him. I kinda feel like this could be a learning experience for me. But after what I have been thru w/ the soon to be ex, I just want some PEACE. I like being around him because hes calm and steady and grounded - and thats a good influence for me (being a crazy Pisces lol). I dont know. I need your wisdom; you have much more experience with Aquarians than I do. I am in unchartered territory and I dont like it! :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

umm number one he clearly does care and you really need to make it clear to him that because your not sure where the relationhsip will lead that your afraid to get too involved incase it dont work after all.

I would have asked him why it was so important for you to leave a voice instead of text message when he didnt look at his phone all day anyway..lol. Yeah yeah I seen his point. Them bastards do make sense most of the time and yes you turned him on mentally because you stood your ground..I said a long time ago to do this..you almost have to to make yourself sane!.

So what you need to tell him is this " So since you just want to be friends, I dont suppose you will mind if I date around"..make it a statement not a question..he doesnt have controll of your mind. See what he says, you can tell by his body reaction what the real answer is because he might cover up by telling you shit and say he doesnt care..you will know.

Good luck and keep me posted..I am off to work.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I was thinking about this during the day and also this morning watned to add something but didnt have time.
When he acted like he couldnt understand why you were upset that he didnt call back and said that his other friends dont act this way,I was thinking also...well also maybe they dont act this way because didnt he just spend a week with his so called friends...what amount of "off time" does he invest in you? I am sure you get my point..just by reading this over again it looks like you took the back burner of the friends and the job and who knows what else.

Hope to hear about your day soon and see if anything happened today.

Best of luck, hang in there, or hang him LOL..which ever seems best..hehe
To: Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi..so I hung out with himonite. We were working on music.From the moment I walked in the door something was different. He was talkative and seemed very happy to see me. He asked me for a hug after I had been there for a while. We worked on the project and then watched a little tv. He pulled me closer to him on the couch. We had lighthearted convo and laughed a little.

He pulled me closer to him on the couch and then he lit some candles. I was like WTH, FRIEND? Though I didn't say it out loud. And outta nowhere he kisses me! It was NICE. But I said 'friends, remember - this was your idea'. He said 'I don't even kno why I said that, it makes no sense now. I only said that so u could feel comfortable with us - so we could work'. He was all over me! His heart was beating out of his chest. I don't know what got into him but I got outta there before it got too far woulda been so easy. But it was like I could feel you telling me not to LOL!

So he was saying that he wants us to move forward. I said 'what about the friend thing?'. He said 'I can't do it'. At one point he was promising to do better with the calling and everything. All very sweet. But we'll see if it wasn't just his d*ck talkin. LOL I hope not it was fun..Thoughts?

PS..I laughed out loud when u said 'them bastards do make sense sometimes'. So funny! What's new on ur end?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh and I was going to say what you said about me dating around..but before I could..when I was told him I didn't want to stay with him tonite he asked me have I been with anyone since him. Then later he asked me 'are you going to leave here and go get it from somewhere else?'. LOL

So I dont know what's up with him. He seems to have done a 180 since the argument last nite.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok nothing new on my end atm..only thing is that he said that we will see each other after Thanksgiving..I want to see him NOW..oh well.
My update was short eh? lol

OK now about yours...lets see how much of this sticks really. Also remember these guys can be great con artists so just because he asked if you have seen anyone else doesnt mean anything...you should have given same treatment and asked playfully " have you?"..and then laugh. Your right, it could have been another head talking for all we know and the only way to find out is if he changes for more then a week..anyone fake cant do it for long. I am so happy you didnt let it go too far...they often want what they cant have..I always thought that of mine, was he into me because I am married at the time and he was in another country? Well almost 2 years later he is the same way so I guess he proved me wrong. Keep me posted, Im off to work.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Youre funny! And I DID! When he asked me the first time I said, "well we are friends so what difference does it make anyway". Thats when he got a little serious and asked me again. He waited a minute or two and tried to play it off like it was a casual question but I could tell really wanted to know. He asked me 3 times in 3 different ways. LOL And when I asked HIM (nonchalantly) he said he had not been w/ anyone since me. Who knows..but basically last nite he was acting more like he used to act in the beginning. He was touching my hair and stuff. It was crazy!

So I guess I wait for him to call me. Im not sweating it really, but I hope he follows through. That would be nice. But he was VERY sweet! But Im going to try not to think about all of that.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Not so good new on my end...I took something very personal and cant get thru it. Ok here is what happened. I have one vacation day left and have to make up my mind by this Friday on when to take it. Atm, husband is away for a month to better himself which I am happy for him but as far as us, it wont make a difference in healing our reltaionship. Anyway, I look at the calender at when he should be back and figure why not take off a Friday and see if my Aqua would like to spend the day with me..I texted him the date I was thinking of and asked if he would like to do this..he said he would like to so that was a done deal. Couple hours later I told him that I was thinking of finding a place to stay for the night and would like to get out of the house since it is something I never do..he said I should do that. I got enough balls to be bold enough to text him back to ask if he would be interested in spending that time with me and not to worry if he thought that I was trying to hit on him or something like that..didnt want to scare him off ( we said we would take it slow remember) Now before I tell you more, remember that he is only here for a year that we know for sure so am really trying to spend as much time with him as possible and figured since husband was away that it would be a good time because I wouldnt have to feel like I had to answer to anyone. Just the other day my guy tells me that his parents add money to his international account and it was enough that he could take a flight somewhere if he wanted to..he said he really doesnt want to spend it, that he would like to make it on is own.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT.....
So I remind him that nothing sexual will happen so dont worry but wanted to spend as much time with him as possible. He writes me back telling me "depends on location and how much money I have" which to me felt like total rejection since number 1 this man will travel ANYWHERE and as far as money? I am sure if worse came to worse that taking maybe $100 out of that account for the couple days would not kill him. I mean am I too sensitive? I get pissed off and hurt and tell him to forget I brought it up that not only do I feel rejected now but also stupid...very stupid and that I was sorry that I had asked. He tells me that he doesnt want to spend money incase he wants to take a trip by himself at Christmas time...ok so beign with himself is now more important then spending time with me in person? He now cant understand why I am so hurt and upset... Umm gee, I dont know, for someone that you have said that you loved for almost the last 2 years you wouldnt want to take advantage of beign able to spend as much time together as possible especially since it is so hard any other time? Seems like a no f---ing brainer to me...what do you think of this and am I wrong in feeling this way?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

we chatted on messenger and he just doesnt get it...he doesnt have a clue! I think maybe he needs to grow up a bit. I asked if we could talk on the phone and he refused, yet if he is angry and needs me to be there then he has no problem at all picking up the phone. All he had was excuses and said he really couldnt understand why I was upset since he was willing to take the day off. What man in his right mind would turn down spending more time with someone they claim they really care about? Oh wait, yours...ok I guess the solution is, is that THEY should date each other instead and that way it can be a perfect ,be sweet when they need to be and be cold and aloof all the other times, perfect relationship.

GRRRRRR
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Nope, youre not overreacting at all. You guys rarely see each other and the one time you get an opportunity to he doesnt want to take full advantage of it? Strange. Heres my guess. It sounds like he was all for taking the day with you until you said that nothing sexual would happen. Not that he is sex starved, but maybe he doesnt want to deal with spending the night with you knowing that he cannot do what he wants to with you. Maybe he thinks it will be a big downer, with him wanting to sleep with you and you fighting him off all nite. Thats just my guess.

OR, maybe the spending the nite signifies some sort of SERIOUS relationship thing and he is scared. I mean over the phone, texting, and messenger is pretty easy. Now you guys have to bring it to RL and make it work. Maybe hes afraid because youre still married, or because hes leaving, etc..my soon to be ex is also an Aquarian (nothing like ours tho) and the one thing he would do when we fought is act like he had no idea what I was talking about. It was the most infuriating thing. I cant see why your guy wouldnt be able to at least see things from your point of view, even if he doesnt agree. So maybe he is just playing like he doesnt get it when hes really just avoiding the real reason why.

These men are a trip! Mine was promising me to do better w/ calling and all that jazz. We will see. I was on cloud 9 for a little while today but then I figure I had better come back down to Earth and be ready just in case he pulls another disappearing act. He was uncharacteristically open and talkative last nite I am worried that he might now feel that he revealed too much and needs to back off a little. But whatever, Im not going to worry about it.

Did your Aqua say why he didnt want to talk on the phone? I definitely think you guys need some face time to reinforce what you have built the last two years. Hang in there..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I said I wanted to make things more clear and always when we talk it is so much more easy then missunderstandings on messenger and text...So I asked and he said he wasnt very comfortable..so be it.

Ok about sex...HE was the one that made it clear when he lived back in Germany that when he did come to USA that WE would take it slow..so I wanted to reassure him that when I asked if he would like to spend the night together which didnt mean.. "yeah baby, oh yeah". He has problem with "real" I think..yet he told me that when we met that he was nervous when waiting for me but a couple mins later he was very very relaxed and comfortable with me and it was ME that was nervous almost the whole time because I couldnt read his mind to see if he liked me or not..know how nerve racking that was?

We just see things different..I know if it were ME and I was asked that, it wouldnt matter if it was on short notice and in couple weeks...if I wanted to be with someone bad enough ( not talking sex either) I would do whatever it took to be with them..wouldnt most of us?

Now I am still feeling hurt and rejected and stupid and most of all..very akward to even continue to have contact with him. He was so f--ing cold! I was mad and said " I dont want to see you again", he said " Look...I have to accept that then" I said " I dont know why we are even still talking then". He said " ok lets not talk then". All like he could care less..finally I got really angry and said " Ok then why dont you just erase my phone number from your phone" He then tells me " Your such a different person tonite"

Yup and I am gonna be the same way tomorrow if he doesnt get his head out of his ass.

STILL MAD and HURT.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I know what you mean about being nervous. I felt that way too the first few times. And yesterday I just said f*ck it, Im going to relax and be me. These guys are bipolar! Up and down. This is what I dont like. I say ignore him and see if he reaches out to you. Do you think hes dating other people here? After all of the time you both put in it seems odd that he would suddenly be willing to throw it all away. I know one thing, this is the LAST chance my guy gets. If he starts acting shady again I will not be able to contain myself. Keep me posted!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

No I am about 100% sure he isnt dating anyone here, noone is good enough for him..as I said he is a bit odd and strange..oh and sweet most of the time. No he isnt acting like he wants to just throw everything away..he just cant understand why I feel that just spending the day isnt good enough, he cant understand that by him not wanting to take full advantage of more time is hurting my feelings....he cant understand a lot it seems. If your guy said to you " no sexual pressure at all,just want to get together and spend time with you, would you be interested in spending the weekend with me?" would you come up with lame excuses? I dont fricken know, maybe this guy has a 3rd nipple he doesnt want me to see or something, who the hell knows these days.

When he first got here he started to initiate things ask I asked him too, he is reverting back to him lazy ass self. I'm starting to understand why he didnt have a girlfriend for such a long time, who puts up with this crap for this long? They were smart, I seem to be the dumbass that cant catch on. I am not leaving a message this morning for him, we will see if he leaves one. I left text messages last night so he can respond to them if he feels like it but more then likely he will wake up today and text me as if everything is fine, these bastards seem to do this or at least mine does, avoid the issue and it goes away right? This is why weeks down the road I get pissy because it was never resolved.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I get it. My hubby does the exact same thing. Its infuriating. He actually refuses to have a convo about ANYTHING. Im not exaggerated either. I talk and he sits there like a fool. So I refuse to deal with any man who cant hold a serious conversation.

I heard from my guy today. He texted me to let me know that I dropped an earring at his place. He sent a text saying ''you just love leaving things at my place I see''. Then he asked me if I was free tomorrow. I have NEVER seen him twice in one week. Unfortunately I'm not free tomorrow but I told him Saturday was an option. He said he would let me know and told me to have a good day. Cute. But I do not want to get excited. He IS Mr. Sometimey so..

I am getting better at handling my emotions so I think regardless of what happens I will be able to handle it. I hope your guy calls or something today! Im rooting for him! You made it very clear this was his last chance so he had better remember that. Keep me posted :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

well we didnt talk much last night and during the day I didnt really have much to say, still mad a bit, he makes no sense. Yesterday morning I didnt leave a message and when he got up he said his normal good morning and I didnt respond, a half an hour later he asked if I was ignoring him, I still didnt respond, while at work of course, then some minutes later he said that it was sad that I was doing that and he is was sick and had to make it thru the day some how. Boo hoo pal, it may sound cold to you but trust me, it seems that when we have major dissagreements like this he is always sick ( you get this treatment too?) and I have always felt that it was a way to try to distract me from our problem..and it never worked btw. I know he is sick, that part is true but he always seems to be on his death bed when we have times like this.

I picked a location for my trip which will be about an hour and a half from him and I asked last night if he was going to go with, he said yes and I told him that I am tired of his mixed signals all the time and was he staying or going home, he said that he would probably be going home. Now tell me if this makes sense, he says he is low on money but wants to spend friday and sat with me so we can make 2 day trips yet he will drive home...so let me get this right. He will drive an hour and a half to come to my location and then we spend the day and then he drives an hour and a half to head back home,gets up and does this all over again so I guess he would rather drive at least 6 fricken hours and spend gas money to try to avoid spending the night..yeah that sounds logical, maybe to an Aquarian.
We both logged off early last night and before we did I told him " I want you to remember something and take me seriously pls, I meant what I said in that this will be our last chance to try to make this work and if it doesnt we have to go our seperate ways." He said he will remember and we logged out.
I also reminded him during our conversation that when he was back in Germany that before he left that I told him that I was tired of the pressure of having to initiate things all the time and he should share the responsibility and when he came to USA he lived up to that but now he is acting more like when he was back home and lazy and I told him that I liked how he was better when he first got here because right now I am feeling too much pressure and if he doesnt have the interest then so be it.
Durning the day I also sent him a text saying that maybe the reason he didnt want to stay was that I said no sex (we both agreed btw) and since he wasnt going to get anything sexually that maybe he didnt feel it was worth his time to spend the night. That didnt go over well btw but I had to put it out there. He said he is too much of a gentlemen and he knows the limits.

Off to work, there is my update. Glad yours is doing better btw.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hm..interesting. He seems really complicated. Honestly, my first thought was that maybe he just doesn't want to go with you. But he did agree to go, so like you, cant make any sense of the driving back and forth thing. That makes no sense at all. Did you ask him why he would prefer to drive alllll the way home? You should just ask him like 'is there a reason why you would prefer to drive all the way home instead of just crashing on the couch or something?'

I guess the real test will be when its time to actually take the trip. If he backs out last minute for whatever reason you will have your answer. But I hope he doesn't do that to you! It is very frustrating - and scary - when you feel something for someone and it seems that they are not reciprocating. And honestly, dont you feel too old to be playing this whole game? I know I do. Jeez, you like me, I like you - lets do this! These guys are crazy. You and I both have to remember, that our situation is more complicated than the average single, dating woman. And though we now where we stand w/ our spouses and we have explained it to these guys, there is always a chance that they have some doubts about moving forward w/ someone who is (even only technically) STILL married. Was just thinking about that today...

Haven't heard from mine today, but Im okay with that. Even though he said ''lets move forward'' I am inclined to go w/ his original idea and take it very slow. All I needed really was to know he was not jerking me around. Now that I get that he kinda cares I am able to relax a little and just let nature take its course. I am really curious to see what his actions will be towards me over the next few weeks. Keep me posted pls! When is this trip again??
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Trip is Dec 3rd which is a Friday...I think I totally give up on asking why it is such a big deal to share a room with seperate beds..let the bastard drive from Kingdom Come for all I care at this point, he doesnt know it but he is quickly loosing interest I had for him for almost 2 years. Btw my husband has permenant shields on and things that I would never leave no matter how bad it gets and he wouldnt want to split up but you cant force someone against their will. Atm he is in rehab for 28 days..I will support him in trying to get better but I cant get back what my heart lost and almost the same with the German. I wanted to take advantage of spending more time with him since I dont have to explain anything right now and I would have thought that he would have been thrilled with this idea. I said he turned me down, he says not, so it's a he said/she said game for now.
Btw as far as I am concerned, yes we do have different situations then the normal single woman you and I, but at the same time these men knew this from the beginning so they knew what they were taking on.

I am feeling nothing but distance with my Aqua and I do believe that it is me that is walking further away faster then he is, if that makes any sense. This is the most roller coaster relationship I have ever had and it's really not my cut of tea. If I had to put our last almost 2 years together into a phrase or word it would be ROLLER COASTER. Couple of weeks ago I felt closer to him then ever because he shared things with me that he said his friends dont even know and now I feel like we have just met and are just testing the waters..I dont know if this is crazy or pure bullshit.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, I know what you mean. I think thats why I was pushing my Aqua to know what he was thinking/feeling because I didnt want to waste my time on something that was not going to work out. But I guess there is no real way to know if something is going to work or not. But you have invested two years, which is a loong time, in comparison to my situation w/ my Aqua. I hope he doesnt let you down. I hope mine doesnt either. Im still getting used to not hearing from him, like a regular guy. LOL. Would be nice if he just called to say hello today.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

this is getting to be a joke, for someone that is smart enough to know 4 languages this guy seems braindead to me! I am so frustraited that I could scream, and getting closer and closer to leaving him. I even asked him last night if he wanted to break up and he said "no". We talked about trip ONCE AGAIN and I explained to him the reason I would like to spend 2 days with him is because atm would be so much easier for me to not have to explain a story to anyone on why I wouldnt be home for awhile. I asked if he was going to drive back on sat to be with me and he said he didnt believe so, I told him right then and there that I give up and that I was logging off and this was a waiste of my time and to forget it. He said "to drive 2 hours and then do it again the next day..doesnt make sense" I said " no kidding Sherlock that is why I said might make more sense to get a room but your just not getting it, if you dont feel it is worth it to spend the time with me and if I feel that I have to talk you into something then it isnt worth it to me either" He said ok he would drive back but atm feel like I just took a trip to hell and back and starting to not care if I see or hear from him again.

I told him before I logged off that I was backing off and he was going to have to be the one to do everything first and he wasnt going to hear from me at all untill I hear from him..because anymore it doesnt matter to me.

2 years of my life down the drain!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I think what you said to him about not initiating or doing anything at all is the best idea. He needs to show you now
Just how serious he is. Then you will see what he is willing to do w/o you taking the lead. That is one thing I cannot stand. And one of the reasons I am divorcing. My hubby let's me do everything! Being married to him is like being married to a child. He doesn't take the lead in ANY area of our lives. So that's a big no no in my book

So yea..do absolutely nothing from this point on..no texts,calls, messenger, nothing. If he misses you he will reach out. I'm sorry you have to go thru this. Maybe he's tired of waiting? Idk either way you slice it he should be doing cartwheels to spend the weekend with you so I don't know what to say. :-(

Haven't talked to mine today. Actually haven't actually TALKED to him since I saw him (the other day was a text). Remember he was promising to do better at calling and stuff. He asked me via text if I was available Friday; I said no but that today I would be. He said he wasn't sure if he could link up today and he would call and let me know. So I hope he calls to say hi or say that he can't - that would go along way in proving his 'promise'. As always keep me posted :-) Stay strong.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok well so far is better but we will see, I give up on getting hopes up anymore. I didnt bring up trip but I am planning on telling him that I will get a room now far from where he lives and we can plan from there, that way he has no excuse to telling me how far he has to drive the next day. I am sure I know what he will say, he will tell me that we can do the plans I first had and I will tell him that I wont do that now because he was making such a big deal of having to drive again the next day so this nixes out that problem and if we want to still make that trip I first planned we can do that. I am not taking shit from this man, this trip is going to be on my terms or not at all!

Think this sounds like a good plan?
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So he has iniitated contact with you since you told you wouldnt anymore? I think your idea is a good one. But I wouldnt make a special call or text or whatever to tell him so. Then he may think that you are thinking way too much about this trip. Wait until you guys are messaging or whatever and bring it up casually and gauge his reaction. Its funny, like you, I have been trying not to get my hopes up. I really do respect what my guy said about taking things slow. I just want him to be consistent. And I was so happy when he called last nite! Before the big argument we had on the phone last week he totally would have NOT called and then acted like it was no big deal. But he took the time out to call and say he was at home relaxing and would see me on Monday. We chatted for a few minutes, then I hung up. Funny, I can never tell how long he wants to be on the phone so Im usually the one who ends the conversation. Since hes not a phone person and all...

Its a lil strange going backwards now, since we already slept together. And the attraction between us is INSANE. I guess next time we talk I will clarify again what our relationship is. The whole friend thing kinda went out the window when he tried to jump my bones. LOL..so I dont know. But nothing bad to report on this end thank God. haha..
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well I was doing overtime at work on saturday and got injured, not the best but could have been much worse I guess, it kind of broke the ice you could say. I was at work and he texted me the normal good morning and how are you and right before I left, I texted him saying I got hurt and they wanted to take me to the hospital but that I didnt want to go and would take care of myself he was all upset and asked how I was and what happened and I asked if he could call me in which he did. We are back to normal again as far as I can see. Yesterday he called me a few times to see how I was doing and we talked a total of an hour and a half. I think I will be fine and didnt bring up trip yet, I will do that this week sometime and see how my new plans go. How was your weekend?
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

OMG, are you okay now?! Well, maybe in a weird way this little accident helped bring you two back together - or put things into perspective for him. I was thinking this weekend that maybe he was just having one of those stereotypical, moody, Aquarius off weeks. Maybe thats why he has seemed so distant to you. Dont they usually run off for a week or so when they are feeling like that? Maybe yours just withdrew a little...thats my theory. Glad you and he are reconnecting though. Its exhausting isnt it? LOL

My weekend was fine; just hung out w/ the kiddies. My guy and I were supposed to do some business stuff today but that got cancelled. I left him a msg about it last nite telling him to call me when he had a chance....and he called me early this morning at like 830! He has never called me that early! And really just to chat..and then he asked me if I would still like to get together today anyway. So Im smiling right now haha..Dare I say he is starting to really like me? I hope I didnt just jinx myself by saying that out loud. LOL
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yes I am doing better and will be fine. He still drives me crazy and not in the best of ways either..I swear he is so dense sometimes and I get so tired of asking him to do things,simple things. The idea of me getting a room around his area was fine with him or so he says. When he takes his trips I always spend a lot of time helping him find a room, now when it is me that is going to need to find a room do you think he would think to help me out? Noooo, I asked him if he was helping me look and he didnt even think to this with me..he is so wonderful is so many ways and lacks so bad in other ways and the bad part is that what he lacks are all in relationship areas..I am lost at what to do with him...I have read so many times that these men are much better friends then they make lovers..I doubt I will ever find out.

Have a great holiday
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I wonder about that sometimes too. Am I trying too hard to make it work. I seem to have his attention now. I THINK. I went over to his place the other day and notices that he bought a tea cup - the last time I was there he didnt have one for me to drink out of. So I thought that was cute. He still keeps trying to jump my bones. Which is a little annoying because he said the whole friend thing, but the moment HE wants to have sex then I guess that goes out of the window.

So no more hanging out w/ him at his place then. I saw him on Monday and havent talked to him since. I guess I will wish him a Happy Thanksgiving via text today, but otherwise not calling. I like him, but I really wanna see if all of the things he was saying when he was hot and bothered come true in the daylight.

So we will just see what happens. Your trip is right around the corner. I have a feeling you will know what to do either very soon. You have a great holiday too!

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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

just got off the phone with my Aqua, he is on a trip by himself for the holiday and wanted to ask how my meal was, this was the second phone call of the day so far. I just booked my hotel room and is very nice..it is a King suite with seperate bedroom and full kitchen so told him to make our get together cheaper that we could do little food shopping and I could cook us a nice meal instead of spending double the amount to go out to eat. I told him that it didnt cost me anything more but on the reservations that there will be 2 ppl so this way we get free buffet breakfast on saturday and told him that he drives back on sat in time that he can have a free breakfast..he laughed and said it sounded good, I am pretty sure he knows what I am up to.hehe.

So cute he got you a tea cup but one thing comes to mind, him trying for sex every time, I might think about having a short talk with him telling him that you like to hang out at his place but notice this happening all the time so what does he want as far as a relationship, he needs to make clear instead of mixed signals. Is it just friends or not?!. And if it is clear to you that he is putting on the sweetness to get into your pants it gives you an idea of what is really going on and might make things more clear for you. Tea cups are cheap but a broken heart isnt. I am so curious how my second meeting with mine is going to go. I keep thinking of the first time when we got together and thought we lost the car how he said without hesitation " we are just going to have to stay over"..but now when I BRING THAT UP that same thing, he fights me on it. Aqua tip is this..they want when they think it is THEIR ideas..we will see what happens..I cant wait!
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Im very excited for you and cant wait to hear how things turn out. Dec 3rd is right around the corner! I agree w/ you about them needing to think things are their idea.

I saw mine on Monday, which was when I saw the teacup. And hadnt heard from him since. I sent him a Happy Thanksgiving text and he wrote back the same and said SEE YOU SOON. You are right about having another conversation w/ him about the sex/friends thing. I just dont want to be the big heavy all the time initiating these serious conversations. I will definitely, but I think for now I will just lay low and avoid situations where we are not at his place, make him take me out, so there is no opportunity for him to try anything. And the next time he does, I will bring it up for sure.

My hubby and I dont sleep together anymore - havent in TWO YEARS! Can you imagine? So half the time Im ready to jump my Aquas bones myself. LMAO..thats how it happened the first time. Out of sheer loneliness. But I am controlling my urges for the moment. But really, I am starting to get a little bored w/ the whole thing. Everytime we get to a certain point and I feel comfortable about where the relationship is, there is another element to consider. Now wondering about the sex thing again and so that will require yet ANOTHER talk at some point. Im like jeez already! Cant it just FLOW? Watch, the moment I decide I dont care anymore is when he going to fall in love with me. That would be ironic. haha
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

funny how you say Go with the Flow, isnt that what HE wanted? Just got off the phone with mine, he's been trying to get a hold of me with texting and offline messages he told me and couldnt get ahold of me so called. We got into an small argument last night over him giving me the silent treatment online which made me feel ignored, so today he is getting a bit of it back.

To be honest with you, I wouldnt have that sex talk with yours when something is about to happen, he would listen to you more if you just brought it up so if I were you, I would get it out of the way soon to get a better feel of where things really are. Oh btw, I know exactly what you mean when you said your starting to get bored, it does get a bit boring when you feel like YOUR the one putting so much into a relationship to try to make it work. I dont have enough fingers and toes anymore to count the times I was ready to give up and still get this way...even a couple of days ago. Best to have serious conversations out of the blue rather then wait to see if something happens..and when you do, be blunt and to the point so their is no question in his mind what is going on...like you do at the moment. And your right, just when your ready to throw in the towel, he's going to throw a curv ball your way, they seem to sense this before it's too late..it is what pisses us off so much but also it is why we hang in there.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Ah, yes. I think youre right. Men cant think when all the blood has rushed from the big head to the little head. LOL. So, I will take your advice and bring it up sometime before we see each other again. For now, this week, I think I will take a break from him; oddly I dont feel like hanging out w/ him. He had better call me up and invite me out to dinner soon (not his house!) or I may just drop him altogether.

Funny theme with both of our guys. They can dish it out but they cant take it. haha
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

well it seems like I am back on the rollercoaster ride again. He is back from his trip and I we have been going back and forth with the same issues for months so because it hasnt been resolved I bring it up from time to time. The night ended horribly and I was so fed up that I didnt care if I heard from him this morning or not. I am seriously at my breaking point here with this guy. I will try to give a little insight but really how it will sound and how it really is might take on different impressions. Online as far as messengers and even phone texts this man is very indearing in his words. He is very sweet always calling me "babe" or "sweetie" unless things are not good between us. When we met the first time, I got none of this yet he was very respectful, I didnt expect it because the first meetings are always different unless sex is the only intentions. Now on the phone, which we have talked a million times by now he is more friend like and doesnt use these words. Last night I wanted to see where his comfort level was as far as affection because we will see each other on Friday. Remember that the first time we met I wanted to break the ice so after he shook my hand, I gave him a quick hug and once again at the end of our time together before we were to go our seperate ways, another hug. I told him that I am a very affection person and was hugging ok with him, he said "yes, you hugged me last time too" I then said to him "ok if I were to reach out for your hand would you pull it away or hold my hand?", he paused and said " Hmm, I am not sure about the hand thing but I did notice that when we had handshake that you had very soft palms" I wanted to make clear and said "ok so your not ok with this" he told me to give him time......
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT...........
I told him that I guess I was more eager for physical affection then he was because we were not sure how long he was going to be able to stay in this country and I didnt want to let all this time pass by. I was mad and said to him " I am not sure this is working for me, you have me so confused, you treat me one way online and totally different in person and on the phone" I pretty much told him the things that were lacking in the relationship and a lot is romantically and he is lazy and doesnt give half the effort that I do to make this relationship work. I said to him at one point "I am sure that you would be very hurt if I had another lover", he said "Yes I would be". I told him that I am not a cheater but will give fair warning before it gets to this point so etiher he starts to work on this a little more or it will have to be open relationship so I can find romance somewhere else. (note when I said lover, it has been online..I am sure you can figure it out). When he logged out I left him a message saying that he should really take me seriously because if I am talking about the thought of getting involved with someone else then that should be pretty clear to him that my needs are not met and if he sees us as a couple then dont give me misunderstandings. I said that as of now I am starting to give up and going to become lazy and aloof and he is to take control of the relationship instead of me and he can work for it...that goes for RL too. I said that I am backing off.

This is such shit anymore and not sure if I even care to spend time with him this up comming weekend..what would be the point? Sure deep down I really really want to be intimate with this man but I know where to draw the line but I cant hold his hand let alone try to sneak a kiss? This bastard really is from another planet! Lets see how the scale of boredom goes for me on Friday. I guess I wont need the old chastity belt on since he is wearing one and has thrown away the key.

Ready to give up.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Aw! This is not good! Can I just say..and I will give the disclaimer that I know nothing of him, only what you tell me..but he sounds alot like my hubby. Who is also an Aquarius. He NEVER did anything romantic with me. All of his gestures were very friend like. It took me a few years to realize that that was what was missing. He was NICE to me, but there was no PASSION. No FIRE. He never initiated sex (the first time we kissed, I kissed HIM). But he was so sweet and nice and different in that way from any other guy I dated that I subconsciously ignored the rest. Great manners, always a gentleman, wrote me nice letters (we did the long distance thing for a while), but in person...very shy like and not aggressive at all. It was sexy at first.

So maybe your guy has a similar disposition? Its not that he doesnt care for you, or love you even. Just maybe he doesnt have that romantic aggression/testosterone that most men have. Because really, why would he stick around if he didnt care? Hes not getting anything physical from you, so there is no reason for him to use you for that. So he must be getting some sort of satisfaction out of the relationship. Do you know what his relationship history is like? Has he had many girlfriends/sexual partners? My hubby was 31 when we started dating and I his first REAL relationship. He had only had one real girlfriend YEARS before.

So just a theory. And let me tell you from experience if you are frustrated now it will only get worse.

I say go thru with the trip, if he still wants to go and just hang out and see if the attraction is there still. See if he makes a move. Or if YOU make a move (kiss or something) see if he is willing. I get that maybe he might not be the type to INITIATE, but if you do it then he should respond to you if he really wants it. And if he doesnt then you have your answer. My hubby was always into it, once I initiated it. He was/is very childlike.

I can feel your frustration thru the computer. Hang in there. Let me know if you still plan on taking the trip.

Funny I havent actually called or seen my guy since last Monday. TExted him the Thanksgiving msg. And he called ME on Saturday and left a really cute msg. And I checked in w/ him today via text (he went to his grandmothers to cut her hair - so sweet!). He asked me to call him tonite. Im warming up to him again a little. but I prefer this than sitting by the phone stressing out over him.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yes I will go thru with the trip. We were online again today and even after I left the message that I left for him this morning, I have sensed a change in him, not a bad one but I think he is more worried and aware now.

He sounds much like your husband but there IS a real passion in this man! and trust me, I could strongly sense it the first time we were together, I even told him to his face "you know, I can see right thru you and after we have been together for a while, let me tell you that your way more confident then you try to lead on that you are" he just smiled. I made it clear to him again today that when he sees me in person that I am not trying to seem cold but more reserved and no matter how much I may want to that I wont be making any moves and that it is all on him. He trys to pretend that he is shy but I think that is a confident front..not to mention a strange kind of turn on. To be honest with you, the more I think about it, the more I cant wait for this Friday and Sat, just the anticipation that he could do something at any time will be driving me crazy the whole time..and no I dont mean sex etiher...I think he is waiting maybe another 10 years to give me that.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL! Good luck hanging on for 10 years! LOL..well, I have to give it to him - he has tons of willpower! I think you guys are gonna have fun. At the very least you will have clarification on where you stand and where its going. Get a glass or two of wine in him and see what happens. LOL..keep me posted - cant wait to hear about your trip. :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh I love the wine idea but he is very smart and I am sure that if I were to suggest that that he would think that I was up to something, hey but cant kill me for trying, hehe. We have made our plans, well I should say that he has made them simply because I told him that it was up to him. I am taking on the lazy Aqua role now, I told him that I will give suggestions if I see something I really want to do but he needs to come up with the main parts and to make sure he impresses me.LOL. In the last 4 days either when he was mad at me or I was teasing about the trip he kept telling me "You are a challenge"..I just said as cocky as I could " well of course, how else would I have been able to keep you for so long".

I think he likes to play shy because when we were together he was anything but!. Very possible that is why he likes the whole online thing is so that he can more easily hide himself because he knows that I can see right thru him with ease. When we were together the first time, my goal when we were shopping was to find a new jacket which at the time I didnt get but I noticed that most the time he would walk away to give me space and it never failed that when I seen something I might be interested in and looked up to see where he might be he was always within eye sight watching me...typical aqua observer.
I had rented a room with a kitchen and said that I would like to make food for us, we will see how that goes when it is more one on one and non public..I have no doubt that he is a true gentlemen but also I am about 99% sure that he is holding back A LOT. I sensed his strong confidence and I am sure he has an amazing passion..if it ever happens, I can only imagin that the sex with him would be explosive.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Ugh..so talking to my guy is so hard sometimes. On the phone he is so reserved..and then other times he calls me and leaves me the most awesome sweet messages. Its weird! The nite we had the fight the conversation flowed w/ no problem (after we were done yelling at each other)- and in person it flows nicely as well. Then we get on the phone sometimes and its like pulling teeth. What gives??? I didnt know what to say to him so I threw out that we should get together soon. LOL I did NOT want to suggest that because I wanted HIM to ask ME out. Oh well there goes that plan. LOL..

Friday is almost here! :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok been putting a lot of thought into the talks I have been having with my Aqua prior to this trip on Friday and Sat. I cant believe that I had a talk with a 27 almost 28 year old about if hugging and holding hands would be ok. This isnt 3rd grade...omg is this a German thing? So anyway I wont put myself thru more crap then the almost 2 years that I have almost invested into this already. If this man doesnt make or at least attempt to make some kind of physical connection like an arm around me or hugs or God forbid a kiss so passionate that your seconds away from climax..if I dont get something in 2 days I will kindly tell him that it will be friends and nothing more, I am not going to play childish games and I shouldnt have to ask for things like this....either he has interest and shows it a bit or I will take all this as some kind of sick online game he is playing because he must have problems with a real physical connection and that is why he prefers the fake online world. Oh to answer something you asked a little bit ago..unless he is full of shit and what I believe at times tends to be 50/50..he has had girl friends before but that was way back in school and he told me were superficial and said that I was the only most true serious relationship he has ever had. I dont know how to take him. But this is going to be the final test...I cant be involved with someone that just has me hanging onto hope with the little possibility of things becoming reality. This isnt good enough for me.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You are a very smart woman - and I agree! He sounds great..but take it from someone who married a great yet unaggressive man - it sucks!! So I agree with you 100%. After two years of not seeing (except the one time) he should be dying for a kiss. And other things too-but a kiss at the very least. You might have to be the one to initiate it, and then see where he takes it. Oh, I hope you get what you want! I fight myself daily not to show up at my Aquas house and let him have his way with me. LOL..I had almost forgotten what sex was married to this man. OMG. Utter torture. But I HAVE invested in some nice lingerie and things for when we do take it to the level again. Haha! PLEASE keep me posted. Fingers crossed!!
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I am just talking about right now before he gets a chance to respond to my phone text. Last night I had "me time" and was alot later to be on the net then normal, we were texting on phone back and forth while I was doing what I needed to do. He hasnt been himself since his trip for whatever reason..head in the clouds more then ususal and cant eat, I think he is more depressed then normal to be honest with you. So he textes me and says he is laying in his bed and cant eat..I tell him to "do it!", get some toast at least..so some time later he says he had 1 toast and 2 yogurts..ok great. I finally get online and his messenger is on idle for like 45 mins, finally I say "fuck this" and tell him I am going to bed. I didnt sleep well and at almost 1 am I sing into messenger on my phone to see if he left an online in which he did and told me that he was really sorry that he was on the phone with the drunk at work (someone he cant stand) and they had to discuss something..well let me tell you...I wasnt very accepting to this!. I sent him a phone text at 1 am and told him that what he did was shit and that at the very least when he got the phone call he could have at least left me a message that he was on the phone and was busy..problem would have been solved right then and there. I said first of all isnt your phone and computer in the same room so you could have at least leaned over to type to me that you were busy? I told him "to be honest with you, this has happened before that you had me sit there and wait thinking you fell asleep when you were really doing something else and it made me a bit mad then so kind of getting the feeling that between you telling me that your now sick and not yourself and then on the phone having me sit there like an idiot waiting for you that your trying to sabatoge and get me upset so that you can back out on seeing me this week" Also told him that I will be busy all week at night and he will have to wait till Friday to chat with me. Lets see how he responds to this..if he takes it as a guilt trip then he is 100% right!
As you can see, I dont take an ounce of shit from him. At first I was going to hold back thinking that if I said something that I might have ruined my chances of a 3rd grade hug or a 5th grade handhold but lets face it what were the chances it was going to happen anyway. I often here how Aqua men are great in bed...as far as I can see "great in my head" is as far as it is going to ever get. Btw I did have another Aqua BF a long time ago and DAMN he really did blow my mind away.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, its hard to say..sounds like he COULD be working up to saying he cant go on the trip based on what youve said. I dont know. My hubby could never tell me no. EVER. He would agree to anything. And if it was something he didnt want to do, he would just mope and act retarded until I got mad and let him off the hook. Remember, I said that you would know if he was serious if he actually went on the trip, so..we will see. I dont get though, why he is depressed and not eating. What is that about? And what would cause him to suddenly be depressed?

Yea, pretty inconsiderate to not tell you that he was on the phone. One thing I have noticed is that you consistently call him out when he does these things like not answer you or gets lazy. And you have also let him know several times that you will not be making any more plans; that he has to be the aggressor. But has he taken heed to anything youve said? I think youve SAID enough to him. From this point on, I would suggest not calling him out or reprimanding him for anything he does. Soon he will begin to see it as nagging. Let your actions speak louder than your words now. Just keep everything he is doing or not doing in the back of your mind and when the time is right make a decision to break it off or stay based on what you know. Its like if you tell a child over and over and they still dont listen; youre wasting your breath. At the end of the day his actions will speak louder than his words.

I remember you and others saying that Aqua men dont forget a thing and they like straight forward talk. You have put it out there for him; what you want, what you dont want, what you wont tolerate. So he knows. And if he is not rising to the occasion its because he doesnt get it or he doesnt WANT TO. It was you who helped me see that about my Aqua so Im just giving your advice right back to you.

Of course you are in an awkward position now w/ the trip being in a few days. You cant exactly ignore him. But if I were you I wouldnt call him t confirm, check in, or anything. If for some reason you dont talk to him before Thursday I would just check in w/ him on Thursday and see what his attitude/mood is like. Like I said before, if he goes on the trip and how he behaves on your trip..that will be all the info you need to make a decision. He needs to step up. Hes a grown man - and youre a grown woman who has been THRU IT. Neither of us have the time or the energy to hold some mans hand anymore. He sounds like a good guy; maybe he just isnt ready to be the man you need him to be. Thats always been my problem w/ men.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

It seems based on what Ive read and heard there are two kinds of Aquas. Ones like my husband, who arent very sexual and cant communicate at all. And then the fiery ones.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok Tuesday update..I didnt leave any message on messenger this morning..let him see the message I left during the night and that was it. He told me what happened about the phone call and that he was going to leave a short message and got side tracked and forgot and that he knows it is no excuse but that he was sorry, very sorry. He said he hoped my day was good so far and that he was looking forward to seeing me Friday. I didnt act mad I just responded back with something like "reguardless of what happend, I still deserve the respect to be told your busy so i dont just sit there for no reason," He kept texting me during the day (think he sensed that things were different this time) He kept calling me babe as he always does and asked me how I am doing during the day and that he couldnt wait for the trip that we will have a great time. "You will see" he tells me. I told him that I am busy for the rest of the week due to the 2 days I wont be around getting things done and that I wont be online tonite..I never said that so I am sure it put a little worry into him. I told him that Friday I would like to find some sweet wine and that when the day is done and I am relaxed in my room that I can drink some. He said sure he knew a great place he would like to show me. I asked if he was going to have some or no and he told me "one glass", hey it's a start. I didnt act disappointed I just said "ok that's good", he isnt getting the reactions he normally gets from me..maybe it will stir something up in him. He texted me more then ususal during the day..I am sure it wasnt a fluke.
I will see how things go when we are together..might be a stupid move or crazy thought but was thinking of maybe just going for it and see how he reacts to a kiss. If he turns me down, I can just tell him that he simply isnt mature enough for me to be "lover material"...and IF he does accept my offer...well then, I will take every second I can get. What do you think? If I scare him off because I moved too fast..oh well, then we were just friends anyway right?.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

YES! Definitely go for the kiss! What grown man would be turned off by a kiss, unless they are not interested or attracted to you? So that is your test. I dont see how in Gods name that could be perceived as moving too fast after two years. You MUST do it; its now or never! LOL

"You will see"? Haha..sounds like he may have something up his sleeve. Maybe he plans on throwing YOU against a wall and kissing YOU. Haha! I sure hope so. And yes, youre right. If he doesnt go for it, you and he are definitely just friends. But I dont see why he would go away w/ you for the weekend; he knows that you like him more than a friend so. Im glad hes not backing out. Im getting excited for you. I love sweet wine! Chug two glasses and plant one on him if he doesnt do it first! LOL
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well when he said "you will see" I just took that as him saying that he will prove that we will have a good time. This man is German and his ways are far different then american men. He means just what he says and a lot of times I find that there are no "fine lines" to read between. I guess you could say that germans are "drier" then americans. I think that when I first brought up getting a hotel when in that other location to try to lure him I had to keep telling him not to worry that there would be no sex, it was the only way I could get him to possibly agree. He is a VERY serious man btw so no telling if he would ever get the hint or just act like he didnt. I wont play too frisky before we go to the hotel room or he might scare away..but the fact that he said he would have one glass indicates couple things..1: that he does intend to drive home which is like 15 mins away (maybe he wants to be home at night so his roomie/co workers wont say shit about it at work, yet he could always say he was on a trip) amd 2: that he intends to at least for a little bit be willing to let his hair down so to speak.

He is very slow moving in a relationship and the fact that me and husband still live under same house could also be the reason he doesnt want to get to close to me and let his guard down because the chance of him getting his heart broken some how.Possible. However, I hope to get the right time to make my move, it wont be anything passionate at first, maybe something quick so he gets the direct hint and see if either he initiates one for me or if he is willing to accept more.
Fingers crossed pls.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well today now is the 3rd day there wont be much contact after work..now remember Monday was his fault because he neglected to tell me he was in another room on the phone so I took it upon myself to be busy each night doing different things so he can wait the whole week. I can tell that it is getting to him to not be able to chat with me online after work..we still keep in contact during work via text messages but when I get home it remains the same thing..text messages only..I think it is driving him nuts btw and he is trying to see if I break down and come online. Today he sent me a message talking about some crap going on at work and said "I will tell you all about it tonite" I texted him back saying "Might have to wait until Friday to tell me,since I am not on at night this week, we will have a lot of catching up to do when we get together so this is good, besides you could use a break from me" He said " still busy? wow your a huge mistery" I said "yes I am busy and if I gave you the details it would take the mistery out of it so tty on Friday".

We have never had this less of contact before without it beign a reason that we were mad and even then we still would talk the next day. He knows I am not mad and I will guess that when he does finally see me that he will be so happpy that he might acually let his hair down. He cant be mad that he isnt able to see me because after all it is him that I am going to see in a couple of days and that is the reason I need the time at night is to get things done. I cant wait to see if the less contact with me will stir anything up or not. This might have been my best stragedy yet LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha! I love it! Make him sufferrrr. LOL..jk..
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder..
I texted my guy this morning to say good morning and just let him know I was on my way out and how nasty the weather was. Didnt really ask him a question - but he didnt even write back! Jeez..time to ignore him now. LOL

You probably wont have time over the weekend, but if you do - update me!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah I wont be able to update untill either sat night or sunday morning and knows when you will get to see that post. I dont have a laptop and not going to ask to use his so I can write about him LOL.
Oh about your text, yeah one thing I noticed with mine a long time ago that use to drive me nuts was that a lot of times unless I was asking a question, I wouldnt hear back so I have come to do the same to him at times. He called me last night and we chatted for about 20 mins and that was only because I cut him off to go to bed. He had to pick up someone at the airport for his work and I hadnt heard from him for 7 hours which isnt like him at all and was worried and left a voice message saying that I hoped he was and busy and that something wasnt wrong and said my good night and asked for just a text to let me know he was fine. He called instead, I think he's been missing me HAHA. He kept talking and talking and I told him I had to go to bed and that he could update me on Friday. See this man lives in his head SO MUCH and I cut him off this week on purpose not only to get things done but also to keep his mind busy in that he will have so much to talk to me about that he will be scattered brain so if I do get a chance to kiss him that he will have too much on his mind to reject me..hehe. Also since it would be a distraction from beign in his head so much I might get a nice suprised reaction out of it. I think I played this week out pretty good so far.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yes, great job this week! One more day until your trip! Are you nervous?

My phone broke (got wet in the rain) so I dont know if my guy has texted me or not. But I wasnt planning on calling him anyway. He said in his last text, lets try and get together this week. But he never actually called to set a date. Ive been watching this hilarious show on Bravo, Millionaire Matchmaker. The people on their need help, but I swear that Patty Stanger has some good advice about men! LOL..so until he calls for a date, he wont be seeing me. Im not calling HIM. Anyway, have fun - bring some sexy undies just in case. LOL!
leo female with aquarius male
by: Anonymous

I was dating a Aquarius male for 2 months and he ended it because he said I was not giving him enough affection. However u had noticed he was putting distance between us. I would see him about once a week. However he wants us to remain friends and hang out as normal. Please explain
leo female with aquarius male
by: Anonymous

I was dating a Aquarius male for 2 months and he ended it because he said I was not giving him enough affection. However u had noticed he was putting distance between us. I would see him about once a week. However he wants us to remain friends and hang out as normal. Please explain
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I figured out how to check my voicemail on my cell (since its broken) and guess what. There was a voicemail from him! What a sweet surprise. And he sounded soooo sexy too. Now Im smiling. :-)

I wrote you a msg about 20 minutes ago regarding your previous post but its not showing up..I will wait a few minutes before I repost..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Hey about the phone..dont use a hair drier but try to towel dry as much as possible and get plain uncooked white rice and put the phone in the middle of that for a few days and phone gets saves.
Ok today really sucked and atm not even giving a shit if I see this man or not.unless he creates a miracle in the next hour or so. Yesterday he had to pick up a coworker at the airport and so happens that the co worker (male) is staying at the hotel I happened to book my room at. My Aqua really keeps to himself and doesnt let his roomies or co workers know what he does other then he takes trips here and there. So anyway, I had thought about it and asked him if he would be ok going to see me or would he be worried and uptight that the new guy would see him at the hotel or could possibly and what would he like for me to do. He said if I could would I pls cancel and find another hotel because he doesnt want to run into the new guy there. At first I understood and I cancelled without a fee and as the day went on I became angry plus he was very busy and I didnt hear from him for like 5 hours which was understandable since he took tomorrow off and has extra work. I was getting pissed off because first of all if you remember right, I didnt make the reservations the first time because the location I picked was an hour and a half (one way) away and didnt think he would come and drive to see me on sat.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT......
So to make sure that he would see me on Sat I made reservations about 15 mins away from where he lives and said to him "there, now you dont have to drive so much" but what I really was thinking was " there, buttmunch, now you have no excuse" LOL. Well this place is also close to his work which is why the new guy got a hotel room there untill he finds a perm place. I havent as if yet heard back from my guy but the last thing I said to him was " Since I cancelled my hotel room because of you, I think your the one that should be finding a new one for me and btw I would like one with a jacuzzi" Lets see what happens.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

OK. FIRST. I get that he might be a private guy, but what is the big deal if the dude sees him at the hotel with you? I mean, hes not married, and its not like he is there with another GUY (lol) so what is the big deal if the coworker happens to see him with a pretty lady? Thats odd to me.

