Understanding Virgo men

As a MALE VIRGO I would add a few more things: Yes, Virgos are very shy and have problems with admitting their feelings but some of them compensate that nervousness by being real chatterboxes.

Also Virgos are very cerebral people so if you get on a topic that interest them they can be a bit overly enthusiastic, they will passionately defend their opinion don't be offended or anything.

And Last but not Least Love is a Mysterious and curious thing to Them because it cannot be explained by science they will try to analyse and study it, to control it.

Often when they've just accepted to go on a date or got back home after one they will instantly worry and think "oh my gosh What Have I gotten Myself into?" That is precisely why some of them after a seemingly successful and enjoyable date will not call back or give excuses to avoid you.

"What do I do now?"

That's the Part you tell them to take it easy and if they want you'll slow down a bit.

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virgo man date
by: xoixoi

I went on a date with a virgo man and we talked for hours. We got really close and there was sexual tension, but with both of us being virgos, we didn't make a move. As we were going our separate ways we hugged and almost kissed. And he didn't talk to me for days after that. At first I thought the date was terrible but I was confused because there was definitely chemistry there. I kept thinking about it and concluded that virgo men are afraid of their emotions, and when they think they might be falling for someone they back off. Because virgos are afraid of getting hurt. So...I'm planning to take it slow with this guy, give him space, and give it time. Its always best to give virgo guys time to develop feelings and emotions towards you.

Commenting on your comment!
by: Anonymous

I agree with the last comment in someways, I do think Virgo men are afraid of getting hurt, but I really think anyone and everyone is!
Virgo men seem to over-think everything!!! It's exhausting and maybe that is what your Virgo man is doing... and like the post above, Virgo men do tend to do the thinking like 'what did I get myself into?!' Even though it takes them a while to make a move or even figure out if they wanna make a move when they do it is made with every ounce of their being! Good luck to you, and the brave Virgo who decided to speak out for all Virgo man, props to you!

-Gemini Meagan

question on virgo men
by: Anonymous

I read a lot about them and still trying to decipher virgos. I have girl friends who are virgo & i love & understand them but i think virgo men are more complex.

I am aquarian. Being an aquarian, i am emotional & gets hurt easily. I think the best part about being one is that we are strong & positive. So even though I am confused (and kinda hurt) because I am dating a virgo man, and before I give up, I should keep an open mind.

I am on my late 20's (yeah) & currently dating a virgo man (who is 30). We've been going out for 8 months now. It started really slow. For the first 2 months, he would never try to kiss or hug or even touch me. He would always text or call me everyday & go out on a date every weekend. After the initial months, we started to be intimate & shared more personal conversations. Everything seems so great until recently. His texting or calling decreased. We usually talk about 1 hour or 2 everyday but recently, he would just send few messages (even missed 1 or 2 days of not texting). This usually happens right after our weekend together or when he would do something huge for me (like driving me to & from the airport which is a 3-hr drive, one way; or buying me ticket for baseball game; or even normal weekends together).

I am really confuse. I really don't know if he loves me (though he never said it). I am getting mixed signals. It's like, he is so into me then he is not. Everytime we are together, he seem happy & relax but when we are apart,he seems so distant & i feel like i am being ignored.

Is this a typical virgo man? Because this is very frustrating! I wish he can tell me how he feels. I wish he can tell me that yes, i need time with friends & ignore you (ouch).

Virgo Men...
by: Anonymous

They need me time...When they go into there man cave (that's what I call it) to pick things apart...In my experience, when they feel for a woman, it is very hard for them to express so they show it (action speaks louder than words)...He will not reveal his feelings until you reveal yours...He does not want to be hurt...In love they seem to want the woman/man to reveal their feelings first, and before he will reveal them, he is going to go into his think process, and play it over and over...They show their love by doing things for you...What your virgo is doing is typical virgo stuff...Don't sweat it...Let him have his space...They need space...When they are in this space time, don't attempt to make contact...For they will not answer you...They are also very moody people...That is in most cases when he needs his me time...You wouldn't want to be around him at that time...Very nit picky, but that too shows that he cares about you...Don't take it to heart...He is only trying to tell you for your better...So don't worry when he doesn't call you or text...He is really feeling you now, and he has to go through his ritual of how he is feeling about you...When you tell him how you feel about him, go slow with it...Go slow period...Best wishes to you and your Virgo man...

