Scorpio man

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Scorpio man personality traits and characteristics

Scorpio is a powerful sign. Dark, moody, real, and infinitely sexy. In many ways it's the most unique and dramatic sign, and one of the hardest to do justice to in a written description. Many facets of Scorpio personality can sound negative when described in isolation. For example they can be highly obsessive and compulsive. To some folks that can sound downright scary. In practice though many find it to be highly flattering, sexy and addictive.

Hate isn't the opposite of Love. Indifference is.

Scorpio men savor emotions, and in many ways are the most human of all the zodiac signs for doing so. Though few would say it so directly, most enjoy emotional intensity (good and bad), and have enormous inner strength to handle anything they may find in a partner. Most Scorpios prefer a good fight with a partner in preference to being ignored.

Intuitive, passionate and self confident, the Scorpio man will often know all your secrets before you know much, if anything, about him. What he doesn't learn from you directly he'll pick up from reading between the lines, and you'll soon realize that in many ways he's in control of the relationship, all without seemingly lifting a finger.

If that sounds like he's going to be the spider and you're going to be the fly... that's typically not the case. One of the great challenges and frustrations for Scorpios in relationships is that they care almost too much. While they are typically more skilled than their partner at reading and relating to people the bottom line is that...

The partner who cares the least in a relationship has the control

For all their passion and interpersonal skills often it's not the Scorpio who has the control in a relationship. Many Scorpio relationships involve a partner who without any effort can wrap a Scorpio around their little finger. Simply because their Scorpio cares more than they do.

Due to this Scorpios can end up fairly wary and pessimistic about the concept of true love. Ironically, each bad experience can make all their traits that much stronger and more intense next time.

Scorpio men are very skilled at relating to others, and as such can be very good friends and emotional healers. It's a one way mirror however. Highly secretive and subtle; he will often prefer to give only a limited view of what's really going on inside himself. They often don't like a partner to know quite how smitten they are, due to the vulnerability it creates.

Oh, and we invented sexy

For those who have never dated a Scorpio this can all sound fairly scary. This is an intense man. However, that scary Scorpio intensity can be highly addictive, especially for passionate and intense partners. It is scary, but it's a good scary and not found anywhere else. In many ways Scorpio is a study of how to be sexy without needing superficial tricks or gimmicks.

Uninterested in the shallow or superficial, your Scorpio man is likely to have an immense curiosity, so if you have secrets to hide then you're best off steering well clear. Scorpios often love both keeping and uncovering secrets.


To go off at a slight tangent for a moment, it's interesting to note that the scorpion is unique among the other zodiac animals in many ways aside of the obvious poison/sting. For example, it's capable of killing itself in preference to being killed, is nocturnal, photophobic (a 'sixth sense' used by spiders etc to avoid predators - they pick up on the tiniest changes in light and dark to detect movement before they can see it), they also shed their skin multiple times in a life cycle. All of these have direct parallels with Scorpio behavior and personality.

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What are Scorpio men like in bed?

You can call your Scorpio man many things, but prudish or unsexy will never be amongst them! Coupled with his powerful imagination, the possibilities for experimenting are almost endless with this man, though feedback might not be very forthcoming.

In typical Scorpio style he is more likely to experiment than to offer any overly strong preference of his own, settling instead on something he discovers you really enjoy. Sex is another area where creating and absorbing your emotions is often as important to Scorpio as the act itself. It probably goes without saying that Scorpio scores the highest for sexual chemistry with many other star signs!

Are Scorpio men kinky?

This is always a hard question to answer, as one persons idea of kinky can be very different to someone elses. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Scorpio men are amongst the more kinky, yes. It's important to note though that this is largely because they shrug off things which might embarrass other signs, and not because they're necessarily kinky themselves. As with other empathetic signs they tune into a partner and to a degree they adjust themselves accordingly.

What's it like dating a Scorpio man?

This is a man who will expect to give and receive 100%, and he has a personal skill set ideally suited to making sure that happens. If you aren't ready to commit to someone on that level then this sign may be best avoided. On the other hand if you want a sensual lover who wants your body and soul and isn't afraid of what they may find then this is the ultimate. We have a separate article on Scorpio in love

The flip side of this is the near legendary Scorpio vindictiveness. 'Forgive and forget' doesn't always apply to Scorpios. While the men don't tend to be as bad as Scorpio women in this respect, they both need to be handled with care. The reason that so much tends to be written about them is largely due to people getting stung for cheating on them! Be warned. It's only fair to mention though that individuals do vary here. Not every Scorpio is vindictive.