Secondly, do you feel that if you had not asked him if he would feel weird about it that he would not have made it an issue? Yes, you have bent over backwards already w/ the hotel booking. This is getting crazy!

He seems so young to be so intense (serious). Man, I dont know what to say. In my opinion, I feel like you have bent over backwards to accommodate him for this trip. So now youre waiting to find out if he booked a room? This is a good test. If he really wants this he will book the room. If he doesnt, big red flag.

And if you decide to go ahead and do it yourself, be sure you choose one that will allow you to cancel, because if for some reason he doesnt go thru w/ this then you are going to have hurt feelings AND a big fat hotel bill. I didnt think anything else could go wrong at this point. Keeping my fingers crossed! Let me know what happens..

On a side note..I had no rice for my phone (apparently everyone knew about the rice thing but me LOL). Its dead and now I have a brand new one. I called my guy to leave him a msg telling hime I got his msg yesterday - and he picked up! He NEVER picks up when hes working. Its just too hard for him to focus and talk. But he did! He could barely follow what I was saying, but the point is he wanted to hear my voice. :-) :-)
To Leo Female
by: Dreamer

Aquas hate that anyone would think badly about them. So it is not strange that he would want to still be friends with you. The question is, are you strong enough to hang out w/ a guy you have feelings for and just be friends? My guess would be no. My guy and I had some issues last month and he suggested that we backtrack and just be friends. Well, I agreed and said we could hang out. The very first time we hung out AS FRIENDS he jumped my bones! LOL! something about not having me anymore and the fact that I agreed to the whole friend thing must have triggered something, and he told me I CANT BE FRIENDS W/ YOU; LETS MOVE FORWARD.

We had our first fight a few days before we hung out and really I think it was me standing up for myself and putting him in his place a little is what made him change his mind about me. They love a challenge. Soooo, my suggestion to you is: if you are pretty sure he still has feelings for you and you want to find out, hang out with him AS FRIENDS a few times and see where it leads. Maybe you will enjoy each others company without the pressure of being a couple.

It took me a long time to get used to the distance that my guy puts between us. We hang out and then I dont hear from him for days. But we talked about it (argued) and he promised to do better. And this is a guy I have been dating since JUNE and we are only now making progress in our relationship. Its true what they say about Aquas moving really slow! Maybe this friend thing is a test to see if you will stick around. They like to test apparently. If you feel hes worth it give it a try. But there is always the possibility that he really meant what he said and doesnt want to be in a relationship with you. Time will tell. Good luck!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok update already, he called me and asked me what I thought about a couple of places. He was calling from work and had stayed an hour over to check the sites..I picked one and is much better then what I gave up...I was mad at him for hours but he followed thru..so hotel room is set. Just when I was ready to give up and was mad for hours he goes and does something like this..happens every time LOL. Well now might not hear from me for a day or so ..so keep fingers AND toes crossed..hehe.

Btw great he picked up the phone..see they really are BABIES...hehe
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh Dreamer, almost forgot when we were on the phone I really put him in his place...when we was telling me about the hotels he said to me, if you dont like these we can find one further away like 50 miles or something, I dont mind the drive. I said to him " what are you crazy? Dont even give me this stupid shit...your the reason I booked the damn thing so close to where you live because when I first wanted to book something in the other location you tried to tell me that it was too far to come and see me on sat because of the drive so dont even give me this shit!, Oh no, I am booking close because I am not going to put up with your stubborn ass!" He broke out laughing..I swear..I have heard before that small arguments or putting them into his place is a bit of a mental turn on..explains why he likes to get me all aggrivated..LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well that explains alot! I thought you were sitting around waiting for to hear if he had booked a room or not. WHEW! Okay. So it sounds like your trip is on. Yipee! Wow this has been a SAGA. He better make it worth it! LOL

Im missing my man a little. But this taking it slow things works for me. Who knew!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

yes going over trip details now..I had all kinds of emotions today like from one moment not caring if I ever heard his voice again to not caring if I ever seen him again or heard at all from him to a little excieted about the trip..too tired to be really happy right now and because I went thru so many emotions not sure now if I will try to kiss him or not..I will play it by ear.
I think the week apart of not much contact has made him more eager to see me..yet he is still so hard to read. Parts of me have totally given up..it seems like such a fight anymore and he always fights me on things like the last thing here was the trip and getting him to agree, I told him to impress me,lets see if he can manage that without a damn fight LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well have a good time! Im sure you will have a book to write by the time you get back!:-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok here is my update..nothing risque as you would like to hear but had a great time on both days. I have to accept that my man is very uptight and yes he IS going to need a lot of time. I didnt kiss him but was able to get closer and could sense that he was more and more comfortable with me getting closer. We had a lot more contact but wasnt for long and I went against kissing him only for the simple reason that I didnt want to ruin him trusting beign alone in private with me. I had thought about it so many times while we were in the hotel room and had thought to myself that if I made the move and it really was too soon for him then I would mess up my chances of getting alone with him again so felt it would be best to have his trust and try the next time we are together. We spent a few hours on the couch watching tv and were closer then normal so I just cherrished that as silly as it sounds. He was joking around a lot with me and was still a total gentlemen opening the car door for me (not every single time but often which was great) He seemed very happy to be around me and didnt seem to mind getting closer more often so I was happy with that and even though it has been almost 2 years online this is still only our 3rd time together even if 2 of them were back to back. I had asked him towards the end "now the next time I ask to get together since you had such a good time your not going to fight me on it and end up agreeing are you?" He told me "no it will be fine right away" well isnt this a turn around...
Had a great time and already miss him!
Btw, before he left we gave each other a huge hug and I had my arms wrapped around him tight and both his were around me. Guess I should thank God for small miracles..he's turning slowly around.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi! That's sounds soooo sweet! Why is he so shy/reserved? Its all good tho, as long as you are happy and you feel a connection was made. Wonderful news!

So you must be floating on cloud nine right now! I am too. I just left my guy about an hour ago. We hung out for a little while. I was going to insist that we NOT hang out at his place but its so damn cold in NY today! So we ordered food and watched a movie. A he kept his hands to himself. Like your guy, he's getting more and more comfortabl with me. He does little things like ask for a hug and held my hand a little. He asked me to massage his neck (apparently he doesn't like ppl touching him so that's a big deal).

Its weird having NO sex because we' ve done it before but it appears to be working for us so...On my way home..

So we will both be on cloud 9 until they f*ck up again. LOL jk..so glad u had a good time! :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi! That's sounds soooo sweet! Why is he so shy/reserved? Its all good tho, as long as you are happy and you feel a connection was made. Wonderful news!

So you must be floating on cloud nine right now! I am too. I just left my guy about an hour ago. We hung out for a little while. I was going to insist that we NOT hang out at his place but its so damn cold in NY today! So we ordered food and watched a movie. A he kept his hands to himself. Like your guy, he's getting more and more comfortabl with me. He does little things like ask for a hug and held my hand a little. He asked me to massage his neck (apparently he doesn't like ppl touching him so that's a big deal).

Its weird having NO sex because we' ve done it before but it appears to be working for us so...On my way home..

So we will both be on cloud 9 until they f*ck up again. LOL jk..so glad u had a good time! :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

To answer a question that you had, he isnt shy at all, I think he is reserved for a few reasons, we had a lot of time in the car and we were joking around on how he is but also there was some seriousness in it all. I had asked him why is it that with almost everything that I had asked as far as either asking about personal things or doing something with me did he have to fight me on everything when he would end up giving in anyway. He told me " well you have to look at the important part, that I give in anyway..you see it takes me some time to go thru everything in my head when something is suggested by another person..I have to think it thru and once I can accept it then I give in, it is how I am". I think that was pretty typical aquarian style there.
He keeps telling me how he had such a great time with me and said to me on messenger today (sunday) " I hope you felt safe and comfortable with me" That is very important to him and he told me that he was much more laid back this time then the first time we met so I think it was a good choice that I didnt try to kiss him just yet..it could have made a bad turn around. I have to remember that even though we may have known each other almost 2 years that our "in person" time hasnt been long and he has told me time and time again that things take a long time for him.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT......
He asked me to give him time on the more physical things and since I didnt over step my bounds in the last 2 days that we were together maybe I will be able to use my patience as a way to prove to him that I respected what he asked and when I feel that I have waited long enough I can use this experience as a way to tell him that I did what he asked of me as far as giving him time but he needs to see my point of view and to let his guard down a bit. After he gets this kind of respect from me he will need to give in a little bit in order to keep me so everything with this man seems to be stragedy and I always need to be one step ahead of him.
I think that he needs his private time to let his mind accept what his heart is feeling and once they get on the same page I feel all this "tug of war" will be over and he can accept the fact more that he is mine, because what he shows me in his actions he has been for a long time..he just needs to stop rebelling over it and accept it.
To: Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Wow, you've got him down to a science! Good for you. Seems like you've made some really good choices where he's concerned and its all paying off. Yay!

I need some advice now: it seems my guy doesn't like to go out that much. He works 12 hour days and is usually exhausted when we hook up. And I don't blame him. His days off are Sun & Mon. He told me last nite that he doesn't like to eat after a certain hour (they're so anal!) So there goes late dinners. But I feel like we need to do some things together to help facilitate the getting to know each other process.

At his house we have a glass of wine watch some tv, light convo..its all nice but I want more I guess. And don't really know how to tell him. I mean we just got to the point of him actually calling when he says he will and everything..I don't want to come off as 'complaining' again. So what do you suggest? How do I get this going and so he thinks his idea? Lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok I have a couple ideas and also some advice your not going to want to hear but this is how I am, honest and to the point.
First off as far as the getting to get to know each other a little more..Aquas dont like to talk about their feelings much or it depends on. How about you ease into a conversation as your both making diner together or if he doesnt cook or is too tired how about you offer to make it for him at his place while enjoying the wine and he can be sitting in the kitchen with you with the stress off of him (because them lazyasses prefer that lol) as your talking and spending the time together. How about you two do a little food shopping to see what you want and if that doesnt seem possible you call him and ask if he thinks it would be a nice idea if you both decieded what sounds good to eat and that you would like to make it for him. The fact that you would like to do something for him is going to give you points right there. Then ask if he would like to help prepare or rather have to do it over lite conversation and wine... maybe he could prepare the salad while you work on the rest and that way his hands are busy (they always seem to have a need to be doing something) and it doesnt feel like a "lets sit and talk" kind of feel. As your doing this see if he eases up a bit but keep it lite.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT....

I would say to hold back a bit about the wanting more part. I want WAY more then what I am getting from mine atm but it is all paying off and because I am keeping his wishes at bay as far as giving him personal space he is warming up to me more. I have to gain his trust and keep it and for you just try your best to keep things more slow and simple, especially with the busy holiday season beign right now, there is always added stress around this time of year with both families and work so wait it out a bit more is my advice. I am thinking that this kind of chat might not be the best time to have right now, in THEIR minds it creates pressure like around Christmas time " what kind of gift does she expect?"....trust me, they over think everything and I think if you could wait untill after the new year that it might be a better time for this kind of chat and if it appears to fall into place and happen before then then even better.

I had all the intensions of either calling it off with mine to going for the kill and planting a kiss on him to none of this happening at all and it seems that it may have worked better in MY favor to hold back.
To: Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Youre awesome! Thats great advice! Yea, hes so not the sit down and talk guy. I definitely dont want to do that. Just was thinking of a creative way to him him/us out of the house and doing something different that would let each of us see another side to one another w/o actually having to TALK, TALK. But your dinner idea sounds fabulous! Okay, so if I suggest that to him am I going to sound like Im trying to be his girlfriend and being pushy by wanting to cook at his house? Do dating people do this sort of thing? Im so out of the loop!

Coincidentally, I mentioned to him on more than one occasion that I am a good cook. And I teased him saying one day I will cook for you. So it wouldnt be totally out of left field. This might be too much pressure for ME. LOL He still makes me nervous sometimes and he is sooo picky. He might make me burn the damn food! And when should I do this, after Christmas or before? OMG, I didnt ven think about Christmas! LOL - am I supposed to get him something?? Oh God...the pressssurrre. LOL And you KNOW after a nite of some romantic side by side cooking AND wine whats gonna happen. haha

So after I wrote you he texted me to tell me he had a good time last nite. Isnt that sweet? So then I realized that he must be opening up/trusting me a little more if he is able to tell me that w/o any prompting from me. Right? So Im satisfied - and will take your advice and not push my luck yet.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Funny you tell me about your text, we both had to do things this weekend and he didnt seem to be in a good mood when we had to leave messegner, he wasnt mad at me, he is just moody.Out of the blue he sends me this text that says " I just wanted to thank you for the great weekend!!! It was amazing, it was. Great to spend time!" He was depressed atm that we were not together..he has such a sweet side.
No I think you should take on the pressure ( as I have and it paid off) and this is what you can do that can get a couple of things out of the way. How about this... Do it this week if you can and it will suprise the hell out of him too because they love suprises so if you dont know his fave meal give him a call and tell him that you want to do something nice and say "remember when I told you that one day I would cook for you? let me do something nice for you since you work so hard" Find out what he would like to eat and when you get there say something like " I didnt want us to have added pressure around the holiday time to have to do something for each other since we are taking things slow so would like to make a meal for you as my present to you and you can enjoy and give me your time, that way all the added pressure is off" See if he would like to help you or not. I know it sounds cheesy but it might even make him blush a bit..hehe.

Doing something nice like this might hit his soft side harder then you can imagin..
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

DAMN, youre good! WOW. Great idea..I worry so much as coming off like Im SOOOO into him. I dont want him to think that just in case hes not feeling the same way. And truth is Im not THAT into him. I mean the potential is there but I have been doing a good job of keeping it all in check. So, I cant do it this week but I think next week would be good. What if he says no? I would die! Now I have to think of something to make. Im a no red meat, organic freak. But he eats everything. So we must meat somewhere in the middle.

Wow you have really good ideas. And yes, this will be a big deal for me. Ive never had to impress anyone w/ my cooking - let alone cook at a mans place. I mean, hubby liked whatever I cooked so no pressure there. This dude is a whole other level. Who knows w/ him. LOL

We both got some love via text today. AWESOME! Progress!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Im already thinking of something delish and filling that I can pull off. Im a great cook but w/ the pressure I dont wanna f*ck up. Thinking some homemade chicken parm..??
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I am thinking it might be better to get some ideas from him as far as what his faves are and listen to me..if he says "no" dont accept it, fight back a bit, they like to be put into their place even if they wont come right out to say that lol. Tell him that due to the holidays your not sure when you both will be able to see each other again so is something you want to do NOW, not when HE wants to..get some ideas first and that will help you out as well.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok had to share with you what holding back can do. Last night while we were driving I had said to him that he always fights me on things that I ask and the next time I suggested to get together could he just give me an answer without the fight for a chance..would this be possible ( a simple yes or no) and he said he could do that. Husband gets out of rehab on the 15th so found out that next weekend would be my very last time of pure freedom before he gets back, not sure what to expect when he comes home or how he is going to be so dont want to make my life harder then it has been lately. We still live under the same roof so try to keep things drama free as much as possible. Anyway I said to my guy tonite right before I had to leave " Next weekend is my last weekend of total freedom for a while so if you would like to spend some time let me know yes or no and you can fight me on it if you need to but dont take forever in giving me an answer, ok good night, I have to go now" I said it quick as if I wasnt expecting an answer right away and he comes back with " ok lets think of something" I said " are you sure?" he says "yes".

tell me THAT wasnt progress! I would bet money that he is totally hooked! Dont worry, I didnt take the blinders off, I am still down to earth but atm on cloud 9, I would never have expected this.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

WOOOOW! Thats definitely some serious progress. Im excited for you! So two weekends in a row for you. You must be GIDDY. LOL I sure as hell would be.

Yes, yes..I got ahead of myself. I will ask him about the dinner then find out what he likes. Whenever we see each other we always go a few days w/o talking after that. Not on purpose I dont think, but I think Im just getting used to his Aqua-needing-freedom ways. So I dont even bother calling him. Today I asked him if he would be available tomorrow to work w/ me on some music stuff and he said he would let me know. And his text to tell me he had a good time last nite. Thats ALOT of contact for us in a 24 hour period so..I think I will wait and ask him about the dinner toward the end of the week or weekend.

Things are lookin up for us both. Let me know what plans you guys make!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I told him what I had in mind for this weekend and he is all for it. This time I will be driving so that HE can relax and I can show him an area he hasnt been to yet. We are going to start the day off at a huge home cooking buffet and then off to some driving around with some window shopping..these are things we both love and it lets us show each other what each others taste for things are. I am trying to keep my chin up but today I got into a deep depression think of what am I going to do if this man isnt able to stay in this country and has to go back? I will be beyond depressed..as cheesy as it may sound This man never slips my mind..you know that feeling that you have at the beginning of a relationship where that other person is always on your mind? It will be 2 years in a couple months and I still have that same feeling as I did when we first met each other...I think about him everyday, even when we are around each other or talking on the phone or on messenger..this man is who I want to go home to at the end of the day. I dont know how I can handle this. My word that I need to enter in order to make this comment is "german" how ironic is that?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi! Wow, so you all are going away again. I love it! This is so great! And it sounds like a nice, relaxing trip that will really allow you guys to just be yourselves w/ no pressure. Great, great idea. When will you know whether or not he is staying in the US? And does he WANT to stay? I would guess that he also misses his home country. I hope everything works out for you too. You have the makings of a good love story :-).

So is this a one day trip? Maybe you said and I didnt catch it..

Im so happy today! First you have to understand me as a Pisces. I am so sensitive and almost always ruled by my emotions. I had started to do the same thing again w/ my new Aqua in the beginning. But after that blowup we had at his apartment that time (remember?) and chatting w/ you, and getting to know him, I am finally able to separate my feelings a little and be realistic and make decisions based on what is good for me. And not romanticize everything. The ironic thing is, not stressing about him seems to work, because I feel him wanting to be closer to me w/o me really doing anything at all. Its just happening. However it turns out, this relationship w/ him has definitely taught me a few things.

Remember I was telling you the other day how we had a lot of contact within a 24 hour period, which I am not used to. We saw each other Saturday, then he text me Sunday, and I heard from him Monday (just to tell me he couldnt get together w/ me but remember when he used to just blow me off like it wasnt a big deal if he didnt call to cancel?). Well, progress. Then he called me today! FROM WORK. JUST TO CHAT. Can you believe it? I honestly was okay with not hearing from him for a few days, so imagine my shock when he called and we talked for about 15 minutes. We chatted about what I did last nite and my KIDS. I was so surprised. I should have asked him about the dinner, but frankly, I was scared! LOL I will work up the nerve later this week. This is good right? :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well just as it seemed that things were going great there is more drama and I am sure it is my fault this time, maybe he is a hopeless cause. We have the plans made for Saturday or at least up untill now we did. He's been sending me messages on how he loves to spend time with me and is looking forward to Saturday and I dug in a little deeper, I dont think I was out of line but you can tell me if you think I was.
I told him that I thought that he felt more at east and comfortable with me and that was good and what I would like to know now is if he seen us as just good friends or possibly more. Btw he always dances around questions like this and never answers me direct which doesnt help. I told him that I needed this to be clear to me and was talking about the in person relationship.
he says to me " I can say that I feel comfortable with you" my response back was " ok that is nice but it wasnt blunt enough to answer me so pls do and say" he says " I cant answer your questions like you would like me to, yes I do feel comfortable and close to you, more than just normal friends." I guess I still wasnt getting it clear enough to me so said " what I was asking is if there is a romantic interest in me or no" he says " I think so lol" I asked for a yes or no answer, isnt it best to be blunt when asked something like this? He told me " I think you will scare me away..you are too pushy"
I told him that maybe he was too much of a challenge for me and was best that I see it now and that someone else would be better for him if he thinks I am pushy that he should find someone perfect for him and that if he thought I was pushy that it wasnt good so was better to lose me now then wait" He said that he was sorry and that he tends to do a step back if he feels pressured. I told him that I tend to walk away if I sense no progress or am unsure of things. I told him that I thought he was going to require way more patience then what I have and that he will lose me because I just dont have the patience he needs in a relationship and that maybe a lot has to do with him not beign mature enough to handle one.
I have a co worker at work that am close to that knows about German and asked me after the weekend if I got a kiss yet..he cant believe that we have known each other for almost 2 years now that he would be holding back so much. I wouldnt have to ask him so much about us if he didnt act so different and open online and texts telling me he loves me and calls me sweetie and babe all the time and in person I have to second guess if I should try to hold his hand or not..and a kiss..omg that might be trauma for this man...I know he is a gentlemen but isnt adding up for me. Maybe I am an idiot.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh wounderful sounds like things are going great for you..so happy for you.Oh to answer your questions..yes he wants to stay..I think he would even if I wasnt in the picture which I might not be soon and the deadline for him to know about the green card app is in may which sucks because his year in usa will end in august so is far away for him to find out anything.
If he could just answer me in simple ways I wouldnt be so uptight about things..but I work best with bluntness and not dancing around issues or questions which gives us conflict so atm am not really caring if we go thru with Sat or not, his stubbornness wears me out. If he is afraid that I will scare him away then run already asshole.
Keep your chin up and keep up what your doing..it seems to be working great..wonderful news!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay, so I think that all of your questions to him are valid ones. And I dont think that you were wrong to ask. BUT I think based on what you have told me about him, and your analysis of the last time you were together (how you were glad you didnt force things because he seems to be opening up, etc) maybe you DID push too much. I think that if it were anyone else that the answer would be no way did you pressure him. But based on what you have told me about HIM, maybe you did.

I think when he said that he sees you more than just friends you could have left it at that. I dont want you to think you were wrong because those are all questions that I myself would have asked too. And you have a right to know, and say what you feel. But he seems to go the opposite way when you push him romantically. Why I dont know, and thats something you need to consider. Its a catch 22 because you cant spend your entire life tip toeing around the man. Hes not a child. And he should be ready to move forward after two years, and should be able to tell you POINT BLANK how he sees you. I think had you waited until after this trip, or even on this trip to have the convo then maybe it would have been better. Or maybe the outcome would have been the same. I dont know..what do you think?

My husband is 37 and he has the emotional maturity of a high school kid, so I dont think its about his age. Its about HIM. And whatever his issues are, if any. Im sure his little ego is bruised that you might think hes too immature. You sound like someone who says whats on her mind. I dont think its pushy to want to know where you stand after two years. Did he say he didnt want to go on the trip now? When did this happen? You should point out to him that the only reason you asked so forcefully is because he tends to send mixed signals being one way on chat and text and then unsure when you ask him directly. And see what he says. I think this is the perfect time for him to step up and go on the trip and show you that he wants you, more than a friend. If he is worried about losing you then its time for him to show it.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

He definately wants to go on the trip, to be honest, atm I am not giving a shit about it...mentally tired. You know if these men had to cater to us HALF as much as we have to them and their crap THEY would have given up on us a long long time ago..because they would have felt that it was too much to deal with and move onto someone else. I shouldnt have to walk on egg shells nor should I feel I have to be quiet and second guess everything.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Youre right. And truthfully, Ive never had to work this hard! But think of it this way. If he really thought you were too pushy he wouldnt still be willing to go on the trip. So maybe he is seeing that he has to step up if he ever wants to be happy with anyone. He cant just lay back and do nothing. And the fact is, you cant change who you are even if you tried so he has to take it or leave it. and apparently, he wants it. Remember, they like a challenge and all...

Just relax and try not to think about it and just see where it goes. Ive had the best results when Ive decided I just dont give a sh*t anymore. Keep me posted.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I told him last night that I see no reason to stay together. We got into a heated argument towards the end of the night and both left mad. It started off fine so I am sure it is both our tempers flairing up but last night after he logged out I sent him a text saying that I was sending my last text and I will tell you why.
We calmly talked about what I had asked him and yes he thought of us as more then just friends.
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by: Virgo with an Aqua

I had brought to his attention that when we are together in person that I have to hold back so much when I am with him because he gives off a vibe that says he is "untouchable" He laughed at first and said that yes " yes, I am sorry, I do realize that" I had brought up the point that he is so much more different online and text then in person and he told me that yes he is a reserved person and it is much easier for him to be open when not face to face. I told him that ppl find that so easy to do online because a lot of time it is fakeness and that he gives off a vibe that says "touch me and you went too far" He asked me if he was so fake why would be want to meet me over and over?! I told him that so many times when we were together that I just wanted to reach over and hold his hand but went against it because he makes me feel he is offlimits and he said "oh sweetie" I also said taht at one point towards the end of the night that I wanted to give him a kiss for even a few seconds to let him know that I had such a good time and asked him if I had done that if he would have accepted or turned me away. Before in the conversation he said that when he was driving that he was going to ask me for a palm massage but felt that it inappropiate and he didnt know if he should be that "open". I asked what he would have done if I would have tried to kiss him. He told me to be honest that he would have been suprised and confused. CONFUSED?! WTF. I said what is there to be confused about..I like him and I think he likes me and have known each other for almost 2 years. I asked if he would have accepted or not and he said "maybe not" That was enough right there! I cant tell you how personally wrong that felt for me, like total rejection. He said "too far for the moment..at least I am an honest person...I know, someone else would have wanted "more".
I told him "you say too far for the moment I think your afraid of "real" and why I believe that you prefer online relationships so that you can hide somehow.","It is too much for you to be close to someone yet online you are totally different...nothing is off limits so feels like a bit of a head game." I told him that I felt used and he said that he wanted to leave because I was making him mad and aggressive.
After we logged out I sent my last text to him saying "This is my last text so will make it quick..I just feel that if I have to second quess if I can touch you or not isnt allowing me to be myself..I shouldnt have to worry about physical affection..your afraid of it but I am not and that is why this wont work with us..I want to be with someone that wants the same as me..not to be with someone that makes me feel as if I am doing something wrong for wanting this..sorry"

What more is there to say.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, Im so sorry. Thats sad. Have you heard from him since you posted this? Its so odd that he would have thought a kiss was too much from you. Or that a simple palm massage was inappropriate, or whatever word he used. I will say this; you definitely have a problem on your hands if you want a relationship with him. Really, I am speaking from experience; I know I say this alot but its torture living w/ someone who gives NOTHING emotionally. My hubby isnt as bad off as your Aqua and its still the reason we are divorcing. Its like being thirsty and begging for water and you only get a sip here and there. It doesnt get better! It gets worse and you become bitter and resentful. Im just sorry that you had to invest two years. I dont know him obviously, so I guess there is still a chance that he could wake up and realize what hes losing.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yes he texted me right away and was upset the first text I got was "sorry for yesterday, I am not mad atm I just didnt like the part with "using" you sound like you dont want to see me anymore which is sad" I told him that he was setting physical barriers too high for me and that I put up with all his limitations for the last almost 2 years and sure I cant make him want what I want but at the same time isnt fair to me to always bend for him and for me to fight to get something in return. I also told him that I thought that things would be fine for him as long as I didnt try or want to get close but that wasnt what I am and I didnt think it would be something that he will ever be ready for and I told him that I was still going to continue my plans for Sat and do what I wanted to do. He said that he would be there. I told him that I was fine with that and it will make or break us....
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT....
I said to him " I hope you can understand that I am getting tired of putting other ppls needs and wants before mine, I have catered and catered to you and is time I think of me and what I want..after almost 2 years your still playing a waiting game..life is too short and fast for me to accept this. We are just 2 different ppl and want different things, we will see how well sat is but if its not it will be the last time you see me..accept this pls..I am done putting others first. When you said you would turn down a kiss it felt like more personal rejection and I dont need that anymore." He wrote me this back " I have seen your messages and I have to say that I feel nervous now, I can understand your position.." I later told him that we could forget about Sat and all the time we invested and go our seperate ways and that I wasnt sure that he was mature enough to handle this or me and that he wants to treat us like we just met and know nothing about each other and that I am not a person that accepts rejection all the time and that is what he is willing to give me so we will never see eye to eye..I dont want to feel unaccepted and that he was acting more like a child then a grown up and that I didnt expect to see him on Sat because I didnt think he would show up"
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Cont...Sorry so long btw.
He must of been scared because he called me before I was able to punch out for lunch..he never calls at lunch unless his boss is gone and the boss was there today..he took time off of working to talk to me..he sounded nervous and scared. He asked me if we were going to keep our plans for Sat and I said it was up to him..he asked me if I wanted to and once again I said that it was up to him and that I was going to be there regardless if he was or not and what did he want..He said he wanted to see me and be together. We talked about 20 mins and then again a couple of times before he left work. We didnt talk about the texts but I told him that I was getting tired of his fucken stubborness and not taking it anymore. He said that he couldnt consentrate to work today..I made my points clear and he took the first step to call me so I will keep the Sat plans and see how it goes. I notice that when I ask him how long he wants to be together that it gets later and later..at first it was from 8am to maybe 9 and now today he said 7am to 11 pm if I wanted that long..think he FINALLY got the message?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, you told him how you feel. So he knows exactly where you stand. And if he shows up that means that he must want to give it a try. I know you must be exhausted mentally. I hope he comes thru for you. Keep me posted.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Sorry I replied before seeing the 3rd part of your post. Yea, hes got to get the message by now, unless he is retarded. LOL..and I dont think hes retarded so Im sure you made yourself rather clear. I think maybe hes just scared. Do you think hes a virgin? Its possible! The first time my hubby and I kissed, I had to kiss him. He had no idea what he was doing. and he was 30 at the time! He may surprise you; just give him a chance. You will know whats up after this outing for sure.

Okay..question for YOU: so when I was w/ my Aqua last Sat he told me I could stay over if I wanted (because it was getting really late). I told him that that would be nice but I didnt want their to be any temptation and I wasnt sure if I was ready to go there w/ him just yet. I said because we are not in a committed relationship so Im not sure if thats something Im ready to do. And he didnt respond at all! In his defense he kind of dozed off a little I think but he didnt respond. So I thought, great hes dodging..but then like I told you, he texted me the next day and the day after that, and then called yesterday to chat from work. Which he neer does..so do you think him stepping up the calls and stuff is his way of working toward wanting to be in a committed relationship w/o exactly saying so? Him being a man of few words and all..not that Im rushing it! Im still married for God sake..but I was just curious about that. speaking of married, time to get the ball rolling on the divorce thing after the New Year...
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok we are on messenger and he has called me like 5 times today. We talked a lot of things out so we need to see what happens on sat. Um to answer you I can only go by what he has told me and no isnt a virgin, just this is his first real serious relationship he told me.

As far as what you asked..I can only say from experience and also what mine has told me that when they are quiet is because they are listening, not ignoring, even if it might seem that way and also if you tell them something and they are quiet afterwards is because they are going thru things in their head. He once said to me, dont go by what I say..look at what I do for you and how I act and you will see my true feelings and intensions..you need to do the same and look at what he is doing now. Maybe he is getting ready to make a change.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Good advice..like always. :-)

Keep me posted on your trip. Have fun and just relax! No pressure :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Just checking to see how things are going today??
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Things so far seem great..at his job they are doing a "secret santa" and he didnt ask me he told me that on sat we are going to do this with $5 I told him that there isnt anything now adays you can get for that amount. He says it makes us get more creative and he cant wait to find my gift. He has texted me saying he cant wait to spend more time with me and do the windowshopping. No drama today so far but he hasnt gotton home from work yet..lol. I think he is more clear now then ever of on points so we will see if he isnt different Sat not only because of what I expressed but he wont have to drive so lets cross our fingers it makes a change in my favor. I dont want to get my hopes up but I swear if after all I said about wanting to hold his hand and kiss him if I dont get ANYTHING this time...it will be friends only. I dont care how reserved he is..it will be my breaking point..there is only so much a person can take no matter how much they like or love the other person. How is your guy treating you?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I agree with you wholeheartedly. He at least seems to be willing to try, and that says alot. He probably figures its now or never.

All quiet on this front. I havent talked to my guy since Tuesday when he called. I let yesterday go by w/o anything to give him a chance to miss me a little. And today I sent him a quick text, but havent heard back yet. Hes working so sometimes he doesnt see it til later.

Im hanging Christmas lights now. Of course I couldnt expect the husband to pull the box out of the basement and do it. Nooooo that would require me to remind him 80 times and then he would just bring up the box and leave it on the floor for two weeks. So Im doing it. What a pain in th ass. While I was doing it, I was thinking how nice it would be to have a guy who thought and planned ahead and did things w/o me asking. Not that Im too good to hang lights but you know what I mean..okay back to the decorations. :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ive been having some health problems and had to take tests and see a specialist today and my guy called like 8 times, just got off the phone with him and he wanted to know how things went and what is going on. He cant wait until sat and neither can I to be honest with you..is strange in a way but I kind of think it was sweet and romantic for him to suggest the $5 gift..so I have to give him a gold star for initiating something. I am so happy that I asked if he would like to spend time with me this weekend..this is my last true time of freedom for awhile, husband gets out of rehab on Wed so I am sure that my guy also knew that this would be a good time to take advantage of. I am getting more and more excieted..but I dont want to get hopes up on the romantic tip but I would be deeply hurt and disappointed if he didnt make some kind of move.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Great article! I think we have #s 4,6,9,10,and 11 down. The rest are TBD.

Sounds like that verbal kick in the ass that you gave your guy is working! Very sweet for him to worry about you. Those things count BIG TIME. And hey, theres nothing wrong w/ being excited about your weekend. Your good mood will definitely rub off on him. So just enjoy it and live in the moment! :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Jeez, what it kill him to tell me that he misses me?
We texted earlier today and it was cute. He ended it by saying he hoped that we could GET TOGETHER one day next week. Why cant he just say he misses me? It would be nice..thats all Im sayin. lol
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Because to say that he misses you means and involves feelings and did we establish yet that they have them? LOL. Oh ouch!..that was mean of me..hehe. Mine wanted to know all about my appointment and called me one more time. Once again I am very happy I took the chance to ask if he wanted to get together this weekend because he had plans to do something else or shall I say he was thinking of maybe doing something else but once I asked that all this other plans went out the window...I guess I killed him with kindness the weekend before that he wants to see me again so bad. lol. Now he is like a man on a treasure hunt. I am not sure if I told you before but think that I did..on messenger he often tells me that I am a challenge..and when we were together last weekend he was getting a little annoyed with the ppl at the store and we both wanted to leave and I was teasing him saying I wanted to stay and check more things out he says to me " You are a challenge" as we were leaving I asked him if that was a good or a bad thing and he just looked at me and smiled...Yup think he's hooked enough for it to be safe to say that he is pretty much mine. When I gave you that link to check out there were maybe 2 tops that were iffy and that was the last one only because sometimes he is very mature and other times his second guessing things sets us back a lot.but other then that I am getting most of those and the one that comes to mind the most was the first one...making me first which he pretty much has for almost 2 years..even when he was busy as hell and had swine flu and was in another country, this man would make sure he came online to spend some time with me to ask me how my day was...those things get top rank in my book.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Im in such a bad mood right now. I practice mind over matter and it works 99% of the time, but not right now. I swear, the MOMENT I get extra money I am filing for divorce. I am living with a child! We basically lead separate lives anyway, but certain things we must collaborate on since we still live together. Mostly money. And talking to him is like talking to a f*ucking wall. If its a topic he doesnt like, he gets mad or mumbles or walks away. Meanwhile nothing gets solved, unless I come up w/ a plan - on my own. Mostly money stuff. He just keeps reminding me why I am divorcing him. But now its to the point where I am losing respect for him. He just whines and whines about how hard life is, how money is tight. You know that saying, when the going gets tough the tough get going? NOT HIM! He just turns into a whiney punk. Im so over this situation. If only 10k (or less) could fall from the sky. I cant even think about my Aqua today. All I can think about is how I must get out of this situation. And I better at least file soon. I told my Aqua back in June that I was filing soon. And thank God hes not the type to hound me. But one of these days hes going to casually ask me if I am divorced yet. And I want to be able to tell him its any day now. Hope your day is going well. :-(
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well I am happy about tomorrow, my Aqua told me that one of the new ppl he had to pick up not long ago invieted him (and maybe others) to a DVD movie night and of course had to be tonite right. Anyway I told him to have fun and dont be tired tomorrow. I wont tell him but was a little pissed at first. He told me that he has been helping this new guy because he knows how it feels to be new and I support that so my guy told me in a message that he thinks that other guy asked him over out of obligation and I was thinking to myself " yeah and you said yes out of the same obligation" Anyway what made me a little mad was that we plan to get up early like 5 am and meet at 7 am so if he is staying late he is going to be tired and I dont need a tired man around me when all he had to say was "maybe another time would be better for me, I have plans" but Noooo, he cant do that. Cant kiss me out out of obligation of knowning each other almost 2 f**king years but he can say "yes" to someone he told me that he doesnt even like really. I told him to have fun and if he is too tired to not even show up..he said that it started at 8 and he might not even stay the whole movie, might leave early I am thinking "what's the point?" Oh well let's see how tomorrow goes.
Btw wanted to tell you..if your looking for the money of miracles I am going to tell you that most the time it doesnt happen..I been thinking the same for the last like 4 years at least and sometimes just have to take a total chance..either on credit card or loan or whatever it takes..trust me, I am trying to do the same thing...not easy at all..I know.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well the truth is, if he wants to see you so bad - and it appears he does - it wont matter how tired he is. So dont worry about that. Im sure he will be ready to go! I know what you mean about money miracles. That was just desperate wishful thinking. I have been unable to find a job since my last one went out of business. I have my own business online and with the economy its much slower so I need additional income. I do music projects too but those are not as often as I would like. I just need to be able to pay the bills on my own so he can get the hell out and so I can file of course. My friend used divorcecenter.com and got divorced in 3 months for @ $600. Thats what Im going to do. I just didnt want to file while he was still living here, but at this point Im willing to do whatever. Sometimes I cant believe I married him. In my defense, I just didnt realize how deep seeded his immaturity went. Its infuriating sometimes.
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh yes he wants to see me bad enough for sure, he just called me to ask about my day and said he will leave early and not to worry about him because he will be fine no matter what he said.
I have already talked to a divorce laywer and let me ask you a couple of things..first off are you sure he will sign? Also you can live in the same house and also be seperated the deal with that I was told is have to be living seperate lives and that also means in another bed so as long as you can come up with a date when that started if it has as long as you have that it wont matter if he doesnt want to sign but also it depends on state to state. Also with that link you told me about for $600 was that a simple as it gets divorce where both ppl signed and came to aggreements on child support and everything else? My guy seems very eager to see me and spend the day, each day I am getting textes on how much fun he had last weekend when we were together or that he cant wait to spend the day with me or that he wants to do this or that with me. I cant imagin the pressure he might be feeling after what I made clear to him on some kind of physical affection but hey I wont feel bad for him..As I told him, I have went far and beyond, now is his turn.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL - he seems to be doing a 180! Thats awesome! I cant wait to hear how everything turns out. I guess youre going to bed early tonite since you have to get up at the crack of dawn? Yes, he will sign. Part of me thinks that he doesnt believe it will happen. Im not sure if he wants to get divorced or not. I know he didnt at first but I told him back in like March and he hasnt done one ting to try and make it works (not that I care anymore), so I think hes more afraid of being alone and away from the kids than being w/o me. See, I have no idea how he feels about anything. I wasnt exaggerating when I said he doesnt communicate. Sometimes I would talk to him for 20 minutes and he would answer with a one liner. Yea, that bad. My friend who used that company also had two kids and they worked everything out. Since I dont think he will contest it, it should be fine. And I called them; they have a payment plan. So I at least want to get the initial paperwork in hand and start filling it out. And if he does (he wont) they help you w/ court. Either way we still have to go to court. They just walk you through the process so you dont have to pay a lawyer. I have to research whether we haveto be living apart. Cant remember. I sure hope not. Because as it stands now Im a ways away from him moving out and I just cant take it any longer. For all that I do I should just be single; why have him here giving me a friggin headache? Make sure you let me know how your trip turns out.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Cant wait to get an update from you! I hope everything went well. Im home, cleaning and stuff. Kids are asleep; hubbys at work- so its very peaceful.

My guy called today! So cute because I called him and left a message while he was working this afternoon(Sat) and its now 11 and I really didnt think he was going to call back. And he did! He is showing me that he can be counted on. He said he was exhausted and going to bed, but I thought it was so nice that he called. Aw, I REALLY like him. And everytime he keeps his word I like him more. :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

What an amazing day..the temp wasnt too bad and we couldnt of had a better day. It started with us checking out the stores around the place we wanted to eat and he was blown away with the place that I picked..it is a HUGE buffet with home cooking and this man must of ate 5 plates of food,and we shared some. We spent hours and hours at 3 different outlets. Today we spent 15 hours straight together and we both said how it didnt feel that long, felt more like 5 or 6. I didnt get a kiss but I got WAY MORE affection and touching and I didnt initiate it..he was very playful and flirty and even hit me in the ass at one point..LOL Silly man. We were so tired and our feet hurt so bad but we didnt want it to end. I always have my phone ringer off and husband had called 4 times just to talk for 10 mins but I of course missed the calls since I didnt hear it and when I checked my phone, German asked me if I was checking my phone which was fine and I said "yes, he tried to call", this was the first time I had seen a bad reaction from my Aqua, he looked at me kind of mad with a matter of fact way about him and said "he? (he knew was husband) and he said "does he normally call on saturdays, did he leave a message on what he wants?". I didnt say anymore about it but was going to tell him that I noticed that he seemed a little mad and ask more about it but I went against it..I wasnt sure what to think about that.

We bought each other Christmas gifts and had the most amazing time with a man I feel in love with a long long time ago.
To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Ohhh that is so amazing! Sounds like a fairytale day! So happy for you! You moust be on cloud 9 right now! So you're back in the game with him lol He came through!

Now if he stays in the US you KNOW he is not going to be too patient too much longer with your married situation - based on his reaction today. I'm glad you had a good time. Things are lookin up for both of us :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

I might bring it up at his reaction at some point..I didnt want there to be stress at the time and he totally understands my situation in why I am still married and it is all financial reasons and he knows the debt that I have with EVERYTHING in MY name making it of course impossible for me to pay these bills on my own even if I were to live somewhere for free AND have 2 fulltime jobs! I cant file bankrupcy because if I did that I am left with really no one to co sign for me to get things when needed, trust me not that I want to fall back on someone at all, that isnt me but in all realtiy there are just SOME things that you may need help with and I dont have those options. Now IF I were to file in a way that you pay back a little bit at a time it could be possible for me to do this but not pay rent and all that at the same time so I would need a roommate and I dont have those options either..as far as living with friends or whatever. I really value my privacy and dont trust anyone but him and of course IF he were to be able to stay in USA both you and I know that he wouldnt even think to ask me if we would want to get like a 2 bedroom place and have our own bedrooms to give me not only this option of freedom but to also allow us freedom for our relationship to grow in a normal way. Once again it would be ME throwing the idea out there and try not to throw up at the stress of feeling like I would be turned down..talk about stress!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

CONT....

Now lets talk about more recent and why once again I didnt reach for his hand and come on a little more strong yesterday because I am sure it went thru your mind at some point or another. I had figured after our conversation that I would give him total freedom and just see how the day went..when he told me that he needs more time he wasnt kidding with this and after almost 2 years together I should know this by now..I wanted to see if there were SOME improvement and there was so he gets a gold star there. Our conversation wasnt too long ago and didnt want him to feel the stress to do this (kiss me or whatever) and this was the most amount of time that we had together and had a totally amazing time..I mean a man that will window shop with you and go to stores for 15 hours straight and be just as into it as you are is for sure a keeper in my book! He was still a gentlemen and suprises me with the different things he does each time we get together..this time it was helping me into my coat..how many guys do we know this age or at all that do this anymore? So I wanted to melt his heart with an amazing day and not make any kind moves that hadnt happened before..next time ( and since husband comes home this week and we have 1 car to share it will be harder for me to get away and see German) I will take his hand and he will have to deal with a new step of affection in our relationship..once he gets use to that...well who the hell knows..LOL. I wont bring it up in conversation like I did after the 2 days we spent together before..I put it out there and he knows what I would like...Beign able to get together for the next time is going to be the next challenge.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Same here..my hubby and I also share a car. Big difference is that we live right outside of Manhattan so I dont need the car to meet my guy (subway, train, bus)..makes it alot easier. My guy lives in the city. Another reason I need cash for this divorce; I need to buy my own car. Im sure I could get the car in the divorce settlement but that wouldnt be very nice because then he would have to find a car and everything so...

Anyway, no, I wasnt thinking why you didnt force a kiss or anything. You seemed very happy with the way things went, and from the way you described him, he was much more affectionate this time around. So I think that you went with your instincts and it paid off. Besides, Im sure a kiss is just around the corner. Overthinking things is what gets us into trouble. I try not to do that anymore; I go w/ my gut and how I feel inside.

Anyway...guess what I did this morning? I was lying the bed and it was raining and I kept thinking to myself how nice it would be to get be able to be in the bed w/ my guy on this rainy morning. Well, I got the urge to text him that! LOL..I hope he wasnt mortified. I mean, why would he be? He didnt text back, but then again, I didnt ask him a question so..you know how they are..do you think that was very forward? I mean, I HAVE had sex w/ the guy. LOL..I just think sometimes I play it so cool that he may be wondering how I feel about HIM, so I thought it wouldnt hurt give him a little something to think about. What do you think? After I hit the send button I screamed to myself. LOL! That was few hours ago. I dont even want him to respond really. He has been really good about calling and stuff.

I havent seen him in over a week. I have alot going on this week so I dont know about the dinner thing, but was thinking we could do it next weekend - which will be right before Christmas so our date will be fresh in his mind.

So tell me, can you not get away to see your Aqua at all when your hubby is home? Is it just the car thing or does he track your every move?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay so he never texted me back! LOL..not that I was expecting it, but now that I think about it, it would have been nice. JEEZ. Wont be flirting w/ him via text anytime soon.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok I dont think that was too forward at all, I use to overthink these kind of things as well but dont think anything of it really and btw even when I do send more forward things like that even now, there are most often times that I wont get anything back or he doesnt respond yet I know he got the message..dont think anything of it.
Ok as far as the husband deal...it is hard. He will be home soon and HE isnt interested in a divorce..dont get me wrong, I am glad that he has gotton help and is doing better but it wont patch this marriage up. I see us as good friends and I cant change my heart, just as I cant change how my heart feels about my german. I will support him and do what I have to do. Aqua asked if I had time for a chat and called me. We talked about husband a little bit because he does ask me how he is doing..we chatted about it a little bit.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay, Im glad you said that. I was starting to feel a little annoyed that he didnt at least ACKNOWLEDGE my text.

But wow, I love the intimacy you and your German are having. It seems that you guys are closer - would you agree? Thats so nice. I guess I cant expect that just yet; its only been 6 months.Talked about the hubby huh? Good luck divorcing a man who doesn't want to be divorced.

My hubby never mentions it either way. Hes such a baby. He is working my nerves this week. My 6 year old is allergic to nuts. You know what the husband did? Gives him almond milk? I almost had a heart attack! I asked him why he did that and you know what he says? Wait for it...'I thought he could have that?' WTF. Now hes usually a very reliable guy and a great Dad, but this is what its like living w/ him. He just has a brain spasm and does dumb sh*t and then follows it up w/ a lame excuse. Like you I see him a good friend. But we must get away from each other or I fear that we wont even be able to be friends because the sight of him irritates me lately. His stupid excuses, his irresponsibility. Its ridiculous. Love him dearly, I just cant be married to him. Pray I find a job!

