Cancer woman virgin help!

by A
(Memphis, Tn U.S.A)

I am a 22 year old virgin.. I really don't understand why I am so hard on the men in my life. Every time a man gets close enough to get the best of me uncertainty causes me to let them go! I kind of run them away with the time and space I demand; to get my mind together. then it seems I'm stringing them along! Some try very to stick around but I eventually chase them away. It's almost like I do it on purpose. I can't trust anyone... What's up with that?

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by: Anonymous

Why can't you trust anyone? Have you been scorned by men before?

by: Anonymous

That's so me as well and I often used to wonder what was so clingy about me because I just want a lot of space and independance, I can't stand not having them and so many guys come with offers of love even commitment but no I'm 28 and have settled for an aquarian who has been very patient and peristant to get to the core of my heart, chasing me fiercly and get my commitment. I intend to hold on to this one

I can relate
by: Anonymous

Maybe it is just circumstance, but I can relate. It could just be something personal to you and not related to your Sun Sign. I am a Cancerian and I too was very aloof when it came to guys showing an interest me.

My personal circumstance was that I didn't trust men. I had several instances where girlfriends had been cheated on even, an aunt, even my mother. Even my brother was disloyal to his wife. All the men around me seemed like scoundrels so I didn't trust a guy who showed interest in me. Another personal circumstance was that I was on the path of academic excellence and just didn't want to be distracted by boyfriends.

Up till the age of 19, I had never been kissed. Not because I didn't want to be kissed, but I just felt that once I let down my guard I would give more of myself than I really wanted to. I guess it was all about control. Until I met my Scorpio man. The rest is history. We have been together for over 15 years.

Deciding on a sexual partner has little to do with Sun signs and more to do with personal aspirations and timing. Some people will say those personal aspirations are guided by our personality driven Sun sign, but who knows. You will find the right person to share your life with but don't be surprised if he happens to be a Scorpio :)

Same here!
by: Anonymous

I'm actually a 20 year old virgin. I seem to have a habit of avoiding guys once I suspect that they might like me. It's a bad habit, but yeah I totally understand where you are coming from. I don't easily trust people and don't really want to risk the chances of becoming serious with the wrong guy and getting hurt. I think our problem is worrying too much and getting scared and not having enough courage to open up to someone and taking a risk. The quotes listed below might help addressing the problem we have :)

“Because he could not afford to fail, he could not afford to trust.”
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”
“What was it about relationships that made you feel so vulnerable? Oh, right. A relationship. In any relationship, you put yourself out there. You exposed all of your sensitive nerve endings and your heart and you just had to hope that you trusted the right person.”

Truthfully, I don't know what to do get out of my shell and be courageous to take a risk in trusting someone. It will probably take time, but we are still young. Lets do out best in finding the right man!

Best Wishes,

same with me
by: Anonymous

It's the same with me, am a virgin...a cancerian..and am 18 in d university....I get so scared when a guy asks me out...I just don't trust them and av never been heart broken....and whenever I fall in love with some1, I get scared that I would hurt the person and then I tend to run away from them.

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