by: Anonymous

All of these comments are really helping me to understand better, thankyou. Also i've met a virgo man that i am truly interested in. When we first met he was a little quiet and didn't say much. Being the Leo Woman that i am, i had to spunk things up a bit and play around to get him to loosen up. As time passed things became better. We would text eachother many times, we would hang out every other weekend. once he told me he aquired feelings for me, i began to want to be around him more. Then he suddenly began to distance himself and i would ask him how come, or tell him that i was ready for a relationship and he would never answer me. So time passed ( about a year) and i seen him again for the first time in awhile. I realized that seeing him only made the feelings come up again. So after a month or so ( when i knew for sure i was still into him) i told him how i felt and he never answered back. Now i am in the process of trying to figure out if he feels the same or not. Should i just wait and give him space??

In a relationship with a virgo male
by: Anonymous

I am in a relationship with a virgo man and it is sometimes very frustrating. He is extremely polite and even after we have been intimate, he will say things like "thankyou" making me feel like I just rendered a service. Just when I think we have moved passed a certain point in our relationship, he seems to go back to square one. I try to spend more time with him but he hedges and says he has to check into it. I know he has a family he is close to and friends, a whole other life outside of us but when does it move forward. I feel he loves me, he told me he does but sometimes I wonder if he knows what that means.

Virgos oh virgos
by: Gemini woman

Hi all,my issue is long distance though I feel a lil relived after hearing how these men are! I ve been friends with a Virgo guy since 1.5years, he approached n gave me his full attention thru SMS calls n went out of his to meet me. Then we kissed after a few months, I noticed that he gradually started behaving like a woman with pms! Moody would just not tLk to me without telling me the issue n me being a Gemini had to give in everytime. Then when we r together it's like I'm his world but he still hasn't mentioned that he loves me, always says he likes me alot... But he knows how I feel abt him, my bad once I even told him I love him..urghh!
I know he is very moody n has his days of cutting himself off... But why doesn't he say he loves me? His actions speak louder I can see but I don't know am I asking for too much from him??
How much time do they take to let it out, though he can pass with an A+ for being critical n sarcastic. Tells me he isn't seeing anyone except me n has cut all women off.
Urghh anyone to enlighten me??

confused Gemini woman
by: Anonymous

I have been dating a virgo man for about a month now. He wasvery touchy feely since our first date. Held my hand, snuggled with me, touched me. We finally got intimate after 6 Amazing dates...He set up A 3 day vacation as soon as I returned from being gone a week. It was great....now We're back home and the daily texts have dissipated and we normally have our next date in the books, but time being....we have nothing planned. So, Im planning to give him space...but dont want him To think that by me ignoring him..I'm playing games... what's the best way to proceed?

What to make of Virgo man
by: Anonymous

I'm interested in a Virgo man now. He makes constant communication with me through text and phone calls and he inquires about my day but he does not want to go out on dates or makes an effort to see me when he can. I'm not sure what to make of this. When I do see him, he does the Virgo stare and look away, he gives me great advice, he tells me about himself and his family and we have great time together. I asked him does he like me but I never get a straight answer but he seems like it...what to make of this? It only been three months.

reason to be scared
by: Anonymous

Of course Virgos are afraid of getting hurt in relationships with women. One Aries woman told me that, "there are men more handsomer than you". That hurt my feelings and I will never trust or like women who don`t like me ever again.