ANYWAY...yea, so wont sweat my Aqua and his lack of reply. I need a glass of wine tonite! lol
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I think he was waiting for me to call him tonite. I told him yesterday that I would today (Sunday) and let him know if I was available tomorrow. I wasnt sure until about an hour ago and its midnite..he never answers after 9 or 10. So I called prepared to leave a message. And he answered! He sounded all groggy, but he answered. I know it seems silly, but its a big deal. He has never gone out of his way to answer my call when hes asleep or on his way to bed. It was sooo cute. :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Aww that is so cute..ok we can safely say that these men do make us appreciate the simple easy things because they make us fight for so much with them.I had to laugh when I read your post..it was almost as if HE was the one that had to wait around all day to hear from YOU and it had to have been on his mind of you to call and that is why he answered. Ive been mad at mine today..he is telling me about this trip he wants to take at Christmas but he has NO organization and plans fricken last minute instead of 2 months ago when rates would have been much much lower..he kept texting me about it and I wouldnt back down on my opinion and I was mad. I was mad because he wants so bad to move and find another place where he doesnt have to live with other nosey interns as he does now and I told him to ave his money and to stop assuming that I am going to research everything for him because I dont support this and keep me out of his plans...he has to do everything himself. I told him that if he can use the time and energy to look for fun things like trips that he can use that same time and energy to look for another place to move to and dont expect me to do it for him..my help is over. He is lazy when it suits him and he knew that I was mad at him and wouldnt back down..it bothered him enough to call me a half an hour before he had to leave work to explain himself and say he was sorry he made me mad and he could understand my point of view but wanted to ask for my advice and told me it was just an idea. Even when we are mad with each other he wants to always or almost always talk things over.
To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You're a tough cookie; I love that! And yes, you did the right thing. If you started doing those kins of things FOR them they turn into babies. He doesn't realize it but you are doing him a favor. Its great that you guys can talk things out like that.

So I spent some time with my Aqua last nite. It was nice. We got on this conversation about seeing other people..I asked him if he was. And he said that he is not. He said ONE of the reasons is 'I don't have the time', and something else about investing time in people who don't stick around. Aw..then he said "so I'm hangin with you right now". At the time when he said it, it sounded like it was his way of telling me that he didn't want to be with anyone else but me. But now I'm questioning it. Maybe he meant just what he said, hangin with me. I don't know. I'm not gonna dwell on it I guess..I just expected more I guess.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

I have an update but before I get into it have a few things to say about your post. That is a hard one to read into for a few reason..we both know that Aquas like to hide true feelings so is possible he said that because he is either hiding them or unsure if he can or wants to be more committed to just one person atm..my best advice is to just read more into what he does then what he says and if you think of it that way then he has changed some things in last month or so such as calling or picking up the phone when you dont expect it. They are hard to read because they (if they are true) dont mislead and i read often they like only a one on one relationship when more serious, they also mean what they say. If you want to find out more just ask and be direct about it, maybe something like "we had this conversation before and dont want to make a big deal about it but was wondering if you meant what you said and your just 'hanging' with me because you dont have anyone else to replace me with?" Something like that is direct and should spark up something. Make it sound like that is how you took it ( they hate to hurt ppls feelings).
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

I've been having health problems lately and going thru a lot of tests which everyone knows about. Last night we were on messenger and he was feeling sorry for himself which he can tend to do and wanted me to cater to him..I wasnt in the mood to..now remember this is the same day he told me about the last min trip he wants to take which made me mad and he called me from work towards the end. So we are talking about the doctors and I shared something with him that I have not told anyone else in my family and it worried him. I said I needed someone to take care of me for a change and tired of doing things for others and not get back, I said my good night and logged out. It must have struck a deep nerve with him.
This morning at work I was really busy for hours and when he got up he sent me a text saying that he had another crazy idea and wanted to know if I thought it was too crazy and asked me if I would like to go to dinner with him after work on Friday, of course if I had the car. OMG like THIS Friday meaning less then a week of when we last seen each other? Also...read back..did he just ask me out?!?..Oh I think so..hehe. Talk about making the first move huh? Sneaky German. Btw I texted back that we would have to see if I could and if it couldnt happen it wasnt because I wasnt interested and also said " Would you still want to see me if it were only a couple of hours?" He said " Yes that's why I have offered the dinner idea, to have some relaxed time and eat together"...sound like he might be a romantic to you?
To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

OMG -Yes, romantic indeed! I'm so jealous! If you can't get the car can he pick u up somewhere not too far from your house? Good luck with all the health stuff..its sweet that he worries about you. He sounds like a keeper. I know what you mean about someone taking care of you for a change..you really get to see what ppl are made of when YOU need something. I'm so tired of being in charge..its exhausting..

I wanna share something that has me ready to kick my guy to the curb, but would like ur opinion. So over the summer when we were YOU KNOW, he broke a bracelet of mine. Accidentally of course..anyway outta nowhere last nite he asks me if I ever had it fixed. I told him that I bought it in Brazil and couldn't get it fixed. He says "well, I would at least like to pay for half of it". I told him it cost $400. After the shock wore off he said ok. A few hours later he says "I can't elieve it cost $400 - are you lying?" I almost got up and walked out. He was serious! I said I cldnt beklieve he wld think I wld lie @ something like that or anything for that matter. He then says "how many relationships have you been in?" He said because you seem to think everyone is so innocent". Basically he was saying that it was naïve iof me to be offended that he would question me. As if everyone is distrusting like him and I must be inexperienced or something in how ppl's minds work.

To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

CONT
I almost walked out. He was all like let's not fight bla bla..I spent the nite (no sex). And then this morning he made a comment about how he's suspicious by nature and how "people try to get over on me". Again OFFENDED. I mean WTF. I get he's all distrustful of ppl in general but I didn't like how he made me feel. Like I could possibly lie @ sumthn like that or 'try to get over'. Remember HE brought it up. Last nite he said sumthn @ me not taking it
personal and I tried not to but I do. It just made me feel like maybe we haven't made any progress at all and that he doesn't feel anything special for me at all.

And just because I hope or expect someone I'm involved w/ to think the best @ me and not think I could lie @ sumthn does not mean I'm naïve or inexperienced. I guess I was naïve about how he feels about me - which is not much I guess.

I almost called him earlier to tell him all this but held bk. I just don't want to talk to him at all. And what he said I didn't really sink in and piss me off after I left him this morning.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

Oh your not going like what I have to say...Keep him, seriously, let it go..yeah it made you mad and pissed you off but let it go..he was trying to TEST YOU..go with the flow, he doesnt trust and I think he thinks WAY MORE of you then you think he does. Trust me, I had a year and a half of that shit and my guy similar shit so let it go. Who knows, they are strange fuckers and someday he just might give you a gift and it will be a bracelet to replace the one he broke and you two will laugh about it. This was one of his tests to see if in his mind if you passed the test that others have failed. One thing I learned with these guys..arguments are mental turn ons..we see it as fighting, they are testing the waters...try your best to not act mad or ignore him. In fact I would do something he would never expect like text him some shit like " it didnt end that great earlier but hope you had a good day, good night and chat with you later" I mean it! Send this!. Even if you dont hear anything back, it will shock the shit out of him and he will see you as a mystery and want you more. I bet next time you get more repect..just send the damn text already lol
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, I dont know - Im still so annoyed! I had a feeling you were going to say something like ignore it. LOL - but he was such a d*ck! And I really dont appreciate him trying to make me feel like Im some inexperienced kid or something. I am really, really ticked. and it didnt end badly. He asked if we were getting together on Monday (to do some music stuff) and I just said I would let him know. So we ended okay and he probably doesnt even know Im upset. Im not good at holding back when Im upset. Im going to try, but chances are I will say something. I will think about sending your text - but I feel like he shouldnt be let off the hook. He was SUCH a d*ck! if I do send something it wont be tonite. Im too pissed. Im mad at the world right now. Sigh...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok Miss Pissy how does this sound instead? " It was good to see you again, didnt like how you questioned how many relationships I have had and wasnt happy about what you said about my bracelet implying that it was cheap or something, so now that I got this out of the way, have a good night"

Send it already and see what happens.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay that is a little better. LOL..what if he calls me though. I dont wanna talk to him! Okay will send in a few minutes. Im at my moms now;I needed to get out of my house away from the husband. I wanna punch him in the face too. These motherf*uckers. lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok so if you dont want to talk to him put at the end that your at your moms visiting and your busy but wanted to wish him a good night anyway. Kill him with kindness LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, I sent the text and he sent back this whole thing about how he had to ask for his peace of mind and he has no shame in asking and doing whatever is necessary for his well being. Dont take it personal he says. 'Try understanding rather than judging. And how its a waste of my time to focus on that.' And how he doesn't spend time worrying about peoples ways and why they do what they do (like me I guess he was saying). He said 'we spoke about it and solved it dont feel angry. I just wanna get past this.' Oh get this, and 'do you feel the need to prove to me that you am not someone who would try and get over on someone, because it was a question, not a label.' Can you believe him? Very intelligent, logical reply from his end and point of view. But STILL he is acting like nothing bothers him, its his way and thats that. My last text to him was that I was not angry, just letting him know how he made me feel. I was kinda pissed but I didnt want him to know that. I sent a few responses out before got a chance to send my last one he writes back how he will see me Monday and all this other random chit chat. Is this guy a lost cause? Because really, I feel like ultimately him being involved w/ me is not a big deal to him. He is sweet but then he goes and acts like Im someone he just met yesterday. Youre going to tell me to chill, I know it. lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

yup "chill out" pretty much. Look if it makes you feel any better after almost 2 years mine still does the same thing. I mean if you remember right since starting to finally get personal face to face time with my aqua even though we been together online for so long when we first met in person he treated me like a stranger he just met..but it ended up to be fine and it was me that was nervous. We especially YOU right now have to remember that they think different then we do. Just because he isnt pouring out his heart to you or saying his feelings doesnt mean they are not there. We have to accept that they are different..if we had them figured out we wouldnt be on this post LOL
To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL @ your last comment..
So are you saying that his responses were not a bit pompous? And basically get used to getting treated like I don't matter? LMAO I can't stand his attitude sometimes! Anyway I'm over it now. I still think he's a d#ck and don't wanna see his face for a few days. lol
To Virgo With An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL @ your last comment..
So are you saying that his responses were not a bit pompous? And basically get used to getting treated like I don't matter? LMAO I can't stand his attitude sometimes! Anyway I'm over it now. I still think he's a d#ck and don't wanna see his face for a few days. lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo With An Aquarius

No not saying to get use to getting treated like you dont matter, saying to act like you dont give a shit because it would confuse him more that way. See a little how they seem to think is that if act this way and get a rise out of us then they are thinking that we must really like or care about them so it feeds their ego in a way. If we act like "ok this happened and I dont like it and let them know this by speaking our mind but not making a huge issue out of it but just ignore them a little bit afterwards" the fact that we are not getting all drama like will not only be better for the relationship but will make them think more. Trust me I have been thru this a LONG long time with mine..once you gain their trust even if it feels like little by little they do change and you will be happy you stuck thru it.

I dont know where yours is at but mine is a Aqua/Pieces cusp so he is much more sensitive then the average Aqua but I still see the clear Aqua in him and yeah even now it isnt alway easy but he's become one of the best ppl in my life.
To Virgo with an Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well ignoring him a little should be fairly easy because I have no desire to talk to him. I've been trying to figure out why what happened bothered me so much. I think its because I saw a side of him I didn't like. He was very cold to me. I didn't feel like he was testing me, more like just being himself - which came off as pretty selfish and self righteous.

And at thte same time he's texting me last nite and saying he wants to move past it. So I know that for him its not a big deal..I just don't like the idea of being w/ yet another person who can't acknowledge when they are wrong. Not saying he was wrong; just the WAY he chose to express himself. All the things he was saying @ taking care of himself first (which is a given) but it just came off very cold like
My feelings dont count. I don't know..such a small thing that sparked it but its really got me thinking..

I'm not even angry anymore. He's just not looking so great in my eyes right now. Its like his way or no way, with everything. For example, when was the last time he invited me our for. Date? I dnt think hanging out as his house counbts. Quite convenient for me to travel to him while he just sits on his ass and waits..I'm over it.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo with an Aquarius

I read your post and all I can say is "WELCOME to the selfish, self centered side of Aquarius" They can get this way and trust me, I have seen it myself beign treated this way in the worst time of my life no less and btw it happened months ago but still fricken pissed about it but no matter how much I were to bring it up or be mad..in the end it doesnt change what happened at that time so I moved on from that. Even the sweetest ones get this way btw. Ok as far as asking for a date..I have read time and time again that they dont like to call things "dates" because it sounds like they want attachment, for them it is safer to say "hanging out" due to their way or thinking.
Next....
Keep trying to tell yourself that they think and see things different so stop trying to expect him to express or act the same way you do..it will never happen. Your a "feeler" and Aquas are "thinkers" see the huge difference already? How do you think I must feel when I have to put up with a man that is an Aqua/Pieces cusp...one min is one way and an hour from now your dealing with the other sign...OMG is almost worse then the twins of a Gemini LOL.
Anyway..find the fine line of not getting too dramatic but at the same time, dont let him step all over you..the fine line is there, find it. Remember how he turned around a bit when you seemed more distant and went off on him? Take that path for a bit but dont dwell on what happened because your only bringing YOURSELF down. They are strange bastards, dont expect him to be like you.
I dont have much of an update but only that my guy keeps talking about dinner with him on Friday and is so looking forward to it that I think he forgets how many times he asks me if I am going to be able to make it..he asked like 6 times but in 5 different ways..lol. Since the last time we spent together which was on Sat he has become very very flirty and also noticed in person he was more that way as well.
Oh another thing..as far as going to your guys place and spending time there have you even suggested the making of the meal with him? Dont back down now because your pissed off at him, it might be the best thing you guys together in a long time.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You're so right. LOLI know, I know. I worry that he's never gonna GET ME. And I feel like he doesn't even care to try. I don't know. I never did suggest dinner..that was going to be this weekend. I will still do it but it has to be after Christmas. I really don't wanna see him at all. And his bday is on the day Aquarius starts 1/21 so he's on the cusp. Isn't that Aquarius/Cap? Another stubborn batard sign. LOL

Yes I'm a feeler and its so hard for me to understand the way he works. He's like a f*ckin robot. LOL..at least ur guy manages to be sweet. For now I'm ignoring him; not outta spite..I just need a minute.

So are you going to be able to make the dinner on Friday? Sounds like fun. I don't think I'll go out wg my guy until be asks me somewhere other than his stupid living room. Yea I'm being pissy. Lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Omg listen to yourself....Dont think I will go out with him unless it is elsewhere..he cant read your mind woman..say something, come now stop beign so damn stubborn yourself..sure your not an Aqua? LOL. I dont know about Friday, I might not know untill last min because hubby got home today and is in outpatient treatment and goes to meetings everyday but I did tell him that I want the car way more often then before and just do my own thing...for me. Yeah my guy is sweet MOST of the time..he has his real bad selfish/self centered side as well...let me give my ( I am still pissed off) example. When he was still in Germany and finishing school and at the same time getting things ready to come to USA, My mom (adopted mom) at the time had a transplant and was in coma for like 6 weeks and this conversation took place the Sunday before I were to find out on Monday if my brother was going to go to the hospital to see if things were better or we were to pull the plug..doesnt get more stressful then that does it to have to choose if someone lives or dies or not. Anyway..I was reaching out and very upset for weeks and talked to him about it often and because he was also stressed out due to school and move to USA know what my sweet loving Aqua told me? "I can't support you because I have my own stress to deal with and if I cant handle my own stress how am I to try to help you with yours" Now tell me that wasnt COLD, as cold as it gets..so you can compaire what he did to me at a time I most needed him and to how yours was making you feel cold not to long ago and maybe you wont see what yours did to you as bad. I didnt ever forgive mine but I had to get over it so that I wouldnt go insane with anger...now put your pride aside and make plans with him to get this dinner together and try for this weekend so you wont have this asshole on your mind the whole time hating him when it might be the best time of your life with him.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Btw my guy is Feb 18th which is the last day of Aqua so he is the cusp of Aqua/Pisces
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I think I am STILL IN SHOCK!. We were on messenger and either he has gas or was high on something (he doesnt do that btw) but he shocked me..before we logged out he said " I would have had a hard time here in US if it werent for you" I said " that's a compliment babe, ty" He ends the night by telling me " Your the only one for me"...OMG how do I take this?
Virgo W/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

OMG! How do you take it? You jump up and down and giggle like a schoolgirl, that's how you take it! LOL! Woooow, that's awesome. Something has really changed here. I'm loving this! Aren't u ecstatic? Girl you better hit ur hubby over the head and steal that car if you have to and go have dinner with your man! LMAO that's awesome really :-)

I'm not calling mine for a while. I'm not angry but I need a breather - and you said ignore him so..plus the dinner thing won't wrk this weekend for me anyway. I will definitely tell him how I feel when I see him inperson and if I like what he says we go from there..if not, its a wrap.


Ps that's a helluva example u gave earlier. Had my guy or any guy said that to me I would have dropped him so fast. I don't kno how u hot over a statement like that. BUT he turned out to be a keeper so good thing you had the maturity and sense to let that go. Good for you..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo W/ An Aquarius

I had a good nights sleep and am still in shock, in fact on messenger I keep all our conversations and opened up messenger to re read it just incase I was so tired last night that it was something that I made up..lol. I wont make it a big deal with him but I did tell him that I thought it was sweet so he knew that I did read what he wrote and see, I said that especially after we had our 2 days together I could sense something a little different and I was right because he was a bit more open and different this last time we seen each other and for him to spend a sat with me and on what..I think it was Monday or maybe Tuesday he asked me to dinner something inside him came to a head..or maybe he finally made his thoughts and I passed all his stupid tests or something..who the hell knows but it feels like now this man is after ME instead of the other way around..it definately has a different feel to the relationship.
And about the comment he made..trust me I still cry now and then when I think about it and get mad but it happened and I cant change that right? We were together for almost a year and a half at that point so I looked at how he was MOST of the time and made my judgement from there but trust me...oh did we have a talk once I calmed down a bit...and dont think I wasnt drama freak about it because at the time I was on the verge of a break up over the whole thing and I did chew his ass out!
I still love the damn moody bastard anyway.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo W/ An Aquarius

Doesnt look like I can make the dinner date on Friday..he was ok about it. I told him why with the car share and he understood but we got into an argument over an idea that I had. I said that since he was going to take a trip on Sat that on Sunday I would drive where he lives ( I use to live in that area btw) in the morning and we could go out to breakfast and spend some time. He is such a private person that he told me that he doesnt want us to be close to that area because the co workers that he hates all gossip and try to pry into his private life and if they see us then they will have something to talk about and he just cant stand ppl talking about him. I of course took all this wrong and got upset saying that he worries more about what they think then what I think..my feelings got hurt....I wonder if he still thinks I am the only one for him now...doubt it.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well had it been me I would have felt the same way. He seems too concerned with what his co workers think; I agree. But you know these guys - you can't tell them sh*t once they get an idea into their head. He seems to be coming around a lot lately so maybe he will give some thought to what you said and change his mind. Maybe he's just being bratty because he's hurt thaÞ he came up w/ the dinner idea (something he never does) and you shot him down - even tho he may understand your reason logically.

I haven't heard from mu guy. But I don't really care. I am feeling the pressure of wanting out of this marriage and wanting my finances back on track. Its stressing me out this week.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I have the car today so the dinner is still on but have to admit now that I am not near as happy or into it as I was when he first brought up the issue. To be honest I think the meanness in me is comming out and I am doing this to meet him to say " see YOU are important enough to ME for me to try to make things work as ususal, now grow the fuck up!" I wont say that but maybe he will get the message anyway. And trust me, one of these weekends out of the blue I will drive to where he is and call him up without telling him I am doing this and tell him that I am there and if he cares to see me then show up and if not dont expect to see me again, it wont be give and take with either of these men, they are both on my nerves for different reasons. What's the saying? Assholes come in all different shapes and sizes or did they mean Aquas? Grrrrr
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yea they are definitely *ssholes this week. But its good that you got the car. Too bad he had to ruin it a little. I'm sure it will work out and you will end up having a great time. Mine had asked me earlier this week if I would spend the nite with him again soon. I know what he wants. But I'm gonna tell him I don't feel comfrtable entering into a sexual relationship w/ someone who's just "hanging out" with me. See how he likes that.

I'm ususally not this bitchy. I'm just a bit fed up w/ people and their bullsh*t. I'm married/separated w/ kids, as if that is not enuff stress. Yet I still manage to make time for his annoting Aqua self. Time for him to start showing ME he's worth it. Lemme know how dinner goes tonite. :-)
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So hes not a total *sshole. He left me a message, saying he just wanted to check in w/ me to see how I was feeling and catch up. He was very calm and friendly, like nothing happened. I know you explained it, but it still boggles my mind how they/he can be so ugly one minute and nice the next. Granted, this was the first time I have ever felt any coldness from him but it was definitely something Im not used to. Anyway, so hes all happy go lucky, cookie crunch (as I like to call it haha). I guess I will call him tomorrow. Waiting to hear about your nite. It just occurred to me that you might get a kiss tonite! Haha!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well tonite was very casual and we ate at a diner and he seemed very very open tonite.I got out of the car and he came over and gave me a great big hug and rubbed my back..we sat in the corner and ate and had a wonderful time. He told me stories and at one point I laughed so hard I couldnt stop and had to go to the bathroom because I was afraid I would pee my pants, you know those really hard laughs..that is what I had. Remember when I was upset about keeping me secret? Ok seems that has changed as well. He was invieted to a party and was asked this morning if he was going to go, he said " No, I have better options" they asked what and he said " I am having dinner with an American female friend and I have known her for a very long time" He stepped up to the plate on this issue. We just click and it feels like it should be. I didnt get a kiss tonite but wasnt shocked about that because I feel that he is such a private person that I am sure that he will also make"that" private as well. He did ask me about the hotels closer to where I live. At one point he said " we should stay over"..I think that he really wants to make that first move but is trying to create a better place to make it. I am getting a much stronger vibe that he wants me and I dont mean just sexually..I mean more like perm..see he hates the company he works for and I mean HATES...
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

WOW. See, I told you it would all work out! I knew you would have a good time. Ah, so glad for you! Isnt it nice to be out with someone you really like, instead of home wishing you were with someone else? Youre going to be floating all weekend. Yep, seems like he has a master plan. :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT.........
so he HATES it there and he tells me tonite how he seen a job opening in this company for fulltime and that gets him greencard...he said he will apply in Jan or Feb...I call him lazy but he's on top of things like this. He's serious about us..I am 100% sure. We had an amazing time and as usual didnt want to leave. We both warmed up our cars and he came over and gave me a long long hug while he rubbed my back up and down..he did this twice before we said good bye and drove away.
Btw glad you heard from yours and yeah they are nice one min and cold the next..I ignore it when it happens.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, I need your advice. Im really torn about what to do with him. He really seems like he could cause me a lot of heartache. And Ive been thinking. This guy is 31 with no kids. I have two kids and Im 38. Am I really going to have more kids? I doubt it. Should i be starting something w/ someone who may be on a different path? He mentioned he may be ready to have kids in like 5 years. In 5 years I will be 43! Not going to start having babies again..I know we cant predict what the future will be, Im just afraid Im setting myself up to get hurt or something. And how long am I supposed to wait for him to really want to be w/ me and actually tell me? As you can see, Im quite confused..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Look you need to have this conversation with HIM..dont assume something like this is far too important and tell him what you told me. I had this conversation with mine..Look I am 13 years older then him and said that is a good chance that I cant have them because of problems in the past..well i can have them but I might not be able to carry and I would be high risk and I knew that he wanted at least one so in one attemp to break up with him told him what I am telling you and he shocked me and said that he was fine with it so you need to have this conversation with him and maybe the sooner the better so you dont waste time.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, he will just say that its too soon to be thinking that far ahead. He is all about living in the moment. Remember, this is a guy who doesnt even want to call what we are doing DATING. He felt I was jumping the gun a few months back when I got upset that we werent spending enough time together. I guess I will bring it up at some point. But its definitely time for a serious conversation about where this is going. Goodnight! Im exhausted...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yes I see your point..I will ask you this then. Is this something that is very important to you that his answer would make or break the relationship? I mean not that your THAT serious about him but sometimes you just want to know if your wasting time and you could even say it that way to him and it not really look like your looking for a committment which right now your not asking for that. Just say something like ( maybe even during that dinner while you or both of you make it when relaxed) just say something like " I dont want to make a big deal about this just have a few things I wanted to ask and get out of the way because I dont want to waste your time ( if you say 'your' isntead of our or me they see things different for some reason) and then bring the issue up, tell him that this is where you stand and you would hate for him to regret beign with you because ages and times when you want things are a little different. Trust me I know your scared to bring this up and I always and sometimes do feel and felt the same way with mine but I would see the true him when we had conversations like this and he would shock me with what he had to say because it was something he already thought about, he just wasnt going to bring it up. Damn them men!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

To answer your question, I dont think it would make a big deal right now because he and I are not that serious. But I think if I was in love w/ him then it would be heartbreaking to know I might get dumped because I dont want to have his babies. I havent actually talked to him since the day he pissed me off. That was last Tuesday. He called me the other day, like I mentioned, to say hello. I called him back last nite and left him a message. Heres the weird thing. He calls ME back today. I couldnt answer because I was loading the car. I call him back not even 2 minutes later and he doesnt pick up! I left a quick msg saying that I saw that he called and he could call me back. But he never did. What was that about? Maybe he didnt really want to talk. Seems like we make progress and then hit a snag and we go back to almost nothing. Not going to worry too much about it. How was your weekend?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I would get that conversation out of the way regardless, dont wait to be in love, now is a better time incase it were to end, might be a relief for you. Maybe he was beign in ass and not picking up OR maybe was busy. My weekend was not bad at all,he's hinting around meeting soon again. He's been trying to call but I didnt have the privacy to pick up,he was dissappointed but understood,he sees now I cant be at his beck and call.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

What a difference a day makes. He called me yesterday and asked if I was available to hang out w/ him. I really wasnt feeling it, but I told myself to go, thinking maybe we could reconnect, or I would decide if we were over. So I go. We were going to go to dinner (I told him point blank I wanted to go), but I ended up meeting him late so we stayed in. From the moment he opened the door everything seemed different. He gave me this sweet, shy smile and a long hug. He bought a bottle of wine and rented a movie. He was so attentive the whole night, pulling me closer to him and everything. I ended up staying there (no sex).

Heres the interesting part. While we were sleeping he kept cuddling w/ me; he rarely does that so I think he is feeling closer to me. You think? And this morning, where I normally just get dressed and leave pretty quickly, we sat on the couch and he made me tea and we chatted for a few minutes. It was sooo nice! And he randomly made a comment about how when he is about 35 he could begin to THINK about having kids. So I thought perfect timing for the convo. I didn't make a big deal of it. I just asked him if he was pretty set on having kids and he said ''not necessarily, Im just saying thats the age I could consider it, but doesnt mean I will want to''. Then I asked him would he be devastated if he never had a child. And he said ''no, you dont understand, I dont think like most people. I could be happy w/o kids if I decide that its not what I want or need. There is no pressure from myself or my family to do it''. And we left it at that. I didnt say anything else. I didnt want to get too deep; it was only 730am. haha

When I got off the elevator to leave he gave me a really nice hug and I told him to have a nice day. He said ''you too''. And there was this pause..then he said '' and Im sorry''. At first I was wondering what he was apologizing for then I realized he was apologizing for what happened w/ us last week. I think he realized that I was pretty upset by that. Isn't that sweeeet? I couldn't believe he said that. And it won him MAJOR points. I was already satisfied w/ how our time together had turned out, but that just kicked it up a notch. Then I left, floating.. lol - what is it about these men that makes you want to wring their necks? Then they do or say one simple thing that makes you forget all of it? Wow.
confused pisces girl
by: Anonymous

3 months ago, I met my aquarius boyfriend. The Chemistry was awesome. We spent hours on the phone talking and laughing about everything. He told me he had never been in love before. About two months later he told me he had fallen in love with him and that it was exciting because he felt no pressure to do so. This all happened before we actually met in person. When we eventually met, it was like we had known eachother forever. He had invited me over for his bestfriend's wedding. We spent a great weekend together. We planned to see a month later at thanksgiving. Few days before thanksgiving we had an argument cos I told him I hoped we would not have too many of his friends around because I wanted to be able to spend time with him. He got upset assuming I had a problem with meeting his friends. So things were shaky, but I had hope my trip to see him at his brother's would change things. I was wrong. He was a completely different person and very detached. He barely called me anything endearing all 4 days we were at his brothers place. BTW, we had sex for the first time which was all cuddly and fun.
On my way back, I told him I felt no affection from him and he told me that was who he was. That confused me, cos the man I met prior to thanksgiving was very loving and affectionate. He also suggested that the environment was different since he was around family and he could not have been as affectionate. I told him if being affectionate was not something he cud offer, that we shud end it. He asked that we talk about things wen we both got home. (We leave in different states).
We had a talk about 4 days later, he said he had to clear his mind and was ready to give it another try. The thing is nothing has changed. He started call me less often, and even wen he called he was very distant and aloof. He stopped sending me texts. He became very formal with me calling me by my first name rather than baby, like he used to.
I finally asked him wat was wrong and after telling me he did not know wat I meant, he finally said that he was hurt by the fact that I was ready to quit on us so soon. I said, I thot we had talked about that and decided to move on. He said yes, but he has decided to take things slow. What does that mean? After that, he did not call me. 2 days later, I called him and as usual he was cold. We had planned on spending the newyyear together. I asked him if we were still doing that as my ticket has already being bought. His reply, "if you still want to came, u are welcome". WTH. Its been a week, and we have not spoken.
Please let me know wats going on! What do I do. What does this mean? Should I go spend the Newyear with him. I really love him. I know things started so fast but it felt so right. Does he love me still? Pls help.
To: Confused Pisces
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Your post is a bit confusing..one thing that stuck out was telling us about the 4 days together and he was distant and aloof yet this is the first time you had sex together? Maybe I read that wrong. Here's my advice..dont expect to hear from him much at this point..let him come and contact you. Go see him for NewYears but in the meantime keep your distance..might make you closer when you do meet again.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh WOW that is great news! It helps to give them space and make them think. See and I had the same thing, remember when I said that one time we met that I could sense that things with him were different? Keeps changing for the better the more time we spend together..this last Friday he was trying to get me to stay longer and at one point said " we should stay over". Since husband came back I dont have the privacy to talk every day after work as I did before so today he calls me at work at 7am on my first break...think he misses me..hehe. Btw so happy you had the baby conversation and believe it or not, mine said the same kind of thing..I told him over messenger months ago that one reason I wouldnt be good for him ( I knew he wanted at least one child) was that to health problems from the past doctors told me it would be a bad idea to have kids..so told me Aqua we should call it quits, I couldnt give him what he wanted....
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

CONT..........
I sent him an e-mail telling him this and he responded on messenger saying "Omg girl, sometimes you are making me so mad. Do you think that something like this should break ppl apart? This isnt a bad enough barrier for us to not be together..there are other ways to be happy without a family, I am totally fine with this now pls sweetie, smile for me and dont be sad,pls" I think when they are serious, nothing much can tare them away from us. I am gitty for you, kind of glad he was an asshole now,because now you've seen a different side of him. Mine is going to be gone from Thursday and back Monday morning...omg he's gonna miss me LOL.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I'm kinda glad that happened too. And the apology was unexpected because I was basically over the whole thing. He is such a unique person; the way his mind works. I guess thats what makes these guys so irresistible. So I sent him a text earlier telling him that i enjoyed spending time w/ him..real simple but just wanted to let him know. He writes back ''I had a good time too; thank you for coming over''. Hes so goofy; always thanking me for coming by. haha..your guy seems permanently hooked. Based on everything youve been writing, he wants more and more from you. Which is what you have been waiting for. Do you feel super anxious to get divorced now that you know he wants more of your time? I am surprised I made it this far w/ him. When I first started posting I thought I really didnt think I could handle this guy. lol
Confused Pisces
by: Dreamer

Ok, from the sounds of it you turned him off by implying that you didnt his friends around. If you have read any of the info on Aquarius men, they love their freedom AND their friends. So if he sees you trying to interfere w/ that in anyway then it wont turn out well for you. I agree w/ Virgo, you should not contact him. Let him come to you. Dont call or text and see what happens. If he reaches out to you then go on the trip. If he doesnt, that would be something to think about. As a Pisces myself, I know where you are coming from. We NEED emotional connection and affection. And most of the time, our emotions rule us. But you MUSt find a way to mellow out w/ the Aquarius. They are not having it. Doesnt mean you cant be yourself, just dont hit him w/ the emotional stuff 24/7. If you go back and read from when I first posted here, I had some of the same concerns (him not calling enough, etc). I didnt think I could handle being in a relationship w/ a guy like this. Because truthfully they are a pain in the ass and always leave you wanting more. but when they DO open up its usually worth the wait.
hi had a question
by: Anonymous

I had a question for the Aqua man. I am pretty close to this guy in my office. Initially he was very interested and spent a lot of time with me. Now he is into another girl I think. He spends a lot of time with her. I feel jealous LOl but I try to control myself. I feel really bad with the fact that he tiptoes around me. Goes out with her when am not around. Why does he do that. Why cant he go openly with her? Is he trying to be nice and not hurt my feeling? or is he protecting her? or is it because he is not comfortable? He knows that I know he goes with her. The hiding and the lying is what hurts. If he likes someone, he is free to go with her. Why does he appear so secretive about it and sometimes I see both of them especially her exchanging sarcastic smiles too. I feel uncomfortable. He is still nice to me and I can go ask him stuff and he is very helpful but he doesnt spend as much time as he used to with me. Initially it hurt, but I got over it but what really hurts is the deception and the perceived sarcasm or am I being too sensitive and he being just nice to me out of politeness?? I would like to know. I would like to resolve this issue.

Thanks again.
re:confused pisces
by: Anonymous

I guess I shud have read the comments before last night. I actually called him. I figured after a week, he whud have calmed down. I actually sent him a text in the day jst to see how he was doing, but he did not respond. And ofcourse he ignored my calls last night. So maybe I have lost all chances since he now sees me as clingy.
The thing is though that I doubt that I am clingy. Afterall we are in a long distance relationship so how clingy could I be. The first time we met at the friends wedding he was very affectionate so him telling me he is not affectionate confuses me.
About his friends, I did not imply that I did not want to meet them, I just was hoping we would spend some time, just us, and get to know oneanother better since all we do is talk on the phone.
So now, what do I do? I would feel stupid buying and ticket to go see him the Newyear and he not call me. So please tell me what to do. Should I, at this point consider us broken up? The last time we spoke he said he was upset that I was ready to end things with him so abruptly after the thanksgiving episode when I told him I did not think this relationship, void of emotions, would work for me,and now I feel like he is doing the same thing to me. He also told me he wanted to take things slow. What does that mean. Please help because I am confused not knowing what's going on. I promise to check the post before I do anything stupid or foolish.
re:confused pisces
by: Anonymous

I guess I shud have read the comments before last night. I actually called him. I figured after a week, he whud have calmed down. I actually sent him a text in the day jst to see how he was doing, but he did not respond. And ofcourse he ignored my calls last night. So maybe I have lost all chances since he now sees me as clingy.
The thing is though that I doubt that I am clingy. Afterall we are in a long distance relationship so how clingy could I be. The first time we met at the friends wedding he was very affectionate so him telling me he is not affectionate confuses me.
About his friends, I did not imply that I did not want to meet them, I just was hoping we would spend some time, just us, and get to know oneanother better since all we do is talk on the phone.
So now, what do I do? I would feel stupid buying and ticket to go see him the Newyear and he not call me. So please tell me what to do. Should I, at this point consider us broken up? The last time we spoke he said he was upset that I was ready to end things with him so abruptly after the thanksgiving episode when I told him I did not think this relationship, void of emotions, would work for me,and now I feel like he is doing the same thing to me. He also told me he wanted to take things slow. What does that mean. Please help because I am confused not knowing what's going on. I promise to check the post before I do anything stupid or foolish.
Confused Pisces
by: Dreamer

From what I can see, he was really starting to care about you and things were flowing naturally at a pace that HE liked. Because its all about them; they dont adapt to others they expect us to adapt to them. Then he perceived that you were trying to control him or that he wasnt living up to your expectations and decided to step back from you. Im not saying you did anything wrong, but from HIS PERSPECTIVE you must have. I have never put much stock into astrological signs to judge a man, but these Aquas are like textbook. Almost everything you read about them is true. Mine also told me a while back he wanted to take things slow. He didn't even want to label what we were doing as dating. He wanted us to 'just be' and let see where it goes. They dont like to be told what to do or how to be. For example, I told mine that I wished he would call me more, or just check in and see how Im doing. He said point blank, ''I dont do that''. I thought WTF. Feelings were hurt and wanted to dump him. But something kept telling me to just stick around and see. After about a week or two, he DID start calling me more. He just didnt like the fact that I TOLD him to. He even said, 'see now that you said that if I wanted to youre going to think its because you told me to'. See what I mean? Its weird and silly, but thats how they are. It took me a while to realize that he really does care about me; (they act like they dont). And once I realized he was just a unique individual I relaxed and things just kinda flowed. My point is, I think your guy got scared because he may have thought you were wanting things to move too quickly and were already complaining about what you were not getting from him (affection, etc). They have to think everything is their idea. And they really ARENT that affectionate by nature, but they will open up and be moreso as they feel comfortable with you. So, if you guys end up working out, you will have to try and be more patient. Find a way to get what you want from him w/o making it seems like a demand. Its hard and takes practice. Esp for us Pisces.I really didnt think I could take this guy, but even if we dont work out in the long run, he has taught me some things that i needed to learn as a Pisces. Its been quite the challenge. I dont think you should buy a ticket. If he has not called you he may not and you dont want to look foolish. Stop calling him. Give him a chance to miss you. And if he doesnt call, it may be that this is over before it really got started. Its not your fault; he should at least have the balls to tell you he doesnt want to communicate anymore. If he just blows you off like this and never calls that makes him an *sshole that you should not lose sleep over. But just wait and see.
To: Confused Pisces
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I agree with Dreamer, dont call or text..nothing..if you hear nothing from him then so be it..think of it as his loss. Now that you did call and text him, if for some reason you dont hear from him before new years but he does get ahold of you AFTER new years to ask where you were (btw they are also good at trying to give guilt trips so dont take crap and learn to fight back) just tell him " Well I tried to call and text and you didnt get back to me so I was asking if I should get a ticket or not. I know you said that I was welcomed but when I dont hear from you, well...actions speak louder then words and if you cant get a hold of me, then I pretty much think that things are over" That handles that potential problem already. You have to always be one step ahead of them.
Good luck
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hey lady, whats up with you? Hows it going? Just home relaxing today. Nothing new to report. Havent talked to him since I saw him on Monday. I think I will bring up the dinner thing the next time I talk to him. Hope all is well on your end.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

not much to report on this end..my guy is taking a trip and flying to west coast tomorrow and comming back monday morning so he will be busy, he keeps hinting around meeting again and having breakfast and stil calls almost everyday. He gets upset when I cant talk long or dont have the privacy to talk at all. He is doing everything in his power to try to stay in USA for good..atm we have to wait untill may to see if he got accepted for green card. I am trying not to fall for him 100% because incase he were to have to go back..then what do I do, I mean really? So far so good on my end.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Its funny you know, we usually are at different places when we chat about our men. If Im mad at mine, you're doing well. And vice versa. We can actually BOTH say that things are good. Its a effin Christmas miracle! LOL - until they piss us off again. Haha..if we dont chat have a great holiday!
FAST AND AMAZING BUT WILL IT LAST???
by: CancerGirl

Im a Cancer woman and i met my Aqua 2 months ago. He started approaching me since the first day we met. And since we live in 2 different cities we talk a lot over the phone and instant messenger. We used to talk 24 h a day and he came to visit me every time he had the chance. Communication has been perfect and i can't say he has been detached at all - he always been super affectionate and extremely sweet. He started talking to me about a relationship and how he values me as a person and he thinks we could have something very special that will last. So in the end i said yes and we made it official. I am really into him and really like him, he seems to be sincere, and constantly gives me attention (which i dont demand), he always makes sure i know he is thinking of me and he demands the same attention from me. I never dealt with an Aqua until NOW. After everything i read i am wondering, is this super sweet and affectionate personality of his, going to disappear??? or he will be devoted to me like this in time???
To: Cancer Girl
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

My answer is short and to the point..know the saying " time will tell" ? You have to wait and see, online mine is the most sweet and affectionate person I have ever known.... in person he is also very sweet and gives me hugs, I asked him why he is so much different online then in person as far as the affection was and he told me " because online allows me to be more open but in person you need to give me more time" Basically for me as well " time will tell". Hang in there and be happy with the way he is and if and when ( because is bound to happen) that he may become distant dont freak out, tell him to feel free to have his time to himself and to contact you when he feels better..they always need to come to us, how they are. Your relationship is pretty new still so dont get upset if you start to see changes, that is normal in any relationship no matter what sign your with. Good luck.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, I just had to share this with you! So yesterday I wasn't feeling well and he texted me to see how I was. I told him I would call him if I didnt go home to crash out. Well, I did go home and fall asleep so I never called. Today he calls me to check in which was sooo sweet. And he said to me 'if you didnt have to do the Xmas eve thing w/ your kids I would tell you to come to the city and hang w/ me tonite'. I was so shocked that he would want to spend Xmas eve w/ me. And I said ''really'' And he said, ''yea, you sound surprised''. Soooo sweeet! Then he suggested that I spend the nite w/ him on Sunday when he comes back from the weekend at his family's house upstate. So we were saying our goodbyes and I said well maybe I will call you tomorrow just to say hey (rarely do we speak TWO days in a row), and he said 'yea you can call me anytime - and Ill do the same''. Talk about progress! I am trying not to fall in love w/ this man.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

LOL@ trying not to fall in love with this man..oh who are you trying to kid.lol. Yup if you leave them alone a while they come around, also if you stand your ground they come around as well. I am so happy for you!. What made me laugh is when you said "really" and he was suprised that you were suprised, mine does the same thing..damn silly assholes they are. Mine is the same way as far as doing thing like that and it shocks me, like testing me almost each time we seen each other that we should stay the night yet when I did and he could have stayed too, he did nothing...I think he regretted it btw. I forgot to tell you that the last time we seen each other he told me that he regretted not getting something to eat the few days before we were at that same diner, he said that he didnt get something to eat at the time because he wanted to save up for the Friday he asked me out...omg this was preplanned already that whole sat we spent together.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LMAO at him knowing the whole day you were together he was going to ask you to dinner. They are so anal! But its so sweet of him. Gotta love that..Really, I am trying not to get to head over heels here. I feel like I need to hold back or something until I'm formally divorced or something. Plus, I like the idea of us taking it slow and getting to know him. But I honestly didn't expect him to open up like this. I mean, I dont want to jump the gun; hes still pretty reserved all in all..but I see the change. Im so excited!!! Do you think I should buy him something or Christmas? I wont see him til Sunday but what if he got me something? Did you buy anything for your guy? Maybe I should call him tomorrow and suggest the dinner thing finally - for Sunday? I dont know why Im scared to cook for this man. LOL
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Ok what you should do is do the dinner thing for him for Christmas..trust me, they think in different ways and you already know this. I bet you doing something for HIM (because isnt that how it is normally feels like is that it is for them?). Anyway I bet you doing something for him would be better then any gift he could unwrap. I would say to do that. Yes me and my guy did get each other gifts..he suggested on messenger that when we seen each other that sat we sent the whole day together that we would get each other $5 gifts..he said the value didnt matter. We went shopping all day and we both seen things we like that were around $20 and exchanged those gifts..but remember it was his idea. Keep me posted and if I dont hear from you " Happy Holidays".
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay. I will do it. I dont know why Im so apprehensive about doing this. LOL. I think Im worried he will think Im trying to be all domestic w/ him too soon or something. Remember all along he has been the take it slow guy so I dont wanna push my luck. But i think I will just bring it up like its so cold I would rather not go out and we shouldnt spend any money kinda thing so I should just cook. Now I have to see if my mom will watch the little ones Sunday for me. I will keep you posted. Have a good Christmas! :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh but did you see my point? hehe..you would be doing something for HIM..they like for ppl to cater to them..didnt we see that on day one? LOL. I dont always have the space I wish I had since husband came home but German still trys to call to talk about 4 to 5 times a week, he aready asked me about tomorrow and calling me for Christmas. He said that he would try to call me and his parents in Germany tomorrow, I said if I cant pick up that he could leave a message if he wanted to. He wants to see me again soon, I wonder what he planned weeks ago and hasnt told me yet lol.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Ah yes, you're right. You have much more experience with the Aquarius than I do so I will trust you on this one. LOL. Sometimes when mine calls I cant pick up either when hubby is around. Today I was bold though; we all had just walked in when he called and I just went in the room and shut the door and answered, and proceeded to have a 5 minute conversation! But I have alot of freedom as he and I really are not a couple anymore. He doesn't even ask where Im going anymore. And if I spend the nite out, he doesnt even ask what Im doing. I never lie; I just say I am going into the city and I may spend the nite. We are so over. We have come full circle. Its like we are just friends again, like it used to be before we got together. As soon as I land a job im filing! I hope you get to talk to your man tomorrow. He would love that Im sure. Wouldnt it be nice if you could ring in the New Year w/ him? Ooh you should try to get away. That would be so great for you guys. Im baking Christmas cupcakes w/ the kiddies...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I wish I could ring in the New Year with him..wont be possible this year I am afraid. My husband still sees us as a couple even though I told him a million times we are going nowhere and even when he asks me if I love him, I say no, how much more of a hint does a person need? I am keeping myself at a little distance incase he cant stay in USA but either way if I do or dont I would be heartbroken. I really cant see myself living without him..felt from day one we were meant to be together. And with him trying so hard to stay in USA, I think he is also looking into some more serious future for us.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Wow, that must be hard for you. My hubby gets it, even tho he doesnt want to. And he hasnot tried anything to keep us together from the moment I told him I wanted out so..either he wants out too and doesnt want to say it, or like everything else, he just wimps out when it requires any effort/conversation/communication on his end so. Its too late anyway now. Oh well..I will keep you updated on my adventures w/ the cooking. I asked a friend of mine if she ever cooked for her boyfriend. She told me the first time she did she made 3 batches of chicken and threw them in the garbage until they tasted the way she wanted them to. She was so nervous! lol..I didnt tell her I was cooking for him. In fact, NO ONE knows about my Aqua. Just you! Nite!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh I cant wait to hear about your cooking adventure..dont be so damn nervous..unless he throws up in front of you, dont worry about it LOL.Yeah it is hard for me, almost feel like I am living 2 different lives because things are not as "open" we I wish they were, like what you have with yours..time will tell if we are really meant to be wont it? I feel we are but "getting there" seems next to impossible. Makes me sad to think about it.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, I dont think I will be cooking or seeing him at all today. I told him I would call him yesterday to say hey remember? And he never called back. He was the one who said yea call me anytime, jeez. So I was going to let him know that I wanted to do the cooking thing but since he never called back...Im sure he will call today but now its snowing and its sticking. So who knows if I will make it at all. The storm is supposed to be bad. I dont mind being snowed in w/ him but the issue is getting my kids to my moms so she can babysit. If the snow gets bad then I wont be driving in it thats for sure. So we will see. I wonder why he didnt call back. Maybe he figured he was being too nice to me and its time for him to be a little a**hole again. LOL - did u get a chance to speak to ur German?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh yes I got to speak to him, he called a couple of times as usual and we got to talk a little bit..not near as long as he would have liked, oh well deal with it. About yours, I would let it go and play it like no big deal, you have forgotton to call him from time to time as well so dont forget that. But when he does finally get in touch with you I would say something about him not getting in touch with you and would be easier to make plans if they were not so last min because you had something real special in mind to do for him (yeah give him the guilt trip). Keep me posted if he gets in touch with you.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay. Im disappointed. I guess he could be sleeping or something..but its now 130 and he should have called by now because I do have kids and for me to spend the nite w/ him it takes a lot of planning. So now I feel like even if he does call now Im not going to go. Why should I bust my ass to make it all the way out to him, in this weather? And he couldnt even call back to say Merry Christmas? Damn. Sigh...Oh well.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay..so he just called. I didnt answer. I didnt want to seem like I have been waiting by the phone. He said he was just getting up and out and was at his grandmothers house and was trying to get bk into the city before the snow gets too bad. He said he still wants to see me and to let him know if I was still up for coming out in the weather. His ass shoulda offered to come and get me..but no, I dont think I will be going. Because he called so late I dont have enough time now to get the kids to my moms and prepare myself to get out to him without it being really late. Tomorrow would actually be better for me. Should I tell him tomorrow, or do I now play the unavailable role? I read that we women should do that from time to time. LOL
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

call his ass back and tell him that he got back to you too late for you to be able to get things ready. Btw you said that he didnt even text you yesterday to say anything about the holiday but did you? If you didnt then you have no room to talk. Call him back and tell him that he waited too long and see how it goes..dont wait. The fact that you didnt pick up to begin with shows him that you werent waiting by the phone to begin with. Just call him already. Let me know. Either go tonite and spend the night and day with him or dont go for it.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I did call him yesterday and left him a message wishing him a Merry Christmas. I told him to call me back and to let me know what time we were getting together today. That was yesterday at 6pm. I cant go now; not just being stubborn but the snow is really coming down and I dont want hubby driving on the highway w/ the kids to my moms now. Had he called me earlier I could have gotten them ready and on the road before the snow hit too hard. SO, its tomorrow or nothing.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh do call him for sure and tell him what you just told me, that you had needed more time to get things ready and he simply responded way too late so if he wants to see you has to be tomorrow and if he cant get in touch with you in reasonable time then to forget it. Even so might not be able to do anything due to the storm but never the less let him know that it could have been possible if HE had not been so damn last minute! damn them assholes!.Let me know pls. Make the call and give him a guilt trip. Subtle
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay so I called him. I didnt give him attitude about not calling me sooner. I just said that I wasnt coming out due to the weather, which in fact is a very true statement. But when I see him next I will explain to him that he needs to give me more notice, as my time is valuable and I have kids and plans to make in order to see him.....I asked him what he was doing tomorrow and he said that he might have plans. Told him to let me know and left it at that. He was driving from upstate NY and I didnt want to keep him on the fone in the snow. I told him he should cancel his plans tomorrow and just hang out w/ me. I was being flirty. He didnt seem to catch on. LOL. These guys are such weirdos. haha
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

yeah what is up with that anyway..the flirty part..I think at times mine has not a clue and ignores some of the blunt things that I say but when we are in person he becomes more flirty and often tells me that we should stay the night somewhere..what is up with that? Does he just like fucken with my head? We havent had sex so I have no idea what is normal for him in "that area" meaning flirt or sex or romance. Glad you called and lets see what happens.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha..well he sounds like he is working up to the sex thing. So hes probably going to do something really romantic when the time comes. And he keeps making plans in his head so Im sure hes got something nice up his sleeve for you. I hate being snowed in! Its so nasty out! I really hope he cncels his plans for tomorrow and hangs w/ me because by the morning I will be stir crazy. And tomorrow is hubbys day off and no way do I wanna be here w/ him all day workin my nerves. I shoulda told him that whatever he decides to let me know early. Maybe I will text him that later and tell him.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, if I keep spending the nite w/ this guy you know what is going to happen. Im trying to determine at what point will it be okay to have sex w/ him again. He is so hot; its really hard not to. LOL
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

you think he has something in mind with me even when he is giving me all the vibes of "take it slow" but we should stay over.lol I say to leave that text now since it seems to take him a while to get in touch with you..sooner is better. Ok the sex idea is hard for me give advice on..of course I cant speak from experience with mine I do hear that they are amazing in bed or can be so maybe that could be late christmas gift..keep me posted. You did flirt with him so all I can say is that I am sure he took it in a sexual way so if you dont really have intensions to you need to be careful what your implying.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yes, he does have something in mind for you! Didnt he suggest staying overnite w/ you? What do you think that means? LOL..and it would be just like an Aquarius to surprise you when you least expect it. Im thinking if I go over there tomorrow it might definitely happen. Snowed in with him all day and night? And believe me when I tell you, he is gorgeous. And that strong silent thing is really sexy. And yep, the rumors are true - he is pretty awesome. Oh, but my hubby is an Aquarian and he is not great in bed. LOL I feel so bad saying that but he really isnt. At this rate if the snow doesnt stop I wont be seeing him tomorrow either. Now Im missing him!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah he did say that every time we seen each other after that time I had the hotel room and we had a great time just hanging out and watching tv and eating but why on earth he didnt take advantage of even a short kiss then I will never know so that is why I thought he was messing with my head since he knows that I want him and not just sexually. Mine I think is the strong silent type but no not georgous like yours but I am attracted to him so that is good enough for me..hehe. yeah I did have an Aqua boyfriend and your right omg he was good! Not that anyone else reads this post but you and me but have to say that he did have oral talents that noone else since him has even come close to...I hear it's an Aqua trait. Ok that's it..you need to try to see yours if anything else at least get some sex out of him..as far as with mine maybe we could make bets that this man at least trys to hit on me before 2012..but I wont hold my breath..he would probably rather tease then please.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