Almost inconsistently, your Scorpio man may want more personal space than many signs do. This is partly due to his private nature, and partly because every experience must be carefully analyzed afterwards and the precious emotions absorbed and savored.

How loyal are Scorpio men?

Scorpio men tend to have relatively few but highly intense relationships. When in love with a partner he is beyond loyal, and will do anything to protect those he loves. On the other hand, if ignored or neglected enough by a partner Scorpio's aren't beyond cheating to fill the emotional void in their lives (men and women of every sign do this, it's not a negative on Scorpios).

With enough bad experiences however some Scorpio men do move to the other extreme and can become highly promiscuous as a defense mechanism.

How to know if a Scorpio man loves you?

This can vary. Some Scorpios don't have a problem sending 20-50 texts, emails and voicemails a day. You won't be in any doubt at all! At the other extreme many Scorpios don't want you to know how smitten they are! If you're unsure then the best thing to do is simply to ask. If you're serious about your Scorpio man, don't play games, just have an honest and open conversation with him. You will save both of you a lot of heartache, and he will respect you more for doing so (even if he didn't like you previously!) For a full description of how a Scorpio man acts when in love please see our article on Scorpio in love

How to understand your Scorpio man

Your Scorpio will have his own unique personality traits. This article talks about sun signs, however there are many other factors. For example his moon sign determines his emotional personality which affects whether he is sensitive, romantic, loyal etc.

With his date, time and location of birth these other factors can be calculated for a complete picture of his personality. To explore this further please see our article on astrology compatibility readings.

Who are some famous Scorpio men celebrities?

We have a list of the top 400 most famous Scorpio celebrities and historical figures.

How to keep a Scorpio man?

Scorpios are "real" people. Being honest and open is the key to winning his respect. This isn't a man who wants a supermodel, he just wants you to be you. So open up and let him in.

How to know if your Scorpio man is your soulmate?

Relationships are complex things, comprising hundreds of individual elements. Sun signs are one of these, however a detailed analysis of everything is required to find all the strong and weak areas. Please see the article on astrology and soulmates for more information on how astrology can be used to determine if someone is your soulmate.

Scorpio man long distance and online relationships

Online relationships and long distance relationships have unique challenges. One of these is that you get to see one side of someone very clearly: their personality. You don't however get to see anything about other factors such as sexual attraction. My compatibility reports address this by scoring all factors alongside each other so you can see the whole picture, with any strong or weak areas highlighted. To explore this further please see my article on online relationships.

Do Scorpio men cheat?

Generally they don't. But, this is the type of question that often gets asked or answered whenever astrology is discussed. Individual experiences are then quoted back and forth as proof that Scorpio men do or don't. Individuals get offended by general statements that don't apply to them, and everything goes downhill fast. The diagram below shows the problem here:

Scorpio man personality

Astrology can predict someone's personality very accurately when the placement of all their planets is calculated. In that situation we can also predict their most likely behavior.

From just someone's sun sign however we can only predict some aspects of their personality and it's too much of a leap to try and predict behavior from just those. Astrology has fairly precise limits. This is an example of an area where sun signs are just too broad and clumsy to give an answer. A real compatibility reading is required to answer the question.

How to make a Scorpio man fall in love with you?

This is a question which is very hard to give a general answer on, as no two Scorpio men are totally identical. The key is understanding him and what he finds most attractive in a partner. Astrology can provide a wealth of information to enable this, however natal charts need to be prepared and studied to do so. Please see the article on seduction and astrology for more information on this.

Scorpio man gifts

We have a dedicated section for Scorpio man gifts with examples of the types of gifts which Scorpio men enjoy within various categories from naughty to practical, including reader submitted suggestions.

Scorpio man dating advice

No advice will ever apply to every Scorpio man as they are all unique in various ways. I specialize in offering tailored advice based on your unique personality and his together, as one without the other isn't nearly as useful. My astrology readings solve real relationship problems for real people every day. For more information please see the article on relationship advice.

How compatible are you with your Scorpio man?

This depends on far more than just your sun signs. The complete picture of your personality and his is determined by numerous planet placements at the time of birth. To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results. This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information - everything from how they view you and how to turn them on to the best way to avoid arguments.

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So is this article conclusive?

No! This article is based only on sun signs. In order to provide a lot of people with information those are a convenient and fast way to generalize, but far from conclusive at this broad level. There are many other planet placements which all affect someone's personality.

To get a complete picture of someone we need to take all those other planets and their interactions into account. To do this we need to create and interpret their natal chart. For information on what's involved in this and the opportunity to obtain one for yourself and your partner please see the compatibility readings page.

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