dont understand him
by: Anonymous

I started dating a virgo guy (im aries woman) this past dummer. I have known him for years. It was unexpective, but it was wonderful. Neithr of us wanted a relationship, but thats where it was heading. He say we getting cliose. Spending more time together. Then his ex(kids mom) who is nutz, made all kinds of problems for us. Threatening me, taking his kids from him. So, we stopped taking, completely. 2 weeks after, he stopped over apologized for not talkn . From aug. To dec. We stay in touch, whenever we see each othe, he hugd me, flirt, so sweet. But, i couldnt telk him how i felt, that i wanted to be back with him. So dec. We are at a funeral. We talk, flirt of course. Hes going outta town next day, told him i wanted to go with. It was on. We were togethr since, inseperable. Closer than before, i was spending nghts at his place, introducing me as his gf. We eere so close, and i know how he felt, just by how he stare in my eyes and hold me. Told me how he missed me whole time and still wanted me since last time. So wverything is perfect. His kid mom wasnt even an issue. Until, 10 days ago, he starts ignoring me. Literally. Says he needs space. 4 days ago he msg. He miss me and it sucks. Then 3 days ago he finds out his baby is not his. He always questioned it, but truth came out. We started talkn a lil aftr that. As a friend, i tell him im here. Then last night i talked to him. Told him i wanna c him, i miss him, he said he dont wanna relationship. I said i know, but we can still be sweet, not worry bout our status. Then he say he dont want anyone or anything. I spill my heart out. Tell hi. I love him, said i know he knows how special our relationship is. How good we are together, told him he dont have to say it back. I know how he feels. Nooo response from him. I figured he wouldnt, but i had to get it out. I kmow he having hard time aboit this baby n being lied to by his kids mom, and hurt, maybe it wasnt right time to tell him. And shoulda waited. But i can feel in my heart how he feels about me. What do i do know? Just give up? Hard to when i love him. :( any advise please

Virgo boyfriend ignoring my calls and text messages
by: Anonymous

I'm a Cap female and I've been dating my Virgo boyfriend for 6months. I recently made a big deal about something minor. I was being insecure at the time. He started to seem like he was too busy. We rarely argue bc he will usually cut it short. I believe he doesn't like confrontation or want to get angry and hurt my feelings. He is not an emotional person bc I never know how he feels or what he is thinking. We ended the conversation and he said he would talk the next day. That was a week ago. I've apologized through text messages more than once and still no response. I even asked if things were over because I do want to continue calling or texting and still no response. What's going on? Should I wait things out? I've never dated a virgo so I'm not sure what this means. How long is this ignoring phase going to last or is it over? I wish I knew something. Anything!

Virgo man
by: Anonymous

I'm a virgo, I don love to deceive a girl..and I always find difficulties in Saying NO to a woman( who seems to love me but I don do the same) cuz I don wanna hurt her feelings either..I would jus Keep a safe distance with her, doing friendly things... When in Love, I find it difficult to open up tooπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚, it's like I'm playing cards...waiting for her to tell how she feels and all that, that's when I come out of the caveπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚..the love has to be real, and not flirting... Hurt everything but not my feelings...
I don attach to much, I only visualize in my head, how we gon be and all that..

my hearts is breaking
by: Anonymous

Well I have been with my Virgo man for 6 rocky years I am a Scorpio. And he tells me he wants to be with me would not have been with me this long. When we are having our good days they are really good but our bad days are very bad. its on extremes to the next. How do I know if he really wants to be with me with all this distance at times?

married to one
by: Anonymous

I have been married to a Virgo for almost 32 years and he can be wonderful but also very hard to live with. He can become self absorbed and selfish and cant or refuses to understand why I am upset. He can get depressed and will not talk about what is upsetting him until days and days later. He likes having everything his way and at times does not even ask me what I want. These are the most trying times.
But he can also be wonderful, kind charming and a power house in the bedroom. He cooks, washes dishes and does many things around the house.
Great provider loving father and very moral. Guess the real issue is the sea-saw is difficult and I never know how long it is going to last.

by: Anonymous

I'm reading the comments and I'm like wow...My Virgo is the same way...very polite and next distant. Ive given up so many times because of frustration of the up and down...but he always comes back and breaks my frustration with his kindness.Sometimes I'm so angry, bcuz I feel ignored...he always finds a way to break my madness...then it's back to square again...it's draining...but I don't want to give him up...I tried and I can't. He seems selfish sometimes but very sweet other times.

by: virgo

Im a virgo who married a virgo after being by his for a couple of years,they need time you will see them studying their surroundings and understanding many topics or emotions at once, this includes planning and being up to date with everything. We are busy people but when it comes to men its a whole different level you still feel foreign to what he is really feeling because they still tend to hide it making them feel safe and being reminded how much you love them and care to hear what he has to say is the key to everything.they are the most beautiful companion you will ever have,and will always make you happy.

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