If you really thought you had no chance of bedding this man you would not even be wasting your time. It took you two years to get him to this point and he seems to trust you now so maybe the rest of the romance will move quicker. You think? Thnk about it; in just the last few weeks you have made considerable advances w/ him. I think it wont be long. Tell him you want to give him a special birthday present. That gives him almost two months to mentally prepare. LOL My guy is really good looking, but not the best looking guy I ever had. But he has this really strong masculinity that most of the men I have dated didnt have. Sex w/ him should be better this time around, since before there werent many real feelings attached to it. It should be interesting. Oral, whats that? LOL. I have been so deprived in this marriage I think the last time I had that was in 2002. A damn shame! I should get an award for not jumping my Aqua everytime I see him. LOL
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah I see your point and your right but I guess each time we see each other and he seems to feel totally comfortable with me and I am in my car driving on the way home after spending time with him and once again nothing has happened it leaves me more and more hopeless for even a kiss and then the hopelessness turns a bit into sadness and then into anger, is hard to explain. I am as blunt as it gets even last week or maybe a little more I even asked him if he had a romantic interested in me and he said yes..so show me just how much already. Anyway 2002 huh..well maybe you should try your best to see your man and let him make up for what others cant do. Damn snow!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

NO, I know what you mean. I used to have that same frustration w/ my guy. I would feel close to him but then he would act all weird and stinky and I would feel like I was never going to get anywhere with him. Truthfully if you didnt convince me to hang in there I sure would have given up on him months ago. So thank you! And if you guy stays in the US you will have plenty of opportunities to seduce him. But something tells me hes going to make the first move in that direction when you least expect it. They say the snow is not going to stop until 4am. See, in Manhattan its not so bad because there is so much traffic. But Im right outside the city in NJ and its awful here. But I think I will brave the snow tomorrow to see him. Now lets see just how much he misses me. If he cancels his plans and stays home so I can come over. When do you plan to see your guy next?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

not sure when we will see each other again, he said something about after the new year, we will see..husband is home so makes it harder. I dont know I am pretty frustrated with my guy and have been..he makes me feel like a very close friend, his best friend sure but get a clue pal..I have co workers that give me longer hugs then my man, whats his damn problem..maybe Im better off with someone that isnt so slow to catch on. Oh be careful if you do go out..safety is more important then sex..or seeing him for that matter. Stay safe.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LMAO..can u see me braving 12 inches of snow, showing up at his door all wet and panting. That would NOT be sexy at all. LOL..I will decide what to do in the morning. I definitely understand your frustration, and it doesnt help living w/ someone that you get nothing from. So youre emotionally and physically starved. Believe me, I get it. Hang in there. One day you will be free to do whatever you like. Talk to you later :-)
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So theres snow everywhere. But I have cabin fever and the trains are running! I want to get out of the house. I cleaned the entire house, washed all the clothes, played w/ the kids..nothing left to do! LOL I wanna see him, but I dont wanna call and ask if I can come over. So Im hoping he will check in w/ me and ask if I am coming. If he does Im outta here! haha
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

omg you big baby..why cant you call? See that is the problem, communication, we're not in school, call if you want to see him..he seems to be a busy person and scatter brained liked mine is..often times when mine doesnt do something it isnt because he didnt want to get in touch with me or whatever, it was because he was either too busy or forgot..yours could be the same way. Be little more aggressive and get it over with and start calling him more. If it were me, I would have called early and told him something like "I know when you get busy you forget to get in touch with me so just checking in with you to see if you wanted to make plans and if not then that is fine but at least I know so I can carry on with my other plans". Try it sometime, is better then beign disappointed if you dont hear anything..and this way it makes you look busy and not leaning on him for something to do..he might not ask but he would be wondering what those other plans might be and just might be enough for him to change his mind and spend the day with you instead...hehe. Btw, mine is pissy because due to all airports that are closed down that man is now stuck and cant get home..maybe next time he will listen to me and pick better times for trips.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, no hes stuck? Everyone is stuck! You will be proud of me. I did call him. And he is home and told me to come over. I am going to TRY and get on the train at 7pm if they are still running. Of course I had to act as if it was no big deal, when in fact, it is quite a big deal traveling in this fkn cold. but truth is, hubby is home and getting on my last nerve. And if I can even hang w/ my man for ONE HOUR I would be happy. Of course I have to spend the nite due to the weather so..its so worth it. And you know what made me call? After I sent that msg to you, I knew you were going to come back and tell me what dummy I was being so I just decided to call. Even tho it took me two hours to make the decision. Haha.. will let you know if I actually make it there.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh cant wait to hear how you made out. Yeah he is stuck and I told him that it might be a good lesson to learn to not take trips on holidays like this. I warned him it might not be a good idea but the stubborn Aqua german wanted to go anyway so I helped him plan his trip and waited to see what happened..and sure enough..I get to sleep in my cozy warm bed with electric blanket and he gets to sleep in a hotel room...nope wouldnt want to trade with him anytime soon..hehe
To Virgo w/ An AQUARIUS
by: Dreamer

Where did he go?? My friend has been stuck @ the airport since yesterday afternoon!

You know what's so funny about this? He was also trying to act like he didn't want to ask me to come over too. LOL We are both retards..stubborn pride and all. He was like 'I was gonna say if ur in the city come hang w/ me because I still don't know if Ikm going out later'. He had no plans he just didn't want to seem like he was waiting on me. Its hilarious. I'm at the train station now. Its late so we'll see... :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An AQUARIUS

See I told you so..your both retards so stop acting like children already would you? I knew that is what was going on because mine does the same shit. Oh he went to San Francisco and is now stuck in Atlanta..and still say it serves him right for not listening to me LOL. Keep me posted on what happens.
Pisces woman aquarius male
by: Anonymous

My best friend is an Aquarius male...we have been friends with benefits for 30 years....we recently reconnected about a year ago....we live in different states and have visited each other often...he even lived with me this summer..anyway, he has made it clear that he loves me and wants me but he is not into a relationship...he tells me I am too needy and clingy at times...(which I am0 so I step back and he calls...now there is another woman from his past involved and it is like I am nothing to him...he gets mad at me for doing the same things I have always done in our relationship...we fight all the time and he disappears and then he'll call a week later...I don't know what to do....I am in love with him and he knows it in his heart even tho I deny it every time the subject comes up...how do I proceed from here?
Pisces woman aquarius male
by: Anonymous

My best friend is an Aquarius male...we have been friends with benefits for 30 years....we recently reconnected about a year ago....we live in different states and have visited each other often...he even lived with me this summer..anyway, he has made it clear that he loves me and wants me but he is not into a relationship...he tells me I am too needy and clingy at times...(which I am0 so I step back and he calls...now there is another woman from his past involved and it is like I am nothing to him...he gets mad at me for doing the same things I have always done in our relationship...we fight all the time and he disappears and then he'll call a week later...I don't know what to do....I am in love with him and he knows it in his heart even tho I deny it every time the subject comes up...how do I proceed from here?
Pisces woman aquarius male
by: Anonymous

My best friend is an Aquarius male...we have been friends with benefits for 30 years....we recently reconnected about a year ago....we live in different states and have visited each other often...he even lived with me this summer..anyway, he has made it clear that he loves me and wants me but he is not into a relationship...he tells me I am too needy and clingy at times...(which I am0 so I step back and he calls...now there is another woman from his past involved and it is like I am nothing to him...he gets mad at me for doing the same things I have always done in our relationship...we fight all the time and he disappears and then he'll call a week later...I don't know what to do....I am in love with him and he knows it in his heart even tho I deny it every time the subject comes up...how do I proceed from here?
Picses woman
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I think I seen your problem in your first sentence and not to be too blunt but your problem is for 30 years you let him use you for sex and now expect enough repsect to get a relationship out of him? Seems to me it was pretty clear when he let you know he loved and wanted you but didnt want a relationship and why would he when he was getting what he wanted from you? Also kind of feel that the fact that another woman is also involved in his life makes me think that he isnt committed to you and is possible that he wont be. This is just my point of view from what you wrote. I can truely understand you loving him and wanting more but your letting yourself get used and for that length of time was a clear enough message to him that you were fine with it. Good luck.
Picses oman
by: Anonymous

I do appreciate what you said and I guess I left out that this something mutual between us when we were younger and in this last year we grew very close...he lost his dad and came and stayed with me to deal with it. While he was here this summer, he would get mad at me that I wanted the sex more than him...he wanted to talk. After he left, I started dating an old boyfriend and that is when he started this FB romance with this other woman, who also happens to live in another state and is married....I do understand that I have given him what he wanted for all these years but when we got into this last fight, his son emailed me and told me that his dad was bummed and he missed his best friend. I didn't call him like I normally do, I was ready to let go and then he called me telling me that he loved me and missed me...there is a strain there now tho..and I don't know why.....Does that make any sense now?
To Virgo W/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I made it there last nite. What would normally take me an hour max on public transportation took almost 3 hours!

But something was off about the whole thing. He seemed withdrawn..not like he was last time which was very touchy feely and sweet. Its hard to explain but it was like maybe he told himself to pull back or something. Definintely didn't feel connected with him this time. I was pretty disappointed - considering I busted my ass to get there. Even during the nite, no cuddling.

Then this morning I was dreading the commute home and asked him if I could hang at his place for a little while (he was going to work). He said that he really wanted to be able to lock the door when he left with a key (as opposed to me just locking the bottom lock) because his neighbor told him someone tried to break into his apt so he was feeling paranoid. So I had to get up and get dressed and leave with him. I've stayed there before in the past once or twice after he left so it wasn't an odd request. That kinda annoyed me.

He was kinda talkative this morning and acted normal, it just FELT different. We walked to the subway together, he gave me a hug (no kiss) then I left. Maybe I had too many expectations for this visit based on how great things went the last time. He told me to call him when I get home, but I don't think I will. I'm not upset, I just don't know what to feel. I don't like the wishy washiness.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh, and I didnt get a kiss then ENTIRE time I was there either. He is a person who only kisses when he is in the mood, according to him. He told me that a few months back. So I guess he wasnt in the mood. The entire effort was a waste as far as Im concerned.

Oh and we discussed NYE. I asked him what was he doing and he told me he would either be at his moms house or at his grandmothers. That he doesnt like to go out for NYE. Then asked me what I was doing. Said I didnt have anything planned; that I usually keep it low key or at my moms too.

At what point do I start to matter to this motherfkr? Im tired of this. God forbid he should act like hes part of a COUPLE.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

My point @ NYE was that he didnt ask to spend it together.
Picses woman
by: Virgo W/ An Aquarius

There is one thing that you wrote that kind of hit a nerve with me, maybe it just didnt look good but his son emailed you and told you how his dad was and at the time his dad didnt do this? My point is that when I read that part it had me feeling that your Aqua might be a bit immature, I dont know, maybe I am wrong. One thing I have learned when having a true relationship with an Aqua, dont let them take advantage of you ONCE because if you do ,they will take as much as they possibly can get and a lot of the time not giving much or anything in return. Also dont be clingy but at the same time dont let them get away with anything of real importantace. Yes what you wrote made sense but at the same time in my eyes it doesnt feel like a "good situation" it seems to me that you two might have communication problems that might be deeper then the surface after all these years. Ok your telling me that at first it was ok with the two of you to basically use each other when it came to sex, that to me is not good grounds at all to try to establish a relationship. To have a meaningful relationship with these guys and to get respect you must become their bestfriend first and foremost and after that there is a good chance of having something long term. Still not sure what to tell you. My gut says to let it go and if your going to stay in his life nix out the sex, you said you were starting to not get it from him anyway.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo W/ An Aquarius

Man of man can I understand how you feel to an extent. Ok first of all here is my advice and I think it would get it off your chest to do this even if your not mad as you say, never the less your not happy either so it does bother you. I would call the f-ing bastard and say something like this because it will bother him and at this point that would be my goal if it were me...
I would say something like this, call him today and either talk to him or leave a message, dont let this crapass act this way and you just be quiet about it, fuck that!. I would say this "I had noticed that you didnt seem yourself and you kept to yourself a good part of our time together, I thought that you wanted me to come over and I did, I busted my ass in bad weather to come and see you and you made me feel like I wasnt there, like I had done something wrong or something. I dont know if you would have been in the bad weather to come and see me so maybe you dont know what I went thru to make this trip only to feel that you were miles away. And what was the issue of me having to leave when I had stayed there alone before with no problems, it made me feel as if you had something to hide. So point blank, I bust my ass to see you and your miles away when I get there, then rush me out the door as fast as possible and pretty much give me the impression that I am a nothing to you, which I must be since you dont seem to want to see me NYE either, this is how you made me feel and it hurts and I deserve better" Think I pretty much narrowed it down. I would call mine and say this had it happened to me!!!!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

After I posted this I did a little test to see if it was just me. I sent him a text asking him what day next week could I bring my son in where he works for a haircut (he was the first person to cut my sons hair this year). Well, he never texted back. That was 6 hours ago. So something is definitely up. And since I made my last post, yes, I am now a bit angry. Im trying to keep it in check so as not to upset myself..but how dare he treat me like that? NO ONE treats me like that. What you wrote was great and I will plan to tell him that and more. But not today. I am going to ignore his ass just like he is doing to me. And when he snaps out of it and realizes he hasnt heard from me, and decides to call, thats when I will let him have it. And I will be much calmer in a few days. Because right now, I want nothing else to do with him. And I seriously doubt that my mind will change on that.

I just dont get how he can be like this. Maybe its an Aqua trait, but its unacceptable. How can you be in a relationship with someone who treats you like you dont matter. Im already in a similar situation, granted its much worse, but maybe he has a fear of intimacy too like the hubby. Can deal with it. What did I do that was so wrong? Actually show him that I care about him? Well excuse me. Maybe hes the type that only wants something when its not easy. F*CK HIM.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Personally I still say to call him..fuck ignoring him or calming down..you texted him and it had nothing to do with anything real personal such as your night with him. I'd call that asshole and ask if he got his text and why he couldnt have responded. NO no no no no, fuck that calming down shit..why so when your more calm he can try and charm you? Hell no you should at least get an answer to your text with nothing else. Now give him your mind, need I remind you on how you busted your ass for this shit? I wouldnt wait...let him hear your point of view as soon as possible. You will be doing yourself a favor to get it off your mind.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Problem is, he is at work. So he wont be able to talk; he probably wont answer because he is busy or because he doesnt want to be bothered obviously. And texting him two paragraphs is weird then trying to have a text convo. Mind you, he wanted to spend Xmas eve w/ me just a few days ago. And last nite when I was running late, he texted me asking if I was okay and to please let him know, all concerned..And really, Im worried that he might ignore the text. That would send me over the edge and I wont be able to sleep tonite. Has your German ever done anything like this to you? I mean a total shift in behavior. If this were you, would this be grounds to terminate everything? Im feeling like it is.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

No dont have a text conversation with this..has to be phone so try today if your calm or not at least find out about the haircut. Ok since he did text you to find out if you were alright I bet anything that he didnt even realize how bad things seemed to you when you were there..seriously if he meant it or not he really needs to know and I think you putting it off is bullshit if you feel this bad about it. One Picses trait that I have always hated ( my aunt was one) is that they dont speak up often enough and let ppl run all over them and then wonder why it happens when they let things blow over..I see you doing the same thing a lot of the time and what good is it doing you?
To answer your question of course German and I have had our fights and big ones but no he really never has done anything like this to me and has stayed in touch pretty much daily even when he was in Germany with Swine Flu he would come online to spend time with me..even if for only 20 mins he always made efforts. Remember he is the very last day of Aqua so also has Picses in him..they call that cusp "most sensitive" and he is. I dont think this is grounds for break up..if anything stop f--ing around and call him already..not to fight but to let him know.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I am reading your message this morning and think to myself, OMG AM I A PUSHOVER? And i have to admit, with him, I have held back quite a lot. I am very sensitive, being a Pisces and all, and so when I am angry or offended I take it very personally and if I talk in that moment I will say some sh*t that may be over the top or too much. And with him Im always careful not to come off as too emotional so I hold back until Im more calm. I have a temper girl and its not pretty. Rarely do things set me off, but something like this would definitely cause me to curse him out.

So after I read your message I said, fk it just call him. I knew he wouldnt answer so I was making some mental notes for what I would say on his machine - WHEN HE CALLED. The hubby was here and kids runnin around so I couldnt have the convo righ then and there so I let the machine get it. He left a msg like nothing happened girl. Just how exhausted he was yesterday; there was a flood at his work and he was there all nite and how he was thinking about calling me late last nite but truthfully he just wanted to wait until today. Translation: I didnt feel like talking to you yesterday. LOL. At least he admitted it, in his own way. So the fact that he called certainly helped because I was ready to leave a doozy on his machine basically telling him to lose my number.


You see? When I get angry there is no in between. I really wanted to break things off with him. Still considering it. I just cant deal w/ this bak and forth sh*t. Im too old for the drama. I plan to tell him exactly how i feel, but for once I would like to do it in person. So he can see my face and see that Im not playing games w/ his ass. So he said I can bring my son tomorrow for the haircut; maybe I should treat him w/ a cold shoulder like he did me. I guess I will have to find the time to talk to him and tell him how he made me feel and that if he does it again its over. My problem w/ him is everytime I feel like I can relax and be excited about him he does something. Hes a great guy in many aspects, but I also see that he can be an enormous asshole.
Hi
by: Anonymous

I'm a Libra Girl and have been friends with this Aquarious Guy since 6th grade (we in 9th now). Throughout the years I have seen him date some of my friends, which I really didn't think to much about and really didn't get jelous cause I didn't see him that way then, but most of those girls have moved away and me and him still live here in this little town Lol. In 7th grade he told me I had the prettiest smile he ever seen on a girl and I just took it as a compliment. Here lately we have hung out more and he asks to come over to my house a lot. Him and my dad have the same exact brithday and are both aquarious so they have so much in common so dad likes him. What I'm trying to ask is do you think he likes me cause he kinda seems detached like he's in his own world when were together lol. PS I try not to text and bother him that much cause I don't want to seem needy I just let him text me. Should I or should I not do that. I'm confused "Help"
Hi
by: Anonymous

I'm a Libra Girl and have been friends with this Aquarious Guy since 6th grade (we in 9th now). Throughout the years I have seen him date some of my friends, which I really didn't think to much about and really didn't get jelous cause I didn't see him that way then, but most of those girls have moved away and me and him still live here in this little town Lol. In 7th grade he told me I had the prettiest smile he ever seen on a girl and I just took it as a compliment. Here lately we have hung out more and he asks to come over to my house a lot. Him and my dad have the same exact brithday and are both aquarious so they have so much in common so dad likes him. What I'm trying to ask is do you think he likes me cause he kinda seems detached like he's in his own world when were together lol. PS I try not to text and bother him that much cause I don't want to seem needy I just let him text me. Should I or should I not do that. I'm confused "Help"
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I know youre probably still working or something...just wanted to update you. So i called him back and he answered. I just told him that I got his msg and we would see him tomorrow at 2 for the haircut and I said goodbye. I really want to tell him how I feel face to face. Hopefully tomorrow will provide that opportunity..if not I will just have to hold my tongue until I see him again. Im over it. But hes definitely not getting away with it.
Libra Girl
by: Virgo with Aqua male

my advice is very blunt and simple...do this...

Just ask him if you want to know.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

He doesnt seem to have a clue..pretty aqua like right there, btw mine is the same as far as acting like things are just fine or nothing happened and it pisses me off even more. I asked him one time why he does that told him how I felt about it and he said to me that he can sense when things are not good and instead of adding more drama he trys to act like things are fine in hopes that I got over whatever the problem was...ok he's a very sweet guy but not always the smartest with common sense lol. I think you should talk to him as soon as you can really...let him know that your really not into a roller coaster type of relationship and you dont like how things have been...he makes you too emotional and just to rattle him up a bit go as far as telling him that if things stay the way that they are that the new year wont include him. Not sure how you feel about that.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha..thats a good one..not sure if the new year will include him. LOL..yea, hes clueless. But its funny what youre Aqua said about sensing when things are off and acting like everything is all good. Because today he actually answered at work when I called. Rarely does he do that. Generally he only does that when hes really missing me, or he knows he fkd up and is trying to show me hes being attentive or responsive. So when he answered today my first thought was yea he knows he fkd up. And I didnt ask how he was doing or tell him to call me later. None of that. I just confirmed the time and said okay see ya then. Believe me, I have no intention of sweeping this under the rug. If he keeps doing things like this he will turn me off altogether; Im not really the type to put up with prolonged bullshit. It gets old really quick.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

You should use the lines that mine says to me now and then "your going to scare me away"..but in your case you could tell him " Your going to push me away if things keep going how they are and you might have the impression that I easily forgive or am a pushover but this isnt as true as you think. I dont foresee you going out of your way to do things for me as I do for you and I dont know how much longer I can stay in a relationship that has me confused most the time"
Btw, this is one problem that I still have with mine to this day..I do WAY MORE for him then other way around. I feel almost everyday that the things I do for him or have done..well lets just say that I dont think I get back in return what I give. Im sure you feel the same way. They love to be charmers when it suits them dont let yours charm you too much tomorrow..I would try my hardests to have a conversation with him tomorrow and maybe because your son will be there it doesnt have to be long as drawn out as it may normally be which might be better for you. Say what you have to say and leave..gives no chance to do anything but think of what you said.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Good advice and I will definitely try to tomorrow to say something. I will bring the Ipod for my son to listen to while hes getting his hair cut so I an say something to him. And will definitely borrow some of your words. One thing I definitely plan to say is that I dont want to give anymore of my time and energy to someone who dosnt appreciate me and who could cut me off just like that. I hope the other stylists arent around so I can say SOMETHING. And I plan on looking FABULOUS while I say it. LOL - these men and their antics have reminded me why I might need to be single for a while after this divorce. What a pain in the ass!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh this is classic..having a conversation on messenger with my aqua..he's telling me about the really nice gift package he got from his parents and i ask him if he got them anything..he said "no" I told him that it wouldnt have killed him to send a card. He told me that "cards are boring"..I told him that he needs to do more for the ppl that do things for him and asked him if he felt he gives the same in return that he gets..he really thinks that he does the same for ppl..omg he is so blind or stupid! He's a great guy but he is so self observed that it makes me mad..this is one thing about him that I cant get over.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

mine is like that too. the entire world revolves around him. then i see him go and do something sweet, like buy flowers and set them in the lobby of his building for the super that died accidentally. the the problem is these aquas think live in their own world where they are always right. i know that whatever i say to him hes going to get upset, and then act like hes not and then try to make me seem like im overreacting. one thing about my hubby, he was never this way. always sweet, always giving, very selfless. no one man has it all. but some of these flaws are definitely deal breakers. At least yours talks to you daily - or wants to. lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Your right he does talk to me everyday...but a lot a LOT is lacking. I see these men do sweet things to look good for other ppl but when it comes to US the women in their lives then things are different..feels more like give and take...we give and they take..gets old, even when they are sweet. I am getting so tired of it. I feel taken for granted all the time.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well, I think you will know when you have had enough. One thing about me, I dont take anybodys crap for too long. I have a saying: I will knock on your door but if no one answers after a while, I stop knocking. Same goes. Im being open minded w/ him because he asked me to accept him for who he is - but that doesnt mean he gets to run things. I think he mistakes me for being naive sometimes. But now I have to show his ass who he is dealing w/. I am very sweet - to a point. I have 7 years on his ass. As far as Im concerned he is still a boy in many ways. Maybe thats the problem. I think I need an older man...like 45... He should be lucky Im giving him the time of day.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well I may have fucked up tonite but told him tonite how I felt..that he treats me like just a friend and nothing more when it suits him. I said that I didnt like this and either we change our status on how we see each other or he needs to come around a little bit more. I told him that I give him everything and what does he give me in return? I told him that I have giving him a lot of my time in this relationship and if he doesnt want more then a friendship then he needs to find someone that is more like him and that I need to find someone more that wants the same things that I want and doesnt take advantage of me in the meantime. He got quiet as he always does..he needs time in his head to go thru the conversation..I said good night and logged off.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You never fuck up by saying how you feel - and that is how you feel. And you need to know if he ever plans on taking things to the next level, or at least anytime soon. Curious to see how he handles this. He may surprise you. I had a free astrological chart done on astrodienst.com I couldnt read it at all so I posted it on the forum a few weeks ago. And apparently the whole divorce thing is written all over my chart - and a new big love in TWO years. So this guy may just be a blip on the radar. Not that I put much stock in those things, just sayin...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

well I woke up this morning to see no message on messenger and I am sure if and when he contacts me by text on phone that he will act like nothing was said..that is how HE handles things so Im sure nothing will change and why should it? He seems to be fine with how things are.Im too old to be at a stand still. See he was in San Fran from last Thursday and left Sunday night and got stuck in Atlanta and was home very late Tuesday night and in all that time I gave him space and we didnt spend much time together at all. He gets off this week Fri and goes back to work next Tues and told me what his plans were of making good food and relaxing and watching tv and his ps3 which is all good...I told him to have fun and see him next week...he tells me "I will be around"..I told him "dont worry about it,I didnt see me listed in your plans so I will be busy doing other things but wont be signed into messenger". He didnt like that....tough shit.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I just left the salon. Didn't get a chance to say anything tho I was dying to. Too many ppl around. We didn't even make small talk. I just sat there while he cut my son's hair. I didn't feel like pretending things were alright. Just sat there..he didn't say anything to me and vice versa. He could tell something was off I think.

When he finished I took my son to the bathroom and when I came out he was already at the back of the salon working on someone else. I could see him looking in my direction several times tho. I even let my son take the tip back to him. I just waited by the door, waved, and left.

Thing that bothers me too is that his mom and dad both work there too. They've all known me since 95. And I don't even think they know about us. Not that we are a couple but its weird to go in there and get no acknowledgement from him or them that we are more than friends- like its a secret. Not saying it is, it just seems like after all this time it should feel different. I'm very disappointed in him.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Sorry to hear your disappointed with him. I know things are a little different but not too long ago I asked mine if his parents or mom (he is very closer to her) knew about me and he said no. I asked him why and he told me that the only reason they dont know about me is because I am married still and he wouldnt want stress with them over that..point is..could it be his reason for them not knowning that things are more then friends? You still need to be able to tell him how you feel about the other day and it sounds like now wasnt the time. I am back to talking terms with mine..we were back and forth on text...i was mad and told him was about to give up. I had special tests to do today to find out what is wrong with me and the results werent good (lung disease..have to have more tests) so I texted him about it and asked if he wanted to call and he did within 5 mins and it brought us closer together...for now.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well first off, Im sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I will say a prayer for you. It is so important that you remain stress fee now so your body can fight the disease. So its good that you guys are back on speaking terms; you need that support right now.

You could be right about the marriage thing being the reason he hasnt told anyone. (Well, his brother who also works there knows). But he doesnt even know whether Im still married or not. He never asked. I told him many months ago that I was filing for divorce soon; you would think that he would want to know how that is going. This among other things are what makes me think that Im not really a serious relationship consideration for him. Maybe he doesnt want anything with someone who is getting divorced and has two kids. Maye this is a fling in his eyes. Things is, I have NO IDEA how he feels about me. I thought we were getting somewhere but after the other day, I dont think so anymore. I believe that if you have to ask a man how he feels about you something is wrong from the start. So Im not asking. Im not calling him either. Of course I will tell him all of this (finding a way to not make it sound too emotional or needy for his ass), but as far as Im concerned its over with. And the only way i would even consider spending anymore time w/ him is if he says something to make me believe that I matter.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

thanks for the prayers..I could use them right now. Ok read your post and have to say that I feel your looking for this man to act like something that might not be possible for him..meaning Aquas dont talk about their feelings so your looking for the wrong thing to happen. Mine does but remember that he is the last day and is the cusps of your sign, which makes it a big different. What you want out of him wont change him. Also...the fact that he hasnt asked means nothing to me..after almost 2 years, mine doesnt..i asked him once about it and he told me that why should he put more pressure on me then what i already have..and that it will happen when it happens. They are patient so maybe we should be too.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well maybe hes not the one for me then. I dont expect him to spill his guts but letting me know how he feels about me at least once after 7 months would be nice. Is that too much to ask for? He didnt call me tonite either. Not that I care. He probably is wondering what is up with me. But he acted like he wanted space..so now hes got it.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

stil doesnt shock me...7 months for us isnt the same as for them. Mine wouldnt tell me his last name for a year and a half and I made it my birthday gift so how fucked up was that? Yeah give him distance and when he finally comes to you tell him what's on your mind and dont forget the " my new year might not include you because I hate guessing games and how things have been". dont think that mine has been all fun and games...not even close. To this day he drives me crazy..they like a challenge and I think they like to challenge. I think you want someone to cater to you and this guy isnt it...so have patience and hang in there..im sure will be worth it. Or move on but it could be possible that he is taking things more slow because he has become more serious and hasnt told you. If I dont hear from you again Happy New Year!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You are so level headed! And I'm a ball of emotions. I hate it sometimes because it confuses me. I think I'm traumatized by this marriage and sometimes I may be taking out some things on my Aqua, idk. But he hurt my feelings this week and I'm not sure how to take it. So space is good - for him and for me.

It does seem like right after we had that really close moment last week he shut down. Remember how excited I was wen I told you how great he was being. Then he didn't call me bk on Christmas and it started changed from there...anyway we'll see. Not investing anymore hope in this guy. Just gonna see what he does. He wants a challenge, he's got one.

I can't believe ur guy waited a year and a half to tell u his last name! LOL! You r one patient chick! What r u doing tonite? What's HE doing? My friend is here from Oregon and I hvnt seen her in 8 years so gonna hv lunch w/ her then grab the kiddies and head to my moms for a NYE party. Very low key..HAPPY New Year! Remember, no stress :-) Thanx for all ur advice <3
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Accually I have no patience this man has thought me to have them so if anything I have gotton that out of this relationship. He is relaxing at home and I am doing the same thing although I really wish it were together but time will tell. Yeah I am more level headed then you maybe but dont think that I am cold..I am very very sensitive but I dont like to show it. I am a virgo with aquarius rising sign so double the punch sometimes. You need to let him know how your feeling instead of giving too much space..that sounds more like avoiding and you cant bitch about him seeming like he is avoiding you when your really doing the same thing. Right?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

See, there you go again! Being all level headed! LOL..Idk..I just dont want to get my feelings hurt so I guess this is my way of stepping back from the situation. Before we got together he was in a relationship for THREE years and living w/ the chick. They broke up last December because among other things he wasnt ready for the whole kid/marriage thing. So at least I know he is capable of a commitment. He just scares the sh*t out of me. This has been a tough year for me and I dont need any drama. Cant handle it right now. So tonite when he doesnt wish me a Happy New Year, what am I supposed to do? Be the bigger person and call HIM? Im thinking he will probably call. And I will deliver your great line about him not being part of my new year. LOL thats so funny..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok not for nothing but think your creating a lot of the drama and putting it onto yourself maybe..let me give you a perfect example..you told me "so what should I do if he doesnt call me for NYrs?" that already is creating drama in your head and almost creating it to happen.get my point? Look dont be a baby..either call him or text him if he doesnt but dont read into everything he either does or doesnt do..trust me I am beign hard on you because I use to do the same damn thing and wish someone would have talked some sense into me at times because I use to pick apart everything he did or didnt do and it drove me crazy..I made my own problems a lot of time and dont want the same thing to happen to you. It sounds to me like there are too much games beign played and you shouldnt worry at this point if your too emotional for him or not..just as you had to do with him all along..same goes with him that he needs to accept you or he doesnt.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay. Shit, youre right again. LOL. I am worrying and definitely overthinking. Behaving like a 21 year old, not a 38 year old. LOL..Okay, from this point on, I will not think about him or worry what he is going to do. I am definitely having a weak moment, but its over now. DONE. Im going to have lunch w/ my friend and not stress about this. You have kicked me in the ass and I am back on track now. :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah you have more important things to worry about..enjoy your time with your friend and tonite with family..that is what is important..ones that are ALWAYS there for you, not ones that are there when they feel like it. Mine is missing in action atm but that is fine with me..he keeps in touch all the time so I wont worry..the longer he has less contact with me the more he misses me so haha on him...not on me. Keep in touch.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So I have not given him a thought today. And he just sent me a text wishing me Happy New Year and told me he was on his way to his grandmother's house with his brother. Added a little 'XOXO' at the end. I wrote him bk wishing him the same. Headed to his Mom's mow for some serious grubbing lol...have a good night!
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

haha now how can you be mad with the XOXO at the end? lol I am online with mine for the last few hours..chatting...yes have a great New Years!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL..yes, that was very cute, I must admit. I miss hiiiiiim..but I don't wanna miss him. When he was cutting my son's hair I was watching him. He was lookn so yummy lol...
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

my new year with german wasnt all that good..we got into a fight about 15 mins before 2011 started...I was talking and talking on messenger and he says nothing back..was like talking to the wall...he's tired and wants a nap...ok thanks a lot pal for making me feel real important enough to stay up and be with me asshole. Happy New Year German Jerkoff...I am pissed now. if I could give him a new years present it would be a 2 and a 0 and my two middle fingers for the 11's LOL.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LMAO..aw..these dudes dnt give a fuk @ anything..makes sense he could give a shit about NYE. Well you don't wanna sta®t the New Year fighting so make up with him.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

well today started off shit already...he was online when i got up and there was a fight already..told him that i am tired of him not giving to me what he gets and he is lazyass and he knows it. Starting to hate him. And then in messenger after I speak my mind all he does is give me the "hug smilie" and types nothing else...sure he is listening to me but i also feel ignored too.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay well can I just say that I notice this pattern with you..every now and again you get frustrated with him and tell him how he is not giving you what you want.And he's now used to it. So he doesnt react anymore. Prob because he knows ur right and doesn't kno wht to say AND because he knows it'll pass. He let's you have ur say and then just waits til ur over it. So tough love time: you have to either accept him how he is and wait it out to see if he is ever going to open up more OR decide that you have to move on.

I think you have every right to be frustrated btw. But I should also point out as someone in a similar situation as you..that being in a lonely marriage creates its own frustration and you may be taking some of that out on your Aqua. Not that he doesn't deserve it. They need a kick in the ass sometimes.

Like today I'm missing him a little and just wish we were closer so he could feel comfortable enuff to call me and say that. Hate wondering all the time.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh I have to agree with you...and I think also because we been together for so long, almost 2 years that they get more lazy. I told him that it seemed that when he felt that he had me hooked that he felt he didnt have to do things for me anymore that the only time he really went out of his way for me was in our first 4 months when he thought he was going to lose me. Your right I have to either accept him or not because you cant change these men to save your life. I dont want to change him I just would like for him to put more effort that I feel that I put in. I go out of my way and would like to get some of that back....not too much to ask. I was mad that the new year started off so badly. See for his birthday I did something for him early..might not seem like much to most but this for him was an amazing gift...will continue.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

we have this show on tv that we both watch from time to time..when we were at the hotel together we were watching this ghost hunting show that ran back to back and the one episode was one of the best that we had seen. We were both talking how cool it was and he had mentioned that that would be the coolest thing ever to go there. I looked it up and it is open for the public and you can pick different packages and tour this place in search of ghost. I got him the package of him staying there for 8 hours to tour the whole place from like 7pm to 3am in one of the most haunted places ever..when we were together that one sat I told him what I got him and he was shocked..he couldnt beleive it and he couldnt stop smiling telling me that this was going to be THE BEST BIRTHDAY EVER...he kept telling me. Pretty fucken nice of me huh? Anyway I had mentioned today that I thought that I go out of my way to make him happy and I wonder if he would have gone out of his way for me and do something special for me. He was of course silent...what could he say? I wont be doing something like this again unless he blows my mind a few times...however that's gonna happen. Anyway I think I made a pretty good point in the birthday example.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

That's an amazing gift. Very thoughtful; something I would do.


You ever notice how they do ONE nice thing or act romantic ONCE in a blue moon - and its like they think its such a big deal that they don't hv to do anything again. Like when my guy was so sweet and romantic two weeks ago and then just turned on me like he's too cool to be sweet anymore. And ur guy planned that dinner and now he's back to doing nothing. Its like they 'shoot their load' and then they can't do anymore. LOL And we know how great it feels when they're romantic and sweet so its like a tease.


Just ignore him. Or plan a time to see him (maybe another dinner?) and really have a heart to heart about this once and for all. Face to face.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I just dont know..these guys are all for themselves, I think it is their nature to be selfish so I dont think talking to him is really going to matter one way or another. I cant make my needs and thoughts anymore clear then they are..the kick in the ass is that we get along PERFECT in person..it's the online thing that is the downer for us. Even in person when we have disagreements it is so much better then online..dont know what to do.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So what do we do about them then? I didnt even hear from my Aqua today. I know I could have called him, but Im done w/ the efforts for a while. So is he missing me but trying to not make me think hes not? Or is he simply not missing me? I hate having to wonder, so Ive decided not. Actions speak louder than words. I say we both sit back and do nothing. And just see.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well mine is different from yours..I hear from mine everyday even when I am pissed off at him like I have been on and off for the last 2 days..2011 hasnt been a good year for us so far and I am loosing interest in him RAPIDLY...atm wondering what the almost last 2 years has done for ME. Sure he is the one that comes out ahead when we compair the stats..he has tomorrow off but today (sunday) is my last day off and I work tomorrow and instead of staying home and spending time with me this afternoon he tells me has to get out and leaves. Get out? He gets out like every fucken day and then wonders where his fucken money goes. I dont need this shit. Sure he is in contact with me everyday but his self centeredness is really getting on my nerves and then he has the balls to ask me if I am mad?! Oh no, I love someone that cares more about themselves. See I am so torn and taking more shit from him for ONE reason. The reality is that I dont know if he will be able to stay in the USA so I know that is making me hold back more then I normally would. Imagin if I didnt and didnt see him much because I was pissed off all the time and he had to go back to Germany how I would regret it. It's not as easy as him going to another state, that would suck but you see the big difference. I dont want to take his shit but also dont want to regret things in august either when he may have to go back. See my dilema? What would you do if you were me and had this to deal with?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well here's the thing. If there is no hope of him opening up more than he has or making you feel wanted, in a romantic way, then it is not worth it. Are you going to spend the next 7 months waiting for a kiss? The relationsdhip HAS to progress to another point and soon.

The hard part is you don't get to spend enough time with him to allow that to happen. So I'm not sure how you are supposed to achieve the physical closeness (and other stuff you want). You see?

I think more together time would really help you decide about him. He may be holding back some because he is not sure if u will ever truly be available. I do think you will be very unhappy if things continue the way they are right now into the summer. Its just not enough. I hope that mes sense.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

As for me, havent heard from my guy since that text on NYE. And havent actually spoke to him since I saw him last, which was last Tuesday. This sucks. Im not upset or sad or obsessing. Just not how I envisioned things progressing. Two steps forward, two steps backward. SIGH...
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

It all makes sense. Here's the thing. I think your right on all of it maybe. I think he may be holding back or taking things more slowly because number 1 I am married still and not 100% able to be his and also number 2 because he may have to go back. That for me is the reason I am holding back more is because he may have to go back..it would very much break my heart. We have been thru a lot together and he has been there with my troubled married..he has never shown me ONCE he was close to give up on me...ever! Those actions say a lot so for me feels like a waiting game because his actions of commitment to me are there and have been. He asked for time and I need to be level headed enough to give it. I think he is hard to read and can put his emotions and desires aside more easily then I can. I dont question that he wants me,he just isnt your typical american male that will jump your bones the first chance he gets...Im not use to such a well mannered gentlemen at any age.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well he definitely seems like a good guy. I think youre just going to continue to be frustrated until you can be with him the way you really want. When youre free and clear. Me too in a way..I cant really demand more of my Aqua cuz then he might turn around and ask me if I am divorced yet. Then I will feel stupid asking a man to go all the way with me when I am not even free myself. My focus is getting a job and getting the ball rolling...not for him, but for me.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I have decided that I will end things with my Aqua next time I see him. I have thought about it and I really dont think he will ever give me what I need. I know its still early in the game, but having lived w/ a similar personality for 8 years, if he has even a fraction of my husbands intimacy/communication issues, I know I cannot deal w/ it. The man cant even say we are in a relationship. I know I want alot, but I also think that I deserve alot and there has to be a man out there who is willing to give it. And if I am already frustrated at this level, it can only get worse when I am in love w/ him and he decides to check out or put me on ice for a week. I am really afraid of getting my feelings hurt and this is almost a guaranteed heartbreak. I can feel it. Either he is afraid to care or just doesnt. He said to accept him for who he is and I have tried that. But I dont think I can realistically.

I plan to go to his place and just tell him how I feel sometime next week or this weekend. Now if he says something that makes me think otherwise great, but I wont hold my breath. Im pretty much done w/ men who cant say or act upon how they feel. Its old news to me. Been there, done that. Got the t-shirt (as the saying goes). Keep you posted.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

"Im afraid to get my feelings hurt" That's VERY unrealistic no matter what sign your with. I think your jumping the gun because you simply want someone to cater to you and IF you did have that you would like it at first but then for some reason it would get boring and you would be attracted to what your planning to give up on now. That is what I see. In a way I can see your point..I been there myself but also in a way think you need to grow up as much as him. If your not happy with him then leave him,sure. The pattern is your already looking for the rollercoster ride when you said you would change your mind depending on what he says..you know if he "wows" you in a week he will be distant again...I dont think you understand him enough to handle him.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Of course I know that I can get my feelings hurt no matter who I'm with. I just prefer to take that risk w/ someone who's actually worth it and I'm not sure he is. I don't think I'm being immature, just realistic about his limitations. I've been w/ other men who have no problem expressing their emotions. I dont need anyone to cater to me, but I do need someone who's not afraid to let me know I'm important - or that they care a little. He's done neither. I get that Aquas are unique, which is what I like about him, but jeez..he's not THAT special.

Unlike ur Aqua this guy is not on any cusp and sometimes seems like a robot. Its like whenever HE wants to see me or when HE feels like calling..we can't seem to get close because he won't allow it for whatever reason. He's fascinating but I don't want a rollercoater ride. Now if we talk and he opens up even a little and let's me know what he wants I could give it a chance. But he has to give me something.

I don't want to be that person who ignores the red flags and then is surprised when things don't work out. Women do that all the time.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

You said, "if youre not happy with him then leave...". Thats the issue, Im not WITH HIM. He wont let me be. Its really hard to put into words. Its like he wont allow us to be close. Only for little while here and there, then he hauls ass and runs.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Keep me posted for sure and if you have time it might not be a bad idea to tell him some of the things you shared with me in your last couple posts, even if it doesnt change anything why not treat your meeting with him as if it might be your last and let it all out and tell what has been bothering you the last few weeks..even if it ends at least you were able to clear your mind. Oh trust me, even at a cusp mine still drives me crazy and always will I am sure. There are things about him I would love to change..I know that doesnt sound like I am accepting him but I wish he wasnt so hesitant about a lot of things that have to do with us. And talking about one that has a problem with sharing..as I said, a year and a half to tell me his last name? That is a serious issue right there so I know a good deal of how you feel from time to time. Even today mine pissed me off, I know it might sound small. He had off today and I worked and I was on messenger on phone during work. I get off at 3:30 and asked him on my lunch at 11:30 if he was going out. He said, he was later. I said " oh your at home doing nothing while I am at work and will go out when you know I am back at home?, ok I see how it is" I logged out annoyed. He called me at 3:30 and was online when I got home. Point is, he will always have those stupid annoying aqua ways. Best of luck and let me know how things go.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well I think youre right. I will definitely tell him when I see him, which will be next Monday I think. I think alot of the problem is that we are not communicating very well. But I hope this one last convo will clear things up, for better or worse. Btw, you and your Aqua are so cute w/ your little fights. What I love about him though is that he responds quickly when he sees that he has pissed you off or messed up in anyway. Gotta love that.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh I wish you were able to get this conversation out of the way so you can get a better idea of where things stand. Maybe I am more eager to hear what happens then you having to go thru that convo lol. Oh I laughed out loud when I read what you wrote about our "cute little fights". It happens at least once a week I'd say and at the time my temper flys and doesnt seem so cute at the time lol. I needed to see that so thanks for writing that hehe. Let me know if yours gets a hold of you in anyway in the meantime.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Well I decided to give him an opening and texted him about an hour ago to see if he was available on Monday. He said he would 'keep his day open as long as nothing necessary comes up'. Whatever lol...he said he would call me. Idk if thats today or tomorrow. Not exactly sittin by the phone so its all good. That was the first communication w/ him sincee NYE. But I think he was waiting for me to reach out to him so I did. I would love to get the convo out this week but I am busy and he works all week til like 10 so next week it is. Mind you, he has been off since Saturday and didnt call to get together. But its all good. Not going to read anything into it. Besides will give him a chance to miss me. haha..
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Well I hope you can at least get some things cleared. So far you have been interested in him for some reason right? was good to give him another chance. Yeah dont hold your breath for that phone call..mine use to be that way when he was in Germany btw. One thing I hate about mine is he shuts down with some of the serious conversations that I want to have. I call them "what if" questions. I wanted to ask him if he ended up having to go back to Germany was he going to try to get back to USA some how. Pretty good question I think. I didnt get to ask the question because as soon as I asked him if I could ask him a "what if" question he responded with "omg no I hate them, pls dont" He shuts me out all the time this way and I hate it. I paused because I got pissed that he didnt even give me a chance to ask my question so I told him that I had to go to bed and said good night and logged out. He reminds me of what you told me about your husband that way as far as shutting down and ignoring issues intead of having to talk about them. See mine isnt perfect either...far from it!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

These men are retarded. LOL..at least yours has the balls to tell you he would rather not talk about something. My hubby just sits there ansd listens, then says nothing. Can you imagine how infuriating that is! Literally, nothing. Dont even bother anymore..sad cuz he really is a great person. Just a terrible fear of intimacy. I hope my Aqua doesnt turn out to be the same. I know hes not as bad, but I see some issues there. But yes, there are things that attracted me to him. He has a lot of great qualities. He is sexy, and confident, and very manly which I am not used to. (My hubby defers to me for EVERYTHING and its sooo annoying). And I have seen GLIMPSES of his sweetness. What I cant tell is if he is just passing the time w/ me or really cares about me. And i dont want to ask. So I keep looking for signs. Sometimes I see them, and then times like last week, he makes me feel like we are just acquaintances. Which from what I read is a common thing Aquas do. But I am waaay too sensitive to handle that I think. You see how I almost went off the deep end when he acted like that. LOL. Well, next week when I see him, before the talk we will be in the recording studio together working on a song. (I told you I am a singer/songwriter right?) So he will get to see me in MY element for a change. Then afterward we will have the talk. Im prepared for it to go either way, but secretly hoping he wont let me down.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

You know that my aqua sounds so much like your husband in that when we are online and I am speaking my mind he gets so quiet...tells me he is listening but feels like he isnt even there most the time and I so hate that! Half the time I am asking if he is still there because it feels like I am talking to myself. I was mad this morning stil a little bit ( he always says he's sorry but those words are easy to say after a while). He sends me a text saying he was very sorry about last night and that should have been good enough right? wrong! I have heard "Im sorry" so much..he told me that yet he didnt ask me what I wanted to say..didnt have the common sense to ask me what my question was..that would have been nice. He shuts down too much for me at times. Later today he told me that when I was working and he was off that he had missed me, that felt good.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi! Well your Aqua and my hubby both hav e the same birthay you know..I guarantee u he IS listening to u he just doesn't know how to respond. Emotions and real serious talk scare the hell out of my husband. Not even threat of a divorce could change him. He even told me that he knows its all his fault and he doesn't kno why he is the y he is. He has a real fear of intimacy. Finally realized after a few years there was only so much I would get outta him. He's sweet, generous, honest, loyal..but is incapable of expressing himself. I can't even begin to tell u how hard it was to decide to divorce cuz he really is great but its hopeless with him.

Anyway...looking forward to this talk w/ my Aqua on Mon. I finally told one girlfriend @ him today. She told me its definitely time for the talk! Lol

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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Haha all along your husband and my aqua share same birthday and you just now tell me lol. So I am sure that a lot of what I have written must have sounded familiar? One of the reasons it has been so hard for me to give him up (really not wanting to ) is because he is one of the sweetest ppl I know BUT we DO have serious talks and he does give me feedback..it's just when I am saying my part how I wish that he would give his feedback but he doesnt say anything, this of course is when we are online.When we are on the phone we tend to both talk so much that we often cut each other off because we are in such a hurry to tell each other what we have to say. For the most part we get along great. He does shy away from some serious conversations he tells me it is because it is nothing that we can do about it wether we talk about it or not and a lot of times he tells me he is quiet because he is listening and also because he doesnt know what to say. He often feels that if he cant try to solve something that he just feels he isnt helping. He is very very sensitive and asks everyday morning-noon and night how my day is. He is a very caring person. He really is the best of bestfriends any person could possible have.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I thought I told you they had the same bday.(Feb 18th rt?) Sorry! Yes, very very sweet and kind hearted. Funny you say he is more open online; because I could have certain convos w/ my hubby when he is at work on IM but in person nothing. Be glad your guy at least gives you feedback. This guy is like Fort Knox! It will definitely be hard to let him go but there is no living w/ him like this for the rest of my life. Sad, because were it not for that we would make it. But its too big of an issue and he is not willing to try to be different. But in his defense its who he is so I have to accept it or not, and I choose not to. I found myself missing my Aqua a little today; was tempted to call him..but I will wait until I see him. Will give me some time to think about how i really feel and get ready for the breakup if that is whats going to happen. But I think I will be okay either way. I really like him tho. Alot.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yup my mans is on feb 18th. So have you thought all of what your planning to say to yours? Like what points do you plan to make? Mine is VERY hard to let go...in a lot of ways he can be much more level headed then myself. When my temper flairs I am more like you, all or nothing! My aqua always tells me when I get like that and threaten to break up he will say "for what reason is the break up? I see no reason for it, let's be logical, calm down but pls stop talking this, there is no need for it" An aqua beign logical...HAHA. I really cant say that mine is generious, maybe with his time but I see him more like all for himself type then giving, he has the sweetness going for him. Omg when we first met online I thought his sweetness was so fake and a put on, it couldnt be true that a person be so sweet like that and not use you for something. To this day he is still the sweetest man I know, even in person very sweet. Good luck with your chat next week, I cant wait to hear about it myself.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Oh boy..my Aqua is just like that. ALL about him..which is one of the reasons we keep hitting a roadblock. He has basically stopped calling me. I think its because I havent called him much either. He has some serious pride and he does NOT give in very often (me either tho). Hes pretty annoying. LOL..anyway..keep you posted. :-)
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

this is so funny and ironic that I had to share with you. The conversation that I wanted to have last night that he shot down we happened to have tonite..and it was HIM that started it..it just fell so perfect into place and I was able to say what I wanted to say and afterwords I told him that the conversation we just had was what I wanted to have last night so we made a deal that next time I want to ask "what if" questions that he at least lets me ask it before he shoots it all down. One thing we normally do have is great conversation and communicaiton. We were talking about his furture and got some things cleared..it was great.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Aw! I love that! I have to admit Im a little jealous. LOL..Isnt it great when you get what you want without trying so hard? Haha..thats kinda how the baby talk came up w/ mine a few weeks ago. He just brought it up! I was just thinking about how I should begin the talk w/ my Aqua. I dont wanna get too too heavy on him and scare him. But was thinking that maybe I should start by telling him how I got a vibe that he wanted space last week, which is why he hasnt really heard from me. That sometimes we seem to be getting close, then the next time I feel like he treats me like we are just mere acquaintances. And that I feel we have spent enough time together for each of us to know how we feel about the other and if we want to pursue a relationship w/ each other - and ask him his thoughts. What do you think??
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I know your scared to scare him away but you really need to give all your thoughts. How you felt about the last time you were together for sure and how it was a big deal it seemed of things that happened before that wasnt a problem like how you busted your ass to get to him and was tired and he wouldnt even let you stay a little longer. Sure he gave a reason but let him know that it made you feel like he was trying to get you out of there as soon as possible. Back up your feelings and thoughts with things that really did happen so that you can give an example when you lay it on the line. He cant really argue things that happened when they are in front of his face. If it were me I would word things a little different (Aquas seem to scare away when you talk about closeness sometimes) I would say that it feels so wishy washy..one visit things seem fine and other times when you see him you feel like he could care less if your there or not and it makes you feel bad when he is distant like that when your there because you feel uneasy and am not sure if something is wrong or not. Hope some of this helps if I think of anything while at work I will make sure to let you know.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yes, I added that part about his flip flopping to my talking points. So we both have the same idea haha.. So you think I'm being too nice about it? Leave out the feelings and stuff? LOL. Okay. That might be easier for him to understand and process if I keep it w/ just the facts. Once he told me that he liked when I spoke to him in person. He said 'I like when you discuss things with me in person; its sweet and it works'.
So I woke up thinking about him. Not good! LOL. Seriously i gotta get him outta my system and quick if we are not going to continue. Its so distracting! Im feeling like maybe this is what he is feeling; not liking the feeling of someone having a hold on him. He seems pretty afraid of getting emotionally attached. But thats how Im feeling. Difference is I dont run away; he does. I could be wrong. So I was wondering if I was being too harsh by stopping calling him altogether. I can be very sensitive as you have seen and wondering if my reaction to his behavior was over the top. Granted, he hasn't called me either, but I think its because he felt the vibe from ME that something was up and didnt know what to do. So I decided to just send him a text saying hello just to see how he would respond. Well he wrote me back fairly quickly saying he was okay, at work w/ a toothache and that he 'hoped I was okay' (not sure what that means), and that he would call me later FOR SURE. I wrote back that it was no pressure just wanted to see how he was. Told him I was leaving for LA for a few days. And he wrote back, 'can I call you later?'. Why would he ask for permission to call? That leads me to believe that he has just been apprehensive about calling me since he asked permission to call.
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To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I got a strong impression that he misses me. Or at the very least is wondering what is up with me, or in typical Aqua fashion, his interest is piqued again. But I cant be ignoring him every 3 months to keep his attention jeez!

I plan on telling him too that we are at the point where we need to , as the saying goes 'piss or get off the pot'. And if he doesnt want a real relationship then we need to just decide to be friends now. Even if he says yes just being friends, I think eventually he would regret it. His bday is coming up (1/21) and if we are together I will make it nice. If we are not, I will still be sweet as pie and buy him something and mail it to his house. Torture his ass and make him think about what he let go. LOL ...but lets hope I dont have to resort to PLAN B. LOL! Im being silly. So going to LA tomorrow nite; got a paid gig thank God..bk over the weekend. Will definitely keep you posted on things. Thats the beauty of a Blackberry; I can still read ur posts and respond..so what are your thoughts on all of this????
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah I think that he was afraid to call you and was leary and that is why he asked permission, but is strange because mine does the same thing even when things are fine so maybe is a strange trait of the aquas. Is hard to find that line of not beign too mean but still getting your point accross. Say all the things that are on your mind and make it clear your not really accepting how things are right now as far as guessing games..I have to say that IF things dont go in the right direction that I wouldnt tell him "let's be friends" it's too much of a emotional tug of war with this sign and they are good at manupilating so I wouldnt agree to this. Just think about it, would you be able to go to the salon one day if it didnt work out to see him with a new woman maybe acting in ways you wish he would have with you? Just not a good idea, what do you think? Yes keep it facts, men do best with just facts, it's something they can then relate to. I would get it all out in the open just in case it is the end then you dont go home thinking that you wish you would have added this or that. Good luck.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Do you think I was too hard on him? I am pretty anxious for Monday to get here so we can get this over with. He is supposed to call me tonite, or maybe tomorrow. Thanks for your help on the talking points. You know I will keep you posted. :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh another fight but first to answer you, no dont think you were too hard on him but if it were me, I would have told him why I was mad, know how you dont like guessing games on what is up with him? I am sure he was having the same about you when you last seen him. Open communication is best, no matter if your mad or not right?
My aqua wants to try to get a perm job with the company so he can stay in USA, I suggested that he get a review with the boss to see his strong and weak points and if he has weak ones the sooner the better on trying to work on them so looks better when trying to go for perm job. Make sense or no? One thing always hated about him is how he puts things off when he doesnt feel like doing something..it was ME that always motivated him to do better and this is why he is in USA atm. He fought me on asking for review now because doesnt like his boss so is putting it off...as usual. I got pissed when he told me " I was thinking that I could relax at home tonite but no....stress at work, stress at home" (due to me of course). I said "ok I will log out and you enjoy your night so that solves your stress problem. I wont be around and wont log in for the rest of the week so you can enjoy your stressfree nights" I then logged out, wait I told him good night and good bye. Sent a text saying that since I put him thru so much stress that he can have a lot break from me and I wont be contacting him. Fucken baby, grow up already!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha..you know he will be calling you tomorrow. LOL..but youre right. A very logical, professional way to handle things w/ the boss. He is soo much like my hubby. He is the same way! He wont do the smart thing. He puts it off and puts it off. Then when things dont go his way he gets all pissed, amd at the world and blames everyone but himself. And gets all defensive when I tell him what he should do. Except when he needs my advice of course. Well, he will get over it. Tomorrow he will be texting or calling to tell you he is sorry, or act like the whole thing never happened at all! Youre right btw...it probably would have helped to tell my guy right away what I was feeling. But its hard for me to communicate effectively when I am mad/hurt. I would have went off on him. The plus side..at least he has had a week or so to think about how he would feel if I didnt want him anymore. I know Aquas need that time to think so he mentally prepared for whatever I have to say to him. I hope. Again, you guys are cute. LOL
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by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Oh forgot to tell you what else he told me, he says this "dont get mad if I get agressive and demotivated after this" I said "at me?" he said "no at collegues and at this company" I said " stop your demotivated shit and you hate them anyway so whatever, besides, of course your agressive, your german and your aquarian so you think the only right way is your way. Your not doing this for the company, your trying to do better for YOU so grow up already. Your pissen me off and making me mad" He got silent, what a shocker there lol. I just signed into messenger invisible to see if he was there and he was offline but left me a "good night babe"...no way, not going to smile, babe my ass...grrr why does he have to be so fricken sweet and asshole at same time?! He pushes my buttons and he knows it, btw bet he's getting his form for review ready LOL.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yes exactly! Sweet AND an asshole! I totally get it. Well, he may be complaining but hes doing what you say im sure. See you have that influence on him. haha..
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

So he never called last nite. Why would he ask if he could call me then not call? This whole thing is a mess and Im not even sure a talk w/ him is necessary anymore. I guess we are over.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Would you stop already thinking because he didnt call last night that it is over. I believe that you said he might call either last night or today and if he had a toothache he's going to use that as his reason for not calling. Oh I totally understand how it feels to be hopeful when someone says they are going to do something and then dont do it, another point you can bring up. Is that if you two are going to try to make it that he needs to follow thru on the things that he says he is going to do. You need to not jump the gun when he doesnt follow thru on something, this seems to be more normal for him. Keep your emotions in check and stop assuming things, your not doing yourself any good. I stayed home today because been having a hard time breathing this week and at work it gets worse so I am home today and will check the posts off and on.
My aqua left me a text on phone this morning telling me "good morning *hugs* I am sorry for not responding to your text, i had my ringer off and didnt expect to receive anything. Look i have my anxieties as well, my life wasnt just green fields,blue skys, pink flowers and sunshine, which makes me second guess things, of course i am trying to look stronger than i really am..i hope you can understand that, feel free to be online tonite, i am working longer nowadasy and i am just trying to have a better time at home" This is what he sent me. I didnt respond at all to him, let him think of why I was so mad. This is the first time since he has known me that I have ignored him like this. He doesnt know that I am home and thinks I am working and soon would be my lunch time so lets see if he leaves another text..will keep you updated.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

I realized today that I have more emotional baggage than I realized and this relationship w/ him is bringing it all up. Which is y I keep jumping the gun I guess. He had pretty much stopped being unreliable months ago after we had a talk. Now he's a flake again. I am just nervous that I'm going to get my feelings hurt but I guess there is no way to avoid it if that's what's coming. I wish I could talk to him today @ all this so I can get it off my chest and focus. But I'm leaving tonite. And REFUSE to call him. If I don't hear from him by the time I get back I will call him and make arrangements to go by his house and speak to him.

As for your guy, I told u he was going to reach out today. I really like that he offered you an explanation. He's really sweet. Don't u wish he could come over and take care of you? Take it easy and I hope u feel better..I will try to keep my crazy emotions in check. I need to meditate or something..lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

I have an idea and suggest you try it and see what happens because normally when you do this you get some kind of response, sometimes we have to think the way they do to beat them at their own game. I would send a simple text that says something like this " Leaving tonite just wanted to say good bye for a while, noticed you didnt call me so hope your taking care of yourself with that tooth, ttyl" It is simple and shows some kind of care but not kissing ass and isnt calling him an asshole for not calling, it address a lot of issues and is simple and easy. Pls send this, this way IF you do get a response you MIGHT feel a bit better and if not, then when he does read it he feels like an ass for not calling and you made a point anyway...hehe.
For me this is a first that I havent given in and texted him back..lunch has been over and done and he didnt respond, I am sure he is much too scared to. I understand all the points he made and that is fine but I am tired of giving advice which I havent been wrong about yet, remind you if he hadnt listened to ME he would not have gotton the ball rolling to be in USA in the first place so how the hell could I be wrong this time!. He needs to miss me now and not hear from me so it sinks in a little more on what it would feel like if I wasnt around anymore. Tough love and atm I think he needs it. He always feels sorry for himself, so either he continues to do that or get of the pot as you said about yours and do something.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay..Im going to send it right now. Normally I would NOT even give him the satisfaction of a reply. But i must admit that is a crafty ass message. Now if he calls me later do I answer, or let him leave a VM so I can hear what he has to say for himself?? YOu are so sarcastic. I love it. lol
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Just sent it! I hope you know that that goes against everything about me! I have some kind of pride and I hope I dont regret it. WTF is wrong w/ him? I was so sure that since he didnt call last nite he would call me this morning to apologize knowing Im leaving tonite. Do you think me backing off of him has made him back off of me? Possible. Anyway, jumping in the shower..been lying around playing w/ the littlest one trying not to think about him. Time to pull myself together LOL. I will def let u know if he texts me back. As for your guy, yes, some tough love cant hurt. If hes just going to turn around and do what you say anyway, why does he fight it? Typical man shit..but youre making a good point. I bet hes nervous right about now.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Keep the phone by you and answer the damn phone, part of the problem with this relationhsip just isnt him, it's you too. Pride my ass, get over it, he needs to too. Trust me I was the same way with mine for months and it isnt good when both are the same way, you really get nowhere. If he calls just tell him "look I understand your busy and everything but dont keep telling me your going to call and then don't, you wouldnt like it if I did that to you all the time" it's not starting a fight, it's making a point and tell him that as well, this way while you have the time apart he can think about it. Broke down and sent a short text telling him " cant breathe, stayed home" He texted back in seconds saying he hopes I feel better and to get rest and call doctor. Yeah yeah, sweet I know. My last text read " Not sure I will be on tonite, you need a good long break from me and tired of giving advice for you to shoot it down, space is just better".
With yours, dont expect anything, if he does, he does and if not then oh well on him, your seeing him Monday and having that talk regardless, remember that. Yours seems to "require" much less contact with you and I would make it clear to him, it's not what your looking for in a relationship. Now if he does a 360 on you when you tell him it might be best to go seperate ways and wants to try to keep you make it clear that trying for just a week or two just simply isnt going to cut it. This is why I keep on mine all the time, his "trying" time is much less then I wish it would be .
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Aw, so you are going to try and give him the cold shoulder for a while huh? I bet you guys will be chattin it up tonite. LOL..I am preparing to leave. Never heard from him; but I still think your txt was a good idea either way. Its not like him to totally ignore me so something must be up. I am not going to assume the worst. And if he is just not wanting to be w/ me any longer then ____-scratch that! So as Im writing this a text came in from him. Here are his exact words: HEY IM SO SORRY. I GOT HOME LAST NITE AND PASSED OUT. MY TOOTH AND THE PAIN KILLERS PUT ME OUT. I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT FOR LATER TODAY. IT GOT WORSE. I THINK ITS INFECTED. BUT HAVE A SAFE TRIP THOUGH. I PROMISE TO CALL YOU WHEN I FEEL BETTER. XOXO :-(
Well thats a relief. I notice that whenever I worry about him not calling he doesnt. And the moment I calm down and decide not to sweat it, I hear from him. Like right now. So there you have it. Im glad he at least texted me that instead of waiting til he was all better to call and say why he didnt call. Then I may not have believed him.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

not for nothing but I think the reason he texted you is because YOU did it first...see arnt you glad you listened to me? LOL. I knew he would say it as the tooth and I am sure it was. I seen a clue a while back that I think you totally over missed with him..hadnt you notice the last few texts included XOXO? That in a huge way is sending a message, once again dont look at what he isnt doing but look at the new things he does. Smile would you, that is pretty big in my book. Never heard back from mine but that is fine, i am sure he was busy always is that way the beginning of the month for him. Btw if you and he would not be so stubborn on who gets a hold of who first you would have a less stressfree relationship. Enjoy your tip and congrats on landing the gig. Have a safe trip and keep in touch. Yup still giving the cold shoulder and I am sure is bothering him too. Busy or not.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Okay. So apparently you should be running MY life as well as your German's. LOL. I'm so glad I listened to you! But WHY would he wait for me to text him first when he was the one who didn't call? Makes no sense to me but thank you. Now you've made me look like a sweet, concerned GF and not a pissed off, foaming at the mouth one LOL! I bet he's lovn me rt now. Haha..

So I wrote him bk earlier (tht msg from him was @ an hour ago) and said I hope he feels better, hope he's not @ work, bla bla and made a joke tht he better pull himself 2gether by Mon for our studio session. Then just now he replied
" :). Not at work. I should be better by then..Thank you.:). Ill talk to you soon. Get back safe." So yes, smiling now, but tryn to keep it all in perspective. This whole thing has shown me that I'm just as petrified of getting attached as he is. And yes, I did notice the XOXO's in the last 2 msgs..he never does that!.Tho I did overlook wht they meant in the big scheme of things..

How long do u plan to torture your man? LOL..poor guy is prob stressin like I was earlier..but I trust u kno wht ur doing..u seem to have a handle on these damn Aquas. LOL Thx again..
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Really not sure for how long, I would like to talk to him but at the same time it wont kill me to not for a while. Am I a bitch for acting this way? Dont try to read into things with these guys, espeically yours, is nature is to not make sense it seems and I can also be the same way or use to be a good deal of the time. here's the thing too, I could back off and spend time with him tonite and what will happen is this weekend when he could be spending time with me he will be out doing nothing, going to the same places he always does and wasting gas..so why cater to him? Let him have incentive to WANT to be with me. he is very sweet indeed but I always have this feeling or it is just me taking things wrong which I can do a lot of times that it is all about him. Like the other night he texts me on phone when I went to bed early, he wrote " I am not feeling good and am missing you right now, I wish you were here to cheer me up" I took it as Translation :hmmm, what you could do for ME. How did it look to you?
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Yea he sounds like a bit of a brat. Maybe a little spoiled? But most ppl who are a little selfish don't realize it. Mine is ALL about himself. And can u tell how he is fighting me? I've never dated a selfish guy before; this is hard. But just because he said that to u doesn't mean he didn't still mean what he said about wanting u to come over and be w/ him when he was sick.

No ur not being a bitch; u see what I did..I ignored my guy too in the hopes he would appreciate me more. But in the end it backfored on me. It will work for u cuz ur guy is not as stubborn as mine and WILL call.

So after my last post to u I replied to him that I would get bk safe and I said 'miss me.' And he wrote bk "yes". I think he thought I was askn him if he missed me. I was being sarcastic telling him to miss me while I'm gone. LOL! I didn't wanto leave him hanging so I wrote bk, "Ditto". See I can be cute. Lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh that clever son of a bitch of mine tried, I said TRIED to get me back. He sends me a text at 7:15 pm saying " I am still at work,might not be able to be online today aswell, i hope you will fee better soon babe,get some rest, and if i dont see you,sweet dreams and good night *hugs*" Remember when I wrote hours ago that he was going to have a long break from me and I thought space would be best? I got that response hours later. I said "why at work? are you there to try to avoid me? Space is fine but dont avoid me..if your wanting to then it isnt good and means somethigns wrong..bye for now" I wrote back " Not at all, you are taking everything personal just like me, ok I am packing my stuff up"

damn him! damn damn damn damn damn...How the fuck am I supposed to be mad now?
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo with Aqua

I mean HE wrote back saying

Not at all, you are taking everything personal just like me, ok I am packing my stuff up"

Its now 8:25 lets see what he says
need help please. i am devestated
by: Anonymous

met online and started seeing an aqua. big mistake. if ell in love with him the moment i laid eyes on him. we dated for a few times but i could not understand why he was so darn slow. got frustrated and told him i did not think it would work. i hated that i was falling in love and he did not seem to care. in true aqua style he said bye and good luck. we got back togethor and broke up two other times (very quickly). then he messed around with some other girl and told me @ it. he also said I was not the one and he was hurt that he had to hurt me. huh? i am BAWLING inside and he was hurt???? i was devastated. the next day he actedd like everything was fine and we talked by text for a few hours. i waited a few weeks but decided that i was too hurt and that he would only hurt me more. again i broke it off (4th time). he acted as though it was no big deal.

we started texting each other again a few weeks ago and met up recently. i thought it was greate and i had a nice time. he also seemed to have a good time and even asked me to hang out with him for a time longer than expected that day. a few days later i text him and told him that i had a good time, that he made me feel speacial and being with him made me happy (i never really told him my feelings before ((afraid to get hurt)). guess what? no response. nada. zip. nothing. it has been a week since that text

question: what is your take on this.
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha see your plan backfired lol! He's all calm and shit. Now you are going to be the one waiting for him to sign on. See how the tables turn? LOL
need help please. i am devestated
by: Virgo with Aqua

My take is that there were too many break ups from what you said for him to feel that something to come of this as far as a relationship goes. Dont act so fast about it next time, you gain no trust that way. They are slow and if they want a relationship they act this way to see if your worthy of them. Maybe he's thinking now that you were not. If you hear nothing, gotta let it go and move on. They wont invest time into ppl they dont think can handle or understand them.
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

He signed in and sent me message right away...we only chatted 45 mins..both were tired. Nothing serious, light hearted talking..nothing much to report but he wasnt happy that I said I wouldnt see him all week, he told me if felt like I was avoiding him.
need help; devastated
by: Anonymous

unfortunately, that may be true. I hate to think I spoiled what could have been a good 'ship cuz of immatturiety and insecurity. both our loss. lesson learned but price too high.

To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

See I told you you guys would be talking tonite! You two are like an old married couple! LOL! Its so cute..I wonder if my guy thinks I'm crazy for asking if he missed me - which I didn't..he just took it that way. And I didn't want to correct him. But at least I got him to say he missed me haha..headed to the airport..thanks for the well wishes btw. Its been a helluva day - for both of us. This shit is like a soap opera. Lol
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Hope your having a great trip so far and that things are going well for you. Not too much really to update on, just not getting along very well or maybe it is just me and the interest isnt what it use to be, Im starting to not care if I get to first base with this man or not. Maybe is my hormones or something. Im not feeling close to him and wondering if just giving up would be best for me or what...Im starting to get mentally exhausted in trying and feeling that I over do. My best word in how I am feeling atm is hopeless. Did yours text or call you at all?
To virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Hi there..I would guess its just hormones or a bad day because you guys have a pretty strong bond all in all; he's prob just frustrating you at the moment. Remember what I was saying about being lonely and can't really be w/ the one u want to be with. It sux..sadly u will proably feel like this a few more times until you two are officially together as a real couple.

Just take a breather and I'm sure you'll bounce bk w/ him

No haven't heard from mine today..but remember, he told me he missed me so now I'm sure he needs to hide a little after that.LOL..he knows I will be back on Sunday so I bet he waits til then. But I had the best dream about him last nite so that was nice. I'm getting a little nervous @ the talk on Monday but will be sure to get all of my points out. I look forward to hearing what he has to say.
to: Dreamer
by: virgo w/ An Aquarius

oh tonite ended up beign amazing...one of the most fun nights yet. There was much conversation..just a lot of fun. As I have said before, he lives with a couple other co workers from his job which he doesnt really like..the one girl I dont trust at all and had a bad sense of her from the start..anyway my aqua loves to play pool and was invited to a pool party tonite. I told him to go out and have fun even if the slut that I dont like was the one that organized the whole thing. I kept telling him that he should go out, I thought he would. We were on messenger and he was quiet..pissen me off and he was showing me these you tube videos he watches that relaxes him. One thing lead to another and he sent me this bath and spa link...omg we were looking at bath bombs and shower fizzers for hours. Imagin a straight MAN that is just like having a girlfriend around? Omg had so much FUN..we couldnt stop looking. I am bath girl and he is a shower kind of man, we looked at everything. Will try to post the 2 links we liked the most..he says hes going to get me bath bombs from LUSH...omg is this guy for real?! hehe.
Thank goodness I found this forum!
by: Another Virgo crazy about an Aqua man

I thought I was going absolutely crazy until I read this forum! I can't believe women are actually going through the same thing I am with an Aquarius man. This man is so unbelievable when we are together it scares me. The rest of the time I am silently cursing him for being a selfish jerk and cursing myself for being an idiot for liking him!

He called me up after a week of not talking to me and asked if I wanted to go to lunch. I said sure and we had a nice lunch. (I was furious with him when he called and asked) He walked me out to the car and hugged and kissed me. (yep I wanted to do the break up thing then and there but darn it he has to be a fabulous kisser)

I made it home and was going to take a nap. I sent out the "I cant see you anymore, I don't hear from you for a week, I don't want to be the other woman in your life" text. He called seconds after me sending that text. I didnt answer I just wanted a nap darn it! He sent a text right after that saying to call him. (I did after my nap!) He said "so that is why you were different at lunch". He went on to say that no there wasn't another woman that he was holding back with feelings and that I wasnt forthcoming with mine. We agreed we didn't want a 24/7 relationship.

I had an episode where I sent him a text saying his communication sucked.. he tried for about 2 months. He dropped out of the picture for a month and a half. I believed he met someone else and decided not to dwell on it and cherish the memories. I deserved these good memories.

He messaged me a month and a half later. Said he was sorry he was really busy. In my opinion that wasn't good enough. It still isn't good enough.

Reading these stories......... what a blessing! I still don't understand this guy. I don't think I want to. I enjoy him. I am not sure what the future holds for us. There is definately some sort of WOW to us. For now he gets the teasing and I can't tonight I have plans texts!

Thanks again for the stories! It is so nice to know that I am not alone in this crazy Aquarian world!
Another Virgo crazy about an Aqua man
by: Virgo with Aquarius

It can be a tug of war but I feel so fortuniate with mine when he contacts me everyday and I give him his space but never has he not been in touch with me without me knowning the reason. Yours was "out of touch" for that long and then said he was really busy? Oh no GF, pls dont have on blinders, that was a clear red flag that something is or was up. I think you sense it to and that is why his "im sorry" wasnt good enough. I have to say that if you really want a relationship down the road with him dont take his crap now and if your having sex to back off of that..that is if you want something more srious later on. If sex is all hes after and you give in then your letting yourself get used to be hurt later. If you back off and he isnt around is a clear message you were getting used for that. If yours just looking for "Mr right now" and dont care if your together a year from now then take a chance and do whatever.

Good luck.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Thanks for the links..you know I have never heard of bath bombs? And I love baths! So hard to get them in w/ kids you know..I picture me and my Aqua in the bath together, like the scene from 'Pretty Woman' lol. I'm going to orfer some of those massage bars from Lush too - so thank u! I also prefer to buy products not tested on animals, and ones that are organic..I'm pretty much a health nut. We are on an organic diet, no red meat, low gluten...anyway...

Headed back tomorrow. On a break right now. So I have my strategy ready for Mondays talk. I will avoid making anything sound like an ultimatum (he'd hate that). I will simply tell him how I feel about things and what I would loke to see happen. That worked for me last time. Hope you're feeling better today. Catch up w/ ya later. Oh ur Aqua is such a sweetie. You guys gotta make this happen :-)
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

Yeah is a sweetie but can he be more then that? If you know what I mean. Yup gotta thank him about the bath boms, he showed me the LUSH site and I then went and found the ME one, love them both. It has given me something fun to do for hours, looking for the best of these things.
Ok about the talk with your aqua, you need to not just tell him how your feeling, I would give more of examples of things that happened so he has something to relate to, he's going to really need that, give the example and then say how you felt about it. Um not sure your going to like what I have to say about the ultimatum part. You really need to lay it on the line. To be honest with you I would be a bit disappointed in you if you didnt. If you want my reason why you can go back about 20 posts and see how much he has upset you in the last few visits. Need I have a better point?! No you better not be too laid back about this shit or he is going to keep doing what he's doing and it will be YOUR fault, not his. Even the sweetest of this sign (like mine) will try to get away with what they can untill you put them in their place AND keep them there. It's not the same as control but you see how I handle mine and it has worked out not too bad so far.
Atm he is out for the day..I dont text him untill I hear something from him first and then what I do is text him back saying that he hasnt heard from me because I was either busy or didnt want to interrupt him and was giving him space..then for some reason he becomes text master. Btw, he went food shopping but was going to spend a good part of the day window shopping looking for bath things..hehe. Who couldnt love him? Now if he would just agree to "give it up" a bit, it would be perfect. LOL
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

LOL @ him becoming "text master". Haha..

Now, by no means did I mean I was not gonna have THE TALK with him. Oh all things will be put on the table. I will tell him @ his wishy washy ways and give him the example. What I was trying to say is I have to choose my words carefully w/ him so it doesn't come off as an ultimatum. He HATES to be told what to do. And I don't want to sound cliche by asking 'where is this going' or 'how do u feel @ me'. I have had success with him when I tell him how I'm feeling and what I would like to see happen. I think it will go over much better that way.

SO with that in mind I plan to start by letting him know how I felt @ how he acted last week. That I'm getting a little tired of his wishy washy ways and that its time to piss or get off the pot (love that one lol). I will express him that I have enjoyed getting to know him and would like to that to continue. However if we continue to see each other exclusively the more it starts to feel like a relationship and if that is not something he wants then we need to stop seeing each other TODAY. That enough time has passed for each of us to have an idea of how we feel about each other. Hopefully at that point he will say what I want to hear and if so I will get deeper, telling him that I get he is not someone who wears his heart on his sleeve but I don't like guessing, that I will not be put on ice whenever he feels like it and in the future if he wants space (which I can appreciate) simply tell me 'I'll call u in a few days' or something. And I wanna let him know (if the convo gets tht far) that I'm just as apprehensive @ getting attached to him as he is to me. And hopefully we will reach a mutual understanding that we are together with no pressure, but that he has got to be consistent in order to keep me.

What do u think??
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

what i think? Ok, first of all you know how these men are..you talk they listen so dont expect for him to but in with what he has to say and I think your expecting that which means you dont know him well enough. Start off with this..tell him you have things you want and need to get off your mind and you will say what you need to and afterwards he can respond and you will listen to him. That might work much better then you expecting him to act in a way that you know he isnt going to right? That is how mine is...he listens and I dont hear anything from him untill he thinks that I am done. I think it is good that you tell him that you expect some things from him such as not letting you hang and to call in a few days means CALL IN A FEW DAYS, because he wouldnt like it for you to leave him hanging all the time. I would say "if I am important enough to you then you will make more of an effort to not leave me hanging so much". Let him know somehow you dont intend to have this conversation 2 months down the road when he starts slipping again, is either now or not at all.

Happy New Year (maybe I wont include you in mine)
Remember this hehe.
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Haha..ur funny. Well, he is actually pretty good at having dialogue once he gets going. So I think he just might engage with me. But really I am EXPECTING that I will say my peace and then he will speak like you said, or he may even want to think @ it for a day or so. I'm fine w/ that too. I have an appointment later that evening which is good so I won't be stayn there w/ him. I may even make a sarcastic comment @ not staying over cuz I need my beaiuty sleep and he may kick me ouin the morning. Haha..really, I'm looking fwd to the convo now. One thing iDONT do is shy away from things that are important so it will happen, don't u worry ;-)

I had a horrifying thought: what if I go to post one day and this site is down or gone forever? LOL So I'm giving you one of my email addys. This is a public forum so every1 will seeit which is y I'm leaving one of my alternates which always gets forwarded to my main one: rambler90@gmail - anywhoo gotta run..imwriting a song for some new pop group (they keep stopping and giggling and shit).Its cute but this is why I'm getting so many opprtunities to write u.. LOL..
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

While he doesnt express his emotions freely, whenever I ask him a direct question or engage him in a serous conversation he ALWAYS responds and reciprocates. Its one of the things I like about him. If he didnt we wouldnt have made it this far. igh
to: Dreamer
by: Virgo w/ An Aquarius

ok made it short and sweet for a test so check that e-mail and let me know :)
He's still MIA
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

So I'm more confused than ever now. Things were going so well and he became very caring and loving towards me. The last time we were together was the best ever and he was more affectionate than he had ever been before. I'm sure you all remember my story from my previous posts. I've known him for two years and even though things started off rough, they were getting better and he's been acting like he was really starting to fall for me.

Then the last time I saw him back in October was the last time. That was when he was so affectionate and loving. Then I did not hear from him. The only contact we've had was because I contacted him first. The first time was back in November asking if we could get together the following weekend, but he said he couldn't because he was going out of town. A month went by and he never contacted me. So I sent him a text that went something like this..."Hey, is everything okay? I haven't heard from you in awhile and was just wondering how you were doing? Miss you." He has told me he had missed me before so I figured it wouldn't bother him if I threw that in there. Anyway, he text me back saying "Yeah, I'm just working a lot." That was it...no I miss you too or nothing. Just so very cold. Nothing like the same person I encountered the last time we saw each other. That was a month ago when I text him that and still no contact from him since. Why has he gotten so cold and gone silent on me? Not only that, but why for so long? He usually only goes away for a couple weeks or so. It's been months now.

Does he just totally not care about the two years we have shared together...about that wonderful night the last time I saw him when I brought him that gift which he loved....the night he held me so tight in his arms? Does he not care about all the long conversations we've had....all the times he has helped me out and was there for me and me the same for him...the time I was there for him when his best friend passed away and he called me to talk? Has he suddenly forgotten about all of this? Or does he just not care anymore? Could he have been faking his feelings for me? Why would he do that? Or has he just met someone else who he's fallen for? I just wish he would tell me the truth. If he has found someone else then I can accept that. What I can't accept is him lying about it if that's what he's doing. I mean is he really too busy with work to get in touch with me every so often? I mean seriously. Is anyone really THAT busy?

To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Seems like this is finally something that you must speak to him directly about. From what you have described he has definitely checked out on you. Why, I dont know. But time to call him up and ask him point blank. Good luck and let us know how it turns out.
He's still MIA
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

(CONT.)

I'm just so very hurt right now because obviously I mean nothing to him....perhaps I never did. But I miss him and I'm left with all this confusion. I have given him space....more than enough space for months now. Still he wont communicate with me. How much space does he need? It's not lie we had an argument or things ended badly. I did not get too clingy or emotional. Just the opposite happened. We had a wonderful time where he was the one who got really affectionate and loving. NOw he's gone MIA. I don't even understand what happened? :(
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Virgo wl Aqua

The huge red flag for me when I read your post was the amount of time gone with no contact and the lame excuse. Idk but maybe because I never had to deal with this with mine as far as having to wait so long to hear from him. In my eyes a week of space and not hearing anything would make me wonder, but THAT long? No something is going on and very possible he wants out and doesnt know how to tell you but you should really contact him and find out to get closure. Did he tell you he needed space at all before all this? If not I would tend to wonder and if it were me and and that amount of time went by I would think that I was let go. I find it funny but not in a haha sort of way that when you texted him that he didnt wait a long time to text you back right? Now he was quick with a respons so he wasnt really THAT busy now was he? Get where I am getting at? To me the logic in this is that he was the one that clearly gave up on the relationship and it might be your turn to do the same as well. But before assuming that call him and tell him how you feel and dont accept lame ass excuses about beign that busy, you can use the example that it didnt take him that long to get back to you in text. Even if things are over with and done it is your right to have this cleared up for you.
Best of luck and hang in there.
To Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

Yes, he responded within minutes! I just don't understand him at all. Why get all lovey and then all of a sudden back out? And why not have the decency to at least tell me? Also, no he did not tell me he needed space. He never does....he just goes silent and then he'll pop back up again later as if nothing had happened. The only difference this time is he hasn't popped back up again and at this point I'm doubting he will.

I feel so silly because we never really were in an established relationship. It started off very casual in the beginning and then he got more and more affectionate and loving. I asked him a few times what he wanted and if he still saw things/wanted casual between us? He told me he was thinking of more because he cared deeply about me. LOL yeah, this is what you do to someone you care deeply about! I've had guys go MIA on me before, but never after being with them for this long. It just sucks. I do want to contact him to find out what the hell is going on, but really what do I have to stand on? Does he really owe me anything since we never really had a relationship? For all I know, I could just be some girl who he's finished having his fun with. I feel so damn used! I gave my heart away too quickly and let my guard down and now I'm crushed. God I hope I learn from this. He'll never know how much I loved and cared for him. I would have done anything for him. This is gonna suck getting over. :(

Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it!
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Virgo wl Aqua

what do you have to stand on? How about 2 years?! Just call the bastard up and try to get some things clear, if he doesnt respond then as hard as it is you need an asshole like that in your life, you deserve better and learn and move on at some point in time. You shared maybe off and on 2 years with him so clearly that is enough to stand on in my book. Keep us posted and let me ask you something. Would you really want to get back together with him after him treating you this way, only to wonder in the back of your mind when it could happen again?
what to do??
by: lover girl

i am a Pisces girl and i have a child with an Aquarius male. Right now he don't want to be with me.. I'm depressed, what can I do to get him back???
lover girl
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

ok not for nothing but your post is so limited with information that the advice I can give you is limited as well...wanna type more maybe if you want to know what we think of the situation?
To Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

No, I don't want to take him back if he is just going to do the same thing over and over again....which most likely he will.

I just don't understand how he can so easily turn off his feelings like that? Do you think maybe he never had feelings for me? Why stay with me for two years if that were the case? I just have so many unanswered questions. This was all so sudden without any warning at all. I mean literally we went from having an amazing time where he invited me over to his place, had candles lit, gave me a back massage, very affectionate to suddenly going MIA. He has NEVER been this romantic and then to disappear out of nowhere?

Ugh...this sucks :(
Scorpio luvn Aqua
by: Virgo wl Aqua

You wont ever be able to get your answers from here, the best thing to do to find out is to call him and ask, he holds yours answers and best to do this to maybe find out. Other wise you will never know.
WHATS GOIN ON!!
by: Virgo wanting aquarius

first let me start of. im a virgo sept.11. He's an aquarius feb.4th. we wen to the same highschool never spoke, always eye contact. im 24 he's 26. it started he messaged me on facebook i always blew him off. till i finally agreed that we could meet. so we've met. he texts me all day to see "wht im doin", "how may do goin", or jus to conversate and say "hi". so he's been over my place for the last week faithfully. at first he didnt say anything, but it seems that he opening up a little more to me. we have had sexual intercourse twice,2 night straight out of the week he's bee here but i didnt really feel a connection in tht part. me being a virgo. i like my space as well as him. im quiet and like to analyze a potential partner well ppl period in my case. at first he didnt compliment me. now he tells me "im pretty, i dont need to wear make-up", he does things that surprise me in a good way. like one time he texted me all day sayin he was coming, then when he finally came he ran into the room i ws in to hug me and say "i told u i was coming, i meant it". well long story short. he came over last night, jus to chill with me, but i though he jus wanted sex? its a good thing though cus thts wht i thought he wanted. so he left this afternoon..i texted him to see if he enjoyed himself he replied in a sarcastic way. he hasnt texted or called all day like he usually does..so my question is "should i continue on with this aquarius man, or is that just him takin his spot for space."? me being a virgo i need my space too so i knw im not goin to bother him till he bothers me:) s/n he always brings his son around to play with my son? is this a good thing that this is happening? How can i know if he's really feeling me like im feeling him? PLEASE HELP!!!
Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Girl, these men are a trip. You will know if you have patience, wait it out, DONT CALL OR TEXT HIM. And then after about a week TOPS if he calls then you know he just wanted some space. I have dealt w/ this w/ my man for months now. Im finally at the end of my rope. Currently we are having a dry spell, with him barely calling and I am not calling him either. Hes got about another day or two and Im cutting him off after 7 months of this back and forth. The best medicine is when they run off, let them and try not to pull your hair out in the meantime. But if they love you, or even care a lot, they will always show up. The question is, if you can handle all the stop and starting. Thats the most important part for women w/ these men.
So frustrated!!!
by: Another Virgo w/ Aqua Man

This man is soo frustrating! I haven't been texting him. He sends me messages asking if I am still kicking etc. I answer and we have a short conversation.

Two days ago he texted. We were texting back and forth and I made a comment saying he needed to experiment more with whomever he is with. He said he wasn't with anyone and asked why I said that. I said his availablity. He said he thought I was with someone else. He asked if we could meet up when he got back into town. (He was on his way to his corporate office)

I caved and said sure, he messaged me when he was done said it was going to be late when he got back into town and asked what I was doing this weekend. I told him I was disappointed, he said he was too and that he would stop at home and check on his daughter then leave and meet up. I asked if he was sure he could leave, he said yes. Well............. he never messaged me saying he couldn't leave. Two days later still not a word from him!

I am so frustrated, it is taking all my willpower not to start sending nasty texts or emails. I can't believe I was so stupid!

Another Virgo w/ Aqua Man
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

You really need to know how to deal with these guys and sending things that are nasty will simply get you nowhere with these men. either call him and tell him you demand more respect then what your getting from him or tell him good bye and move on is my advice. You were not stupid but with what you said about the next messages sounds like a bit of headgames beign played. If you sit there and stu and get mad about it untill you blow up and start getting nasty with him it wont have much impact. Know how to express to him that you are not going to take his shit and tell him you want respect because that is what he would like from you. If you cant handle him then time to get out. It takes very strong women to keep these men.
Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Another Virgo w/ Aqua Man

I am not going to send anything nasty to him. It isn't who I am. The thoughts are there! =)

In regards to the head games being played, I am not sure what you mean. There were a lot of texts between us before I agreed to meet with him. I didn't want to get into all the details. When he said he would be getting in late I said ok. Then I told him to drive safe and have a good night. I ended up saying about 15 mins later that I was disappointed we couldn't meet up. (because I was and felt he should know that!) He said he was as well and asked me if meeting him late around midnight was a problem for me. Then he texted about going home to check on his daughter first etc.

I am a strong woman other than not knowing where I stand with this man. I don't want to be to forceful or pushy because he has stated numerous times that his ex wife was very possessive and demanding. I am not possessive or demanding.. I am not sure if he is afraid to message me because he doesn't know what my reaction was/will be or if he is so callous he doesn't care about my feelings at all.

I am frustrated and venting here. =)
another virgo w/ aqua
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

" We were texting back and forth and I made a comment saying he needed to experiment more with whomever he is with." This is what I was referring to at the time when saying headgame at the time. I think now he might not want to get in contact with you because he is too much of a wussy to hear what you have to say for fear your pissed off. He probably knows he is in the wrong for not contacting you and even with mine at times they can be total cowards sometimes when not wanting to be put in their place and best way to avoid that is to not contact you after they messed up. I feel what your saying..totally!
To ANOTHER Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

As someone who is also a very strong (yet sensitive) woman involved w/ an Aqua it can be tough. I agree w/ what Virgo said; tell him how you feel about him not even having the courtesy to tell you he could not meet up w/ you. Do it very matter factly and leave out most of the emotion. I had to learn this myself; but if you get right to the point and state how you feel and tell him what you would like to see happen, it works. (For instance, say, IN THE FUTURE, IF SOMETHING COMES UP PLEASE BE COURTEOUS ENOUGH TO LET ME KNOW; I DONT LIKE TO BE LEFT HANGING). You say whats on your mind, he mulls it over, then the next time he calls you you will see a man who respects your time and knows he has to step it up if he wants you. Again, that only works if they even give a shit to start with. Now if he still keeps flaking then, well he will have to go. I had a similar problem w/ mine; saying he would call then not calling. When I finally brought it up, he was surprised and didnt even realize that he was being such a dick. And he stepped up his game. Then he started it up again, and I had to remind him again..and now he is dying to see me so we can TALK - because he knew that I was two seconds from walking. He continues to surprise me. I love that. Gnite and good luck!
So confused
by: Anonymous

Hi, I am a scorpio female newly dating an aquarius man. We met 4 months ago, but mainly only talked on the phone and texted. Had a few dates but I simply wasn't in the right mental state to be actively dating anyone at the time. As timed progressed though, he became impatient with me and I was, in a sense, given an ultimatum. I chose to move forward with him and let me tell you, he certainly knocked me off my feet. We have a lot in common, whether it be music related, our ideal love, the need for spontaneity and so on. Its there. The only problem really was that he kept reminding me every other day (okay at least once a week) that he can not be in a relationship. At first I was okay with this bc I myself wasnt sure how I felt about being in a committed relationship. We spent endless hours on the phone, with never a moment of silence. He was funny and romantic, thoughtful and he actually paid attention to the things I said. It was like for the first time I realized how a woman should be treated and for the first time I wasnt feeling that sense of resentment and jealousy that I normally feel in a relationship. I fully trusted him and that was a first. When he would tell me that he couldnt be in a relationship, I wasnt pushy.. But then it just got to be too much. He was telling me this way too often for it to be normal and I just couldn't take it anymore so I told him that I couldn't. At first I was angry, but after a few days I calmed down and we casually spoke since, but now I dont know how to move forward. A part of me doesn't want this to end. I care about him deeply, but the other part of me is not sure I can handle the aloofness he has towards a relationship. Furthermore, Im not sure if I should reach out to him or wait for him to reach out to me. Any advice really will be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys!
To Virgo w/ An Aquarius
by: Dreamer

Wait for him to reach out to you. I dont know what it is w/ these men and fear of relationships. Its like they are afraid their freedom and space will be yanked away the moment they give in and admit they are in a relationship. Now if he said, let s just take it slow and see where it goes, that would be one thing. But constantly reminding you that it isnt a relationship is a bit of a red flag. Are you two sleeping together? If so stop that and give him space. Let him see what life w/o you is like. While youre not demanding a commitment (are you?), he cant have his cake and eat it too. You gotta draw the line somewhere and if he cant handle that, hes not the one for you.
help for scorpio
by: virgo wl aqua man

let me start off with this..........

Hi, I am a scorpio female newly dating an aquarius man. We met 4 months ago, but mainly only talked on the phone and texted. Had a few dates but I simply wasn't in the right mental state to be actively dating anyone at the time. As timed progressed though, he became impatient with me and I was, in a sense, given an ultimatum.

These are your own words and read them again. He gave YOU ultimatum? I say to ask him why you would be given an ultimatum to date if a relationship wasnt what he was either ready for or wanted. Huge red flag! Get your answer and move on from there. Best of luck.
to So Confused (Scorpio)
by: Dreamer

sorry this message was for your scorpio!

Wait for him to reach out to you. I dont know what it is w/ these men and fear of relationships. Its like they are afraid their freedom and space will be yanked away the moment they give in and admit they are in a relationship. Now if he said, let s just take it slow and see where it goes, that would be one thing. But constantly reminding you that it isnt a relationship is a bit of a red flag. Are you two sleeping together? If so stop that and give him space. Let him see what life w/o you is like. While youre not demanding a commitment (are you?), he cant have his cake and eat it too. You gotta draw the line somewhere and if he cant handle that, hes not the one for you.
So confused
by: Anonymous

Im not pushing him to be in a relationship with me, but the more he reminded me that he "just can't be in a relationship" the more I began to question is actions over his words. See, yes we are sleeping together but that only began in the last month or so. Before we even slept together, he was making grand gestures that were out of this world coming from someone you are not in a relationship with. Furthermore, as time passed he suggested other things like cooking together, or leaving things at his place et cetera. yet again, 2-3 days later he would remind me that he can't be in a committed relationship. At the end finally asked him if there was someone else, which he clearly denied and I believe him. I just don't know how someone can be so hot and so cold. Its crazy to me. The connection is there, so why fight it?
Response to Virgo
by: Anonymous

I wouldn't say he gave me an ultimatum... Okay I did say that, but really I was blowing him off left and right for.... some 2-3 months and finally after blowing him off again he just said that he couldn't do this anymore. Which, I fully understand.
To So Confused
by: Dreamer

Well I know what you mean because I had similar problems with mine. He never said he didnt want a relationship, but he is all about not defining anything and taking it slow. And its not a BS line; hes serious! Im all for that, but he is one who never really expresses his feelings and doesnt talk on the phone much so Im always wondering whats up w/ him. We were sleeping together too and finally yesterday I told him he cant have his cake and eat it too. If this is not a relationship then we shouldnt be doing relationship things. As women, we get attached especially when the sex comes into play. Its a biological FACT (called oxytocin bonding btw). And I realized it was making me crazy. Surprisingly he agreed to stop the sex and just spen the time to get to know each other more. Mind you, its been 7 months already. They are really, really slow. I suggest if you guys continue to see each other after this that you stop sleeping w/ him. They are afraid of commitment. But I hear once they commit, they rarely stray and its a solid relationship. hopefully I can hang in there that long. Its not easy - and I consider myself a strong woman. They make you wanna pull your hair out! But when its good, its amazing isnt it? :-)
To dreamer
by: Anonymous

Thanks for the laugh! YES, when it's good it is AMAZING! I think I read somewhere that you are a virgo, no? What is your sign? I admire you for taking sex out of the equation, I dont think I could EVER do that. Especially now. For me I feel like its impossible to "back peddle" in a relationship and second, I just really really enjoy sex, sorry, TMI? But if that is something you think you can do, then go for it. Plus, from what I have read so far, sex is not the biggest factor for them so it may work after all. For me though, after 7 months, I would walk. you have hung in there a lot longer than I would.
You said he's just not committing... Have you talked about whether you two are monogamous at least? With my guy, one night he said it would be fine if either of us met someone else. Then the next day he said he regretted saying that bc he would be hurt if I met someone else, but then said that he has no right to ask that of me bc he cant be in a relationship. AHHHHHHH makes me want to scream lol
So Confused
by: Dreamer

Im a Pisces. My buddy on here is a Virgo. Boy do we have stories to tell! Its been 7 months but we have only seen each other once a week, sometimes two weeks go by. We are both busy. So not actively dating. Feels more like 3 months really. He hasnt said he doesnt want to commit; hes just really laid back and slow. And he has said he is not sleeping w/ anyone else or seeing anybody. Oddly, I believe him. He works 12 hour days and I see him on his days off so..I think he has a hard time trusting ppl; well he told me so. So hes moving at a snails pace. I was afraid he would not like the removing of the sex part. But he seemed okay w/ it. Hes not the type to lie and say he was if he was not. I tried to break up w/ him back in October because I was worried it was a casual relationship (I dont do casual) and it was HE who suggested that we remove the sex to make it work. But it was sooo hard we couldnt stick to it. LOL (yea the sex is amazing). But its necessary for us right now. I need to be able to see the situation for what it is and not having that sexual attachment will help. And i get to see just how interested in me he is. As for you, did he start saying no relationship AFTER the sex or before?? He pressures you for an ultimatum then you give him what he wants and he backpedals. Not good. He is getting all the benefits of a relationship but doesnt want to take on the responsibility of being in one.
Dreamer
by: Anonymous

So I would like to say some things but im not real comfortable putting it online like this.. is there a way we can instant message, without putting our info out there?

p.s did you know that we "scorpio and pisces" are considered sister signs?
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ Aqua man

Ok Scorp girl, I am the virgo and am very straight forward and might seem like the mean one on here because I am so blunt.I see a few red flags in yours posts and do beleive that you could be bringing a lot of this on all yourself. One word comes to mind...SEX. I beleive that he is using you for sex and your freely letting him. Dreamer suggested to leave the sex out and you couldnt so are you afraid that if you did this that you would lose him? I think he is playing you. Any man that says they cant be in a relationship like yours is saying but is still getting what he wants ISNT going to committ!. His view would be on why should he. Im not saying that your asking for committment but feel that there are a lot of red flags over what you told us so far.
To Virgo and dreamer
by: Scorpio, so confused

It honestly has not been about the sex. Im not in my 20's and blinded by what I "think" will keep a man around. Im way past that. We only started sleeping together recently and have agreed at this point to just be "friends" which obviously means no sex. What is so confusing to me is that his actions tell me he wants to be with me. He wants me around, all the time (with or without sex), he invites me to hang out/meet with his friends and vice versa, he's asked me to go on trips with him, and suggested I keep certain things at his place, and is always affectionate with me. His words on the other hand are a whole other story. It's like as soon as i start to show emotion, he pulls away verbally. Before we ended things he had met a friend of mine he had never met before and the next day all my friend kept saying was "wow, he is such a great guy and you can totally tell he's into you and only you, he wasn't even checking out other girls", this too threw me for a loop. Idk ladies, i really really don't. I like to think im fairly experienced, but this guy, hes def thrown me for a loop.
To So Confused
by: Dreamer

Aw, my keyboard is going on my computer and my ENTER button doesnt work (hence the very long run on paragraphs) LOL..so I cant chat unfortunately! But feel free to post here..its all good. :-)
Me n my Buddy
by: Britt <3

alrite my aquarius guy isn't my bf and he has a gf but we were friends long before they got together...He's mad at me because my dad took away my phone and made me delete him off my facebook...BUT aquarius guy is mad because i didn't tell him what my dad did...I've been getting the silent treatment for a couple of days in i really miss him. He's a dramatic person-yes-but please tell me how to fix this...i need your help!! He says i didn't care enought to let him know but it isnt true-i just couldn't get in contact with him and i've explained to him all what my dad has done but still-silent treatment...
Please help me get my friend back?? Any ideas??
Britt
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

yeah sounds like he needs to grow up.
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

Ok I have to say that you might need to forget what he is TELLING you and go with what he is DOING. Not checking out other girls and me is meeting your friends and showing his friends you, that is fricken serious Aqua stuff there. Serious for any man to do really.In a way sounds like what you too had was a serious good thing but your hung up on him telling you that he wasnt ready for a relationship yet, I see it now as more of a test then anything because ALL his actions are there. Put the bastard in his place and come right out and say something like " you know is funny you tell me all the time that you dont want a relationship when all your actions gear towards acting just like we are in one." I bet the bastard even smirks at you and laughs because he wanted to see how much of his shit you would really take.
To Virgo
by: Confused Scorpio

I have told him those things, and I am definitely hung up on his words. I've been burned so badly in the past and I know I shouldn't bring that in to the present, but its really hard not to. I don't mean that I discuss my past with him. I've told him some, but not too much, if you know what I mean. We haven't spoken now for two days :( Im not sure I should reach out to him or not. I sent him a small gift for his birthday, and we exchanged a few lighthearted texts, but I haven't heard from him since. Everyone says that I should wait to hear from him. Im not sure he'll reach out though. He's so damn stubborn!
So Confused
by: Dreamer

OMG your story sound almost identical to mine. You say Scorpio is a sister sign to Pisces..well I don't kno if u are as sensitive as I am but I'm about finished with this bullshit. I get everything they say @ Aquas being aloof, slow, hiding their feelings, testing you..but truth is I don't think I can handle it. On a CHANCE he might decide I'm worthy? And if he decides I'm not then what..I've wasted months waiting and trying NOT to invest my heart when it IS more and more everyday.

Same thing. Gave him a cute lil card for his bday and hvnt heard from him since (Thurs nite). I'm spsd to assume he's thinking of me? Or call HIM or text and test him? Bullshit. Like you I have been hurt like a motherf*cker and its hard not to be afraid. Especially when it feels like I'm being played with, even if its unintentional. I have no advice for you because I kno what ur going thru and trying to decide what I'm going to do. What I do know is, I don't like how it feels, so maybe thts my answer.

(Typed this all out on my phone so I could make paragraphs lol)
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo wl Aqua

some will say to leave him be,he is texting so it isnt total cut off. He probably would love for you to reach out to him.Mine is that way and once I do we have our talk and move on from there,really what could it hurt? Maybe ask for a little lunch and have it seem lighthearted to him there and see what happens. You need to confront him on that I think. Always go by their actions but you dont need to be reminded he doesnt want a relationship,if I was told that all the time I would not only put him in his place but say "what does that mean your using me then?,how mean is that" They hate to hurt ppl and be told they are mean assholes.
Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Confused Scorpio

I have told him those things, and I am definitely hung up on his words. I've been burned so badly in the past and I know I shouldn't bring that in to the present, but its really hard not to. I don't mean that I discuss my past with him. I've told him some, but not too much, if you know what I mean. We haven't spoken now for two days :( Im not sure I should reach out to him or not. I sent him a small gift for his birthday, and we exchanged a few lighthearted texts, but I haven't heard from him since. Everyone says that I should wait to hear from him. Im not sure he'll reach out though. He's so damn stubborn!
Dreamer and Virgo
by: Confused Scorpio

Dreamer, ironically enough my guys birthday was thursday as well hahah (hope its not the same guy) Anyway, yes, we are sister signs which means we are VERY similar. My closest girlfriends are pisces and its uncanny how much alike we are. I dont blame you for wanting to walk. I mean 7 months and he goes days without contacting you? Who does that? I don't know you, but I do know you dont deserve that.

Virgo - Im going to reach out, but after hearing dremers story, I have to admit I am VERY hesitant. Im a very emotionally driven person which means I DO NOT think with logic and it sounds to me like they do. But I haven't really heard your story so I would like to know, why are you on here, same reasons as us?
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

I want to once again copy and paste something that you had written in the first post I remember reading from you.

It was like for the first time I realized how a woman should be treated and for the first time I wasnt feeling that sense of resentment and jealousy that I normally feel in a relationship.

That for me was a pretty big statement and I took it as maybe you might bring thigns on yourself just in order to create drama, I dont know you so I dont know. I want to say a few things that will be very blunt and to the point, not going to sugarcoat anything here. First off I think you lucky as shit that within such a short time that your man is really doing so much to keep things together. Seems to me that he is really trying to prove himself to you. He calls often and for hours and texts and wants you at his place and keep things there and meet your friends and regardless of any sign,girl, any man that shows you around to HIS friends thinks a LOT of you. I think you need to take your blinders off and be happy your getting so much out of him in such a short time. Your too hung up on his words to pay attention to his actions. If you are too much dramaqueen and dont have any logic then I am afraid you wont be able to keep him and to be honest with you other then his BS about saying he cant be in relationship ( btw did you ask if he was single?) if answer is no then tell him you dont want to hear it again and continue the relationship. I think you beign hung up on words is more of a problem then all his actions of clearly wanting to be with you, count yourself luck. Btw I came here to see what other ppl were going thru and give advice. My Aqua and I met online almost 2 years ago and are quite fine. Sorry if I sounded mean but I think if you cant see my point and realize what you really have that maybe you should get rid of your baggage before you do anything else.
Virgo
by: Confused Scorpio

Hah, I actually really like your bluntness! I tend to be the same way when giving advice so thank you for your honesty. Believe me, I want to believe you, and I probably should. However, its not like I have met all of his friends. Ive met a few (like 3 maybe) one time. We are still very new, very very new, but yes he has asked me to hang out with him while he is hanging out with his friends. I don't know, like you had said, at first every time he told me this was a bad idea, that he couldn't be with me or that we should end bc he was only going to hurt me, I basically told him to shut up and just enjoy what we have in front of us. I asked him to please stop saying those things bc it put neg thoughts into my head and that I really like him so lets just see what happens. No pressure, and honestly, I dont want to pressure him for a relationship but c'mon, you know as well as i do that when something feels that good and that good feeling gets taken away from you at least once a week, you are going to begin to question the other persons motives. Im only human. As for asking him whether or not their is someone else. Yes, I asked and he says I am the only person he is seeing. He also said he would be hurt if I met someone else but that he couldn't ask me NOT to meet anyone else bc he can't commit to me and that its unfair for him to ask that of me.

On a lighter note, I did text him and we've been chatting since. He said he had wanted to text me but didn't bc he didn't want to "mess with my head" which is something I had said to him when we were breaking it off and then he said that he missed me. It's been small talk since.

To So Confused
by: Dreamer

Hmm..I see pluses and minuses. On the plus side, at least he tells you he misses you and WANTS to spend alot of time w/ you. I dont get the miss you stuff or the texts. Either he doesnt care as much as I thought, or he is trying to ACT like he doesnt (which is also a common Aqua trait). But hell, Im no mind reader. On the negative side, the constant I cant be in a relationship thing, and the I dont wanna hurt you nonsense. A big downer. My guy says that too. Im sensitive and he is afraid he will hurt me. SNOOZE. Also told him to chill and just let it be. But nothing has helped. So I get you. You wanna relax in it, but you cant cuz he wont let you! Right? Again, no advice. Its mental S&M as someone said recently. I think they like it.
Dreamer
by: Confused Scorpio

You are absolutely right... I have a question though. I was reading all the earlier stuff and I know its none of my business but are you married? I'm just wondering, bc if you are that could be the exact reason he is so distant. Maybe hes been hurt before and he's afraid you will do the same (like staying with your ex) I mean they say it takes a lot of time for a aqua to commit, under those kind of circumstances I could see it taking longer and being harder for him to commit. Maybe I read everything wrong and if so, im sorry for blabbing on.
To So Confused
by: Dreamer

No, I am unfortunately. Getting divorced. But he knew that and pursued me HARD. And he has never said that was a reason. And honestly I keep forgetting that that could be an issue because hubby and I are over and have been for over a year. Its now just technical. And hes also Aquarian. And we are divorcing because of a similar issue. his inability to communicate and be open. As a Pisces, a feeling person, I cant do it. Maybe I have no reason to be hopeful w/ another Aqua. Really never bothered w/ astrology until I got w/ the new guy and found out he was one and started reading. Its amazing how like their astrological profile they are. But you are right, that could be a reason. But he hasnt even asked if I am going thru w/ the process or if its final or anything. For now, I will just pull back and whatever happens happens. I bet he calls tomorrow or Tuesday like nothing. I dont even know how to act with him anymore.
Dreamer and Confused
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

this is now drama queen page..lol Ok not much time so write. Scorpio, you need to read about these fuckers a little more...they are like a puzzle with chewed up edges. They are known for hiding their feelings to fear of THEM getting hurt as well and also they are good at acting the oposite. I told you to text him and he said he wanted to but was afraid and missed you...haha classic,mine does the same thing. They are justpoor sensitive babies. Your both overthing too much and reading too much. Been with mine almost 2 years (online and met RL) and only recent did he talk more about committed things but the whole time he ACTED committed. Dont look at numbers either..you met some friends,be happy he wanted to show you off.
Dreamer
by: Confused Scorpio

Ok, Im sorry but I need to know if we are talking about the same guy. Im not sure how to figure this out. I really am beginning to feel uncomfortable with all this stuff out there for everyone to see, not just you two. At any rate, I was reading more last night, and its creepy hearing your story. My aqua has confessed to dating a married woman, that was getting a divorce. He however said it happened a while ago, meaning they were not currently together. We are also in the same city, and like you, whenever I come from one of the outer boroughs he always insists on paying. He walks me to the car or he walks me to the subway.

As for your issue, to me it sounds like he's using you. He rarely contacts you, you rarely have intimate conversations. I would think that your divorce would be something he would want to discuss and to know that it is in fact something that is going to happen. Maybe I am wrong, maybe I am paranoid (I tend to over analyze A LOT) but I just think that if he wanted you, in a serious relationship that he would have given more signs.
So Confused
by: Dreamer

I'm pretty sure its NOT the same guy. LOL His bday was 1/21..and there is much more to the story than what I have posted here believe me. And we HAVE had intimate convos (just haven't posted them here). So to say he's using mis a bit of a leap - is it because you think its the same guy??Haha now that would be interesting. But highly unlikely.

He is nothing like the man u have described.But feel free to give more info @ urs if u want to be sure. But I'm pretty sure.
Dreamer
by: Confused scorp

No, that's not it at all. Just from what little I've gathered from you it sounds to me like he is. You said yourself that he will go days, even sometimes a week w out contacting you. You also said that he typically calls when he's about to have a day off. And trust me, I know their is always more to a story than what is on the surface. I just find it really really strange that after 7 months you are still going back and forth w one another. Forgive me if I'm being too blunt but I just don't want u to be too naive. I'm new to dating an aqua man, you are not, so u prob know better than me. I'm just saying, that's how it appears from an outside perspective. And I do hope that I am wrong, for your sake.
So Confused
by: Dreamer

Not to be rude, but how is it you go from worrying about your situation to being overly concerned with mine? What happened to all the angst @ YOUR Aqua? And if u really thought we were dating the same guy shouldn't u be worried about THAT? Just saying..

Of course I'm pissed this week so most of my posts have a negative twist to them. But there is TONS more to this story which is why I stopped posting here; its pretty private. But whatever..good luck.
Dreamer
by: Confused Scorp

Okay, Im sorry you took that so negatively. I responded the way I did because a: you kept talking about your aqua guy and your problems. b: simply bc helping others is what I do for a living, and c: bc at the end of your last post, you told me if I wanted to give advice, feel free to do so.

As for what happened with me and my guy, I texted him finally and now we are speaking, so I haven't been as upset about it as I was the past few days. So like I said, im sorry you are so offended, but to be perfectly honest (and I know you'll take this personally as well) If you don't want to hear peoples opinions, then don't post it on a website such as this one. I didn't get angry at you when you were blunt in your opinion towards me and how you said my guy was using me, so I guess I thought I had a right to give you my opinion as well (based off the information you had given me). Sorry, I guess I should've known better. I don't need to have a battle over the internet with someone i don't even know, so if you don't have anything nice to say please just don't respond. Otherwise, if you would like to talk, im open to this discussion still. I have no personal qualms with you and am happy to give and receive advice. As long as you are. if not, then I wish you the best of luck.

Oh and as for thinking that maybe it was the same guy... Like I said earlier, I have a tendency to be overly paranoid. I know this about myself so Im choosing to just go with, its not possible.
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

I read the posts you made on here and we are not here for drama. Im not talking for Dreamer but just saying what I have seen on here so far and why she might feel the way she does. If it were me I would have taken offense as well because of how it all sounded. You went from telling a little about your situation on here about your guy and asked for advice. You seemed hung up on one comment he said often and asked what to do. I said myself to text in which you did. Then there really wasnt much word about you two recently. It seemed to go from there to almost bombarding her with questions about her guy more because you thought it could be the same guy. I think it was more on how you went about it on here. It was like you went from asking for advice to paranoid at it's best asking her these questions about her man but the way you went about it made me feel and gave me impression that you were almost trying to make her feel bad and put thoughts into her head by saying could be the same guy. I took it as you almost appearing to rip down her self esteem. Btw I do believe that she said that a good part of the reason she doesnt hear from him all the time or see him often is because he works 12 hour shifts and of course she would go see him on his day off,isnt that what most of us do?
Confused Scorpio
by: Virgo w/ Aqua

CONT........
I read something you wrote and wanted to say something about it. You said: My aqua has confessed to dating a married woman, that was getting a divorce. He however said it happened a while ago, meaning they were not currently together. OK what I wanted to say about this was number one it was awhile ago meaning not the same time you are with him. I dont think you two are dating the same man but lets just say it was so...point would be? When I read this and maybe I took it wrong but it just looked like you were trying to purposely upset Dreamer. Not saying that ppl cant speak their mind on here, not my point but when I seen that I couldnt see the reason for why you would bring it up. If it were awhile ago meaning they are no longer seeing each other and he told you that he is only seeing you then how would it be possible that it could be the same guy. Now things are fine with you and your aqua and that is great..but you cant read what you wrote thru someone else eyes and the way you got all paranoid, your going to scare ppl away.
Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Confused Scorp

I appreciate your input virgo, but I really am not on here to argue or criticize her or anyone else . With you virgo, I continued to talk about my issues with my aqua because we were only talking about me and my aqua, with dreamer, I spoke of hers because in the latter part of our convo's she kept saying things about hers with little input on my situation, so I took it as she was seeking my opinion. As for me trying to tear her down, ABSOLUTELY NOT! I would never, ever try to do that to someone, under any circumstance and maybe it came across that way (for that I truly am sorry) but most of these I send from my phone, while on the go, so I say what immediately comes to mind.
Like I told her, repeatedly mind you, I don't know the whole story so I am basing this off what I do know. And from what I know, she's been having problems with this guy for 7 months now! No woman, you, me, her, or anyone else, deserves to have their heart toyed with for that damn long, NO ONE! Furthermore, I find it quite annoying that both you and her can be brutally honest with me (just go back and read what you've said) and im supposed to take it lightly, but as soon as I am blunt with one of you, im being harsh and insensitive. Doesn't make sense to me. I thought we were on here, as women, seeking advice from other women in our situations, not to get angry or take offense at one another when one says something the other doesn't want to hear.
And yes, I did find it ironic that we were both on here having issues w an aqua, and I thought they had the same bday bc she said she gave him a card on thurs, etc etc, but after I asked again, she said it was on the 21st which cleared the whole damn thing up for me.
Virgo w/ Aqua
by: Scorpio, so confused

The reason is because people lie. He couldn't and wont commit to me. Soooo "he said" that he wasn't and is not seeing anyone. Any person can say that and be lying. Both you and dreamer said their are RED FLAGS in my situation. I saw and continue to see red flags as well. Im a natural investigator and when something strikes me as sketchy, I research it. Try to get to the bottom of it, and I did. I got my answer. Do you really not see where I am coming from?
Decided to call it quits!
by: Amother virgo w/aqua man

I decided to hop off the roller coaster. I am a strong woman. I believe if both his and my circumstances were different we would at least have a chance. I haven't answered any of his text messages or calls. He had a trip scheduled for this week and if he calls/texts when he comes back I will change my number.

I have a lot going on in my life and him asking me to go do things when he is available and me arranging my plans to spend time with him to appease him just isn't working for me.

It is hard to let someone go that is wonderful when he wants to be.

When I was reading the above posts (drama) it dawned on me that my ex husband was an Aquarius as well. He wasn't quite as aloof as this new guy, but our biggest problem was communication. We have been divorced for 18 years. We had two years of not liking each other. We have been good friends since then.

I wish the best of luck to all you struggling with your aqua man!
Struggling w/ Aqua and So Confused
by: Dreamer

Hi So Confused,

Just wanted to say that its all good, really. I was probably a little touchy because I didnt want to think you were right - and things get lost in translation in email/online. SO, no hard feelings. I wish you the best of luck. I have decided to step back from my situation. I dont need all of this back and forth and non committal behavior. Good luck with your guy; hope you fare better than I have.

Struggling w/ Aqua..good for you. Like you said, cant deal with someone who is great when they want to be. It seems to be a theme with these guys. My ex is an Aqua too. Like you not as aloof but big communication issues did us in. He was a robot. Anyway, best of luck ladies!
dreamer
by: Scorpio, so confused

Thanks for saying that, and I am sorry to hear of your situation. I too am thinking I should call it quits with my aqua. Just last night he posted pics of him and his ex on fb calling it "memories" (because I still have pics of me and my ex from ages ago. Never really thought about them or taking them down to be honest) and he said it was to prove a point to me??? As you all know, he doesn't want to make a commitment, so why should I be concerned with what's on my fb page??? Im over it!

Best of luck to you ladies and again, truly sorry for any misunderstandings! I hope we all find what is we are looking for! So, ill leave you with this.....

"it is not HOW MUCH a person loves you that really matters, it's whether that person loves you the way YOU NEED to be loved"
Leo dating an Aquarius
by: anonymous

So I've been dating an Aqua man for the past 2 months and things started out really great. He had expressed interest about a year ago but I had a bf and made it clear and he respected my boundaries. He would keep in touch here and there through email (we work together) or phone me at my desk. I had declined to give him my personal # initially because I had a bf at the time. So basically things were good and now lately (past 2 weeks) he seems distant. The calls and texts have decreased. We did have a nice chat about things and he says he really likes me and that he wants to continue to get to know me and everything and I don't think he would just say these things as I don't get the sense that's he insincere. The problem is he works 2 jobs (works nights) and also is helping support his family (mom, dad and siblings) so basically he hasn't much time to see me and the situation is also draining for him. So I'm just not sure how to proceed. Should I try to be patient (a little hard for us Leo's ;-) and let him come to me? Or just move on? We get along really well and intellectually. mentally and spiritually are really connected. My moon is in Gemini so I think that helps with our connection. Any advice? I keep reading that Aqua's are known for being aloof and distant but I also need some consistency with the communication. Any advice would be much appreciated :-)
My Aquarius guy blew me off
by: Anonymous

I have been friends with an Aquarian for over 30 years and we have always had a great,open, honest friendship. Lately, it has changed, I think because we took it beyond friendship for awhile and now that he is back home in his state and I am in another, it changed. I am in his town for the weekend and when we talked on Tuesday, he was excited to see me. I called him on Wednesday and have not heard from him since and my plane leaves in 20 minutes to get there and we had definate plans tonight. Our last phone conversation, he was telling me he loves me, he was telling me that I don't call him anymore....very weird, it has been over a year since he has treated me like this,,,,what's up?
I'm really hurt from aquarius!
by: Anna

Hey there, I am in a relationship with an Aquarius, and i want him to miss me!?
i am the one who always has to call him, but when i text him to call me, he does...
I really like this guy, and when we're together it seems he feels the same way.
there are times when he cancels plans on me. and that hurts a lot..
sometimes, he says hes busy, because he has plans with his friends. which is fine. but he sees them more than he sees me. and he works a lot. so the weekends are usually like, friday saturday they have time with him. and sunday its me. iv never seen him more than once a week. and ... well... sometimes i text him, and he doesn't reply.

His moon, mercury, and venus are in capricorn..mars in sag. jupiter in cancer..
And I am a Gemini..
I normally use to be cool with all this behavior, but since my last relationship...I noticed that I realllyy like being the center of attention. I also like my alone time.. but I am also emotional, and talk about my feelings a lot. And when i do, he is really good at making me feel better. but this relationship makes me depressed.. to some extent. sometimes he doesnt reply to my calls for a week. and i feel like it's over..but it's not. it hurts. because sometimes i think hes cheating on me.. but i realized he's not.. he is just all that busy. but he lies to me.. like white lies to cover the fact that he was with his friends, til 2 am saturday.. but friday night called me at 11:50, and like not even 5 mins into the convo said goodbye, because he'd b tried tomorrow for work. ..............I really need emotional help. i feel like i am chasing him, and i don't like feeling this way, because I am the one who usually gets chased. but i am also fair to the chaser.
is he crazy
by: Anonymous

Hello I met an Aquarius male at work I am a gemini woman. He started complimenting me all the time, which to be honest it was annoying because although those things are true he just did it too much but anyway he asked me to go to dinner with him one day and I said yes then he asked for my phone# but he was on the clock and I just clocked out so he couldn't put my# in his phone while working (against policy) so he told me to put his# in mine but I told him I won't use it which I didn't so days went by and he would come to my department and talk to me everyday then he asked me for my#I gave it to him and he called a few days later I was busy but I did return his call later he asked me2go out wit him on his bday but I already had plans so I said no but I did surprise him&baked him some cupcakes and brought them2 wrk then everyday the same thing he would come2my department and talk2me and ask me out I didn't want2go out just yet because he just annoys me slightly but I did like him4the most part so he got mad because I wouldn't go out wit him and started saying things to try and make me mad but I just ignored it. him doing that just confirmed my decision not2go out wit him. I told him I wouldn't go out wit him just be his friend that talked at work and maybe sometimes on the phone then he calms down and texted me later that night after work asking me if he could sweep me off of my feet (lame) I said I thought we were going to be friends he said we can b friends but I think we should try and take it further because we have chemistry I declined he said it was cool&we could b friends the next day he wouldn't say hi like he usually did He wouldn't even look at me lol which I expected so of course I left it alone and didn't speak anymore either ithen about a week later I would see him looking@me and then the next day he smiled but I didn't then the next day he spoke I did too but I didn't look at him now he's back to not speaking again lol. I guess he is crazy because who really gets mad because someone won't go out with you isn't that my choice we only talked twice on the phone and texted twice. Why did he speak to me that day&then go back to not speaking, why did he stop speaking in the first place? I thought us being friends would've been cool! Will he speak again at a later date and if so how can I make him realize I won't be mad if he never speaks again and I would prefer that because he just seems childish and arrogant
Patience!
by: Virgo/ Aquarius

Hi

One of my sons male teacher head teacher.Was flirting with me for weeks so i started flirting back, things was going great and out of the blue he has started to ignore me even turns he back on me when we see each other, I really do not know what has happend. Can Aquarius men behave like this i am so confused, Any help please mark.
Earning forgiveness from an Aquarius male
by: Gemini in Florida

I am a Gemini woman in my early thirties who is recently divorced. I met an Aquarius man about 4 months ago and we started hanging out. I told him from the beginning that I did not want a relationship and that I was going to date other men. He said he was fine with that and when we started sleeping together I told him that it did not change the way I felt about not wanting to commit again he said he was fine with that. He dates other women and he also sleeps with other women, which I am fine with as long as he is respectful to me. I choose not sleep with anyone else even though it is within the perimeters of our "relationship" to do so.
Before I met this guy I had a sort of one night stand with another man and somehow my Aquarius man caught wind of it and asked me about it. I lied and told him it didn't happen (it did happen but it was before I even knew my Aquarius man). Well, last week I confessed to him that I did sleep with the guy before I met him and I wanted to come clean about it. He was very upset and started acting differently toward me. To add insult to injury later that week I ran in to him when I was on a date with another man and now he says he doesn't want to see me anymore. He admitted that he was getting feelings for me & it bothers him that I lied to him because now he doesn't believe me when I tell him that I am not sleeping with any of the other men I go on dates with (which I am not). I don't know if there is anyway to re-earn his trust & forgiveness or if I should just cut my losses. I really like this guy but I am afraid to commit this soon after my divorce plus the sex is incredible so I don't want to lose my "friend with benefits". Please help, how can I get him to forgive me?
Confused and Hurt
by: Anonymous

Been with my Aquarius man for almost a year. Relationship started with dinner and I didn't hear from him for a month. Off a sudden, I did hear from him and he was ready to begin a relationship, next thing I know he wanted to move in together. We have lived together since. Mostly good times, however, and ex girlfriend tried to interfer and caused some lies/coverup on his part and anger on my part (however, the issue was just before my time and didn't matter really had I know). I confronted her, he wouldn't and we continued to work on our issues. He asked me to let him know if she had contacted me, but when I did he got extremely nervous. If made uneasy or mad felt the need to leave for a while no matter what time of night, which made me worry something might be going on. When I would ask he would tell me nothing is going on. Everything would calm down for a while and at the least little disagreement he felt like I was accusing him, in fact I wasn't because I knew he was so angry with her that he would return there. He told me for months that he loved me more than anything and I was his everything. About six weeks go wanted to get married. Two weeks after he asked me to get married we had a bad argument and he told me that this ex was better than me etc. The next day asked me to move out of his house or he would have me evicted. I looked for appt and eventually got one. Asked him to help me move and he told me it depended on what he had planned for the day. I hired a mover and left. It made him made that I hired the mover and he didn't know where I was. One week after I left, he met me to give me my mail, I hadn't been able to talk to him, touch him etc since the argument. I asked if I could have a hug, he said yes. Hugged me sincerely and asked me to be good. I told him I would be good if he would be. Then I talk to him and he gets mad because he lost his cell phone in the mist of the argument and had numbers that he can't get back. The contact has been back and forth since. Two days ago, he told me if I couldn't put that cell phone in his hand to not ever call him again and go on about my life. I love him and don't understand why he is reacting this way. Our relationship, communication sex and all good...What should I do and how should I read into this...should I just ignore him until he may be ready or is he gone?
Confused and Hurt
by: Anonymous

Just checking back in, I haven't heard anything and it has been since last Tuesday. Any Aquarius men have any insight to this matter.
should i ask my aquarius man out?
by: MESSYSEXXY

weve been goin out for a while in an on off see saw mode.... primarily because of location.... the last time i was in town i told him im planning to stay for good and so we kinda went a little serious but not making things official... and then he stopped calling i didnt know the reason till he talked to my friend and he said its because of his ex girlfriend... he told my friend he had to deal with it first... and that he doesnt want me to be in that chaos..he also told my friend its now completely over.and he wants to try again.. we saw each other in a party 3 weeks ago and then saw each other again at his his house (my sisters husband is his cousin) last weekend. on both occasions, we had pretty well conversations. but he has never initiated on communicating with me through text email or calls. i will be celebrating my birthday soon and i doubt if he will remember... i know my sister already invited him to my party but i was thinkin of cooking dinner for him on my exact birthday and just spend time together with out the pressure of anyone else.... should i or should i not?
should i ask my aquarius man out?
by: MESSYSEXXY

weve been goin out for a while in an on off see saw mode.... primarily because of location.... the last time i was in town i told him im planning to stay for good and so we kinda went a little serious but not making things official... and then he stopped calling i didnt know the reason till he talked to my friend and he said its because of his ex girlfriend... he told my friend he had to deal with it first... and that he doesnt want me to be in that chaos..he also told my friend its now completely over.and he wants to try again.. we saw each other in a party 3 weeks ago and then saw each other again at his his house (my sisters husband is his cousin) last weekend. on both occasions, we had pretty well conversations. but he has never initiated on communicating with me through text email or calls. i will be celebrating my birthday soon and i doubt if he will remember... i know my sister already invited him to my party but i was thinkin of cooking dinner for him on my exact birthday and just spend time together with out the pressure of anyone else.... should i or should i not?
hellppp
by: libra lady

i met an aquarius man some time ago..we kicked it off so well. he made me laugh,sparkle and shine. we were so compatible and never ran out of conversation. he ventured off into a new business and began his new selfemployed company. well he changed his number and never gave me his new one!! i was so devastated. He reappeared at my job and told me he had to take a break for awhile until he got all his ducks in a row, that he does like me alot and feels like we can go somewhere in a relationship because of the great chemistry we both felt...well he never called, never came by and left me high and dry. 2 months passed and he called "private" i recognized his voice but i pretended to be upset with the anonamous call (lol) and hung up on him. He redialed 3 times and left a voice mail that said "who loves you?? have you missed me yet?" and i have been so heartbroke because i should have answered and spoke to him but as a libra it upset me that he had the nerve to call but private and that he is still hesitating to give me his new number! each and everyday i think of all that we did and shared and i have a major crush on him and cant move on...help! what do you get of this? will he still try another attempt to contact me? or did i blow it by playing hard to get? i know yall love challenges??
Gemini (w) 6/13 , Aquarius (m) 2/15
by: Anonymous

i have my own place but have been staying with my bf for 6 months now. Were fine until he says things to me that is belittleing. When I express to him my disatisfaction with how he spoke to me he eventually says i can leave. We have been dating now for 2 years and 3 months. Whenever we argue its about how he can speaks abrasive. He thinks that I should understand that because he's not one who bites his tongue. Neither am I .. and I too can be abrasive. He insist that in order for the conversation to be resolved I must fully understand how he feels.
What's going on with him?
by: Anonymous

Hi Mark,

I met this Aquarius man. Before I met him, he would do this penetrating stare. I didn't see him until this year at a and he did the same penetrating stare. Then he followed me out of the room, to the bathroom. When I got back to the room's entrance, he was already there, waiting for with puckered lips. I didn't know what to to so I just smiled and went back in.

I emailed him and he responded immediately saying to add him on facebook. I did just that, he accepted. A few days later, I saw him at a restaurant, he did the stare. I thought he'd come over and say hi but he completely ignored me! I sent him a facebook PM about how I saw him and he replied an aloof message a few days later. My FB got hacked and I had to make a new one. I sent him a message a month ago, and he still hasn't replied. What's going on?

Is it over??

Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.
to the last poster
by: Anonymous

yeah I think it is over and also..he may come back but his excuse already shows red flags and is crap...best to move on. Trust me, I was with one for over 2 years..they are sweet when they want to be.
He might just be busy..
by: Anonymous

If his occupation takes up a lot of his time, he might not have time to check his facebook on a regular basis. Just give him space. Unless he said it is over, I don't think it is. If he hasn't said goodbye, chances are he still wants you. I have heard that when an aquarius really likes someone, this scares them so they tend to step back and analyze the situation, and when they come back, they're better than ever. I think he does like you, especially since he's been checking you out since '08! haha.

Please don't be discouraged. Just be his friend first and get to know him. You mentioned that you guys just met this year. Aquarius likes to take things slow. Next time you see him, go up to him and say hi. Normally aquarius aren't shy, but it seems like he's shy around you, i bet he's really attracted to you. Take some pressure off him and go up to him. He'll appreciate you for it. And ask him if he wants to join you in a non-romantic activity, say, for instance, bowling, trying a new food joint, or miniature golf. That way you guys can have fun and get to know each other. Don't contact him, just keep busy and he'll come back.

I know it can be frustrating sometimes but that's why we love aquarius men! haha.

--PIsces girl with numerous Aquarius friends

please help me with this amazing creature
by: Anonymous

Im a libria I complete understand that aquarious men need space...just like I need mine...But when i'm around him its like a magnet.Hes says the same thing to me.drawn to one othier.and I feel that engery he sends out to me..We have talked for a little..and he asked me.what do we go from here and I said to him let leave this open to see were it takes us.here lately when I call him or text him he it a hit or miss what does that mean ? He seems to dig me but not sure if hes in a mood to left alone to think or keep trying? please help...aquarius men are very interging to me...
are some aquarius men total emotional retards
by: Anonymous

I thought I was good friends with this one aquarius man. He contacted me often, at times he would be aloof then other times he'd tell me he missed me (we live in separate cities) and be quite kind, but I have noticed if I ever want to talk about something he has done that I was upset over he just cannot cope. He makes a joke or acts like I am overreacting and its in my head. It is incredibly frustrating!!! He also does things that makes me think he doesn't consider me a good friend as much as I think of him. He has lots of friends (LOTS) but told me the other day he only considers three people to be his real friends. I was quite shocked. I feel like he has fake to a lot of people. Is this normal?
Help married aquarius man
by: Anonymous

I have been with a married aquarius man for 4 months now. I tried to avoid him for a while but he literally followed me around bars. I have seen him approximately once every 1 or 2 weeks. I enjoy talking with him, laughing and being physical but we have only just had sex. And now I haven't heard from him for 5 days. What should I do now? Is it just sex? Is it over now we have done it so to speak? Should I text?
help with your married man
by: Anonymous

I would hate to tell you but he was after a chase and although this isnt uncommon for them to just up and leave so to speak 5 days to him isnt that long since he has another life. My guess without knowing him is that he was after the sex, you gave it to him and now his chase with you is done. I wouldnt reach out at all...wait and see and since he is married...best for you to move on.
Comments Please
by: Anonymous

I have been seeing a married aquarius man for 4 months. Yes, I know this is wrong but I cant help myself. He has chased me and taken his time. We have not been totally physical until 5 days ago. It felt very intimate and now he has disappeared. I have sent him a text and no reply!

I am cool with him, fun and trying as I have for 4 months to be as detached and slightly unavailable as he is. Is this the right thing to do?

I am leaving to move to another country inn 6 weeks and he knows this.

My text was a cute riddle, I have not asked to see him. I am waiting for him. As I said no reply and nothing since I last saw him 5 days ago?
Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your reponse. I know I should move on, but its difficult at the moment. I am a bit attached. The temptation to send a snotty email is huge however. I am sagittarius, a fire sign!

Do I have anything to loose by sending a snotty text???!!
Confused
by: Anonymous

as I said..just move on. The snotty text is a bit childish dont you think? You would show more respect for yourself if you just let go and move on. I dont think you know this sign that well...if you leave something like that the chances you will hear from him ever again is going to be ZERO, trust me on that one. Dont reach out, it will go you nowhere with this sign. Consider it a lesson and learn from it and dont repeat this mistake again. He is married number one and he got sex number two and since you havent heard from him after the sex...in what reason would you want to be in contact with someone like this anyway? Try to move on..is what is best for you..trust me.
Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much. This has really helped. At 40 I never thought I would still let strong attraction for someone affect me this way!! What you are saying I totally agree with. Thank you again. Sagitarrius woman and Aquarius man (and married and Italian) DONT fit!!
No more married, Italian aquarians!
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by: puzzled

i met an A 4 months ago, he asked for my phone number and called and we've been going out no sex but long stimulating conversations, then he stopped calling, i called once all seemed OK, i called again a week later he suggested we met but never called so I called another week later and asked whether he did not want me to call again and he said no why would you say that, but then he never called and when I saw them by chance I was a bit angry and said so and told them they lied to me and me and they said NO! and we agreed to meet and he called me but still was a bit 'I do not know what time and when I could meet you and what do you think' and I said I do not know either, when you know let me know and I could tell he was a bit mad and he never called back, a week ago, does that mean he will never call me again?
confused
by: Anonymous

please a piece of advice. how to get back my aqua man?. im into him, we're ok for around 8 months. he is so affectionate and caring to me. we had an intimate relationship but no commitment because he said that he is afraid because of the past separation from ex wife. i understand him and dont want to pressure him.i want that if he feels like commiting on me because he wanted to. but all of a sudden he stops communicating with me. im wondering so i made cols and texts that i dont used to before. I heard that he is into another girl (because i investigate by myself and he has no idea). im so hurt and depress because we didnt have a fight. the last time we're together was quite ok. im thinking why he is doing this. i really want him back to me but i dont know what to do. please help.
to confused
by: Anonymous

confront him if there is someone else in his life or if he needs space...but dont keep waiting for him...they play head games and the worse thing you can do is let him get away with anything but dont tell him that you been sneaking around trying to get info..but you better be direct about it and dont him tell you BS..they will if they think that your stupid enough to buy into it. Good luck.
Aries female, Aquarius male
by: Anonymous

I met this man a few months ago in college. We have a mad connection. It started out as staring at each other, the flirtatious stare. It got intense (we would stare and it was like we were reading each others minds) as the months went on but nothing was coming from it, he doesn't ever make a move. He's not the outgoing Aqua, he's more of the shy and reserved type. I made the first move and had to make the moves ever since then. He is detached and aloof but every time I talk to him he never seems bothered. He finally made effort of saying Hi, waving, smiling when he saw me. He seems like he still can't figure me out, which is to my advantage. I feel like he waits for me to talk to him first, it's almost as if he pulls me in mentally to where he knows I will eventually give in to talk to him. It sounds weird but I feel like when he sees me online he waits sometimes till I talk to him. I know it drives him crazy when I leave him alone sometimes but then I think it's all in my head. I'm finally leaving it alone until he gives in. Am I thinking right or am I being obsessive?
Dear Aries
by: Anonymous

Gonna give you some adivce here since I should know after 2 years...first off he isnt as shy as he pretends to be..he is learing you in but here is the RED FLAG..that fact that YOU have to always come onto him or start something first...it isnt gonna change my friend and after time it wont seem cute anymore..you will feel a bit rejected or wonder why he isnt going after you or hitting on you. Keep this man on friends level only and do yourself a favor...trust me!
Aries Female, Aquarius male
by: Anonymous

Are you an Aries too? At first I thought he was gay, then I thought he was shy and reserved. He gets really nervous around me. Now, I think he might be a player or have a gf that I don't know about. I really enjoy making friends. Yet it seems he's trying to keep me his own little secret. I don't mind it because I like playing the game too but it's all just very confusing. It's hard to play the game when there's nothing to go off of. It's easy for me to detach from people as well and I'm independent. I just find it odd that he's acting like this.
dear aires
by: Anonymous

no I am not an aires..I am gonna tell you to go with your gut instinct and if something doesnt feel right then it isnt. I played that game for over 2 years and always felt like a secret...it was enough for me to end it..he would deny having a GF but always felt that something wasnt right for him to act the way he does..and if something doesnt look or feel right and they cant give you a reason for what they are doing...move on and dont look back. He didnt have enough respect for me to tell me why he treated me this way so I had to have enough respect for myself to get out. You should do the same.
married (separated) but flirting
by: Monica

So I met this aquarius guy a couple of months ago and we hit it off. We're still on the getting to know each other lines. I'm married but currently separated and I'm flirting with him. He talks to me and flirts in his own special way but will an aquarius man go after a married women? I'm getting the vibe he's really into me but trying to keep his distance.
tricky
by: shy

hi, is there any way on how to get back my aquarius man? he has another girl which im not aware but because of unintentional circumstances ive discovered it, but my aqua man dont know i have an idea. he is no longer communicating with me saying he is very occupied here and there. is there any way that he will come back? i dont communicate with him either because i dont want to push him away. i really dont want to lose him but i dont know what to do to turn him on again... this is so hard in my part. please some tips on what to do.. thanks a lot! :D
Virgo Women Aquarius Man
by: Anonymous

I am a widow who finally decided to try to move on in the beginning the aquarian i was with was always there and didnt give up despite how much i pushed him away and told him i decided to be alone and inlove with my deceased husband (i was very depressed and heartbroken and suicidal when i lost my husband) over time i tried to try to be with him and he would make me feel guilty for still mourning my husband and would grow distant. Then i felt he was using me for sex and eventually we broke up because his other girlfrind that i did not even know he had called me. three months later he apologizes and tell me he came back because he realized he loved me and woudl do anything in the world to fix things. Even when we were sexual he just never wanted to use protection. He constantly said in two yrs he wanted two kids alil spaced out but not now but when I argued we need to be more careful he just refused protection and i couldnt (my body) handle alternate ways of birth control. (fyi i had three pregnancy scares and after the third one he seems more relaxed about it) I found out later after all the apologies and him getting me back that he was still with the other women and now living with her. I repeatedly told him if he wanted to leave or found someone else to go to them and leave me be. Why didn't he just man up and leave? why didnt he ever use protection? did he want to have a kid in a sneaky way? why go on with a relationship for a yr and a half if there was so much drama? does he even feel guilty for all that he has done?
PLEASE HELP
by: jodie

Im very confused. I "dated" an aquarian man for 3 months. After a while he stopped calling me and then just out of the blew broke it up with me. He broke my heart. 2 Days later he saw me at a club with another man and I wondered if he was at all jeoulous? Anyway slowly I got him out of my mind and made peace with the fact that it was over. 2 Months later he calls me at 12 at night. All he wanted to know was how my love life was going. I put the phone down because the phone crackled and when I tried calling him back his phone was off. What is up with him? PLEASE HELP!!! What does he want from me and why did he bring back all these emotions again?
jodi
by: Anonymous

he is fucken with your head..this is what they do...block him from all contact from you...he will only bring on more and more hurt..cut off your ties now.
Confused
by: Aries Aries!

Hello Mark I am an Aries female I've known this Aquarius Man for a year now. We are like two kids we have so much fun together and our conversations are endless. I have fell asleep on the phone with him several times. However, I notice that I tend to get jealous if he doesn't give me his attention or I feel as though he's giving another woman too much attention. So I decided to stop giving him mine, I told him what I was going to do before I did it. So almost two weeks goes by and he's calling I talk to him for a small amount of time before excusing myself (because I'm very busy)Rite. A few days letter he calls me Him: did I eat? Me:No Him:Get dressed we're going to get something to eat and go to church Me: No Him: I'll be there in a few minutes get dressed. So I did really cute too. Long story short we ate he took me to church and introduced me some members he then invited one of the member male to go with us to the water front we they pretty much did all the talking I felt like the third wheel. This man take me on a roller coater ride mentally. He says he love me and I love him to. Even though I will never tell him seems like we're playing a game when I ignore him his wants me when I give him myself I'm alone.. I just want some advice what should I do.
Continues......!
by: Jodie

Well I saw the aquarius man for the first time after 4 1/2 months, had to get data recovered by him!! I went to his office last night and we had nothing much to say to each other. While I was there 2 guys phoned me and I don't think he liked that very much as he sees I have moved on with my life!! When I left he grabbed me and started kissing me crazily and with alot of passion. I actually pushed him off me and said that I had to leave. How is he feeling about this? Did he feel rejected? I am so happy because I feel I have taken my power back that he took away from me months ago.
can't understand...... :(
by: HK

hey there! some advices please.... i'm a kind of woman who is so scared to show my interest in a guy whom i want most... even though he is saying that he wants me. and finally i realized his worth when he is getting distant and eventually gone. my problem is i want him back but i do not know how it will happen. i also don't know if he is only playing. please help me on how to make him come back to me and what aqua man players are?? i'm afraid he is into another girl. what will i do to make him realize my worth too? as of the moment we don't have communication for more than a month now and i'm so sad that he bare it. i always think of him every now and then but still i don't get in touch with him. i can't get over with this dilemma though its almost 2 months now.:( i'm so afraid of rejections. i don't what him to reject me but i'm missing him so badly.. what will i do??
Do Aquarius men drive everyone crazy????
by: Confused Leo

I have been reading the posts and otehr sites about Aquarious manbehaviopr and it seems that they like to drive all women crazy! I am a Leo.

Here is my story. I met my Aqua man on line about 3 months ago. we had an intense sexual affair via the internet .. it was a little bit weird he was into it and then not and then and we actually met and were intimate. It was fun and brief. he then ignored me....

About a week later I emailed him and told him that our personal relationship was basically done but that I still wanted to work with him. ( we are in complimentary businesses). It has been about a month and 1/2 since then. we text/email about 1-2 times day. he participates willingly and answers even in inconvenient spots - ie on the golf course....he also initiates from time to tiime...it has definietly been more personal thanbusiness but both are there...

We have a lot of common interests and I have a lot ofmale energy and have often been "one of teh guys" with my friends. He knows I am not seeing anyone else and that i am not possessive of him or his time (i am an oddly mature and independent Leo - I love that he stays busy and has tons of his own friends) He shares with me personal details about his daily activities and himself somewhat - he is sweet and texts me with smiley faces all the time. when i have been frustrated and wanted to pull back he has gotten a little bit concerned. When I assured him that we can till be friends he was at ease. He has told me how smart he thinks i am and that he likes talking to me. We have not approached sex again.

he is concerned about the distance between us. (we live in different states) i think the distance is good for now to allow us togo slowly into this friendship/relationship- i am not looking for marriage but would like a relationship with him. when the topic of the distance came up and i told him that it is way to early to worry about it, but if, and that's a big if we got further along in the relationship that basically i was willing to move (not that we are anywhere near that now) he relaxed and became more affectionate.

Then he tells me that he is not looking for a girlfriend. I have never told him that I want to be his girlfriend - just that I want to have fun with him.

he still wants to talk daily?????

hmmmm confused!!!!

dont know what to think or do
by: confuseddd!!

im a scorpio/ sag cusp and this guy is an aquarius so I guess you could say I'm seeing this guy, he ALWAYS calls me probably like five to six times a day and everyday we talk ALL the time. So I went over to my neighbors house who is also my friend, and that night he called me and told me he was having a small party with his friend who was leaving the next day and so we chatted for a little and than he told me he had to go but to keep my ringer high and to text him. So a few min later I text him and it took him a while to reply and when he finally did I texted him back and got nothing... the next day I tried calling and texting but wouldn't get ANYTHING, so finally around ten or eleven at night he called me up and I asked him what was up and said this "I've been trying to get a hold of you all day and I got nothin, and I'm just gonna be straight forwar, if there is a day were you just don't feel like talking to me than text me and let me know so that I'm not thinkin that you just dissapeared" and than he told me that the night before, he got really f*cked up and he had his phone in his pocked at his friends house and changed his pants and left the other pair at his house and than also said "why would youthink I wouldn't want to talk to you, I don't like that you say that because its never going to happpen, I'm never going ot not want to talk to you" and so with that I apologized and said I was just speaking in general, and so than he told me he'd call me back and I was on my way home and texting my friend and than randomly his number pops up showing that he's calling me and I accedentally hit the text option, which I don't know why that f***in option is there which pissed me off, so I send him a text which I'm guessing he didn't get saying"hey call me again, my phone messed up" and then he texted me saying "whats wrong, and why didn't you answer your phone"
this is the scorpio/ sag the rest of my issue
by: confusseedddd!!!!

and so I call him and he answers and I'm talking to hjim about how I just got home and all and than right when I was saying "and I didn't answer becau-" and he tells me to hold on but than hangs up... so I wait and than I text him...nothing, I call him... nothing, I try a few more times and get nothing. so than the next day (yesterday) I try calling and texting him again and still get nothing so I just stop trying, but than I'm playing spades with the family and I get a text from him saying "hey" I text back and say "were have you baan all my life?" just jokin around and he texts back saying "what do you mean?" and I try calling, and he doesn't answer... wtf so I text him and say "why didn't you answer, and I was jokin Because I tried to get a hold of you earlier today, is everything ok?" and he answers saying "not really" and than I ask him what was wrong and than he takes FOREVER to text back and so I tried calling him and sending a text and still nothing and girls I'm sure youagree that when a guy leaves a text convo ending like that, you freak out a little and so he finally texts me saying "im eating right now, its nothing bad I'm just down,. feeling kind of lonley if life" and I tell him that he's not alone and that he's got me and to call me when he's done eating, and he never does so an hour goes by and I text him saying. "babe, text me" and he tets back saying "okay, what are you doing" and so I text back and he doesn't reply...again and so I try texting and calling and got nothing... I don't get it, wtf do I do? and what's his deal, normally he'd call me up and talk to me about it or continue texting me...so what's the deal?
seemingly ungrateful but just frustrated.
by: Anonymous

Hi im a scorpio woman who has known and dated? an aquarious man. He actually was fine with not defining the relationship as dating and i had enough of his aloofness so i ended it last year. He came back 6 monts later talking to me and we started making out again heavy.
I thought I would be ok with trying to also be distant about it and not wanting a relationship with him - but Im a scorpio. And my frustrations built up and I got mad at him. For something menial like punctuality. Im sure he doesnt know where that came from and thinks Im loco coco crazy and emo.
How do I repair what I have done ?
Should I forget about him?
by: Fuzz

I got to know this Aquarius guy since 2004. I was in a relationship with someone else but that does not bother him. We only communicate through online chat twice a year till 2008. I guess he moved on. In 2010, my relationship with my boyfriend started to fail. By 2011..I was ready to break-up till this Aquarius guy text me, saying hi, am i married and etc? I did not tell him much about my personal life at that point of time. we get along very well. text each other almost every day. I broke up with my boyfriend is not because of the Aquarius guy. Till one day I was crying and told the Aquarius guy about it. After a few weeks, we started seeing each other. There were hugging and kissing and he told me that he likes me...when he was on vacation he never call/text me but when he came back he called after the jet lag. He went back to school and started to be busy but he promise he will have time for me but it was just just for a few months...he never reply to all my messages and I started to ask why? I do like him...I did text him to ask did he deleted me from Facebook...well no reply. should I avoid/forget him totally?
Aquarian man in & out of relationship
by: Aquarius Gal

Hi....

I'm an aquarius gal.. But i find it so hard to understand an aquarius guy. We dated for 2.5yrs & den broke up becoz he told me that we are incompatible. Initially we didn't stay in contact. And he contact me 1 week later, show concern & ask me out for dinner. Weeks after, we didn't contact again. Just when i'm about to move on, he called me again. This continue for months!

It is so hard to know what he wants! Can anyone enlighten me?
Never ending
by: Anon

Hello, I'm a scorpio female and have been in an on and off relationship with my aquarius man for the longest time. When we started we were just 'talking' on a friends-with-benefits-and-commitment level for 2 1/2 years. By the time he agreed to make it official with me we had hit a huge emotional hump that was a make it or break it thing for us. I know scorpios are the least compatible with aquarius' and I can see it's no different for us. We have our major difference and I notice it's mainly when we just can't understand each other. I've learned to be very patient and understanding with him and it's gotten me this far. But when it comes to communication I find he can't be as straightforward with his word as I can.

That's always the main thing we argue over and it eads to many other smaller things. A lot of the time he says the wrong thing and I end up with my feelings hurt. Being the way he is he doesn't understand why and moves on. I suppose moving on is something else I'll need to learn as well?
My point is no matter all the things we've beel through and all the obvious hurt and disagreements we've cause each other we're always drawn back to each other in the end, and I don't understand it.

It took him 2 1/2 years but he told me he loves me. A word he's told me he feels has always ruined his past relationships. For that I've stuck by him and he has by me. Aside from the negatives we have our moments where we can talk about anything and everything and he's become a loved friend as well as a great boyfriend. Another reason I stick by it is I do notice that after each arguement or fight we have he changes in some way, it's little but it does insure the chance of us having the same fight twice nonexistant. I'm wondering what's your take on all this and any advice you have to give?
Will he come back if I ignore him?
by: Anonymous

A few months ago I started talking to an aquarius guy that I've known since we were three( being best friends at that point, also me being his first kiss, which he admitted) but really we had never hung out until recently. We hit it off instantly, saw each other almost everyday during the weekend, maybe once or twice during the week and spent 4 days together on a camping trip. During that trip I could see how much he was into me and even at the end of the trip he told me he missed me. So I was confident in thinking we could start a relationship. But soon after that trip we saw less of each other. I talked to some of his friends, they told me that he was always talking about me in the beginning then his friends told me that it was too much for him to hear from me everyday, trying to hang out. I tried realizing that I might have been smothering him, for his taste but couldn't help myself. A few days after I talked to his friends, we talked about what was going on. He told me he didn't want a relationship right now(even though he felt like we were acting like bf and gf, once again something he had thought that I never did) and that he was scared from how much I liked him because he didn't know what he wanted. I became a lil upset of course but we both agreed to be friends and maybe something could spark again between us.
But a month later I hear he is in a relatonship. I was heart broken, texted him everything I was feeling. Told him I would never hurt him, that I want to show him the real me not some love sick puppy, but he just kept telling me we should just be friends.
It baffles me why he would show me and give me so much attention then take it all away and give it to someone that I know and several other people know he could never truely connect to.
I just want to know if I ignore him will he come back to me or have I ruined any chances of us talking again?
p.s I am an aqaurius female
dog
by: Anonymous

i no an aquarius for a long time a year now and every nite n morn he wil tex if thought hav afone he would borrow his sis one until he ga his own one.he use to tel me al abt him during d day ,when i sey i mis him he'l sey he mis me mo.one day i poked a joke dat im geting marry and he bleve me suddenly he stop tex me.and i allow it to prolong for 2 mths.den i told him im not its ajoke ;suddenly he start again n nw he didnt tex in 4 days why?what is his relationship wit me.i only considered my frends
Confused
by: Alex

I am a Cancer woman in love with an Aquarius man. We started dating and everything was great; we got along very well, and had many shared interests. I felt that he declared his love to me too soon. I was afraid to tell him that I loved him too, and told him so. He kept assuring me that he was a good guy, and to trust him, and to love him back. I finally couldn't contain myself and told him that I loved him too. We were very happy for a good long while, and he was constantly calling/texting me. Texting me "good morning, beautiful," among other things. He wanted to see me every day. He told all of his friends and family about me and how wonderful I am, etc. Everyone was happy for us, and I thought, "Wow, this is the greatest thing ever." Then one night, he told me that he didn't want to get tired of me, and that we shouldn't see each other every day. I reminded him that he initiated this, and he said he knew it, but that we should hang back, and so I agreed. He broke his own agreement and started seeing me almost every day again. We had the discussion again, and we agreed again to not see each other every day. Things seemed to be going well, and we even took a trip out of town and everything seemed to be wonderful again, but one evening we started talking, because he had seemed very aloof toward me, and I wondered why. I said that it seemed as if he disliked me now, and what did I do wrong? He told me, "I love you, but I'm not 'in love' with you." Of course, that devastated me. How can a man pursue a woman and tell her to trust him and to believe in him that he's a good guy who will never hurt her, to tell her a few months later that he doesn't love her? I don't get it. When I asked him if he wanted to break up, he said that he didn't. He said that we can still be boyfriend/girlfriend, and still kiss, but that we shouldn't kiss because it would be "sinning." Ok, then. I agreed to this, thinking that he'd change his mind, and he did. Every time after that, and every time after he declares again that we are "sinning," we have sex. It's wonderful, and I know that he enjoys it. I know that he loves my body and he loves my touch, and he loves how we kiss. I don't know what to do. Is he in love with me but is afraid I'll leave him like everyone else has? Is he just using me for occasional sex? If he isn't in love with me, will he fall back in love with me eventually? I don't know what to do, but I know that I love him more than I have ever loved anyone I have ever been with.
DATING AN AQUARIUS MAN
by: Anonymous

IVE BEEN DATING THIS AQUARIUS MAN FOR THREE MONTHS AND HE IS NOT THE MOST AFFECTIONATE MAN AND NOW HE IS MAD AT ME FROM SOME TEXT I TEXTED HIM HE TOLD ME HE WILL CALL ME AND TALK AND HE HAS SAID ON TWO OCCASIONS I WANT TO BE BY MYSELF IVE MET A LOT OF HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND I THOUGHT HE LOVED ME BUT NOW IM NOT SURE
Taurus women engaged to an Aquarius man
by: khissme

My Aquarius man woooed me in the beginning. He was everything that I dreamed of an more. After 4 months of dating he decided that we should move in together. We used to spend every weekend together shopping, going out to eat etc...... As soon as we moved in together our weekends are spent seperately. He's rarely home on the weekend. Intimacy is obsolete. But he says we are good. Give me some insight because I'm confused.
Gemini woman driven nuts
by: Anonymous

Im a Gemini who met an Aquarian socially, I thought initially he was an idiot and although we kept seeing each other around I avoided him. He added me on FB and over time we got to talking every day, we were just friends as I am married.

Then I separated, to cut a long story short my Aquarian told me he loves me etc. not been intimate though, he turned up at my house and eclared his love but has an issue that i still live with my estranged hubby. We had a huge row on text, mainly about his flirting etc with other women, he told me goodbye and has deleted FB

I did say during this text exchange that i didnt need him in my life...I went to his house drunk the other night...thankfully he wasnt there but I texted him at stupid o clock...no response...I feel so stupid ....I miss my best friend more than anything but cant now bring myself to contact him...hes made it clear hes not interested....did I hurt him amd will and how will he forgive me?

He always said i was hard to read, I expected him to know how i felt I guess ...truth is I love him dearly
hurting...
by: Anonymous

ive been with aquarius man for almost 8 months and those days were so hot and full of affection from him. my only problem is, i was so scared to show my real feelings and i treated him so cold though i agree to our intimate relationship. after almost 4 months i come to realized that he matter to me most and i dont want to lose him. when i decided to go to his place to make up with my shortcomings, he has a lot of reasons that i think valid, like he cant entertain me bec he has business and typhoon all over the place. but i still insisted to go talking with him for 3 consecutive days. and finally he told me that he has girlfriend already. of course i was so shock and cant contain the feeling. how come his affection faided so fast? he said he love his new gf. my question is if an aquarius man say this so, is it for real or he just want me to stop? i cant believe honestly. im really hurt. i want him back but what can i do? moving on is hard for me because at this point i want to make it up on him. but sometimes im thinking is the 4months that i didnt communicate with him made him fall for another girl? God, this is so painful. im not ready. i can accept if he has another girl but love thats different anymore.. hurts me much.. do you think its real?.. :(
Continued... Follow up
by: Confused Leo

I have written before about my Aquarius friend. I believe that we are friends who have feelings for each other. We also work togethr on occasion and I know that he thinks I am smart. It is a mutual feeling....

We were getting along great. Talking just a bout every day business and personal. He tlls me about his kids and whT he is doing, we talk about golf, art etc..... He was going on a trip and I told him that I thought it was coming at a good time. I was feeling overwhelmed with feelings for him that were beyond what the friendship warranted. It ws 10 days and I felt as though we wre friends but not much more because we don't know each othe r that well. We have been takkingbfor about 4+ months but live in different cities.

He came back and we got along great had some good but short talks. Then my dad ended up in the hospital and my aqua and I were supposed to discuss some work stuff that day. I emailed him and told him I couldnt talk because I was going to the hospital to be with my dad. I asked him to send me the work stuff I needed and to call me later. He didn't call. Later that day I was back I. The office and called. He was out. I emailed him that things were still not settled t the hospital and that I ws going back later and to call me later that night. A few more hours went by and nothing. I was at hops with dad and texted to him "where are you" no exclamation marks or demands, just a question. Nothing from him.

I get home later and see was on match.com. I did a serch and his profile came up showing that he waS online and I was angry that he could go online but not take 5 minutes to call me or text me. I sent an email saying the same thing. The next morning he emailed me back ranting that I was stalking him omn match and that he didn't owe me any explanations about what he does or where he goes (although he did tell me what he did that evening!).

I have no idea how but it degenerated in to some huge fight . I did send a response sating that i was not stalking him and he should get over himself snd thatbwe are friends and he should have clled or texted and that we are still getting to know one another. He basicalybreponded that i expext to much and he will always disspoint me. Itbwent back and for th again and blah blah blah....All I wanted was an apology and for him to show some concern for me.

I admit that I probably went over board with emails about what I want in a friendship. He kept arguing and arguing and picking at me. He said he wanted only a professional relationship but kept fighting and picking! What is going on here?
I don't know what to do or say
by: Anonymous

Hi, I need help...there is a guy at the gym who I am attracted to and I know through his body language he is attracted to me but, he will not initiate any kind of conversation with me but he makes it a point to be in my visual view 95% of the time...through contacts I learned he is an Aquarius...is this normal behavior and what do I Say to break the ice? By the way I am a Sagittarius female. Thanks so much.
dear Sag with Gym Aquarius...I
by: AquaLover Too

you should let him make the first move...these men are known flirts...he just wants to see what he can make you do..they like to see ladies twist in the wind over them. I was in an almost identical situation...it came to nothing...

Your best bet is to be distant, aloof, confident...but let him make the moves...they love being flirtatious /mischievous...and this is just another way for them to mess with your head!

good luck...remember: ice - cold...unless he steps up to the plate!
I don't know what to do or say
by: Hello Aqualover too...

Hi Aqualover too... Thank you so much for your response... I will take you advice and see where if any it goes... I will keep you posted.
Sag with gym Aqua
by: Hello Aqualover too...

Hi Aqualover too... I am sorry I am new to this sight and I am trying to figure out how to respond...nonetheless, I will take your advice and see what happens... I will keep you posted.
Sag with gym Aqua
by: Anonymous

Can someone help me on how to respond correctly... I am having trouble is there an option outside of comment? Thanks
Sag w/gym Aquarius
by: AquaLover Too

Don't worry - sometimes this site does that. I'm in the same situation...Aquarius really flirty with body, acts super-nervous around me...but never does a damn thing (I initiated all convo, etc.) It never went anywhere. We fought and didn't talk for months. Recently he re-appeared and he's pulling that 'shy' BS again...trying to ignore him but... damn, he's so sexy (bites knuckles)

they like to see how far they can make you go. I really think the only thing that turns them on is for you to be distant, detached, etc.

I read about a famous Aquarius soccer coach (Raymond Dommenech) who proposed to his long-time Sag (!) girlfriend on live TV. She turned him down --and they're still together...Aquarius love that shit!

good luck, girl...stay strong & keep us posted!
Sag with gym Aqua
by: Anonymous

Hi Aqualover too.. First I want to say, I would have never thought so many people are confused about a man with the same horoscope sign... And, I should not be but, I am amazed that you have and are experiencing the same antics with your Aquarius guy as I am... I am getting bored with him bcz I am use to a more aggressive type of a guy...not one who does fine with sending out signals and standing on the sidlines... he talks to everyone else easily but me... he will not initate a convo...he wants me to...one night he came and sat on a machine by me 40 mins waiting for me to talk... I ignored him and cont'd working out. I am not the type to chase I don't have to and I refuse to...so at this point I am just throwing in the towel bcz I am really tired but, so attracted...such is life... I will keep you posted...thank you again.
Sag w/gym Aquarius
by: AquaLover Too

hey friend - yeah; sounds familiar. I figured out that this is pretty much the case for all Aquarius men when I started to go on online dating, and all the Aquarians act similarly.

One Aqua and I traded E-mails for about 6 mths, and he never went farther than 'hinting' that we could get together. if I ever pushed on that point, he'd stop E-mailing for weeks. And it's not like he lives out of state--he lives in the SAME CITY, not 30 minutes from me. Always telling me how much work he has, but then he'll mention how he went away for the w/e with friends, etc. he reminded me so much of my original Aqua love, that I just got disgusted (just like you). I do wonder what kind of woman can snag a guy like this in the end, but maybe it's just that at a certain age, they get tired of running...but who wants to hang around until someone gets tired of running? what if they never get tired?

If you want, you could always keep up your 'friendship' with the gym Aqua, but now armed with your new knowledge/wisdom. Like, just be friendly & somewhat detached, date other guys (but don't flaunt that to him), and don't expect anything. Maybe you'll be pleasantly surprised one day - and at least you already know the nature of the beast. :-)

have a happy labor day!
Sag with gym Aqua
by: Anonymous

Aqualover Too... I am really enjoying this sight. It is so nice to communicate with people who are unbias and can give you much needed knowledgeable information... As I never talk to any females about my personal business, I do have one friend of which I have found to be true that I laugh and talk with about this situation. And, even though she has not gotten tired of it, I dont want to continue to burden her down with such silly things. As for my gym Aqua... I will loosen up a bit and at least speak so that he and I can feel more comfortable... But, that is the extent of how far I will go... if he wants to talk he can make conversation... I don't bite nor is this Rocket Science. Thanks again... and you Have A Great Labor Day! as well....
Gemini in love with Aquarius man who has a girlfriend
by: Anonymous

I hav e been in love with this aquarius man for years. We dated when I was a teen and we were crazy about one another. Due to circumstances we have lost touched with one another but we have never forgotten one another. I had some serious issues going on which led me to move forward with my life. I married and have had children. He got in touch with me two years ago and we have been in touch with each other ever since. Although those years are long gone, I have never forgotten him and I know I still love him. He has told me that he has been looking for me for years since our teens off and on, and has told me that he was crazy about me. He was my first love and it's amazing how crazy I am still over him. He has a girlfriend and I am married. We have been seeing each other for two years. The sex is BEAUTIFUL and its not helpin because it started out that we were just having fun and then agreed that if it gets too serious that we would stop. Considering that I've tried to stop twice, I can't. I'm in love with him. He knows I like him alot and I know he likes me alot. I asked him when will we come to an end and he replied probably never. I want to be with him and I would leave my marriage (my marriage was on the rocks before I reconnected with him) for him. I think he knows this but I'm scared to tell him because I think he'll run. I know he cares for the girl he's with..of course..but how can he do this to her if he cares for her and why would he do this to me if he knows that it's a possiblity that I will want him for myself. I know he's not going to leave his girlfriend cause there is no reason because she hasn't done anything to him for him to leave. I guess I can answer my own question...I know what this is...he's having his cake and eating it too right? I'm the big fool. but I can't seem to leave him alone I've tried and I can't get him off my mind nor can I forget the awesome sex we have. I do know that he will be there for me if I need him. But we don't go out anywhere...he keeps me a secret (of course)and calls me only for sex (I do the same)every now and then he will text me to see how I was doing and that would be all....I'm just confused. I feel the connection and I'm sure he does too. Could it be that he's scared? I don't know what his motive is..is it just sex as I think it is. or do he really like me? I've brought this up to him and he replies "stop thinking so much, leave it alone, if it gets to crazy he'll leave me alone"...uh oh...I think I just answer the question. But when I said we gotta stop because I want more...he didn't want me to but said ok. I tried. Trust me I tried..when I came back and said I couldn't stay away..he said good that he was glad...WHAT IS THIS?
Gemini in luv w/Aqua who has a gf
by: Sag w/gym Aqua

Hi Gemini,

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but yes, I believe your Aquarius is taking full advantage of the situation bcz you are married and he doesn't have to commit. I do believe he has feelings for you but, they are moreso sexual then anything. Anytime a woman is in a committed relationship with someone and they have an affair with someone else that man they are cheating with builds up trust issues with her and generally does not take her serious in the relationship. Your Aquarian man is not going to leave his present gf for you as a married woman and truthfully speaking, he won't leave her even if you leave your husband bcz his interest is for the sex and he will also feel if you did it to your husband, you will do it to him. I suggest you leave the Aquarius guy alone bcz it is a deadend story and if you are going to be in the marriage make it work but, if it's not working....sever the ties and go on your way... I know what I have said may hurt but, I am only trying to help...it's just not worth the agony...you don't want 5 years to go by and be in the same predicament...life is to short and you have to kniw your own worth. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Sag w/gym Aqua
Is it the end?
by: Desperate

Hi Aquarius,

i have a Aquarius ex-boyfriend with whom I have lost touch for 2 months. He block me off from facebook. Before then, he will still contact me on & off though he does not want me back. He told me that he will wait for me for 1 year to change. Is aquarius guy mean what he say? Or he has already move on?
libra female still fasinated after four year,s
by: Anonymous

Hi im a libra woman who has had txt and phone relationship with my aqaurian man for four year,s.I was the one who approched him first me being the shy one i found his up front no nonsence approch a total turn on and made me want change to please him.But i think my shy nature pleased him and while i thought me being more like him i began to bore him.But he did say once he thought i was his soulmate was he just living in the moment or was he having a genuine feeling.I would just love to know.!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sex in his mind only
by: Anonymous

Hi Mark, what about an aquarius who texts me for weeks that he wants my body, sends me photos and films of him touching himself and when I finally have diner with him he wont touch me? I do love him and we've had a weird relationship going on for more than a year. Could he be interested in the fantasy only?
Confused
by: Anonymous

Im a sagitarius and me and my Aquarius have been hooking up casually for a few months. I initiated the hook up but after we started hooking up he was contacting me too. Sex is great. We really click And have the interesting conversationsi had even mentioned casually about an event I was doing And he said he would like to go. I invited him one day with a friend as well and he said he had to work he txt me one night after that but my phone was off. It's not that I wnt a commitment from him if anything just his friendship but he"s dissapeared on me. I was wonderingif I did something wrong or and if so can I fix the problem? P.S last time we saw each other we had somewhat of An awkward moment but he said it wasn't so I as wondering if it was. I'm rlly confused I rlly would just like his friendship and sex lol.
fed up
by: Anonymous

Hi been e mailing aqurian man he is 50 years of age.I have had two replies of him,even tho sent about five e mails to him i am a virgo,.Should i just not bother with him anymore i am not going to chase after him.
Embarrassing moment
by: Scorp Lady

Hi ive been on and off FWB with this Aquarius man for about 1.5 yr now. Recently we had an anal sex and for a lack of better words I pooped on him. It was an accident. That was my first time. Idk what to think now. He acted like it was no big deal and texted me the next morning about how I was feeling but ever since I feel like he lost interest. I sent him text apologizing about what happened and told him that I would understand if he's not gonna want to have sex anymore. Got no response. Any feedback on this please. Is he gonna run? Thank you.
trying to get my aquarius back
by: Anonymous

So I fell hard for an Aquarius man. We would talk everyday, have lunch etc and then I just didn't hear from him for two weeks. He said everything was cool but I was pissed and let him have it. I later apologized and he never responded. After reading about Aquarius men, I wonder if it will ever be possible to restore the friendship. I love him like crazy. I've reached out twice and got nothing. Should I just move on?
going off my head
by: Anonymous

Hi all

1st time iv ever posted on a blog so here goes.
Aqa boyfriend is 13 yrs younger than me im 47.
w have been out before and he dumped me telling me that he will be working away and as he has 3 small children he sees every other weekend it would not be fair on me, some time later it came to light he went back with ex, 2yrs on and we start dating again as he said the gf is over and he wont be going back, we have had a holiday together and i have not seen him since we got back, the weekend he dodnt have kids he told me he was goin on a stag do and i blew my lid as that means i would not see him for a while as we live 70 miles apart, i finished with him and he tried to pacify me by saying we can hook up iun week ect, i was giving him grief and when it was time for him to leave i had calmed down and text him have fun ,he has not anserwerd his phone or replied to my texts whilst away and i was meant to see him today , i begged him to contact even to just let me know he is ok but nothing, im afraid iv lost him or he is back with his ex afain, please help me before i do something stupid like turn up at his door.
going off my head
by: Anonymous

Hi all

1st time iv ever posted on a blog so here goes.
Aqa boyfriend is 13 yrs younger than me im 47.
w have been out before and he dumped me telling me that he will be working away and as he has 3 small children he sees every other weekend it would not be fair on me, some time later it came to light he went back with ex, 2yrs on and we start dating again as he said the gf is over and he wont be going back, we have had a holiday together and i have not seen him since we got back, the weekend he dodnt have kids he told me he was goin on a stag do and i blew my lid as that means i would not see him for a while as we live 70 miles apart, i finished with him and he tried to pacify me by saying we can hook up iun week ect, i was giving him grief and when it was time for him to leave i had calmed down and text him have fun ,he has not anserwerd his phone or replied to my texts whilst away and i was meant to see him today , i begged him to contact even to just let me know he is ok but nothing, im afraid iv lost him or he is back with his ex afain, please help me before i do something stupid like turn up at his door.
Is he playing with me?
by: Capri Girl

I´m so confused by this aquarius guy.. He says he likes me so much and he keeps coming back to talk to me. He dissapears every once in a while for several months and then he just shows up and talks to me normally. Since I´ve known him (3 years) is difficult for me to talk to him... We talk more now than before but we still have those akward silences. He´s a quiet guy but when he wants to talk he talks a lot and about everything,even private situations and exs. He also talks a lot about sex. He always make me sexual comments when we speak and flirt with me. I don´t know if he really likes me because he keeps coming back or he just wants to sleep with me because we haven´t had sex yet. Please help me! thanks
to Capri Girl above...
by: Capricornia

Hi my fellow Cap-

this is a typical situation with Aquarius males...probably the fact that you haven't slept with him is keeping him intrigued...definitely don't sleep with him until he steps up to the plate (asking you out, making things more concrete).

these men are so charming, they have women everywhere, but it's the one who keeps him at the end who wins!

so play your cards close to your chest and don't give in to him too easily - leave that to the others!

good luck -
Update
by: Scorpio luvn Aqua

Many of you probably don't remember my story. It's been awhile since I've posted on here. Not sure why I'm updating really. I guess it just feels good to get out.

Anyway, the last I posted I hadn't heard from the Aqua in months and what few times he did respond to my texts he always said he was just busy working. The last time I text him he finally told me the truth. He told me he had a girlfriend now and that he was sorry, but he didn't want to hurt him. Instead of telling him how I really felt, I just told him "that's ok, but you should have told me sooner...take care." That was it. I crawled into bed and just cried. My worst fear had come true. I can't say I didn't see it coming, but it didn't hurt any less.

That was the last I heard from him and the last I ever contacted him. I still thought about him and still do, but not as much as I used to. I found out later that his new girlfriend (an Aries) was pregnant and they are now married with a new baby boy. I have a feeling he was seeing her the whole time he was seeing me, but I'll never know for sure. That was over a year ago now and I've gotten over him tremendously. I now know he just wasn't the guy for me.

I since met a wonderful Pisces, but he left me for an Aries as well. Go figure? lol

Well, that's really all I had to say. It was a long ride with the Aqua, but I don't regret it one bit. I loved him then and in a way I still do, but I'm not in love with him anymore. He taught me a lot and I will learn from my mistakes and learn not to be so trusting.

Good luck to you all with your Aqua men and enjoy the ride! :)
Aquarius man???
by: Anonymous

Hi ive been so curious these days and goin through so muc cus of this aquarius guy. So we know eachother from like five years ago but never really talked. But he would always talk to me when him an his girlfriend broke up.. Like flirting wise. And about two months ago him and his recent girlfriend broke up and they have a relationship of four years... So thats alot. After that the girlfriend moved on to some other guy which was one of hia friends. Me and him we both started out really good he was so romantic and nice buying me flowers telling me i was the first girl(instead of his ex ofcourse) giving him butterflies and we would talk about what bothered
Eachother in life and we would laugh joke around and taking me out on dates. Everything was good but after we slept together he totally changed and was so distant. But before anything we talked out our relationship because he did recently broke up
With someone he once loved so i would always be like "i dont want to get hurt and i dont want you to be hurt so as a friend i dont want you to go back to her cus than youll get hurt" so yeah he became so distant and i asked him
What was wrong .. He said he needed alone time . I understood.. But it came to a point i couldnt stand anymore
So about a week ago i ended it by telling him
How i felt..he only replied "im sorry" what should i do? Will he come
Back?
Aquarius man???
by: Anonymous

Hi ive been so curious these days and goin through so muc cus of this aquarius guy. So we know eachother from like five years ago but never really talked. But he would always talk to me when him an his girlfriend broke up.. Like flirting wise. And about two months ago him and his recent girlfriend broke up and they have a relationship of four years... So thats alot. After that the girlfriend moved on to some other guy which was one of hia friends. Me and him we both started out really good he was so romantic and nice buying me flowers telling me i was the first girl(instead of his ex ofcourse) giving him butterflies and we would talk about what bothered
Eachother in life and we would laugh joke around and taking me out on dates. Everything was good but after we slept together he totally changed and was so distant. But before anything we talked out our relationship because he did recently broke up
With someone he once loved so i would always be like "i dont want to get hurt and i dont want you to be hurt so as a friend i dont want you to go back to her cus than youll get hurt" so yeah he became so distant and i asked him
What was wrong .. He said he needed alone time . I understood.. But it came to a point i couldnt stand anymore
So about a week ago i ended it by telling him
How i felt..he only replied "im sorry" what should i do? Will he come
Back?
to Aquarius?? anonymous above
by: AquaLover Too

dear Aquarius?? girl above...

the best thing is to move on...sorry this happened to you. i am going thru a similar situation with an Aquarius (I did a dbl take b/c it was like you were writing about my experience)...he may not have meant to hurt you, but maybe after the sex his initial excitement wore off. men are bad that way, unf.

i would start dating other men immediately. NOT an Aquarius, if you can help it. just meet other people...

...there's always a chance he'll come back, but don't bank on it. and if he does, make sure you keep distant (no sex, por favor!) for as long as you can hold out :-)

good luck
aquarius is hot and cold -.-
by: sagitarus gurl

hi
i confuse with my ex aquarius, he drives me crazy like a roller coaster!! hes charming but he has sharp tongue! he likes black joke xD we live in defo country so yea we met after 1year ol chat, he kept postpone his coming many excuses i cant handle it so we broke up n he seems ok with that! but then he bought plane ticket vacation for us, i mean he full of surprise ( heart melt =.=) doh! we had fun around vacation even he often sleep while vacation! i cant just sleep while vacation lol i like hang out! so yea we argue a lilbit but most of the time he was very sweeet he always tickle me when im mad xD carried me when im tired and always smiling! how come? =.= and at nite he purpose me a ring i felt so high! but the ring was too big! so he took it back to resize it, then we r long distance again, and u know what? i found out he is still in contact with his ex!! after he purposed me?? i mean his laptop on cus he wants me to speak with his mum, and he fall asleep so i accidentaly see whats contact on his msn and i got so mad but i didnt show it cus i wont ruin vacation! and i talked about it on phone almost break up cus yea somehow im a jealousy girl but finnaly he got me again =.= hes just like a cute puppy! a very cute "AHOLE" I felt guilty, his suffering he cried alot on phone and begged to come back, so we got back again, and then he forget my b'day! :O I gone silent,if im really mad i will silent -.- but then yeah he sent me bunch chocolate and tedy bear and flower with poetry i mean aquarians like casanova they r very good at words! and after couple months he visited me and we had appoinment to watch movie after i finished work but then he called me said he wanna hang out with my friend and her bf while im kinda sick at work! i hang up the phone cus he went go kart and didnt show up at mall -.- and didnt care bout me, but next day he brought me flower to my office, that so sweeeet seems like nothing happened yesterday >.< he bought soup and take care of me T.T so sweeet u know what?? we broke up again after 1 week vacation with me he said he cant get married with me bla bla bla, and after 8months break up, he called me everyday i mean everyday! i cant stand it and i think he is serious so i should give him another change, and after a month we got together, he said "we need to tal" he said i still same i still funny and cute but he is just doesnt love me as much as before! he dumped me! yes! and after about 4days he said hes sorry, and we talked on the phone he said no other girl cus he just get interested in a girl at his friend cafe but he said yesterday he found out that this girl has a bf, so he felt stupid and oh yes i was so emotional and i said NO! and then he never called me again but he still send msg on fb =.= i what should i do to handle and should i still respond his msg?
aquarius is hot and cold -.-
by: sagitarus gurl

hi
i confuse with my ex aquarius, he drives me crazy like a roller coaster!! hes charming but he has sharp tongue! he likes black joke xD we live in defo country so yea we met after 1year ol chat, he kept postpone his coming many excuses i cant handle it so we broke up n he seems ok with that! but then he bought plane ticket vacation for us, i mean he full of surprise ( heart melt =.=) doh! we had fun around vacation even he often sleep while vacation! i cant just sleep while vacation lol i like hang out! so yea we argue a lilbit but most of the time he was very sweeet he always tickle me when im mad xD carried me when im tired and always smiling! how come? =.= and at nite he purpose me a ring i felt so high! but the ring was too big! so he took it back to resize it, then we r long distance again, and u know what? i found out he is still in contact with his ex!! after he purposed me?? i mean his laptop on cus he wants me to speak with his mum, and he fall asleep so i accidentaly see whats contact on his msn and i got so mad but i didnt show it cus i wont ruin vacation! and i talked about it on phone almost break up cus yea somehow im a jealousy girl but finnaly he got me again =.= hes just like a cute puppy! a very cute "AHOLE" I felt guilty, his suffering he cried alot on phone and begged to come back, so we got back again, and then he forget my b'day! :O I gone silent,if im really mad i will silent -.- but then yeah he sent me bunch chocolate and tedy bear and flower with poetry i mean aquarians like casanova they r very good at words! and after couple months he visited me and we had appoinment to watch movie after i finished work but then he called me said he wanna hang out with my friend and her bf while im kinda sick at work! i hang up the phone cus he went go kart and didnt show up at mall -.- and didnt care bout me, but next day he brought me flower to my office, that so sweeeet seems like nothing happened yesterday >.< he bought soup and take care of me T.T so sweeet u know what?? we broke up again after 1 week vacation with me he said he cant get married with me bla bla bla, and after 8months break up, he called me everyday i mean everyday! i cant stand it and i think he is serious so i should give him another change, and after a month we got together, he said "we need to tal" he said i still same i still funny and cute but he is just doesnt love me as much as before! he dumped me! yes! and after about 4days he said hes sorry, and we talked on the phone he said no other girl cus he just get interested in a girl at his friend cafe but he said yesterday he found out that this girl has a bf, so he felt stupid and oh yes i was so emotional and i said NO! and then he never called me again but he still send msg on fb =.= i what should i do to handle and should i still respond his msg?
libra women and aqua man
by: Anonymoanus

Ok ive been dealing with this aquarius male for about 3months now. We were talking for about 3 months before that but became intimate in about march. after our first night of intimacy i wasnt to into him. He in fact was the one who did all the calling texting and trying to keep in contact with me. So i took as him actually wanting to be with me. I would see him almost every other night and all weekend we were pretty much together. we had one cheating incident with him and i told him off about it. Told em i never wanted to speak to him again. Then the next day he was texting me 4pages saying how sorry he was and he wouldnt do it again. And sure enough i had no problems with him in that area. We were fine for along while he even invited me over to his home and let me stay the night with him. He introduced me to his sister bought me food before and evertyhinf . weve had numerous deep conversations about his trust and him trying to trust me. But now hes in this stage where he ignores all my calls and texts and wont even text me to see how im doing. And i am not the type of person to bug someone so i DONT call him either. Like im confused one minute he shows all his feelings for me and then its like he hates me.... And im growing weary of the situation.... Any suggestions????
libra women and aqua man
by: Anonymoanus

Ok ive been dealing with this aquarius male for about 3months now. We were talking for about 3 months before that but became intimate in about march. after our first night of intimacy i wasnt to into him. He in fact was the one who did all the calling texting and trying to keep in contact with me. So i took as him actually wanting to be with me. I would see him almost every other night and all weekend we were pretty much together. we had one cheating incident with him and i told him off about it. Told em i never wanted to speak to him again. Then the next day he was texting me 4pages saying how sorry he was and he wouldnt do it again. And sure enough i had no problems with him in that area. We were fine for along while he even invited me over to his home and let me stay the night with him. He introduced me to his sister bought me food before and evertyhinf . weve had numerous deep conversations about his trust and him trying to trust me. But now hes in this stage where he ignores all my calls and texts and wont even text me to see how im doing. And i am not the type of person to bug someone so i DONT call him either. Like im confused one minute he shows all his feelings for me and then its like he hates me.... And im growing weary of the situation.... Any suggestions????
feeling let down
by: Anonymous

hi, so I am a pisces lady, was asked to dinner by an aquarian, text the day before to see if I would be free for drinks after, very flirty, friendly few texts and then out of the blue that morning explained a family event was planned that he totally forgot about, so we would have to do it another time.

I feel very disappointed and let down, we have met several times but this would be the first date as such. I am confused about his intentions. As strong a connection as I feel to be there, I sense that this will be the first of a string of diappointments, is it a simple case of wires crossed and he is just not that into me. Did I dream the connection in my head.

I would love to hear what you think?
Aquarius love <3
by: Anonymous

Hi im an aquarius woman and I am deeply in love with an aquaquarius man.it started in 7th grade he had a big crush on me but I turned him down.by the end of seventh grade I move for about 2 or 3 years and while I was gone he would ask my sister if I was coming back,well freshman year I came back and he still had a crush on me and I developed feelings for him too but he ws acting chilish.about stuff and didnt kno what he wanted so we stoped tlkin and I ended up gettin into another.relationship and it was luke an on and off relationship and evey time me and him broke up my aqua came back around and eventually he came ovr randomly saying how he wants to be with me when we get out of schooland couple months after that we went out.BUT we were not out of school yet and he told me he loved me but months after he broke up with me sayin he want to be with me when he gets hiself straight and can take care of me we still remained friends and still had sex this went on for aabout 5months and but he would always have these times ehen he just dissapears when eveything was going great and come back a week later like nothing happen and every once in a while he would do nice really sweet things and would always tell me no matter what anyone says I will be his bestfriend and bby girl forever and all these emotions happen in a mattrr of 5 months but hes told me plenty of tomes hes felt like this since 7th grade.....well we have always had our fall outs but this time it was bad and idk if hes is comming back ...we started going back out for about a week and everything was going so good he wad saying how he felt and everything then just dissapeard and I txted him every day for 3 days and got no response then one day he called to talk and had the same story he wants to be with me when he can do right by me and I told him once again I would wait ...so we were good then the next day I heard he had a picture with some other girl and he said that this was to much and I need to stop assuming and I tried to tell him I wasnt assuming I asked nefore I looked at anything then I adkrd to come over and he acted like he eas to busy cause he was wtchin the game so the nrxt day I was like im commin over around 6 he was like I wont be home ill be busy all day and I said you act like you have no time for me and he told me he was getting tired of my bull and I told him I just wanted some attention anf he told me I wantrd ti much and that we should take some time and cool out for a min before one of us gets hurt so I told him no ill do you one better delete my number I just want to get over you and he said ok bye I hear you this was two days ago and we havent tlked since and I want him back so bad I miss him but he acts like it doesnt bother him at all after all we been thrrough what do I do I just eant him back!!!!!
Aquarius love <3
by: Anonymous

Hi im an aquarius woman and I am deeply in love with an aquaquarius man.it started in 7th grade he had a big crush on me but I turned him down.by the end of seventh grade I move for about 2 or 3 years and while I was gone he would ask my sister if I was coming back,well freshman year I came back and he still had a crush on me and I developed feelings for him too but he ws acting chilish.about stuff and didnt kno what he wanted so we stoped tlkin and I ended up gettin into another.relationship and it was luke an on and off relationship and evey time me and him broke up my aqua came back around and eventually he came ovr randomly saying how he wants to be with me when we get out of schooland couple months after that we went out.BUT we were not out of school yet and he told me he loved me but months after he broke up with me sayin he want to be with me when he gets hiself straight and can take care of me we still remained friends and still had sex this went on for aabout 5months and but he would always have these times ehen he just dissapears when eveything was going great and come back a week later like nothing happen and every once in a while he would do nice really sweet things and would always tell me no matter what anyone says I will be his bestfriend and bby girl forever and all these emotions happen in a mattrr of 5 months but hes told me plenty of tomes hes felt like this since 7th grade.....well we have always had our fall outs but this time it was bad and idk if hes is comming back ...we started going back out for about a week and everything was going so good he wad saying how he felt and everything then just dissapeard and I txted him every day for 3 days and got no response then one day he called to talk and had the same story he wants to be with me when he can do right by me and I told him once again I would wait ...so we were good then the next day I heard he had a picture with some other girl and he said that this was to much and I need to stop assuming and I tried to tell him I wasnt assuming I asked nefore I looked at anything then I adkrd to come over and he acted like he eas to busy cause he was wtchin the game so the nrxt day I was like im commin over around 6 he was like I wont be home ill be busy all day and I said you act like you have no time for me and he told me he was getting tired of my bull and I told him I just wanted some attention anf he told me I wantrd ti much and that we should take some time and cool out for a min before one of us gets hurt so I told him no ill do you one better delete my number I just want to get over you and he said ok bye I hear you this was two days ago and we havent tlked since and I want him back so bad I miss him but he acts like it doesnt bother him at all after all we been thrrough what do I do I just eant him back!!!!!
virgo woman aquarius man just friends
by: Anonymous

I just wanted some more insight as to how the Aquarius male works. I dont live in the same state and I received a message the day before arriving to my destination asking when I was getting in. I thought, he's asking what my schedules like which means he's interested in seeing if theres any chance to be fit into my plans. Sure enough i told him when i was arriving and he asked if we could catch up the next day.I explained that I only really had one place to be whilst I was in town and was happy to see him. So as far as I was concerned, we'd made plans. The next day the time past when he was supposed to call. No call. I wasn't the one to ask to catch up? He was. I msgd to jokingly say u never rang and he said yeh I had some stuff to do. (explained every place he went to) then asked if I wanted to catch up before I went to the one event I had planned. Said I couldn't but I could come after if it wasn't to late for him. Didn't really remember having a reply. In anycase I spoke to his friend and ended up staying the night at theirs. And he seemed fine. We were buddy buddy like we always are. The next day I wrote a msg abet an inside joke made from the night before. Texted for over an hour, not short messages, we just really get along. Then he asked again if we could catch up again today. I said sure. Id love to. And now again, haven't. Heard. A word. I understand aquarians want to be friends first, he's slowly opening up to me. I explained he has a place in my heart, I love helping him, being around him, told him I was his number one fan. But I also know they love being chased. Is that what he wants? Because im trying to show him if he wants to get to know me im not gonna play the hard to get games that he has to be a bit more mature and realise if he wants to get to know me he'll have to actually make an effort to see me. Is it because he doesn't want to show me any commitment to anything because Aquarius like their freedom? Were just friends I dont see why he would need to be like that with me. He tells me he really likes me as well, when were out with friends in public he'll hug me and have intelligent conversations for hours. Is he just seeing how far ill bend over backwards to please him? So confused as it repeatedly happens! Thanks.
@ Virgo woman
by: AquaLover Too


my advice: play hard to get for a little - don't be so quick to respond or be available. they like to be chased, but they also like to chase (if that makes sense).

don't be so clear & straight forward. mess with his mind a little.

;-))
Thanks aqua lover too
by: Anonymous

Thanks for your comment. I just don't see how I can play hard to get when I only ever have around 3 - 4 days to see him. It's driving me insane. It's like we've had a couple of months not to see eachother now I'm here and you want to play Aquarius games with me? We don't have time for that! I think the fact that's it's just me and him that would be doing something may make him nervous cos they enjoy bigger groups. How do I make him understand that it's OKAY to just hang with me. Im a few years older than him but I can't put it all down to immaturity because I know he's very intelligent. But out of all the signs he's given me I seriously can't figure out if these are signs he's into me or just can't be assed seeing me because he doesn't feel the same way. It's just a viscous circle. But why invite me places just to cancel? For a reaction???
Confused....
by: Cancer K

My ex boyfriend (who is an aquarius man) and I (cancer female) where dating for a year and a half. We were doing long distance for 7 months of the relationship. It was so hard but i felt it made us stronger. The love we had was so intense when we did get so see each other. We had are arguments here and there, some were really bad but for the most part we loved each other. Before my bf went off to school, he told me he loved and wanted to mary me and have kids with me. Actually last summer he really wanted to have a baby with me, but i told him not until we both finish college. We are young and so it kind of scared me but the more he talked about the future with me the more he made me feel like it was okay to say those things. He came home for summer vacation, everything was fine until one day we got in a huge argument and we broke up for a day and the next day we talked and i told him that we need to start taking things slow and that everything happened so fast so we have to take things slower. That weekend we didn't hangout but he kept telling me he loved me and everything. Literally a day after all the love talk he ignored me, I flipped because it made me so mad. I didn't do anything so for him to ignore me, hurt me inside. I probably contacted him too much but at that point I didn't care because he had no reason to ignore me, when actually we were suppose to hangout. The next day he broke up with me and said "i'm sorry for hurting you blah blah blah and that I think we should just be friends". I replied with "okay, i cant really do anything but respect you decision but i feel i should tell you ill always love you and i think you still love me. So to just be friends its going to take me some time" Its been almost 3 weeks since we have had contact. He left back to school 2 weeks ago, but I found out from his sister he came home a week ago because he didn't get his scholarship for school. I know he was under a lot of stress and all I tried to be was a good support system for him. His family really liked me and we had such a great connection. His sis said i was the best girl he had ever brought home. He was with a friend i don't like and I feel like he was the one who told him to end it with me. Now that he is back home, i'm wondering if he will contact me? I don't want to give up on him, at the same time I'm doing me because i'm not going to wait on him forever but why did he act like this? Do aqua men usually act like this and say all those "love" things???
piseces female &'dd aquarius male
by: in loooovvveeee

Heyy everyone I've been with a aqaurius for a while now this shxt is bull crapp because I use to do the same thanq y'all doinq now my relationship have been fine he don't judge me within 3 months of us first talkinq he told me he love me first the first day we met he ate myy pussy &'dd ididnt qive him sex nor sucked him &'dd imma virgin he wass the first one to kiss me he makes the first move all the time we still together leave tht horscope shxt alone because tht don't determain a qoood realationship keepinq your faith in qod &'dd your realtionship do I'm just sayinq &'dd myy birthday feb 20 &'dd his jan 26 we was supposed to make the worst couple but turn out tht shxt was a LIEEEE
piseces female &'dd aquarius male
by: in loooovvveeee

Heyy everyone I've been with a aqaurius for a while now this shxt is bull crapp because I use to do the same thanq y'all doinq now my relationship have been fine he don't judge me within 3 months of us first talkinq he told me he love me first the first day we met he ate myy pussy &'dd ididnt qive him sex nor sucked him &'dd imma virgin he wass the first one to kiss me he makes the first move all the time we still together leave tht horscope shxt alone because tht don't determain a qoood realationship keepinq your faith in qod &'dd your realtionship do I'm just sayinq &'dd myy birthday feb 20 &'dd his jan 26 we was supposed to make the worst couple but turn out tht shxt was a LIEEEE
piseces female &'dd aquarius male
by: in loooovvveeee

Heyy everyone I've been with a aqaurius for a while now this shxt is bull crapp because I use to do the same thanq y'all doinq now my relationship have been fine he don't judge me within 3 months of us first talkinq he told me he love me first the first day we met he ate myy pussy &'dd ididnt qive him sex nor sucked him &'dd imma virgin he wass the first one to kiss me he makes the first move all the time we still together leave tht horscope shxt alone because tht don't determain a qoood realationship keepinq your faith in qod &'dd your realtionship do I'm just sayinq &'dd myy birthday feb 20 &'dd his jan 26 we was supposed to make the worst couple but turn out tht shxt was a LIEEEE
aquarius and their bullshit!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Hi,
I'm a sagg, who was madly n luv with my Aquarian. We had our ups & dems lyk everyone else n life. I think da part dat hurts da most. Is knowing dat he could've been da one. I just can't get why he would do hurtful things: cheat, lie, u name it. He some how always try and take da heat off him. And point all fingers @ me. The entire 5yrs, I've did nothing but try and show him da luv I have. I was lyk if said right, he would say left. I've always been faithful and trusted him. Maybe it was commitment phobia. He said he loved me, but when it come dwn to it. It always different. So we had a discussion about a female txtn n da late hrs. He say jus a friend and show me da conversations but when it change frm being friends (something much deeper n their txt) he shut da ph up & turn it on me like I'm da 1 txtn. So I chill out 2 keep calm. He tells me if I'm tryna research it all n my. B4 he can finish, I say I'm not thinking about u, I'm thinking about me. He calls it all off & say never f$%k with again. Why when he was n da wrong? Like I did it.
aquarius and their bullshit!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Hi,
I'm a sagg, who was madly n luv with my Aquarian. We had our ups & dems lyk everyone else n life. I think da part dat hurts da most. Is knowing dat he could've been da one. I just can't get why he would do hurtful things: cheat, lie, u name it. He some how always try and take da heat off him. And point all fingers @ me. The entire 5yrs, I've did nothing but try and show him da luv I have. I was lyk if said right, he would say left. I've always been faithful and trusted him. Maybe it was commitment phobia. He said he loved me, but when it come dwn to it. It always different. So we had a discussion about a female txtn n da late hrs. He say jus a friend and show me da conversations but when it change frm being friends (something much deeper n their txt) he shut da ph up & turn it on me like I'm da 1 txtn. So I chill out 2 keep calm. He tells me if I'm tryna research it all n my. B4 he can finish, I say I'm not thinking about u, I'm thinking about me. He calls it all off & say never f$%k with again. Why when he was n da wrong? Like I did it.
aquarius and their bullshit!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Hi,
I'm a sagg, who was madly n luv with my Aquarian. We had our ups & dems lyk everyone else n life. I think da part dat hurts da most. Is knowing dat he could've been da one. I just can't get why he would do hurtful things: cheat, lie, u name it. He some how always try and take da heat off him. And point all fingers @ me. The entire 5yrs, I've did nothing but try and show him da luv I have. I was lyk if said right, he would say left. I've always been faithful and trusted him. Maybe it was commitment phobia. He said he loved me, but when it come dwn to it. It always different. So we had a discussion about a female txtn n da late hrs. He say jus a friend and show me da conversations but when it change frm being friends (something much deeper n their txt) he shut da ph up & turn it on me like I'm da 1 txtn. So I chill out 2 keep calm. He tells me if I'm tryna research it all n my. B4 he can finish, I say I'm not thinking about u, I'm thinking about me. He calls it all off & say never f$%k with again. Why when he was n da wrong? Like I did it.
aquarius and their bullshit!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Hi,
I'm a sagg, who was madly n luv with my Aquarian. We had our ups & dems lyk everyone else n life. I think da part dat hurts da most. Is knowing dat he could've been da one. I just can't get why he would do hurtful things: cheat, lie, u name it. He some how always try and take da heat off him. And point all fingers @ me. The entire 5yrs, I've did nothing but try and show him da luv I have. I was lyk if said right, he would say left. I've always been faithful and trusted him. Maybe it was commitment phobia. He said he loved me, but when it come dwn to it. It always different. So we had a discussion about a female txtn n da late hrs. He say jus a friend and show me da conversations but when it change frm being friends (something much deeper n their txt) he shut da ph up & turn it on me like I'm da 1 txtn. So I chill out 2 keep calm. He tells me if I'm tryna research it all n my. B4 he can finish, I say I'm not thinking about u, I'm thinking about me. He calls it all off & say never f$%k with again. Why when he was n da wrong? Like I did it.
Aqua
by: Aries chick

So I met an aqua man in the beginning of this year. So as time passes, he was asking me If I like him and If I want a relationship so I explain to him yes that I like him. As we were getting to know each other for four month, he invited me to a family event and I went. After that day of the event he disappeared on me and I contacted him like 5x and no response, we run into each other at a bar and he told me that he likes me, but that he went thru alot in the passed. He was with some girl for like 6 yrs and she told him that she wanted to get married and he said he wasn't ready so behind his back she cheated on him and she told him and she ended up marrying that guy with 2 kids. So he ended up dating another girl and she did the something to him. So he told me oh who knows maybe If u find your lucky guy you'll probably run with him, marrying that guy with kids, and I'll be here?? So I let time pass because i know he's very insecure and his self esteem is so low. Anyways we have hung out more afterwards but then he disappeared again. Why????
Aqua
by: Aries chick

So I met an aqua man in the beginning of this year. So as time passes, he was asking me If I like him and If I want a relationship so I explain to him yes that I like him. As we were getting to know each other for four month, he invited me to a family event and I went. After that day of the event he disappeared on me and I contacted him like 5x and no response, we run into each other at a bar and he told me that he likes me, but that he went thru alot in the passed. He was with some girl for like 6 yrs and she told him that she wanted to get married and he said he wasn't ready so behind his back she cheated on him and she told him and she ended up marrying that guy with 2 kids. So he ended up dating another girl and she did the something to him. So he told me oh who knows maybe If u find your lucky guy you'll probably run with him, marrying that guy with kids, and I'll be here?? So I let time pass because i know he's very insecure and his self esteem is so low. Anyways we have hung out more afterwards but then he disappeared again. Why????
Cappy Woman
by: Anonymous

Well I've been dealing with an Aqua man since Feb.til May, we fell off for about 2 months b/c he was goin' through some personal stuff so I gave him space. He would do the disappearing acts and not call when he said he would you know the whole Aqua thing. I really like him but didn't want to smother him so I fell away. Well we linked back up, he said sorry for being an asshole and that he was goin' through a bad time and was tryin' to heal his pain with alcohol but has stopped drinking. It has been about a month and he was more consistent when he couldn't meet up he would call and let me know, he said he needs time to before we can be together. That's fine with me b/c I'm not in a rush. I thought we were doin' good but this week we are back to him not showing up or calling. Mind you the last time we saw eachother he was saying how we need to go on a date and is constantly inroducing me as his girlfriend, even though he doesn't want a relationship. He always pours his heart out when we have pillow talk about his past with his ex cheating on him and he raised a child he thought was his or his mom leaving him when he was young. I understand aside from being an Aqua he has rejection and abandonment issues. I guess I just want to know do you think he will ever be able to open his heart again or am I doomed to play the cat and mouse game? It seems as soon as he opens up he's like a turtle and has to go back into his shell again. Its so hard b/c when its good its good but when he goes into hiding...i feel rejected. I know its not my issue its how he is and his issue but how can I not feel hurt at times...he is so hot and cold. Perhaps its just not the right time...idk if it will ever be
I'm extremly confused
by: Cameron

I'm a cancer woman with a virgo ascendant who loves an Aquarious man, before i told him i loved him, we were friends and got along very well, as soon as he found out i love him, he started being mean and ignores me if i try to ask him why he's being so mean. My friends annoy him a lot by telling him i love him all the time and he blames me for it which is anoying ecause he is that stubborn, he refuses to think otherwise....

Can you please explain to me why he is being so mean to me? It makes no sense :(
I'm extremly confused
by: Cameron

I'm a cancer woman with a virgo ascendant who loves an Aquarious man, before i told him i loved him, we were friends and got along very well, as soon as he found out i love him, he started being mean and ignores me if i try to ask him why he's being so mean. My friends annoy him a lot by telling him i love him all the time and he blames me for it which is anoying ecause he is that stubborn, he refuses to think otherwise....

Can you please explain to me why he is being so mean to me? It makes no sense :(
How do you take being dumped?
by: Anonymous

Ok a little elboration, We had a relationship that I told him to be sex only for six months. He showed up one night proclaiming love and almost the same time that he would kill me and what not. I told him off and told him to get his shit together, he didnt talk to me for four months come back wanting to see me. It started again, he has said he wanted to have sex with me forever and for it to never end...and I just told him that I did love him back then I was just scared to love again and that I care about him and that he does it for me but I couldnt be his sex buddy anymore that it confused me. I told him I just wanted something more and I didnt know what I wanted out of life and needed to be ME for a while which is true..I did this through text....which is how we communicate most. he texted back "its ok". I half expected him to tell me I had no choice like he likes to do. And I asked him if he was mad and he said "I cant be" whatever that means... and told me to "take care" and I told him I would text him when I was ready... so what do I expect now? Disappear and respect my decision or is he going to try and get what he wants? I feel like I am waiting to be blind sided.
Never hugs me or kiss's me or holds my hand
by: Babydoll

I have been dating an aquiruis for about two months. He actually has been staying with me every since we started dating. He doesn't help me pay any bills. I wait on him hand and foot -making his meals, washing his clothes, paying for everything. He barely touch's me. When I kiss him its like kissing a wall-because he doesn't kiss me back. He does hold me when we sleep though. Is he really into me or just using me for a free ride? When I ask him he just gets mad and says I am here aren't I. I am not use to a man never touching me or being effectionate. It makes me feel unwanted, unattractive and why am I doing this to myself.
Never hugs me or kiss's me or holds my hand
by: Babydoll

I have been dating an aquiruis for about two months. He actually has been staying with me every since we started dating. He doesn't help me pay any bills. I wait on him hand and foot -making his meals, washing his clothes, paying for everything. He barely touch's me. When I kiss him its like kissing a wall-because he doesn't kiss me back. He does hold me when we sleep though. Is he really into me or just using me for a free ride? When I ask him he just gets mad and says I am here aren't I. I am not use to a man never touching me or being effectionate. It makes me feel unwanted, unattractive and why am I doing this to myself.
Never hugs me or kiss's me or holds my hand
by: Babydoll

I have been dating an aquiruis for about two months. He actually has been staying with me every since we started dating. He doesn't help me pay any bills. I wait on him hand and foot -making his meals, washing his clothes, paying for everything. He barely touch's me. When I kiss him its like kissing a wall-because he doesn't kiss me back. He does hold me when we sleep though. Is he really into me or just using me for a free ride? When I ask him he just gets mad and says I am here aren't I. I am not use to a man never touching me or being effectionate. It makes me feel unwanted, unattractive and why am I doing this to myself.
March 16 baby
by: Anonymous

So I have been seeing an aquarious on and off for almost a year. Sometimes he would just stop talking and I gave him his space. Most recently we been seeing each other almost every other day for months. He usually contacts me first!! He can be so sweet at times even takin me to do things on my bucket list had some amazing times!! But it bothers me he does not ask about my kids and seems distant!! I have struggled thru this!! So yesterday I stop by after work like he asked and we did the deed an snuggled for a while!! He receives a text and hesitated to reply but in the end he did!! He jumped up an went outside to use the phone which I know was a girl!! I got dressed and left only waving to say bye!! He never missed a beat or called afterwards to ask why I left!!! Ended up havin a txt convo were I told him I cared and thanked him for helping me muddle thru something's and asked if he cared which he said he did!! I even stated that it bothers me he don't ask about my kids or my goals!! His response was whatever makes u happy sorry I put you thru the ringer!!! Any advice or help to get thru to this man!!! I broke it off with him!! E doesn't seem bothered at all!!
He ain't worth it....
by: Anonymous

Some of them act like they don't care only to turn around and profess their love... Screw em! I ain't gonna have anyone treat me that way gonna keep on moving on I just hope I don't get beat or killed but te nutcase cause that is what most of them are. They act bi-polar! And they are crazy and some of them physically mean as well as mentally draining!
i like this thread
by: Anonymous

hi all
im an aquarian male. im not this thread owner but i love to make friendship to anyone.

read this thread make me feel like, somehow, it's me who hurt you ladies, since all your stories are alike with mine (which my relationship all broken before because this type of misunderstanding, which i know later from this forum). i feel guilty with all my ex (well, not so many of them i tell you) and want to make myself pay it by helping you guys, as my friends.
im married with a libran, and so far she knows well on how i operate :).

first of all,

me as an aquarian want to treat everyone in this world, is it lady or gentleman, is it my lover or just friend, equal. you know it sounds utopis, but trust me, i really hardly believe in that and still working on it.

i believe that's the core problem that i (aquarian) have.
does it explain all the problems you have?

since i am very rare visiting this website, and my email is synched to my mobile device, you are, who is hurted/fooled/confused by aquarians, can flood my mailbox:

uron.seventh[at]gmail.com.

i do like making friends (sounds familiar?), and i dont promise anything from your email received. what i really hope is i can know myself better, and i can help you as far as i can by reply your email.
what do I do I feel used but don't know if its just the aquiruis way
by: Anonymous

I am living with an aquiruis man for about 2 months. He is very distant at times not very effectionate and doesnt' seem like he cares about my well being at all. The only time he is a little effectionate is when he needs something from me like money or something. I do everything around the house he doesn't even contribute for bills or food. I went through his phone and he is talking to antoher girl asking her when they are going to get together for drinks but yet making future plans with me. I always pay of course. I guess I am just confortable and not really what he is looking for. he make me feel unwanted and un-attractive and I know that I am not
what do I do I feel used but don't know if its just the aquiruis way
by: Anonymous

I am living with an aquiruis man for about 2 months. He is very distant at times not very effectionate and doesnt' seem like he cares about my well being at all. The only time he is a little effectionate is when he needs something from me like money or something. I do everything around the house he doesn't even contribute for bills or food. I went through his phone and he is talking to antoher girl asking her when they are going to get together for drinks but yet making future plans with me. I always pay of course. I guess I am just confortable and not really what he is looking for. he make me feel unwanted and un-attractive and I know that I am not
hurt
by: Anonymous

I have been living with an Aquarius male for 2 years. I am a Libra, we get along great. We have few hiccups with communication. One day he loves me the next he is moving out and ended the relatioship. Siad he seen no reason to continue our relationship. He would freak out when everything between us was great and freak out when it was bad. I just don't understand how he can turn off his love for me so fast?
Advice Please
by: Anonymous

Yes, I do have a question. For the past few years, I have been seeing an Aquarius man on and off. . We had a big bust up where we both snapped, I guess at that point, we both knew the relationship was over. For a while, he was keeping in touch every few days as he has always done. Now he has completely stopped talking to me. I called him to apologise and he said he had forgiven and forgotten what happened but that I had been really horrible to him for a while now. Now he completely ignores me and does not call me. Ha has been good to me and I would like to reestablish our friendship. I know he is seeing someone else now (from a comment made by mutual friends). However, if I do call him, he will pick up the phone and speak to me for hours, but he just does not initiate calls anymore. I know I need to move on, but any advice would be greatly appreciated it.
He's RiDAMNdiculous
by: Optimistic Pisces Woman

Hello Everyone

I'm going to generalize my comment which is safe to do considering we are all here because of a bad experience with an Aquarius man. The only thing special about these "specific" guys (meaning the ones being discussed on this site) is that they are riDAMNdiculous! Bottom-line...even though it's always good to self-evaluate your behavior when things go wrong and make corrections accordingly, it's not good to obsess over trying to figure out why someone else does and continues to do what they do. After you have tried to correct the unsatisfactory direction of a relationship, i.e. evaluated you behavior; committed yourself to changing that behavior and expressed to the other person your intention on making the relationship better and what you both can do "together" to make it work and asked for their commitment as well and they continue to behave in ways that encourage the relationship to continue down the wrong path, there is "really" nothing more you can do. For all of you who are in a relationship, for no matter what length of time, who are not married to or have some other kind of situation (like children involved or financially obligated, etc.) that makes it difficult to sever your ties with your guy, you need to end it...bottom-line! Stop wasting your time trying to figure out what is right in front of you and holding up a BIG ass sign saying, "I'm mind-fucking you! That's all you need to know, don't try and figure out "WHY." All you need to know is that it "DOESN"T" make you feel good and has you all twisted and fucked up! Example: What does this sentence say and what is the meaning? "esnes doog fo ecnatropmi eht etatcid esnesnon tel reven." Some people are like trying to read a book backwards. Why read a book that "requires" to be read from back to front when you CAN read one from front to back?

There is not great mystery here...a person will treat you in ways that are indicative of their nature and life experiences. Regardless of astrology, life experiences trump and form a person's true nature. So, after your self-evaluation ask yourself, "is this person's way of doing things riDAMNdiculous, are they a walking talking contradiction, are they like reading a book backwards if the answers are yes, then start today to change how you see this person and how what they do effects the quality of your life. If it's not for the better than this person is not worth anymore of your time, thoughts and effort than it will take to get rid of them!
What does it mean when an Aquarius Man says he loves you?
by: PC

I've been dating my Aquarius Man for 4 months now. He is an older Aquarius. One day out of the blue he told me he loves me. It took me so off guard I didn't know what to say. The next day I told him I wanted to make sure when I told him I love him that it would not be just because I was in the moment but because I was truly in love with him. I asked him has he ever fell in love with a women so quickly before. He stated "no" that its usually the other way around. Its funny because I feel the same way about me.

Usually, I wear my heart on my sleve. I am a leo/cancer cusp and I love strong and hard. I love him but I believer I just wanted to make sure that he felt the same way before I told him. Through life lessons, I realize my love is worth so much more and the next man I give it to truly deserves it.

With him I want to cherish every moment and appreciate every minute we have together.

Weeks went by and I final said it. But I want to know how much weight does this hold in our relationship.
Just a girl who likes a man who happens to be an Aquarian
by: Anonymous

Hello Aquarian Man, are you still there to be a sounding board? If so, I shall write but if not..i shall ponder longer

Me
Aquaman
by: Anonymous

Hye, I am Yati.
I am so depressed when my breaking up with my bf. I was trying to ask him to be with me back.. but he ask me to go and focus on my work. What does this means? He blok my twitter and fb.. Does anyone knows what he actually wants? and will he come back to me?
Taurus and Aquarius
by: bubbles

I'm a taurus girl and I just turn 19 this year. And the guy that I like, he's a 24 years old Aquarius. He's very outgoing, fun person to be with.

I wont say theres anything happening between us but I like him very much since early this year and kept chatting with him through twitter and facebook. We've hung out a few times before in a group setting but then 2 months ago, he ask me out on a 1 on 1 'date'. I rejected cause i was busy that time. but he never gave up and he'll give it 2 weeks later, he'll ask me again and again until I say yes. Problem is, I realize everytime that he asked me out, its always in the LAST MINUTE!

Like as though i have nothing better to do! and simply waiting around for him. but our 1st date together, he was such a gentleman, pick me up from my house, paid for movie and fetch me home and waited till im safely in the house only he'll drive away :)

after our 1st date, he never talk to me till a month later where he ask me out LAST minute once again. since i have a life, i rejected and last night, he tried his luck and ask me out for supper at 1am. He keeps doing it last minute! I have to nicely explain to him that I cant always be free when he out of no where ask me and I suggest we go out next week. only afters my suggestion, he agreed that thursday we'll meet up instead.


Are aquarius guys naturally spontaneous or is he just a jerk ass thinking i'm waiting around on him forever?
Scorpio cannot move on from Aqua Man
by: Kelly

Hi all,

After reading all these posts, I now know I am not crazy. Here is my story. I welcome any advice. I met my Aqua man when I was 20 years old and a sophomore in college. I am now 25. He was introduced to me by our mutual friend. We hit it off that night. I really enjoyed him. He was very social, had a lot of friends, witty, charismatic, and kind. We ended up talking all night and kissing. He is two years older then me. we kept in touch because our mutual friend was his good friend from home and my guy went to a different college. Fast forward two years. He graduated and was working. I was in the end of my college career. We started talking consistently on a regular basis. He asked me to come down and spend a weekend with him I knew this was a big deal because our mutual friend ( who is now one of my best friends from college) called and was surprised because my aqua man very rarely brought girls around. We had a fun night he introduced me to all his friends. I became more attracted to him because I like that he had his own group of friends, he was social, and was a really fun to be around. I have the same qualities and value my own times with friends and family. Ever since that night we have been on and off. The common Aqua traits have arised. aloof, disappearing, and acting too cool. It has been going on for two years now. He recently went back to school to get his graduate degree and I think it is great. However we are now at different phases in life. I think this brings out insecurities because he can't do much now because he is footing the bill for school. I am working with a great job and he is back living in college and determined to finish by this spring. I think it is great he went back to school and I really find it attractive how determine he is. I understand that so I have driven up to hang out with him. We spend great weekends together. We are both avid sports fans. We can spend the whole day cuddling together like we have been together for years (not to mention the sex is great). He tells me he loves my company. He makes comments like we should get married or when I come up he has my favorite movie on. Recently he asked what we were. I played dumb because I know emotions scare him and he loves his space. It is so hot and cold! I have done the ignoring thing. Which is not hard for me. I have a great group of friends, many of them he knows. He knows when I am out and about or doing something fun so I don't look like I am sitting pining away for him but I can't stop thinking about him. We talk a lot and then I won't hear from him for a couple of days. The reason
Scorpio girl cannot move on from Aqua Man CONT
by: Kelly

I am writing is because he contacted me asking me to come up this weekend. We talked a lot in the beginning of the week we were both excited. Last night he cancelled on me for a really lame excuse. I am so upset. All my friends say I need to move on but we are drawn to each other. I know for a fact he has no one else because our mutual friend is always talking about how great we are together. Every time I see our friend he asks me if I have talked to him. He knows how is he. I don't tell our friend much because I don't want to put him in the middle but he told me hang in there. He isn't very good with girls. I am so sick of that he is 26 years old grow up!
Can someone please help me. I already made new plans this weekend so he would see I am not sitting around and it didn't bother me but I am so upset about it. Should I hold on or move on? I have never felt this way about anyone before. I am so comfortable with him it comes so easy. What do I do?

Help!!
Scorpio Aqua Man
by: KBern

Hi all,

After reading all these posts, I now know I am not crazy. Here is my story. I welcome any advice. I met my Aqua man when I was 20 years old and a sophomore in college. I am now 25. He was introduced to me by our mutual friend. We hit it off that night. I really enjoyed him. He was very social, had a lot of friends, witty, charismatic, and kind. We ended up talking all night and kissing. He is two years older then me. we kept in touch because our mutual friend was his good friend from home and my guy went to a different college. Fast forward two years. He graduated and was working. I was in the end of my college career. We started talking consistently on a regular basis. He asked me to come down and spend a weekend with him I knew this was a big deal because our mutual friend ( who is now one of my best friends from college) called and was surprised because my aqua man very rarely brought girls around. We had a fun night he introduced me to all his friends. I became more attracted to him because I like that he had his own group of friends, he was social, and was a really fun to be around. I have the same qualities and value my own times with friends and family. Ever since that night we have been on and off. The common Aqua traits have arised. aloof, disappearing, and acting too cool. It has been going on for two years now. He recently went back to school to get his graduate degree and I think it is great. However we are now at different phases in life. I think this brings out insecurities because he can't do much now because he is footing the bill for school. I am working with a great job and he is back living in college and determined to finish by this spring. I think it is great he went back to school and I really find it attractive how determine he is. I understand that so I have driven up to hang out with him. We spend great weekends together. We are both avid sports fans. We can spend the whole day cuddling together like we have been together for years (not to mention the sex is great). He tells me he loves my company. He makes comments like we should get married or when I come up he has my favorite movie on. Recently he asked what we were. I played dumb because I know emotions scare him and he loves his space. It is so hot and cold! I have done the ignoring thing. Which is not hard for me. I have a great group of friends, many of them he knows. He knows when I am out and about or doing something fun so I don't look like I am sitting pining away for him but I can't stop thinking about him. We talk a lot and then I won't hear from him for a couple of days. The reason
to the comment on crappy woman
by: Anonymous

omg i totally understand where you coming from. He would do the disappearing as well, i mean the last time i saw him was like 3 weeks ago? and he disappeared on me again, before the 3 weeks ago was a week and i told him that im hurt and he apologized for hurting me. I told him that we both want two different things and he said but i want the samething you want?!?!?!? then wt?!?!
to the comment on crappy woman
by: Anonymous

omg i totally understand where you coming from. He would do the disappearing as well, i mean the last time i saw him was like 3 weeks ago? and he disappeared on me again, before the 3 weeks ago was a week and i told him that im hurt and he apologized for hurting me. I told him that we both want two different things and he said but i want the samething you want?!?!?!? then wtF?!?!
to the comment on crappy woman
by: Anonymous

omg i totally understand where you coming from. He would do the disappearing as well, i mean the last time i saw him was like 3 weeks ago? and he disappeared on me again, before the 3 weeks ago was a week and i told him that im hurt and he apologized for hurting me. I told him that we both want two different things and he said but i want the samething you want?!?!?!? then wtF?!?!
He is very affectionate (so soon)
by: Anonymous

Ok, I don't understand. I know that aquarius men aren't that affectionate and that it takes them time to open up; however I just meet one and it's been only one week and he is VERY VERY attentive, you can say he's manly take charge kind of guy. But, i can see he also wants to please me and does whatever I ask. When we're out in public he's always holding my hand, kisses me infront of ppl. I kept it classy though... Lol and he likes that. And no matter where I'm at he wants to have some kind of phycial contact. He's already taking about cooking for me, my son and family next week to show me that "that's not all he wants" and respects me.
So again I'm really confused, his Venus sign is Aquarius as well. I'm a aqua/pisces cusp with venus in capricorn. :) Is this just one of his charming ways or can you guys be like that if you really like someone?
He is very affectionate (so soon)
by: Anonymous

Ok, I don't understand. I know that aquarius men aren't that affectionate and that it takes them time to open up; however I just meet one and it's been only one week and he is VERY VERY attentive, you can say he's manly take charge kind of guy. But, i can see he also wants to please me and does whatever I ask. When we're out in public he's always holding my hand, kisses me infront of ppl. I kept it classy though... Lol and he likes that. And no matter where I'm at he wants to have some kind of phycial contact. He's already taking about cooking for me, my son and family next week to show me that "that's not all he wants" and respects me.
So again I'm really confused, his Venus sign is Aquarius as well. I'm a aqua/pisces cusp with venus in capricorn. :) Is this just one of his charming ways or can you guys be like that if you really like someone?
missing him
by: dee

I just told my love interest that i miss him....bbm....no response..
We have been seeing each other for over a year with a few break ups in between. For the last few months, things have been going well. He has been very busy with his work and myself , with family(pet) problems.
He has not responded...he has been calling me everyday to say hello, and when I say "I miss you" he does not respond.

What does this mean???
missing him
by: dee

I just told my love interest that i miss him....bbm....no response..
We have been seeing each other for over a year with a few break ups in between. For the last few months, things have been going well. He has been very busy with his work and myself , with family(pet) problems.
He has not responded...he has been calling me everyday to say hello, and when I say "I miss you" he does not respond.

What does this mean???
missing him
by: dee

I just told my love interest that i miss him....bbm....no response..
We have been seeing each other for over a year with a few break ups in between. For the last few months, things have been going well. He has been very busy with his work and myself , with family(pet) problems.
He has not responded...he has been calling me everyday to say hello, and when I say "I miss you" he does not respond.

What does this mean???
My aquarius boyfriend
by: Anonymous

My aquarius boyfriend is hard to communicate with. I am a capricorn and we fight alot, but we love eah other no matter what. He has become ver demanding these past weeks and rude and he hasn't exactly been nice and he gets mad so easy. Any advice?
He always comes back
by: Anonymous

Maybe it´s just novelty from his side but every once in a while my aquarius ex boyfrieand reappears in my life... it can be in a casual way or with a serious phone call conversation about life and feelings (his feelings, fears and pains). When we are together he sometimes is very distant and serious....and sometimes we flirt or just laugh. I don´t get him at all. I can´t teel what does he want from me.... do you think he has feelings for me?. The last time this happened was a week ago.... he has a girlfriend by the way... and he was friendly and sweet to me... I even percieve certain interest from him. He never shows his emotions easily so it´s really hard for me to understand him. I need help!
Helpppp!!!
by: Tayla

Hi i am a Leo woman thats been friends with an Aquarius man for about 5 loooong months. We talk almost everyday. He kinda like a missing puzzle in my life that I have falling in love with. lol. so we start hanging out from time to time and half of the times we've hung out he takes me around his friends and never introduces me with a label(friend/ girlfriend) just my name. He act as if he's interest but when he feel like we are getting to close he keep away and ease back around as if nothing ever happen. Ive told him in the past my feelings is getting intense and he always seen to keep me on my tippy toes without given me an yes or no reply. He tells me all time he likes me ,but how shoukld i really take him? Im soooo confuse
Helpppp!!!
by: Tayla

Hi i am a Leo woman thats been friends with an Aquarius man for about 5 loooong months. We talk almost everyday. He kinda like a missing puzzle in my life that I have falling in love with. lol. so we start hanging out from time to time and half of the times we've hung out he takes me around his friends and never introduces me with a label(friend/ girlfriend) just my name. He act as if he's interest but when he feel like we are getting to close he keep away and ease back around as if nothing ever happen. Ive told him in the past my feelings is getting intense and he always seen to keep me on my tippy toes without given me an yes or no reply. He tells me all time he likes me ,but how shoukld i really take him? Im soooo confuse
Unsure
by: Anonymous

I'm dating an aquarius man and he is kinda hot and cold towards me although says that he loves me all the time and misses me. The question I have though is he says that his phone is private and i'm allowed to answer it, but nothing else, I asked why and he became really defensive with me about it being private. Is he hiding something from me?
To mark from LEO FEMALE
by: LEO FEMALE

Ok Mark

My Aqaurius guy is named Dontae,and we met 3 years ago back in those days i took him away from his girlfriend of 3 to 4yrs. Dontae was 20 and i was 23 we always got along, and i lived about an hour away from him and we would try to see each other. His father died before i met him which wasnt to far apart.So guess hes little private on somethings.Plus he had never introduced me to his mom nor his siter, but we always spent time together and the sex was always great he was sweet to me,and i was sweet to him, but then later on i caught him cheating and ended the relationship and moved on immediately. Which of course i never gave him a chance. So now i just got a facebook page and hit him up just saying hey. Now keep in mind i havent talked to him in 3 years,so when we talked he was about to cry b/c he said he was so happy to hear from me and he told me he had been searching for me and even googled my name! and then he told me he was living with some one and the woman has kids, which are not his. So at first i went with it but then it broke me i could talk to him during the day and then have to be 2nd best at night! but keep in mind he gave me my nick name he even told me himself if he ever saw me again he would marry me and he would never let me go. I then told him i couldnt do it he begged and begged me so i told him as long as he ends the relationship plus he told me they dont sleep together and she cheated on him before so i said fine. Well a week went pass and he was still with her and i just couldnt take it man keep in mind im a 27 year old female going to nursing school and working fulltime and he is 24 and a chef smart as a wip and so freaking polite its not even funny so well any way i ended it and he said he was shocked, and that he did nothing wrong,and he asked me was i sure i said yes and he said fine. So that was that but our connection mark and our easy goingness was time less but what do u think about a young aqaurius male like that ? or even the used to be friendship or relationship whatever you call it !!!!!
in a bit of trouble
by: Anonymous

Hello, I know you get lots of posts so I hope you will answer mine. I'm a gemini and really like this aquarius guy. We have been good friends for awhile, but not in a relationship. We are both super busy so I hadn't really spoke to him or seen him in awhile so I asked if we could hang he said maybe. Then our conversation went bad and I believe he is a little annoyed with me. I said I was sorry and I know I should give him space, but can I fix this little screw up? Do you think he will want to hang out with me? i really miss him. Any other tips about him would be nice thank you.
Confused Aries Woman
by:

i had a 6 month reltnship wd an aquarius man,we had a great relationship i would say,we rarely fight but when we do,it would be very intense,but we did not had a fight that lasted more than a day,it would just be hours and we're ok...but when I got pregnant,this was on our 6th month,he became a total stranger to me...he asked for space and time and i gave him that,and he acted differently after that..he said some things that hurt me deeply and iv said painful things to him as well out of anger,never thought we'll still communicate after all that happened...now my child is 2 years old and here comes this aquarius man trying to make friends with me because he said he wants to make it up to our child...i dnt know what he's up to because his friends keep on telling me that their friend still likes me...i dnt know how should I treat him...please help me..,
He always comes back!!
by: Anonymous

Maybe it´s just novelty from his side but every once in a while my aquarius ex boyfrieand reappears in my life... it can be in a casual way or with a serious phone call conversation about life and feelings (his feelings, fears and pains). When we are together he sometimes is very distant and serious....and sometimes we flirt or just laugh. I don´t get him at all. I can´t teel what does he want from me.... do you think he has feelings for me?. The last time this happened was a week ago.... he has a girlfriend by the way... and he was friendly and sweet to me... I even percieve certain interest from him. He never shows his emotions easily so it´s really hard for me to understand him. I need help!
NoClue
by: Anonymous

Been dating this aquarian for the past 6months, and seemed like we were both on the same page with future goals etc. until recently. He's been married and divorced with children and claimed he wanted that life again but after a few discussions it doesn't seem like hes sure if its with me. He said that we have alot of potential together but he's not sure if he can wait for me to get settled, since I recently moved back to the city and went back to finish school. He says he's really likes me, I make him happy, but we began to be too much on a schedule and that seemed more of a commitment so he would rather "casually date". I explained to him that I cannot be around if he wants to date other people and when I brought up not speaking and ending it all together, he didn't seem to like that idea either. It seems to me he just wants to have his cake and eat it too, and I don't think he really knows what he wants. He still calls and texts and still wants to hang out. I know I can't wait around too much longer, not sure what to do?? Having a hard time calling it quits all together at the moment because I still care. Any suggestions or insights on what I should do?
He always comes back!!
by: Anonymous

Maybe it´s just novelty from his side but every once in a while my aquarius ex boyfrieand reappears in my life... it can be in a casual way or with a serious phone call conversation about life and feelings (his feelings, fears and pains). When we are together he sometimes is very distant and serious....and sometimes we flirt or just laugh. I don´t get him at all. I can´t teel what does he want from me.... do you think he has feelings for me?. The last time this happened was a week ago.... he has a girlfriend by the way... and he was friendly and sweet to me... I even percieve certain interest from him. He never shows his emotions easily so it´s really hard for me to understand him. I need help!
I don't think so
by: Anonymous

Well first of all my aquarius man is 51 and he do the opposite we get along fine we understand each other iam not needy nore clingy I like my space and he do to we do not talk about love and all the ridiculous feeling I keep them out the way of our friendship we are friends and lovers and I like it it's almost like the way he feels I do to and iam a taurus the bull with horns all what people say about them is very true but I got a secret turn the tables but first learn them very well you won't go wrong give them what they are looking for they will secretly love you deep 8 months we have been hanging and iam a big fan but don't ever look .fforthem tta I lo e you he tells you that in other ways just look for the sign and for the recordmine
I don't know
by: Gina

The aquarian guy I met is always talking about other women. How should i answer him back if he says that someone was staring at him or that my sister went into his bedroom...like he says it and then stops and stares at me waiting for a reaction...then when i start talking he says that he feels that i am angry and that the people near us can hear me and are looking at me coz i am talking in an excited and loud way...is he trying to get on my nerves? i also have to be available whenever he needs me and that means my work has no value only his has, he is other wise a handsome guy with sometimes gentlemanly manners, he dresses well and that's good about him...but he makes me cry and then says "It's good to cry, I'm leaving now I'm getting late.BYE"
What Does He Mean
by: Anonymous

When your aquarius boyfriend feels in a rut and needs his space but says he is not dumping you what is he really saying?
Dear Gina
by: Anonymous

He just wants to test you. He wants to play with you a little bit just to see how you react... he wants to know your limits and he wants to know if he would like them. My advice, try to ignore his comments, change the subject or act like it´s not the big deal. He will feel confused and surprised. Aquarius men tend to be BIG assholes when they try to get to know you well.... They are like little boys and they don´t do this to hurt you or because they like that female atention that much... they just let their curiosity take the best of them. Of course you don´t have to put up with that... but acting in an emotional way is just the thing they always expect in women.... so don´t give him that satisfaction and surprised the shit out of him. He deserves it and he will be more intrigued by you. And never... NEVER cry in front of him hust like that... If you already did it just don´t do it again. They see emotion as weakness.
Gemini Friend
by: Anonymous

Hello I have been friends and lovers with a aquarius male for six years. And out of the blue he changes on me after I have been through so much with him. As far as him being in need of a place after his ex put him out and many other ways I have helped him just truly being a friend. But now he just wants to be friends....no sex just comunication and time spent together when he wants to. I feel as though its not fair to me that he has just changed on me after all ive been throeugh with him. He tells me to wait and chill......he just wants to be alone now. I have ended our relationship we no longer talk at all but the problem is we work together????///// and the first time I returned to work after I took my belongings back from his place, he started an arguement with me right away. I told him to stay away from me.... and he stated the same to me.... My question is I know its OVER between us for good but how do I work with this guy? And will he ever apologize to me being thou he has told me over and over again that he cares for me as a friend? My down fall in this relationship was I was to available for him and he knows I ALWAYS HAD HIS BACK......what do I do
aquarius man
by: kimbo

hi, I am a cancerian woman, been talking to aquarius guy for 10 months, we dated for three months enjoyed each others company, had the same natures, things in common, talked and talked about everything txted constantly, he told me he loved me, treated me well and I did him too, he said that i made him feel fantastic and he had never had that before. when we were together we seemed totally into each other noone else seemed to exist. We had sex it was amazing for us both, so he told me, very gentle and loving and caring. Then roughly a week later he cooled down with everything, saying that he was worried about hurting me. i asked him what he wanted and he did not really say so i backed right off. I left it quite a while before contacting him again, he said he was pleased i had contacted him and for the last couple of months we have text again virtually everyday, he says how stupid he was, when i prompt for more information he says i would be surprised about how he feels, there is always good banter between us and he says i make him smile and laugh, just recently over the last week the texts have got more intimate what i mean is that he will put something like i could do with a cuddle and then i will put anytime and then he will put i wish.. and things like that he remembers how lovely i was too him and how caring and that is rare for him. So my question is what the hell do i do about this man, does this mean he wants me or is he just playing with me, because i really cant tell, we were due to meet last week but things happened and neither if us could make another day, but nothing has been said by him or me to rearrange anything, should i say something again or not. please advise thanks
Confusing
by: Anonymous

I met this auquarius guy at the end of august and we've become friends. We hang out watching stuff in his room when he asks me if I want to (generally with others though). He said I could stay over so I did once in Spetember. Then last week I stayed over twice more and he seemed to be more free with how he spooned with me and was touching me. Like he even started to caress my lower back. Now in september I had him have a sort of talk with me and he stated that I was not in the friend zone, but he was not done being single. He also thinks I'm young and naive..mainly cause I haven't had a lot of relationship experience. After last week when I stayed the night with him he has sort of disappeared like he did in October/end of September and I'm just wondering why? Like he hasn't even asked me to hang out in a week. I thought he liked me but maybe not?
Frustrated
by: Leo woman

Hi there , I've been with Aquarius gut for nearly 15 years We have two boys together but a feel with him that I don't Know how or what he's feeling , I've tryed to ask and speak to
Him about it but its as if tho he clams up I don't know what To do also we are getting married next year but I don't want to go into this marriage if there is nothing there anymore .
Aqua Ex
by: Anonymous

Hi Aqua man,

Here's a question for ya :) the aqua ex didnt handle me leaving him very well, cried his eyes out declared how much he USED to love me but all feelings have gone now and that he wishes me all the best in the future and never contacted me after...however i found out later through friends and family he was trying to get them to patch things up between us. I messaged him after 2months of no contact asking how he was, he replied, i then said i heard you contacted my friends and family but why did not ever call me? His reply was because of the situation and that i should have understood why he didnt call me....he never msgd back. However he now tends to put up pics of himself and girls as profile pic which he never did before and on social media's he told me he never used but used just to message and we both used together. My question to you aqua man is....is he trying to make me jealous?

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